February 20, 2024 • 25 mins
As someone who's juggled the hats of a husband, father, music producer, and podcaster, I've discovered that the key to balance lies in integration, not perfection. Together with my partner, we delve into the art of weaving our children into the fabric of our daily tasks, teaching them patience and adaptability, while I reveal how I blend these roles to craft a cohesive daily routine. This episode is a candid look at the practical strategies that help us stay afloat amidst the chaos of life's various roles, from time-blocking to embracing the chaos with a smile.
You're not alone if your creative energy sometimes feels at odds with the need for structure. We tackle the conundrum head-on, discussing how organization and setting boundaries can be game-changers, especially for those with ADHD or a creative spark that just won't quit. Hear us laugh over a schedule mix-up that proves the importance of communication, and learn why saying 'no' might just be the most attractive thing you can do for your productivity and peace of mind.
This episode wraps up with a heart-to-heart on the seasons of life, understanding when to push forward and when to cultivate patience. We share personal stories, like how a single TV can bring a family closer, and using 'do not disturb' on our phones to foster presence at home. It's a gentle reminder that balance isn't about striking a perfect chord every time, but about striking the right chord for the moment, all while extending kindness to ourselves and those around us. Join us for this intimate exploration of balance, boundaries, and the beautiful blend they create in our lives.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, I love today's topic.
I read this quote the other day.
It says that balance is notsomething that you find, it's
something that you create.
I had a guy that called me theother day and he literally asked
me.
He said okay, pierre, he's likeyou're a husband, you're a dad,
you're a music producer, you'rea leader, you work for a church
, you work for artists, likeyou're working on a podcast,
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you're doing all these things.
He's like how do you balance itall?
And I told him I said it's notabout balance, actually, it's
actually about integration.
Right, the key is finding a wayto get everything to coexist
together, right.
Everything, like it's like thisecosystem.
And I think a lot of times, allof us have it wrong.
A lot of times, babe, where wethink like, okay, we got to
(00:41):
balance.
And I think of balance like a,it's like a balance beam, right,
if you're putting a lot ofweight on this side, then that
means this side.
Right, it's going one like oneway, something's up in the air,
and we're always constantlydoing this whole thing.
When I was talking to this guy,I told him, I said, man, if you
could figure out how to geteverything integrated together,
(01:02):
right, okay, there's morningswhere, like, when I wake up, I
get on the couch right there,sitting right there, and I'm
sitting with God and I'm prayingwith him, right, and then the
kids come out.
So the kids come out, I don'tthink, okay, I'm done praying.
I think, okay, kids actuallysit with me, let's pray with
daddy right, and then we get upand we'll continue praying
throughout the day.
Could you imagine thefrustration that I would get if
(01:24):
I was like guys, I'm prayingright now, in this moment, I'm a
dad and that my kids need tosee me being a proactive dad and
actually I use that moment tointegrate fathering with being a
son of the father, right, like,what are your thoughts on that?
Like, balance is not somethingthat you find, it's something
that you create.
Like people always say man, Ijust got, I don't have the time,
(01:45):
like I just got to find timefor it, and it's like you don't
find time, you make time, youmake time, you create time, like
for parents especially.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I mean not to say anything about people who don't
have kids or who are single.
Like you have to organize yourlife as well, but for parents,
there is a consistent andconstant need for our attention.
It is always being pulled fromus and so, finding that balance,
air, quotes of like, how do youintegrate these things into?
(02:19):
I struggle with that sometimes,even as a mom, sometimes just
wanting to go away and dosomething without my children
next to me.
But a lot of times, and even ina season in my life, like God,
I really felt like he taught meno, you can do this with your
kids, with you, like, just do it.
But and my kid was on my hip, myolder kid was running around,
(02:40):
but I learned how to serve theLord in that season with my
children next to me, and itcaused me to learn more patience
.
It caused me to slow down.
I can't move that fast, and ifI can't, that's okay.
So, so, integrating them intoyour life as kids, or
integrating the things that areimportant to you.
Something that's really helpedme is figuring out blocks of
(03:02):
time of like okay, before I goto work.
This is the thing I'm gonnawork on Before I, when I get
home.
This is the thing I'm gonnawork on and like organizing it
in that space really helps mefind a little bit of balance.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yeah, making time for it is the biggest thing, I feel
like for us over the lastseveral years, the last 10 years
, like we've struggled sometimeswhere I know for you
specifically, so I know y'allsee how close we're sitting
right now.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
I love hooking his leg.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
We're sitting like mad.
Close Matter of fact, a coolstory, long story short.
When we first met, I used torock shoes like this all the
time.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I was rocking.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Tim's all the time and this small little Midwestern
girl thought that oh, those arecool.
Those are probably like snowboots, so like she would take
like her little dirty snow shoesand like scuff them all over my
Tim's Sir it was never onpurpose, yeah but, you can't put
me on blast and say that thiscountry girl was scuffing your
Tim's on purpose.
No, All the New Yorkers aregonna come from me.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I didn't do it on purpose, I just didn't know the
honor and respect that goes to aTimberlin boot.
Also, I need to say you knowthat a thing that weighs things
is literally called a balanceright, yeah, balance like a
balance beam, but not a balancebeam like a balance like the
scale.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
It's called a balance .
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I think it's called a balance.
I don't know, Because it's ascale and it balances.
Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I don't know if I believe you, anyway.
So we're sitting right close tothat.
That's okay.
I love you, baby, I love you.
But I think about the guy thatI was talking to and he's like
man.
Actually, I was talking to afew guys just in the last
several years.
That's always asked me thosequestions, but two guys
specifically that just came tomy mind today as we're talking
about this.
One guy is talking to him justlast week and he's like man.
I'm an artist.
I'm an artist Like he paints.
(04:44):
He's one of our friends, he'spart of our church and we love
him and his family, his wife andhis kids.
And he asks me he's like man,how do you do it all?
How do you do it all?
And I told him I was like man.
I think it's very important forus to sit down with the people
that are in our lives and laydown solid boundaries, right
Like when we first got together,I told you what my dreams were.
I told you what I waspassionate about.
(05:05):
I told you the things that Isaw myself do it.
It was several years until Ieven saw those things happen in
my life.
But I think, like, what happensis people don't really
communicate with those, likewith the people that they're in
relationship with, like theirspouses or their girlfriends or
their boyfriends or theirfriends, their roommates.
Right, like you don'tcommunicate, like I know you,
like, when you first had aroommate, you know you should
have communicated.
Hey, by the way, I'm mad messy.
(05:26):
I know that's not what this isabout.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I'm going to go ahead and just mention that right now
it's not a bad thing at allyeah, actually, but it does
bring up a good point and thatis that you naturally are really
good at being organized.
You also are organized withyour time.
For people like me, who are thetypical artistic creative like
blah and there's a pile ofthings in the floor, I, the
(05:50):
older I get, I'm actuallyrealizing that I do have
tendencies.
It's not diagnosed or anything,but it is tendencies of ADHD
and so I'm learning differentthings that help me to process
and to be stay organized or stayon task.
Or, like I said, the blockshave been a really big help for
me.
List are.
Honestly, I always need lists onmy phone everywhere to know,
(06:13):
like what am I doing?
Cause my brain will just go sofast and it shows that in how I
keep my bedroom.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
And I saw, and I saw.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh yeah, we're not even going to talk about that,
right now we're not talkingabout it, but I just want to be
honest.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Sometimes you do have like an extreme personality,
like where you're like, youdon't care, it's all messy, it
is what is, and other times itdrives you crazy completely.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
That is true.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
And so I think what happens is you go extreme left
or you'll go extreme right and,like you said, like setting up
blocks throughout your week,setting up blocks throughout
your day, making a list, right.
And then also, like we talkabout going easy on yourself,
right, some of us like we beatourselves up so bad y'all, you
go so hard on yourself, andsometimes you do that to
yourself, like where you goreally hard on yourself, I'm
(06:53):
like babe, relax, you had a longweek, right, it's okay.
Like, let the room pile up realquick.
Set a time next week to cleanit up, right, and that's what I
really wanted to mention todaywhile we're talking about this,
like balance and integration andmultitasking, like they're all
very different.
Some people think they're allthe same.
Like multitasking, like itlooks like you about to pull up
(07:13):
some notes right now.
Why was I going to pull upnotes?
That's totally fine.
Like, why are you hiding it?
Like just y'all.
She has her phone out.
She wrote down notes.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I have a really cute phone case, by the way, but
matter of fact talking aboutthis.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
This is why it's important, because your
personality needs to write itdown.
So, there's, you don't need toimpress me.
You don't need to impress themLike they're just listening to
our conversation, like you pullout notes just say, hey, I wrote
down a thought earlier.
I say this all the time Y'all Isay to people that I lead.
I say if you want to impress me, set up boundaries.
If you want to impress me, makea list.
Someone who works all day longand is oil burnt always burning
(07:47):
the midnight oil you don't havetime for friends, don't have
time for themselves, don't havetime for God.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Don't have time for the gym.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I'm like there's nothing impressive about that.
The most impressive thing aboutsomebody is actually the
boundaries that they set.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Here.
I found this quote is thatbalance is not better time
management, but better boundarymanagement.
So, even as we're speakingabout, like working in blocks or
scheduling this and thensticking to it, honor those
schedules that you set foryourself or someone else helped
you set.
Like sometimes I've had youhelp me, like, babe, I have so
(08:19):
much stuff in my brain and Idon't know when or how to do all
of it, and you'll help me like,okay, what's most important?
Okay, put those at the frontand then move on to the next day
where you can do the otherthings.
So, setting those times,setting a plan, and then
sticking to it and keeping thoseboundaries Don't let someone
pull you.
Don't let yourself pullyourself.
(08:40):
I'm that person too, even if Ihave the boundaries, or I have
the set schedule and I'm goingto do this, I'm going to do that
, and then I don't feel like it.
My emotions can change myboundaries, or the phone can
change my boundaries.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Okay, right now you just I'm just going to put this
out right here, I'm just goingto be conversing for another day
.
You just said set schedule.
I thought you said the sexschedule.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
What.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
And I was like I thought we weren't going to talk
about that schedule.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
We're going to put a pin in this conversation.
I thought you was talking aboutthe sex schedule.
We don't have a sex schedule,but two days threw us off.
It really did.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Monday, tuesday.
That threw off our wholeschedule.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
They came here.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
for balance, sir, we all talk about integration us,
how we integrate together.
Like this I got intended to be.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Lock in.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, but honestly, babe, I think setting up the
notes, like setting upboundaries, like one of the most
appealing things about somebodyI said earlier, it's boundaries
.
You know, fellas, right, thinkabout that girl in high school,
right, you were chasing afterthe girl that you really liked,
right, the most attractive thingabout her was when she told you
no, or when she set upboundaries or she played hard to
get.
Like nobody likes an easyperson, right?
(09:48):
Nobody likes like man, you haveno boundaries.
Or like there's people thatI've worked before in the past
or people that's worked under meand I say, hey, are you
available to do this?
And the ones that say, hey, Icould do it right now.
To me I'm like you think you'reimpressing me by saying I could
do it right now.
No, actually impressing mewould say, hey, can I have it
done by the end of the day?
Or what's the deadline on this?
(10:09):
Or, hey, when do you need it?
Because that tells me you havea schedule.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
That's what I was about to say.
It's honestly, when someonesays their boundary to you you
have like, hey, actually can Iplace that in my schedule for
tomorrow or whatever it justimplies and lets the person know
that, oh, you do have an order,you do have a schedule, you did
have a plan for today.
So what I asked of you doesn'tfit in today and you can do it
tomorrow.
That is totally fine with me.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
I'm reading a.
We actually finished reading abook, but there's a book that we
read.
Shout out to Craig Rochelle,who's an amazing leadership guru
.
I've listened to all hispodcasts, I've read a lot of his
books and he says somethingdifferent from someone that's
successful.
And someone that's reallysuccessful is the word no.
Learning to say no to people,learning to say no to certain
(10:55):
things, even those that are fit,that work out really well and
they stay super lean.
They go to restaurants and theyknow how to say when the
waitress comes and say would youlike any dessert?
Now me, I'm going to struggleright there.
I'm going to say, yeah, let mesee the menu.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I get the menu, I start flipping it over.
Let me see the menu.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Let me see the menu and I already know and I'm like
I'm going to say no, I know I'mnot going to say no.
Sometimes I do say no, butsomething that's very admirable,
admirable.
Admirable about someone to lookat a menu of desserts and to
say no, that tells me that issomebody with a plan, that tells
me that is somebody with aschedule, someone that has a
system and someone that has avision for themselves.
(11:37):
Listen, I want to encourage youall, man, this is something
that we do in our own houseright now Set boundaries, set up
blockout dates.
There comes a time in a daylike I serve at the church and
I'm there all the time, butthere comes a time in a day
where I said, ok, I am done forthe day and I'm going to pick up
my kids or I'm going to hangout with my friends or I'm going
to do something.
Like that Boundaries is healthyfor you guys, it's healthy for
(11:59):
us.
Like you know what I mean.
Yo, we don't.
People who get married in themoment they get married, they
can't go out and hang out.
No more, they can't.
I'm like, man, you just gotmarried and now you just like
your legs broke, like you can'tgo out and hang anymore until
your spouse or your husband oryour wife is out of town, and
then you want to hang out.
But to me I'm like yo, whathappened?
(12:19):
Don't we do lunch?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
once a week.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Or what happened to the balance.
So for me, I'm a dad, I'm ahusband, right, I'm a brother,
I'm a cousin, like I'm a boss,I'm a leader and, more
importantly, I am a son.
I am a son of the living God,where I actually enjoy spending
time with him.
But the key is how do webalance it all, and I want to
encourage you guys spread outyour schedule throughout the
week.
(12:42):
Don't feel like there's certainthings you have to do every
single day.
There are certain things thatwe do every single day because
we have to for living.
Right, you drink water everysingle day.
Right, you eat every single day.
I talk to God every single day,but I don't hang out with my
friends every single day.
I'll put out time in myschedule and to say, hey, I can
do it.
I have people that reach out tome all the time and they're all
saying, hey, can we grab lunch,can we hang out?
(13:03):
And I'll tell them I said, hey,I'm so sorry, this week is
actually already full.
Can we make time next week orcan we look at the next few
weeks?
Speaker 2 (13:11):
But another practical thing that helps with that for
us is our calendar, that weshare our calendar.
We were a one car family withinthe first two years we got
married and so we had to be onpoint with our schedule.
We used our iCalendar.
That was Bible.
If it wasn't in the calendar,you don't get to make it work
(13:34):
and so, verbatim, we live offthat calendar and that is
something that really helps usbalance, so that you know, oh,
this week is full or nope, I gotto move it to next week, or oh
no, we very rarely have doublebookings between the two of us
because that calendar has workedso well for us.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Something that's actually worked for us, too as
well is, we've learned tounderstand seasons.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
There are some seasons that come around in our
life where we're like we're notdoing that this season.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
You have to.
Even as a mom, like for all mymoms out there you know that
your life majorly depends onwhat season you're in.
Whether you have an infant isdifferent than a toddler,
whether you have a toddler who'slearning how to potty train is
different than a toddler whosleeps through the night, all
night, Like there are so manyebbs and flows in parenting and
(14:24):
those seasons that you just haveto move with it and no, yeah, I
can't do that right now.
Yeah, I'm not in that spaceright now.
Maybe in three months when mykid is in a different season.
But for right now, this is whatI need for my family to be in a
healthy place, for me to be ina healthy place.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Right.
Like a couple of years ago, weused to host at our house all
the time.
Remember we had people in ourhouse.
All the time I had friends thattexted and be like hey, like
what are we doing tonight?
I'm like you guys want to comeover and home will be like
actually I'm already outside.
I'm like dang, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
But we loved it.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
I was like, well, what's taking so long?
Come up already, because that'show much we entertain.
We used to host all the time.
It was that season for us atthat time, yeah.
But then we went through a lotof different things
deconstruction, reconstructionLike we had to like honestly,
like reshape everything aboutour lives newborn baby.
We went through a season wherewe said not this time around.
And I want to encouragesomebody, man, like, go easy on
yourself, right?
If you feel like you're in aseason where there's certain
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things you cannot integrateinside your life, okay, relax,
like literally cut yourself abreak and go easy on yourself,
especially for those.
And I want to take a moment andjust say, matter of fact, let
me take a moment right now andjust say pause real quick, like
if you feel like these YouTubevideos is giving you life, you
feel like you're casting, youknow, like you feel like you're
getting vision from here, youfeel like you are getting value,
(15:41):
I want to encourage you.
If you wouldn't mind, take amoment, send this to somebody,
hit subscribe, share it like,comment, all that stuff, blah,
blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I know you've probably heard that before, but
actually do the things that youknow to do.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Join us on this journey, y'all Join us on the
journey.
Write us back to right, like.
Write us back If you'relistening on Spotify or Apple
podcast, like, send us a DM.
You can hit us up on TikTok,you know, on Instagram, facebook
, x and all that stuff.
Not so much, not so much, youknow, unless you're over a
certain age group, then I guessFacebook and we'll get back to
it sometime next year, right,but that's that.
(16:17):
But honestly, I just want totell anyone that's listening to
this right now and you're reallyfrustrated with yourself, you
feel like man, I wish I couldwake up and go early to the gym.
Like man, I wish I could eatbetter.
You're so frustrated.
You're like man, I cannot startthat business yet.
And you're like man, this time,right now, is so tough I cannot
(16:38):
.
Or you're like, hey, I cannotsave money right now because
funds are tight.
And I'm here to tell you goeasy on yourself.
God loves you, he cares for you.
I was reading today and we'vebeen reading this in our own
house.
Jesus said this and if youhaven't learned already, like we
are followers of Christ, jesussaid this he said seek first me
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and my kingdom and everythingGod has to offer and live a
righteous life, live well andeverything else that you need
will be added to your life, andI'm here to tell you like there
are certain things right now.
If it's not in your life, it'sokay.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Listen, god closes doors and God opens doors too,
and maybe that there sometimeswe try to squeeze something in
the wrong season.
It's not working because it'snot the right time and we need
to take that step back and belike man I'm beating myself up,
I'm working so hard andnothing's coming together.
Wait a minute.
Am I trying to plant seeds inthe winter, like you have to
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think about?
Am I sowing something?
Or am I trying to startsomething when the season isn't
right?
Maybe the ground ain't ready yet, maybe you're not ready yet,
maybe there's things that Godstill has to do in you to make
you ready for that season.
That's something I'm working onin my life of like, okay, god,
keep working on me, because Istill feel a little bit of that
root.
Okay, god, I still give it toyou.
(17:57):
And so just knowing, like whatPeter's saying of take a break,
stop beating yourself up,because I have really struggled
with that.
Of like, wishing I was thatextreme, I'm gonna cut sugar out
for three weeks.
I'm not that person.
I need to take small things ata little, at a time.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Or how about even that one time when Jordan was at
the age he was just like one ortwo and you wanted to go back
to work?
You were so fushored with him.
And I remember telling you I'mlike, babe, like it's the season
right now for you to be withhim.
Your mama bear, like, stoptrying to get out of this season
.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
That was the first time that I had stayed at home
with Jordan and I'll be honestwith you all, I did not enjoy it
.
I was running back to the hairsalon to do hair Like I didn't
care what it took, I didn't careif it made sense financially.
I was, and I think now, lookingback, it was different, like
factors all at once that madethat season so hard.
(18:52):
But I really was running awaylike Jordan.
I love you, I loved my baby somuch, I'd still love my baby so
much, but I was ready to go towork.
And then now, looking eightyears later, I'm like man.
I know myself better to know Iactually like a few days home
with my kids and a few days atwork.
And it's literally finding thebalance of this season and I
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want to hit real quick.
It's just a free thing.
But talking about boundaries, Iwant to hit a little thing of
saying that when you do haveboundaries and you set them,
that you carry them lightly,carry them softly and gently.
Don't walk into room with yourboundaries up first, walk into
it gently and then, when someonetaps your boundary, be like oof
(19:39):
, that's a boundary, hey, can Ido it tomorrow?
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Right.
For example, if someone comesto you and say, hey, you want to
go out tomorrow, you say sorry,booked for the week, sorry
boundaries, I'm like hold up now, relax.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
So I did have an experience with someone and I
just kept getting like everytime I said hi, it was a
boundary.
They responded with boundaries,they responded with boundaries
and I was like wait a minute,like hold on.
Boundaries are great.
Let's be healthy in ourboundaries.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
But the mindset.
I love the mindset ofboundaries, so I want to
encourage y'all.
Even this is something thatwe're implementing in our life
right now.
Like our son, he has friends.
He's eye messaging them andwriting them all the time and
there's some times I say, hey,buddy, take a break, take a
break, or he's playing Xbox.
So for us, we enjoy integration.
(20:29):
We're talking about boundaries,we're talking about balance.
So in our household we onlyhave one TV in our house.
The reason why, long term,dailey grew up in her household,
she grew up with a bunch of TVsin everyone's room.
I did too as well, like we hadTVs.
But once we got married, like Iwanted to try something very
different.
I'm like yo, if we're going towatch TV, let's actually watch
something together, and so thatright there.
(20:51):
We've implemented that throughour whole family.
So we'll all sit in the couchand watch something together,
even if we're watching freakingPeppa Pig.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
We will watch Peppa Pig together.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
We'll all watch Peppa Pig together and we've all
created these moments, setupboundaries.
I know for me it's veryimportant for me, like when I
come home I put my phone on donot disturb, because right now,
in this moment, I have pivoted.
I've transitioned into anothersegment of my life and there are
some days where I'm likeactually it needs to stay off of
.
Do not disturb, because I stillhave some work, stuff that I'm
(21:22):
handling.
But I'm telling y'all is likelearn how to understand
implementation right,implementing all of it right.
Multitasking is very differentfrom integration, very different
like balancing, like boundariesthey're all very different.
Really study them and figureout.
What does that look likeBoundaries?
It's the ability to be able tosay no, right.
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It's the ability to be able tosay not right now.
That's boundaries, right.
Balance is understanding, like,okay, I'm kind of going back and
forth and I don't know yetright.
Like when you're balancing,like you're kind of like right,
you're putting some water here,you're putting some water here.
You're kind of playing back andforth and there are some
seasons.
I am just kind of balancing.
I'm constantly just doing this.
I don't know when, how long I'mgonna work on that project.
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I'm not sure when I'm gonnafinish that and I know I'm just
balancing it right now, kind ofdoing this right, juggling right
.
Integration is learning likeokay, I like this, I like this,
I want it all to work togethernow, right, I want it all to
work together.
And so it's us learning how tointegrate our lives together,
our ideas, and so, listen, y'all, this is gonna be a really cool
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year.
If you could really tap intothese fundamentals, this can
radically change your life.
But I wanna encourage you sharewith the people, share these
fundamentals, share these valueswith the people that are in
your life.
Are you done touching me rightnow?
Speaker 2 (22:38):
You finished, I'm just doing it.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
That's wild.
Listen, share your values withthe people that are in your life
.
Ask them to respect yourboundaries, you know.
Ask them to hold youaccountable to the things that
you're trying to balance orintegrate right now, the things
that you wanna implement in yourlife, especially if there's
people that you trust, like.
And then, lastly, I said itearlier, go easy on yourself.
Maybe it's not the season rightnow.
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Maybe you need to stop thatthing right now.
Right, maybe some things thatyou need to cut out and trim.
Right, there's trees.
Right, when it's getting readyto prep into certain seasons,
there's certain things that falloff of trees.
But if it doesn't fall off, yougot to go and trim it yourself.
Maybe that's the season you'rein right now.
So, before you go any furtherin your life, I want to
encourage y'all take a momentand really evaluate your life
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right now.
Evaluate those that are aroundyou.
Listen, time there's nothing asthere's.
You're like you'll never findtime to do anything.
You make time, you prioritizeit, you make a decision and say
these things are very importantto me and I'm making time for it
, and you let everything in yourenvironment know your values
and what you're making time for,but that's all I got to say
today.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I was going to say, all right.
Well, at the end of the day,balance is not a destination, it
is a process, and so we'regoing to work and we're going to
make little tweaks.
Little tweaks are what make thedifference.
It's not just completely coldturkey changing everything about
your life.
It won't be sustainable.
That's applicable to the gym,to your diet, to your schedule,
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to everything in your life.
So making those smalladjustments of no, today I'm
going to do this, or everyTuesday, this is how I'm going
to categorize my day.
This is what I'm going to do onTuesdays, and start with those
little things.
But it is a process and, likePeter saying, be kind to
yourself, work on it and bepatient and ask the Lord and the
Holy Spirit to really help youmake the best decisions for you,
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for your family, for yourfriends that are around you and
everyone, and your life willshow fruit.
You'll start bearing fruit fromthe things that you start like,
honoring and making boundariesof, and that you learn balance.
So we love y'all, make sureyou're subscribed and make sure
you're sending these to someonewho you know can help and they
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can help them, and that theywill benefit from these
conversations.
Thank you for being a part ofour community.
We love y'all.
Let's dig.
All right, I love today's topic.
I read this quote the other day.
It says that balance is notsomething that you find, it's
something that you create.
I had a guy that called me theother day and he literally asked
me.
He said okay, pierre, he's likeyou're a husband, you're a dad,
you're a music producer, you'rea leader, you work for a church
, you work for artists, likeyou're working on a podcast,
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you're doing all these things.
He's like how do you balance itall?
And I told him I said it's notabout balance, actually, it's
actually about integration.
Right, the key is finding a wayto get everything to coexist
together, right.
Everything, like it's like thisecosystem.
And I think a lot of times, allof us have it wrong.
A lot of times, babe, where wethink like, okay, we got to
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balance.
And I think of balance like a,it's like a balance beam, right,
if you're putting a lot ofweight on this side, then that
means this side.
Right, it's going one like oneway, something's up in the air,
and we're always constantlydoing this whole thing.
When I was talking to this guy,I told him, I said, man, if you
could figure out how to geteverything integrated together,
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right, okay, there's morningswhere, like, when I wake up, I
get on the couch right there,sitting right there, and I'm
sitting with God and I'm prayingwith him, right, and then the
kids come out.
So the kids come out, I don'tthink, okay, I'm done praying.
I think, okay, kids actuallysit with me, let's pray with
daddy right, and then we get upand we'll continue praying
throughout the day.
Could you imagine thefrustration that I would get if
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I was like guys, I'm prayingright now, in this moment, I'm a
dad and that my kids need tosee me being a proactive dad and
actually I use that moment tointegrate fathering with being a
son of the father, right, like,what are your thoughts on that?
Like, balance is not somethingthat you find, it's something
that you create.
Like people always say man, Ijust got, I don't have the time,
(01:45):
like I just got to find timefor it, and it's like you don't
find time, you make time, youmake time, you create time, like
for parents especially.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I mean not to say anything about people who don't
have kids or who are single.
Like you have to organize yourlife as well, but for parents,
there is a consistent andconstant need for our attention.
It is always being pulled fromus and so, finding that balance,
air, quotes of like, how do youintegrate these things into?
(02:19):
I struggle with that sometimes,even as a mom, sometimes just
wanting to go away and dosomething without my children
next to me.
But a lot of times, and even ina season in my life, like God,
I really felt like he taught meno, you can do this with your
kids, with you, like, just do it.
But and my kid was on my hip, myolder kid was running around,
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but I learned how to serve theLord in that season with my
children next to me, and itcaused me to learn more patience
.
It caused me to slow down.
I can't move that fast, and ifI can't, that's okay.
So, so, integrating them intoyour life as kids, or
integrating the things that areimportant to you.
Something that's really helpedme is figuring out blocks of
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time of like okay, before I goto work.
This is the thing I'm gonnawork on Before I, when I get
home.
This is the thing I'm gonnawork on and like organizing it
in that space really helps mefind a little bit of balance.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
Yeah, making time for it is the biggest thing, I feel
like for us over the lastseveral years, the last 10 years
, like we've struggled sometimeswhere I know for you
specifically, so I know y'allsee how close we're sitting
right now.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
I love hooking his leg.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
We're sitting like mad.
Close Matter of fact, a coolstory, long story short.
When we first met, I used torock shoes like this all the
time.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
I was rocking.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Tim's all the time and this small little Midwestern
girl thought that oh, those arecool.
Those are probably like snowboots, so like she would take
like her little dirty snow shoesand like scuff them all over my
Tim's Sir it was never onpurpose, yeah but, you can't put
me on blast and say that thiscountry girl was scuffing your
Tim's on purpose.
No, All the New Yorkers aregonna come from me.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
I didn't do it on purpose, I just didn't know the
honor and respect that goes to aTimberlin boot.
Also, I need to say you knowthat a thing that weighs things
is literally called a balanceright, yeah, balance like a
balance beam, but not a balancebeam like a balance like the
scale.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
It's called a balance .
Speaker 2 (04:18):
I think it's called a balance.
I don't know, Because it's ascale and it balances.
Okay, go ahead.
Speaker 1 (04:23):
I don't know if I believe you, anyway.
So we're sitting right close tothat.
That's okay.
I love you, baby, I love you.
But I think about the guy thatI was talking to and he's like
man.
Actually, I was talking to afew guys just in the last
several years.
That's always asked me thosequestions, but two guys
specifically that just came tomy mind today as we're talking
about this.
One guy is talking to him justlast week and he's like man.
I'm an artist.
I'm an artist Like he paints.
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He's one of our friends, he'spart of our church and we love
him and his family, his wife andhis kids.
And he asks me he's like man,how do you do it all?
How do you do it all?
And I told him I was like man.
I think it's very important forus to sit down with the people
that are in our lives and laydown solid boundaries, right
Like when we first got together,I told you what my dreams were.
I told you what I waspassionate about.
(05:05):
I told you the things that Isaw myself do it.
It was several years until Ieven saw those things happen in
my life.
But I think, like, what happensis people don't really
communicate with those, likewith the people that they're in
relationship with, like theirspouses or their girlfriends or
their boyfriends or theirfriends, their roommates.
Right, like you don'tcommunicate, like I know you,
like, when you first had aroommate, you know you should
have communicated.
Hey, by the way, I'm mad messy.
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I know that's not what this isabout.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I'm going to go ahead and just mention that right now
it's not a bad thing at allyeah, actually, but it does
bring up a good point and thatis that you naturally are really
good at being organized.
You also are organized withyour time.
For people like me, who are thetypical artistic creative like
blah and there's a pile ofthings in the floor, I, the
(05:50):
older I get, I'm actuallyrealizing that I do have
tendencies.
It's not diagnosed or anything,but it is tendencies of ADHD
and so I'm learning differentthings that help me to process
and to be stay organized or stayon task.
Or, like I said, the blockshave been a really big help for
me.
List are.
Honestly, I always need lists onmy phone everywhere to know,
(06:13):
like what am I doing?
Cause my brain will just go sofast and it shows that in how I
keep my bedroom.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
And I saw, and I saw.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
Oh yeah, we're not even going to talk about that,
right now we're not talkingabout it, but I just want to be
honest.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Sometimes you do have like an extreme personality,
like where you're like, youdon't care, it's all messy, it
is what is, and other times itdrives you crazy completely.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
That is true.
Speaker 1 (06:33):
And so I think what happens is you go extreme left
or you'll go extreme right and,like you said, like setting up
blocks throughout your week,setting up blocks throughout
your day, making a list, right.
And then also, like we talkabout going easy on yourself,
right, some of us like we beatourselves up so bad y'all, you
go so hard on yourself, andsometimes you do that to
yourself, like where you goreally hard on yourself, I'm
(06:53):
like babe, relax, you had a longweek, right, it's okay.
Like, let the room pile up realquick.
Set a time next week to cleanit up, right, and that's what I
really wanted to mention todaywhile we're talking about this,
like balance and integration andmultitasking, like they're all
very different.
Some people think they're allthe same.
Like multitasking, like itlooks like you about to pull up
(07:13):
some notes right now.
Why was I going to pull upnotes?
That's totally fine.
Like, why are you hiding it?
Like just y'all.
She has her phone out.
She wrote down notes.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I have a really cute phone case, by the way, but
matter of fact talking aboutthis.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
This is why it's important, because your
personality needs to write itdown.
So, there's, you don't need toimpress me.
You don't need to impress themLike they're just listening to
our conversation, like you pullout notes just say, hey, I wrote
down a thought earlier.
I say this all the time Y'all Isay to people that I lead.
I say if you want to impress me, set up boundaries.
If you want to impress me, makea list.
Someone who works all day longand is oil burnt always burning
(07:47):
the midnight oil you don't havetime for friends, don't have
time for themselves, don't havetime for God.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Don't have time for the gym.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I'm like there's nothing impressive about that.
The most impressive thing aboutsomebody is actually the
boundaries that they set.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Here.
I found this quote is thatbalance is not better time
management, but better boundarymanagement.
So, even as we're speakingabout, like working in blocks or
scheduling this and thensticking to it, honor those
schedules that you set foryourself or someone else helped
you set.
Like sometimes I've had youhelp me, like, babe, I have so
(08:19):
much stuff in my brain and Idon't know when or how to do all
of it, and you'll help me like,okay, what's most important?
Okay, put those at the frontand then move on to the next day
where you can do the otherthings.
So, setting those times,setting a plan, and then
sticking to it and keeping thoseboundaries Don't let someone
pull you.
Don't let yourself pullyourself.
(08:40):
I'm that person too, even if Ihave the boundaries, or I have
the set schedule and I'm goingto do this, I'm going to do that
, and then I don't feel like it.
My emotions can change myboundaries, or the phone can
change my boundaries.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Okay, right now you just I'm just going to put this
out right here, I'm just goingto be conversing for another day
.
You just said set schedule.
I thought you said the sexschedule.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
What.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
And I was like I thought we weren't going to talk
about that schedule.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
We're going to put a pin in this conversation.
I thought you was talking aboutthe sex schedule.
We don't have a sex schedule,but two days threw us off.
It really did.
Speaker 1 (09:15):
Monday, tuesday.
That threw off our wholeschedule.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
They came here.
Speaker 1 (09:19):
for balance, sir, we all talk about integration us,
how we integrate together.
Like this I got intended to be.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Lock in.
Speaker 1 (09:27):
Yeah, but honestly, babe, I think setting up the
notes, like setting upboundaries, like one of the most
appealing things about somebodyI said earlier, it's boundaries
.
You know, fellas, right, thinkabout that girl in high school,
right, you were chasing afterthe girl that you really liked,
right, the most attractive thingabout her was when she told you
no, or when she set upboundaries or she played hard to
get.
Like nobody likes an easyperson, right?
(09:48):
Nobody likes like man, you haveno boundaries.
Or like there's people thatI've worked before in the past
or people that's worked under meand I say, hey, are you
available to do this?
And the ones that say, hey, Icould do it right now.
To me I'm like you think you'reimpressing me by saying I could
do it right now.
No, actually impressing mewould say, hey, can I have it
done by the end of the day?
Or what's the deadline on this?
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Or, hey, when do you need it?
Because that tells me you havea schedule.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
That's what I was about to say.
It's honestly, when someonesays their boundary to you you
have like, hey, actually can Iplace that in my schedule for
tomorrow or whatever it justimplies and lets the person know
that, oh, you do have an order,you do have a schedule, you did
have a plan for today.
So what I asked of you doesn'tfit in today and you can do it
tomorrow.
That is totally fine with me.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
I'm reading a.
We actually finished reading abook, but there's a book that we
read.
Shout out to Craig Rochelle,who's an amazing leadership guru
.
I've listened to all hispodcasts, I've read a lot of his
books and he says somethingdifferent from someone that's
successful.
And someone that's reallysuccessful is the word no.
Learning to say no to people,learning to say no to certain
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things, even those that are fit,that work out really well and
they stay super lean.
They go to restaurants and theyknow how to say when the
waitress comes and say would youlike any dessert?
Now me, I'm going to struggleright there.
I'm going to say, yeah, let mesee the menu.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
I get the menu, I start flipping it over.
Let me see the menu.
Speaker 1 (11:14):
Let me see the menu and I already know and I'm like
I'm going to say no, I know I'mnot going to say no.
Sometimes I do say no, butsomething that's very admirable,
admirable.
Admirable about someone to lookat a menu of desserts and to
say no, that tells me that issomebody with a plan, that tells
me that is somebody with aschedule, someone that has a
system and someone that has avision for themselves.
(11:37):
Listen, I want to encourage youall, man, this is something
that we do in our own houseright now Set boundaries, set up
blockout dates.
There comes a time in a daylike I serve at the church and
I'm there all the time, butthere comes a time in a day
where I said, ok, I am done forthe day and I'm going to pick up
my kids or I'm going to hangout with my friends or I'm going
to do something.
Like that Boundaries is healthyfor you guys, it's healthy for
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us.
Like you know what I mean.
Yo, we don't.
People who get married in themoment they get married, they
can't go out and hang out.
No more, they can't.
I'm like, man, you just gotmarried and now you just like
your legs broke, like you can'tgo out and hang anymore until
your spouse or your husband oryour wife is out of town, and
then you want to hang out.
But to me I'm like yo, whathappened?
(12:19):
Don't we do lunch?
Speaker 2 (12:20):
once a week.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Or what happened to the balance.
So for me, I'm a dad, I'm ahusband, right, I'm a brother,
I'm a cousin, like I'm a boss,I'm a leader and, more
importantly, I am a son.
I am a son of the living God,where I actually enjoy spending
time with him.
But the key is how do webalance it all, and I want to
encourage you guys spread outyour schedule throughout the
week.
(12:42):
Don't feel like there's certainthings you have to do every
single day.
There are certain things thatwe do every single day because
we have to for living.
Right, you drink water everysingle day.
Right, you eat every single day.
I talk to God every single day,but I don't hang out with my
friends every single day.
I'll put out time in myschedule and to say, hey, I can
do it.
I have people that reach out tome all the time and they're all
saying, hey, can we grab lunch,can we hang out?
(13:03):
And I'll tell them I said, hey,I'm so sorry, this week is
actually already full.
Can we make time next week orcan we look at the next few
weeks?
Speaker 2 (13:11):
But another practical thing that helps with that for
us is our calendar, that weshare our calendar.
We were a one car family withinthe first two years we got
married and so we had to be onpoint with our schedule.
We used our iCalendar.
That was Bible.
If it wasn't in the calendar,you don't get to make it work
(13:34):
and so, verbatim, we live offthat calendar and that is
something that really helps usbalance, so that you know, oh,
this week is full or nope, I gotto move it to next week, or oh
no, we very rarely have doublebookings between the two of us
because that calendar has workedso well for us.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
Something that's actually worked for us, too as
well is, we've learned tounderstand seasons.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
There are some seasons that come around in our
life where we're like we're notdoing that this season.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
You have to.
Even as a mom, like for all mymoms out there you know that
your life majorly depends onwhat season you're in.
Whether you have an infant isdifferent than a toddler,
whether you have a toddler who'slearning how to potty train is
different than a toddler whosleeps through the night, all
night, Like there are so manyebbs and flows in parenting and
(14:24):
those seasons that you just haveto move with it and no, yeah, I
can't do that right now.
Yeah, I'm not in that spaceright now.
Maybe in three months when mykid is in a different season.
But for right now, this is whatI need for my family to be in a
healthy place, for me to be ina healthy place.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
Right.
Like a couple of years ago, weused to host at our house all
the time.
Remember we had people in ourhouse.
All the time I had friends thattexted and be like hey, like
what are we doing tonight?
I'm like you guys want to comeover and home will be like
actually I'm already outside.
I'm like dang, that's crazy.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
But we loved it.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
I was like, well, what's taking so long?
Come up already, because that'show much we entertain.
We used to host all the time.
It was that season for us atthat time, yeah.
But then we went through a lotof different things
deconstruction, reconstructionLike we had to like honestly,
like reshape everything aboutour lives newborn baby.
We went through a season wherewe said not this time around.
And I want to encouragesomebody, man, like, go easy on
yourself, right?
If you feel like you're in aseason where there's certain
(15:19):
things you cannot integrateinside your life, okay, relax,
like literally cut yourself abreak and go easy on yourself,
especially for those.
And I want to take a moment andjust say, matter of fact, let
me take a moment right now andjust say pause real quick, like
if you feel like these YouTubevideos is giving you life, you
feel like you're casting, youknow, like you feel like you're
getting vision from here, youfeel like you are getting value,
(15:41):
I want to encourage you.
If you wouldn't mind, take amoment, send this to somebody,
hit subscribe, share it like,comment, all that stuff, blah,
blah, blah, blah.
Speaker 2 (15:50):
I know you've probably heard that before, but
actually do the things that youknow to do.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Join us on this journey, y'all Join us on the
journey.
Write us back to right, like.
Write us back If you'relistening on Spotify or Apple
podcast, like, send us a DM.
You can hit us up on TikTok,you know, on Instagram, facebook
, x and all that stuff.
Not so much, not so much, youknow, unless you're over a
certain age group, then I guessFacebook and we'll get back to
it sometime next year, right,but that's that.
(16:17):
But honestly, I just want totell anyone that's listening to
this right now and you're reallyfrustrated with yourself, you
feel like man, I wish I couldwake up and go early to the gym.
Like man, I wish I could eatbetter.
You're so frustrated.
You're like man, I cannot startthat business yet.
And you're like man, this time,right now, is so tough I cannot
(16:38):
.
Or you're like, hey, I cannotsave money right now because
funds are tight.
And I'm here to tell you goeasy on yourself.
God loves you, he cares for you.
I was reading today and we'vebeen reading this in our own
house.
Jesus said this and if youhaven't learned already, like we
are followers of Christ, jesussaid this he said seek first me
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and my kingdom and everythingGod has to offer and live a
righteous life, live well andeverything else that you need
will be added to your life, andI'm here to tell you like there
are certain things right now.
If it's not in your life, it'sokay.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
Listen, god closes doors and God opens doors too,
and maybe that there sometimeswe try to squeeze something in
the wrong season.
It's not working because it'snot the right time and we need
to take that step back and belike man I'm beating myself up,
I'm working so hard andnothing's coming together.
Wait a minute.
Am I trying to plant seeds inthe winter, like you have to
(17:37):
think about?
Am I sowing something?
Or am I trying to startsomething when the season isn't
right?
Maybe the ground ain't ready yet, maybe you're not ready yet,
maybe there's things that Godstill has to do in you to make
you ready for that season.
That's something I'm working onin my life of like, okay, god,
keep working on me, because Istill feel a little bit of that
root.
Okay, god, I still give it toyou.
(17:57):
And so just knowing, like whatPeter's saying of take a break,
stop beating yourself up,because I have really struggled
with that.
Of like, wishing I was thatextreme, I'm gonna cut sugar out
for three weeks.
I'm not that person.
I need to take small things ata little, at a time.
Speaker 1 (18:12):
Or how about even that one time when Jordan was at
the age he was just like one ortwo and you wanted to go back
to work?
You were so fushored with him.
And I remember telling you I'mlike, babe, like it's the season
right now for you to be withhim.
Your mama bear, like, stoptrying to get out of this season
.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
That was the first time that I had stayed at home
with Jordan and I'll be honestwith you all, I did not enjoy it
.
I was running back to the hairsalon to do hair Like I didn't
care what it took, I didn't careif it made sense financially.
I was, and I think now, lookingback, it was different, like
factors all at once that madethat season so hard.
(18:52):
But I really was running awaylike Jordan.
I love you, I loved my baby somuch, I'd still love my baby so
much, but I was ready to go towork.
And then now, looking eightyears later, I'm like man.
I know myself better to know Iactually like a few days home
with my kids and a few days atwork.
And it's literally finding thebalance of this season and I
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want to hit real quick.
It's just a free thing.
But talking about boundaries, Iwant to hit a little thing of
saying that when you do haveboundaries and you set them,
that you carry them lightly,carry them softly and gently.
Don't walk into room with yourboundaries up first, walk into
it gently and then, when someonetaps your boundary, be like oof
(19:39):
, that's a boundary, hey, can Ido it tomorrow?
Speaker 1 (19:42):
Right.
For example, if someone comesto you and say, hey, you want to
go out tomorrow, you say sorry,booked for the week, sorry
boundaries, I'm like hold up now, relax.
Speaker 2 (19:53):
So I did have an experience with someone and I
just kept getting like everytime I said hi, it was a
boundary.
They responded with boundaries,they responded with boundaries
and I was like wait a minute,like hold on.
Boundaries are great.
Let's be healthy in ourboundaries.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
But the mindset.
I love the mindset ofboundaries, so I want to
encourage y'all.
Even this is something thatwe're implementing in our life
right now.
Like our son, he has friends.
He's eye messaging them andwriting them all the time and
there's some times I say, hey,buddy, take a break, take a
break, or he's playing Xbox.
So for us, we enjoy integration.
(20:29):
We're talking about boundaries,we're talking about balance.
So in our household we onlyhave one TV in our house.
The reason why, long term,dailey grew up in her household,
she grew up with a bunch of TVsin everyone's room.
I did too as well, like we hadTVs.
But once we got married, like Iwanted to try something very
different.
I'm like yo, if we're going towatch TV, let's actually watch
something together, and so thatright there.
(20:51):
We've implemented that throughour whole family.
So we'll all sit in the couchand watch something together,
even if we're watching freakingPeppa Pig.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
We will watch Peppa Pig together.
Speaker 1 (21:00):
We'll all watch Peppa Pig together and we've all
created these moments, setupboundaries.
I know for me it's veryimportant for me, like when I
come home I put my phone on donot disturb, because right now,
in this moment, I have pivoted.
I've transitioned into anothersegment of my life and there are
some days where I'm likeactually it needs to stay off of
.
Do not disturb, because I stillhave some work, stuff that I'm
(21:22):
handling.
But I'm telling y'all is likelearn how to understand
implementation right,implementing all of it right.
Multitasking is very differentfrom integration, very different
like balancing, like boundariesthey're all very different.
Really study them and figureout.
What does that look likeBoundaries?
It's the ability to be able tosay no, right.
(21:43):
It's the ability to be able tosay not right now.
That's boundaries, right.
Balance is understanding, like,okay, I'm kind of going back and
forth and I don't know yetright.
Like when you're balancing,like you're kind of like right,
you're putting some water here,you're putting some water here.
You're kind of playing back andforth and there are some
seasons.
I am just kind of balancing.
I'm constantly just doing this.
I don't know when, how long I'mgonna work on that project.
(22:05):
I'm not sure when I'm gonnafinish that and I know I'm just
balancing it right now, kind ofdoing this right, juggling right
.
Integration is learning likeokay, I like this, I like this,
I want it all to work togethernow, right, I want it all to
work together.
And so it's us learning how tointegrate our lives together,
our ideas, and so, listen, y'all, this is gonna be a really cool
(22:26):
year.
If you could really tap intothese fundamentals, this can
radically change your life.
But I wanna encourage you sharewith the people, share these
fundamentals, share these valueswith the people that are in
your life.
Are you done touching me rightnow?
Speaker 2 (22:38):
You finished, I'm just doing it.
Speaker 1 (22:39):
That's wild.
Listen, share your values withthe people that are in your life
.
Ask them to respect yourboundaries, you know.
Ask them to hold youaccountable to the things that
you're trying to balance orintegrate right now, the things
that you wanna implement in yourlife, especially if there's
people that you trust, like.
And then, lastly, I said itearlier, go easy on yourself.
Maybe it's not the season rightnow.
(23:00):
Maybe you need to stop thatthing right now.
Right, maybe some things thatyou need to cut out and trim.
Right, there's trees.
Right, when it's getting readyto prep into certain seasons,
there's certain things that falloff of trees.
But if it doesn't fall off, yougot to go and trim it yourself.
Maybe that's the season you'rein right now.
So, before you go any furtherin your life, I want to
encourage y'all take a momentand really evaluate your life
(23:20):
right now.
Evaluate those that are aroundyou.
Listen, time there's nothing asthere's.
You're like you'll never findtime to do anything.
You make time, you prioritizeit, you make a decision and say
these things are very importantto me and I'm making time for it
, and you let everything in yourenvironment know your values
and what you're making time for,but that's all I got to say
today.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I was going to say, all right.
Well, at the end of the day,balance is not a destination, it
is a process, and so we'regoing to work and we're going to
make little tweaks.
Little tweaks are what make thedifference.
It's not just completely coldturkey changing everything about
your life.
It won't be sustainable.
That's applicable to the gym,to your diet, to your schedule,
(24:02):
to everything in your life.
So making those smalladjustments of no, today I'm
going to do this, or everyTuesday, this is how I'm going
to categorize my day.
This is what I'm going to do onTuesdays, and start with those
little things.
But it is a process and, likePeter saying, be kind to
yourself, work on it and bepatient and ask the Lord and the
Holy Spirit to really help youmake the best decisions for you,
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for your family, for yourfriends that are around you and
everyone, and your life willshow fruit.
You'll start bearing fruit fromthe things that you start like,
honoring and making boundariesof, and that you learn balance.
So we love y'all, make sureyou're subscribed and make sure
you're sending these to someonewho you know can help and they
(24:45):
can help them, and that theywill benefit from these
conversations.
Thank you for being a part ofour community.
We love y'all.
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