The Anxious Attachment Cycle: Why You Love Hard and Hurt More

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When we begin to understand the traits around our attachment styles, the coins really begin to drop and so much begins to make sense on how we love, almost that you will stop feeling like something is wrong with you or judging yourself for wanting more or feeling like you just do not understand why you cant be "normal" the way your partner wants you to be. Why is there this lingering feeling in your heart always feeling like something is just not quite right! you are not alone. When i began to heal my anxious attachment I felt like I was giving myself the hug I always needed!

So if this is you then you might be experiencing anxious attachment—and you’re not alone. (Trust me).

In this episode, we’re getting real about what anxious attachment actually looks like in relationships. Not the textbook version—the lived one. The one where you love deeply but fear being too much. Where you crave closeness but feel like you're constantly trying to “prove” you're worthy of staying.

You’ll learn:
 💬 What anxious attachment really sounds and feels like
 💬 The traits that show up in everyday connection
 💬 How these patterns often start in childhood
 💬 Why it’s not your fault—and how awareness is the first step toward change

This isn’t about judgment or labeling. It’s about compassionate understanding and helping you name what you’ve been feeling so you can start creating secure, safe, and grounded love.

Creating safe and secure love only comes from accepting your attachment style and know that with compassion you can heal it. 

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