There is a crucial difference between pity and compassion—and this distinction can deeply impact your relationship with your child. When we pity our kids, we see them as helpless victims, stripping them of their agency and reinforcing our own feelings of hopelessness.
But compassion is different—it sees their struggles without defining them by them, offering support in a way that preserves dignity and connection.
Heather shares personal experiences that have shown her the stark contrast between pity and compassion. We’ll also explore how parents often unknowingly judge their child’s struggles, assuming they are solely a result of poor choices while overlooking the massive role of other factors.
If you’ve ever thought, “I would never end up in that situation,” this episode will challenge that belief and help you shift from judgment to true understanding.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
• How pity and compassion create completely different dynamics in your relationship with your child
• Why pity makes your child feel disconnected, unseen, and incapable of change
• How compassion fosters trust, safety, and a stronger bond
• 7 simple ways to shift from pity to compassion in your daily interactions
Plus, don’t miss my free Boundaries That Create Connection Masterclass on Tuesday, March 25th—where I’ll teach you how to set boundaries that actually strengthen your relationship rather than pushing your child away. Sign up using the link below!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/boundaries-that-create-connection-masterclass/
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