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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hi friends, tiffany
here, that's right, it's not
Rebecca, it's Tiffany.
I am Rebecca's friend and I hadthe honor of being her podcast
coach to help her launch thiswonderful podcast.
Love Is Not Dead Just myHusband.
And today you're hearing myvoice because love is not dead
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just Rebecca.
A few weeks ago, rebeccasuccumbed to cancer and this
episode will be the finalepisode of the podcast and it is
a tribute episode.
You're going to be hearing thevoices of a few of her podcast
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friends as we pay tribute tothis beautiful human being that
is Rebecca.
My tribute to Rebecca.
I'm going to try not to cry.
Rebecca was one of those peoplethat brought joy and light and
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irreverent humor to absolutelyeverything she did.
She was also somebody that itwas safe to be sad around and
she was the person you wouldcall when you were going through
stuff or when you were happyshe was that kind of person.
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I had the joy of meeting Rebeccaa few years ago and she was
looking to find somebody to helpher launch her podcast.
She wanted to learn how to dothis thing and she wanted to
start a podcast.
And when Rebecca wants to dosomething, she's going to do it
and she had narrowed it down tome and one other person and she
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was asking me a whole bunch ofquestions and I'm finally like,
hey, you want to hop on a call?
And she was shocked that wewould get on a call.
And, sure enough, we talked andtalked and by the end of that
call I had Rebecca's whole lifestory.
It was probably an hour and ahalf long call and I fell in
love with her immediately andwanted her to be my best friend
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and that was the start of areally beautiful friendship.
Rebecca definitely has a gift.
She has a gift for makingfriends.
She has a gift for makingpeople feel like they are
wonderful and incredible.
And she has a gift forpodcasting.
Those of you that listen knowthat the gift she has given the
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world is this platform wherepeople don't feel so alone,
whether they're widows, whetherthey're people battling cancer,
whether they're people that havelost somebody they love.
Rebecca was the person that Icalled when we had a horrible,
unthinkable family tragedy andit was the kind of tragedy that
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had very, very, very complicatedgrief and I was in my anger
phase of that very complicatedgrief and I was angry at
everybody and feeling hurt andneglected and alone, and I
called her.
I called her at 1130 my time.
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I'm in California, she's on theEast Coast, so it was very late
her time.
But she answered the phone andshe talked to me until I stopped
crying.
She talked some sense into me.
Frankly, she listened to me andin her wonderful, beautiful,
understanding, no-nonsense wayshe made me feel loved and she
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made me realize that the peoplenearest and dearest to me also
love me.
They just didn't know what Ineeded and after that call I was
able to tell people what Ineeded from them and I'm just so
grateful.
I'm so grateful for the timeand the memories and the fun
adventures we went on, and Iwish we had more time.
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I had been making plans to goout and visit Rebecca and
Rebecca is a busy, busy womanand she has lots of people that
love her, that were keeping hervery busy.
And I kept saying, rebecca, Ihave plenty of airline miles,
tell me when and I will hop on aplane and be out there.
I want to come see you.
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And finally she left me amessage and I'm pulling it up on
my phone right now as we speak.
Her message to me was a very,very long message and she sent
it to me on August 22nd and I'mgoing to sum the message up by
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her saying well, it's time foryou to use your airline miles
and come out and see me Again.
That was August 22nd.
I got on the computer thatmoment.
We texted back and forth tofind a good day and we found a
time that worked, and it wasgoing to be three weeks into the
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future, because she still hadpeople visiting and things going
on before that.
And so I said well, how does along weekend, september 19 to 22
, sound to you?
So that was September 19, was aWednesday, and she said that's
perfect, and we had everythingset up to visit.
And then then I get a call onSunday, September 15th, that
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Rebecca passed away unexpectedly.
We had all thought she wouldlast longer and I was so looking
forward to spending that timewith her.
We were going to set up herpodcast studio bedside so that
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she could podcast from bed andmake things a little bit easier
for her to keep her podcastgoing.
I was supposed to fly out onWednesday and I didn't get to.
I didn't get to fly out and seeher.
So I ended up flying out acouple weeks later for her
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celebration of life, which wasvery beautiful and in beautiful
Rebecca fashion.
It was a little bit more of aparty than it was a funeral, and
we did celebrate her.
She even gave gift bags out.
She had a scratch off on thefuneral or on the Celebration of
Life program and it either youscratched off and you either got
a flower or you got the wordwin, and if you got the word win
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, you got a gift bag, and one ofthe things in the gift bag was
a candle that said I'm notcrying, you're crying.
She had such a sense of humor,even to the end, and it was
absolutely beautiful, and so I'mgoing to close out my part of
the tribute by saying I love youforever, beautiful Rebecca and
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Rebecca's friends she liked tocall her listeners her friends.
Please enjoy the rest of thisepisode as you hear the way she
touched so many lives.
Speaker 2 (07:30):
And the amazing thing
about Rebecca is she made
everyone feel like her bestfriend, whether she met you five
minutes ago or has known youfor five years.
And I think that power alsotranslated in her podcasting and
I was so happy to have had heron my podcast, get to interview
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her and share parts of her story.
And despite everything she wentthrough all of her losses from
her husband to her brother, toher cancer battle, to her cancer
battle she was always positive,always had a smile on her face
and had this amazing sense ofhumor.
One thing that came to me as Iwas messaging someone about her
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is that I think there's thispower that she had in uniting
people.
I've been in different groupswith her and she always made
everyone feel special andincluded and a part of whatever
it was we were doing.
And so now all of us areconnecting together in our grief
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, trying to understand why thishappened and how to pay tribute
to her.
And so, even though physically,I know now she is gone, she has
left something behind that isincredible, powerful, moving and
also makes it that much moredifficult to say goodbye to her.
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I just think of her and howmuch she would give to still be
here, to still be with herfamily and her friends and still
be podcasting, and so I thinkthat's what she's left me with
is an inspiration to keep going,to keep moving forward, because
it's exactly what she would bedoing.
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So, thank you, rebecca.
Exactly what she would be doing, so thank you.
Rebecca, we're going to doeverything to keep your story
alive and share it with others,and you will continue to inspire
other people, especially women,to live the life they want, and
that's what she's taught us.
Community is everything, andRebecca has such an incredible
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community of friends and familythat now we are all coming
together to support each otherbecause of her.
And that's a powerful thing,that she's left behind, as well
as this incredible podcast, andI'm so very happy to get to be a
small part of it.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
When I first met
Rebecca, she was years removed
from her initial cancer battle.
She was embarking on newadventures in her life, in her
career.
She was sharing her story onher podcast Love's Not Dead Just
my Husband and she radiated ajoy of life that was really
contagious.
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I could never feel down or sadin her presence because she was
always so upbeat and positiveand it was really her authentic
self.
Now, when she got theabsolutely terrible news that
the cancer was coming back, hadcome back and that it was
terminal, she shared it with theworld just as authentically,
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and I'm sure that at some timeshe felt that she was showing
weakness.
But for me during that time,what I saw was the strongest
woman that I have ever met.
Sometimes I would see hersmiling and laughing and would
just be amazed.
I had an idea of what it lookedlike to be living with terminal
cancer, to know that your dayson earth were coming to a fast
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end.
But Rebecca showed me somethingdifferent, something beautiful,
something to aspire to, nomatter how many days I have left
.
I knew she was loved.
To know her is to love her, andI'm so happy that I was able to
know her, to enjoy time withher, to laugh with her, to
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advise her, to cry a little withher.
Our friendship was short, buther impact on me will last the
rest of my life.
Thank you, rebecca, forallowing me to be counted among
your friends.
Rest in peace.
I love you and I'll miss you,josie.
Speaker 6 (11:53):
Hi, this is Hilary
Russo with the Holistically
Speaking Podcast, and when Ithink of my friend, sweet
Rebecca, the one thing thatcomes to mind is sunshine.
Spending any amount of timewith Rebecca was a gift If you
had the honor of sharing spacewith her, be it in person or at
the mic, which I'm happy to sayI've done both.
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You know, it doesn't take longto feel a connection.
That was easy to find behindthat kind Southern accent that
could only belong to Rebecca.
It was like a warm hug.
I often say that every guest Ihave on my show is like a master
class.
I learn something from eachperson I get to spend time with,
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and the one takeaway I learnedfrom my friend Rebecca is that
time is promised to keep movingforward, but it is not promised
to us, and even in grief thereis always room for gratitude and
forgiveness.
So thank you, my sweet friend,for being a voice that will
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forever carry a message of hope,gratitude and love.
Speaker 4 (13:20):
So I must confess it
really took a lot of strength to
record this.
She has this presence rightLike she shines.
If you go on her Facebook andyou look at her page, she shines
.
You didn't expect somebodygoing through all the things she
was going through could shinethat much, which made me want to
know her more and that's how wefinally met January at PortFest
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.
I was looking for her by theAmakosa until the night of Sonic
Awards, but it was around thattime when I had this group of
incredible women shouting andrunning, creating videos on the
hallways of Podfest how fuckingamazing the shit is to just see
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women just loving andcelebrating each other.
And that's when I walked up tothem and I was like what's going
on here?
Because I'm nosy, of course Iam.
And when it comes to Pod themand I was like what's going on
here?
Because I'm nosy, of course Iam.
And when it comes to portraits,I'm extra nosy.
And I saw Rebecca and shehugged me.
It was one of the softest,tightest we talked.
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And I was like you need to cometo Shit Happens.
And she did.
She came on Shit Happens andshe did.
She came on Shit Happens, whichwas a new segment I started this
year in February and the talkshe would be in and it was
supposed to be 45 to an hour andme and her recorded live.
It's a live segment for twohours.
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We were almost going to make itto three hours but we finally
stopped.
And talking to her just remindsyou of what is important,
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because hearing what she's goingthrough and the attitude she
had's going through and theattitude she had about it and
the way she went abouteverything in her life that has
happened, it's just incredible.
The two-hour episode bonded useven more because we were
already bonded.
If anything, that hug bonded usbecause it was one.
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When I close my eyes, ifanything, that hug bonded us
because he was one.
And I tell you, when I close myeyes, I feel that hug, but that
episode bonded us.
When you lose a genuine person,rebecca is the definition of
beautiful, bold, resilientfighter, just a person who loved
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life despite what life threw ather.
So I'm going to continue livingboldly, taking chances and not
allow life to kick me, despiteeverything that keeps coming to
me, because Rebecca did it andshe would want us to do it, so
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I'm going to miss you so much.
Speaker 5 (16:24):
Rebecca was someone
incredibly special in my life my
cousin, my first best friendand a shining light in all our
lives.
Growing up, we spent countlesshours together, especially at
our grandparents' house, wherewe shared secrets, dreams and,
of course, our love for rollerskating.
Those memories are treasures Ihold close, each laugh and every
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fall a reminder of the bond weshared, a bond that felt more
like a sisterhood than acousinhood.
Her journey was not just markedby her personal battles, but
also by her unwavering spirit.
After losing her husband, shetransformed her pain into
purpose, launching a podcastdedicated to finding love and
embracing life.
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Through her podcast, shecreated a community that loved
and supported her, a place whereshe could share her heart and
her journey.
I remember meeting her podcastfriends at PodFest, witnessing
the way they rallied around her,how she lit up the room with
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her laughter and warmth To herlisteners.
She often shared a powerfulmessage to live life to the
fullest, to embrace every momentand never shy away from love,
even after loss.
She taught us all that, whilelife can be incredibly
challenging, it's alsobeautifully rich and worth
living.
As we remember her today, let'shonor her legacy by continuing
to embrace life, to seek joy inthe little things and to support
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one another, as shepassionately did.
Let's keep her spirit alive inour hearts, sharing love and
laughter in her memory.
Thank you for being part of herjourney and for keeping her
light shining, and remember thatlove is not dead.
Just my cousin.