"Why Dismissive Avoidants Shut Down, Pull Away, and Struggle to Love"

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There’s a reason dismissive avoidants shut down when things get too close. It’s not just cold behavior, it’s protection. In this episode, we go deep into the world of dismissive avoidant attachment: where it starts, how it shapes their personality, and why love feels like a threat to their nervous system.

You'll learn how many avoidants grew up in emotionally neglectful environments, taught to be independent before they were ever ready. They didn’t learn to rely on others, they learned it wasn’t safe to need anyone. And that story? It doesn’t just disappear. It becomes the blueprint for how they handle relationships.

Whether you’re anxiously attached, in love with someone who pulls away, or you recognize yourself in this dynamic, this episode will meet you where you are. You’ll leave with a deeper understanding of avoidants, not from judgment, but from compassion.

This is for anyone who's ever felt confused by a dismissive partner who “needs space,” struggles to open up, or shuts down right when things get real. 

🧠 Understand the Dismissive avoidant’s early wounds

💔 What their core wounds are

💔 Why connection triggers their flight response

🛑 And how you can stop personalizing their distance by understanding them

🛑 If you are the dismissive avoidant listening, how to begin to just heal and be present 

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