September 25, 2023 • 13 mins
Ever felt trapped in a loveless relationship? In this discussion, I confront the intricate process of putting your foot down and cherishing your own happiness above all else.
We dive deep into the tumultuous journey of breaking up and rediscovering your own worth.
Navigating a breakup can be an emotional rollercoaster, but it's crucial to recognize when it's time to let someone go, and more importantly, when it's time to choose yourself. We discuss the powerful reasons why staying in a relationship for the wrong reasons can be detrimental to your personal growth and well-being. Discover the empowering lessons and insights that will inspire you to embark on your own path of self-discovery and liberation. Don't miss this episode, as it's bound to resonate with anyone who has ever struggled with the decision to let go and embrace their own journey of self-fulfillment.
Let's navigate this candid conversation about breakups, personal growth, and self-love together. Remember, choosing yourself is not a sign of selfishness, but a necessary act of self-love.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Keeping Realty is available Wednesday of each week
, produced by Gabriela DeAngeles.
The views and opinionsexpressed in this podcast are
solely those of the podcastauthor or individuals
participating in the podcast anddo not represent the views or
positions of any entities theyrepresent.
Coal Banker Realty is owned bya subsidiary of Anywhere
(00:24):
Advisors LLC.
Coal Banker is a registeredservice mark owned by Coal
Banker Real Estate LLC.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
If you are in a relationship and you're feeling
alone, whether you feel thatthey don't care about you
anymore, they're not interested,they're not making any effort,
but maybe you're holding onbecause you think that they're
going to change, or they'regoing to work on what they say
they're going to because they'reyour best friend, or you're
scared to be alone, or you'rereally close to their family.
We've all been through it, weall have that, and we need to
talk through it, though, andyou're going to get to a point
(00:55):
where you need to realize whenit's time to let go, when has it
been too much, when is it timeto choose yourself, and in this
episode, I really want to talkabout it because I wish, months
ago, when I was going throughsomething like this, I wish I
had listened to something likethis, because I think it would
have helped me really just putmy foot down and be like, okay,
yep, all these things I'm goingthrough, I need to be done and I
(01:17):
need to close the doors, andmaybe something better will come
.
Maybe it will help.
No matter what, I hope thisepisode helps you understand
that sometimes, choosingyourself leads to better
outcomes, so let's just get intoit.
Hello, guys and welcome back toKeeping it Realty.
I know it's been a while.
I went on vacation and I didthe big shift, which was very
(01:39):
much needed, but, with all ofthat being said, I really want
to make Keeping it Realty intohelping you guys with whatever
you're going through.
So if you are wanting me totalk about something specific,
dm me.
I get a ton of DMs from youguys all the time that listen to
my podcast and I want to hearwhat you guys want me to talk
about about lifestyle, aboutgoing through changes, about
going through breakups, aboutgoing through whatever it may be
(02:01):
.
I know I still haven'tresponded to some of you, which
I will try my best.
I've just been pretty busy withwork and everything.
But before we get into this andtalking about when to let go of
somebody, I want to say two veryimportant things, number one
being that this is not targetedat my ex whatsoever, and number
two is that it is really crucialand really hard to think about
(02:26):
yourself and the part of therelationship that you did wrong
and I'm not saying that youdidn't do.
Maybe he cheated and then hehas just not cared ever since,
or she cheated, whatever it is.
I'm just saying that it'sreally hard to not think about
what you did, because when Ireflect on my relationships in
my past, I always think aboutwhat they do wrong, what they do
(02:46):
wrong, and it's reallyimportant to take a moment, take
a step back and think about thethings that you do wrong, the
things that they ask you to fix,because in this episode we're
going to talk about a lot ofwhen to let go and all these
things.
I'm sure that I'm saying you'relike they do that, they do that
, they do that, but try toremember the things that you
maybe do sometimes too, andmaybe you're perfect like me,
(03:07):
just kidding and you didn't doanything wrong and really you
were just asking repeatedly towork on things and they weren't
doing that.
Okay, the first thing I want tosay is no matter what, letting
somebody go isn't easy, and I'mgoing to tell you now that if
you do, after listening to thispodcast or in a month, you
decide you know what I don'twant to be with this person
anymore.
I can't take it anymore.
(03:28):
There are going to be days, I'msure, of you regretting it.
There's going to be days of yousitting in your bed where
you're crying and you're wishingthat you were still dating them
and honestly, I begged andbegged and tried to get back
together with Max and you canonly try so hard before you
realize you know what they'renot meant to be in your life at
that point.
But it's really important thatyou understand and you accept
the fact that it is not easy.
(03:49):
But it is so important toremember that it can either open
doors to something better foryou and someone better to come
in your life, or it can actuallyhelp your current situation,
because there have been a lot oftimes, even in my past
relationships and plenty ofpeople I know, where hitting
rock bottom and breaking upactually helps them get back
(04:10):
together and improve theirrelationship, because you kind
of realize, wow, how much theymean to you, how much you're
willing to work and fix oncertain things when they're not
in your life anymore.
And with all that being said, Iwant to say one thing is if you
decide to let somebody go, don'tbe their friend just because
you want to be able to talk tothem every day.
And it's hard because they'reyour best friend and you're used
(04:31):
to talking to them every singlesecond and the first thing that
it's going to do is going to donothing, but keep everything
the way it is, because theystill have you in their life.
They aren't used to not goingdays without talking to you and
no contact is seriously soimportant.
Because when you break up withsomebody and you're like we can
stay friends, we'll just befriends.
I tried.
It doesn't work.
It literally doesn't work.
(04:52):
And why wouldn't they want thebest of both worlds?
Why wouldn't they want to beyour friend but also be able to
get whoever else they want?
So do not be friends with them.
You need to.
If you are going to break upwith somebody and you're going
to let them go to either findthe better version of yourself
or find somebody new and opendoors to something better in
your life, then you need to letthem go completely, because
there is a reason that you'reletting them go.
(05:13):
Let them go.
Don't just partially do it.
It doesn't work, okay, okay.
One thing also that isimportant to remember is I know
you're probably staying withsomebody for part of the reason
being that you can't stand thethought of them being with
somebody else.
Right, but what you need toremember is that if they are
(05:34):
Going to go to somebody elseright after that new girl or boy
, whatever the situation is isgoing to have the same problems
that you're dealing with.
Let them, because that girl orguy is just going to struggle
just as much as you are rightnow, if not worse, because
they're going to have to findout later and they could only
get worse because they'redealing with the breakup on top
of everything they didn't heal.
(05:54):
So just remember that that newgirl or new guy is going to go
through exactly what you'regoing through, and why would you
want to go through that?
Okay, breaking up is okay,starting over is okay, moving on
is okay.
But what's not okay is lettingsomebody treat you the way that
you're letting them treat you.
If you want to be with somebodythat doesn't appreciate you and
(06:14):
doesn't love you and doesn'tcare About you and isn't
fighting for you, then don't bewith them and you have to make
that decision and you have torealize that you know what.
It's time I need to put my footdown and I'm ready to let this
person go and maybe they'll comeback.
Maybe they'll come back evenbetter because they realize you
know what she I'm not going toget somebody like her again and
nobody else is going to put upwith me.
(06:35):
So I want her back and they'regoing to realize, when you're
not there anymore, that damnlike she Brought so much to me
and for me.
So it's important that youcannot stay with somebody that
is not Bringing you happiness.
If they are causing you morepain than they are happiness,
let them go, okay.
(06:55):
The next thing I want to say isI know starting over isn't easy,
especially when you spend everysingle second with that person
and you're so close with theirfamily or you're so close with
their friends or you have thesame friend group.
I don't care what the situationor what the circumstance is,
but you deserve to feel lovedagain and you deserve to be
happy and you deserve to becared for and you deserve to be
(07:19):
have somebody putting in theeffort that you are putting in
for them and you deserve to havesomebody caring about you the
way that they or you are caringabout them.
And when you're not gettingthat, it not only affects your
relationship but affects you.
And when it becomes to get to apoint where you're trying and
you're trying so hard and yousee yourself slowly just Feeling
(07:41):
just so down all the time, andno matter how much they're
trying to be nice and fix things, it doesn't matter, because you
know what they already did somuch damage that Every time they
try to be nice, you think ofthe bad things.
It's time to let go.
What you tolerate and what youallow in your life is what
you're going to get.
So you cannot expect to havegood things coming your way when
(08:03):
you are allowing and toleratingthis person to treat you the
way that you're being treated.
No matter how much you stick upfor yourself, no matter how
much you let them know how muchit's hurting you and they aren't
fixing it, you need to let themgo.
Good things will come your wayIf you make room for them.
So, with all that being said,you're gonna have to do what's
(08:24):
best for you, even when it feelslike shit and even when it's
hard and even when it feels likeit's impossible.
Sometimes, like when I wasgoing through it, I couldn't
even think of the thought ofbreaking up with them because I
was like what am I gonna doevery day?
Who am I gonna talk to everyday?
And I am so much moreindependent and feel like I can
do so many more things on my own.
I was getting to a point whereI didn't even want to like cook
(08:44):
it gasp by myself, because I wasjust so used to doing it with
them.
And when you have that personwalk out of your life, or you
walk out of their life, you aregoing to be struggling for a
little while.
That is something, though, youhave to accept before you let
them go, because you need tounderstand that it takes a
process to get to this pointwhere you're better without them
(09:05):
, and maybe, when you do letthem go, they're gonna come back
into your life because they seethat you're doing okay.
They see like, oh, you knowwhat, we're not together and
she's not texting me every day,and she's not doing this and
that, and she's not begging forme back, and you know what.
That may make them realize.
Damn, she's a good one, and Iregret this.
If, every time, you go to thinkabout working up with them, but
(09:28):
you think about all your pastmemories and you're hanging on
to this like your past, on whatyou guys have done together and
the family and everything, thatis not a reason to stay with
somebody, because, guess what,you are literally just causing
yourself to hurt for the rest ofyour life.
And if they're hurting youright now and they have been for
the last year and you're stillnot out of it and you've been
(09:50):
continuing and continuing tobring up what you want them to
fix and they're not, leave thembecause it's not going to change
and you're gonna be stuck withthat pain and hurt and begging
for them to just do one simplething for the rest of your life.
And if that is what you wannachoose to tolerate in your life,
then do it, but I wouldn'tsuggest it.
Another thing that I wanna sayis when you are emotionally over
(10:13):
it and you get to a point whereyou don't even care to be
around them anymore, you don'teven care to text them back, you
don't care to call them everyday or tell them good morning or
whatever it is it's time to letthem go Because, unfortunately,
no matter how much that you tryto get yourself to fall back
into that and I know you'reprobably telling yourself like
it's gonna get better or you'regonna work on it and you guys
(10:36):
are gonna come out stronger butyou have to let them go, because
when you hit that point, ittakes a lot more than just
working on it to be in a healthyrelationship again.
And it takes rock bottom and ittakes breaking up.
So when you are emotionallyover it and you physically
cannot handle dealing with themanymore, you don't even wanna
talk to them anymore.
(10:56):
You're always feeling on edgeand you just never know what's
gonna happen.
You need to let them go.
You're gonna find yourself,you're gonna come out better and
at the end of the day you haveto do what's best for you.
And if you're not choosingyourself, then you're choosing
them and their happiness.
And when you are currentlystruggling and whatever you're
(11:17):
going through and you're cryingevery day and you're asking them
to work on it or you're askingthem to just do one little thing
, that doesn't seem like a bigdeal and they make it such a big
deal and they're gaslightingyou and making it seem like
you're the problem.
Let them go Because I'm tellingyou there are so many other
guys in the world that willtreat you better, that will just
(11:37):
do a lot more for you.
And it's hard because I knowyou don't wanna be with somebody
else and you can't imaginebeing with anybody else and you
don't wanna start over.
But you kinda have to chooseand I hope that this episode has
helped you.
I know that when I was goingthrough it I was struggling so
bad and all I could think aboutwas his mom, because his mom and
(12:00):
I are still best friends.
So if you're struggling aboutthe family part people that are
your friends and that you wouldconsider extended family to you,
if they decide to not wanna bein your life anymore because
maybe you're not with theirgirlfriend or their son or their
daughter, whatever it may be,then that's fine.
They're not meant to be in yourlife at all.
But you can't stay withsomebody because of memories.
(12:23):
You shouldn't stay withsomebody because of their family
and how much you love them orbecause you're scared to be
alone, because that is onlygonna make you stronger.
So, with all that being said,it's important to know when to
let somebody go and when to hangon, and when to finally put
your foot down and say you knowwhat I'm gonna choose myself and
even though it's gonna be hard,I'm gonna get through it and
(12:43):
I'm gonna come out stronger andbetter things are gonna come my
way when I open the doors andlet them.
So walk away and work onyourself and do the things that
you love to do when you weredating them all the time,
because you tend to let go ofthings that you were always
doing, like running or walkingor going to yoga or reading or
(13:04):
going to the library I don'tcare what it is you are feeling
any of those things.
Sometimes hitting rock bottom,letting somebody go, breaking up
is seriously going to only helpyou, and I hope you guys
enjoyed this episode and pleaselet me know anything you guys
want me to talk about lifestylegoals, achieving your goals,
succeeding in life, goingthrough ups and downs, going
(13:25):
through change, whatever it maybe, breakups, whatever I don't
care.
I will talk about it and, asalways, love you, bye.
Keeping Realty is available Wednesday of each week
, produced by Gabriela DeAngeles.
The views and opinionsexpressed in this podcast are
solely those of the podcastauthor or individuals
participating in the podcast anddo not represent the views or
positions of any entities theyrepresent.
Coal Banker Realty is owned bya subsidiary of Anywhere
(00:24):
Advisors LLC.
Coal Banker is a registeredservice mark owned by Coal
Banker Real Estate LLC.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
If you are in a relationship and you're feeling
alone, whether you feel thatthey don't care about you
anymore, they're not interested,they're not making any effort,
but maybe you're holding onbecause you think that they're
going to change, or they'regoing to work on what they say
they're going to because they'reyour best friend, or you're
scared to be alone, or you'rereally close to their family.
We've all been through it, weall have that, and we need to
talk through it, though, andyou're going to get to a point
(00:55):
where you need to realize whenit's time to let go, when has it
been too much, when is it timeto choose yourself, and in this
episode, I really want to talkabout it because I wish, months
ago, when I was going throughsomething like this, I wish I
had listened to something likethis, because I think it would
have helped me really just putmy foot down and be like, okay,
yep, all these things I'm goingthrough, I need to be done and I
(01:17):
need to close the doors, andmaybe something better will come
.
Maybe it will help.
No matter what, I hope thisepisode helps you understand
that sometimes, choosingyourself leads to better
outcomes, so let's just get intoit.
Hello, guys and welcome back toKeeping it Realty.
I know it's been a while.
I went on vacation and I didthe big shift, which was very
(01:39):
much needed, but, with all ofthat being said, I really want
to make Keeping it Realty intohelping you guys with whatever
you're going through.
So if you are wanting me totalk about something specific,
dm me.
I get a ton of DMs from youguys all the time that listen to
my podcast and I want to hearwhat you guys want me to talk
about about lifestyle, aboutgoing through changes, about
going through breakups, aboutgoing through whatever it may be
(02:01):
.
I know I still haven'tresponded to some of you, which
I will try my best.
I've just been pretty busy withwork and everything.
But before we get into this andtalking about when to let go of
somebody, I want to say two veryimportant things, number one
being that this is not targetedat my ex whatsoever, and number
two is that it is really crucialand really hard to think about
(02:26):
yourself and the part of therelationship that you did wrong
and I'm not saying that youdidn't do.
Maybe he cheated and then hehas just not cared ever since,
or she cheated, whatever it is.
I'm just saying that it'sreally hard to not think about
what you did, because when Ireflect on my relationships in
my past, I always think aboutwhat they do wrong, what they do
(02:46):
wrong, and it's reallyimportant to take a moment, take
a step back and think about thethings that you do wrong, the
things that they ask you to fix,because in this episode we're
going to talk about a lot ofwhen to let go and all these
things.
I'm sure that I'm saying you'relike they do that, they do that
, they do that, but try toremember the things that you
maybe do sometimes too, andmaybe you're perfect like me,
(03:07):
just kidding and you didn't doanything wrong and really you
were just asking repeatedly towork on things and they weren't
doing that.
Okay, the first thing I want tosay is no matter what, letting
somebody go isn't easy, and I'mgoing to tell you now that if
you do, after listening to thispodcast or in a month, you
decide you know what I don'twant to be with this person
anymore.
I can't take it anymore.
(03:28):
There are going to be days, I'msure, of you regretting it.
There's going to be days of yousitting in your bed where
you're crying and you're wishingthat you were still dating them
and honestly, I begged andbegged and tried to get back
together with Max and you canonly try so hard before you
realize you know what they'renot meant to be in your life at
that point.
But it's really important thatyou understand and you accept
the fact that it is not easy.
(03:49):
But it is so important toremember that it can either open
doors to something better foryou and someone better to come
in your life, or it can actuallyhelp your current situation,
because there have been a lot oftimes, even in my past
relationships and plenty ofpeople I know, where hitting
rock bottom and breaking upactually helps them get back
(04:10):
together and improve theirrelationship, because you kind
of realize, wow, how much theymean to you, how much you're
willing to work and fix oncertain things when they're not
in your life anymore.
And with all that being said, Iwant to say one thing is if you
decide to let somebody go, don'tbe their friend just because
you want to be able to talk tothem every day.
And it's hard because they'reyour best friend and you're used
(04:31):
to talking to them every singlesecond and the first thing that
it's going to do is going to donothing, but keep everything
the way it is, because theystill have you in their life.
They aren't used to not goingdays without talking to you and
no contact is seriously soimportant.
Because when you break up withsomebody and you're like we can
stay friends, we'll just befriends.
I tried.
It doesn't work.
It literally doesn't work.
(04:52):
And why wouldn't they want thebest of both worlds?
Why wouldn't they want to beyour friend but also be able to
get whoever else they want?
So do not be friends with them.
You need to.
If you are going to break upwith somebody and you're going
to let them go to either findthe better version of yourself
or find somebody new and opendoors to something better in
your life, then you need to letthem go completely, because
there is a reason that you'reletting them go.
(05:13):
Let them go.
Don't just partially do it.
It doesn't work, okay, okay.
One thing also that isimportant to remember is I know
you're probably staying withsomebody for part of the reason
being that you can't stand thethought of them being with
somebody else.
Right, but what you need toremember is that if they are
(05:34):
Going to go to somebody elseright after that new girl or boy
, whatever the situation is isgoing to have the same problems
that you're dealing with.
Let them, because that girl orguy is just going to struggle
just as much as you are rightnow, if not worse, because
they're going to have to findout later and they could only
get worse because they'redealing with the breakup on top
of everything they didn't heal.
(05:54):
So just remember that that newgirl or new guy is going to go
through exactly what you'regoing through, and why would you
want to go through that?
Okay, breaking up is okay,starting over is okay, moving on
is okay.
But what's not okay is lettingsomebody treat you the way that
you're letting them treat you.
If you want to be with somebodythat doesn't appreciate you and
(06:14):
doesn't love you and doesn'tcare About you and isn't
fighting for you, then don't bewith them and you have to make
that decision and you have torealize that you know what.
It's time I need to put my footdown and I'm ready to let this
person go and maybe they'll comeback.
Maybe they'll come back evenbetter because they realize you
know what she I'm not going toget somebody like her again and
nobody else is going to put upwith me.
(06:35):
So I want her back and they'regoing to realize, when you're
not there anymore, that damnlike she Brought so much to me
and for me.
So it's important that youcannot stay with somebody that
is not Bringing you happiness.
If they are causing you morepain than they are happiness,
let them go, okay.
(06:55):
The next thing I want to say isI know starting over isn't easy,
especially when you spend everysingle second with that person
and you're so close with theirfamily or you're so close with
their friends or you have thesame friend group.
I don't care what the situationor what the circumstance is,
but you deserve to feel lovedagain and you deserve to be
happy and you deserve to becared for and you deserve to be
(07:19):
have somebody putting in theeffort that you are putting in
for them and you deserve to havesomebody caring about you the
way that they or you are caringabout them.
And when you're not gettingthat, it not only affects your
relationship but affects you.
And when it becomes to get to apoint where you're trying and
you're trying so hard and yousee yourself slowly just Feeling
(07:41):
just so down all the time, andno matter how much they're
trying to be nice and fix things, it doesn't matter, because you
know what they already did somuch damage that Every time they
try to be nice, you think ofthe bad things.
It's time to let go.
What you tolerate and what youallow in your life is what
you're going to get.
So you cannot expect to havegood things coming your way when
(08:03):
you are allowing and toleratingthis person to treat you the
way that you're being treated.
No matter how much you stick upfor yourself, no matter how
much you let them know how muchit's hurting you and they aren't
fixing it, you need to let themgo.
Good things will come your wayIf you make room for them.
So, with all that being said,you're gonna have to do what's
(08:24):
best for you, even when it feelslike shit and even when it's
hard and even when it feels likeit's impossible.
Sometimes, like when I wasgoing through it, I couldn't
even think of the thought ofbreaking up with them because I
was like what am I gonna doevery day?
Who am I gonna talk to everyday?
And I am so much moreindependent and feel like I can
do so many more things on my own.
I was getting to a point whereI didn't even want to like cook
(08:44):
it gasp by myself, because I wasjust so used to doing it with
them.
And when you have that personwalk out of your life, or you
walk out of their life, you aregoing to be struggling for a
little while.
That is something, though, youhave to accept before you let
them go, because you need tounderstand that it takes a
process to get to this pointwhere you're better without them
(09:05):
, and maybe, when you do letthem go, they're gonna come back
into your life because they seethat you're doing okay.
They see like, oh, you knowwhat, we're not together and
she's not texting me every day,and she's not doing this and
that, and she's not begging forme back, and you know what.
That may make them realize.
Damn, she's a good one, and Iregret this.
If, every time, you go to thinkabout working up with them, but
(09:28):
you think about all your pastmemories and you're hanging on
to this like your past, on whatyou guys have done together and
the family and everything, thatis not a reason to stay with
somebody, because, guess what,you are literally just causing
yourself to hurt for the rest ofyour life.
And if they're hurting youright now and they have been for
the last year and you're stillnot out of it and you've been
(09:50):
continuing and continuing tobring up what you want them to
fix and they're not, leave thembecause it's not going to change
and you're gonna be stuck withthat pain and hurt and begging
for them to just do one simplething for the rest of your life.
And if that is what you wannachoose to tolerate in your life,
then do it, but I wouldn'tsuggest it.
Another thing that I wanna sayis when you are emotionally over
(10:13):
it and you get to a point whereyou don't even care to be
around them anymore, you don'teven care to text them back, you
don't care to call them everyday or tell them good morning or
whatever it is it's time to letthem go Because, unfortunately,
no matter how much that you tryto get yourself to fall back
into that and I know you'reprobably telling yourself like
it's gonna get better or you'regonna work on it and you guys
(10:36):
are gonna come out stronger butyou have to let them go, because
when you hit that point, ittakes a lot more than just
working on it to be in a healthyrelationship again.
And it takes rock bottom and ittakes breaking up.
So when you are emotionallyover it and you physically
cannot handle dealing with themanymore, you don't even wanna
talk to them anymore.
(10:56):
You're always feeling on edgeand you just never know what's
gonna happen.
You need to let them go.
You're gonna find yourself,you're gonna come out better and
at the end of the day you haveto do what's best for you.
And if you're not choosingyourself, then you're choosing
them and their happiness.
And when you are currentlystruggling and whatever you're
(11:17):
going through and you're cryingevery day and you're asking them
to work on it or you're askingthem to just do one little thing
, that doesn't seem like a bigdeal and they make it such a big
deal and they're gaslightingyou and making it seem like
you're the problem.
Let them go Because I'm tellingyou there are so many other
guys in the world that willtreat you better, that will just
(11:37):
do a lot more for you.
And it's hard because I knowyou don't wanna be with somebody
else and you can't imaginebeing with anybody else and you
don't wanna start over.
But you kinda have to chooseand I hope that this episode has
helped you.
I know that when I was goingthrough it I was struggling so
bad and all I could think aboutwas his mom, because his mom and
(12:00):
I are still best friends.
So if you're struggling aboutthe family part people that are
your friends and that you wouldconsider extended family to you,
if they decide to not wanna bein your life anymore because
maybe you're not with theirgirlfriend or their son or their
daughter, whatever it may be,then that's fine.
They're not meant to be in yourlife at all.
But you can't stay withsomebody because of memories.
(12:23):
You shouldn't stay withsomebody because of their family
and how much you love them orbecause you're scared to be
alone, because that is onlygonna make you stronger.
So, with all that being said,it's important to know when to
let somebody go and when to hangon, and when to finally put
your foot down and say you knowwhat I'm gonna choose myself and
even though it's gonna be hard,I'm gonna get through it and
(12:43):
I'm gonna come out stronger andbetter things are gonna come my
way when I open the doors andlet them.
So walk away and work onyourself and do the things that
you love to do when you weredating them all the time,
because you tend to let go ofthings that you were always
doing, like running or walkingor going to yoga or reading or
(13:04):
going to the library I don'tcare what it is you are feeling
any of those things.
Sometimes hitting rock bottom,letting somebody go, breaking up
is seriously going to only helpyou, and I hope you guys
enjoyed this episode and pleaselet me know anything you guys
want me to talk about lifestylegoals, achieving your goals,
succeeding in life, goingthrough ups and downs, going
(13:25):
through change, whatever it maybe, breakups, whatever I don't
care.
I will talk about it and, asalways, love you, bye.
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