If you’ve ever found yourself obsessing over someone—you can't stop thinking about them, you're building out fantasies in your head, and your thoughts are starting to feel more like an addiction —you may have experienced limerence.
In this episode, neuroscientist Dr. Tom Bellamy breaks down the mechanics of limerence, explaining how it relates to addiction, reward systems, and emotional regulation. He explores why some people are more prone to limerence, how uncertainty fuels romantic obsession, and what strategies we can use to manage or overcome these overwhelming feelings.
What You’ll Learn:
- What limerence is and how it differs from love
- The brain’s role in romantic obsession
- Why uncertainty and hope intensify limerence
- The connection between limerence and addiction
- How to recognise and navigate limerence in relationships
Where can you learn more?
Check out Tom's incredible work and community on his website and YouTube channel. His resources and rich with information and very engaging.
- Dr. Tom Bellamy’s website: livingwithlimerence.com
- Dr. Bellamy’s YouTube channel: Dr. Tom Bellamy on YouTube
This podcast is hosted by Jess Leondiou, brought to you by Archley’s - tools for, writing, introspection and connection. www.archleys.com
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