March 28, 2024 • 53 mins
Have you ever wondered how to keep the sparks flying years into marriage? We've got you covered with a heartwarming exploration of the joys and benefits of continuing to date your wife post-nuptials. We're taking Women's History Month to heart by sharing our own personal stories and insights that reveal just how much of a difference regular date nights can make. From strengthening your bond to rediscovering the thrill of your relationship, we talk about how simple gestures and checking in with each other can breathe new life into your love story.
This isn't just about romantic dates; it's about solidifying your partnership. Treating your spouse as your best buddy is crucial, and we discuss how this approach can reinforce your commitment and keep your love as radiant as ever. We also don't leave our single listeners out in the cold—we emphasize the importance of self-love and the empowering act of taking yourself on a date. So, whether you're hitched or flying solo, there's something in here for you to take your relationship with your partner or yourself to the next level.
To cap it all off, we touch on the practical side. Balancing kids, jobs, and other responsibilities can make date nights seem challenging, but we share effective ways to prioritize your relationship amidst the chaos. We invite you to engage with us across platforms like Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music, Spotify, and iHeartRadio Beamcast. So, grab your partner or a cozy spot for one and tune in as we unpack the realities of love, dating, and marriage in everyday life.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
All right, we're ready to get in our topic, you
ready?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Let's do it, I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
All right.
Our topic tonight is fivesurprising benefits of dating
your wife.
We're doing these topics thismonth in celebration of Women's
History Month.
Go, girl, girl power, who ruledthe world?
Girl, oh Lord.
All right, fellas, I know y'allthere.
I see you, jordan.
(00:25):
I know you there.
All right, fellas, I know y'allthere.
I see you, jordan, I know youthere.
All right.
So this is five surprisingbenefits of dating your wife.
All right, you know, becauseonce you get married, you're
still supposed to date, right,you should date Right.
You should want to.
You know wine and dine everynow and then and we've already
went over and said that datesdon't have to be expensive.
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It could be you sitting in thein the middle of the floor.
It could be just a ride, a carride.
It could be just you going to amusic festival.
It could be just a let's go andget some ice cream.
That's a little date, you know.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
That's something different, you know small things
that count the most with women.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I know as far as I am .
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I mean I like big things too, but when you do
something small, I mean you putsome thought into it, like she
gonna like it, yeah, she gonnalike this, All right, All right,
hey, all right.
Here's Jordan.
Before we get on, Jordan saidhere I think killing desire is
excessive.
Just be patient.
Women have a lot on their mindsand for some that needs to be
settled before they're in themood.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Absolutely, that's my son.
All right, deke.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
There's just so much to go on.
I mean, even when we're notphysically moving, we're
multitasking in our head.
So I can go take Jordan anddrop him off over here, and then
I got to go pick up Nikki, thetwins, and take them over there.
Oh yeah, he's got to track me.
So even though I'm working thatnine to five, I'm thinking what
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I got to do afterwards andsometimes your mind run your
raggedy.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Yeah, yeah, and that's tiresome in itself All by
itself.
That's tiresome in itself,right?
So you know, you know thedating.
Getting back to the topic here,you should want to date your
wife.
You should never, you know.
And I want to tell everybody,remember all the guys, remember,
never stop dating your wife,never stop dating your wife,
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never stop dating your wife.
You know, bring a flowers, bringa, you know, cookies or
favorite chips every now andthen, favorite soda or or do
something you know and and justsurprise her.
And, like I said, you know,like we said just, sometime I'll
walk in the park, sometimesI'll walk around the street.
You know, uh, sometimes I walkaround the street.
You know we look at dating asso much of oh, I got to take her
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out to dinner, I got to buy thewine, I got to do this and then
.
But, like you said, I thinksometimes Women just like the
little things you know.
So, just, you know, baby, let'sgo and walk, walk around, let's
go and walk around the blockand, you know, hold hands and we
talk.
That's a little bit of dating.
You know, because you got tothink about it, you used to do
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it before you got married.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yep, but see, before you get married.
You're trying to impress her orhim.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
You're trying to impress him, so you pull out the
big guns.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You pull out, the big guns Pull out the big guns.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Yeah, you pull out the big guns and be like yeah,
and then, once you get her, nowthe smaller guns start coming in
place.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
But, life gets busy sometimes.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Life gets busy.
It does, it does, but do webuild a foundation on our
marriage?
So we want to make sure that weare doing everything that we
can to lay a strong foundation,and I think dating is important.
Okay, you get to know eachother.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
You know, it's like we're going to be coming up on
32 years next month.
And I tell everybody when theyask me about you know being
married for such a long time,what is it that you know what's
the driving force behind it?
And I say you know what?
I learn something about himevery day.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Every day.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
You would think after 31 years I would have known you
by now.
But I learn a lot of stuffabout you on our dates.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Oh, okay, Wow okay, all right.
So dating your wife will ensurethat things don't get boring.
Yep, I keep it moving.
Yeah, you know that, you know.
And and it also it strengthensthe bond and keep you connected
to each other.
All right, so here we go.
All right, um, for example, I'mnot late.
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Prove it, lol.
Hey, everyone, hey, how youdoing for a shout out, ferg?
All right, number one this iswhat dating does.
Dating does this.
It encourages communication.
We talked about that.
You know it encouragescommunication.
One of the great benefits ofdating your wife is that it
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encourages positivecommunication.
Right, because you're not goingto be on a date and be negative
, you know, even though you maygo on a date and you may talk
about things, you're not goingto get negative because you're
on a date.
Right, and so it encouragespositive communication.
I would say from our last youknow not detail, but there's
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some things that, when you go ona date, make sure you tell your
wife boy, you look beautifultonight, you know, you look good
.
You know what not to tell.
But there's some things thatyou, when you go on a date, make
sure you tell your wife well,you look beautiful tonight, you
know, you look good, you know,uh, you know, I love you, you
know, just, you know, becauseit's nothing like giving your
wife compliments, you know, andI think, um, we like, let no,
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you know, anything come out yourmouth.
That you know.
So you want to build your wifeup.
We're building each other up,but, as a man is you know, we
want to make sure that our wivesare really built up.
So, number one, it encourages,you know, communication.
Um, because during the week alot of times you're occupied
with so many activities, likeyou say, we was talking about
the viral moment you got to gohere, you got to go there, you
got to to do this and you got togo that, and you got to do this
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and you got to do that, youknow.
So you know it's just crazy.
You know that you got so muchstuff going on.
So it takes, you know, when yougo out on a date, it helps you
with your communication.
You're taking your time awayfrom all of the work and the
daily activities, the choresyou're not even worrying about
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that the cooking and all thatkind of stuff where you're
spending time and you know what,let's just talk, let's just
chill and let's, you know, let'schill.
Oh boy, I'm gonna start singingagain now, but you know that's
what it does, because during theweek you may not have time for
personal communication becauseyou're running, you're moving,
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like you always say.
You're moving, you'll besnapping your fingers, but when
you spend an evening with yourwife alone, ain't no barriers,
ain't no barriers at all.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Right, alright, kind of all depends on where you at
Ain't no barriers, no barriers,ain't no barriers at all right,
all right, kind of all dependson where you at what you mean?
What you mean by that Alldepends on where you at.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Yeah, like if you're on the beach then you know it's
nice and romantic.
But if you're in a restaurantyou want to keep your hands to
yourself.
Yeah, I guess you know.
Even in a restaurant sometimesyou don't keep your hands to
yourself.
That's why I sit on the oppositeside of the table so I can look
into your eyes.
Look into your eyes so my handscan't go that far right, All
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right, we got Malaika onlinewith us, Tracy, Sister, Tracy,
hey, Tracy, how you doing?
We'll give y'all a shout outthere, All right.
So that was number one.
There is that.
It encourages communication.
Number two.
Number two it strengthens yourfriendship.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I can totally agree with that.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
How do you agree with that?
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Because you know, above all things, you are my
friend.
If I can count on anybody, Ican count on you, and I think,
because we spend time datingeach other and communicating
with each other, I know that youhave my back Outside of being
my husband.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Like if.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I want to go do some girly stuff and I don't have
anybody to go do it with.
You'll come with me, as much asyou don't like it, I'm telling
you, but you'll still come andthat lets me know that you
support me.
So that's why you know I watchsome games with you.
Because, I want you to knowthat I'm your friend too.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Yeah, you know, and even though you don't even
understand, you'd be lookingover there like, uh, you want to
ask me a question?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I'd be seeing it but you, I don't want to disturb you
, so I just, you know, I justokay going on, and then when you
start yelling that's the onlytime I leave is when you start
yelling.
When I start yelling at the tv,you say you gotta go but I
believe that every relationshipshould start out as friendship
and as that friendship grow intomarriage and over the years
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that friendship strengthens somuch that you, you know you okay
with being married, you knowyou can.
You can get through this.
But if you're not friends thenyou really don't.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
You know, you're just doing the married thing, right,
right, right, and you knowthere's a difference between, um
, you know, because friendshipsand dating are two different
things.
You know, friendships make yousee your wife as more than your
partner.
That's what friends do.
You know, just like a partner,you're my friend, like you say,
I can talk to you about anything.
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You know.
I know you got my back and thisis what I love what this
article said.
It says you know your wife issimply everything to you and
that's what dating your wifehelps you reinforce.
Wow, I gotta that's nice rightthere.
Your wife, it dating helpsreinforce that your wife is
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everything to you.
Now we know, and now again, weknow we're talking about god.
We know god is everything.
Know, we're talking about God,we know God is everything.
But we're talking about here,physically, that your wife.
That's what that dating does.
You know.
Hold man.
You know just walking andholding hands.
Oh man, I see you smiling baby,I see them dimples.
All right, all right.
(10:25):
Hey, who is that on there undertracy lindsey?
Hey, lindsey, how you doing,all right, hey, lindsey, how you
doing.
First, that she shouldunderstand by now.
Eric, I should, but I tell you,sometimes it's complicated, I'm
like you know, but I enjoylearning.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
I enjoy you know and experiencing more as we grow
together as a couple.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Yeah, you learn the basketball and football, but you
like basketball though.
You like Boston Celtics.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah, that's my team yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Boston Celtics yeah yeah, yeah.
They're pretty good this yeartoo.
You know I haven't watched themthis year, so I got to, you got
to get on it, I got to get on it.
All right now, all right.
So we said number one was what?
Number one was it encouragedcommunication.
Number two it strengthens yourfriendship.
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Number three it reinforcescommitment to each other.
It reinforces, you know, datingyour wife.
It reinforces commitment toeach other.
Every relationship needsreassurance to keep your love as
radiant as possible, everyrelationship.
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So what are some ways where yousee, where I reassure you that
our relationship is on point?
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Yeah, you call me every day and you tell me that
you love me every day.
You encourage me, even when I'mlike babe, listen, I'm busy.
Right now I gotta go.
I'm like well babe, I was justchecking in, and if we don't
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speak to each other and my datecome to an end around 2-2.30,
you, you'd be like hey, hey,what's?
Speaker 1 (12:14):
up.
What's up?
I ain't heard from you today.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I just got busy or something, but you definitely,
you know.
That reassures me that eventhough we're apart, we're still
together.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Yeah, and we're not that far away from apart.
While you're at work too, I canwalk there All right, three
minutes down the street, threeminutes down the street.
So it's not that far.
It's just that I'm at home andI just want to hear your voice,
you know.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
It's things like that that reassure me.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Okay, all right.
So when you keep dating yourwife or spend an evening with
her, you assure her that shewill always be that sexy lady
you met some months or years ago.
Yes, amen, that's, that's,that's, that's it right there,
you know I mean.
Again, it reassures your wifethat you want me.
You know what I mean, becausedesire me to cut me off?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Let me know.
You know I have to quench mydesire.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
No, no, no, no, no, no.
That's why you take it.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
I want you to feel like I desire you as well.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
You know it's a.
It's a two way street here, Notjust for me, for me, for me.
But, you know it's the samewith you, Right, so you know
it's the same with you, right?
So you know, okay, I just needto reassure you All right.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
I'm real, all right.
So what it does is, you know,when you go out, it further
rejuvenates the commitment foreach other, you know.
So it reinforces commitment toeach other.
When you go out on a date,that's what it does, all right,
all right, so we moving rightalong, all right, so number four
.
Number four it makes yourrelationship interesting.
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It makes you when you findsurprising things.
Number four it makes yourrelationship interesting.
Marriages, indeed, get boringat some point because you get
you start doing the same thingover and over.
You know, you, we go to church.
Come home, you know.
Go to the diner, you know.
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Go and take a nap, watch TV,get up early in the morning, you
know.
Go to work, I go to work.
You know you start doing thesame thing.
So go to work, I go to work.
You know you start doing thesame thing.
So you need.
That's why sometimes we do datenight.
It's supposed to be friday, butwe say you know, we're gonna do
it on a thursday or tuesday ortuesday.
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you know what I mean.
So that's what you know it.
It keeps our relationshipinteresting, you know, and
that's how it should be, becauseyou know, doing the mundane
things of life it can get boringand anybody that say it doesn't
, you know, I would say you knowyou need to check yourself
because it can, and so you toget out of that thing.
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So sometimes if Friday night isyour date night with your wife,
you know, just switch it up andsay OK, baby, call her up and
say look On, call her up and saylook on Tuesday or Monday what
you doing tonight.
Well, you know they're going tosay they ain't doing nothing.
All right, I'm going to takeyou out on a date tonight.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Hey, we ain't doing nothing.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
You know what I mean.
You know what I'm saying.
Nothing out of the ordinary,you know.
I'm just doing the same oldthing.
Okay, baby, I'm taking you outon a date tonight.
What, all right, cool, you know.
You know.
You say, well, you know,sometimes you may be like you
know what, just dress up tonight.
We're going out like oh, dressup on a monday and I gotta work
on tuesday.
Now I gotta go to work ontuesday.
No, don't worry about that,we'll be home in time enough
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when you do the.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
You know when you get some sleep okay, you know, yeah
, yeah, yeah, it does it kind ofbrings, brings back that it
moment okay hold on that forlife okay, all right, all right
moment you really you rememberwhat it was that made you fall
in love.
You know, you remember what itwas that made you think that he
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was the most romantic person inthe world.
I should get a t-shirt withthat.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
The it factor.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
You need that it factor you need that it factor
you have to keep dating helpsremind you the reason why you
fell in love with this personthe reason why you want to grow
with this person, the reason whyyou want to experience life
with this person, the reason whyyou want to sit on the porch
and watch yourgreat-grandchildren.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Oh, lord, we got great-grandchildren Watch them.
We're just watching them, watchthem play, just keep them you
know.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
so it gives you that reassurance that this is the
person that I want to spend mylife with, and this is the
person that you know I want tobe with, okay, I would say,
anybody who's watching with ustonight.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
I want some people to call in or either you know, put
it in the chat and give us some, some dating ideas.
Yeah, yeah, you know, give ussome dating ideas that you know
that you may have had or you maywant to have.
Especially the guys, especiallythe guys put it in their day.
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You know some.
Yeah, we need some dating ideas.
We need some date, not that weneed it, but it's good for our
audience, you know, for mypodcast listeners and and
podcast watchers, that we givethem some ideas, because
sometimes, um, I would say and Igoing to speak sometimes for
men is that our imagination isabout this far.
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It's about, you know, about asfar as you can spit.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
But you know what Now ?
I always say, well, okay, maybebecause I do know like
sometimes you go outside the boxand I'll be like oh.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Because now I'm finished with you.
Where are?
Speaker 1 (17:55):
we going?
What are we doing?
You know, I don't like when youdo that.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I know, I know, but it's just in my DNA.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I don't like it when you be doing that, when you be
like where are we going?
I mean, I'm telling you to getdressed, we're going somewhere
where we going what we gonna dohow long we gonna be there what
should I wear?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
oh man, I don't like it okay, I won't do it anymore,
but that's no you can say thatyou ain't gonna do it.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
That's a part of who you are.
You can get up here and saythat you're not gonna do it, but
you know you're gonna do it,I'll try my best.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
I don't like walking blindly into things and I think
that's I.
Just I'm like, I like to knowbeforehand what type of audience
, what type of crowd to expect,like if I say, hey, babe,
they're doing jazz in the park,you want to go?
I know what crowd is going tobe.
Blankets, picnic chairs, peopleare going to be out there, you
know chilling out.
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I know, I already know and I letyou know that that's what we're
gonna do, but you, on the otherhand, you like, I'm taking you
out, we'll be going, don't worryabout that.
What kind of food?
They say, don't worry aboutthat.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
And it drives me insane but you know, hey, I'll
be trying to.
You know, come out of something.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
You know that you don't know when you tell me oh
man, why don't you tell me?
Speaker 1 (19:11):
that's it I'm telling you, but that's exactly what
you do.
I come and I say you know, Iget tired of you asking, asking.
I say you know what we're gonnado this and you're doing that.
Why did you tell me?
Because you kept bugging meokay, I won't bug you you know,
but you're gonna do it.
So, yeah, yeah, you got to knowyou, you got to know what you
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know.
So the men, be trying tosurprise, surprise y'all, and
y'all don't, y'all can't besurprised.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
We can't, well, we can be.
That's when I stopped askingwhat you guys get me for
Christmas, cause I used to be sodisappointed I mean not
disappointed in the gift, butNot disappointed in the gift,
but disappointed that now.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I know Now, you know, I have nothing to look forward
to.
Look forward to, yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
I'm going to work on that.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
Yeah, what did you want to try to get for your
birthday?
You know Mother's Day.
Anything for you to know.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
It's okay.
So one of the things I thinkthat I'm not a good bowler.
I mean, eric is verycompetitive when it comes down
to sports, but I is verycompetitive when it comes down
to sports, but I'll be likelet's go bowling or let's go
go-kart riding, let's gominiature golf.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, I've been liking that miniature golf, you
know.
But you know I've been likingtop golf now.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Top golf is good.
So yeah, so put in the chatsome dates, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Yeah, some dates.
You know, Just ride along thecoast with the, with the sun,
with the roof back, sun, topdown.
You know, you know, sometimesyou may just go and say, you
know, on the weekend, um, we'regonna rent a car and we're just
gonna chill, drop the top youknow, I think one of you know we
got to get back to that numberfive, but but you know, I think
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one of the the best like we'vealways said, one of the best
vacations dates whether you wantto have it, we did it twice,
you know was where we just gotin the car and just got it.
We didn't, we didn't look at noluggage, we didn't worry about
no luggage.
We're going to buy whatever wewant.
We need whatever we need.
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We needed toothpaste, we neededunderwear, we needed whatever.
We bought it.
You know, we stayed at a hotel,you know, and that was it.
We rolled and said you know,let's get this hotel here.
You know, we looked it up andsee, but you know, let's get
this hotel here and that wassome of the best ones.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Yeah, cause it gave us a lot of each other and learn
more about each other, that'sthat communication thing, all
right.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
So number four it makes your relationship
interesting.
And number five, all right.
Number five it allows you torelax in dating.
It allows, allows you to relax.
So, when we talked about itearlier, you know you got career
, you got kids, you got otherresponsibilities and you know,
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you know oftentimes that thatconsume your time and you don't
have time to relax.
And so dating, you know,depending on the date, it it can
just have you do a woosah,right, you know?
And so it's time to do a woosah, and so that's what, uh, the
dating does.
It allows you to relax.
It allows you to uh, justbecause you, you're being taken
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away from your usual environment, so you're not home, you're not
at church, you're not doingthese things.
That you normally do is is thatyou adjust away, you know.
So I mean, like I say, a lot ofpeople like this, go to the
beach, couples just go to thebeach, get a towel, go to the
beach and just sit and justlisten to the waves, you know,
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and talk, and you know that's anice date.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Yeah, it is.
You know, it's also nice whenyou go alone and just kind of
just be staying a bit.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
So you're dating yourself, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
For the single ones out there you know ain't nothing
wrong with dating yourself.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
Ain't nothing wrong with that when you marry?
Ain't nothing wrong with datingyourself?
Absolutely not.
You need to learn how to dateyourself before you doggone
trying to date somebody else.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
I totally agree with that.
You know, Although I never hadthe pleasure.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
You never had the pleasure of dating yourself,
mm-mm.
You always been in arelationship.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Moving right along.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I'm asking you yes, oh man.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Since I was 13.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
I've always had a boyfriend or something.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I've always had a girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
So you've never been.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I've never been by myself.
Sometime I had two or threegirlfriends.
I ain't gonna give you no.
I ain't gonna give you no clapson that one.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Absolutely not, cause I hope I wasn't one of the
three.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
No, you wasn't never one of the three baby.
You always, you know, youalways number one in my life.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
That's a good answer.
That's a very good answer.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Hey, you know, y'all you know that, but I'm just Now.
Now don't get.
Don't get it twisted now.
Don't get it twisted now, don'tget it.
Don't be trying to come down onme like I'm the only one that
had two or three girlfriends,right?
Don't be trying to get theaudience like I'm such a bad
person.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
I did not say you was a player.
Player you always said butlet's not even go there.
Jordan made a comment.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
Okay, now you want to read Jordan.
What did Jordan say there?
Jordan made a comment.
Okay, now you want to read itJordan.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
What did Jordan say?
He said, I'd say, doing anactivity neither one of you have
done before.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
You might find something new and exciting to do
again.
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
All right, jordan, how do you think I ended up at
Topgolf?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Yeah, I had no clue.
And the thing about it is whenyou think about that, you know,
I know Topgolf just really gothot over here, but when we was
in Okinawa it was there all ofthe time.
We had no clue that was doingit and that's something that we
could have did even from Okinawa, you know.
But well, I love Topgolf, Ilove Topgolf.
(24:47):
What does Ferg say?
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Ferg says for me, dating allowed me to show my
wife off okay, yeah, that's good, that's good for this one is
fine, that's right that's right,I gotta give you that he said
this dating yourself isoverrated.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
I am so certain that it is but you know, before we
get to that, you know, yesterdaywas uh what donna's birthday.
Hey, hey, happy, happy birthdayDonna.
Um, yeah, we miss you.
Um.
So, yeah, this dating uh, uh,yourself is overrated.
Oh, you know, we got to findFergo, you know.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Well, no, no, no.
We got to find him in the LordJesus.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Him and the Lord Jesus.
Oh, that's what he said he toldme.
Okay, all right, the Lord Jesus.
So I'm backing off, all right Iget it.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
I can see where you're coming from and I know a
lot of female.
I have a lot of single femalefriends that feel that same way.
It's like I want to take myselfon a date and you got to take
yourself on a date every.
But you know, learn how to be.
You know in their situation.
They've never been married, sothey got to learn how to love
themselves and care forthemselves Because you know,
(25:58):
going around virally, people aretalking about I can't believe
this guy bought this girl a ringat Walmart.
I can't believe he wanted totake me to Cheesecake Factory.
I can't believe this and Ican't believe that.
But when we can, if I'm goingto go out with someone, I want
to make sure I got my own money.
So I know what I like and Idon't like cheesecake, I just
(26:20):
don't eat.
But I know what I like, youknow, and I make sure I have
enough money to cover my foodand he is, if he ain't got it,
because you know just, you knowjust, you know just to.
You know keep the whole thingdown.
So learn to be, learn to loveyourself and learn to be okay in
your own company until God sendyou, um, that person or that
(26:45):
man to um join together with youand y'all become a union and a
unit, because if you don't loveyourself, you can't show him
that you love yourself.
Why should he love you?
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Right, definitely, I give you that on that baby we
got Ferg.
Malaika says you know somethinglike archery horseback riding?
Oh man, we love horsebackriding now Kayaking.
You don't do that by yourself,like george may do it by
swimming, etc.
(27:17):
You know, yeah, those, thoseare things that I guess, when
you look at it, those are notthe norm things to do.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
It's a dating as a as a husband and wife when you're
27, it is you think so when youyoung like they are, yeah, I
mean, that's something that soyou wouldn't like to do
horseback riding?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
yeah, what about archery?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I'll try it.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Okay, all right, I ain't getting nobody's ocean you
ain't getting nobody, but youwouldn't want to do.
I mean, okay, what about a lake?
And you do jet skiing?
You all right with that?
As long as there's a lake aslong as there's a lake getting
in the ocean on no jet ski okay,you know I'll get on a jet ski
in a minute and I'll watch youfrom the ocean.
(28:00):
Don't fall off, don't fall off,I ain't coming out, oh man.
Oh man, all right, all right,yeah, but those are some things
right there.
Yeah, those are some.
I never yeah, I never thoughtof those.
Know like archery and stufflike that.
You know they have this newthing now where you go and throw
axes.
You know you throw the axe.
(28:21):
Oh boy, yeah, you go in theroom and you know they throw the
axe and stuff like that.
It's a date.
It's a date.
You know they have these, man,they have some expensive axes
that you can buy, that you canget.
You know that you can throw andtry to hit Almost like darts.
You know you're trying to hitthat and you know seeing people
try to do that as well.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Yeah, I'm no good at darts.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Yeah, you're no good at darts.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
All right then, I don't want to throw an axe, but
any little you know my, I canand I'm not good at it, but hey,
you know any little thing.
I like going to the movie onthe spur of the moment.
(29:01):
Hey, let's go down to the foodtrucks, or you know simple
things.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
You know what I like about the movies.
I like the.
I like I love the time.
Love the time when they showedwhat movie was playing and we
would sneak into the othermovies.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Don't tell nobody.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Don't tell nobody.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
When I movie in, remember when we ended up
watching two full movies.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
Yeah, it was two full movies, two and a half.
Yeah, we had nothing better todo.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
We had no babies to get back to.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
So, yeah, that was a good time, though that was a
good time, what Ferg said theocean has creatures that lakes,
don't?
I thought, like I thought youliked learning, Patsy, but like
I said, groupon, groupon.
Yeah, you know what I hadtotally forgot about Groupon,
(29:53):
totally forgot about it, butGroupon is still relevant, I
guess.
All right, so we get a shoutout to Groupon.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Yeah, we never did our salsa dancing.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Yeah, we never did.
Is that on Groupon?
Yes, it is All right If youfind one at Groupon.
I'm going salsa dancing.
I want to do that.
You're going to learn it.
Yes, I want to.
I want to.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
See, that way I'll learn something about you.
Like you know, in salsa dancingyou got to be hip.
I can't wait to see that happen.
This is Tracy saying yeah, metoo fast yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah Not yesterday, but it'sabout to come because we're
going to see King Kong andGodzilla.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Oh man, yeah, we got to look out for the next movie.
We got to make sure you know,you know.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
We right on schedule.
We got to look at the time.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Oh Lord, godzilla, you know we got to go and see
Godzilla and King Kong man Gotto see that.
I got a good shout out to that.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Yeah, they coming together to fight.
Yes sir, yes sir.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
It's going to be good boy.
I'm telling you, hey, you knowso, hey, we, you know, we thank,
thank those who people, uh,listeners for podcast listeners
and remember, uh, you can listento a podcast on apple, on um,
(31:19):
all the streaming uh things onapple, google podcasts, spotify,
amazon music.
Man, we, we, everywhere, we,everywhere you can get us, and
so while you are riding in yourcar, you can listen to us on a
podcast.
You know, we have somebodydiligently that listen, listens
to us from the russia area,russia man.
(31:41):
I give a shout out to them yeahso I thank god for them.
So, um.
So I guess I want to ask thisquestion how frequently should
you date?
How frequently should you date?
I mean, should you go once amonth?
You?
Speaker 2 (32:02):
know what's your recommendation.
Well, I mean, before we got sobusy with so many other things,
we used to go once a week,Friday night was date night.
Some Fridays we would go out.
Some Fridays we would go out,some Fridays we would stay home,
but then, you know, bishopsstart calling and they would
date.
So I enjoyed that.
(32:23):
But I mean, I think at leastonce a week you should do
something special, even if it'shey, go pop some popcorn, let's
watch this movie together andcall it a bed, and I think at
least once a week, you know,because the week is so tiring,
there's so much going on,especially if you have kids and
some people work two jobs, youknow.
(32:43):
So you should always have takethat moment and have that time
to wind down and prepareyourself, because you know, we
honestly only have one day ofthe week where we can actually
relax, and that's Saturday.
And if you didn't do thelaundry and grocery shop the
Saturday before, then you got todo it that week because you got
to plan for the week ahead.
See, that's how we as womenthink.
It's like okay, if I do thelaundry this Saturday, then next
(33:05):
Friday, saturday, I can chill.
If I dust, I ain't got to dust.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Right.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
We try to do things ahead so we can plan our time of
relaxation, because comeSaturday you might want to take
the kids to the park or youmight want to take the kids to
the pool.
Do something with the kids,because when you hit Sunday it's
church dinner nap, in thatorder.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Yeah, church dinner nap and then get back up.
And church dinner nap and thenget back up and, um, it's time
for monday to start all of itall over again.
So I definitely suggest atleast take a moment at least
once a week, even if it's justfor a couple hours, even if you
just sit in the living room,light a candle and put on some
jazz and just chat with eachother, right, and the kids
(33:49):
listen.
Y'all go in there and watchthat movie, me and dad got to
talk, me and mom going to talk,you know.
That's what they Taking thatmoment just to say recap.
You can talk about the kids,you can talk about whatever you
want to.
Well, you know, so-and-so gotto be on a spelling test and I
was up with all you know.
Just different little things,different little things you know
, bringing the family or what wegot to plan for next week.
(34:10):
Let's get next week planned out.
Prom is coming up or grad bashis coming up.
How are we going to do this?
Who's going to handle this part?
Who's going to handle that part?
Speaker 1 (34:20):
Samson says once or twice, once or twice.
What Samson?
Once or twice a week, once ortwice a year.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
I'm pretty sure he means a month.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
You think so, I don't know.
You think it sounds to me onceor twice a month.
You think Easy is going to begoing out just once or twice a
month.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Carol give us an update on that.
Oh, man Do you think once aweek is okay, because I honestly
feel like once a week, once aweek is good.
I I honestly feel like once aweek.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Once a week is good.
I feel like it's too much.
You think so.
Once a week, you might thinkit's too much.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
I think you know what .
Let me put it this way, nowthat we are empty nesters we can
do that Right, you know, butsome people they're not.
So maybe once or twice a monthmight be better when you got a
full family.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
You got a full family right.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
You know what I'm saying Because you got to not
only you know, when we had allthe kids, we didn't have date
night, we had family night.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Yeah, it was on Friday, right right we?
Speaker 2 (35:21):
played games, we danced, we ate tacos, we cooked
together.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Right.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
It was family night, you know.
So that's what we did.
But once the kids startedgetting older and moving on, it
became back to our date night.
But in the same instance, evenwhen we had family night, we
still took that time for eachother.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Right.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
You know, and you know, remember I had a schedule.
You talk to me while I'mcooking.
You talk to me while I'mbathing the baby.
You talk to me while I'mbathing the baby.
You talk to me while I'm doingthis.
Everybody had their time, andthen the baby would come in and
hop in the bed and, once he fallasleep, put the baby to bed.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Now it's our time.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
It's our time, so you have to just manage your time.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Okay, yeah, you do.
Alright.
Samson said he meant once ortwice a week.
Okay, All right.
Samson said he meant once ortwice a week.
Okay, I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Sister Jason said once a week is good.
Yeah, it is All right good, Ilike that.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
All right.
And Ferg says I do my best todo all chores, to include yard
work, on Thursday.
That way the weekends are free.
Okay, I like that.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
That's great advice.
That's what I do.
I mop on Thursdays so I don'thave to do it on the weekend.
That's really good becausesometimes you know you never
know when something's going tocome up that's out of out of
pocket.
You got to stop doing whatyou're doing and take care of
things you know.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
Right, okay, cool, oh man.
So yeah, I knew Sansa wastalking about a week.
I know it ain't going to beonce or twice a month.
Why you be giving him a hardtime?
I like my brother man, I likehim man, he's good, he's good.
(37:06):
Hey, you know what?
So, yeah, so we're gettingready to wrap up.
We're getting ready to wrap up.
We're getting ready to wrap up.
Look at that, look at that.
You know, yeah, we're gettingready.
Thank you so much.
Yeah, unless somebody want tocall in um, I got the delay down
at least.
It is not a minute delay now,it's like but 10, 15 seconds.
So, yeah, so it was something.
(37:27):
It was all my fault, you know,I didn't program it right.
Yeah, will you forgive me?
Speaker 2 (37:33):
Sure Okay.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
All right, and I hope the audience forgives me as
well.
Yeah, but if you want to callin right quick, we will take a.
You know what time is it, babe?
It's 820.
Wow, 820.
That's cool, right man.
That's cool, right man.
I really enjoyed tonight.
Yes, you know, sometimes youjust got to get those serious
(37:54):
conversations, you know, lasttime it was all funny and games.
You know, we have got you know,good, but we have fun tonight
as well.
Yeah, you know, and I'll, we,we, we hope we're here to give
you know, just practical advicefor marriage.
Yeah, you know, and, and likehe was saying, marriage, this is
marriage in real life, becausesometimes in real life you just
(38:15):
keep going and going, and goingand going and you forget to date
.
Yeah you forget to date.
And we, we must, and men, wemust take that time and take
that responsibility to say youknow what I have to date my wife
?
I have, I must date my wife anduh, just come up with some
things.
We.
You know some things heretonight that came up archery,
(38:38):
horseback riding.
You know bowling, golfing.
You know taking her to themovies, taking her out to eat,
you know taking out to a newrestaurant that you never had.
You know something?
You know just something, just awalk in the park holding hands.
You know just that, like wesaid, it's the reassurance of
(38:58):
your commitment to her.
You know that we end thistogether.
You know we walk in and youknow, maybe drink a soda or
something.
You know it's just something.
Get, you know it's justsomething.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
Get ice cream or something, something yeah and
ladies, we have to appreciatethe effort, even if we try to
get you to go in a helicopterflying over the ocean On a
single engine.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
That wasn't no helicopter, that was an airplane
.
But you said you wanted to goin a helicopter.
I said I wanted to go in ahelicopter not an airplane, yeah
, but I took you on thesingle-engine airplane.
Let me tell you, you werenervous, wasn't you?
Oh, my goodness, you didn'tlook it though.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Because I wanted to let you know that I appreciated
the effort.
I almost did.
I'm not going to get in thatthing, but I appreciate the
effort.
You know, and just have toremind ourselves that, even if
it's something that we wouldnever choose to do for ourselves
(39:58):
, we have to show appreciationthat you know what.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
He was thoughtful enough to try and do this, so
I'm going to go on with it, Okay, so if I want to go diving out
the plane, you all right withthat, Me and you.
Speaker 2 (40:11):
No, I'm not diving out no airplane skydiving
skydiving.
You know, in my younger days Iwas ready to do that, but now I
might break my neck oh, how yougonna break your neck.
I ain't trying to do that, no,alright air balloon.
I'll do an air balloon okay,alright.
I'm not diving out of nothing,you're diving out of no airplane
(40:33):
.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Oh Lord, okay, thank you guys so much.
Well, thank you for watchingwith us tonight.
Like I often say that, you knowyou could have been doing
something else, but you decidedto join us tonight and, you know
, participate in, you know, justbeing a part of the audience,
(40:55):
and we just so so glad to haveyou.
You know, we are so glad tohave you and so, um, make sure
you share and like.
Jordan says instagram, we gotwhat jordan say instagram is a
great place to look for datenight ideas.
You know, you're showing them,right, you're, you're sure,
right, jordan?
Um, they got this, I know theygot, especially in miami.
They got this, this, this one,uh, miami free places.
(41:18):
But they're, they talk aboutfort lauderdale too.
You know, and again, datesdon't have to be expensive.
It could be free.
Try five to free things to do.
You know there's a, there's afair down in margate, right, we
got to go to the fair in margate.
Just walk around.
You know, get a funnel cake.
I gotta get my baby a funnelcake.
(41:39):
But I mean, the next time wehave um marriage and real life
podcast, you'll be on the edgeof funnel cake.
Yep, all right, cool, you'll beon the edge of funnel cake by
the end.
All right, make sure you shareand make sure you like.
There's 12 of you watching withus right now.
There's 12.
What that mean is 10, you knowus.
Two plus 10, please.
(42:00):
I want to see 10 likes.
I'm going to see 12 likes atthe end of the, at the end of
the session.
Okay, 12 likes goes.
So, please.
So I I already did mine, soplease go and like this podcast
right now.
Again, remember, we are on allof the streaming outlets, all of
(42:22):
the podcast outlets.
We're on Apple Podcasts, we'reon Amazon Music, we're on
Spotify, we're on iHeartRadioBeamcast.
We are everywhere and we wantyou to just be with us and and
take this journey with us onmarriage in real life.
We want to say good night,thank you for watching with us.
All right, we're ready to get in our topic, you
ready?
Speaker 2 (00:02):
Let's do it, I'm ready.
Speaker 1 (00:05):
All right.
Our topic tonight is fivesurprising benefits of dating
your wife.
We're doing these topics thismonth in celebration of Women's
History Month.
Go, girl, girl power, who ruledthe world?
Girl, oh Lord.
All right, fellas, I know y'allthere.
I see you, jordan.
(00:25):
I know you there.
All right, fellas, I know y'allthere.
I see you, jordan, I know youthere.
All right.
So this is five surprisingbenefits of dating your wife.
All right, you know, becauseonce you get married, you're
still supposed to date, right,you should date Right.
You should want to.
You know wine and dine everynow and then and we've already
went over and said that datesdon't have to be expensive.
(00:47):
It could be you sitting in thein the middle of the floor.
It could be just a ride, a carride.
It could be just you going to amusic festival.
It could be just a let's go andget some ice cream.
That's a little date, you know.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
That's something different, you know small things
that count the most with women.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
I know as far as I am .
Speaker 1 (01:13):
I mean I like big things too, but when you do
something small, I mean you putsome thought into it, like she
gonna like it, yeah, she gonnalike this, All right, All right,
hey, all right.
Here's Jordan.
Before we get on, Jordan saidhere I think killing desire is
excessive.
Just be patient.
Women have a lot on their mindsand for some that needs to be
settled before they're in themood.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
Absolutely, that's my son.
All right, deke.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
There's just so much to go on.
I mean, even when we're notphysically moving, we're
multitasking in our head.
So I can go take Jordan anddrop him off over here, and then
I got to go pick up Nikki, thetwins, and take them over there.
Oh yeah, he's got to track me.
So even though I'm working thatnine to five, I'm thinking what
(01:58):
I got to do afterwards andsometimes your mind run your
raggedy.
Speaker 1 (02:02):
Yeah, yeah, and that's tiresome in itself All by
itself.
That's tiresome in itself,right?
So you know, you know thedating.
Getting back to the topic here,you should want to date your
wife.
You should never, you know.
And I want to tell everybody,remember all the guys, remember,
never stop dating your wife,never stop dating your wife,
(02:26):
never stop dating your wife.
You know, bring a flowers, bringa, you know, cookies or
favorite chips every now andthen, favorite soda or or do
something you know and and justsurprise her.
And, like I said, you know,like we said just, sometime I'll
walk in the park, sometimesI'll walk around the street.
You know, uh, sometimes I walkaround the street.
You know we look at dating asso much of oh, I got to take her
(02:47):
out to dinner, I got to buy thewine, I got to do this and then
.
But, like you said, I thinksometimes Women just like the
little things you know.
So, just, you know, baby, let'sgo and walk, walk around, let's
go and walk around the blockand, you know, hold hands and we
talk.
That's a little bit of dating.
You know, because you got tothink about it, you used to do
(03:07):
it before you got married.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yep, but see, before you get married.
You're trying to impress her orhim.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:13):
You're trying to impress him, so you pull out the
big guns.
Speaker 1 (03:16):
You pull out, the big guns Pull out the big guns.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Yeah, you pull out the big guns and be like yeah,
and then, once you get her, nowthe smaller guns start coming in
place.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
But, life gets busy sometimes.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Life gets busy.
It does, it does, but do webuild a foundation on our
marriage?
So we want to make sure that weare doing everything that we
can to lay a strong foundation,and I think dating is important.
Okay, you get to know eachother.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
You know, it's like we're going to be coming up on
32 years next month.
And I tell everybody when theyask me about you know being
married for such a long time,what is it that you know what's
the driving force behind it?
And I say you know what?
I learn something about himevery day.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Every day.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
You would think after 31 years I would have known you
by now.
But I learn a lot of stuffabout you on our dates.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Oh, okay, Wow okay, all right.
So dating your wife will ensurethat things don't get boring.
Yep, I keep it moving.
Yeah, you know that, you know.
And and it also it strengthensthe bond and keep you connected
to each other.
All right, so here we go.
All right, um, for example, I'mnot late.
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Prove it, lol.
Hey, everyone, hey, how youdoing for a shout out, ferg?
All right, number one this iswhat dating does.
Dating does this.
It encourages communication.
We talked about that.
You know it encouragescommunication.
One of the great benefits ofdating your wife is that it
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encourages positivecommunication.
Right, because you're not goingto be on a date and be negative
, you know, even though you maygo on a date and you may talk
about things, you're not goingto get negative because you're
on a date.
Right, and so it encouragespositive communication.
I would say from our last youknow not detail, but there's
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some things that, when you go ona date, make sure you tell your
wife boy, you look beautifultonight, you know, you look good
.
You know what not to tell.
But there's some things thatyou, when you go on a date, make
sure you tell your wife well,you look beautiful tonight, you
know, you look good, you know,uh, you know, I love you, you
know, just, you know, becauseit's nothing like giving your
wife compliments, you know, andI think, um, we like, let no,
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you know, anything come out yourmouth.
That you know.
So you want to build your wifeup.
We're building each other up,but, as a man is you know, we
want to make sure that our wivesare really built up.
So, number one, it encourages,you know, communication.
Um, because during the week alot of times you're occupied
with so many activities, likeyou say, we was talking about
the viral moment you got to gohere, you got to go there, you
got to to do this and you got togo that, and you got to do this
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and you got to do that, youknow.
So you know it's just crazy.
You know that you got so muchstuff going on.
So it takes, you know, when yougo out on a date, it helps you
with your communication.
You're taking your time awayfrom all of the work and the
daily activities, the choresyou're not even worrying about
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that the cooking and all thatkind of stuff where you're
spending time and you know what,let's just talk, let's just
chill and let's, you know, let'schill.
Oh boy, I'm gonna start singingagain now, but you know that's
what it does, because during theweek you may not have time for
personal communication becauseyou're running, you're moving,
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like you always say.
You're moving, you'll besnapping your fingers, but when
you spend an evening with yourwife alone, ain't no barriers,
ain't no barriers at all.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
Right, alright, kind of all depends on where you at
Ain't no barriers, no barriers,ain't no barriers at all right,
all right, kind of all dependson where you at what you mean?
What you mean by that Alldepends on where you at.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Yeah, like if you're on the beach then you know it's
nice and romantic.
But if you're in a restaurantyou want to keep your hands to
yourself.
Yeah, I guess you know.
Even in a restaurant sometimesyou don't keep your hands to
yourself.
That's why I sit on the oppositeside of the table so I can look
into your eyes.
Look into your eyes so my handscan't go that far right, All
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right, we got Malaika onlinewith us, Tracy, Sister, Tracy,
hey, Tracy, how you doing?
We'll give y'all a shout outthere, All right.
So that was number one.
There is that.
It encourages communication.
Number two.
Number two it strengthens yourfriendship.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I can totally agree with that.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
How do you agree with that?
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Because you know, above all things, you are my
friend.
If I can count on anybody, Ican count on you, and I think,
because we spend time datingeach other and communicating
with each other, I know that youhave my back Outside of being
my husband.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Like if.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
I want to go do some girly stuff and I don't have
anybody to go do it with.
You'll come with me, as much asyou don't like it, I'm telling
you, but you'll still come andthat lets me know that you
support me.
So that's why you know I watchsome games with you.
Because, I want you to knowthat I'm your friend too.
Speaker 1 (08:38):
Yeah, you know, and even though you don't even
understand, you'd be lookingover there like, uh, you want to
ask me a question?
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I'd be seeing it but you, I don't want to disturb you
, so I just, you know, I justokay going on, and then when you
start yelling that's the onlytime I leave is when you start
yelling.
When I start yelling at the tv,you say you gotta go but I
believe that every relationshipshould start out as friendship
and as that friendship grow intomarriage and over the years
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that friendship strengthens somuch that you, you know you okay
with being married, you knowyou can.
You can get through this.
But if you're not friends thenyou really don't.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
You know, you're just doing the married thing, right,
right, right, and you knowthere's a difference between, um
, you know, because friendshipsand dating are two different
things.
You know, friendships make yousee your wife as more than your
partner.
That's what friends do.
You know, just like a partner,you're my friend, like you say,
I can talk to you about anything.
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You know.
I know you got my back and thisis what I love what this
article said.
It says you know your wife issimply everything to you and
that's what dating your wifehelps you reinforce.
Wow, I gotta that's nice rightthere.
Your wife, it dating helpsreinforce that your wife is
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everything to you.
Now we know, and now again, weknow we're talking about god.
We know god is everything.
Know, we're talking about God,we know God is everything.
But we're talking about here,physically, that your wife.
That's what that dating does.
You know.
Hold man.
You know just walking andholding hands.
Oh man, I see you smiling baby,I see them dimples.
All right, all right.
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Hey, who is that on there undertracy lindsey?
Hey, lindsey, how you doing,all right, hey, lindsey, how you
doing.
First, that she shouldunderstand by now.
Eric, I should, but I tell you,sometimes it's complicated, I'm
like you know, but I enjoylearning.
Speaker 2 (10:45):
I enjoy you know and experiencing more as we grow
together as a couple.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
Yeah, you learn the basketball and football, but you
like basketball though.
You like Boston Celtics.
Speaker 2 (10:56):
Yeah, that's my team yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:57):
Boston Celtics yeah yeah, yeah.
They're pretty good this yeartoo.
You know I haven't watched themthis year, so I got to, you got
to get on it, I got to get on it.
All right now, all right.
So we said number one was what?
Number one was it encouragedcommunication.
Number two it strengthens yourfriendship.
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Number three it reinforcescommitment to each other.
It reinforces, you know, datingyour wife.
It reinforces commitment toeach other.
Every relationship needsreassurance to keep your love as
radiant as possible, everyrelationship.
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So what are some ways where yousee, where I reassure you that
our relationship is on point?
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Yeah, you call me every day and you tell me that
you love me every day.
You encourage me, even when I'mlike babe, listen, I'm busy.
Right now I gotta go.
I'm like well babe, I was justchecking in, and if we don't
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speak to each other and my datecome to an end around 2-2.30,
you, you'd be like hey, hey,what's?
Speaker 1 (12:14):
up.
What's up?
I ain't heard from you today.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
I just got busy or something, but you definitely,
you know.
That reassures me that eventhough we're apart, we're still
together.
Speaker 1 (12:26):
Yeah, and we're not that far away from apart.
While you're at work too, I canwalk there All right, three
minutes down the street, threeminutes down the street.
So it's not that far.
It's just that I'm at home andI just want to hear your voice,
you know.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
It's things like that that reassure me.
Speaker 1 (12:45):
Okay, all right.
So when you keep dating yourwife or spend an evening with
her, you assure her that shewill always be that sexy lady
you met some months or years ago.
Yes, amen, that's, that's,that's, that's it right there,
you know I mean.
Again, it reassures your wifethat you want me.
You know what I mean, becausedesire me to cut me off?
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Let me know.
You know I have to quench mydesire.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
No, no, no, no, no, no.
That's why you take it.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
I want you to feel like I desire you as well.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
Right.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
You know it's a.
It's a two way street here, Notjust for me, for me, for me.
But, you know it's the samewith you, Right, so you know
it's the same with you, right?
So you know, okay, I just needto reassure you All right.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
I'm real, all right.
So what it does is, you know,when you go out, it further
rejuvenates the commitment foreach other, you know.
So it reinforces commitment toeach other.
When you go out on a date,that's what it does, all right,
all right, so we moving rightalong, all right, so number four
.
Number four it makes yourrelationship interesting.
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It makes you when you findsurprising things.
Number four it makes yourrelationship interesting.
Marriages, indeed, get boringat some point because you get
you start doing the same thingover and over.
You know, you, we go to church.
Come home, you know.
Go to the diner, you know.
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Go and take a nap, watch TV,get up early in the morning, you
know.
Go to work, I go to work.
You know you start doing thesame thing.
So go to work, I go to work.
You know you start doing thesame thing.
So you need.
That's why sometimes we do datenight.
It's supposed to be friday, butwe say you know, we're gonna do
it on a thursday or tuesday ortuesday.
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you know what I mean.
So that's what you know it.
It keeps our relationshipinteresting, you know, and
that's how it should be, becauseyou know, doing the mundane
things of life it can get boringand anybody that say it doesn't
, you know, I would say you knowyou need to check yourself
because it can, and so you toget out of that thing.
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So sometimes if Friday night isyour date night with your wife,
you know, just switch it up andsay OK, baby, call her up and
say look On, call her up and saylook on Tuesday or Monday what
you doing tonight.
Well, you know they're going tosay they ain't doing nothing.
All right, I'm going to takeyou out on a date tonight.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Hey, we ain't doing nothing.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
You know what I mean.
You know what I'm saying.
Nothing out of the ordinary,you know.
I'm just doing the same oldthing.
Okay, baby, I'm taking you outon a date tonight.
What, all right, cool, you know.
You know.
You say, well, you know,sometimes you may be like you
know what, just dress up tonight.
We're going out like oh, dressup on a monday and I gotta work
on tuesday.
Now I gotta go to work ontuesday.
No, don't worry about that,we'll be home in time enough
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when you do the.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
You know when you get some sleep okay, you know, yeah
, yeah, yeah, it does it kind ofbrings, brings back that it
moment okay hold on that forlife okay, all right, all right
moment you really you rememberwhat it was that made you fall
in love.
You know, you remember what itwas that made you think that he
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was the most romantic person inthe world.
I should get a t-shirt withthat.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
The it factor.
Speaker 2 (16:13):
You need that it factor you need that it factor
you have to keep dating helpsremind you the reason why you
fell in love with this personthe reason why you want to grow
with this person, the reason whyyou want to experience life
with this person, the reason whyyou want to sit on the porch
and watch yourgreat-grandchildren.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Oh, lord, we got great-grandchildren Watch them.
We're just watching them, watchthem play, just keep them you
know.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
so it gives you that reassurance that this is the
person that I want to spend mylife with, and this is the
person that you know I want tobe with, okay, I would say,
anybody who's watching with ustonight.
Speaker 1 (16:50):
I want some people to call in or either you know, put
it in the chat and give us some, some dating ideas.
Yeah, yeah, you know, give ussome dating ideas that you know
that you may have had or you maywant to have.
Especially the guys, especiallythe guys put it in their day.
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You know some.
Yeah, we need some dating ideas.
We need some date, not that weneed it, but it's good for our
audience, you know, for mypodcast listeners and and
podcast watchers, that we givethem some ideas, because
sometimes, um, I would say and Igoing to speak sometimes for
men is that our imagination isabout this far.
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It's about, you know, about asfar as you can spit.
Speaker 2 (17:44):
But you know what Now ?
I always say, well, okay, maybebecause I do know like
sometimes you go outside the boxand I'll be like oh.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
Because now I'm finished with you.
Where are?
Speaker 1 (17:55):
we going?
What are we doing?
You know, I don't like when youdo that.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I know, I know, but it's just in my DNA.
Speaker 1 (18:01):
I don't like it when you be doing that, when you be
like where are we going?
I mean, I'm telling you to getdressed, we're going somewhere
where we going what we gonna dohow long we gonna be there what
should I wear?
Speaker 2 (18:15):
oh man, I don't like it okay, I won't do it anymore,
but that's no you can say thatyou ain't gonna do it.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
That's a part of who you are.
You can get up here and saythat you're not gonna do it, but
you know you're gonna do it,I'll try my best.
Speaker 2 (18:27):
I don't like walking blindly into things and I think
that's I.
Just I'm like, I like to knowbeforehand what type of audience
, what type of crowd to expect,like if I say, hey, babe,
they're doing jazz in the park,you want to go?
I know what crowd is going tobe.
Blankets, picnic chairs, peopleare going to be out there, you
know chilling out.
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I know, I already know and I letyou know that that's what we're
gonna do, but you, on the otherhand, you like, I'm taking you
out, we'll be going, don't worryabout that.
What kind of food?
They say, don't worry aboutthat.
Speaker 1 (18:59):
And it drives me insane but you know, hey, I'll
be trying to.
You know, come out of something.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
You know that you don't know when you tell me oh
man, why don't you tell me?
Speaker 1 (19:11):
that's it I'm telling you, but that's exactly what
you do.
I come and I say you know, Iget tired of you asking, asking.
I say you know what we're gonnado this and you're doing that.
Why did you tell me?
Because you kept bugging meokay, I won't bug you you know,
but you're gonna do it.
So, yeah, yeah, you got to knowyou, you got to know what you
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know.
So the men, be trying tosurprise, surprise y'all, and
y'all don't, y'all can't besurprised.
Speaker 2 (19:38):
We can't, well, we can be.
That's when I stopped askingwhat you guys get me for
Christmas, cause I used to be sodisappointed I mean not
disappointed in the gift, butNot disappointed in the gift,
but disappointed that now.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
I know Now, you know, I have nothing to look forward
to.
Look forward to, yeah, so.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
I'm going to work on that.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
Yeah, what did you want to try to get for your
birthday?
You know Mother's Day.
Anything for you to know.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
It's okay.
So one of the things I thinkthat I'm not a good bowler.
I mean, eric is verycompetitive when it comes down
to sports, but I is verycompetitive when it comes down
to sports, but I'll be likelet's go bowling or let's go
go-kart riding, let's gominiature golf.
Speaker 1 (20:17):
Yeah, I've been liking that miniature golf, you
know.
But you know I've been likingtop golf now.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Top golf is good.
So yeah, so put in the chatsome dates, you know.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Yeah, some dates.
You know, Just ride along thecoast with the, with the sun,
with the roof back, sun, topdown.
You know, you know, sometimesyou may just go and say, you
know, on the weekend, um, we'regonna rent a car and we're just
gonna chill, drop the top youknow, I think one of you know we
got to get back to that numberfive, but but you know, I think
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one of the the best like we'vealways said, one of the best
vacations dates whether you wantto have it, we did it twice,
you know was where we just gotin the car and just got it.
We didn't, we didn't look at noluggage, we didn't worry about
no luggage.
We're going to buy whatever wewant.
We need whatever we need.
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We needed toothpaste, we neededunderwear, we needed whatever.
We bought it.
You know, we stayed at a hotel,you know, and that was it.
We rolled and said you know,let's get this hotel here.
You know, we looked it up andsee, but you know, let's get
this hotel here and that wassome of the best ones.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
Yeah, cause it gave us a lot of each other and learn
more about each other, that'sthat communication thing, all
right.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
So number four it makes your relationship
interesting.
And number five, all right.
Number five it allows you torelax in dating.
It allows, allows you to relax.
So, when we talked about itearlier, you know you got career
, you got kids, you got otherresponsibilities and you know,
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you know oftentimes that thatconsume your time and you don't
have time to relax.
And so dating, you know,depending on the date, it it can
just have you do a woosah,right, you know?
And so it's time to do a woosah, and so that's what, uh, the
dating does.
It allows you to relax.
It allows you to uh, justbecause you, you're being taken
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away from your usual environment, so you're not home, you're not
at church, you're not doingthese things.
That you normally do is is thatyou adjust away, you know.
So I mean, like I say, a lot ofpeople like this, go to the
beach, couples just go to thebeach, get a towel, go to the
beach and just sit and justlisten to the waves, you know,
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and talk, and you know that's anice date.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Yeah, it is.
You know, it's also nice whenyou go alone and just kind of
just be staying a bit.
Speaker 1 (22:46):
So you're dating yourself, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:48):
For the single ones out there you know ain't nothing
wrong with dating yourself.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
Ain't nothing wrong with that when you marry?
Ain't nothing wrong with datingyourself?
Absolutely not.
You need to learn how to dateyourself before you doggone
trying to date somebody else.
Speaker 2 (23:00):
I totally agree with that.
You know, Although I never hadthe pleasure.
Speaker 1 (23:05):
You never had the pleasure of dating yourself,
mm-mm.
You always been in arelationship.
Speaker 2 (23:10):
Moving right along.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I'm asking you yes, oh man.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
Since I was 13.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (23:16):
I've always had a boyfriend or something.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
I've always had a girlfriend.
Speaker 2 (23:20):
So you've never been.
Speaker 1 (23:22):
I've never been by myself.
Sometime I had two or threegirlfriends.
I ain't gonna give you no.
I ain't gonna give you no clapson that one.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Absolutely not, cause I hope I wasn't one of the
three.
Speaker 1 (23:35):
No, you wasn't never one of the three baby.
You always, you know, youalways number one in my life.
Speaker 2 (23:40):
That's a good answer.
That's a very good answer.
Speaker 1 (23:45):
Hey, you know, y'all you know that, but I'm just Now.
Now don't get.
Don't get it twisted now.
Don't get it twisted now, don'tget it.
Don't be trying to come down onme like I'm the only one that
had two or three girlfriends,right?
Don't be trying to get theaudience like I'm such a bad
person.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
I did not say you was a player.
Player you always said butlet's not even go there.
Jordan made a comment.
Speaker 1 (24:08):
Okay, now you want to read Jordan.
What did Jordan say there?
Jordan made a comment.
Okay, now you want to read itJordan.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
What did Jordan say?
He said, I'd say, doing anactivity neither one of you have
done before.
Speaker 1 (24:20):
You might find something new and exciting to do
again.
Absolutely.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
All right, jordan, how do you think I ended up at
Topgolf?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Yeah, I had no clue.
And the thing about it is whenyou think about that, you know,
I know Topgolf just really gothot over here, but when we was
in Okinawa it was there all ofthe time.
We had no clue that was doingit and that's something that we
could have did even from Okinawa, you know.
But well, I love Topgolf, Ilove Topgolf.
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What does Ferg say?
Speaker 2 (24:48):
Ferg says for me, dating allowed me to show my
wife off okay, yeah, that's good, that's good for this one is
fine, that's right that's right,I gotta give you that he said
this dating yourself isoverrated.
Speaker 1 (25:02):
I am so certain that it is but you know, before we
get to that, you know, yesterdaywas uh what donna's birthday.
Hey, hey, happy, happy birthdayDonna.
Um, yeah, we miss you.
Um.
So, yeah, this dating uh, uh,yourself is overrated.
Oh, you know, we got to findFergo, you know.
Speaker 2 (25:22):
Well, no, no, no.
We got to find him in the LordJesus.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
Him and the Lord Jesus.
Oh, that's what he said he toldme.
Okay, all right, the Lord Jesus.
So I'm backing off, all right Iget it.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
I can see where you're coming from and I know a
lot of female.
I have a lot of single femalefriends that feel that same way.
It's like I want to take myselfon a date and you got to take
yourself on a date every.
But you know, learn how to be.
You know in their situation.
They've never been married, sothey got to learn how to love
themselves and care forthemselves Because you know,
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going around virally, people aretalking about I can't believe
this guy bought this girl a ringat Walmart.
I can't believe he wanted totake me to Cheesecake Factory.
I can't believe this and Ican't believe that.
But when we can, if I'm goingto go out with someone, I want
to make sure I got my own money.
So I know what I like and Idon't like cheesecake, I just
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don't eat.
But I know what I like, youknow, and I make sure I have
enough money to cover my foodand he is, if he ain't got it,
because you know just, you knowjust, you know just to.
You know keep the whole thingdown.
So learn to be, learn to loveyourself and learn to be okay in
your own company until God sendyou, um, that person or that
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man to um join together with youand y'all become a union and a
unit, because if you don't loveyourself, you can't show him
that you love yourself.
Why should he love you?
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Right, definitely, I give you that on that baby we
got Ferg.
Malaika says you know somethinglike archery horseback riding?
Oh man, we love horsebackriding now Kayaking.
You don't do that by yourself,like george may do it by
swimming, etc.
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You know, yeah, those, thoseare things that I guess, when
you look at it, those are notthe norm things to do.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
It's a dating as a as a husband and wife when you're
27, it is you think so when youyoung like they are, yeah, I
mean, that's something that soyou wouldn't like to do
horseback riding?
Speaker 1 (27:36):
yeah, what about archery?
Speaker 2 (27:38):
I'll try it.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
Okay, all right, I ain't getting nobody's ocean you
ain't getting nobody, but youwouldn't want to do.
I mean, okay, what about a lake?
And you do jet skiing?
You all right with that?
As long as there's a lake aslong as there's a lake getting
in the ocean on no jet ski okay,you know I'll get on a jet ski
in a minute and I'll watch youfrom the ocean.
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Don't fall off, don't fall off,I ain't coming out, oh man.
Oh man, all right, all right,yeah, but those are some things
right there.
Yeah, those are some.
I never yeah, I never thoughtof those.
Know like archery and stufflike that.
You know they have this newthing now where you go and throw
axes.
You know you throw the axe.
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Oh boy, yeah, you go in theroom and you know they throw the
axe and stuff like that.
It's a date.
It's a date.
You know they have these, man,they have some expensive axes
that you can buy, that you canget.
You know that you can throw andtry to hit Almost like darts.
You know you're trying to hitthat and you know seeing people
try to do that as well.
Speaker 2 (28:38):
Yeah, I'm no good at darts.
Speaker 1 (28:40):
Yeah, you're no good at darts.
Speaker 2 (28:41):
All right then, I don't want to throw an axe, but
any little you know my, I canand I'm not good at it, but hey,
you know any little thing.
I like going to the movie onthe spur of the moment.
(29:01):
Hey, let's go down to the foodtrucks, or you know simple
things.
Speaker 1 (29:06):
You know what I like about the movies.
I like the.
I like I love the time.
Love the time when they showedwhat movie was playing and we
would sneak into the othermovies.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Don't tell nobody.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Don't tell nobody.
Speaker 2 (29:19):
When I movie in, remember when we ended up
watching two full movies.
Speaker 1 (29:23):
Yeah, it was two full movies, two and a half.
Yeah, we had nothing better todo.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
We had no babies to get back to.
Speaker 1 (29:33):
So, yeah, that was a good time, though that was a
good time, what Ferg said theocean has creatures that lakes,
don't?
I thought, like I thought youliked learning, Patsy, but like
I said, groupon, groupon.
Yeah, you know what I hadtotally forgot about Groupon,
(29:53):
totally forgot about it, butGroupon is still relevant, I
guess.
All right, so we get a shoutout to Groupon.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Yeah, we never did our salsa dancing.
Speaker 1 (30:03):
Yeah, we never did.
Is that on Groupon?
Yes, it is All right If youfind one at Groupon.
I'm going salsa dancing.
I want to do that.
You're going to learn it.
Yes, I want to.
I want to.
Speaker 2 (30:16):
See, that way I'll learn something about you.
Like you know, in salsa dancingyou got to be hip.
I can't wait to see that happen.
This is Tracy saying yeah, metoo fast yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
yeah Not yesterday, but it'sabout to come because we're
going to see King Kong andGodzilla.
Speaker 1 (30:38):
Oh man, yeah, we got to look out for the next movie.
We got to make sure you know,you know.
Speaker 2 (30:44):
We right on schedule.
We got to look at the time.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Oh Lord, godzilla, you know we got to go and see
Godzilla and King Kong man Gotto see that.
I got a good shout out to that.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Yeah, they coming together to fight.
Yes sir, yes sir.
Speaker 1 (30:58):
It's going to be good boy.
I'm telling you, hey, you knowso, hey, we, you know, we thank,
thank those who people, uh,listeners for podcast listeners
and remember, uh, you can listento a podcast on apple, on um,
(31:19):
all the streaming uh things onapple, google podcasts, spotify,
amazon music.
Man, we, we, everywhere, we,everywhere you can get us, and
so while you are riding in yourcar, you can listen to us on a
podcast.
You know, we have somebodydiligently that listen, listens
to us from the russia area,russia man.
(31:41):
I give a shout out to them yeahso I thank god for them.
So, um.
So I guess I want to ask thisquestion how frequently should
you date?
How frequently should you date?
I mean, should you go once amonth?
You?
Speaker 2 (32:02):
know what's your recommendation.
Well, I mean, before we got sobusy with so many other things,
we used to go once a week,Friday night was date night.
Some Fridays we would go out.
Some Fridays we would go out,some Fridays we would stay home,
but then, you know, bishopsstart calling and they would
date.
So I enjoyed that.
(32:23):
But I mean, I think at leastonce a week you should do
something special, even if it'shey, go pop some popcorn, let's
watch this movie together andcall it a bed, and I think at
least once a week, you know,because the week is so tiring,
there's so much going on,especially if you have kids and
some people work two jobs, youknow.
(32:43):
So you should always have takethat moment and have that time
to wind down and prepareyourself, because you know, we
honestly only have one day ofthe week where we can actually
relax, and that's Saturday.
And if you didn't do thelaundry and grocery shop the
Saturday before, then you got todo it that week because you got
to plan for the week ahead.
See, that's how we as womenthink.
It's like okay, if I do thelaundry this Saturday, then next
(33:05):
Friday, saturday, I can chill.
If I dust, I ain't got to dust.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (33:09):
Right.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
We try to do things ahead so we can plan our time of
relaxation, because comeSaturday you might want to take
the kids to the park or youmight want to take the kids to
the pool.
Do something with the kids,because when you hit Sunday it's
church dinner nap, in thatorder.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
Yeah, church dinner nap and then get back up.
And church dinner nap and thenget back up and, um, it's time
for monday to start all of itall over again.
So I definitely suggest atleast take a moment at least
once a week, even if it's justfor a couple hours, even if you
just sit in the living room,light a candle and put on some
jazz and just chat with eachother, right, and the kids
(33:49):
listen.
Y'all go in there and watchthat movie, me and dad got to
talk, me and mom going to talk,you know.
That's what they Taking thatmoment just to say recap.
You can talk about the kids,you can talk about whatever you
want to.
Well, you know, so-and-so gotto be on a spelling test and I
was up with all you know.
Just different little things,different little things you know
, bringing the family or what wegot to plan for next week.
(34:10):
Let's get next week planned out.
Prom is coming up or grad bashis coming up.
How are we going to do this?
Who's going to handle this part?
Who's going to handle that part?
Speaker 1 (34:20):
Samson says once or twice, once or twice.
What Samson?
Once or twice a week, once ortwice a year.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
I'm pretty sure he means a month.
Speaker 1 (34:32):
You think so, I don't know.
You think it sounds to me onceor twice a month.
You think Easy is going to begoing out just once or twice a
month.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Carol give us an update on that.
Oh, man Do you think once aweek is okay, because I honestly
feel like once a week, once aweek is good.
I I honestly feel like once aweek.
Speaker 1 (34:52):
Once a week is good.
I feel like it's too much.
You think so.
Once a week, you might thinkit's too much.
Speaker 2 (34:56):
I think you know what .
Let me put it this way, nowthat we are empty nesters we can
do that Right, you know, butsome people they're not.
So maybe once or twice a monthmight be better when you got a
full family.
Speaker 1 (35:10):
You got a full family right.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
You know what I'm saying Because you got to not
only you know, when we had allthe kids, we didn't have date
night, we had family night.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
Yeah, it was on Friday, right right we?
Speaker 2 (35:21):
played games, we danced, we ate tacos, we cooked
together.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Right.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
It was family night, you know.
So that's what we did.
But once the kids startedgetting older and moving on, it
became back to our date night.
But in the same instance, evenwhen we had family night, we
still took that time for eachother.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Right.
Speaker 2 (35:42):
You know, and you know, remember I had a schedule.
You talk to me while I'mcooking.
You talk to me while I'mbathing the baby.
You talk to me while I'mbathing the baby.
You talk to me while I'm doingthis.
Everybody had their time, andthen the baby would come in and
hop in the bed and, once he fallasleep, put the baby to bed.
Speaker 1 (36:01):
Now it's our time.
Speaker 2 (36:03):
It's our time, so you have to just manage your time.
Speaker 1 (36:06):
Okay, yeah, you do.
Alright.
Samson said he meant once ortwice a week.
Okay, All right.
Samson said he meant once ortwice a week.
Okay, I know, I know.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
Sister Jason said once a week is good.
Yeah, it is All right good, Ilike that.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
All right.
And Ferg says I do my best todo all chores, to include yard
work, on Thursday.
That way the weekends are free.
Okay, I like that.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
That's great advice.
That's what I do.
I mop on Thursdays so I don'thave to do it on the weekend.
That's really good becausesometimes you know you never
know when something's going tocome up that's out of out of
pocket.
You got to stop doing whatyou're doing and take care of
things you know.
Speaker 1 (36:46):
Right, okay, cool, oh man.
So yeah, I knew Sansa wastalking about a week.
I know it ain't going to beonce or twice a month.
Why you be giving him a hardtime?
I like my brother man, I likehim man, he's good, he's good.
(37:06):
Hey, you know what?
So, yeah, so we're gettingready to wrap up.
We're getting ready to wrap up.
We're getting ready to wrap up.
Look at that, look at that.
You know, yeah, we're gettingready.
Thank you so much.
Yeah, unless somebody want tocall in um, I got the delay down
at least.
It is not a minute delay now,it's like but 10, 15 seconds.
So, yeah, so it was something.
(37:27):
It was all my fault, you know,I didn't program it right.
Yeah, will you forgive me?
Speaker 2 (37:33):
Sure Okay.
Speaker 1 (37:34):
All right, and I hope the audience forgives me as
well.
Yeah, but if you want to callin right quick, we will take a.
You know what time is it, babe?
It's 820.
Wow, 820.
That's cool, right man.
That's cool, right man.
I really enjoyed tonight.
Yes, you know, sometimes youjust got to get those serious
(37:54):
conversations, you know, lasttime it was all funny and games.
You know, we have got you know,good, but we have fun tonight
as well.
Yeah, you know, and I'll, we,we, we hope we're here to give
you know, just practical advicefor marriage.
Yeah, you know, and, and likehe was saying, marriage, this is
marriage in real life, becausesometimes in real life you just
(38:15):
keep going and going, and goingand going and you forget to date
.
Yeah you forget to date.
And we, we must, and men, wemust take that time and take
that responsibility to say youknow what I have to date my wife
?
I have, I must date my wife anduh, just come up with some
things.
We.
You know some things heretonight that came up archery,
(38:38):
horseback riding.
You know bowling, golfing.
You know taking her to themovies, taking her out to eat,
you know taking out to a newrestaurant that you never had.
You know something?
You know just something, just awalk in the park holding hands.
You know just that, like wesaid, it's the reassurance of
(38:58):
your commitment to her.
You know that we end thistogether.
You know we walk in and youknow, maybe drink a soda or
something.
You know it's just something.
Get, you know it's justsomething.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
Get ice cream or something, something yeah and
ladies, we have to appreciatethe effort, even if we try to
get you to go in a helicopterflying over the ocean On a
single engine.
Speaker 1 (39:23):
That wasn't no helicopter, that was an airplane
.
But you said you wanted to goin a helicopter.
I said I wanted to go in ahelicopter not an airplane, yeah
, but I took you on thesingle-engine airplane.
Let me tell you, you werenervous, wasn't you?
Oh, my goodness, you didn'tlook it though.
Speaker 2 (39:36):
Because I wanted to let you know that I appreciated
the effort.
I almost did.
I'm not going to get in thatthing, but I appreciate the
effort.
You know, and just have toremind ourselves that, even if
it's something that we wouldnever choose to do for ourselves
(39:58):
, we have to show appreciationthat you know what.
Speaker 1 (40:04):
He was thoughtful enough to try and do this, so
I'm going to go on with it, Okay, so if I want to go diving out
the plane, you all right withthat, Me and you.
Speaker 2 (40:11):
No, I'm not diving out no airplane skydiving
skydiving.
You know, in my younger days Iwas ready to do that, but now I
might break my neck oh, how yougonna break your neck.
I ain't trying to do that, no,alright air balloon.
I'll do an air balloon okay,alright.
I'm not diving out of nothing,you're diving out of no airplane
(40:33):
.
Speaker 1 (40:34):
Oh Lord, okay, thank you guys so much.
Well, thank you for watchingwith us tonight.
Like I often say that, you knowyou could have been doing
something else, but you decidedto join us tonight and, you know
, participate in, you know, justbeing a part of the audience,
(40:55):
and we just so so glad to haveyou.
You know, we are so glad tohave you and so, um, make sure
you share and like.
Jordan says instagram, we gotwhat jordan say instagram is a
great place to look for datenight ideas.
You know, you're showing them,right, you're, you're sure,
right, jordan?
Um, they got this, I know theygot, especially in miami.
They got this, this, this one,uh, miami free places.
(41:18):
But they're, they talk aboutfort lauderdale too.
You know, and again, datesdon't have to be expensive.
It could be free.
Try five to free things to do.
You know there's a, there's afair down in margate, right, we
got to go to the fair in margate.
Just walk around.
You know, get a funnel cake.
I gotta get my baby a funnelcake.
(41:39):
But I mean, the next time wehave um marriage and real life
podcast, you'll be on the edgeof funnel cake.
Yep, all right, cool, you'll beon the edge of funnel cake by
the end.
All right, make sure you shareand make sure you like.
There's 12 of you watching withus right now.
There's 12.
What that mean is 10, you knowus.
Two plus 10, please.
(42:00):
I want to see 10 likes.
I'm going to see 12 likes atthe end of the, at the end of
the session.
Okay, 12 likes goes.
So, please.
So I I already did mine, soplease go and like this podcast
right now.
Again, remember, we are on allof the streaming outlets, all of
(42:22):
the podcast outlets.
We're on Apple Podcasts, we'reon Amazon Music, we're on
Spotify, we're on iHeartRadioBeamcast.
We are everywhere and we wantyou to just be with us and and
take this journey with us onmarriage in real life.
We want to say good night,thank you for watching with us.
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