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Matt Boettger (00:07):
Are you living the most real life possible?
I ask myself this question allthe time.
Most of the time, the answer isI just don't know, but sometimes
the answer is definitely not.
This is why I had his podcast.
I'm Matt Boettger and welcome
to the show.
Two small things.
If you get a chance, pleaseleave a review like on Apple
podcasts and also check out mywebsite, live in the real.com
(00:31):
where I offer lots of resourceson how to live the most real
life possible now on with theshow.
All right, so welcome to episode15.
Oh, living the real, and I havea huge apology to make, and that
is I haven't had an episode inover a month.
There's a reason for that.
I want to talk to you about thattoday right now, but I wanna
start with the title of thisepisodes podcast, and that is,
(00:54):
are you a visionary or a victimthat might sound like maybe a
false dichotomy, but look, giveme a few minutes to kind of just
unfolded.
So it helps to make sensebecause here's the reason why
I've been gone for like, I thinkfive weeks or six weeks off this
podcast, because I had to giveit up.
Temporarily, but I've beenworking on a beta coaching
(01:14):
program.
This is something that I havebeen working on for a year, has
been on my heart and mind, andfinally got the traction to
really start leveraging, puttingthings together, getting some
clients to be onboarded andpractice it.
And then begin to develop it.
And I'm excited to share some ofthe stuff that I've been
developing with you today andencourage you to check it out.
(01:36):
So before we even get to theend, yes.
At the end, we're going to talkabout my beta coaching program.
And if you're interested, youcan go to living the
real.com/coaching and get in onit while it's cheap.
This is going be cheapest.
It will ever be because once Iam done, which should be in
about the next month or so,begin to, to move up the price
to its regular.
(01:56):
Cost, but it right now is a fourweek coaching session.
You're gonna hear more about it,but what I want to start with is
this question.
Are you a victim or a visionary?
And where does this come from?
I've learned this in my own lifeover and over and over and over
that.
Another way to ask thequestions.
Do you have a clear and concretevision for your life?
Oftentimes, we just let this gofor businesses, small businesses
(02:20):
or people who are incorporations and they have a
vision plan.
They have an offsite and theyhave a whole day dedicated to it
and that's it.
Right.
But personally, and I work withclients to develop visions,
right?
Business, small businesses fortheir business, but rarely.
Rarely do we create a vision forour own personal life?
And this is the most excitingthing for me, because this is
(02:41):
where my heart's at helpingindividual people leverage their
life so that life no longerhappens to them, but they happen
to life.
I want you to have that in themost critical component on this
is happy to vision for yourlife, because if you don't have
a vision, a concrete one, aclear, not this kind of, yeah.
I've got a kind of an idea ofwhat I want my life to be.
(03:01):
Right.
That's not going to cut it.
That's going to make you driftthrough life and you're going to
have life happen to you.
And you're going to have yourlife be full of regrets and
maybe even resentments.
And I don't want that for you.
And I don't want that for me.
And so I'm going to sharesomething about the importance
of having a vision and what thatmeans for your life right now,
(03:22):
because if you don't, thenyou're playing the victim card.
So how is that?
Does it sound dramatic?
It probably does, but it iswell, here's, here's a couple of
ways by which if you don't havea concrete vision in your life
right now, you are a victim.
Number one, the one thatprobably is the closest to
people's minds and hearts rightnow, if you're listening to this
right.
Is the idea of drifting throughlife.
(03:43):
If you don't have a vision, youdon't have a North star that's
concrete, that's specific.
Then you are drifting throughlife, which means life happens
to you.
And what's the definition of avictim.
It's wide.
It's all this stuff happened tome, right?
You're a victim of life,external, external locus of
control, right?
This idea that the world happensto you when you just don't have
(04:04):
a control.
There's nothing you can do.
You're just a victim, right?
If you don't have a vision, thenyou're a victim in that, right.
That's probably the mostobvious, but there is a more
subtle way by which we arevictims and that is
opportunistic people.
Now, if you don't have a vision,you may be still successful.
You still might be doing wellfor yourself or maybe not.
(04:27):
And the reason why is becauseyou don't have a vision and you
happen to be opportunistic,which is better than playing the
victim card by far.
But it's not fulfilling andliving.
The real is all about living themost fulfilling life possible.
So means you gotta have a visionbecause if you are opportunistic
well, then again, you react tolife, right?
(04:47):
There's an opportunity we shouldtake it right.
Or another option.
We should take it.
And so you find yourself withthese kinds of short term wins
and maybe even sustainable foryears to come.
But there's a problem with this.
You, you have success, but itcomes to the cost of your soul.
Or the soul of your business,because once you chase what
opportunity for another, youbegin to find yourself in
(05:08):
another way, drifting throughlife, through successes.
And in the end, what you have ismaybe a pile of money or some
money, but not anything that wasfulfilling that reached the
depths of your soul and made yousuccessful.
That's the point?
It's both and not either, or.
If you don't have a vision, thisis what you're going to end up
(05:28):
being either a, a victim, acurmudgeon and old man woman who
was just bitter about life,because life happened to you
your entire life, or you'resimply opportunistic and you
chase one opportunity to next.
Sometimes not getting it.
And so you find another one andthen you drift in another way
through opportunity uponopportunity, which is better
(05:49):
than a victim, but you're findyourself completely utterly
unfulfilled in the end and havea decent amount of regrets by
the way.
So the best and most powerfulway is to be a visionary.
For yourself and not be avictim.
This means you happen to lifebecause now you have a compass,
you have a direction that youwant to go, that you desire to
(06:11):
go.
And now you are not a victim.
You're not reactive, right?
As the opportunistic person isthe reacting towards life, but
you're now proactive.
You are happening to life andthat's the most important thing
you can give to the world.
Whoever you are listening, youwere unrepeatable.
You have complete and utterunrepeatable value.
(06:31):
And while you're here on thisearth is to provide that
unrepeatable value to the world,which means you need to happen
to the world and not have theworld happen to you.
Now I get it all these, thesetrite, right?
Cliche things.
Yes.
The world does happen to us onoccasion every once in a while.
There's this weird thing calleda pandemic that happens.
And then it shuts us down.
(06:52):
Right.
But that is the exception to therule, right?
That's what I want for you tobe, of course, things happen,
whereas life becomesoverwhelming and then you have
to pivot for a temporary periodof time.
But even that with your visionis still under your control.
You were deciding to pivot.
To change directions for Xamount of time to get things
under control and then reapplyyour vision to your life, or
(07:16):
even a better way, which I tellsome of my clients, you don't
let go of the vision.
You don't press pause.
You just reduced the amount ofenergy you expend on it.
During those, those tough times.
Normally you're cranking out 25%of your week or 30% of your week
or whatever, a 10% of your week,right towards this vision.
But in these difficult times,you give 1%.
(07:37):
It's still a top of mind.
It's still there like a burningcoal and you keep it burning so
that when you're ready andyou're ready to put the dump,
the other coals on top of it, itcan get a flame as well.
So I want to talk to you about,about this idea of a vision.
Now, for me in part of mycoaching program, if you don't
know already living the reelsbase off three major criteria is
(08:01):
three frameworks, and that isthe first one margin.
This idea of expanding the spacein your life.
In such a way by which then youcan then reallocate real energy
to your life to something great.
We know what it's like to have alittle margin or life, little
space, whether it's time, we'rerunning from one thing to the
(08:21):
next, right.
And then constantly beingfrantic and we're exhausted in
the day or emotional margin.
We're constantly in our.
Feeling these down and negativethoughts to the point where we
have no energy left.
This constant margin is the mostimportant part of my living.
The real framework that you donot begin to address this.
You can have all the time in theworld, but if you, but if you
(08:43):
don't have the energy, you justcan't get going.
So you need to have the energyand the time available.
So margin is the foundationstone of the living, the real
coaching program, understandingwhat are those areas by which we
are being sucked dry.
Some of these things I talkabout and I use within my
coaching program, we talk aboutthe older life and building a
(09:05):
foundation by which we have astrong anchor it's like that,
that scriptural passage aboutbuilding upon sand.
Or upon dry ground that we don'twant to build upon sand by which
then when life happens to us andthose rare occurrences or
whatever it may be that we justsink.
We can't deal with it.
We want to be built on a solidfoundation so we can handle and
weather the storms greatly inour own life.
(09:28):
And in the margin, we talkedabout the types of margin, the
core margin, the emotionalmargin in our life, and those
kinds of things, as well as thepractical margin in our life,
there is the finances, thethings that we do, the finances,
the environment around us, itmight be too cluttered.
That just makes us feel as ifwe're suffocating.
These are all important aspectsto consider.
Right away up front because wedon't have the energy we'll then
(09:50):
we're going nowhere.
Right.
We don't have anything.
We're we're we're we, we can'teven get to the starting line.
I use a mindset pyramid was inmy coaching program to help
unfold our deep experience ofour life for our past.
And see about how thoseexperiences his childhood as an
a young adult has really shapedour beliefs and our emotions and
(10:12):
these things that havecontributed to the results we
don't want in our life and suckthe margin out of us.
So that's indispensable.
And my second was momentum.
Then now we need a bit, build aplan for a life and move
forward.
And this is what I wanna talkabout today in this idea of a
vision funnel.
It's something that I use in mycoaching program as a powerful
agent of change.
(10:33):
And here's why, becauseoftentimes what I hear about
visions is problematic.
The first one is when I do avision, it isn't to being fuzzy
and abstract, right.
It doesn't really go anywhere.
It's just emotion.
It's pointless.
Right?
My vision funnel specificallyaddresses that because I know
what it's like to have a visionI've done years ago, and it's
(10:55):
just abstract, fuzzy and goesnowhere.
And I want it to have teeth havespecificity that it actually,
doesn't only evoke emotion, butit evokes direction in your
life.
And my vision funnel doesexactly that.
And I walk you through it stepby step.
The second problem is that theidea of shelf life syndrome, I
call it as idea that you get avision and Hey, it's good.
(11:17):
It's awesome.
But then it sits on your shelfor it sits on some random
folder.
In your, on your Mac, on yourPC.
And the last time you touchedthat folder was 2008.
It does nothing.
It's just a merit badge for you,but doesn't have anything to do
with your life.
The third one is that it's notintegrated into your daily life,
(11:37):
but yeah, I got a vision.
I look at it actually regularly.
I see it, but I don't reallyhave a way by which I
specifically use it.
In a way to move my daily lifeforward.
All three of these things aredirectly addressed and fixed
through my vision funnel thatyou have a powerful vision of
way of life that is specific andclear that it's, it is actively
(12:01):
in front of you actually everyday in my 3m framework, though,
margin momentum and maintenance.
We'll talk about in just asecond, as well as, as deeply
integrate into your daily life.
So that at least in the bareminimum, You are making a 1%
move towards your vision everyday in some small way.
So this is the big problems.
(12:22):
The vision funnels solves all ofthis,
and
I wouldn't encourage you right now to, at
this point in time in December,the new year is about to happen.
It's almost 2021.
Thank God and make this 2021 thebest year of your life, the most
fulfilling year of your life.
And it will not happen.
I guarantee you woman happenedin the context of the same stuff
(12:44):
you might be doing right now.
You're going to drift.
You're going to be reactiveopportunistic, but what you will
not be is a visionary.
I
want to help you be that.
And right now, this is the besttime by which you can get on
right now and be my betacoaching plan to help me right.
Develop it further at a stronglydiscounted price.
(13:06):
And benefit.
You greatly prepare you to havean enormously successful January
in 2021.
And if you don't jump on boardgoing live in the
real.com/coaching.
Right now, I'm offering a free30 minute just consultation.
We hang for 30 minutes.
Talk about what's going on inyour life and how I could be a
resource for you.
(13:27):
If it doesn't work, no big deal.
There's no pressure.
And if it works out, that'sgreat.
But now it's the time to jump onboard.
I talked about margin and wetalk about it in the coaching
framework, I talked aboutmomentum and the vision plan,
and there's other things in thecontext of my plan, that's going
to help you tremendouslyleverage your vision funnel,
turn it into a profound plan andyou get the accountability with
(13:50):
me to ensure that it launcheswell.
And hopefully you will havecontinued accountability along
the way.
And then I last M of the 3mframework for living the real is
maintenance, margin, momentum,maintenance, and that's where
the systems come into place.
I'm an advocate that systems dosave.
They save, I had a businessclient one time constantly
(14:12):
telling me how over and over andover that they just got the
wrong people over and over,over.
And that's why their businesswas just not being that
successful.
Year after year after year, theyhave high turnover.
It's not the right people andwe've got to get the right
people.
There's always a large partialtruth in that statement, but
(14:34):
there is a bigger truth to beheld.
And that is the systems thatthey had in place were
insufficient for their successin that was dragging them down
more than the dysfunctionalpeople.
How do I know this?
I think just intuitively look atthe skyscrapers around you in
big cities, New York, city,Chicago, and you look of how
(14:55):
many people it took to developand construct architect build
that infrastructure.
Thousands, thousands uponthousands of individuals down to
the there's, the architects tothe laborers everywhere.
Do you think now?
There's no doubt in my mind thatyou need to have precision when
(15:17):
you develop and build askyscraper, right?
an inch off could be absolutelydestructive, right?
To a skyscraper.
Precision is absolutelyindispensable yet thousands and
thousands of workers cometogether to put this whole
skyscraper together, almostflawlessly.
(15:37):
And are you going to tell methat everything single
individual worker in there wasthe most functional, highly
competent individual you couldpossibly ever imagine?
Of course not.
Of course I guarantee you, therewere dozens.
If not hundreds of dysfunctionalworkers yet the plans still came
out perfectly.
(15:57):
Well, why?
Because system's safe.
When you're putting on askyscraper, you've got to have
the right systems in place andthe accountability to make sure
that gets done.
And so for your own life, themaintenance last pillar is all
about ensuring that you have theright systems in place in your
life, technologically, and justhabitually to be able to not
(16:17):
only crush your plan, but keepthe rest of your life under
control as well in a way that'sfulfilling and not stressful.
And so there we are in the thirdpillar of the framework
discussing where you at in yourframework, in your systems and
helping you incorporate thisawesome plan, which is a 12 week
(16:38):
plan in to your daily life withstrong accountability.
So if you are interested, Iencourage you.
It is a great, an awesomeopportunity.
Right now to get on it beforethe new year begins every week,
you get a class online by whichyou watch.
And then on top of that, you getweekly coaching sessions with me
(17:01):
one week of a class and margintwo weeks on momentum and one
week on maintenance, whichreally should be two to three
weeks, which I might change downthe road relatively soon.
Classes on each one of those.
And then of course, weeklycoaching sessions to help you
integrate it deeply into yourown life.
So that by the time we're done,we're set.
We're good.
(17:22):
We have a plan in action and isbeginning to work.
So I encourage you check outliving the real.com/coaching and
begin to live as a visionary andnot just a victim.
And if you don't do that morethan anything, I encourage you,
please, please, please use thismonth in December to cultivate a
vision for your life.
(17:42):
Make 2021 count 2020 sucked.
It was tough and it was hard forme at times to live my own
paradigm of living the real andseeing where is a gift in this?
What does this make possible forme?
Yet, I dove deep into those hardquestions.
(18:04):
And every time I came out withan answer and it lifted my heart
and my soul and having a visionalongside me to keep me going is
what kept me optimistic, joyful,and focused this 2020.
And I hope that is for you in2021.
Okay.
I'm hopefully back in the seatof air in these podcasts while
(18:27):
regularly.
I hope you have a wonderfulweek.
I will see you next episode.
Again, check out living thereal.com/coaching.
Get a free 30 minutes with me ofhow I can help.
Move your life forward and haveyou have the best 2021 the most
fulfilling year of your life.
Take care.
Bye bye.
Thank you for listening to thisepisode of living the real.
(18:48):
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Take care.
Bye-bye.
Are you living the most real life possible?
I ask myself this question allthe time.
Most of the time, the answer isI just don't know, but sometimes
the answer is definitely not.
This is why I had his podcast.
I'm Matt Boettger and welcome
to the show.
Two small things.
If you get a chance, pleaseleave a review like on Apple
podcasts and also check out mywebsite, live in the real.com
(00:31):
where I offer lots of resourceson how to live the most real
life possible now on with theshow.
All right, so welcome to episode15.
Oh, living the real, and I havea huge apology to make, and that
is I haven't had an episode inover a month.
There's a reason for that.
I want to talk to you about thattoday right now, but I wanna
start with the title of thisepisodes podcast, and that is,
(00:54):
are you a visionary or a victimthat might sound like maybe a
false dichotomy, but look, giveme a few minutes to kind of just
unfolded.
So it helps to make sensebecause here's the reason why
I've been gone for like, I thinkfive weeks or six weeks off this
podcast, because I had to giveit up.
Temporarily, but I've beenworking on a beta coaching
(01:14):
program.
This is something that I havebeen working on for a year, has
been on my heart and mind, andfinally got the traction to
really start leveraging, puttingthings together, getting some
clients to be onboarded andpractice it.
And then begin to develop it.
And I'm excited to share some ofthe stuff that I've been
developing with you today andencourage you to check it out.
(01:36):
So before we even get to theend, yes.
At the end, we're going to talkabout my beta coaching program.
And if you're interested, youcan go to living the
real.com/coaching and get in onit while it's cheap.
This is going be cheapest.
It will ever be because once Iam done, which should be in
about the next month or so,begin to, to move up the price
to its regular.
(01:56):
Cost, but it right now is a fourweek coaching session.
You're gonna hear more about it,but what I want to start with is
this question.
Are you a victim or a visionary?
And where does this come from?
I've learned this in my own lifeover and over and over and over
that.
Another way to ask thequestions.
Do you have a clear and concretevision for your life?
Oftentimes, we just let this gofor businesses, small businesses
(02:20):
or people who are incorporations and they have a
vision plan.
They have an offsite and theyhave a whole day dedicated to it
and that's it.
Right.
But personally, and I work withclients to develop visions,
right?
Business, small businesses fortheir business, but rarely.
Rarely do we create a vision forour own personal life?
And this is the most excitingthing for me, because this is
(02:41):
where my heart's at helpingindividual people leverage their
life so that life no longerhappens to them, but they happen
to life.
I want you to have that in themost critical component on this
is happy to vision for yourlife, because if you don't have
a vision, a concrete one, aclear, not this kind of, yeah.
I've got a kind of an idea ofwhat I want my life to be.
(03:01):
Right.
That's not going to cut it.
That's going to make you driftthrough life and you're going to
have life happen to you.
And you're going to have yourlife be full of regrets and
maybe even resentments.
And I don't want that for you.
And I don't want that for me.
And so I'm going to sharesomething about the importance
of having a vision and what thatmeans for your life right now,
(03:22):
because if you don't, thenyou're playing the victim card.
So how is that?
Does it sound dramatic?
It probably does, but it iswell, here's, here's a couple of
ways by which if you don't havea concrete vision in your life
right now, you are a victim.
Number one, the one thatprobably is the closest to
people's minds and hearts rightnow, if you're listening to this
right.
Is the idea of drifting throughlife.
(03:43):
If you don't have a vision, youdon't have a North star that's
concrete, that's specific.
Then you are drifting throughlife, which means life happens
to you.
And what's the definition of avictim.
It's wide.
It's all this stuff happened tome, right?
You're a victim of life,external, external locus of
control, right?
This idea that the world happensto you when you just don't have
(04:04):
a control.
There's nothing you can do.
You're just a victim, right?
If you don't have a vision, thenyou're a victim in that, right.
That's probably the mostobvious, but there is a more
subtle way by which we arevictims and that is
opportunistic people.
Now, if you don't have a vision,you may be still successful.
You still might be doing wellfor yourself or maybe not.
(04:27):
And the reason why is becauseyou don't have a vision and you
happen to be opportunistic,which is better than playing the
victim card by far.
But it's not fulfilling andliving.
The real is all about living themost fulfilling life possible.
So means you gotta have a visionbecause if you are opportunistic
well, then again, you react tolife, right?
(04:47):
There's an opportunity we shouldtake it right.
Or another option.
We should take it.
And so you find yourself withthese kinds of short term wins
and maybe even sustainable foryears to come.
But there's a problem with this.
You, you have success, but itcomes to the cost of your soul.
Or the soul of your business,because once you chase what
opportunity for another, youbegin to find yourself in
(05:08):
another way, drifting throughlife, through successes.
And in the end, what you have ismaybe a pile of money or some
money, but not anything that wasfulfilling that reached the
depths of your soul and made yousuccessful.
That's the point?
It's both and not either, or.
If you don't have a vision, thisis what you're going to end up
(05:28):
being either a, a victim, acurmudgeon and old man woman who
was just bitter about life,because life happened to you
your entire life, or you'resimply opportunistic and you
chase one opportunity to next.
Sometimes not getting it.
And so you find another one andthen you drift in another way
through opportunity uponopportunity, which is better
(05:49):
than a victim, but you're findyourself completely utterly
unfulfilled in the end and havea decent amount of regrets by
the way.
So the best and most powerfulway is to be a visionary.
For yourself and not be avictim.
This means you happen to lifebecause now you have a compass,
you have a direction that youwant to go, that you desire to
(06:11):
go.
And now you are not a victim.
You're not reactive, right?
As the opportunistic person isthe reacting towards life, but
you're now proactive.
You are happening to life andthat's the most important thing
you can give to the world.
Whoever you are listening, youwere unrepeatable.
You have complete and utterunrepeatable value.
(06:31):
And while you're here on thisearth is to provide that
unrepeatable value to the world,which means you need to happen
to the world and not have theworld happen to you.
Now I get it all these, thesetrite, right?
Cliche things.
Yes.
The world does happen to us onoccasion every once in a while.
There's this weird thing calleda pandemic that happens.
And then it shuts us down.
(06:52):
Right.
But that is the exception to therule, right?
That's what I want for you tobe, of course, things happen,
whereas life becomesoverwhelming and then you have
to pivot for a temporary periodof time.
But even that with your visionis still under your control.
You were deciding to pivot.
To change directions for Xamount of time to get things
under control and then reapplyyour vision to your life, or
(07:16):
even a better way, which I tellsome of my clients, you don't
let go of the vision.
You don't press pause.
You just reduced the amount ofenergy you expend on it.
During those, those tough times.
Normally you're cranking out 25%of your week or 30% of your week
or whatever, a 10% of your week,right towards this vision.
But in these difficult times,you give 1%.
(07:37):
It's still a top of mind.
It's still there like a burningcoal and you keep it burning so
that when you're ready andyou're ready to put the dump,
the other coals on top of it, itcan get a flame as well.
So I want to talk to you about,about this idea of a vision.
Now, for me in part of mycoaching program, if you don't
know already living the reelsbase off three major criteria is
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three frameworks, and that isthe first one margin.
This idea of expanding the spacein your life.
In such a way by which then youcan then reallocate real energy
to your life to something great.
We know what it's like to have alittle margin or life, little
space, whether it's time, we'rerunning from one thing to the
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next, right.
And then constantly beingfrantic and we're exhausted in
the day or emotional margin.
We're constantly in our.
Feeling these down and negativethoughts to the point where we
have no energy left.
This constant margin is the mostimportant part of my living.
The real framework that you donot begin to address this.
You can have all the time in theworld, but if you, but if you
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don't have the energy, you justcan't get going.
So you need to have the energyand the time available.
So margin is the foundationstone of the living, the real
coaching program, understandingwhat are those areas by which we
are being sucked dry.
Some of these things I talkabout and I use within my
coaching program, we talk aboutthe older life and building a
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foundation by which we have astrong anchor it's like that,
that scriptural passage aboutbuilding upon sand.
Or upon dry ground that we don'twant to build upon sand by which
then when life happens to us andthose rare occurrences or
whatever it may be that we justsink.
We can't deal with it.
We want to be built on a solidfoundation so we can handle and
weather the storms greatly inour own life.
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And in the margin, we talkedabout the types of margin, the
core margin, the emotionalmargin in our life, and those
kinds of things, as well as thepractical margin in our life,
there is the finances, thethings that we do, the finances,
the environment around us, itmight be too cluttered.
That just makes us feel as ifwe're suffocating.
These are all important aspectsto consider.
Right away up front because wedon't have the energy we'll then
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we're going nowhere.
Right.
We don't have anything.
We're we're we're we, we can'teven get to the starting line.
I use a mindset pyramid was inmy coaching program to help
unfold our deep experience ofour life for our past.
And see about how thoseexperiences his childhood as an
a young adult has really shapedour beliefs and our emotions and
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these things that havecontributed to the results we
don't want in our life and suckthe margin out of us.
So that's indispensable.
And my second was momentum.
Then now we need a bit, build aplan for a life and move
forward.
And this is what I wanna talkabout today in this idea of a
vision funnel.
It's something that I use in mycoaching program as a powerful
agent of change.
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And here's why, becauseoftentimes what I hear about
visions is problematic.
The first one is when I do avision, it isn't to being fuzzy
and abstract, right.
It doesn't really go anywhere.
It's just emotion.
It's pointless.
Right?
My vision funnel specificallyaddresses that because I know
what it's like to have a visionI've done years ago, and it's
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just abstract, fuzzy and goesnowhere.
And I want it to have teeth havespecificity that it actually,
doesn't only evoke emotion, butit evokes direction in your
life.
And my vision funnel doesexactly that.
And I walk you through it stepby step.
The second problem is that theidea of shelf life syndrome, I
call it as idea that you get avision and Hey, it's good.
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It's awesome.
But then it sits on your shelfor it sits on some random
folder.
In your, on your Mac, on yourPC.
And the last time you touchedthat folder was 2008.
It does nothing.
It's just a merit badge for you,but doesn't have anything to do
with your life.
The third one is that it's notintegrated into your daily life,
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but yeah, I got a vision.
I look at it actually regularly.
I see it, but I don't reallyhave a way by which I
specifically use it.
In a way to move my daily lifeforward.
All three of these things aredirectly addressed and fixed
through my vision funnel thatyou have a powerful vision of
way of life that is specific andclear that it's, it is actively
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in front of you actually everyday in my 3m framework, though,
margin momentum and maintenance.
We'll talk about in just asecond, as well as, as deeply
integrate into your daily life.
So that at least in the bareminimum, You are making a 1%
move towards your vision everyday in some small way.
So this is the big problems.
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The vision funnels solves all ofthis,
and
I wouldn't encourage you right now to, at
this point in time in December,the new year is about to happen.
It's almost 2021.
Thank God and make this 2021 thebest year of your life, the most
fulfilling year of your life.
And it will not happen.
I guarantee you woman happenedin the context of the same stuff
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you might be doing right now.
You're going to drift.
You're going to be reactiveopportunistic, but what you will
not be is a visionary.
I
want to help you be that.
And right now, this is the besttime by which you can get on
right now and be my betacoaching plan to help me right.
Develop it further at a stronglydiscounted price.
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And benefit.
You greatly prepare you to havean enormously successful January
in 2021.
And if you don't jump on boardgoing live in the
real.com/coaching.
Right now, I'm offering a free30 minute just consultation.
We hang for 30 minutes.
Talk about what's going on inyour life and how I could be a
resource for you.
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If it doesn't work, no big deal.
There's no pressure.
And if it works out, that'sgreat.
But now it's the time to jump onboard.
I talked about margin and wetalk about it in the coaching
framework, I talked aboutmomentum and the vision plan,
and there's other things in thecontext of my plan, that's going
to help you tremendouslyleverage your vision funnel,
turn it into a profound plan andyou get the accountability with
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me to ensure that it launcheswell.
And hopefully you will havecontinued accountability along
the way.
And then I last M of the 3mframework for living the real is
maintenance, margin, momentum,maintenance, and that's where
the systems come into place.
I'm an advocate that systems dosave.
They save, I had a businessclient one time constantly
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telling me how over and over andover that they just got the
wrong people over and over,over.
And that's why their businesswas just not being that
successful.
Year after year after year, theyhave high turnover.
It's not the right people andwe've got to get the right
people.
There's always a large partialtruth in that statement, but
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there is a bigger truth to beheld.
And that is the systems thatthey had in place were
insufficient for their successin that was dragging them down
more than the dysfunctionalpeople.
How do I know this?
I think just intuitively look atthe skyscrapers around you in
big cities, New York, city,Chicago, and you look of how
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many people it took to developand construct architect build
that infrastructure.
Thousands, thousands uponthousands of individuals down to
the there's, the architects tothe laborers everywhere.
Do you think now?
There's no doubt in my mind thatyou need to have precision when
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you develop and build askyscraper, right?
an inch off could be absolutelydestructive, right?
To a skyscraper.
Precision is absolutelyindispensable yet thousands and
thousands of workers cometogether to put this whole
skyscraper together, almostflawlessly.
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And are you going to tell methat everything single
individual worker in there wasthe most functional, highly
competent individual you couldpossibly ever imagine?
Of course not.
Of course I guarantee you, therewere dozens.
If not hundreds of dysfunctionalworkers yet the plans still came
out perfectly.
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Well, why?
Because system's safe.
When you're putting on askyscraper, you've got to have
the right systems in place andthe accountability to make sure
that gets done.
And so for your own life, themaintenance last pillar is all
about ensuring that you have theright systems in place in your
life, technologically, and justhabitually to be able to not
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only crush your plan, but keepthe rest of your life under
control as well in a way that'sfulfilling and not stressful.
And so there we are in the thirdpillar of the framework
discussing where you at in yourframework, in your systems and
helping you incorporate thisawesome plan, which is a 12 week
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plan in to your daily life withstrong accountability.
So if you are interested, Iencourage you.
It is a great, an awesomeopportunity.
Right now to get on it beforethe new year begins every week,
you get a class online by whichyou watch.
And then on top of that, you getweekly coaching sessions with me
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one week of a class and margintwo weeks on momentum and one
week on maintenance, whichreally should be two to three
weeks, which I might change downthe road relatively soon.
Classes on each one of those.
And then of course, weeklycoaching sessions to help you
integrate it deeply into yourown life.
So that by the time we're done,we're set.
We're good.
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We have a plan in action and isbeginning to work.
So I encourage you check outliving the real.com/coaching and
begin to live as a visionary andnot just a victim.
And if you don't do that morethan anything, I encourage you,
please, please, please use thismonth in December to cultivate a
vision for your life.
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Make 2021 count 2020 sucked.
It was tough and it was hard forme at times to live my own
paradigm of living the real andseeing where is a gift in this?
What does this make possible forme?
Yet, I dove deep into those hardquestions.
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And every time I came out withan answer and it lifted my heart
and my soul and having a visionalongside me to keep me going is
what kept me optimistic, joyful,and focused this 2020.
And I hope that is for you in2021.
Okay.
I'm hopefully back in the seatof air in these podcasts while
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regularly.
I hope you have a wonderfulweek.
I will see you next episode.
Again, check out living thereal.com/coaching.
Get a free 30 minutes with me ofhow I can help.
Move your life forward and haveyou have the best 2021 the most
fulfilling year of your life.
Take care.
Bye bye.
Thank you for listening to thisepisode of living the real.
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