May 26, 2025 • 17 mins
You can be achieving more than ever… and still feel completely lost.
In this video, I share the moment that forced me to stop sprinting blind and start leading with clarity. After running 58 marathons in 58 days and coaching high-performing men for 7 years, I realised success without alignment is just another form of burnout.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You can be working harder than ever and still feel
completely lost.
In this video, I'm going toshow you how getting clear on
what actually matters, not justin your work but in your life,
can completely change yourenergy, your decisions and your
direction.
I'm Lachlan Stewart.
I ran 58 marathons in 58 days.
I've coached high-performingmen for the past seven years and
(00:23):
for a long time I was sprintingon a treadmill, moving fast,
burning energy and gettingnowhere.
I couldn't hit the stop buttonbecause everyone around me kept
saying keep going.
Lucky, this is what successlooks like.
My environment was supportingsomething that didn't align with
me, but I was exhausted anddisconnected from what I
actually wanted.
One of the biggest wake-upcalls came back in 2019, when I
(00:45):
was exhausted and disconnectedfrom what I actually wanted.
One of the biggest wake-up callscame back in 2019, when I was
launching the Strongman of ValueAcademy, which was an online
program for men.
I was also coaching one-to-onetrying to train for fitness and
events building another programthat, I guess, wasn't having me
as involved in it.
It was an automated one and Ihadn't chunked all my time.
(01:05):
I was switching between tasksconstantly, so for those of you
who aren't, I guess, aware ofwhat chunking time means and how
I reference it is.
If I have specific tasks thatare very similar, for example
sales calls, I would try andbatch all of them in maybe a
two-hour window or a three-hourwindow.
Or if I had emails or computerwork same thing.
(01:26):
So rather than having to gofrom email to phone call to a
different task, I could just sitdown and really focus and then
I could know that that's donefor the day and then I would
move on to the next task.
That's what chunking time wasfor me, but I wasn't doing that
at the time, so I was constantlytired.
I was anxious that I wouldn'tmeet the deadline to achieve
this goal that I was buildingtowards.
(01:48):
I also remember thinking, andvery well knowing, that Amy, who
is my wife, wanted to go on adate, but I felt too stressed to
be present.
The voice in my head said onceI do this, then I can rest, or
when I achieve that, I'll beable to afford this.
That line ruled my life, butall it did was push me deeper
(02:10):
into burnout and further fromthe man that I wanted to be.
That shifted when I moved toNashville One of the greatest
surprises that I needed and Ididn't even recognize it.
It's something that I think Ispeak a lot about is how
important the environment is.
It, and it's something that Ithink I speak a lot about is
like how important theenvironment is.
I gave the example a moment agothat the environment I was in
for a while was, you know,championing me just being on
(02:30):
this hamster wheel of chasingmore, chasing, more, chasing
more, which can be a good thing,and it was a great thing for a
while.
But what happened was I neededto realign with what was
important to me in that currentstage in my life.
So when I moved to Nashville,it was a changing environment
and as I was, I guess,rebuilding, I had more time to
(02:52):
think about what was next.
I finally had space.
I had quiet because of the timezones.
I guess with Australia I reallyonly needed to work and could
work from sort of 1 pm, whichwas generally around 6 or 5 am
in Australia, 2 through to about6 or7, because obviously I
wanted to have dinner and go tobed.
(03:13):
So because I had all themornings free, I could wake up
when I wanted.
I had time to think.
I was only working those hoursthat I mentioned, which meant I
was not as stressed oroverwhelmed, and I realized that
I was starting every day for me, not for anyone else.
You may be thinking it's easyfor you, lockie, you don't have
(03:36):
children, or I'm dealing withmortgages and all of these
things.
Well, one working on childrenthing for those who are
following the journey onInstagram.
Secondly, I have a mortgage,too, and there's things that you
know.
Everyone's life's different, soI don't want to say that what
works for me will work for you,because it won't.
What is most important, andwhat I'm trying to get across in
this video, is the importanceof gaining clarity, how that
(03:59):
clarity can help you make thedecisions moving forward,
because you're not looking to menecessarily for the answers.
I feel like you're here becauseyou're curious around how you
create clarity, which I'll giveyou shortly, but you need to do
that for you.
You need to give thedefinitions, which means the
decisions that you make.
You need to stand behind them,because they're not always going
to be right, and that's why alot of men struggle to make
(04:22):
decisions, because it's likewhat if I make the wrong
decision?
Well, own it, you can change,you can use that as feedback,
which I'll speak about in amoment.
But back to it.
I would wake up, I'd make mycoffee, I'd sit on the balcony
with my book and a notepad andwatch the sunrise most of the
time, and I'd get to write andinvest in my own mind, like
(04:44):
learning, writing out what wasimportant to me, and then I'd
get to train, I'd spend timewith my wife, and only after
that did I shift into work mode.
That's an awesome way for me tolive.
I really enjoyed the fact thatI was in control and, as you're
listening to this, I'd love toknow what is coming up for you,
like if you move to a differentplace and you knew you could set
(05:08):
up the day that you wanted.
What would that look like?
Because it's a really, I guess,empowering feeling, even
experiencing that.
So, for the first time in years, I was in control of my day,
and it made me ask the onequestion that changed everything
what do I actually want my lifeto look like?
(05:31):
Quick side note I asked myselfthis question in 2014, when I
went from not knowing what Iwanted to do with my life and
stepping into entrepreneurship,and when I did that, I wrote out
a vision, which is one thingthat I'd recommend you doing.
But with that vision, I wroteout from various different areas
what I wanted that to look like.
The challenge that I faced, Iguess nearly 11 years later, was
(05:55):
I hadn't realigned with what mylife actually looked like and
the man that I'd become, becausethe man that I'd become, just
like the person who you willbecome, prioritizes different
things based on the season oflife.
I was really chasing money andcareer at that point.
Now I'm in a more flexibleposition.
Family is really important tome.
(06:15):
Experiences are reallyimportant to me.
I would ask you, what does thatlook like for you?
What do you actually want yourlife to look like?
Because it might be differentto what you wanted five years
ago.
It might be different to whatyou wanted a decade ago, but
getting clear on what mattersgave me a filter, and I know it
would give you one too.
I knew that I wanted to be agreat husband.
(06:37):
I wanted to earn enough to livewell, to train hard, to travel
and to do meaningful work.
That's what is most importantto me.
So when we're you know we'vecome back to Australia at the
moment, for those who are tuningwe've been living in the US and
we're back in Australia at themoment.
We've been living out of asuitcase.
We're currently going throughIVF and my wife and I are
(06:58):
talking a lot about that as well, but we sat down and we had a
conversation and it was basedaround what's important to us
Are we going to go back to theUS and continue chasing the
dream over there, or do we wantto slow down for a moment and
really prioritize the family,and that's what we decided to do
.
So when we've come back to like, are we going back to the US?
(07:19):
Right now, it's no, becausestarting a family is our
priority.
So what is your priority?
That one decision which wouldhave given me FOMO in the past.
You know, I think about man.
I'm missing out on all theseopportunities, the growth, all
(07:40):
of that back home.
It felt empowering to say no tothat because, rather than
having the fear of missing out,I have the fit or, I guess, the
excitement of leaning in to thedecision that I've made.
It's now like that's what I'vecommitted to, because I believe
it's important in my life, it'ssomething that I'm excited about
.
So therefore, I'm going to giveit everything to squeeze the
juice out of it and really enjoythis chapter and this
experience.
So for yourself, if you'restruggling to make decisions
(08:02):
because of FOMO, fear of missingout, what about if you made a
decision you really leaned in?
What could that give you?
What would that feel like?
That's one thing I'd reallychallenge you to think about,
because it is empowering and Irealized in that moment that
clarity doesn't make your lifeeasier.
It just makes the decisionsimpler.
(08:22):
You're still going to be facedwith challenges, right?
Do I have enough time?
Do I have enough finances?
What if I make the wrongdecisions?
I'm not too sure.
All of those things will comeup.
That's normal and that's common.
But what are the upsides if youlean into the things that you
want?
Most of us are scared to commitbecause we're afraid of getting
it wrong, but I have learnedthat feedback is more important
(08:46):
than failure, and I touched onthis a moment ago.
I once launched a program thiswas a couple of years ago and I
didn't test it.
I just assumed that theaudience of blokes who were
following me and who had beenworking with me would want
something like that, but let metell you it was a mega flop.
I did not have one sale.
When you think about it forthose who've ever launched a
(09:06):
program or anything like that.
In business, you might launchsomething and you're like, okay,
if this works, this is theimpact that it's going to have,
this is going to be my profit.
How great.
And so I put a lot of hoursinto creating it, filming
content, doing the worksheets,all of that.
I hadn't tested the market.
I hadn't tested if thelanguaging was correct, and when
it flopped I realized it wasn't.
(09:29):
No one wanted it.
But I invested probably 50, 60hours into it and if you work
out the value of your time, it'sa bit of money coming out there
Instead of spiraling like Inormally would have.
I actually asked myself forfeedback.
I realized once again themessaging was off, the offer
wasn't aligned and I needed tostay in my lane.
(09:51):
For those who are tuning in forthe first time, you may be
thinking like what is Blockycoached men in?
I'm not a business coach.
I'm very fortunate that I getto work with a lot of men who
run their own businesses, butwhat I'm helping them do is
prove to themselves that they'recapable of more and become the
best version of themselves, sothat when they put their head on
the pillow at night.
They are proud of the effortthat they've put in and they
(10:12):
recognize that there is more tolife than their career.
Their career is one or anextension of themselves.
They still have other rolesthat they want to thrive in and
be able to manage and reallyenjoy.
And that's one of the coolthings that I get to help people
do and I guess, as a byproduct,some of the things we do does
help with their business.
But I'm not going into all thebusiness stuff, that's just
conversations that we have and Ijust get clear on why they're
(10:35):
doing things, how they candelegate, if that's important to
get their time back for theirhealth, for their family and the
things that are important tothem.
But the feedback that I got frompeople that I've been, I guess,
putting ads to or telling aboutthis program helped me rebuild
something better.
The old me would have changedeverything and wasted more time.
Now I guess I refine instead ofretreating.
(10:58):
So what I'm starting to do nowand look, I wouldn't say do this
weekly.
I would do this when you feellost, you maybe feel overwhelmed
, you maybe feel a little bitanxious, but these four
questions really help me realignor even just align and focus on
(11:18):
what's important in the seasonof life and there's no real
timeline around what a season is.
But if you feel like you'vegone through a bit of change, I
would imagine that would be yougoing into a different season,
right?
So you would need to reassesslike, where am I at in these
areas?
What's important to me, wheredo I want to go?
And these questions will helpyou do that.
So if you're listening to this,wherever you're listening to
(11:39):
this, I want to let you knowI've created a free 15-day man
that Can starter kit.
Now you could get everythingyou need from this starter kit.
All you need to do is go to thelink on wherever you're
listening to this or consumingthis, and you just need to put
your email address.
So the reason it's free is Iwill email you every day.
I'll give you, I guess, apersonal story, an example, but
(12:02):
a prompt that you can use.
The prompt you can use in yourdiary.
Or, if you use AI or ChatGPT,copy the prompt, put it into
ChatGPT and use that to coachyou.
I'm not asking for anythingelse from that Full transparency
.
If you get value from that andyou feel you're going to get
value from my other programs,then it'll invite you towards
(12:24):
the end of it, day 13 and day 15, I think it is.
So there's a ton of free value.
I literally spent hours goingthrough what questions did I
need to think about?
In what order?
What were, I guess, the mostpowerful questions that would
help me go through that and digup stuff about myself, and
that's what this daily prompt is.
So it's 15 emails over 15 daysand I reckon you'll probably
(12:47):
need about 15 minutes to gothrough those thoroughly and I
guarantee you, once you've doneit, you'll be in a lot better
position.
But I'll tell you more aboutthat at the end.
So the four questions you couldask yourself, whether it's
weekly or monthly or just everyseason, are these One, what do
you truly want right now?
Not what you want in 10 yearstime, like, what do you want
right now to get thatrealignment.
(13:08):
Number two is what area of lifefeels out of alignment?
Could it be your health?
You're not feeling comfortablein your skin.
You don't feel energized.
Is it your relationship?
You're having marital stress athome.
What is it?
Because, when you identify itand you accept that that is an
area that's out of alignment,you've now given yourself
(13:31):
permission to move forward andto improve and to grow.
Number three is what am I doingthat's pulling me away from the
life that I want?
The example before I moved toNashville was like people always
want to go for coffees.
They want to pick my brain, andI would always do that because
there was a point where I hadthis scarce mindset that if I
(13:51):
stopped meeting new people andif I stopped helping people and
giving them my time, maybe Iwould never grow a business or I
would lose business.
But what actually ended uphappening was I was pulling
myself away from the life that Iwant because I had great
clients who were paying me, Ihad a great business that was
paying me and I felt fulfilled.
But the time that I guess I wasallowed or free to train to
(14:15):
spend with my wife to do thethings that I wanted to, I was
then going oh, I need to go forthese coffees, I need to do this
extra work, and it was pullingme away from the life that I
want because I'd allocated timeto work, as I'm sure you have,
but I also wanted to spend timedoing those other things and by
continuing to fill it up withwork, I was sacrificing and
(14:36):
removing time to do the otherthings that I wanted, which led
me to becoming burnt out andmiserable, and maybe you can
relate to that.
So, after I finished the 58marathons I ran for those who
are tuning in ran 58 marathonsin 58 days just recently across
all 50 US states and all eightstates and territories of
Australia.
It was a really cool experienceand you can watch more on my
(14:57):
channel.
But I used that filter and Irealized the Strongman of Value
Academy, which is the program Istarted six years ago filter and
I realized the Strongman ofValue Academy, which is the
program I started six years ago,wasn't serving me anymore.
It was hard to shut down aftersix years, but I gave myself
permission to evolve.
I had plenty of time to thinkabout what purpose it served in
my life.
Was I feeling drawn to continuedoing it or could I learn to
(15:19):
serve in a different way thatwould allow me to evolve and
allow me to help people on abetter level and, I guess, a
level that aligned with where Iwas at at that point and when I
closed it up, just only a coupleof weeks ago.
Actually, it freed me up, man.
I had this sigh of reliefbecause I've been holding on to
or tossing up do I shut it downor do I not?
And the moment that I did, Ijust gave myself permission to
(15:41):
breathe again and I was like,okay, I don't have to think
about that anymore.
I don't have to manage weeklycalls or content anymore.
I could focus on where I wasgoing, not where I'd been for
the last six years.
It's a really hard thing that usmen experience you maybe are
experiencing it too where youfeel like quitting is
sacrificing everything thatyou've done.
But the truth is it's not.
(16:03):
It's allowing you to let go sothat you can continue to grow
into the next version ofyourself, which is only going to
be better and it's prettyexciting.
So if you're feeling stuck,burnt out, or like you're
sprinting through life but notmaking progress, spinning the
wheels on a motorbike on an icelake which we saw a lot of those
while running around AmericaClarity is going to change that
(16:24):
for you.
And if you want help with that,as I mentioned, I created that
15-day free man that Can Start aKit to walk you through it day
by day.
It will help you reset yourmindset, refocus your time and
reclaim your energy.
So all you need to do is hitthe link in the description to
grab it now and, if thisresonated with you, drop a
(16:45):
comment and let me know what isone area of your life that looks
good outside but feelsmisaligned on the inside.
Let's stop sprinting blind andlet's get you leading with
clarity.
If you like this video, makesure you hit the subscribe
button.
I look forward to droppinganother weekly video and I look
forward to you enjoying andengaging in the 15-day man that
Can Starter Kit.
(17:05):
My name is Lachlan Stewart.
Thank you for listening.
You can be working harder than ever and still feel
completely lost.
In this video, I'm going toshow you how getting clear on
what actually matters, not justin your work but in your life,
can completely change yourenergy, your decisions and your
direction.
I'm Lachlan Stewart.
I ran 58 marathons in 58 days.
I've coached high-performingmen for the past seven years and
(00:23):
for a long time I was sprintingon a treadmill, moving fast,
burning energy and gettingnowhere.
I couldn't hit the stop buttonbecause everyone around me kept
saying keep going.
Lucky, this is what successlooks like.
My environment was supportingsomething that didn't align with
me, but I was exhausted anddisconnected from what I
actually wanted.
One of the biggest wake-upcalls came back in 2019, when I
(00:45):
was exhausted and disconnectedfrom what I actually wanted.
One of the biggest wake-up callscame back in 2019, when I was
launching the Strongman of ValueAcademy, which was an online
program for men.
I was also coaching one-to-onetrying to train for fitness and
events building another programthat, I guess, wasn't having me
as involved in it.
It was an automated one and Ihadn't chunked all my time.
(01:05):
I was switching between tasksconstantly, so for those of you
who aren't, I guess, aware ofwhat chunking time means and how
I reference it is.
If I have specific tasks thatare very similar, for example
sales calls, I would try andbatch all of them in maybe a
two-hour window or a three-hourwindow.
Or if I had emails or computerwork same thing.
(01:26):
So rather than having to gofrom email to phone call to a
different task, I could just sitdown and really focus and then
I could know that that's donefor the day and then I would
move on to the next task.
That's what chunking time wasfor me, but I wasn't doing that
at the time, so I was constantlytired.
I was anxious that I wouldn'tmeet the deadline to achieve
this goal that I was buildingtowards.
(01:48):
I also remember thinking, andvery well knowing, that Amy, who
is my wife, wanted to go on adate, but I felt too stressed to
be present.
The voice in my head said onceI do this, then I can rest, or
when I achieve that, I'll beable to afford this.
That line ruled my life, butall it did was push me deeper
(02:10):
into burnout and further fromthe man that I wanted to be.
That shifted when I moved toNashville One of the greatest
surprises that I needed and Ididn't even recognize it.
It's something that I think Ispeak a lot about is how
important the environment is.
It, and it's something that Ithink I speak a lot about is
like how important theenvironment is.
I gave the example a moment agothat the environment I was in
for a while was, you know,championing me just being on
(02:30):
this hamster wheel of chasingmore, chasing, more, chasing
more, which can be a good thing,and it was a great thing for a
while.
But what happened was I neededto realign with what was
important to me in that currentstage in my life.
So when I moved to Nashville,it was a changing environment
and as I was, I guess,rebuilding, I had more time to
(02:52):
think about what was next.
I finally had space.
I had quiet because of the timezones.
I guess with Australia I reallyonly needed to work and could
work from sort of 1 pm, whichwas generally around 6 or 5 am
in Australia, 2 through to about6 or7, because obviously I
wanted to have dinner and go tobed.
(03:13):
So because I had all themornings free, I could wake up
when I wanted.
I had time to think.
I was only working those hoursthat I mentioned, which meant I
was not as stressed oroverwhelmed, and I realized that
I was starting every day for me, not for anyone else.
You may be thinking it's easyfor you, lockie, you don't have
(03:36):
children, or I'm dealing withmortgages and all of these
things.
Well, one working on childrenthing for those who are
following the journey onInstagram.
Secondly, I have a mortgage,too, and there's things that you
know.
Everyone's life's different, soI don't want to say that what
works for me will work for you,because it won't.
What is most important, andwhat I'm trying to get across in
this video, is the importanceof gaining clarity, how that
(03:59):
clarity can help you make thedecisions moving forward,
because you're not looking to menecessarily for the answers.
I feel like you're here becauseyou're curious around how you
create clarity, which I'll giveyou shortly, but you need to do
that for you.
You need to give thedefinitions, which means the
decisions that you make.
You need to stand behind them,because they're not always going
to be right, and that's why alot of men struggle to make
(04:22):
decisions, because it's likewhat if I make the wrong
decision?
Well, own it, you can change,you can use that as feedback,
which I'll speak about in amoment.
But back to it.
I would wake up, I'd make mycoffee, I'd sit on the balcony
with my book and a notepad andwatch the sunrise most of the
time, and I'd get to write andinvest in my own mind, like
(04:44):
learning, writing out what wasimportant to me, and then I'd
get to train, I'd spend timewith my wife, and only after
that did I shift into work mode.
That's an awesome way for me tolive.
I really enjoyed the fact thatI was in control and, as you're
listening to this, I'd love toknow what is coming up for you,
like if you move to a differentplace and you knew you could set
(05:08):
up the day that you wanted.
What would that look like?
Because it's a really, I guess,empowering feeling, even
experiencing that.
So, for the first time in years, I was in control of my day,
and it made me ask the onequestion that changed everything
what do I actually want my lifeto look like?
(05:31):
Quick side note I asked myselfthis question in 2014, when I
went from not knowing what Iwanted to do with my life and
stepping into entrepreneurship,and when I did that, I wrote out
a vision, which is one thingthat I'd recommend you doing.
But with that vision, I wroteout from various different areas
what I wanted that to look like.
The challenge that I faced, Iguess nearly 11 years later, was
(05:55):
I hadn't realigned with what mylife actually looked like and
the man that I'd become, becausethe man that I'd become, just
like the person who you willbecome, prioritizes different
things based on the season oflife.
I was really chasing money andcareer at that point.
Now I'm in a more flexibleposition.
Family is really important tome.
(06:15):
Experiences are reallyimportant to me.
I would ask you, what does thatlook like for you?
What do you actually want yourlife to look like?
Because it might be differentto what you wanted five years
ago.
It might be different to whatyou wanted a decade ago, but
getting clear on what mattersgave me a filter, and I know it
would give you one too.
I knew that I wanted to be agreat husband.
(06:37):
I wanted to earn enough to livewell, to train hard, to travel
and to do meaningful work.
That's what is most importantto me.
So when we're you know we'vecome back to Australia at the
moment, for those who are tuningwe've been living in the US and
we're back in Australia at themoment.
We've been living out of asuitcase.
We're currently going throughIVF and my wife and I are
(06:58):
talking a lot about that as well, but we sat down and we had a
conversation and it was basedaround what's important to us
Are we going to go back to theUS and continue chasing the
dream over there, or do we wantto slow down for a moment and
really prioritize the family,and that's what we decided to do
.
So when we've come back to like, are we going back to the US?
(07:19):
Right now, it's no, becausestarting a family is our
priority.
So what is your priority?
That one decision which wouldhave given me FOMO in the past.
You know, I think about man.
I'm missing out on all theseopportunities, the growth, all
(07:40):
of that back home.
It felt empowering to say no tothat because, rather than
having the fear of missing out,I have the fit or, I guess, the
excitement of leaning in to thedecision that I've made.
It's now like that's what I'vecommitted to, because I believe
it's important in my life, it'ssomething that I'm excited about
.
So therefore, I'm going to giveit everything to squeeze the
juice out of it and really enjoythis chapter and this
experience.
So for yourself, if you'restruggling to make decisions
(08:02):
because of FOMO, fear of missingout, what about if you made a
decision you really leaned in?
What could that give you?
What would that feel like?
That's one thing I'd reallychallenge you to think about,
because it is empowering and Irealized in that moment that
clarity doesn't make your lifeeasier.
It just makes the decisionsimpler.
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You're still going to be facedwith challenges, right?
Do I have enough time?
Do I have enough finances?
What if I make the wrongdecisions?
I'm not too sure.
All of those things will comeup.
That's normal and that's common.
But what are the upsides if youlean into the things that you
want?
Most of us are scared to commitbecause we're afraid of getting
it wrong, but I have learnedthat feedback is more important
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than failure, and I touched onthis a moment ago.
I once launched a program thiswas a couple of years ago and I
didn't test it.
I just assumed that theaudience of blokes who were
following me and who had beenworking with me would want
something like that, but let metell you it was a mega flop.
I did not have one sale.
When you think about it forthose who've ever launched a
(09:06):
program or anything like that.
In business, you might launchsomething and you're like, okay,
if this works, this is theimpact that it's going to have,
this is going to be my profit.
How great.
And so I put a lot of hoursinto creating it, filming
content, doing the worksheets,all of that.
I hadn't tested the market.
I hadn't tested if thelanguaging was correct, and when
it flopped I realized it wasn't.
(09:29):
No one wanted it.
But I invested probably 50, 60hours into it and if you work
out the value of your time, it'sa bit of money coming out there
Instead of spiraling like Inormally would have.
I actually asked myself forfeedback.
I realized once again themessaging was off, the offer
wasn't aligned and I needed tostay in my lane.
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For those who are tuning in forthe first time, you may be
thinking like what is Blockycoached men in?
I'm not a business coach.
I'm very fortunate that I getto work with a lot of men who
run their own businesses, butwhat I'm helping them do is
prove to themselves that they'recapable of more and become the
best version of themselves, sothat when they put their head on
the pillow at night.
They are proud of the effortthat they've put in and they
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recognize that there is more tolife than their career.
Their career is one or anextension of themselves.
They still have other rolesthat they want to thrive in and
be able to manage and reallyenjoy.
And that's one of the coolthings that I get to help people
do and I guess, as a byproduct,some of the things we do does
help with their business.
But I'm not going into all thebusiness stuff, that's just
conversations that we have and Ijust get clear on why they're
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doing things, how they candelegate, if that's important to
get their time back for theirhealth, for their family and the
things that are important tothem.
But the feedback that I got frompeople that I've been, I guess,
putting ads to or telling aboutthis program helped me rebuild
something better.
The old me would have changedeverything and wasted more time.
Now I guess I refine instead ofretreating.
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So what I'm starting to do nowand look, I wouldn't say do this
weekly.
I would do this when you feellost, you maybe feel overwhelmed
, you maybe feel a little bitanxious, but these four
questions really help me realignor even just align and focus on
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what's important in the seasonof life and there's no real
timeline around what a season is.
But if you feel like you'vegone through a bit of change, I
would imagine that would be yougoing into a different season,
right?
So you would need to reassesslike, where am I at in these
areas?
What's important to me, wheredo I want to go?
And these questions will helpyou do that.
So if you're listening to this,wherever you're listening to
(11:39):
this, I want to let you knowI've created a free 15-day man
that Can starter kit.
Now you could get everythingyou need from this starter kit.
All you need to do is go to thelink on wherever you're
listening to this or consumingthis, and you just need to put
your email address.
So the reason it's free is Iwill email you every day.
I'll give you, I guess, apersonal story, an example, but
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a prompt that you can use.
The prompt you can use in yourdiary.
Or, if you use AI or ChatGPT,copy the prompt, put it into
ChatGPT and use that to coachyou.
I'm not asking for anythingelse from that Full transparency
.
If you get value from that andyou feel you're going to get
value from my other programs,then it'll invite you towards
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the end of it, day 13 and day 15, I think it is.
So there's a ton of free value.
I literally spent hours goingthrough what questions did I
need to think about?
In what order?
What were, I guess, the mostpowerful questions that would
help me go through that and digup stuff about myself, and
that's what this daily prompt is.
So it's 15 emails over 15 daysand I reckon you'll probably
(12:47):
need about 15 minutes to gothrough those thoroughly and I
guarantee you, once you've doneit, you'll be in a lot better
position.
But I'll tell you more aboutthat at the end.
So the four questions you couldask yourself, whether it's
weekly or monthly or just everyseason, are these One, what do
you truly want right now?
Not what you want in 10 yearstime, like, what do you want
right now to get thatrealignment.
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Number two is what area of lifefeels out of alignment?
Could it be your health?
You're not feeling comfortablein your skin.
You don't feel energized.
Is it your relationship?
You're having marital stress athome.
What is it?
Because, when you identify itand you accept that that is an
area that's out of alignment,you've now given yourself
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permission to move forward andto improve and to grow.
Number three is what am I doingthat's pulling me away from the
life that I want?
The example before I moved toNashville was like people always
want to go for coffees.
They want to pick my brain, andI would always do that because
there was a point where I hadthis scarce mindset that if I
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stopped meeting new people andif I stopped helping people and
giving them my time, maybe Iwould never grow a business or I
would lose business.
But what actually ended uphappening was I was pulling
myself away from the life that Iwant because I had great
clients who were paying me, Ihad a great business that was
paying me and I felt fulfilled.
But the time that I guess I wasallowed or free to train to
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spend with my wife to do thethings that I wanted to, I was
then going oh, I need to go forthese coffees, I need to do this
extra work, and it was pullingme away from the life that I
want because I'd allocated timeto work, as I'm sure you have,
but I also wanted to spend timedoing those other things and by
continuing to fill it up withwork, I was sacrificing and
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removing time to do the otherthings that I wanted, which led
me to becoming burnt out andmiserable, and maybe you can
relate to that.
So, after I finished the 58marathons I ran for those who
are tuning in ran 58 marathonsin 58 days just recently across
all 50 US states and all eightstates and territories of
Australia.
It was a really cool experienceand you can watch more on my
(14:57):
channel.
But I used that filter and Irealized the Strongman of Value
Academy, which is the program Istarted six years ago filter and
I realized the Strongman ofValue Academy, which is the
program I started six years ago,wasn't serving me anymore.
It was hard to shut down aftersix years, but I gave myself
permission to evolve.
I had plenty of time to thinkabout what purpose it served in
my life.
Was I feeling drawn to continuedoing it or could I learn to
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serve in a different way thatwould allow me to evolve and
allow me to help people on abetter level and, I guess, a
level that aligned with where Iwas at at that point and when I
closed it up, just only a coupleof weeks ago.
Actually, it freed me up, man.
I had this sigh of reliefbecause I've been holding on to
or tossing up do I shut it downor do I not?
And the moment that I did, Ijust gave myself permission to
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breathe again and I was like,okay, I don't have to think
about that anymore.
I don't have to manage weeklycalls or content anymore.
I could focus on where I wasgoing, not where I'd been for
the last six years.
It's a really hard thing that usmen experience you maybe are
experiencing it too where youfeel like quitting is
sacrificing everything thatyou've done.
But the truth is it's not.
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It's allowing you to let go sothat you can continue to grow
into the next version ofyourself, which is only going to
be better and it's prettyexciting.
So if you're feeling stuck,burnt out, or like you're
sprinting through life but notmaking progress, spinning the
wheels on a motorbike on an icelake which we saw a lot of those
while running around AmericaClarity is going to change that
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for you.
And if you want help with that,as I mentioned, I created that
15-day free man that Can Start aKit to walk you through it day
by day.
It will help you reset yourmindset, refocus your time and
reclaim your energy.
So all you need to do is hitthe link in the description to
grab it now and, if thisresonated with you, drop a
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comment and let me know what isone area of your life that looks
good outside but feelsmisaligned on the inside.
Let's stop sprinting blind andlet's get you leading with
clarity.
If you like this video, makesure you hit the subscribe
button.
I look forward to droppinganother weekly video and I look
forward to you enjoying andengaging in the 15-day man that
Can Starter Kit.
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My name is Lachlan Stewart.
Thank you for listening.
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