Why You’re Drawn to Emotionally Unavailable People

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You don’t keep choosing the wrong person because you're naive or broken.
 You do it because something in you is still trying to finish a story.
 To prove you’re lovable.
 To make chaos feel like home.
 To rewrite the ending.

GET COMFORTABLE WITH REJECTION! I would rather you get rejected, then settle and play small, and lose yourself!

In this episode, I go beneath the surface of dating and into the deeper truth:
 Who we’re drawn to is rarely random — it’s often wired in us. That's why you can end up always feeling like your dating the "same" guy or girl", and repeating patterns all over again.  

Listen, when you get clear about what you want and align that to the fact that you are so deserving of a safe, beautiful, committed relationship, watch who you attract! I swear, you will look for me and say "Shazmeen, I did my own healing and inner work, I saw my pattern's, I took responsibility for what I was tolerating and now, I set boundaries and I met someone that would have never been my first choice and here I am, no longer feeling like I am settling but finally feeling safe".

I can not wait for those stories!!

In this episode I cover:

• The need to be authentic and brave 
• What anxious and avoidant attachment really looks like in dating
• The cost of settling and not having boundaries
• The nervous system signals that tell you this is familiar (but not safe)
• Prominent red flags you keep turning into excuses
• Green flags that seen so simple & boring but are the foundation in a person
• The difference between love and emotional intensity
• And how to gently — but finally — start choosing people who don’t need fixing and stop settling and making excuses for bad behaviour. 

If you’ve ever asked, “Why do I always end up dating someone that leaves me chasing or breaks up with me, and why do i take them back?',  this episode is for you!!

You're not asking for too much. Your simply just not asking!

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