62: Carversations: Can Love Be Repaired

We’re continuing our summer 🚗 road trip through the Gaspésie in Quebec and into the Maritime provinces—New Brunswick, Nova Scotia (including Cape Breton), and Prince Edward Island and it's been beyond what we ever imagined!

We've discovered parts of 🇨🇦 Canada we hadn’t visited before, and, using the Home Exchange platform has not only saved us money ($0 for accommodations using points earned from others staying in our homes) but has allowed us to stay in some pretty awesome places and meet really great people along the way! Link in the the show resources to find out more and get a bonus 250pts when signing up!

As we travel, we’re recording these bite-sized Carversations just for you!

In this episode, we dive into a question that comes up often in relationships: Can love be repaired?

We explore what conditions need to be present for real repair to happen—like willingness from both partners, acknowledgment of what has happened, and the ability to take responsibility for our part.

We talk about how different factors may influence whether repair is possible: loss of trust or an egregious action, attachment styles, misaligned values, or differing visions for the future (such as whether or not to live together).

We also dig into why “determination” alone isn’t enough, and how time—or even taking breaks—can sometimes play a role in the repair process (and yes, we have a healthy debate about this!).

Along the way, we highlight the importance of reflection, honest communication, and taking concrete action toward change—not just talking about it.

We’d love to hear from you, too—have you ever had to repair a relationship? What did you do, did it work (or not), and what advice would you share with others? Share your thoughts in the comments on this episode, answer the poll or join the discussion in our Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group.

We refer to our 36 Questions episode and recommend that you listen to it and download our free resources which both the original 36 questions plus our 36 additional ones. Links below.

And if you’re in the middle of trying to repair a relationship and want support, we’ve got you covered:

• Book a therapy consultation call with André - ⁠https://book.a-psych-online.com/therapyconsultation⁠

• Book a Pay What You Can Coaching Call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/pwyccoachingsession ⁠

Since we were recording on the road, the sound isn’t studio-perfect—there was a bit of background noise and static we did our best to fix—but we hope you’ll still find this Carversation practical and helpful.

Show Resources:

• Home Exchange Platform - use this link to get 250 bonus points when you sign up (that's a 2 night stay in most places - https://www.homeexchange.com/?sponsorkey=taraandandre-cbef0
• Let's Talk Polyamory Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly
• The 36 Questions That May Lead to Love ... and the Other 36 To Stay in Love podcast episode - https://open.spotify.com/episode/02k2ogdF9gB98NFmdiAxVt?si=jn8VCJohRs2e2D2_DuUMmw
• Download the 36 + 36 Questions Resource - https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/36plus36questions
• Find out more about the services we offer + additional supports and resources that are available - https://www.taraandandre.com/