3-Steps to an Unmessable-With Future

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Join Desireé in Episode 5 of Season 2, as she uses her trips around the sun to throw encouragement around like confetti!

In Episode 5, Desireé continues the journey to living your best life by breaking down the steps to an unmessable-with future. (And yes, you read that correctly… unmessable-with is the inability to be messed with.) 😁 HINT: There are 3 steps and they are powerful!

Topics include:

• C.S. Lewis quote that kind of makes me want to drop the mic (5:00)
• The best declaration I’ve ever read (7:40)
•  A pro-tip that ends all of the secrets to success 😉 (11:20)

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Desireé Melfi Bozzo (00:06):
Ciao and welcome to Life out loud. I am
your host Desiree Melfi Bozzo.
We are going to use this spaceto share experiences and help
you find lasting, unshakableunwavering unmessable-with joy
and gratitude. We're going to bethrowing around encouragement, a
little bit like confetti andgiving you support to live your
very best life.

(00:31):
Ciao Friends, Welcome to SeasonFive of Episode Two of the life
out loud podcast. I am as alwaysyour host Desiree Melfi Bozzo. I
am so thankful that you're herewith me in this space for my
longtime listeners. Welcomeback, if you're new Horray! I
hope what you hear in this spacegives you a fresh perspective, I

(00:54):
hope it meets you definitelyright where you need it the
most. And I hope it helps you tobear really great fruit in your
life. I can not believe that weare more than halfway through
season two, I am not entirelysure where the time has hurried
off to. In the last episode, weexplored the idea of abiding in

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this present moment. It reallystarted with slaying the
present. And after I nerded outon words like I do, we are
nudged into this space ofabiding, if you haven't
listened, I really do highlyrecommend go go listen to it. I
think it sets up this episodereally well, as I was creating
that episode, my mind, it wasdefinitely blown. And there's a

(01:37):
chance that yours just might betoo. And so we're standing here
now in this present moment,hopefully abiding, and it's time
I think that we firmly get realstill. And we firmly plant our
feet and it's time to fix ourgaze forward, it's time to stand
in that space of abiding andtake a look at our futures. And

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so here in this space, I want topose a question that I think a
lot of us in the back of ourminds consciously or
subconsciously, are reallypondering.
How do we create futures thatare really worth living into?
Right? Those big, beautiful,bright futures that get us out
of bed at 5am in the morning?
How do we create futures that weenjoy and perhaps are full of

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joy? In episode one of seasonone, I'm going to take it way,
way back, I kick things off byexplaining the why of this
podcast, I tried to give you areally good glimpse into my
background and why I'm qualifiedto offer this, this teaching
this wisdom as advice. And I'vealways since I was a little

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girl, I've always been called tothis work. I wanted to empower
others. And while I definitelydidn't have that vocabulary for
it, I don't know that I was, Idon't know that I knew that I
was doing that. I just alwaysknew I wanted to uplift people
and help people. I was the typeof kid and I still am the type
of woman who wants to know morethan just surface level

(03:05):
connection. I'm not going to sitthere and talk about the
weather. I mean, I will talkabout the weather if that's what
you want. But then I'mdefinitely going to want to go
deeper. I want to know why weare the way we are why we choose
the behaviors and the patternsconsciously or subconsciously,
that at the end of the day,create our lives. I've spent the
better part of a decade reallyformally helping people at a
tier one research institutionhere in the States. And I've

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helped people from all over theworld literally, all over the
world create excitingopportunities for themselves
while crafting these reallycompelling narratives and
telling great stories. And it'sin this space that I want to
begin to take that work and Iwant to marry it with something
that is, is my heart. It's mycalling and that's marrying it

(03:50):
with sustainable biblical truth.
And so the tools and the skillsand the knowledge that I've
paired together with biblicaltruth, friends, this can create
the unwavering, unshakableunmessable lives that we desire.
The work of designing thesecompelling futures, it's, I am
going to be super honest, it'sintentional, and it is hard and

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it is thought provoking. Inorder to do it, we have to show
up full capacity, open minds,and even more open hearts, which
I know can be really, reallyuncomfortable. It requires a
really high level of creativity,of emotional intelligence. And
it calls us into being a littlebit of risk takers, right? And I

(04:37):
always say a little bit of risk,a high level of resilience,
right, little bit of risk lot ofresilience. And so the first
place I think we need to beginis to ensure this future we seek
this thing that we dream aboutthis thing that gets us out of
bed every morning. We need toensure that it's in lockstep
with the will of God for ourlives. And so I'm gonna throw

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out a quote here. CS Lewis oncewrote, human history is a long,
terrible story of man trying orwoman and trying to find
something other than God, whichwill make him happy. I read
this, and it was one of thosethat kind of stopped me for a
second. And I shook my head alittle, probably a lot, because
that is really true. I knowthis, and you probably do too,

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because we've lived it. We do itall the time, we've all had
seasons, where we try and makeourselves happy with the things
of this world. And if I can bereally honest, it's super easy
to do. The world we live in, isabundant and offering all of the
tangible things that delight oursenses. We have food and drink

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and access. I don't know aboutyou asking for a friend, how
many times have we indulged alittle too much, only to numb
ourselves in our emotions fromthe world. We get material
possessions thrown at us inabundance, you know, easy that
Amazon app makes it for you tobuy all the things you never
really knew you needed. Thosealgorithms are bananas. And I

(06:09):
don't know how they read mymind. Don't even get me started
on the target app, whichpromises to have everything I
ever wanted, through a drive uppickup in just about two hours.
Like, I don't even have to getout of my car. That's amazing to
me. So those two and coupledwith the How should I say this
the casualness of physical,intimate encounters, right? We

(06:35):
live in a world that pushes thenotion that less clothing is
much more attractive. Andthere's a narrative out there
that says it's just sex. Sweetlisteners, modesty is so
absolutely attractive. And I canpromise you there is nothing
casual about sex, like at all,like ever. Food and drink and

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access, material possessions andabundance and physical
encounters of the casual kind.
It's all within reach. And it'sall at our fingertips. And if we
aren't careful, we can stand tooclose to the very enticing, very
enticing slippery slope. Andbefore we know it, we are
looking at a future reality thatis nothing of what we initially

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dreamed. It falls so short ofcenter. We do this all the time,
just in the name of wanting tofeel happiness.
So the place we begin, isensuring the future we seek is
in lockstep with the will of Godfor our lives. In Jeremiah

29 (07:40):
11, the Lord declares, For I know the plans I have for you
plans to prosper you and not toharm you plans to give you hope,
and a future. Friends, God saidthis to us. He said it to you.
And he said it to me. He knowsthe plans he has for our lives.
They are plans to prosper us andnot to harm us. They are plans

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to give us hope, their plans togive us a future. And the way we
access these plans I reallybelieve is through these three
things. It's the first is tocreate a vision and a vision
board but trade an actual getthe vision, like get the get the
calling, right? Get the purposefind it, figure it out. How do

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we even begin to do that? That'sthe next question. I realize
that we start terete vision byfilling our lives with truth. We
have to open our Bible and wehave to know the word. We have
to get to know the stories andpeople. Hebrews 4:12 tells us
that the Word of God is aliveand active. It's sharper than

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any double edged sword itpenetrates even to dividing soul
and spirit joints and marrow itjudges the thoughts and the
attitudes of the heart. When Ifirst read that I was like,
that's really aggressive. Butthen I also thought that's
really powerful. Like that is apowerful weapon wield. So after

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we know the truth, we can spendtime in prayer asking for His
will for our futures, to berevealed. Little by little God
shows us things about where togo and what to do. But friends
we have to be willing to payattention. And so first we
create the vision.
The second thing to do is tosurround yourself with the right

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people, it starts by payingattention to what you're
listening to. Who are youlistening to? What are we taking
in? What kind of music are welistening to? What YouTubes are
we watching what Netflix orwhatever other streaming service
like What are we watching? Whatare we consuming? What podcasts
are we listening to what whatpeople are we listening to Who

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are we following on socialmedia? What are we surrounding
ourselves with? Is it the brokenpatterns of the world or the
truth, it is scripture. To getcloser to the futures worth
living into, we need to payattention to who or what we're
surrounding ourselves with.
This, this next piece is reallypivotal. Because when we put
together the people thatunderstand your vision, right,

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the people get you, noteveryone's for you, we all know
that. But when we put togetherthe people who are for you, who
get you who get your vision, whoget where you're going, the ones
who are rooted in Christ, theycan walk beside you, they can
walk the journey with you.
The third thing we put together,once we have the vision, once we

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have the people is the plan, weput together the plan. A future
worth living into isn't justgoing to happen by accident,
it's not just going to show upone day, and if it does, as we
say, in Italian “Benedica!” Forthe rest of us, we have to put
together a tangible, actionableplan of action. And so for this,

(11:04):
we start with a goal. And wework our way backward, right? So
we take action based stepsworking backward from that big
goal, things that we can doevery day, every week, every
month milestones, if you will.

Protip (11:19):
To crush this, find yourself a coach, someone who
will keep you accountable, who'sgoing to walk next to you every
step of the way in lockstep withyour vision, with your goals,
keeping you accountable to thenext and the next and the next.
And the next step. If you'reinterested, reach out to me on
social or on my website, andlet's have a conversation. I

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just might know a coach who'swilling to bring a little
confetti with her for thejourney.
There was a quote I love byJordan B. Peterson, and he says,
“To decide to move forward,courageously into the land of
the unknown. That's one of thesecrets to a good life.” Friends
to create a joy filled futureone that's going to get you out

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of bed at 5am. One that is bigand beautiful and bold. We start
with three things. We create avision steeped in biblical
truth, we surround ourselveswith the right people, and maybe
even a confetti carrying coach.
We put together a plan of actionand we go! One little thing

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before I close this up, I don'tknow who needs to hear this.
Maybe it's no one, maybe it'sme. But remember, the world
tells us how our future shouldbe. And if we're not standing
firm in our vision, it's goingto give us someone else's story.

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The future doesn't have to looka certain way for it to be
amazing and wonder filled.
Sometimes we get these ideas inour head, of how it's all
supposed to be how it's allsupposed to turn out. Sometimes
we need to let go of ourattachment to the way everything

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should look and turn out.
Sometimes we have to loosen thatwhite knuckle grip and how it
should be and embrace what is.
Friends God doesn't makemistakes. The way it really is,
is the way it should be. It wasall predestined before before
time began. Trust in Him, you'reright where you need to be.

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Trust in the process. He hasnever, ever let you go and I can
promise you he is not going tostart now.
So, vision steeped in biblicaltruth, people around you every
step of the way. And a plan ofaction. That my friends is how

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we create the joy filled future.
I hope you truly enjoyed thismessage. I hope it bears fruit
in your life. Send me a messageas always, I want to know what
your big beautiful future plansare. I always love hearing from
you. Come back next time. Let'sthrow more encouragement around

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like confetti. But be careful.
If you get too close. You justmight get some on you. And
remember friends no matter what,there is always always always
something to be thankful for.
Ciao.
Thank you for joining me DesireéMelfi Bozzo for this episode of

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