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Have you ever felt like life was squeezing you inside a bottle with no escape? That's exactly where I found myself this week—trapped between multiple challenges that seemed to hit all at once.
Just when everything was going well with my Substack newsletter (37% open rates and gaining 20 subscribers daily), my luck suddenly ran dry. Click-through rates to my Fiverr link stayed disappointingly low at 1%. Meanwhile, my house renovation from the 1960s demanded attention, a promised work promotion never materialized, and relationship tensions added another layer of stress. It was truly my worst week in recent memory.
Yet through this chaos, I discovered what I call the Five Stages of Resilience. First comes grief—acknowledging your disappointment when things don't go as planned. Then acceptance, which doesn't mean giving up but redirecting your energy toward solutions. Third is focusing and isolating problems rather than overwhelming yourself with multitasking. The fourth stage is taking concrete action on each isolated problem. Finally, embracing the ultimate form of gratitude—appreciation for being alive and able to move forward.
What surprised me most was realizing that "single-tasking" works better than multitasking during difficult times. Completing one task creates closure and generates energy for the next challenge. Progress isn't linear, and setbacks coexist with wins—each teaching different lessons. Your environment affects your performance, but emotional honesty and consistently providing value without expecting immediate rewards accelerates growth.
Resilience isn't about avoiding stress or chaos; it's about acknowledging difficulties, acting with focus, and practicing gratitude throughout. Every challenge becomes a stepping stone toward becoming your best self. What strategies help you stay resilient when life feels overwhelming? I'd love to hear your experiences.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This week, guys, was tough for me, very tough,
because I faced some setbacksthat really made me unhappy.
You know, some situationsliterally stressed me out, make
me feel as if I was falling intoa deep hole with no way out
(00:22):
100%.
Do you know that feeling?
Right when it seems like thereis not escape, you can feel a
heavy weight pressing down onyou.
Do you know that feeling?
It's a situation where thepressure is so intense that it
feels like someone has closedyou inside a bottle and the
(00:46):
giant hand is trying to squeezeit.
You know this situation areawful and, uh, you know it
happens to everyone, it happenedto me as well and uh, we
shouldn't be surprised about it.
But but then I thought tomyself wait a moment.
You know I am the host ofJourney to Success, right?
(01:10):
So I always talk aboutpersistence, consistency,
discipline and, overall, weoften discuss, directly and
indirectly, we often discussabout resilience in this podcast
.
So what if I share whathappened this week?
You may not know the detailsyet, but I promise you you will
(01:34):
know soon.
Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success, and welcome.
Today you will learn aboutdifferent stages of resilience,
not based on what we see on theinternet or motivational quotes,
but rather on my experience and, I'm sure, the experiences of
others.
But before moving forward, asalways, please subscribe, all
(01:57):
right.
So I know this is the rightdirection to lead you guys, to
drive you and to guide youtowards your journey to success.
And let's get started.
So about a week ago I toldmyself okay, I'm doing a lot and
I can see that I'm gettingclose to achieving my goals.
So I have improved mycopywriting skills and instead
(02:23):
of paying someone to build anewsletter for me to sell my
sub-segmentorship, I decided todo it myself.
So, yes, I faced some problemgetting started, but at the end
it worked out and I can say I'mproud of the results.
So currently I'm seeing anaverage open rate of 37% of my
(02:46):
mails.
That's actually pretty high andI consider a significant
achievement.
My Substack is also doing well,with posts receiving Well.
My Substack was doing well,I'll tell you better.
So we posted.
So my post, my notes, uh, werereceiving thousands of like guys
(03:10):
and gaining around, I would say, 20 subscribers per day, so I
was very happy, uh.
So for those who don't knowanyway, what is substack?
Substack is a newsletterpublishing platform that
combines elements of socialmedia and blogging.
So it's similar to xTwitter,but it also functions like a
(03:31):
publication site, you know, likemediumcom, and you can build
your email list for free as well.
So we're not talking all aboutfollowers.
It's a very, very beautiful and, in my opinion, better than
Instagram or Facebook or TikTok,because you know you are
gaining your, you are buildingyour email list, you are gaining
(03:55):
not only followers but, as Isaid, subscribers.
Anyway, long story short,everything was going well.
Too much good, too well.
In fact, I was really happywith the results, right, but
(04:16):
have you ever experienced a timein your life when everything
seems too perfect and that italmost felt too good to be true?
You know, there is a popularsaying that goes in this way If
you keep hitting too many greenlights in a row, people usually
say one of the two things thefirst thing is you're having a
lucky day or enjoying good karma.
(04:36):
The second thing is you shouldenjoy it, because it rarely
happens.
However, there is a third, onekind of even popular say, more
skeptical, which tells if youkeep hitting too many green
lights in a row, you're using upall your luck at once, and
(04:57):
that's exactly how I felt thisweek.
So what happened?
Everything on the road.
So, first of all, yes, my upperrate was good, was great, but my
click rate, which redirecteddirectly to my Fiverr link right
, was around 1%, so very, verylow.
(05:18):
I tried to fix these issueswith a better call to action,
you know, and various strategiesto increase the click rate,
including also offering a freee-book abstract, of my course,
but I'm still working on it.
I'm not entirely convinced.
Then I decided, okay, I canlike.
(05:43):
My idea is to review thesuperstar content of folders for
free before monetizing, youknow.
So I was like, okay, maybe Ican avoid the e-book abstract,
maybe I can just give it morevalue.
And so, just, you know, makinga 15-minute section for free.
(06:06):
That for me is absolutely fine.
I enjoy helping people,regardless of the financial
aspect.
You know, and remember, themore value you give, the faster
you achieve your goals.
But it's still in progress.
Also, this also means I need torevisit the newsletter and the
email sequence which stressed meout.
(06:27):
And why it stressed me out?
Because in my free time from myjob right, I'm also working on
the house we bought two yearsago.
The strangle has been immensefor us, so my only free time
(06:50):
that I have right now,unfortunately I cannot dedicate
only towards my podcast or mysocial media project.
So the strangle of this househas been immense.
One day, I promise I will sharethe story with you, and so,
(07:14):
yeah, it's still long storyshort.
It's an old house from the1960s and we weren't ready for a
complete renovation, and we'vemade progress in the past two
years, but we haven't beenconsistent, and now I am
determined to have everythingdone before Christmas, which
(07:36):
adds another priority to my list.
So see how everything builds upin my situation.
You know, on the top of that, Iwork for someone else as well,
like most of you, and I expecteda promotion months ago.
That never came, and currentlywe're also dealing with bugs at
(07:57):
work, and my mood is not thebest right now in the job.
And just a small note for youguys if your humor is not the
best at your job, yourperformance is bad.
It's mainly because yourcompany is not meeting your
expectations, right?
Your performance is shaped bytheir environment.
Okay, remember this.
Please don't pull it on you,okay, unless you are aware that
(08:21):
you're doing something wrong.
Like 90% of the times, it's notyour fault and anyway, it has
been a disaster of a week,disaster, probably the worst
ever.
You know, I also had a fightwith my elf, because I don't
feel here.
The truth is, and this isanother tip for the day don't
(08:44):
blame the people around you orfight with them.
Okay, remember that yourjourney is a lonely one, so it's
important to have people whosupport you, of course, but it's
also essential to understandthat at the end of your story,
you are the hero.
You are the one who needs todefeat your demons.
Okay, by the way, here, here Iam, uh, speaking to you despite
(09:12):
all this chaos.
Uh, we often talk aboutresilience, guys, and you know,
we like to enjoy watching reelsof successful people who seem to
strangle.
However, many show only thebest parts of their journey.
You know, maybe because of ego,or a desire to avoid appearing
(09:36):
weak, or maybe they just feelshame.
It's possible, but I really tryto show my authentic self.
So let's see what you learn,you know, from my story.
So how did I survive all thismess this week?
Basically, there are differentstages to this process, in my
(10:01):
opinion.
Stage one all right, base of mystory.
Stage one grief.
Yes, when you're sad guys,desperate because things are not
going well, as you wish.
You experience a feelingsimilar to grief, honestly,
(10:22):
let's be honest.
I felt the idea of losing mybeautiful community in Substack.
You know my chat, my notes thatcan inspire people.
So we're talking about thejourney to Success Club.
It's not even just about me,it's about all of us.
So the thought of losing thatis devastating for me.
And I still don't know thereason for my issues.
(10:45):
Maybe I was promoting my Fiverrlink too openly, or discussing
my eToro journey, my paidsubscription?
I don't know.
I have no clue, but it hurtsdeeply that nobody has responded
to me yet.
But it's part of the journey.
There is grief, you know.
(11:06):
So it's not about the peoplearound me.
It's not about the end of thestory.
It's not about the fact thatthe support didn't respond.
It's not about the fact thatmaybe I made mistakes.
The point is that I feel sad.
Of course, I'm in a differentstage right now.
(11:29):
I'm in a stage where I feelgood, but let's talk in the
present, right?
So in stage one, it's a stagewhere I feel sad, you feel sad,
people feel sad, right?
So this grief is a powerfulfeeling because you cannot see
the way forward.
So all you see, is thisenormous obstacle, enormous
(11:54):
stone, you know, and the onlything to do at this stage is to
acknowledge the grief.
I know that many people havelost their communities on
Instagram, tiktok or in reallife, for example.
You know, even being forced toleave their favorite comfort
zone place because they're nolonger welcomed.
(12:18):
You know, this can happen toanyone, everywhere, digitally,
and not okay.
So when it happens, we mustacknowledge this grief and
recognize that in this stagethere is actually nothing we can
do, no solution, nothing dotperiod, just our desperation.
Desperation or despair, I think, is in English right,
(12:44):
desperation is correct.
I don't know, guys, I'm goingto check later.
Anyway, stage two acceptance.
When you are in thissentimental misery, right, and
with a feeling not so far fromdepression, at the end of the
story, your focus is on cryingor being desperate okay.
(13:04):
But once you start acceptingthe situation, that's when you
can stand up, face the big stonein front of you and say, okay,
all right, I have to dosomething now.
So what that something is, wedon't know yet, but we'll figure
(13:25):
it out.
So the shorter the grief lasts,the more you can reach stage
two, which is accepting pastunfortunate events Okay.
Stage three Focus and isolatethe problem.
I remember when I was in schoolmaybe 20 years ago now, maybe
23, we were introduced tomultitasking as being essential.
(13:49):
You know, I don't know if youremember I'm 36 years old now.
I don't know if you are my sameage Maybe you remember this
boom, this multitasking trend.
You know in the school how muchimportant it was.
But I have to be honest with you, I was never convinced about
(14:11):
this concept.
Maybe because I guess, maybeI'm a little bit autistic, I
don't know, but I found itstressful to try to adapt my
being with multiple tasks atonce.
It's not me at all.
Instead, I prefer what I callsingle tasking or isolating
(14:32):
tasks.
I don't even know if thisconcept exists, but that's what
I do.
I focus on one problem at thattime and work to close.
Definitely that chapter.
This might take a day or longer, but dealing with one issue at
a time gives me closure, guys,and closure provides energy,
(14:57):
okay, energy that you can use tokeep moving forward.
Energy that you can use to keepmoving forward, energy that you
can use to solve more problems.
Remember that.
Stage four, acting.
This is the part where wereflect on the past.
You identify all the problemsyou have.
(15:17):
For example, this week Iexperienced some discomfort at
work.
My newsletter didn't perform asI expected, I faced some
challenges with the soup stackI'll keep you updated on that
and additionally, I'm working onfixing up my house, adjust my
office, because my sister isgoing to stay with us in the
Netherlands for a while andthere was a lot to do this week.
(15:41):
I also had an issue with thebathroom sink, which I nearly
forgot about to tell you beforeand um, and yes, I managed to
fix in my own way.
For now it's okay.
I don't know in the future.
I've been tapping andoccasionally sending the windows
to prepare for painting.
Okay, and the painting itself Imean my elf is going to do
(16:08):
because she's very good on that,and what else, oh, yeah, maybe
we have a mouse on the roof.
Also, that I actually need tocheck, because yesterday I put
some friendly traps and I afriendly trap, sorry, and I
(16:29):
don't even know if it worked atthe end.
So I have to check.
So can you tell me how tomultitask?
That?
That's impossible.
No, for me.
The truth is that we need toisolate the problem in our head.
Well, this at least, is my way.
Once we do that, we can managethem one by one, right finding
(16:51):
solutions as we go.
The solution is always there,guys, so when you isolate the
problem, you gain a betterunderstanding of how to resolve
it.
Okay, it's similar to math.
There is always one X thatrepresents the solution to any
problem.
That represents the solution toany problem, even though math
(17:12):
can produce multiple answers orvariables.
People often refer to findingthe X as the unknown they are
trying to solve for.
So it symbolizes the mystery orgoal you are attempting to
reach, guys Stage five, theultimate form of gratitude.
(17:36):
So, to reach a place where youbelieve there is always a
solution in your life, of courseyou need to embrace the
ultimate form of gratitude.
Now, in your opinion, what isthe ultimate form of gratitude
that can unlock any solution inyour life?
I'll wait a moment.
(17:58):
I'll wait a moment for you tothink about it.
I'm coming with the answer.
So here is my answer You'realive, that's it.
You're alive.
When you acknowledge thatyou're alive, you can see
countless solutions and manypaths forward.
(18:19):
You can also translateeverything that has happened in
your life, including myexperiences, into lessons or
different insights.
Okay, in this way, guys, youunlock the best form of
resilience and become the bestversion of yourself.
So this week was challenging,stressful, chaotic.
(18:40):
It was a disaster, but full oflessons.
I felt trapped at times, as iflife were squeezing me in a
battle.
Yet these challenges revealedwhat resilience truly looks like
, guys, and even in the chaos,there is a lot to learn, okay.
(19:01):
So today I want to break downmy week, share what happened and
give you some insights insightsthat I think can help anyone
navigating challenging, likemine, maybe worse also.
So let's start with the wins.
So I built my Substacknewsletter myself, okay, instead
(19:25):
of paying someone to do it, andmy copywriting has improved.
And the results?
Well, my mails are seeing anaverage open rate of 37%, posts
are getting thousands of likeson my sub stack and I'm gaining
about 20 new subscribers per day, so this is also good.
(19:46):
That feels amazing.
It's proof that consistency andeffort really pay off.
Right, but of course, it'sproved that consistency and
effort really pay off all right,but of course, it's not all
perfect.
So my click rate to my fiverrlink is around one percent very
low.
Even with better calls toaction and offering extra value
like free a book abstract.
(20:07):
I didn't see the results I hopedfor.
I also have to be honest, Iwasn't patient enough to make
sure that the sequence wouldwork properly.
I was maybe a little bitimpatient, but what is the
lesson here?
The lesson is progress in onearea doesn't automatically fix
(20:35):
every other challenge.
Okay, so number one Then thereis we have to consider that
there is a life outside.
What I do my newsletter, mypodcast, my soup stock and it's
also for you guys In my case,for example is that we decided
(20:56):
to renovate our house.
It's a house from the 60s andthe balancing work that hasn't
given me the promotion Iexpected either, and try to
maintain personal relationshipsas well, you know, and to that,
a small fight with my partner aswell.
So I don't know.
(21:18):
It's easy to feel likeeverything is falling apart, but
here's the truth.
That's life okay, messy, a lotof layers, challenging, and
resilience is not about avoidingthat mess, but it's about
moving through it.
So how did I handle it?
(21:39):
I noticed a pattern in mytransition from strangle to
progress this week.
So this is good news, and Ilike to call them the stage of
resilience.
And here is what I realized.
It's exactly what I said to youbefore, but I'm just trying to
break it down for you better, togive you more insight.
(22:00):
So stage one grief.
This is when everything feelsheavy, guys.
I felt grief over potentiallosses, the community I built on
Swoopstack, my newsletter notperforming as expected, and it's
okay to feel it.
Acknowledging your emotionsgives clarity of what really
matters, okay.
Stage two acceptance.
Once you feel the grief,acceptance is what allows you to
(22:23):
see clearly.
So you start asking what can Ido now?
Acceptance doesn't mean givingup, guys, it means focusing your
energy where it counts.
Okay.
Number three stage three focusand isolate.
So forget multitasking for amoment.
I mean, if you're good, verywell, I'm very happy for you.
(22:43):
But in my case I found thatmanaging one problem at a time
you know, fixing the sink, stopdot, sending windows, dot,
adjusting my newsletter, dot isthe fastest way to gain momentum
and every completed task buildsenergy and confidence to move
(23:07):
forward.
All right.
So for me it's a very goodtrick.
Number four stage four action.
Once you have isolated theproblem, you need to act.
So take concrete steps, guys.
This week for me it washousehold fixes and newsletter
(23:28):
experiments, preparing my officeand even dealing with a
possible mouse on the roof.
So action turns frustrationinto progress, If you do well,
of course, if you make a goodcloser.
Referring to stage three, focusand isolate.
You know every completed taskbuilds energy and confidence,
(23:51):
okay.
Stage four we already mentioned, and now we have stage five
gratitude.
Finally, the ultimate stage isgratitude.
So the fact that you are alive,that you can keep moving
forward, is everything, iseverything.
Truly, will you embrace thatevery setback becomes a lesson
(24:14):
and every challenge anopportunity?
Okay, now let's see some quicktakeaways before we close the
episode.
All right, first of all,progress is not linear, guys.
Wins and setbacks coexist andeach teaches something different
.
Number two your environmentaffects performance, but it
(24:36):
doesn't define your journey,okay.
Number three emotional honestymatters.
It boosts connection andself-awareness.
Number four giving value first,even without immediate reward,
(24:57):
and trust me and I trust myselfas well, because it's something
that I have to remember when yougive value and even if, as I
say, it doesn't give youimmediate reward, accelerate
growth.
Guys, okay, you just need to bepatient, we need to be patient,
I need to be patient, okay.
(25:18):
And number five single taskingbeats multitasking.
So closer on one problem givesenergy, you know, for the next
to deal, the next to deal withthe next problem.
So at the end of the week,despite everything, I feel
stronger, clearer and morealigned with myself again.
(25:48):
Resilience is not about avoidingstress or chaos, guys.
It's more about acknowledgingit, acting with focus and
practicing gratitude.
Okay, every challenge is astepping stone, every setback is
a lesson, and every smallaction and move closer to your
best self.
Okay, that's my week.
(26:09):
That was my week.
I hope it's gonna be betterfrom tomorrow on, even if I
learn a lot, and I hope sharingwith you helps.
You see that even in toughtimes, growth is possible.
(26:30):
Resilience is a process, guys,not a destination.
Okay, it's about acknowledgingstrangle, acting with focus and
embracing gratitude, and eachchallenge, whether personal,
professional or practical,becomes a stepping stone toward
growth.
So, life is not smooth, butevery setback offers insight,
(26:52):
guys.
Every small action addsmomentum and every momentum,
every moment of reflection,strengthens your path to success
.
Okay, now I want to hear fromyou.
How do you face challenges andkeep moving forward when life
(27:12):
feels overwhelming?
What is your strategy?
Habits or mindset?
We always talk about mindset inthis podcast, right?
Mindset that helps you stayresilient and focused even when
everything seems chaotic.
You know, send me a message,share your, your story.
Connect with me on soup stack.
(27:33):
Well, when they finally decideto you know, to remove this
temporary ban, I would love tohear you and I would love to
hear your experiences and learnfrom them.
If you enjoyed today's episode,don't forget to subscribe, guys
, so you never miss an update.
And if you know someone whomight benefit from hearing about
(27:56):
resilience, focus and findingsolution in tough times, then
you know, share this episodewith them.
Thank you so much for beinghere.
On journey to success, remember, every challenge is a stepping
stone and together we can keepbuilding the life we want, one
(28:16):
step at a time.
I'll see you in the nextepisode.
Cheers, guys.
This week, guys, was tough for me, very tough,
because I faced some setbacksthat really made me unhappy.
You know, some situationsliterally stressed me out, make
me feel as if I was falling intoa deep hole with no way out
(00:22):
100%.
Do you know that feeling?
Right when it seems like thereis not escape, you can feel a
heavy weight pressing down onyou.
Do you know that feeling?
It's a situation where thepressure is so intense that it
feels like someone has closedyou inside a bottle and the
(00:46):
giant hand is trying to squeezeit.
You know this situation areawful and, uh, you know it
happens to everyone, it happenedto me as well and uh, we
shouldn't be surprised about it.
But but then I thought tomyself wait a moment.
You know I am the host ofJourney to Success, right?
(01:10):
So I always talk aboutpersistence, consistency,
discipline and, overall, weoften discuss, directly and
indirectly, we often discussabout resilience in this podcast
.
So what if I share whathappened this week?
You may not know the detailsyet, but I promise you you will
(01:34):
know soon.
Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success, and welcome.
Today you will learn aboutdifferent stages of resilience,
not based on what we see on theinternet or motivational quotes,
but rather on my experience and, I'm sure, the experiences of
others.
But before moving forward, asalways, please subscribe, all
(01:57):
right.
So I know this is the rightdirection to lead you guys, to
drive you and to guide youtowards your journey to success.
And let's get started.
So about a week ago I toldmyself okay, I'm doing a lot and
I can see that I'm gettingclose to achieving my goals.
So I have improved mycopywriting skills and instead
(02:23):
of paying someone to build anewsletter for me to sell my
sub-segmentorship, I decided todo it myself.
So, yes, I faced some problemgetting started, but at the end
it worked out and I can say I'mproud of the results.
So currently I'm seeing anaverage open rate of 37% of my
(02:46):
mails.
That's actually pretty high andI consider a significant
achievement.
My Substack is also doing well,with posts receiving Well.
My Substack was doing well,I'll tell you better.
So we posted.
So my post, my notes, uh, werereceiving thousands of like guys
(03:10):
and gaining around, I would say, 20 subscribers per day, so I
was very happy, uh.
So for those who don't knowanyway, what is substack?
Substack is a newsletterpublishing platform that
combines elements of socialmedia and blogging.
So it's similar to xTwitter,but it also functions like a
(03:31):
publication site, you know, likemediumcom, and you can build
your email list for free as well.
So we're not talking all aboutfollowers.
It's a very, very beautiful and, in my opinion, better than
Instagram or Facebook or TikTok,because you know you are
gaining your, you are buildingyour email list, you are gaining
(03:55):
not only followers but, as Isaid, subscribers.
Anyway, long story short,everything was going well.
Too much good, too well.
In fact, I was really happywith the results, right, but
(04:16):
have you ever experienced a timein your life when everything
seems too perfect and that italmost felt too good to be true?
You know, there is a popularsaying that goes in this way If
you keep hitting too many greenlights in a row, people usually
say one of the two things thefirst thing is you're having a
lucky day or enjoying good karma.
(04:36):
The second thing is you shouldenjoy it, because it rarely
happens.
However, there is a third, onekind of even popular say, more
skeptical, which tells if youkeep hitting too many green
lights in a row, you're using upall your luck at once, and
(04:57):
that's exactly how I felt thisweek.
So what happened?
Everything on the road.
So, first of all, yes, my upperrate was good, was great, but my
click rate, which redirecteddirectly to my Fiverr link right
, was around 1%, so very, verylow.
(05:18):
I tried to fix these issueswith a better call to action,
you know, and various strategiesto increase the click rate,
including also offering a freee-book abstract, of my course,
but I'm still working on it.
I'm not entirely convinced.
Then I decided, okay, I canlike.
(05:43):
My idea is to review thesuperstar content of folders for
free before monetizing, youknow.
So I was like, okay, maybe Ican avoid the e-book abstract,
maybe I can just give it morevalue.
And so, just, you know, makinga 15-minute section for free.
(06:06):
That for me is absolutely fine.
I enjoy helping people,regardless of the financial
aspect.
You know, and remember, themore value you give, the faster
you achieve your goals.
But it's still in progress.
Also, this also means I need torevisit the newsletter and the
email sequence which stressed meout.
(06:27):
And why it stressed me out?
Because in my free time from myjob right, I'm also working on
the house we bought two yearsago.
The strangle has been immensefor us, so my only free time
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that I have right now,unfortunately I cannot dedicate
only towards my podcast or mysocial media project.
So the strangle of this househas been immense.
One day, I promise I will sharethe story with you, and so,
(07:14):
yeah, it's still long storyshort.
It's an old house from the1960s and we weren't ready for a
complete renovation, and we'vemade progress in the past two
years, but we haven't beenconsistent, and now I am
determined to have everythingdone before Christmas, which
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adds another priority to my list.
So see how everything builds upin my situation.
You know, on the top of that, Iwork for someone else as well,
like most of you, and I expecteda promotion months ago.
That never came, and currentlywe're also dealing with bugs at
(07:57):
work, and my mood is not thebest right now in the job.
And just a small note for youguys if your humor is not the
best at your job, yourperformance is bad.
It's mainly because yourcompany is not meeting your
expectations, right?
Your performance is shaped bytheir environment.
Okay, remember this.
Please don't pull it on you,okay, unless you are aware that
(08:21):
you're doing something wrong.
Like 90% of the times, it's notyour fault and anyway, it has
been a disaster of a week,disaster, probably the worst
ever.
You know, I also had a fightwith my elf, because I don't
feel here.
The truth is, and this isanother tip for the day don't
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blame the people around you orfight with them.
Okay, remember that yourjourney is a lonely one, so it's
important to have people whosupport you, of course, but it's
also essential to understandthat at the end of your story,
you are the hero.
You are the one who needs todefeat your demons.
Okay, by the way, here, here Iam, uh, speaking to you despite
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all this chaos.
Uh, we often talk aboutresilience, guys, and you know,
we like to enjoy watching reelsof successful people who seem to
strangle.
However, many show only thebest parts of their journey.
You know, maybe because of ego,or a desire to avoid appearing
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weak, or maybe they just feelshame.
It's possible, but I really tryto show my authentic self.
So let's see what you learn,you know, from my story.
So how did I survive all thismess this week?
Basically, there are differentstages to this process, in my
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opinion.
Stage one all right, base of mystory.
Stage one grief.
Yes, when you're sad guys,desperate because things are not
going well, as you wish.
You experience a feelingsimilar to grief, honestly,
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let's be honest.
I felt the idea of losing mybeautiful community in Substack.
You know my chat, my notes thatcan inspire people.
So we're talking about thejourney to Success Club.
It's not even just about me,it's about all of us.
So the thought of losing thatis devastating for me.
And I still don't know thereason for my issues.
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Maybe I was promoting my Fiverrlink too openly, or discussing
my eToro journey, my paidsubscription?
I don't know.
I have no clue, but it hurtsdeeply that nobody has responded
to me yet.
But it's part of the journey.
There is grief, you know.
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So it's not about the peoplearound me.
It's not about the end of thestory.
It's not about the fact thatthe support didn't respond.
It's not about the fact thatmaybe I made mistakes.
The point is that I feel sad.
Of course, I'm in a differentstage right now.
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I'm in a stage where I feelgood, but let's talk in the
present, right?
So in stage one, it's a stagewhere I feel sad, you feel sad,
people feel sad, right?
So this grief is a powerfulfeeling because you cannot see
the way forward.
So all you see, is thisenormous obstacle, enormous
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stone, you know, and the onlything to do at this stage is to
acknowledge the grief.
I know that many people havelost their communities on
Instagram, tiktok or in reallife, for example.
You know, even being forced toleave their favorite comfort
zone place because they're nolonger welcomed.
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You know, this can happen toanyone, everywhere, digitally,
and not okay.
So when it happens, we mustacknowledge this grief and
recognize that in this stagethere is actually nothing we can
do, no solution, nothing dotperiod, just our desperation.
Desperation or despair, I think, is in English right,
(12:44):
desperation is correct.
I don't know, guys, I'm goingto check later.
Anyway, stage two acceptance.
When you are in thissentimental misery, right, and
with a feeling not so far fromdepression, at the end of the
story, your focus is on cryingor being desperate okay.
(13:04):
But once you start acceptingthe situation, that's when you
can stand up, face the big stonein front of you and say, okay,
all right, I have to dosomething now.
So what that something is, wedon't know yet, but we'll figure
(13:25):
it out.
So the shorter the grief lasts,the more you can reach stage
two, which is accepting pastunfortunate events Okay.
Stage three Focus and isolatethe problem.
I remember when I was in schoolmaybe 20 years ago now, maybe
23, we were introduced tomultitasking as being essential.
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You know, I don't know if youremember I'm 36 years old now.
I don't know if you are my sameage Maybe you remember this
boom, this multitasking trend.
You know in the school how muchimportant it was.
But I have to be honest with you, I was never convinced about
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this concept.
Maybe because I guess, maybeI'm a little bit autistic, I
don't know, but I found itstressful to try to adapt my
being with multiple tasks atonce.
It's not me at all.
Instead, I prefer what I callsingle tasking or isolating
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tasks.
I don't even know if thisconcept exists, but that's what
I do.
I focus on one problem at thattime and work to close.
Definitely that chapter.
This might take a day or longer, but dealing with one issue at
a time gives me closure, guys,and closure provides energy,
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okay, energy that you can use tokeep moving forward.
Energy that you can use to keepmoving forward, energy that you
can use to solve more problems.
Remember that.
Stage four, acting.
This is the part where wereflect on the past.
You identify all the problemsyou have.
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For example, this week Iexperienced some discomfort at
work.
My newsletter didn't perform asI expected, I faced some
challenges with the soup stackI'll keep you updated on that
and additionally, I'm working onfixing up my house, adjust my
office, because my sister isgoing to stay with us in the
Netherlands for a while andthere was a lot to do this week.
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I also had an issue with thebathroom sink, which I nearly
forgot about to tell you beforeand um, and yes, I managed to
fix in my own way.
For now it's okay.
I don't know in the future.
I've been tapping andoccasionally sending the windows
to prepare for painting.
Okay, and the painting itself Imean my elf is going to do
(16:08):
because she's very good on that,and what else, oh, yeah, maybe
we have a mouse on the roof.
Also, that I actually need tocheck, because yesterday I put
some friendly traps and I afriendly trap, sorry, and I
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don't even know if it worked atthe end.
So I have to check.
So can you tell me how tomultitask?
That?
That's impossible.
No, for me.
The truth is that we need toisolate the problem in our head.
Well, this at least, is my way.
Once we do that, we can managethem one by one, right finding
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solutions as we go.
The solution is always there,guys, so when you isolate the
problem, you gain a betterunderstanding of how to resolve
it.
Okay, it's similar to math.
There is always one X thatrepresents the solution to any
problem.
That represents the solution toany problem, even though math
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can produce multiple answers orvariables.
People often refer to findingthe X as the unknown they are
trying to solve for.
So it symbolizes the mystery orgoal you are attempting to
reach, guys Stage five, theultimate form of gratitude.
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So, to reach a place where youbelieve there is always a
solution in your life, of courseyou need to embrace the
ultimate form of gratitude.
Now, in your opinion, what isthe ultimate form of gratitude
that can unlock any solution inyour life?
I'll wait a moment.
(17:58):
I'll wait a moment for you tothink about it.
I'm coming with the answer.
So here is my answer You'realive, that's it.
You're alive.
When you acknowledge thatyou're alive, you can see
countless solutions and manypaths forward.
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You can also translateeverything that has happened in
your life, including myexperiences, into lessons or
different insights.
Okay, in this way, guys, youunlock the best form of
resilience and become the bestversion of yourself.
So this week was challenging,stressful, chaotic.
(18:40):
It was a disaster, but full oflessons.
I felt trapped at times, as iflife were squeezing me in a
battle.
Yet these challenges revealedwhat resilience truly looks like
, guys, and even in the chaos,there is a lot to learn, okay.
(19:01):
So today I want to break downmy week, share what happened and
give you some insights insightsthat I think can help anyone
navigating challenging, likemine, maybe worse also.
So let's start with the wins.
So I built my Substacknewsletter myself, okay, instead
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of paying someone to do it, andmy copywriting has improved.
And the results?
Well, my mails are seeing anaverage open rate of 37%, posts
are getting thousands of likeson my sub stack and I'm gaining
about 20 new subscribers per day, so this is also good.
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That feels amazing.
It's proof that consistency andeffort really pay off.
Right, but of course, it'sproved that consistency and
effort really pay off all right,but of course, it's not all
perfect.
So my click rate to my fiverrlink is around one percent very
low.
Even with better calls toaction and offering extra value
like free a book abstract.
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I didn't see the results I hopedfor.
I also have to be honest, Iwasn't patient enough to make
sure that the sequence wouldwork properly.
I was maybe a little bitimpatient, but what is the
lesson here?
The lesson is progress in onearea doesn't automatically fix
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every other challenge.
Okay, so number one Then thereis we have to consider that
there is a life outside.
What I do my newsletter, mypodcast, my soup stock and it's
also for you guys In my case,for example is that we decided
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to renovate our house.
It's a house from the 60s andthe balancing work that hasn't
given me the promotion Iexpected either, and try to
maintain personal relationshipsas well, you know, and to that,
a small fight with my partner aswell.
So I don't know.
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It's easy to feel likeeverything is falling apart, but
here's the truth.
That's life okay, messy, a lotof layers, challenging, and
resilience is not about avoidingthat mess, but it's about
moving through it.
So how did I handle it?
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I noticed a pattern in mytransition from strangle to
progress this week.
So this is good news, and Ilike to call them the stage of
resilience.
And here is what I realized.
It's exactly what I said to youbefore, but I'm just trying to
break it down for you better, togive you more insight.
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So stage one grief.
This is when everything feelsheavy, guys.
I felt grief over potentiallosses, the community I built on
Swoopstack, my newsletter notperforming as expected, and it's
okay to feel it.
Acknowledging your emotionsgives clarity of what really
matters, okay.
Stage two acceptance.
Once you feel the grief,acceptance is what allows you to
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see clearly.
So you start asking what can Ido now?
Acceptance doesn't mean givingup, guys, it means focusing your
energy where it counts.
Okay.
Number three stage three focusand isolate.
So forget multitasking for amoment.
I mean, if you're good, verywell, I'm very happy for you.
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But in my case I found thatmanaging one problem at a time
you know, fixing the sink, stopdot, sending windows, dot,
adjusting my newsletter, dot isthe fastest way to gain momentum
and every completed task buildsenergy and confidence to move
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forward.
All right.
So for me it's a very goodtrick.
Number four stage four action.
Once you have isolated theproblem, you need to act.
So take concrete steps, guys.
This week for me it washousehold fixes and newsletter
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experiments, preparing my officeand even dealing with a
possible mouse on the roof.
So action turns frustrationinto progress, If you do well,
of course, if you make a goodcloser.
Referring to stage three, focusand isolate.
You know every completed taskbuilds energy and confidence,
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okay.
Stage four we already mentioned, and now we have stage five
gratitude.
Finally, the ultimate stage isgratitude.
So the fact that you are alive,that you can keep moving
forward, is everything, iseverything.
Truly, will you embrace thatevery setback becomes a lesson
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and every challenge anopportunity?
Okay, now let's see some quicktakeaways before we close the
episode.
All right, first of all,progress is not linear, guys.
Wins and setbacks coexist andeach teaches something different
.
Number two your environmentaffects performance, but it
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doesn't define your journey,okay.
Number three emotional honestymatters.
It boosts connection andself-awareness.
Number four giving value first,even without immediate reward,
(24:57):
and trust me and I trust myselfas well, because it's something
that I have to remember when yougive value and even if, as I
say, it doesn't give youimmediate reward, accelerate
growth.
Guys, okay, you just need to bepatient, we need to be patient,
I need to be patient, okay.
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And number five single taskingbeats multitasking.
So closer on one problem givesenergy, you know, for the next
to deal, the next to deal withthe next problem.
So at the end of the week,despite everything, I feel
stronger, clearer and morealigned with myself again.
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Resilience is not about avoidingstress or chaos, guys.
It's more about acknowledgingit, acting with focus and
practicing gratitude.
Okay, every challenge is astepping stone, every setback is
a lesson, and every smallaction and move closer to your
best self.
Okay, that's my week.
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That was my week.
I hope it's gonna be betterfrom tomorrow on, even if I
learn a lot, and I hope sharingwith you helps.
You see that even in toughtimes, growth is possible.
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Resilience is a process, guys,not a destination.
Okay, it's about acknowledgingstrangle, acting with focus and
embracing gratitude, and eachchallenge, whether personal,
professional or practical,becomes a stepping stone toward
growth.
So, life is not smooth, butevery setback offers insight,
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guys.
Every small action addsmomentum and every momentum,
every moment of reflection,strengthens your path to success
.
Okay, now I want to hear fromyou.
How do you face challenges andkeep moving forward when life
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feels overwhelming?
What is your strategy?
Habits or mindset?
We always talk about mindset inthis podcast, right?
Mindset that helps you stayresilient and focused even when
everything seems chaotic.
You know, send me a message,share your, your story.
Connect with me on soup stack.
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Well, when they finally decideto you know, to remove this
temporary ban, I would love tohear you and I would love to
hear your experiences and learnfrom them.
If you enjoyed today's episode,don't forget to subscribe, guys
, so you never miss an update.
And if you know someone whomight benefit from hearing about
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resilience, focus and findingsolution in tough times, then
you know, share this episodewith them.
Thank you so much for beinghere.
On journey to success, remember, every challenge is a stepping
stone and together we can keepbuilding the life we want, one
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step at a time.
I'll see you in the nextepisode.
Cheers, guys.
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