May 6, 2025 • 13 mins
Marriage requires not just finding the right person, but becoming the right person by drawing closer to God and developing the character He desires in us.
• God teaches you to seek Him first before seeking a spouse
• Your future spouse doesn't complete you—only God completes you
• God builds your character through developing the fruits of the Spirit
• Self-control is particularly crucial in both dating and marriage
• Healing from past wounds prevents bringing baggage into marriage
• Submission means serving each other, not just following orders
• Many people meet their spouse while serving at church
• Spiritual alignment happens when both partners pursue God individually
• Focus on your own growth rather than trying to fix your potential spouse
• God isn't withholding a spouse—He's preparing you to be one
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey everyone, today we're digging into a real one
how God prepares you formarriage.
Marriage is just not aboutfinding the right one, but it's
also about becoming the rightone, becoming exactly who God
has created you to be.
So we're going to dig into that.
We can keep it short, sweet andstraight to the point, maybe
under even 10 minutes.
That'd be great.
So welcome to let's Dig thePodcast.
(00:20):
We are here to help you growdeeper relationship with God,
others and yourself.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
And if you know someone who's dating or maybe
you're dating, maybe you arewaiting for that spouse, for God
to send them into your life hitthe share button, Send it to
someone.
Maybe you're in thatrelationship and you're dating
someone already praying thatthey are the one.
Send this to them so that theycan join this conversation with
you and with us.
So if you're ready, let's dig.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
All right.
Number one God teaches you howto seek him first.
The Bible says in Matthew,chapter six.
It says to seek God's kingdomand his righteousness, and
everything else will be added.
A lot of us are worried abouteverything.
We're worried about who we'regoing to marry.
We're worried about where we'regoing to live.
We're worried about what kindof work we're going to have.
We're worried about the jobthat we're in.
We're worried about our friends, every situation.
(01:09):
We're worried about how life isgoing to be after we retire.
But God is actually sayingdon't even worry about those
things.
Tomorrow is not even promised.
Actually, what you should beworrying about is worry about
yourself.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Well, worry about yourself and your relationship
with God.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
He tells us to seek God first and his kingdom and
everything else will be added.
And I think that's so importantbecause in marriage it's so
important to know that when youface hardship and troubles, you
need to understand that youcan't run to your resources all
the time.
You need to build that muscleto run to God.
Seek God.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah, I like to that.
Like you're not looking forcompletion in a spouse, you are
complete in God.
Your spouse does not make youcomplete, God completes you.
I always tell girls when I'mtalking to them about
relationships.
I tell them this math equation,right they?
There's a saying that says thatGod is a God of multiplication.
So one times one equals one.
That is marriage, that iscovenant.
(02:03):
That is how he designed it tobe.
But if you are entering into arelationship for marriage and
you are less than a whole person, you throw the whole equation
off.
One times zero is zero.
You mess up the unity and whatGod has called the covenant to
be.
So you need two whole people toequal one in union, in a
(02:23):
covenant with God.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
That's so good.
So before God brings yousomeone, he brings you to him.
He brings you to the one, theone that actually completes you.
If you need a man to feelcompleted, if you need a girl to
feel completed, you'll neverfind one.
And when you do find one,you'll never feel completed,
because no man, no woman canactually complete you Not at all
.
Only God can.
So number one is God teaches ushow to seek him first.
(02:46):
What's number?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
two.
Number two is God builds yourcharacter, and when we think
about character, we think aboutthe attributes of a person, who
they are in the room, whenthey're in a position, when
they're in a situation, who arethey?
Are they kind, are they loving?
So we think about the fruits ofthe spirit.
Are they patient?
That's a big one for marriage.
Are you, do you haveself-control?
(03:08):
That's a huge one forrelationships of dating.
Who you are?
Can you control yourself andyour flesh?
Can you control your anger?
So I love that, in thisrelationship and in this point
of God drawing you to him, he'sbuilding your character, he's
putting you in positions thatwill build that patience,
kindness, goodness, all thefruits of the spirit.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah, cause the truth is, marriage will test you.
So God is trying to grow youAll right.
Galatians five we're talkingabout that the fruits of the
spirit.
So when you were in God, hegives you his spirit and the
fruits of the spirits begin toproduce in us.
So the character is not justabout what's happening on the
outside.
I know ladies, I know fellowsright, we're all talking about
hitting the gym, trying to lookright.
Especially here in SouthernCalifornia, you're getting all
(03:52):
types of treatments on your face, trying to look all good,
trying to look all tight, allright and tight on the outside.
But honestly, the outside isnot what's going to keep you in
a marriage, it's what's on theinside.
So God actually wants to do agood work on the inside.
So, galatians, chapter five,right, verse 22,.
He starts talking about.
He puts love in you, joy in you, peace, patience, kindness,
(04:13):
goodness, gentleness,self-control.
I always highlight on thatself-control moment because
right now for us it's so easy tolike spaz on someone, it's so
easy to have no patience withsomebody, and so God is building
us from the inside out.
That's the second thing thatGod does as he prepares you for
marriage.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Crazy.
Huh, it is super crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Before we say number three, I want to take a moment
right now.
If you already feel like thisconversation or this topic right
now is already blessing you, ifyou wouldn't mind, hit that
like button.
It blesses us, it tells thealgorithm that this is a good
conversation, send it to someone.
If you're new to the page rightnow, if you wouldn't mind, just
subscribing.
Subscribing costs us nothingand I'm telling you every single
conversation that we have.
(04:54):
I can guarantee you right nowit will bring value to your life
.
So hit that like button, hitthat subscribe and send this to
someone right now.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
And you can jump in the comments and tell us which
fruit of the spirit that God'sbeen working in your life right
now.
Maybe something that is hardfor you is to actually be
patient.
Maybe something for you is hardto be using self-control and
that really you want to eat thatfood out of emotionalism, or
maybe you want to make thatdecision.
That's actually not healthy.
(05:24):
Share with us what you'rewalking through.
I know for us there are a lotof things that there's just
seasons where I'm like man Godis really testing and growing my
patience.
Man God really is testing andgrowing my gentleness and how I
respond to people.
So drop in the comments whatfruit of the spirit God is
working in you right now.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Let's go All right.
Number three is he heals yourwounds.
The Bible says in Psalms 147,it says he heals the
brokenhearted.
Listen, you cannot step intocovenant still carrying your
chains, baggage skeletons in thecloset.
It's the worst thing that youcan do to get into a marriage,
to get into a relationship,knowing that you got a bunch of
(06:06):
stuff from your past that willcome out.
Listen, you cannot go into thefuture until you let go of your
past.
So one of the biggest thingsthat you have to do when you're
preparing for marriage, ifyou're dating somebody, learn
how to get into that space whereyou find healing and
forgiveness from God.
He will heal your wounds sothat when it's time for you to
open up to your significantother and share about your past,
(06:27):
it's not baggage anymore.
It's not a bunch of luggageLike don't go into your marriage
with a bunch of suitcases ofbones Like.
You know what I'm saying.
So God can heal you.
You cannot step into covenantif you do not let go of those
chains.
That's really big.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I can't.
I can't tell you how many womenI've spoken with of they're
saying you know, oh, if hedoesn't answer my text message
all of a sudden, I think he'scheating.
If he doesn't answer my phonecall right away, I think he's
cheating.
And that is trauma, that isunhealed hurt that the Lord has
not.
You've not given it to him allthe way to be completely whole
and healthy so that you can gointo a marriage.
(07:01):
And if you're walking into itlike that already, red flags,
red flags.
So lay that at the feet ofJesus and allow him to heal you
from that.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
That's big.
So let God heal you from yourpast, so that your future is not
ruled by it.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Right.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Let him.
Let him heal you from your pain, so your future isn't ruled by
your past and your pain.
Look, man, he's creating newpeople in all of us, and so let
him do a good work.
He's already started it in you.
Allow God to heal you.
Number four hit him.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Next is he teaches you submission.
In Ephesians 5 also, it sayssubmit to one another out of
reverence for Christ.
Listen, marriage is all aboutsubmitting to each other and to
God.
So I submit to my husband, hesubmits to me, and we together
submit to God under our marriage, and it is constantly about
(07:49):
serving each other.
It's putting yourself, man.
I did not want to give you thatprotein bar today.
It was my last protein bar.
It was chocolate, it was goodand I had it saved for later.
And he was like, can I havethis last one?
And I said yes, and then I hadto hear him smack on it.
But it's serving him, it's whatwe're going to tell him.
No, that's my bar.
(08:09):
No, what's mine is yours,what's yours is ours, and I'm
going to serve you and let youhave the last of the goodies,
but it's constantly aboutputting each other first.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Yeah, I'm gonna say this right now If you're looking
to get married before, godgives you someone to lead.
He gives you someone to serve.
That's good.
He gives you someone to serve.
So he teaches us how to submitright.
The Bible says for women tosubmit to your husbands right,
like the church has submitted toChrist.
But it says husbands also loveyour wife like Christ loved the
(08:40):
church.
He gave up his life for her.
So if you want to be filledwith God's love, god's love
looks like service.
This is we're talking aboutservanthood right now.
If you want to get married,it's not because someone is
there to serve you.
It's because you're committingand devoting your life to
serving someone else.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Hold on.
I have to say something realquick.
This is free.
Y'all we serve at our church ina leadership role and I it's a
proven fact how many people dowe know that have met their
spouse while they were servingat church?
It is crazy.
It is directly linked to onceyou serve your church, when you
serve the house of God, thatwill literally do something in
(09:20):
your heart and the Lord will seeit inside of you and a lot of
times that is how you meet yourspouse.
I'm not saying it's a one plusone equals two and that's it,
but it's about the heart posturethat then the Lord sees it
developing in you and he's like,okay, now they're ready and
they can bring it in.
So, like you know, get pluggedinto your local church.
Y'all serve at your localchurch.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah, let's go All right.
Number five God aligns you tospiritually right.
God aligns you spiritually.
Second Corinthians, chapter six, talks about I'm going to say
the old version that everybodyknows do not be unequally yoked.
But I read, I read anotherversion the other day and it
says do not partner with theungodly.
Wow, that's heavy.
(10:01):
Second Corinthians, chapter six, talks about that.
Do not partner, do not come incovenant right.
Do not marriage, marry someonethat is ungodly.
That's being unequally yoked.
Listen, it's like being on aladder.
I saw an analogy the other day.
There was this couple.
They're both on one side of theladder, one's on this side,
other one's on the other side ofthe ladder, and they're both
(10:22):
climbing up to the ladder.
They're apart, but as they gohigher on the ladder, at the top
, they meet where they're rightthere.
You know what they were doing.
They were both going up the topseeking God, and you meet at
the top.
So it's important that God willalign you spiritually with the
other person.
So if the other person is notpursuing God, they're not going
to pursue you.
Make sure that they are chasingGod and while chasing God they
(10:45):
will find you, they will preparethemselves.
So that's the five, that's thefifth thing that God will align
you spiritually.
Second Corinthians, chapter six.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
And I love that.
If you do not rush what he ispreparing, his timing is perfect
.
We have our own clocks, we haveour own time, we have what the
world says, where we should bewhen we get married, when we
have kids.
We have our own timelines thatthe world tells us.
But God's timing is perfect.
He's not going to do it beforeboth people are ready for that
(11:15):
commitment and that covenant.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah.
So here's the truth.
God is not withholding a spousefrom you.
He's preparing you to be aspouse.
Right, it's two becoming one.
That's the Bible.
So both are becoming spouses.
So it's not about man.
God hasn't sent me someone yet.
Really think of it like this is.
I'm not prepared yet.
He's preparing me, so allow himto finish the work in you.
(11:38):
Lean into it, enjoy the process.
Let God stretch you, let himgrow you.
He is preparing you to be awife.
He's preparing you to be ahusband.
Don't try to work on the otherperson.
I am tired of seeing couplesstruggling because one of the
couples trying to fix the otherperson oof, no, fix yourself.
Jesus talks about that.
Before you check the otherperson, check yourself.
(12:00):
So I'm telling you this rightnow if you're dating, if you are
married and you're struggling,if you're pursuing to have a
healthy, whole marriage thatpleases god, I'm telling you
right now work on yourself.
Yes, let god work on you.
Pray for the other person andlet God work on them, and while
you're both pursuing God, youwill meet at the top and you
will be equally yoked.
(12:20):
That's all we got for today,man.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
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(12:42):
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Speaker 1 (12:49):
Peace.
Hey everyone, today we're digging into a real one
how God prepares you formarriage.
Marriage is just not aboutfinding the right one, but it's
also about becoming the rightone, becoming exactly who God
has created you to be.
So we're going to dig into that.
We can keep it short, sweet andstraight to the point, maybe
under even 10 minutes.
That'd be great.
So welcome to let's Dig thePodcast.
(00:20):
We are here to help you growdeeper relationship with God,
others and yourself.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
And if you know someone who's dating or maybe
you're dating, maybe you arewaiting for that spouse, for God
to send them into your life hitthe share button, Send it to
someone.
Maybe you're in thatrelationship and you're dating
someone already praying thatthey are the one.
Send this to them so that theycan join this conversation with
you and with us.
So if you're ready, let's dig.
Speaker 1 (00:48):
All right.
Number one God teaches you howto seek him first.
The Bible says in Matthew,chapter six.
It says to seek God's kingdomand his righteousness, and
everything else will be added.
A lot of us are worried abouteverything.
We're worried about who we'regoing to marry.
We're worried about where we'regoing to live.
We're worried about what kindof work we're going to have.
We're worried about the jobthat we're in.
We're worried about our friends, every situation.
(01:09):
We're worried about how life isgoing to be after we retire.
But God is actually sayingdon't even worry about those
things.
Tomorrow is not even promised.
Actually, what you should beworrying about is worry about
yourself.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Well, worry about yourself and your relationship
with God.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
He tells us to seek God first and his kingdom and
everything else will be added.
And I think that's so importantbecause in marriage it's so
important to know that when youface hardship and troubles, you
need to understand that youcan't run to your resources all
the time.
You need to build that muscleto run to God.
Seek God.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
Yeah, I like to that.
Like you're not looking forcompletion in a spouse, you are
complete in God.
Your spouse does not make youcomplete, God completes you.
I always tell girls when I'mtalking to them about
relationships.
I tell them this math equation,right they?
There's a saying that says thatGod is a God of multiplication.
So one times one equals one.
That is marriage, that iscovenant.
(02:03):
That is how he designed it tobe.
But if you are entering into arelationship for marriage and
you are less than a whole person, you throw the whole equation
off.
One times zero is zero.
You mess up the unity and whatGod has called the covenant to
be.
So you need two whole people toequal one in union, in a
(02:23):
covenant with God.
Speaker 1 (02:25):
That's so good.
So before God brings yousomeone, he brings you to him.
He brings you to the one, theone that actually completes you.
If you need a man to feelcompleted, if you need a girl to
feel completed, you'll neverfind one.
And when you do find one,you'll never feel completed,
because no man, no woman canactually complete you Not at all
.
Only God can.
So number one is God teaches ushow to seek him first.
(02:46):
What's number?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
two.
Number two is God builds yourcharacter, and when we think
about character, we think aboutthe attributes of a person, who
they are in the room, whenthey're in a position, when
they're in a situation, who arethey?
Are they kind, are they loving?
So we think about the fruits ofthe spirit.
Are they patient?
That's a big one for marriage.
Are you, do you haveself-control?
(03:08):
That's a huge one forrelationships of dating.
Who you are?
Can you control yourself andyour flesh?
Can you control your anger?
So I love that, in thisrelationship and in this point
of God drawing you to him, he'sbuilding your character, he's
putting you in positions thatwill build that patience,
kindness, goodness, all thefruits of the spirit.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Yeah, cause the truth is, marriage will test you.
So God is trying to grow youAll right.
Galatians five we're talkingabout that the fruits of the
spirit.
So when you were in God, hegives you his spirit and the
fruits of the spirits begin toproduce in us.
So the character is not justabout what's happening on the
outside.
I know ladies, I know fellowsright, we're all talking about
hitting the gym, trying to lookright.
Especially here in SouthernCalifornia, you're getting all
(03:52):
types of treatments on your face, trying to look all good,
trying to look all tight, allright and tight on the outside.
But honestly, the outside isnot what's going to keep you in
a marriage, it's what's on theinside.
So God actually wants to do agood work on the inside.
So, galatians, chapter five,right, verse 22,.
He starts talking about.
He puts love in you, joy in you, peace, patience, kindness,
(04:13):
goodness, gentleness,self-control.
I always highlight on thatself-control moment because
right now for us it's so easy tolike spaz on someone, it's so
easy to have no patience withsomebody, and so God is building
us from the inside out.
That's the second thing thatGod does as he prepares you for
marriage.
Speaker 2 (04:32):
Crazy.
Huh, it is super crazy.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Before we say number three, I want to take a moment
right now.
If you already feel like thisconversation or this topic right
now is already blessing you, ifyou wouldn't mind, hit that
like button.
It blesses us, it tells thealgorithm that this is a good
conversation, send it to someone.
If you're new to the page rightnow, if you wouldn't mind, just
subscribing.
Subscribing costs us nothingand I'm telling you every single
conversation that we have.
(04:54):
I can guarantee you right nowit will bring value to your life
.
So hit that like button, hitthat subscribe and send this to
someone right now.
Speaker 2 (05:04):
And you can jump in the comments and tell us which
fruit of the spirit that God'sbeen working in your life right
now.
Maybe something that is hardfor you is to actually be
patient.
Maybe something for you is hardto be using self-control and
that really you want to eat thatfood out of emotionalism, or
maybe you want to make thatdecision.
That's actually not healthy.
(05:24):
Share with us what you'rewalking through.
I know for us there are a lotof things that there's just
seasons where I'm like man Godis really testing and growing my
patience.
Man God really is testing andgrowing my gentleness and how I
respond to people.
So drop in the comments whatfruit of the spirit God is
working in you right now.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
Let's go All right.
Number three is he heals yourwounds.
The Bible says in Psalms 147,it says he heals the
brokenhearted.
Listen, you cannot step intocovenant still carrying your
chains, baggage skeletons in thecloset.
It's the worst thing that youcan do to get into a marriage,
to get into a relationship,knowing that you got a bunch of
(06:06):
stuff from your past that willcome out.
Listen, you cannot go into thefuture until you let go of your
past.
So one of the biggest thingsthat you have to do when you're
preparing for marriage, ifyou're dating somebody, learn
how to get into that space whereyou find healing and
forgiveness from God.
He will heal your wounds sothat when it's time for you to
open up to your significantother and share about your past,
(06:27):
it's not baggage anymore.
It's not a bunch of luggageLike don't go into your marriage
with a bunch of suitcases ofbones Like.
You know what I'm saying.
So God can heal you.
You cannot step into covenantif you do not let go of those
chains.
That's really big.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
I can't.
I can't tell you how many womenI've spoken with of they're
saying you know, oh, if hedoesn't answer my text message
all of a sudden, I think he'scheating.
If he doesn't answer my phonecall right away, I think he's
cheating.
And that is trauma, that isunhealed hurt that the Lord has
not.
You've not given it to him allthe way to be completely whole
and healthy so that you can gointo a marriage.
(07:01):
And if you're walking into itlike that already, red flags,
red flags.
So lay that at the feet ofJesus and allow him to heal you
from that.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
That's big.
So let God heal you from yourpast, so that your future is not
ruled by it.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Right.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
Let him.
Let him heal you from your pain, so your future isn't ruled by
your past and your pain.
Look, man, he's creating newpeople in all of us, and so let
him do a good work.
He's already started it in you.
Allow God to heal you.
Number four hit him.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
Next is he teaches you submission.
In Ephesians 5 also, it sayssubmit to one another out of
reverence for Christ.
Listen, marriage is all aboutsubmitting to each other and to
God.
So I submit to my husband, hesubmits to me, and we together
submit to God under our marriage, and it is constantly about
(07:49):
serving each other.
It's putting yourself, man.
I did not want to give you thatprotein bar today.
It was my last protein bar.
It was chocolate, it was goodand I had it saved for later.
And he was like, can I havethis last one?
And I said yes, and then I hadto hear him smack on it.
But it's serving him, it's whatwe're going to tell him.
No, that's my bar.
(08:09):
No, what's mine is yours,what's yours is ours, and I'm
going to serve you and let youhave the last of the goodies,
but it's constantly aboutputting each other first.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
Yeah, I'm gonna say this right now If you're looking
to get married before, godgives you someone to lead.
He gives you someone to serve.
That's good.
He gives you someone to serve.
So he teaches us how to submitright.
The Bible says for women tosubmit to your husbands right,
like the church has submitted toChrist.
But it says husbands also loveyour wife like Christ loved the
(08:40):
church.
He gave up his life for her.
So if you want to be filledwith God's love, god's love
looks like service.
This is we're talking aboutservanthood right now.
If you want to get married,it's not because someone is
there to serve you.
It's because you're committingand devoting your life to
serving someone else.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Hold on.
I have to say something realquick.
This is free.
Y'all we serve at our church ina leadership role and I it's a
proven fact how many people dowe know that have met their
spouse while they were servingat church?
It is crazy.
It is directly linked to onceyou serve your church, when you
serve the house of God, thatwill literally do something in
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your heart and the Lord will seeit inside of you and a lot of
times that is how you meet yourspouse.
I'm not saying it's a one plusone equals two and that's it,
but it's about the heart posturethat then the Lord sees it
developing in you and he's like,okay, now they're ready and
they can bring it in.
So, like you know, get pluggedinto your local church.
Y'all serve at your localchurch.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Yeah, let's go All right.
Number five God aligns you tospiritually right.
God aligns you spiritually.
Second Corinthians, chapter six, talks about I'm going to say
the old version that everybodyknows do not be unequally yoked.
But I read, I read anotherversion the other day and it
says do not partner with theungodly.
Wow, that's heavy.
(10:01):
Second Corinthians, chapter six, talks about that.
Do not partner, do not come incovenant right.
Do not marriage, marry someonethat is ungodly.
That's being unequally yoked.
Listen, it's like being on aladder.
I saw an analogy the other day.
There was this couple.
They're both on one side of theladder, one's on this side,
other one's on the other side ofthe ladder, and they're both
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climbing up to the ladder.
They're apart, but as they gohigher on the ladder, at the top
, they meet where they're rightthere.
You know what they were doing.
They were both going up the topseeking God, and you meet at
the top.
So it's important that God willalign you spiritually with the
other person.
So if the other person is notpursuing God, they're not going
to pursue you.
Make sure that they are chasingGod and while chasing God they
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will find you, they will preparethemselves.
So that's the five, that's thefifth thing that God will align
you spiritually.
Second Corinthians, chapter six.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
And I love that.
If you do not rush what he ispreparing, his timing is perfect
.
We have our own clocks, we haveour own time, we have what the
world says, where we should bewhen we get married, when we
have kids.
We have our own timelines thatthe world tells us.
But God's timing is perfect.
He's not going to do it beforeboth people are ready for that
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commitment and that covenant.
Speaker 1 (11:17):
Yeah.
So here's the truth.
God is not withholding a spousefrom you.
He's preparing you to be aspouse.
Right, it's two becoming one.
That's the Bible.
So both are becoming spouses.
So it's not about man.
God hasn't sent me someone yet.
Really think of it like this is.
I'm not prepared yet.
He's preparing me, so allow himto finish the work in you.
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Lean into it, enjoy the process.
Let God stretch you, let himgrow you.
He is preparing you to be awife.
He's preparing you to be ahusband.
Don't try to work on the otherperson.
I am tired of seeing couplesstruggling because one of the
couples trying to fix the otherperson oof, no, fix yourself.
Jesus talks about that.
Before you check the otherperson, check yourself.
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So I'm telling you this rightnow if you're dating, if you are
married and you're struggling,if you're pursuing to have a
healthy, whole marriage thatpleases god, I'm telling you
right now work on yourself.
Yes, let god work on you.
Pray for the other person andlet God work on them, and while
you're both pursuing God, youwill meet at the top and you
will be equally yoked.
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That's all we got for today,man.
Speaker 2 (12:21):
That's it.
So if you loved thisconversation, if you got any
nuggets out of it, we want tosee it in the comments.
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we're here.
We are here to help you grow adeeper relationship with God,
others and yourself.
We love y'all.
Keep digging.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Peace.
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