January 23, 2024 • 29 mins
Ever felt the thrill of turning a dream into reality, or the pride of nurturing a seedling ambition into a towering tree of achievement? That's exactly where we take you in our latest episode, as we stroll down memory lane to our first season's pivotal moment with "Let's Have a Baby." It's not about literal parenthood – it's a shout out to the birth of our aspirations. We share the journey of evolving from being the support for others to embracing our own creative ideas, and how this has not only shaped the Let's Dig podcast but also our personal growth and family lives.
Do you have someone in your corner, cheering you on, keeping you honest, and helping you grow? We dive into the transformative power of accountability partners across all walks of life, from business adventures to spiritual leaders. We open up about the significance of partner accountability, the motivation of shared progress, and the wisdom in seeking guidance from those who've walked the path before us. Whether it's financial information, relationship goals, or parenting tips – we discuss the necessity of surrounding yourself with those who inspire and elevate your journey.
We wrap up by extending an invitation to join our tribe, to be that partner, doula, or family-like friend you've always wished for. Drawing from the heart of our experiences and stories, we hope to encourage, and guide you as you chase your own dreams. Tune in for an episode that's not just a look back, but a springboard forward, offering a support team and a cheering section as you navigate the path of bringing your dreams to life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What's up everyone, welcome back to the let's Dig
podcast.
So we wanted to do somethingfun today and we wanted to
listen back to one of our oldepisodes.
So this episode that we choseto listen to today was really a
catapult, honestly, of usstarting this whole podcast.
(00:20):
This was called let's have aBaby, which oddly seems to be
like some thing that people sayto us often have another baby,
guys.
So we're going to listen backto let's have a Baby, which was
from our season one podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
And you know what's interesting about this.
Episode two is I remember whenwe had the whole concept of this
whole episode.
We're like man, let's have ababy, what does that look like?
And this was really birthedfrom the mindset of like we
spent all of our lives likebeing nannies to everybody
else's babies, everyone else'sdreams, everything that everyone
else wanted to do.
(00:54):
We stewarded that.
You know, what I mean and for us, we got to point in our life
where we're like let's just havea baby, and we did have a baby
around that time.
But that's not what this isabout.
And I know there's people rightnow probably going to jump in
the chat and say why did youguys have baby you guys make
really good babies with.
Back then we used to call themzebra babies.
We did, but I guess people getoffended by that right now.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Right yeah, that's not able to be dumb anymore.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
OK, well, we're going to take a listen back to some
things that we were saying backin 2019, I think, yeah, 2019.
So we recorded this back inNovember 26, 2019.
And here's why we're doing thisbecause we realized there's so
many things that were said thenthat's relevant even now.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
And.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
I wanted to even be encouragement to you guys that
are listening, but also even tous right now that's listening to
this again, because I feel likewe honestly forgotten so many
things that sparked us then,Right.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Yeah, and I thought that was why it would be such a
great way to do just a funepisode of let's Go Back.
Let's listen to what sparkedthis whole dream, this baby of
let's Dig.
This was the dream, this wasthe vision behind let's Dig
podcast.
It was to say, hey, you havedreams inside of you, you have
things that God's planted inyour heart and you can support
(02:05):
other people's visions.
You can do that.
You can do that, but you alsohave a responsibility to take
care of the things that God hasbirthed inside of you.
And we just wanted to becheerleaders to say, hey, go do
those things that God's placedin your heart.
Go do those things that youhave dreams of and don't wait
until everything is falling intoplace.
Don't wait until you have themoney and the car and because,
(02:29):
as adults, sometimes we think wehave to have all these things
lined up before we birth a baby.
And we wanted to becheerleaders to say, don't wait
until everything's perfect, gobirth that baby.
So let's check out the podcast.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
All right, let's do it.
All right, let's put on theseheadphones, let's take a listen,
all right.
So this is.
It's going to be interestingbecause I mean, what this is
what four years ago?
I'm so nervous, ok, so this isactually on our website for
let's dig Shout out to BuzzSprout, who's honestly hosting
this for us.
Like they've been the onethey've been amazing with these,
these episodes been sitting forall these years and they're
(03:00):
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So, if you haven't attachedyourself to Buzzsprout, for
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You could jump on this.
But let's go Ready, let's go,let's do it, ok.
So here we have, let's have ababy, let's take a listen.
We're just going fast forwardaround real quick.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Recently I had an opportunity come up a client of
mine I'm a hairstylist and Ihave a client and she has become
a friend and she asked me tohelp her fiance her fear.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Mind if I do this in like, fast forward, like do it
like chipmunk, are you?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
OK, with that.
I mean, I sound like a chipmunkanyways.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, it's OK.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
He was starting a car detail business and she was
wondering if I could help herand her fiance with some social
media stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Which side?
No, you've gotten really goodat it lately.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
That is actually really crazy.
I totally forgot.
He was the first business thatI started with, but since then
I've actually served in thesocial media department at our
church.
I have learned a lot of socialmedia in the last four years.
That's wild.
I forgot that's where I started.
All right, let's continue.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Actually, before we even go to that story, I wanted
to kind of play the moment inthis podcast that we released of
why we even had this concept oflet's have a baby.
So this is the comment that wemade back then and we still
believe that even now.
But this actually even sparkedeven me right now.
Just give me inspirationhearing this.
So you see the title rightlet's have a baby.
Why this title?
(04:22):
Let's have a baby?
A couple of weeks ago, I washanging out with some friends no
, not weeks ago, a few monthsago.
This past summer, I was withsome friends and they've been
married for a few years now atthis point and they seem like
they were very bored, reallybored, and I'm hanging out with
them at the they actually toldyou that, right?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yeah, they said that Like we're bored.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
You know we're kind of bored.
They said every week is thesame, every Friday is the same,
every Monday is the same, likewe?
Just every day after work wealways do the same thing.
And I said, okay, you soundpretty bored.
Yeah, they said we're thinkingabout having a baby and I stood
there.
I said, hmm, okay, yeah, firstof all, that's crazy that.
I mean that was a comment thatwas made back then.
I shouldn't remember who thatcouple was, but I feel like
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people still feel that way tillthis day.
Yeah, I mean, even right nowwe're in the middle of that,
that conversation, right?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
We are in that conversation right now.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
We're like where you're feeling, like you're a
little bit bored and littleanxious, like you need something
to do.
And now you got this baby feverplus.
Feel like everybody's havingbabies right now.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It is a big baby boom right now.
They thought that COVID wasgoing to make it have no babies,
and instead it was more babiesthan ever before.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Yeah, it's crazy.
It's crazy.
Okay, let's listen, you guysshould have a baby and they're
like.
Really, At that moment Ithought not a real baby, how
about a baby like an idea, adream, a vision, something that
you know you're called to do,something that you should be
birthing, but you're not doing.
And I realized we've all gonethrough that situation.
You know, I'm kind of in thatright now.
(05:41):
You know, even when I'mbirthing a baby, I still have
all these other ideas andvisions that I'm sitting in.
And that's why, as you guysheard in the intro, when Danie
Lee was talking, I was sofrustrated with her when she
came to me and said, hey, I'mgonna help these people with
their project, with, or in otherwords, with their baby, and I'm
like they're birthing somethingand you're so quick to just
jump on their dream, theirvision, their idea.
And I was just frustrated withyou.
(06:02):
Let's talk about that Like, isthat something that you feel
like?
You're still like.
You still have to fight thattendency of like whenever you
want something to do instead ofbirthing something you feel like
.
Let me jump on somebody else'sproject, someone else's baby.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I think I do still struggle with that.
I also find myself I'veactually been digging into that
of why is it so easy for me tobelieve in someone else's
project or business than it isfor me.
I remember a few months agosomeone was telling me about a
laundry service and I had likefive ideas of like oh, what if
(06:36):
they did this?
And then you did this and youdid, and I was like I don't even
do laundry, like real talk youdo our laundry.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah, okay, I appreciate that, Cause I was
gonna have to pause this wholerecording to talk about how I do
.
But I appreciate that because Iactually enjoy doing a laundry,
especially like those littleunstoppable seeds that you put
in there.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Yeah, you're really about the unstoppable seeds.
Maybe we could get a sponsorfrom Downey.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah, there we go.
But yeah, let's talk about that.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
But it still is a challenge for me.
But I think in the long run itis so much easier to jump on
someone else's vision andexecute it and in a sense I
don't have any skin in the game.
You know like for me to thinkof an imagine of a purpose of a
business and shoot for the starsand just launch out and go for
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it is way more intimidating whenit's someone else's idea.
If it fails, it's on them.
I did what I could and I helped, but I'm good, so I do find
myself.
I think a lot of people thinkit's easier to push someone
else's dream than birth theirown.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, and yeah I was reading today of, like you know
people, I feel like sometimespeople get so caught up in the
fear of losing that it trumpsthe excitement of winning.
So, true, right, you know youlost because you never took a
shot at it.
Right, like you know what Imean and I know what you're
talking about.
Because that thought of, justlike man, what if I do this and
(07:59):
I fail and it doesn't work?
The fear of that is so strongthat it literally handicaps us.
I feel like that's and that'swhat causes us to feel like, hey
, you know what if I hitchmyself onto someone else's dream
, onto someone else's projectthat, let's say, it doesn't come
through, it technically wasn'tme, and we're kind of like
tricking ourselves, making usthink that, well, I didn't fail
(08:20):
because it wasn't me, it wasn'tmy thing.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Right, but do you find yourself wanting to hitch
onto other people's dreams?
Because I know that I am astrong number two and that's an
enneagram too.
So I'm a helper, so I love tosee someone's vision and I can
make it execute.
Some of that is my creativeside.
But you're not a number two,you're a number three.
(08:43):
So do you even find yourselfwanting to attach to other
people's?
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yeah.
So for me it's actually noteven the thought of like I want
to attach myself to someoneelse's dreams, like I consider
myself like a finisher, so Iactually take pride and joy in
actually helping things getfinished, get done, where I
actually partake in that.
So I don't feel like I didtheir thing.
I feel like I partnered up withother people and joined them in
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fulfilling their dream.
And fulfilling their dream Iactually came in and say, well,
here's what I see, here's thethoughts that I have.
I like to jump onto that andfeel like, hey, I actually we
take like we almost come hand inhand and saying we finished
this.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Because you're an executor, so that's where you
get that enjoyment is like youcame alongside them and helped
them execute this thing.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Yeah, yeah, Okay.
So let's hear, let's continuelisten back to what we were
talking about back then, Likeyou know what I mean, I'll just
kind of flush her.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
That's what I got defensive of.
Yeah, but, babe, this is likeno stress for me.
They give me the content, Ithink, of a caption.
I do the footwork for thehashtags to figure out which
ones work, and once a day I popon there, get the picture, cut
it up a little bit, put a filteron it, put a quote and hashtag
away and I'm done.
Yeah, get it Like it was.
And I was telling you like it'sway less stressful to push
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someone else's business asopposed to pushing my business,
which has been here for the last10 years.
And when I look at a picture,I'm like, oh, how do I like that
girl or man?
It looked way better in person.
I'm not posting this.
Or I have pictures for daysthat I just don't feel like is
Instagram worthy or all thiskind of.
So it's so much more pressurewhen you're trying to do
something that comes from yoursoul or comes from your heart or
from your vision and your dream.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Okay so, but let me ask you this Like what is the
thing that's keeping you fromdoing yours Like you know what I
mean?
Like doing your baby?
It's all that pressure.
So here we go, all these yearslater, and I think it's safe to
say you feel the same way.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Low key, but I have it's like.
It's definitely been a learningcurve.
I have learned a lot aboutsocial media.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I'm in the space right now where I'm Also, you
did birth something, though inthe last couple years you
started something that you gotreally good at, you don't even
remember.
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
What are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Member.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Balloons yeah, I did.
After COVID I did have a wholeyear and a half of doing a
balloon business when I wasn'tworking in the salon and it was
super fun and we did.
I had a good partner that justsaid let's do it.
It was a partner that was notafraid.
I was more afraid of like whatif we do this and see how many
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we book and then we'll decide ifwe want to do it?
And the partner was like, no,let's just do it.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
And I was like, oh, okay, but here's the thing, babe
, and this is where I want toencourage, even for those of you
that are listening, that ourmarried couples, we went through
a whole thing through ourmarriage.
This is one of the reasons whywe stopped the podcast and you
guys can hear about it allthroughout this season of just
episodes.
We took a big pause because werealized that Dan and Lee like
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babe, you spent so much timejust in my shadow so you enjoy
just letting someone else takethe light and you just sat there
in the shadow and just whereverthe light hit them, determined
how much you moved.
But when you stepped outside ofthat shadow and you actually
birthed something like, Iremember you changing, like I
remember how excited you were.
I remember you'd never slept in,you was waking up, your brain
(12:02):
was moving, you had ideas, youhad thoughts.
Imagine that feeling ofbirthing something that what we
talked about earlier the feeling, the excitement of winning
should be greater than the fearof losing.
And when you started gettingthose wins, I mean you was busy
every single week.
Matter of fact, I was gettingsalty.
I'm like, hey, you ever gonnacome home, like, but you started
making money.
Like you saw it.
Like you saw it, you saw peoplebeing fulfilled.
(12:25):
You saw, I mean, you weremaking parties dreams come true.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Talk about that feeling that you had like when
you finally birthed something.
I am a different, danny Lee,than the last time that you saw
us on this podcast.
I have completely learned adifferent side of myself after I
stepped out of being out ofhair for a little while and I
had to find myself and realizehow first of all creative I
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actually am, not just in thechair and that's where I thought
my creativity only was, but Ilearned that I was this
different time of creativeperson.
So I started doing balloons andarches and all these other
things and all of a sudden I wasstarting to like I can't sleep
cause I've got this idea, I'vegot to create and I've got to
write these things down, like,let me see if it's been done on
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Pinterest before and let me findall these other things.
And so really learning myselfas a 35 year old woman and
finally allowing myself to stepoutside of a box I had been in
for so long, it really was ahuge win for me and it really
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was something that I was like oh, I just found a whole new
pocket of myself and finding awhole new part of me that I
think I had not allowed myselfto find my whole life.
And that's a whole episode for adifferent day and we'll get
back to that one, but the winwas amazing and it really was so
rewarding to finally feel likethose wins that I wasn't having
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in someone's shadow, that theywere wins on my own, a little
bit Like it was with a partner,but it was my own thing,
completely separate of you.
I wasn't your shadow spouse, Iwasn't getting those calls
because you called me or youconnected me with someone.
Like that was just my rawtalent and creativity on display
and it was incredibly rewarding.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
And here's what I wanna say Like I think sometimes
we forget that feeling that wehave, that feeling that you
received of, like man, this wasa win, this was a success, right
, that success, success birthssuccess, right, that feeling
that Michael Jordan used to getwhen he would win a game.
That's what got him in thecourt again to win a game.
(14:40):
Losing a game is not whatencouraged him, it was winning a
game.
You had that feeling was justlike.
I know what that feels like andas we're, even for us, right,
as we're stepping into this newseason, for us, like as a
married couple, as a youngfamily, right, we're raising
kids in a crazy world, right,and like for us, that feeling of
like when our kids I mean likewhen our kids at night, when our
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three-year-old saying, like,daddy, can you pray?
Right, and I walk out in thenine year olds, like, can you
pray?
I'm like, can you pray?
We're all trying to pray up inhere.
It's crazy that feeling, itproduces more excitement, just
like, wow, what else can I teachthem, what else can I do?
And like even for you, babe,like as you started that, you
started that whole business,right, and we, like, like you,
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hit pause on it.
Remember that feeling that yougot when you had that success.
Remember the feeling that yougot when people actually reached
out to you saying like hey, canyou do this again?
Right, that feeling shouldtrump the feeling of failing
again.
Like you know what I mean.
Like, what are your thoughts onit?
Speaker 1 (15:38):
It's so true?
No, I I do think that it is partof being an Entrepreneur and
being so calculated sometimesthat you don't want to step out
and take a risk.
But you never get a win if youdon't take a risk and you will
never get the shot if you don'ttake a shot Right.
And so I feel like we tellJordan that our son, he's almost
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10, we tell him that all thetime, like if you never try,
you'll always lose, but if youat least try, you get a chance
that you could make the shot.
Yeah.
And so I think, asentrepreneurs and wanting to be
creatives and having all thesedifferent talents and skills,
sometimes you put yourself in abox and be like I'm just gonna
stay in this box because it'ssafe, but in actuality, you're
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never gonna find that success orthat true passion that you
didn't know you had, or theseother Skill sets that you had
kept stuffed in a box the wholetime.
You're never gonna find thosefull skill sets until you step
Outside of the court and you geton the field and you find out
what's inside of you.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Yeah, that's good.
All right, let's keep listening.
All right, let's see.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
Sure, like it's so quick to just be a babysitter or
a nanny.
That's true.
You clock in, you take, youkeep these children alive for
four or five hours and you clockout.
I'm not responsible for theirnutritional value.
I'm not completely responsiblefor their behavior, or I
actually only go above andbeyond for their behavior what
the parents allow me to do.
I don't care about theirlong-term development.
I'm not concerned about what.
How many vegetables did theyeat today?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
I get it Similar to us musicians you know, or a
producer you know, or an artist.
If I'm working on someoneelse's song, if the song flops,
or in this sense, I don't comeback on you.
Or in this sense, if a baby isa bad baby, it's a bad baby, I'm
just gonna boy.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
They my baby, right.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
It's not my only song flop Well they my song.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
But when it comes to your own child, you're like oh,
we're not having that attitudein this house.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
You better eat those vegetables, because we're gonna
grow like as I'm listening tothis, like the first thought has
come into my mind is like youtreat things differently when
you feel like you own it, likeyou know it's it's ownership.
I think that's the biggestthing.
I feel like we're living in atime, right now, where a lot of
people Struggle to feel likethey want to own something or
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actually, as John C Maxwellcalls it, talks about the law of
buying Right, you know, beingbought into something.
If we don't invest, if we don'tput our time, if we, if we're
not fully Having ownership in it, then we don't give it all that
we have.
And like, I feel like for us,even for us, as we're stepping
into this New year, I've beenthinking about it and processing
it more.
I'm thinking about even, okay,what are other things that I can
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invest in, not just financially, yes, financially, but also
even with my time, even mentally, spiritually, emotion, like
where's some areas that we canactually feel like we own Own,
own, own, own.
So, like you know, there'sfriends that I've been talking
to.
They have, like some ideas.
I have a buddy of mine.
He has an idea that he'slooking to launch and I thought
I had the other day of just likeman, like how can I come
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alongside him and partner,actually be in on it, like
invest, like as far as, likeownership wise?
Even as I'm hearing this, I'mlike it's a lot easier to be
like man.
That's, that's what's up, bro.
Enjoy it, have your time.
But if I asked enough questionsand make enough enough
suggestions, even Him takingsteps in the ideas that I gave
him, I feel like I owned part ofit.
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Like you know what I mean and Ithink about this too.
Babe, like the other, the lastcouple days I've been for those,
you that that know me I've beenwaking up at 5 am and I have
this thought of, just like man,5 am it's so tough have a buddy
mind that he's been wanting towake up too early and go like to
the gym, which the last coupledays he's been mia, but the
first week he was showing upevery single day at 6 am In a
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gym.
And you know what?
I'll tell you this like it washard for me to show up at 6 am
when I knew somebody else wascounting on me and when he
jumped on a scale and showed methat he lost 10 pounds after a
week, like I felt, like I tookownership in that and here's the
crazy thing is it motivated meRight.
Waking about 5 am Became a loteasier because you knew someone
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was counting on you.
I knew somebody was counting onme.
That I partake, that I parttook, part, took, part, take.
Which one is it?
I don't know, I just thought Ijust started using this word
last week.
So I feel like you know, forthis year, for us, babe, like
you know, like the biggest placewhere I am mentally and even
spiritually, emotionally, likeeverything like I want to figure
out where can we invest ourtime in more having a baby's now
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, now that I'm hearing this,having baby is not always in the
sense of like let's actuallybirth something from scratch.
I feel like there's nothing newunder the sun, right?
I feel like for me this year, Iwant to figure out who can I
actually co-parent with?
Hmm who can I ask to co-parentmy ideas?
I have so many ideas and Irealize they're not getting
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birth because I'm the only daddy.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I do believe that that is a major, major key in
executing any dream or anyvision or Starting a business.
Like the people in your corner,they make or break it.
And if it's only in your mindand you can't get it out, or
like you're not executing,you're not knowing the first
steps to go.
Having someone else comealongside you and say, hey,
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here's what you should do.
Like I just reached out to fromthe other day and I was like I
feel like I need to overcomethis hump in my hair styling
career.
I've never been able toovercome this hump.
What did you do?
Like I just started askingquestions yeah, hey, give me
some advice or give me some info.
How do I get over this humpthat I feel like has always been
there in that career for me,and so I 100% think cope finding
(21:01):
a co-parent.
Yeah finding someone to comealongside you and birth it with
you.
In the last four years, when wemade this episode, that was not
the key point of this.
The key point was actually todo it yourself.
Yeah, and now how we have grownin the last four years, I think
we're realizing, like, birththat baby but find you a good
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for my mom's out there all mymoms that know what I'm talking
about.
Find you a good doula that'sready to.
That's like an encourager, youknow.
I was gonna say baby daddy, butdo but doulas better baby
daddy's there, not good, becauseif they're good, their husbands
.
So find a doula that is likethat support person for you in
labor.
They are there to help you in a, in a mental capacity of like,
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hey, you can do this, hey, thisis how you got to do this.
Hey put your mind here, hey dothis position.
They're literally there tocoach you through the birthing
process.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Even us talking about relaunching this channel was
hard for us.
We talked about it for severalweeks and I realized, okay,
here's what we need to do.
We need to find other people tocome alongside us, sure, and
invest their time Right, theirheart, their emotions, mental
investments right.
And so, even for me, I'mlaunching something else Right,
and I'll tell you guys about itin a little bit or in a few
(22:15):
weeks.
But I realized the only way I'mgonna be able to see this whole
Baby be birth and actuallygrown into a full idea is if I
could find other people to comealongside me, people that,
people that I Trust, people thatI know that can actually come
alongside me, say, a bro, I gotyou, I have an idea, and their
motives is just to see me win.
(22:35):
That number of people is gonnabe a really short number.
It's not gonna be a long number, right, but we all know people
in our lives that's actually inour a man corner and they're
cheering the song.
And now that I'm listening tothis episode from what we said a
couple years ago, what hashonestly paused me in the
mindset of like we're gonna havea baby, we have a baby.
It was just like, okay, I hadsome babies, I had some thoughts
, but here's where I got stuck.
(22:57):
I didn't have anybody to comealongside me to say, hey, here's
where I can help you outmentally People that I can
actually touch base withthroughout the month and say,
hey, I got an idea I'm stuck,where can you help me out with?
Even other day I had an idea.
So, okay, you know what.
Here's what I'm gonna do.
I'm gonna find two people thatcan actually hold me accountable
(23:17):
and say, hey, I'm gonna checkup on you every two weeks to get
an update.
And that's why I feel like,okay, that's gonna be this next
phase of like okay, I got a baby, I want to birth it.
Here's how I can actually seeit to the finish line.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
That's great.
And even if it's not, like,that's a great idea, even if
it's not someone doing somethingfor you, but only holding you
accountable, like setting thosedeadlines.
Like even today I was having ameeting and that person was like
, hey, if this is our deadline,then that means we need to have
this executed by this.
And I was like, right.
I literally said, yes, give meall the dates, because I'm not
(23:49):
good at that, but this person Iwas working with is great at
that.
And I was like, yeah, give memy deadlines, give me my dates,
put me on track so that we getthis executed in the right time
and in the right time window.
So I think it's great to say,even if it's someone that can
help you physically or take on apart of the Birthing of your
business, but if it's nothingelse, find someone that's going
(24:10):
to hold you accountable, findsomeone that's going to stay on
top of you and say, hey, how'sthat going?
Hey, what's that looking like?
Hey, where are you out on this?
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Yeah.
So, whether it's a project,whether it's a website, whether
it's a business, whether it'sfamily, home, whatever, fitness,
health, spiritual goals,whatever it is Like, I just
believe and and for those of us,for those you, that don't know
who we are, like, we are biblebase, bible believing, like we
follow Jesus and all of histeachings, and in our faith,
we've learned so much that youcannot walk this out by yourself
(24:41):
.
You need to walk it along withpeople.
And even for us, baby, even forus, as we're talking through
all of our projects, like we'refiguring out, okay, who are
people that we have in our livesthat we can call partners,
accountability partners this isnot everyone are.
This is not just people thatjust jumped in your hot life,
because you know what, even whenyou hit rock bottom, even when
you go through the toughesttimes, some people like that
will disappear.
You have to figure out who arethe people that walked alongside
(25:03):
you throughout the toughesttimes.
They're the ones that you're tocall on.
So I want to encourage everyonethat's even listening, thinking
about this and thinking aboutstarting something this new year
, throughout this year, the nextyear, to come right, it doesn't
matter.
Even when you listen to this.
I don't know.
You maybe listen to this yearsfrom now.
These principles, these mindsetsnever Expires.
The mindset of, like, findingaccountability partners.
(25:23):
You're trying to lose weight.
Find someone back and say, hey,I'm gonna show up with you, or
they can't show up with you orthey're not here with me,
they're on the other coast.
Who cares?
Have them know.
Like, okay, every single day Igo to the gym at this time.
Shoot me a text, give me a call, get an update every single
week.
Hey, have you lost weight?
Hey, where are you at with yourhealth?
If you want to get strongerspiritually, right, find people
(25:45):
that are spiritually fit.
I heard one guy once tell meone time he said never get
advice From people who you don'twant your life to look like
their life.
So if somebody ain't got money,don't ask them what they think
about money.
I ain't got no questions foryou.
If someone's marriage is notstrong.
I actually don't want to hearwhat you think about marriage if
your kids are wild and they areanimals.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
No advice needed.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
I don't want to hear it.
Find the people that you admirelike man.
I love that factored about yourlife.
I have a few questions aboutthat category.
Everyone's not going to bestrong in every category and
that's completely fine.
I look at athletes right.
Athletes right.
When they're young they haveone coach, but by the time
they're professional, how manycoaches do they have?
Multiple?
(26:29):
They have multiple coachesbecause there's other guys in
their lives that are expertsabout certain things.
So, honestly, I'm donelistening to this.
I feel like that's my takeawayis like, hey, for this new
season, as we're digging deeperin our lives, it's time for us
to get partners accountabilityand grow stronger together.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
We can't do this alone, and I am in a season in
my life where I value truefriendship, and friendship that
is on a similar level with meand that can understand what I'm
going through or where I'm atin these certain parts of
whether it's my marriage, mymotherhood, my career.
And so all this to say, like,get you good friends, get you
(27:07):
accountability partners, but getyou people that if you are a
believer, you better have yourclosest friends be believers too
, and that they can point you inthe right direction.
People that are in your lifethat are good for you will
either bring you closer to God,and if they're not good for you,
they're gonna pull you furtheraway from him.
And so I take it very seriouslythat my close friends are only
(27:30):
friends that bring me closer tothe Lord, and those are the only
people that I want speakinginto my life.
And if you don't do that for me, that's okay.
I'm just gonna have differentboundaries for you.
And so find you a partner, adoula, a baby daddy, you know,
within the context of what wejust talked about, but whatever
it is, find your people andhonestly, we hope we are your
(27:52):
people.
We hope that this podcast,through this new season that we
become your people and that wecan become those supporting
people, those cheerleaders foryou, and that we can help you
push out those babies and thosedreams that you have.
We're gonna talk a lot aboutour marriage, our parenting.
There's so many things that wewanna share with you in hopes
that we can really be a voice inyour life.
(28:15):
We've lived through a lot oflife and we always wish that we
had some people that could maybespeak into things, and so we
hope and pray that God allows usto be that for you.
So we will see you on the nextepisode of let's Take
What's up everyone, welcome back to the let's Dig
podcast.
So we wanted to do somethingfun today and we wanted to
listen back to one of our oldepisodes.
So this episode that we choseto listen to today was really a
catapult, honestly, of usstarting this whole podcast.
(00:20):
This was called let's have aBaby, which oddly seems to be
like some thing that people sayto us often have another baby,
guys.
So we're going to listen backto let's have a Baby, which was
from our season one podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
And you know what's interesting about this.
Episode two is I remember whenwe had the whole concept of this
whole episode.
We're like man, let's have ababy, what does that look like?
And this was really birthedfrom the mindset of like we
spent all of our lives likebeing nannies to everybody
else's babies, everyone else'sdreams, everything that everyone
else wanted to do.
(00:54):
We stewarded that.
You know, what I mean and for us, we got to point in our life
where we're like let's just havea baby, and we did have a baby
around that time.
But that's not what this isabout.
And I know there's people rightnow probably going to jump in
the chat and say why did youguys have baby you guys make
really good babies with.
Back then we used to call themzebra babies.
We did, but I guess people getoffended by that right now.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Right yeah, that's not able to be dumb anymore.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
OK, well, we're going to take a listen back to some
things that we were saying backin 2019, I think, yeah, 2019.
So we recorded this back inNovember 26, 2019.
And here's why we're doing thisbecause we realized there's so
many things that were said thenthat's relevant even now.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
And.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
I wanted to even be encouragement to you guys that
are listening, but also even tous right now that's listening to
this again, because I feel likewe honestly forgotten so many
things that sparked us then,Right.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Yeah, and I thought that was why it would be such a
great way to do just a funepisode of let's Go Back.
Let's listen to what sparkedthis whole dream, this baby of
let's Dig.
This was the dream, this wasthe vision behind let's Dig
podcast.
It was to say, hey, you havedreams inside of you, you have
things that God's planted inyour heart and you can support
(02:05):
other people's visions.
You can do that.
You can do that, but you alsohave a responsibility to take
care of the things that God hasbirthed inside of you.
And we just wanted to becheerleaders to say, hey, go do
those things that God's placedin your heart.
Go do those things that youhave dreams of and don't wait
until everything is falling intoplace.
Don't wait until you have themoney and the car and because,
(02:29):
as adults, sometimes we think wehave to have all these things
lined up before we birth a baby.
And we wanted to becheerleaders to say, don't wait
until everything's perfect, gobirth that baby.
So let's check out the podcast.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
All right, let's do it.
All right, let's put on theseheadphones, let's take a listen,
all right.
So this is.
It's going to be interestingbecause I mean, what this is
what four years ago?
I'm so nervous, ok, so this isactually on our website for
let's dig Shout out to BuzzSprout, who's honestly hosting
this for us.
Like they've been the onethey've been amazing with these,
these episodes been sitting forall these years and they're
(03:00):
still like monitoring everythingfor us and so we're able to
still see all the analytics.
So, if you haven't attachedyourself to Buzzsprout, for
those that are trying to startpodcasts, we actually have a
link to that.
You could jump on this.
But let's go Ready, let's go,let's do it, ok.
So here we have, let's have ababy, let's take a listen.
We're just going fast forwardaround real quick.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Recently I had an opportunity come up a client of
mine I'm a hairstylist and Ihave a client and she has become
a friend and she asked me tohelp her fiance her fear.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
Mind if I do this in like, fast forward, like do it
like chipmunk, are you?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
OK, with that.
I mean, I sound like a chipmunkanyways.
Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, it's OK.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
He was starting a car detail business and she was
wondering if I could help herand her fiance with some social
media stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Which side?
No, you've gotten really goodat it lately.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
That is actually really crazy.
I totally forgot.
He was the first business thatI started with, but since then
I've actually served in thesocial media department at our
church.
I have learned a lot of socialmedia in the last four years.
That's wild.
I forgot that's where I started.
All right, let's continue.
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Actually, before we even go to that story, I wanted
to kind of play the moment inthis podcast that we released of
why we even had this concept oflet's have a baby.
So this is the comment that wemade back then and we still
believe that even now.
But this actually even sparkedeven me right now.
Just give me inspirationhearing this.
So you see the title rightlet's have a baby.
Why this title?
(04:22):
Let's have a baby?
A couple of weeks ago, I washanging out with some friends no
, not weeks ago, a few monthsago.
This past summer, I was withsome friends and they've been
married for a few years now atthis point and they seem like
they were very bored, reallybored, and I'm hanging out with
them at the they actually toldyou that, right?
Speaker 1 (04:34):
Yeah, they said that Like we're bored.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
You know we're kind of bored.
They said every week is thesame, every Friday is the same,
every Monday is the same, likewe?
Just every day after work wealways do the same thing.
And I said, okay, you soundpretty bored.
Yeah, they said we're thinkingabout having a baby and I stood
there.
I said, hmm, okay, yeah, firstof all, that's crazy that.
I mean that was a comment thatwas made back then.
I shouldn't remember who thatcouple was, but I feel like
(04:56):
people still feel that way tillthis day.
Yeah, I mean, even right nowwe're in the middle of that,
that conversation, right?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
We are in that conversation right now.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
We're like where you're feeling, like you're a
little bit bored and littleanxious, like you need something
to do.
And now you got this baby feverplus.
Feel like everybody's havingbabies right now.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It is a big baby boom right now.
They thought that COVID wasgoing to make it have no babies,
and instead it was more babiesthan ever before.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Yeah, it's crazy.
It's crazy.
Okay, let's listen, you guysshould have a baby and they're
like.
Really, At that moment Ithought not a real baby, how
about a baby like an idea, adream, a vision, something that
you know you're called to do,something that you should be
birthing, but you're not doing.
And I realized we've all gonethrough that situation.
You know, I'm kind of in thatright now.
(05:41):
You know, even when I'mbirthing a baby, I still have
all these other ideas andvisions that I'm sitting in.
And that's why, as you guysheard in the intro, when Danie
Lee was talking, I was sofrustrated with her when she
came to me and said, hey, I'mgonna help these people with
their project, with, or in otherwords, with their baby, and I'm
like they're birthing somethingand you're so quick to just
jump on their dream, theirvision, their idea.
And I was just frustrated withyou.
(06:02):
Let's talk about that Like, isthat something that you feel
like?
You're still like.
You still have to fight thattendency of like whenever you
want something to do instead ofbirthing something you feel like
.
Let me jump on somebody else'sproject, someone else's baby.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
I think I do still struggle with that.
I also find myself I'veactually been digging into that
of why is it so easy for me tobelieve in someone else's
project or business than it isfor me.
I remember a few months agosomeone was telling me about a
laundry service and I had likefive ideas of like oh, what if
(06:36):
they did this?
And then you did this and youdid, and I was like I don't even
do laundry, like real talk youdo our laundry.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Yeah, okay, I appreciate that, Cause I was
gonna have to pause this wholerecording to talk about how I do
.
But I appreciate that because Iactually enjoy doing a laundry,
especially like those littleunstoppable seeds that you put
in there.
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Yeah, you're really about the unstoppable seeds.
Maybe we could get a sponsorfrom Downey.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Yeah, there we go.
But yeah, let's talk about that.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
But it still is a challenge for me.
But I think in the long run itis so much easier to jump on
someone else's vision andexecute it and in a sense I
don't have any skin in the game.
You know like for me to thinkof an imagine of a purpose of a
business and shoot for the starsand just launch out and go for
(07:22):
it is way more intimidating whenit's someone else's idea.
If it fails, it's on them.
I did what I could and I helped, but I'm good, so I do find
myself.
I think a lot of people thinkit's easier to push someone
else's dream than birth theirown.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
Yeah, and yeah I was reading today of, like you know
people, I feel like sometimespeople get so caught up in the
fear of losing that it trumpsthe excitement of winning.
So, true, right, you know youlost because you never took a
shot at it.
Right, like you know what Imean and I know what you're
talking about.
Because that thought of, justlike man, what if I do this and
(07:59):
I fail and it doesn't work?
The fear of that is so strongthat it literally handicaps us.
I feel like that's and that'swhat causes us to feel like, hey
, you know what if I hitchmyself onto someone else's dream
, onto someone else's projectthat, let's say, it doesn't come
through, it technically wasn'tme, and we're kind of like
tricking ourselves, making usthink that, well, I didn't fail
(08:20):
because it wasn't me, it wasn'tmy thing.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Right, but do you find yourself wanting to hitch
onto other people's dreams?
Because I know that I am astrong number two and that's an
enneagram too.
So I'm a helper, so I love tosee someone's vision and I can
make it execute.
Some of that is my creativeside.
But you're not a number two,you're a number three.
(08:43):
So do you even find yourselfwanting to attach to other
people's?
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Yeah.
So for me it's actually noteven the thought of like I want
to attach myself to someoneelse's dreams, like I consider
myself like a finisher, so Iactually take pride and joy in
actually helping things getfinished, get done, where I
actually partake in that.
So I don't feel like I didtheir thing.
I feel like I partnered up withother people and joined them in
(09:08):
fulfilling their dream.
And fulfilling their dream Iactually came in and say, well,
here's what I see, here's thethoughts that I have.
I like to jump onto that andfeel like, hey, I actually we
take like we almost come hand inhand and saying we finished
this.
Speaker 1 (09:21):
Because you're an executor, so that's where you
get that enjoyment is like youcame alongside them and helped
them execute this thing.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Yeah, yeah, Okay.
So let's hear, let's continuelisten back to what we were
talking about back then, Likeyou know what I mean, I'll just
kind of flush her.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
That's what I got defensive of.
Yeah, but, babe, this is likeno stress for me.
They give me the content, Ithink, of a caption.
I do the footwork for thehashtags to figure out which
ones work, and once a day I popon there, get the picture, cut
it up a little bit, put a filteron it, put a quote and hashtag
away and I'm done.
Yeah, get it Like it was.
And I was telling you like it'sway less stressful to push
(09:56):
someone else's business asopposed to pushing my business,
which has been here for the last10 years.
And when I look at a picture,I'm like, oh, how do I like that
girl or man?
It looked way better in person.
I'm not posting this.
Or I have pictures for daysthat I just don't feel like is
Instagram worthy or all thiskind of.
So it's so much more pressurewhen you're trying to do
something that comes from yoursoul or comes from your heart or
from your vision and your dream.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Okay so, but let me ask you this Like what is the
thing that's keeping you fromdoing yours Like you know what I
mean?
Like doing your baby?
It's all that pressure.
So here we go, all these yearslater, and I think it's safe to
say you feel the same way.
Speaker 1 (10:30):
Low key, but I have it's like.
It's definitely been a learningcurve.
I have learned a lot aboutsocial media.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
I'm in the space right now where I'm Also, you
did birth something, though inthe last couple years you
started something that you gotreally good at, you don't even
remember.
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
What are you talking about?
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Member.
Speaker 1 (10:53):
Balloons yeah, I did.
After COVID I did have a wholeyear and a half of doing a
balloon business when I wasn'tworking in the salon and it was
super fun and we did.
I had a good partner that justsaid let's do it.
It was a partner that was notafraid.
I was more afraid of like whatif we do this and see how many
(11:14):
we book and then we'll decide ifwe want to do it?
And the partner was like, no,let's just do it.
Speaker 2 (11:20):
And I was like, oh, okay, but here's the thing, babe
, and this is where I want toencourage, even for those of you
that are listening, that ourmarried couples, we went through
a whole thing through ourmarriage.
This is one of the reasons whywe stopped the podcast and you
guys can hear about it allthroughout this season of just
episodes.
We took a big pause because werealized that Dan and Lee like
(11:41):
babe, you spent so much timejust in my shadow so you enjoy
just letting someone else takethe light and you just sat there
in the shadow and just whereverthe light hit them, determined
how much you moved.
But when you stepped outside ofthat shadow and you actually
birthed something like, Iremember you changing, like I
remember how excited you were.
I remember you'd never slept in,you was waking up, your brain
(12:02):
was moving, you had ideas, youhad thoughts.
Imagine that feeling ofbirthing something that what we
talked about earlier the feeling, the excitement of winning
should be greater than the fearof losing.
And when you started gettingthose wins, I mean you was busy
every single week.
Matter of fact, I was gettingsalty.
I'm like, hey, you ever gonnacome home, like, but you started
making money.
Like you saw it.
Like you saw it, you saw peoplebeing fulfilled.
(12:25):
You saw, I mean, you weremaking parties dreams come true.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Talk about that feeling that you had like when
you finally birthed something.
I am a different, danny Lee,than the last time that you saw
us on this podcast.
I have completely learned adifferent side of myself after I
stepped out of being out ofhair for a little while and I
had to find myself and realizehow first of all creative I
(12:50):
actually am, not just in thechair and that's where I thought
my creativity only was, but Ilearned that I was this
different time of creativeperson.
So I started doing balloons andarches and all these other
things and all of a sudden I wasstarting to like I can't sleep
cause I've got this idea, I'vegot to create and I've got to
write these things down, like,let me see if it's been done on
(13:11):
Pinterest before and let me findall these other things.
And so really learning myselfas a 35 year old woman and
finally allowing myself to stepoutside of a box I had been in
for so long, it really was ahuge win for me and it really
(13:32):
was something that I was like oh, I just found a whole new
pocket of myself and finding awhole new part of me that I
think I had not allowed myselfto find my whole life.
And that's a whole episode for adifferent day and we'll get
back to that one, but the winwas amazing and it really was so
rewarding to finally feel likethose wins that I wasn't having
(13:57):
in someone's shadow, that theywere wins on my own, a little
bit Like it was with a partner,but it was my own thing,
completely separate of you.
I wasn't your shadow spouse, Iwasn't getting those calls
because you called me or youconnected me with someone.
Like that was just my rawtalent and creativity on display
and it was incredibly rewarding.
Speaker 2 (14:19):
And here's what I wanna say Like I think sometimes
we forget that feeling that wehave, that feeling that you
received of, like man, this wasa win, this was a success, right
, that success, success birthssuccess, right, that feeling
that Michael Jordan used to getwhen he would win a game.
That's what got him in thecourt again to win a game.
(14:40):
Losing a game is not whatencouraged him, it was winning a
game.
You had that feeling was justlike.
I know what that feels like andas we're, even for us, right,
as we're stepping into this newseason, for us, like as a
married couple, as a youngfamily, right, we're raising
kids in a crazy world, right,and like for us, that feeling of
like when our kids I mean likewhen our kids at night, when our
(15:02):
three-year-old saying, like,daddy, can you pray?
Right, and I walk out in thenine year olds, like, can you
pray?
I'm like, can you pray?
We're all trying to pray up inhere.
It's crazy that feeling, itproduces more excitement, just
like, wow, what else can I teachthem, what else can I do?
And like even for you, babe,like as you started that, you
started that whole business,right, and we, like, like you,
(15:22):
hit pause on it.
Remember that feeling that yougot when you had that success.
Remember the feeling that yougot when people actually reached
out to you saying like hey, canyou do this again?
Right, that feeling shouldtrump the feeling of failing
again.
Like you know what I mean.
Like, what are your thoughts onit?
Speaker 1 (15:38):
It's so true?
No, I I do think that it is partof being an Entrepreneur and
being so calculated sometimesthat you don't want to step out
and take a risk.
But you never get a win if youdon't take a risk and you will
never get the shot if you don'ttake a shot Right.
And so I feel like we tellJordan that our son, he's almost
(15:58):
10, we tell him that all thetime, like if you never try,
you'll always lose, but if youat least try, you get a chance
that you could make the shot.
Yeah.
And so I think, asentrepreneurs and wanting to be
creatives and having all thesedifferent talents and skills,
sometimes you put yourself in abox and be like I'm just gonna
stay in this box because it'ssafe, but in actuality, you're
(16:19):
never gonna find that success orthat true passion that you
didn't know you had, or theseother Skill sets that you had
kept stuffed in a box the wholetime.
You're never gonna find thosefull skill sets until you step
Outside of the court and you geton the field and you find out
what's inside of you.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Yeah, that's good.
All right, let's keep listening.
All right, let's see.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
Sure, like it's so quick to just be a babysitter or
a nanny.
That's true.
You clock in, you take, youkeep these children alive for
four or five hours and you clockout.
I'm not responsible for theirnutritional value.
I'm not completely responsiblefor their behavior, or I
actually only go above andbeyond for their behavior what
the parents allow me to do.
I don't care about theirlong-term development.
I'm not concerned about what.
How many vegetables did theyeat today?
Speaker 2 (16:58):
I get it Similar to us musicians you know, or a
producer you know, or an artist.
If I'm working on someoneelse's song, if the song flops,
or in this sense, I don't comeback on you.
Or in this sense, if a baby isa bad baby, it's a bad baby, I'm
just gonna boy.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
They my baby, right.
Speaker 2 (17:12):
It's not my only song flop Well they my song.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
But when it comes to your own child, you're like oh,
we're not having that attitudein this house.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
You better eat those vegetables, because we're gonna
grow like as I'm listening tothis, like the first thought has
come into my mind is like youtreat things differently when
you feel like you own it, likeyou know it's it's ownership.
I think that's the biggestthing.
I feel like we're living in atime, right now, where a lot of
people Struggle to feel likethey want to own something or
(17:40):
actually, as John C Maxwellcalls it, talks about the law of
buying Right, you know, beingbought into something.
If we don't invest, if we don'tput our time, if we, if we're
not fully Having ownership in it, then we don't give it all that
we have.
And like, I feel like for us,even for us, as we're stepping
into this New year, I've beenthinking about it and processing
it more.
I'm thinking about even, okay,what are other things that I can
(18:00):
invest in, not just financially, yes, financially, but also
even with my time, even mentally, spiritually, emotion, like
where's some areas that we canactually feel like we own Own,
own, own, own.
So, like you know, there'sfriends that I've been talking
to.
They have, like some ideas.
I have a buddy of mine.
He has an idea that he'slooking to launch and I thought
I had the other day of just likeman, like how can I come
(18:23):
alongside him and partner,actually be in on it, like
invest, like as far as, likeownership wise?
Even as I'm hearing this, I'mlike it's a lot easier to be
like man.
That's, that's what's up, bro.
Enjoy it, have your time.
But if I asked enough questionsand make enough enough
suggestions, even Him takingsteps in the ideas that I gave
him, I feel like I owned part ofit.
(18:45):
Like you know what I mean and Ithink about this too.
Babe, like the other, the lastcouple days I've been for those,
you that that know me I've beenwaking up at 5 am and I have
this thought of, just like man,5 am it's so tough have a buddy
mind that he's been wanting towake up too early and go like to
the gym, which the last coupledays he's been mia, but the
first week he was showing upevery single day at 6 am In a
(19:07):
gym.
And you know what?
I'll tell you this like it washard for me to show up at 6 am
when I knew somebody else wascounting on me and when he
jumped on a scale and showed methat he lost 10 pounds after a
week, like I felt, like I tookownership in that and here's the
crazy thing is it motivated meRight.
Waking about 5 am Became a loteasier because you knew someone
(19:28):
was counting on you.
I knew somebody was counting onme.
That I partake, that I parttook, part, took, part, take.
Which one is it?
I don't know, I just thought Ijust started using this word
last week.
So I feel like you know, forthis year, for us, babe, like
you know, like the biggest placewhere I am mentally and even
spiritually, emotionally, likeeverything like I want to figure
out where can we invest ourtime in more having a baby's now
(19:51):
, now that I'm hearing this,having baby is not always in the
sense of like let's actuallybirth something from scratch.
I feel like there's nothing newunder the sun, right?
I feel like for me this year, Iwant to figure out who can I
actually co-parent with?
Hmm who can I ask to co-parentmy ideas?
I have so many ideas and Irealize they're not getting
(20:12):
birth because I'm the only daddy.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
I do believe that that is a major, major key in
executing any dream or anyvision or Starting a business.
Like the people in your corner,they make or break it.
And if it's only in your mindand you can't get it out, or
like you're not executing,you're not knowing the first
steps to go.
Having someone else comealongside you and say, hey,
(20:37):
here's what you should do.
Like I just reached out to fromthe other day and I was like I
feel like I need to overcomethis hump in my hair styling
career.
I've never been able toovercome this hump.
What did you do?
Like I just started askingquestions yeah, hey, give me
some advice or give me some info.
How do I get over this humpthat I feel like has always been
there in that career for me,and so I 100% think cope finding
(21:01):
a co-parent.
Yeah finding someone to comealongside you and birth it with
you.
In the last four years, when wemade this episode, that was not
the key point of this.
The key point was actually todo it yourself.
Yeah, and now how we have grownin the last four years, I think
we're realizing, like, birththat baby but find you a good
(21:23):
for my mom's out there all mymoms that know what I'm talking
about.
Find you a good doula that'sready to.
That's like an encourager, youknow.
I was gonna say baby daddy, butdo but doulas better baby
daddy's there, not good, becauseif they're good, their husbands
.
So find a doula that is likethat support person for you in
labor.
They are there to help you in a, in a mental capacity of like,
(21:45):
hey, you can do this, hey, thisis how you got to do this.
Hey put your mind here, hey dothis position.
They're literally there tocoach you through the birthing
process.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Even us talking about relaunching this channel was
hard for us.
We talked about it for severalweeks and I realized, okay,
here's what we need to do.
We need to find other people tocome alongside us, sure, and
invest their time Right, theirheart, their emotions, mental
investments right.
And so, even for me, I'mlaunching something else Right,
and I'll tell you guys about itin a little bit or in a few
(22:15):
weeks.
But I realized the only way I'mgonna be able to see this whole
Baby be birth and actuallygrown into a full idea is if I
could find other people to comealongside me, people that,
people that I Trust, people thatI know that can actually come
alongside me, say, a bro, I gotyou, I have an idea, and their
motives is just to see me win.
(22:35):
That number of people is gonnabe a really short number.
It's not gonna be a long number, right, but we all know people
in our lives that's actually inour a man corner and they're
cheering the song.
And now that I'm listening tothis episode from what we said a
couple years ago, what hashonestly paused me in the
mindset of like we're gonna havea baby, we have a baby.
It was just like, okay, I hadsome babies, I had some thoughts
, but here's where I got stuck.
(22:57):
I didn't have anybody to comealongside me to say, hey, here's
where I can help you outmentally People that I can
actually touch base withthroughout the month and say,
hey, I got an idea I'm stuck,where can you help me out with?
Even other day I had an idea.
So, okay, you know what.
Here's what I'm gonna do.
I'm gonna find two people thatcan actually hold me accountable
(23:17):
and say, hey, I'm gonna checkup on you every two weeks to get
an update.
And that's why I feel like,okay, that's gonna be this next
phase of like okay, I got a baby, I want to birth it.
Here's how I can actually seeit to the finish line.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
That's great.
And even if it's not, like,that's a great idea, even if
it's not someone doing somethingfor you, but only holding you
accountable, like setting thosedeadlines.
Like even today I was having ameeting and that person was like
, hey, if this is our deadline,then that means we need to have
this executed by this.
And I was like, right.
I literally said, yes, give meall the dates, because I'm not
(23:49):
good at that, but this person Iwas working with is great at
that.
And I was like, yeah, give memy deadlines, give me my dates,
put me on track so that we getthis executed in the right time
and in the right time window.
So I think it's great to say,even if it's someone that can
help you physically or take on apart of the Birthing of your
business, but if it's nothingelse, find someone that's going
(24:10):
to hold you accountable, findsomeone that's going to stay on
top of you and say, hey, how'sthat going?
Hey, what's that looking like?
Hey, where are you out on this?
Speaker 2 (24:18):
Yeah.
So, whether it's a project,whether it's a website, whether
it's a business, whether it'sfamily, home, whatever, fitness,
health, spiritual goals,whatever it is Like, I just
believe and and for those of us,for those you, that don't know
who we are, like, we are biblebase, bible believing, like we
follow Jesus and all of histeachings, and in our faith,
we've learned so much that youcannot walk this out by yourself
(24:41):
.
You need to walk it along withpeople.
And even for us, baby, even forus, as we're talking through
all of our projects, like we'refiguring out, okay, who are
people that we have in our livesthat we can call partners,
accountability partners this isnot everyone are.
This is not just people thatjust jumped in your hot life,
because you know what, even whenyou hit rock bottom, even when
you go through the toughesttimes, some people like that
will disappear.
You have to figure out who arethe people that walked alongside
(25:03):
you throughout the toughesttimes.
They're the ones that you're tocall on.
So I want to encourage everyonethat's even listening, thinking
about this and thinking aboutstarting something this new year
, throughout this year, the nextyear, to come right, it doesn't
matter.
Even when you listen to this.
I don't know.
You maybe listen to this yearsfrom now.
These principles, these mindsetsnever Expires.
The mindset of, like, findingaccountability partners.
(25:23):
You're trying to lose weight.
Find someone back and say, hey,I'm gonna show up with you, or
they can't show up with you orthey're not here with me,
they're on the other coast.
Who cares?
Have them know.
Like, okay, every single day Igo to the gym at this time.
Shoot me a text, give me a call, get an update every single
week.
Hey, have you lost weight?
Hey, where are you at with yourhealth?
If you want to get strongerspiritually, right, find people
(25:45):
that are spiritually fit.
I heard one guy once tell meone time he said never get
advice From people who you don'twant your life to look like
their life.
So if somebody ain't got money,don't ask them what they think
about money.
I ain't got no questions foryou.
If someone's marriage is notstrong.
I actually don't want to hearwhat you think about marriage if
your kids are wild and they areanimals.
Speaker 1 (26:07):
No advice needed.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
I don't want to hear it.
Find the people that you admirelike man.
I love that factored about yourlife.
I have a few questions aboutthat category.
Everyone's not going to bestrong in every category and
that's completely fine.
I look at athletes right.
Athletes right.
When they're young they haveone coach, but by the time
they're professional, how manycoaches do they have?
Multiple?
(26:29):
They have multiple coachesbecause there's other guys in
their lives that are expertsabout certain things.
So, honestly, I'm donelistening to this.
I feel like that's my takeawayis like, hey, for this new
season, as we're digging deeperin our lives, it's time for us
to get partners accountabilityand grow stronger together.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
We can't do this alone, and I am in a season in
my life where I value truefriendship, and friendship that
is on a similar level with meand that can understand what I'm
going through or where I'm atin these certain parts of
whether it's my marriage, mymotherhood, my career.
And so all this to say, like,get you good friends, get you
(27:07):
accountability partners, but getyou people that if you are a
believer, you better have yourclosest friends be believers too
, and that they can point you inthe right direction.
People that are in your lifethat are good for you will
either bring you closer to God,and if they're not good for you,
they're gonna pull you furtheraway from him.
And so I take it very seriouslythat my close friends are only
(27:30):
friends that bring me closer tothe Lord, and those are the only
people that I want speakinginto my life.
And if you don't do that for me, that's okay.
I'm just gonna have differentboundaries for you.
And so find you a partner, adoula, a baby daddy, you know,
within the context of what wejust talked about, but whatever
it is, find your people andhonestly, we hope we are your
(27:52):
people.
We hope that this podcast,through this new season that we
become your people and that wecan become those supporting
people, those cheerleaders foryou, and that we can help you
push out those babies and thosedreams that you have.
We're gonna talk a lot aboutour marriage, our parenting.
There's so many things that wewanna share with you in hopes
that we can really be a voice inyour life.
(28:15):
We've lived through a lot oflife and we always wish that we
had some people that could maybespeak into things, and so we
hope and pray that God allows usto be that for you.
So we will see you on the nextepisode of let's Take
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