In today's episode of the Marriage After God podcast, Aaron interviews Jinger Duggar Vuolo, New York Times bestselling author of People Pleaser: Breaking Free from the Burden of Imaginary Expectations. Jinger shares her personal journey—from growing up on TLC's reality shows as part of the Duggar family and being raised under the strict teachings of Bill Gothard, to realizing the heavy cost of seeking constant approval. In this honest conversation, she reveals how asking the question “Who am I?” led her to break free from people-pleasing tendencies, embrace her true identity in Christ, and discover the beauty of community.
In this inspiring conversation, we explore:
- How growing up in the public eye and under rigid expectations shaped her early identity and relationships.
- The lasting impact of Bill Gothard’s teachings on her life, and the struggle to disentangle truth from man-made rules.
- The transformative journey of self-discovery—learning to rely on God for approval and self-worth.
- The role of authentic community in healing from the burden of people pleasing.
- Practical insights on parenting in the spotlight and maintaining family privacy in today’s digital age.
- How her marriage with Jeremy provided the space to overcome people pleasing and cultivate honest, loving communication.
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Connect with Jinger Duggar Vuolo:
- Book & Audiobook: People Pleaser – available wherever books are sold
- Discover more about her journey in her other works, including Becoming Free Indeed, The Hope We Hold, and the children’s book You Can Shine So Bright.
- https://www.jingerandjeremy.com
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KEY WORDS: Marriage After God, Aaron Smith, Jinger Duggar Vuolo, People Pleaser, people pleasing, identity in Christ, reality TV upbringing, Duggar family, Bill Gothard, authentic parenting, self-discovery, community, faith journey
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