Secret #40: Detoxifying Masculinity with Russell Kolts

In this episode of 'Life's Dirty Little Secrets,' hosts Emma Waddington and Chris McCurry are joined by Dr. Russell Kolts, a clinical psychologist and professor at Eastern Washington University. They discuss the complexities of masculinity and anger in today's society.

Dr. Kolts shares insights on how societal expectations shape male behavior, the challenges men face in expressing emotions, and the importance of creating safe spaces for men to be vulnerable. The discussion also covers the role of temperament and upbringing in emotional development and highlights the impact of competitive social contexts on behavior.

The episode emphasizes the need for both men and women to support emotional expression and vulnerability in boys and men to foster healthier relationships and communities.

Topics Discussed:

• Detoxifying Masculinity and Anger Management
• Societal Expectations and Gender Differences
• Creating Safe Spaces for Men
• The Consent Conversation

About Russell Kolts

Watch Russell’s TEDx Talk

Check out An Open-Hearted Life. Shambhala. 2015.

Read The Anger Workbook: Discover the Strength to Transform Your Anger Using Your Compassionate Mind. Robinson (Little, Brown Book Group). 2024.

Learn more about The Compassionate Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger. New Harbinger Publications. 2012.

Read Buddhist Psychology and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy: A Clinician's Guide. The Guilford Press. 2016.

Russell Kolts is a clinical psychologist and founder of the Inland Northwest Compassionate Mind Center in Spokane, Washington, USA. Dr. Kolts regularly conducts trainings and workshops on Compassion-Focused Therapy, as well as on mindfulness and compassion practices. His professional interests lie primarily in the application of CFT and mindfulness approaches to individuals suffering from problematic anger, trauma, mood, and attachment-related difficulties. Kolts has published and presented research in diverse areas such as positive psychology, PTSD, psychopharmacology, mindfulness, and compassion. In his personal life, Dr. Kolts enjoys family time, reading, meditation, outdoor activities, and listening to and playing music.

For more information, resources, and links regarding Compassion-Focused Therapy, visit www.compassionatemind.co.uk

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