We’re back with another episode in our T&A Alphabet Series, where we explore the big topics around non-monogamy, relationships, and sex—one letter at a time. Originally broadcast as a live training in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook community, this episode is all about the letter I: I is for Insecurity and the 3 Things You Can Do to Feel More Secure.
Insecurity can show up as self-doubt, anxiety, or the sense that you're vulnerable to harm or rejection. In open or polyamorous relationships, it often feels like living on high alert—waiting for the next fire to put out.
In this episode, we dig into the connection between insecurity and jealousy, and share three key practices to help you feel more grounded and secure:
- Introspection – exploring the roots of your jealousy and insecurity
- Communication – both with yourself and with your partners
- Determining remedies – identifying what you actually need to feel safer and more supported
We also explore:
- Why insecurity is often more about internal narratives than external realities
- How to tell the difference between real concerns and the stories we tell ourselves
- Ways to shift out of recurring insecurity loops
- How limiting beliefs can feed insecurity—and how to build a “positive evidence stack”
- Powerful self-reflection questions to uncover the source of your insecurity
- Examples of real remedies that have worked for us and our clients
If jealousy and insecurity are keeping you from feeling at ease in your consensually non-monogamous relationships, check out our self-paced Poly Newbies Digital Course https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse or go deeper with our Open Relationship and Polyamory Mastery - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery - program, which includes live coaching with us.
Show Resources:
- Practicing Polyamory Podcast - Asking Questions Can Change Your Life with T&A episode - https://youtu.be/lpd_5FwDRxc?si=AqagOShSzkQeTCgt
- Book a complimentary coaching consultation call with Tara at: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue
- Email André to arrange a complimentary therapy consultation at: andreturcottepsych@gmail.com
- Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly
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