Letting Go of the Past: Why You Can’t Heal Until You Do

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You’re still hurting. And you’re still healing. Those two things can exist together.

In this episode, I walk with you through the kind of healing that doesn’t happen overnight — the kind that asks you to slow down, feel what’s real, and show up for yourself with compassion. 

You can feel so much shame when healing, like you should never have been in this position, or shame for hurting someone. We all deserve to heal and it does not look like one perfect smooth road. But the bumps now are a blessing when you have the tools to deal with them. 

I got raw about my process to show you how human it can be and standing on the other side of all the heavy lifting, my nervous system lives more in safety now than it ever has. That can be a proud moment after all the work you put in.

I talk about what it means to sit with your emotions instead of running from them, how to label and feel your feelings without shame, and how to stop villainizing the people who’ve hurt you — so you can finally reclaim your peace. (This takes work and only happens after you do honour your pain).

You’ll learn how your nervous system holds emotional pain, why regulation is the first step toward healing, and how to build emotional safety from the inside out. I also share gentle, practical tips to support you when the pain still feels raw — and remind you that it’s okay to make mistakes, take time, and heal imperfectly.

🎧 Inside this episode:

• How to feel emotions without drowning in them
• Why labeling feelings helps calm your system
• The difference between protecting yourself and punishing others
• Nervous system basics: sympathetic vs. parasympathetic explained simply
• Self-compassion tools for when you're spiraling in guilt or shame
• Why healing isn’t about doing it perfectly — just doing it with love

✨ If you're human and hurting — this one's for you.

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