Silencing the Inner Critic: Fuel for Entrepreneurial Fire

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Any
kind of lack that you keep pointing out
to yourself or experiencing
including a lack of time is signaling to
the universe that you are a match
for lack.
I am Gloria Grace Rand, founder of the

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love method and author the number 1 Amazon
best seller, live, love, and engage. How to
stop doubting yourself and start being yourself.
In this podcast,
we share practical advice from a spiritual perspective
on how to live fully
love deeply and engage authentically
So you can create a life and business

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with more impact,
influence and income.
Welcome. To live love engage.
Stay.
Procrastination
perfectionism
and a lack of focus.
These are not exactly the qualities you want
to have if you wanna be a successful
business owner.

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Instead, there really forms of self sabotage,
which
today's gas knows how you overcome, and that's
where we're gonna be talking about today, But
before I bring her on, I do wanna
welcome those of you who are new to
live Love engage. I am Gloria Grace, and
I help... Female entrepreneurs,
attract more clients with calm, clarity and confidence

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by
releasing negative thought patterns like self doubt and
poor. Self worth. And our guest today is
a delightful woman who I've met a while
ago. Her name is Leah Craft Christine.
And for more than 20 years,
she has coached entrepreneurs,
authors and professionals in
Product,

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presentation and promotional skills,
and she's built 4 successful businesses,
and 2 nonprofit,
practice law,
written 19 books spoken in nearly 500 cities
on 4 continents,
she also builds houses.
We might get to bed if we have
a chance. And that's not enough. She's also

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for her broadcaster on both Cnn and Pbs
television. So
without further ado, I am going to bring
her on and officially and welcome you Leah
too live loving age.
It's great to be here. Thank you so
much for inviting me.
Well, I am really

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I'm just amazed by all the things you're
you're doing and.
It makes you... You wonder, you know, our
topic is self sabotage. So
Have you ever done that yourself? Because it
doesn't seem like it because you've been able
to do somebody many different things. So
maybe tell us a little bit,
about,
I guess, you... If if you haven't done

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that as well, But but what causes...
Maybe just what causes people in general to,
to kind of engage in that. Well, I
think most people
actually don't know what kind of conversation they're
having in their own heads
I think that's a starting point for everyone.
And the trouble is we can live with
ourselves alone and not have to deal with

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it at all.
If we aren't interacting with people very much
or if we're not in a relationship or
if we're not running a business or writing
a book or creating anything at all. We
don't have to face the garbage going on
in our own heads.
But here's the truth. Every time you start
moving towards something,

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that you are attracted to, that makes you
feel a sense of joy,
excitement, even the sense of love. Love is
what we should feel when we're feeling passionate
about our businesses and about what we do
and as you're falling in love. But
what I know for myself and for all
the clients I have worked with who have

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discovered this for themselves
also is when you love something, when you
want
the push to the good,
there is an amazing thing that happens to
all of us. If you think of yourself
as a clear glass with ice cubes down
at the bottom,
ice cubes of unresolved garbage

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issues.
When you are in love with your your
business, your partner, your whatever,
It's like pouring clear water into that glass
and what's going to happen?
The ice cubes rise to the top, And
that means then, you have to deal with
it now.
And if you then because you're thinking all

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these thoughts you hadn't thought about for a
long time because you pushed into the back
of your mind. Now you're thinking, I things
like, I don't know if I wanted to
be successful. I don't know if people will
welcome what I have. I don't know if
they're gonna like me. I don't know if
I'm gonna find my tribe. I don't know
if this is gonna work. I don't know
how I'm gonna live to next month
All of the garbage of lack of abundance

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and lack of of welcoming
and lack of self welcoming
comes to the fore. And I'm sorry, but
that is how it works because why the
universe is giving you a double chance,
to deal with it now so you can
get out of your own way.
And if you can deal with it, if
you've got the strength to deal with it

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and look at it and say, now, look.
So that happened to me in second grade.
That does not mean. It's going to repeat
itself now,
but I have had... So much experience with
it.
And that is why I teach what I
teach. I start with the foundations of happiness
of working on your inner

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relationship with yourself, which of course is what
you talk about about loving yourself about
about getting
that feeling going of the love
energy, there's so many reasons why women in
particular have a problem with this. We know
that. For me, my family history,
I was told by 1 of my sisters

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that all of us have ups problem with
manic depression, you might as well get on
lithium because none of us can stay feeling
good for any period of time. And I
said, If that's true about our body chemistry,
and I'm not gonna test myself, and I'm
not gonna find out because I don't wanna
have a label for it. I am gonna
find ways to work on myself. And if

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I have to work on myself 4 times
harder than anybody else, just to get to
a modi of a feeling of happiness. That's
what I'm going to do
because I have to learn how to live
Well, that was a little earlier on in
my life when I started having these nose
dives when I was 13 years old, and

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than having that
persist. And for no reason that you could
really see, but it was the self talk.
It was a lot of the issues that
we all have. But when I got into
law school, I had an experience that I
thought, well, this is this is where I
wanna be. I love this. I'm excited about
it. They wanna do women's. I wanna do

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international. I wanna do these wonderful things to
help humanity.
And I had the
good fortune of being put on what's called
law review, which means I wrote for a
legal
publication within law school. That is a high
honor to receive.
Yet,
when I graduated from 1 of the top
law schools in our country and went out

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to find a job in Atlanta, Georgia. Now,
I am from near Canada.
So I not get the mentality of the
old boy system. And it was strong and
alive when I got out of Law school,
but I really was clueless. I I really
was. I I was 19 king the Max.
So when I was offered, 7 dollars and

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50 cents an hour
to be a practicing
attorney.
I took it thinking.
I will learn. I will grow. I I
will start here fine. I'll do that. I...
It took me 9 months to quit.
In after going in and asking for raises
multiple times after setting up the law firm

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with their own
securities and exchange
department
for every state in the Us so that
we could submit our private placements for
huge real estate offerings.
After doing all of that and still getting
no recognition and no raise.
Finally, I left Now, did that show self

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respect? All a little, but Et should have
left after 3 months.
And that's a problem. Women are still faced
with the Be l that comes from being
a woman, and I thought by this point
in my life, that would be a far
distant in the past thing. But guess what?
It isn't. The pin I used to wear

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in law school that said 73 cents on
the dollar.
All You have to do is move that
and right a line through 83 cents on
the dollar.
Unbelievable. Yeah.
Absolutely. Well,
it's... But we don't wanna rest on those
no ai, no resentment
because that is self sabotage as well. I

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hope everybody hears that and knows that. That
is baggage,
that will hold you back from your dream.
It is negative garbage, all of us are
conduit.
Every 1 of us and when you are
feeling love, your conduit
expands.
When you are feeling fear or hate or
resentment, it narrows down to a tiny trickle.

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And if you have memories of garbage
from your life or memories or thoughts thoughts
about
all the injustices that are being done to
you or anyone else. It's like cl
of asphalt
or tar that's mu up this beautiful conduit.
Think about it that way and just know

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when you are trying to launch when you
are starting a business when you are branching
out into a new venture, work on yourself
so that you will feel
nothing, but that clear, clear,
delighted,
cited
moving forward
energy. Mh And I could hear you saying
and how do you get there? Yeah, I

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know. And... But I but I do love
I'd wanna go back to it I'd love
that ice cube metaphor because I think that
is... I know that was for me. Absolutely.
It was when I started my own business.
I Yeah. All of a sudden, all of
these new
concerns, beliefs about money and things came,
to the... That I didn't have when I
was working for someone else. You know, I

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was perfectly fine. But all of a sudden
now, it's like, oh, I have to figure
out how much to charge and purpose Oh,
I have to... I I should raise my
rates. Oh, wow. Okay. What a concept? I
should ask her a raise.
You know, it's like, I that was supposed
to be automatically given to me. I was
supposed to have a performance or review. That's
what it's like We're working for someone else,
but not when you're working,

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for yourself. It's a whole different story. So,
yeah, please please share with us a little
bit about now... Okay. So let's say... Yes.
Maybe we started to become aware of some
of these things, some of these thoughts, but
how do we now shift that so that
we can...
Deal with that and and start being more
success. You you have brought up. All of

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those issues that come. You're so right.
It's worthiness.
It's
abundance or not abundance or am I supposed
to be struggling and so many people listening
and watching,
this show right now might think I am
fully capable of handling all of that and
yet and even no all what you should

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know about visualizing.
How do you want it to look?
What do you want to have to be
the outcome of this thing you're working on?
See it and feel what it feels like
to have it. Now, it's here. Now breathe
it dead, but here's what so many people
in especially women. I hate to say this,
but it is true,

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especially women
forget
to
see that a new
you
who is that person now who has stepped
up to the next level, and then the
next level and the next level, who is
she, how does she look? How does she
dress?
How does she feel? How does she walk?

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How does she move through her day? Is
she always on time? Is she ahead of
time or is she always running behind? Because
Here's the thing about abundance. Let's just talk
about this for a minute. Any
kind of lack that you keep pointing out
to yourself or experiencing,
including a lack of time is signaling to

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the universe that you
are a match for lack.
And everybody here knows there is something called
the law of attraction. It means
you attract the core of you, what you
are feeling most of the times. So be
very careful about your use of time.
If you need to cut back on the

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to do list so that you can do
it reasonably,
beautifully,
calmly
confidently
and comfortably,
you are sending out a signal of abundance.
So that is 1 major piece.
And I see so many people getting frantic
as soon as they start a business because

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you are wearing every hat. Yes, you are.
And that's how it is for a while,
but love it. Get comfortable with it. So
the other thing I wanna mention. There are
so many parts of this that I do
want to bring up.
Self talk. Honest to pete, you gotta figure
out what you're saying to yourself.
And 1 of the mantra, that I have

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said. I I have a program that is
called the happiness tune up. We all get
happy
when things are going well and we've had
enough sleep in art friends are around us
and our families lovely and our kids aren't
acting up. We can all be happy. But
it's when things get more difficult.
So at that time, I want you to
ask yourself 3 important questions.

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There are the 3 keys to our beliefs.
1 is this because because
you have to become either a perfect
coach to yourself.
Or you have to become a perfect set
of parents you did not have because no
1 no 1 had them.
I don't know who got them, but somebody

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thinks they did. I think it's just an
archetype that sticks with us, but it's not
real. So the first question,
From your self coach, you, you self coaching
is to say, alright. What lie am I
telling myself about myself right now? What lie
or lies? Am I telling myself about myself?

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Nobody's gonna want this. Nobody's least gonna want
this product? Who do you think you are?
That's a that's a universal statement. You never
thought you'd say it to your kids and
you do, and you say it to yourself,
I'm just guessing.
But The question is,
what lie are you telling yourself about yourself
and second, what lie are you telling yourself

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about life? Life is tough. The It's really
hard to get a footing. Look at all
the entrepreneurs that fail. Oh, we have to
stop it, and we have to turn it
around, and we have to say the opposite,
to what a great coach and a great
set of parents would say. But you are
unique.
You have some things specific and special to

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offer from your own set of experience, which
is the set of experience no 1 else
in the whole world has.
And then you're gonna say the last coaching
question to yourself. What lie am I telling
myself about other people?
And At that moment, you can be focusing
on any set of other people. The nasty

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girls in middle school, the nasty girls in
high school, then
You know. You know they come out as
a wood work when you are being squeezed.
And so what is your coach in your
perfect set of parents going say to you.
There are people that are cheering you on.
There are people that can't wait to see

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what you're going to do next There are
people that cannot
wait to brag about your success. There are
people who will help you. There are people
that are just waiting to see you get
to this point and they want to step
in and help you with the next level.
So we lie to ourselves when we get
down, and that is why we should never

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ever let ourselves get back the first
foot
into that greasy
sticky septic tank because that's how I picture
it. You start going into that septic tank
and your job is to get out just
as fast as you can, whatever it takes
go for a walk, Jump up and down.
You scream
yell. Whatever you need to do, but do

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not let yourself slip too far because you
know and I know what it takes to
get out of that septic tank. I picture
the round 1 that we added at our
house and me going like this trying to
get out hands and feet and the slippery.
Now,
nip it in the bud, nip it in
the bud.
And get up and out and make yourself

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a list
of things you want to think about that
will help
empower you
empower you. Do something physically
empowering whatever that might be.
Do whatever it tape to sharpen your brain.
I take gin and I take go to
colon and I take,
which is a natural amino acid. It's I

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think
lots of people shouldn't be taking it.
But I know that these truths are true
for almost
everyone because no 1. You can't look at
anyone and assume
they've had it easy. I'm
telling you the truth about life.
No 1 will think they've had it easy

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period.
That's true. And I think if they if
they do think that they probably are still
lying to themselves.
And, you know, as maybe... Maybe they have,
and maybe they have, and I would say
that if somebody has really been born with
a fabulous, wonderful,
silver spoon like that or if they have
met their soul in their married to that

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person. Oh, God, bless you. And how fortunate
for you, and that's what gives everybody else
more hope. And the feeling of, yes, that
can be. It is real. Yeah. Absolutely. I
I love that.
And some great
great
ideas there and this...
Yeah. Asking yourself, you know what are you

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lying to yourself about? I think is very
worthwhile.
And I
suspect that there's still gonna be some people
out there who are gonna be, like,
I don't know. I'm not sure that I
can... Maybe that I can even do that.
So
What would you say to someone who's out
there who's listening to this Going?

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I don't know. This this... I don't think
I can do that? Is there any... You
have any other way that I can be
able to...
There's lots of ways. Yeah. And able to
to... You know, to, do do what I
wanna do to be... And not get caught
up in, you know, procrastination and things like
that. And and obviously, I'm sure you have
said this, and I love your daily meditations.

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Thank you so much. You gotta start from
your center, get back in your center. And
when you're in new center at when you
are breathing,
when you can look calmly in your own
eyes in the mirror and say I'm okay.
I'm doing just fine or man, this is
harder for some people. I am

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innocent.
Innocent. Innocence means
I am worthy
of all splendor. I am worthy of all
goodness. I am worthy.
And then
sit down 1 day when you have a
half hour, or maybe an hour with a
pen
and a piece of paper. Don't do it

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out the computer because it works with your
subconscious
so much better because your writing hand is
intimately linked
with your subconscious mind. Write your.
What do you know how to do?
What have you done
and it doesn't mean a job starting a
business. It can mean that too. But I

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am talking about
what have you done and what do you
love that you
adore that makes you you
What do you do if you sing in
the shower if you if you knit and
you love it. Listen. I
I this weekend was just at a fabulous
conference and I am here to tell you,

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and this is not sexist. I wanna say.
I saw
2 women,
1 woman with 1 business, another woman with
another business.
Do with the kinds of businesses where you
would say, well, that is really a a
female kind of thing. 1,
teaches people how to knit sweaters

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and she
online has created a business
making
millions.
Yes.
And another 1 in a similar relate. They
don't know each other. She creates
yarn that she spins by hand and puts
ribbons and things into it and she sells
it to specialty shops and sells to individuals.

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She she too has created a multi million
dollar business. So if you're thinking, hey, the
things I loved. Just couldn't possibly bring in
a good living.
I am here to tell you that whatever
you have to offer whatever
you have to be of service as because
that's what we're doing here, and that's what

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should make you radiate.
That's what should make you powerful. That gets
us to another big, big question here. Is
the feeling of being of service.
And how is yarn being of service
because joy
makes people productive.
Have you ever noticed how an absence of
joy makes you want to do nothing.

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So
Joy is has a value.
Unfortunately,
we haven't yet found a way to as
scribe a dollar value.
To the soft skills to the
emotions, but believe me there is a dollar
value. You knows that and I know that
from the days when I could not get

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myself to move.
And what started off the the writing of
my fifth book, which was the first non
fiction book, I had written 4 fiction books
was being in a place where for 5
months, I could not move.
I had quit my job as an attorney,
my mom who was so close to me
had died, and

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I was getting a divorce.
So, you know, all of that wrapped up
in 1 1 big, big nothing,
and it was that morning that I woke
up and I tell you, I can hear
my angels occasionally. And this 1 said to
me,
Leah,
get a grip.
And I thought, I don't even talk to

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myself like that. I don't even say those
words to anybody.
And that was the morning that I start,
writing 30 days to happiness, which ultimately landed
me beyond Oprah.
You'll
know. I think everyone who is listening has
had a time where that wind was not
in the sails. And you said, where do
I go from here? Sometimes,

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that is a sign of divine what I
call divine discontent. Where you are being chaperone
into the next level, and you don't know
it yet,
but you're feeling something's not quite, there. But
sometimes you are starting to slip into a
state of non happiness,
which could also be called depression, but it

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doesn't have to be not Depression, it could
be neutral. We don't function well in neutral.
Don't believe that for a minute. And anybody
who is here today. Knows what
excitement,
focus,
joy
going for something really feels like. And sometimes
that's driven by a necessity, like when I

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built my first house.
I had to bill it, build it, and
I had to start with what I had,
which was 4000 dollars. Now, that's another topic.
But we
need to feel being in the state of
in love, and That feeling begins stay in
love with our lives.
Don't ever see I hate my life.
See, I love my life. And here's how

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I'm gonna figure out how to love it
more.
That's the next step. And so you look
at what you have to offer the world
and you first need to offer it to
yourself,
Obviously, you do, but you can grow yourself,
you can. You can grow yourself along with
your offering.
Do not become perfect first. Nobody will like
you.

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And you know that's the truth.
So do we, you know, still have struggles?
Sure. Cheaper.
I think... But I think I think also
if you wait to be perfect, you're gonna
be waiting a really long time anyway. So
you need to take action
now. Right? Exactly. Exactly. And you also have
stories you can still remember about how you
did it.

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I mean, I mean, when we were talking
about... I build houses, but now I teach
women how to build their own house for
under 50000 dollars in less than 30 days,
and some women will never do that unless
they had a kick in the pants like
I did. Their My house was worth less
than my mortgage. I wanted to get out
of there. I was gonna have to pay
money to the mortgage company after I sold

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it. And so I said, I've got gotta
have a shelter to go to. I think
I'll build a shelter
4 walls in a roof, and I ended
up building a tooth, story, 2 bedroom, 2
bathroom house
for a very tiny tiny amount of money.
Then I learned how to do wiring,
and plumbing because I found out later how
much that cost. I called my dad and

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said, the plumber gave me an estimate that
equals exactly what I have in this house
that I'm living in already which cha a
roof and walls and a door didn't have
windows yet, but... It had plastic over them.
So that's all of matters. Right? What's all
that matters? You have to have a reason,

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but the reason is also,
you want to know that you have done
the best you can. With what you've been
given. And that is such a fabulous shining
light. You have been you've given yourself your
own marching orders. You have. You agreed, you
agreed before you came here. And so you

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are here to see how far you can
go with what you've got. And there is
no set anything. There's no failure.
There is just How far can you go?
How far can you get? How many people
can you help or how much can you
help yourself?
But just know that you're on a continuum,
and it just gets better and better.

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And that's what you're gonna focus on.
That. And
I do... I'd like that phrase divine discontent.
Mh. That that really struck me because it
it really does...
You know, some people say, oh, well, god
never gives you more than you can handle,
and sometimes when you're in the frozen and
you're thinking. I don't know about that.
But, if you do reframe it as this

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divine
discontent that may be
that, yeah, this...
What is the gift in and this? I
think I think I had program who we
at who who recommended that 1 time and
she said, yeah. Yeah. What is the gift
and this. What is the lesson that I
can learn from this? And yeah. We can
phrase it that way? I think that also
can help us to be able to get
out of that. This Yeah, you know, well

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with me and oh my god, the world's...
World's coming to an end, how am I
ever gonna get out of this. Because you
you will.
And and but I coach people, I coach
entrepreneurs in particular, and that includes authors and
creators
how to come forward.
How to promote what you have by letting
people know who you are. And so when

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you're doing that, just 3 number, when you
get in a tough place, there's gonna be
a good good story that's gonna come out
of this, that you're going to share with
other people. And how is that gonna help?
Because they might be in that spot right
now, and it's going to give them hope.
And if hope could be quantified, it would
be worth billions and billions of dollars.

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That's how everything begins is hope. Yeah.
Absolutely. At and I know we had Sheila
has been commenting,
bless you hurt my lovely friend on on
Facebook, and she says, yeah. Woe was me
is really helpful.
It's like, yeah. That's. That's right. Yeah. Yeah.
I, you know when you said just now,
God never gives us more that we can

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handle.
Everybody out there is saying BSI
know. Exactly. Yeah. I know. You know. II3
were percent too. It's...
Yeah. Well, I said that. I said that
I adopted a beautiful daughter, and she was
8 when I adopted her and then we
found out all of the acronyms. That came
with her, didn't know that. Didn't know that.

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Didn't know that and got kicked in the
stomach and kicked...
Horrible things had happened to me, and I
was talking to the universe a lot about
this. Here. Now I just kept saying there
is a reason for this.
And you know now I say, thank you
universe.
I thought I knew how to teach emotional
intelligence. I have just gotten. A whole 50

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percent additional.
Yeah. Yeah. I I love these lessons that
we can't. Yeah.
Without like we're not. She's 17, and I'm
still learning these lessons. Oh, yeah, yeah. You'll
you'll just continue. I think. As parents we
never stop learning. And and that's exactly. It
is a big chore. Big step. Yeah. And

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our kids are... Greatest teachers sometimes. I've... I
know I've learned a lot from them. Yes.
And they're not gonna learn from us until
they turn 35.
I'm convinced that.
Hundred now. In the twenties mid twenties. They
were they were starting to come in. I
totally. III want to believe you. Thank you.
Yeah. Yes.
Oh, my goodness.

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I wanna ask you this question, but because
I know we're we're starting to run on
time, but I still love asking my guests
this question. So...
What are you curious about right now? Oh,
I am curious about how to help the
brain heal itself? And Working on new modalities
to do that, 1 called
neuro feedback therapy. And I'm curious because I

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know that also we are spirit operating through
body. We need to know how to help
our brains. And
as all of us are going to grow
and live to be a hundred and 15
healthy,
we want our brains to be just as
powerfully
functioning.
And so I am curious about that. It's

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a... But I think also, as we well
know, you can have an operation and lose
half your brain, and then find out your
brain
can go back to reconnecting. So we we
are learning a lot about how the brain
functions, and it cha,
Yeah. It does it does me too. I'm
I'm I was fortunate

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that
my... When my sister passed, which was not
the... Not the fortune thing. However, she did
have a level library.
And some of the books she had were
about the brain, and I I know 1
of them was, like, how to make a
great... Or how to make a great bring...
Or how to make your brain great or
something like that.
By Norman Voyage and and just
really interesting stuff. And so I'm always

(31:57):
I'm always kicking out on that as well.
So... Yeah. And I and I wanna tell
people, there's more than what you might hear
from your doctor because, they're have been so
many remedies that have been known and especially
this for narrow feedback therapy since 19 70.
I I really a book called the a
symphony in the brain.
Talks about this, and I've used this and

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worked it for a 18... And an 18
month span, but my daughter was a little
too Adhd to be able to sit still.
But It it really is something that if
you have anyone in your family that needs
help that way. And even for aging,
aging real,
everybody needs a boost. And I think that,
you know, I think the

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dehydration starts affecting the brain in different ways.
With age far more profoundly than it ever
did, but when we were younger, we're having
a heat wave in the United States right
now, and all over the world.
Everybody needs to hydrate if you've got the
water nearby and blessings to those people who
don't. I, you know. But to just remember

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that that is part of why you can
sometimes feel depressed is hydration. It can be
a physical route
And so look at that first and say,
how hydrated it was a yesterday.
It's not about what you did 4 hours
ago. It's what you did 12 and 24
hours ago.
Wow. That's a...

(33:23):
Makes so much sense I haven't really thought
of it in that terms, especially about the
day before. Because you do is sometimes think,
you know, maybe it is it is, you
know, yeah. Just maybe earlier today or something
like that. But Right. But it does make
sense. I mean, because we are, what 80...
80 percent water or something like that. So
we need to make sure that we have
that,

(33:43):
absolutely. And when adults start feeling thirsty, they
are extremely
dehydrated.
Children feel thirst before they're super dehydrated, but
adults lose the ability to track their level
of hydration.
Starts very early on. So keep drinking the
water, and even if you don't think your
thirsty hydrate.

(34:05):
Words to the wise. I appreciate that. I
work outside building houses. And yeah know. You
know how are close. Yeah. And I've and
I've done I've done races and then things
before when I was when I was running
and so, yeah. I know how important it
is to stay hydrated for that.
And you can't do it all in 1
gl. You have to do it gently over

(34:26):
time. Yeah. Yeah. Because because otherwise, if you
have too much, you ingest too much at
once that's another problem. Yeah. You mess up
the electrolytes. Yeah. So you can't do that,
but but you start, you know, like slipping
through a straw almost continuously.
But this isn't an important piece because, yes.
The worthiness, they the the feelings about oneself

(34:46):
are the most important. And So I'm saying
let's is a netted it out is learn
how to speak nicely to yourself. Learn how
to be your own best cheerleader.
Learn how to be okay with praising how
you sound,
how you talk how you walk, how you

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look
because you need to be at peace with
yourself, and
especially if you're going to be in front
of a camera, especially as someone who is
an entrepreneur or a writer or a creative,
you must learn how to let yourself shine.
Let
yourself shine.
Absolutely.

(35:26):
This has been
amazing, which I knew it was going to
be, and you are
you're you are amazing, and I love all
of the things that you have done and
continue to do and all those wonderful,
advice that you shared with our audience today.
I know it was it was helpful, and
and it really does

(35:46):
start with being kind to yourself.
Because
if if you wouldn't
say things to your best friend that we're
hurtful,
why are you're saying them to yourself? Exactly.
Exactly.
And it pushes out all the garbage. Just
remember. The challenge, you're being challenged.
It's it's it's...
Intended to be challenging to you. It is

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your time now to push that garbage away
forever,
disintegrate it, disintegrate it. Absolutely. And you won't
have to deal with it quite so intensely
ever again. And like, come back. Yes. And
and I'm glad you brought that up too
because I know sometimes, and and I've had
experienced this myself, it's like, you know, when
am I ever gonna be fixed.

(36:30):
And I've learned is that we're we're never
quite fixed. However, we do continue to kind
of keep moving up and moving up and
so... You know, you are gonna take a
step down once in a while, but then
you can go back and take 2 more
steps forward and you're gonna keep keep both
at it. Yeah. And something else for women
especially, quit second guessing yourself, and trust your

(36:51):
gut, trust yourself. And then quit analyzing every
conversation you had with the last conversation on
the phone or in person or at a
party,
stop it, don't bring it up to yourself
ever again. Move it forward. Think of yourself
as a duck. That the water just... The
droplets just flow off of they do not

(37:13):
penetrate.
Absolutely like.
Yeah. We're sure.
Alright. Well, I know
people have been listening to
our conversation today listening to you. I and
are gonna wanna know more about you so
how can people
contact you. What's the best part, definitely, you
can go to my website, life craft, a

(37:33):
k in craft, like my last name, life
craft dot com,
and you can sign up for my newsletter.
I can let you know where I'm building,
when I'm doing a workshop. I also have
Youtube channels, It 1 is life craft with
Leah k k.
That's easy. And the other 1 is home
for,

(37:54):
number 4, the heart.
Home for the heart and it's a simple
age in a circle, but it will show
you a video of the house, I ever
built. And I built it for less than
25000
dollars. But what I telling you is you
can build for under 50000 dollars after you
have the piece of land,
and the infrastructure in, the water, the electric,

(38:17):
is the septic. But I want to share
this with you. It is all doable, and
that is how we build wealth as women.
Women need to own homes.
Yeah. Absolutely. And I I can attest to
the video that the house was amazing.
I I watched it some time ago, and
and I didn't even go back and Rewatch
it, and I will have all that information

(38:38):
in the show notes as well. So if
you are, you know, listening to the somewhere
where you don't have pen and go to
Live love engage podcast dot com, and you'll
be able to get all of that information.
So thank you so much, Leah for with
us today I really enjoyed it. Thank you.
You are awesome. Thank you so much for
sharing this information and for inviting me. Oh,

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thank you. And I also want to
give a shout out. I know I've teased
this
empty times in the past. But I've finally
got here today. And I wanna shout it
out some of the, Apple reviewers
of this podcast.
So Jewel H and June Edward in the
United States, and also, doctor Mike, who listens

(39:21):
to the show in the Philippines. So thank
you. Thank you so much for the kind
words you left on
Apple about the podcast. I really appreciate that
you are out there. And if you're not
subscribed yet. I hope this will encourage you
to do so on
Apple or went of other podcast platform, you
listen. It's it's perfectly fine with me.

(39:42):
And
I think that's gonna do it for this
addition, I'll love live love engaged so until
next time,
I encourage you to go out and.
Live fully,
love deeply and engage.
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