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Discover the essence of a wife's heart as we journey through scripture and personal insights to uncover what she truly desires from her husband. Our latest episode is a heartfelt exploration of love, respect, and the gold standard set by Christ's sacrificial love, as outlined in Ephesians 5:25. We dive into the idea that true love eradicates any inkling of mistreatment and fosters a nurturing ground for respect to bloom. Listen for an enriching discussion that might inspire you to renew your marital vows with a fresh perspective on love and dedication.

Have you ever wondered how to fortify your marriage against the storms of life? Our conversation turns to the pillars that make a marriage survive and thrive. From the critical importance of giving your spouse undivided attention to redefining traditional gender roles in spiritual and educational nurturing, we leave no stone unturned. We'll guide you through the nuances of communication and trust and share how to maintain the sanctity of your bond amidst the ever-present distractions of the world. Join us, along with our guests, as we share stories and wisdom that could transform the way you see and participate in your partnership.

In a world where intimacy often follows a script, we challenge the norm and invite you to reimagine the dynamics within your marriage. Our enlightening dialogue sheds light on the importance of appreciation, the significance of spiritual leadership, and the beauty of mutual desire and respect in the conjugal bed. Crank up the volume on the dialogues that matter as we groove to the evolving dance of sex and intimacy and chuckle over a pastor's quirky take on pet names. As we wrap up, we emphasize the impactful role of husbands as prayerful guides, setting an example that will resonate through generations.  Tune in for an episode that is not simply listened to but experienced as we offer insights that could illuminate the path to a richer, more spiritually connected marital relationship.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to season two of Marriage in Real
Life with your host, eric andPatsy Richards.
Marriage in Real Life is apodcast about two imperfect
people with an imperfectmarriage.
This podcast aims to helplisteners to know that God, who
is perfect, can use yourimperfections and your imperfect
marriage to help others.
So let's laugh and learn.

(00:21):
I hope you enjoy the episode.
Let's get straight into it.

Speaker 2 (00:33):
Welcome to Marriage in Real Life.

Speaker 3 (00:35):
Welcome, all right.

Speaker 2 (00:39):
We'll back at it again, babe.
We'll back at it again.
Aren't you glad to be back?

Speaker 3 (00:44):
I am so happy to be back.
You are Wow.

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Okay, all right.
Why are you so happy to be back?
Because, it's been a while,okay, okay, all right, we want
to say, hey, I'm Eric.

Speaker 3 (00:58):
I'm both Lady P.

Speaker 2 (01:00):
And we want to welcome to Marriage in Real Life
, all right, well, we got somepeople who are with us.
We want to make sure that youshare and like, make sure you
share and like.
Please tell us, you put us inyour name and where you are
watching from.
Please do that.
We want to give you a shout out, we want to be able to

(01:20):
correspond back and forth, andso we thank you, you know, thank
you, you know.
So thank you for joining us.
Well, it is time to talk aboutthese last two weeks and what.
What has been going on.
Right, all right, all right,all right.
So what do you want to?
What do you want to talk about?
What do you want to talk about?

Speaker 3 (01:39):
I want to start Will.
How was your day?

Speaker 2 (01:41):
Well, my day was good .
It was good.
It was good.
I had a good day, a veryrelaxing day.
I was able to help out anotherpastor, so I had a good day.
I had a good day.
How was your day?

Speaker 3 (01:54):
My day was good, it went smoothly.

Speaker 2 (01:56):
All right, I give you a shout out for that Smoothly,
so I was grateful.

Speaker 4 (02:01):
Okay.
You know, okay, that was prettygood Pretty good day.

Speaker 3 (02:04):
I'm a little hungry right now A little hungry.

Speaker 2 (02:06):
Hopefully.

Speaker 3 (02:08):
And you would say I'm always hungry, but you always
hungry?

Speaker 2 (02:11):
All right, cool, cool , all right.
So for the last two weeks youknow we've been doing, you know
we've been going traveling andstuff like that, and I was able
to go up for Juicy's fatherdaughter dance.
Hey.

Speaker 3 (02:24):
Juice.

Speaker 2 (02:25):
Hey, juice.
Yes, yes, I had a great time,flew up that Friday and came
back that Saturday.
You know, I had a great timevisiting with my daughter, nikki
, always, and Juicy, we had agood time wearing pink and white
.
She was dancing and you know,you know how they do stuff in
elementary Boy, I tell you.

Speaker 3 (02:43):
You thought your day was done with all that, huh.

Speaker 2 (02:46):
Well, you know, like I told you know, nikki, and I
think you told me too, is thatyou know, maybe in about a time
she get the fifth grade.
They're not going to be doingit, no more.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
You know she might kick you to the curb.

Speaker 2 (02:58):
Kick me to get, pop it to the curb, hop it to the
curb because she want to.
You know, go with the boys now.

Speaker 3 (03:03):
Yeah, dance with the boys.

Speaker 2 (03:05):
Dance with the boys.
But I don't see that happening.
I really don't, not, not, notfrom this grade, not what I see,
I don't, I don't see, I don'tsee it.
I don't see it happening at all.
I don't see it happening at all.
You know, hey, so we got 10people who was watching with us
tonight.
So make sure you share and,like, make sure you tell us
where you are watching from.
Just give us.

(03:25):
We want to give you a shout outthroughout the show.
We want to give you a shout outthroughout the show.
On Sunday, we had a good timeon Sunday, so give a Juicy a
shout out.
Right, all right, on Sunday.
On Sunday, we had a good timeat Hollywood Beach, not this
past Sunday, but last Sunday.
The weather was nice.
It was so nice, yeah, it was sonice.

(03:48):
We went to school Right.

Speaker 3 (03:49):
Right, we were down there people watching you know,
yeah, people watching, wewatched, we watched.
What's the stuff going on overthere?

Speaker 2 (03:55):
Oh, budget stuff going on, it was good to get out
.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
Thank you for taking me for that Sunday drive.

Speaker 2 (03:59):
Oh man, that was good , we had a good time.
We had to find a place to parkboy.
Yeah, we did.
It was packed down there Oncewe got our spot.
We were good, we were good,yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
So give it a shout out toHollywood Beach.
We looked, we looked good.

Speaker 3 (04:11):
So many different restaurants, so much
entertainment.

Speaker 2 (04:14):
There's so much going on, ice cream was nice.

Speaker 3 (04:16):
Ice cream was good, yeah, so.
Yeah, it was a lot going ondown there, so if you ever out
for a Sunday drive, you want togo.
You know just kind of peoplewatch people watch the beach and
take a stroll.

Speaker 2 (04:29):
Yeah, take a stroll down there.
And this weekend, this weekend,we had a my birthday party.
Yeah, my one year one year.
She's, you know, was seven, 35.
You know she might be awakeright now.
This time you shot out the myyou know birthday muffin.
Yeah, you know.

(04:52):
So you know we had a good timein these last two weeks.
We had a good time at the party, I know I had a good time, and
you know so, yeah, all right, Iwould like to read this.
We had a, so give a shout outto another, shout out to my.
All right, we got this in ourDMs and I wanted to read this
and you know, to the audienceand see your thoughts on it and

(05:15):
you know, see what you, what youthink of it as well, you know.
So it says here, this lady hitus back and she said I guess
marriage is just ain't for me.
Said I was so in love with thisman.
I'll be honest, it was a wrongsituation.

(05:36):
All right, all right, that'sone.
But the other woman he has beenwith, despite the fact she
cheated on him, called him herex's name, told him he wasn't
nothing, couldn't tell her andher family that she was with him
.
Told him she could have any manshe wanted.
Told him she needed boxes topack her stuff and move, didn't

(06:00):
want him to move with her, and Ithought he was a good man that
he didn't deserve to be treatedthat way.
So I wanted to show him better.
But he still chose her over meand I only treated him good.
Anything he acts of me, I did,and I honestly say it hurts me.
I never even want to date again.

(06:22):
She goes on to say I'm asoft-hearted person, but I'm
tired of trying to give love andit's just get rejected.
Man, what do you think of that?
What do you think of that?
Wow, wow.
You want to go down the points.
We're going to do this rightquick.
We're going to do about fiveminutes, we're going to go down
the point, all right.
So she says, she said I guessmarriage ain't for me, you know,

(06:43):
and we, we could do that.
Marriage is not for everybody.
Nope, it's not for everybody,all right, um, but when you're
trying to be married, you knowyou just can't accept eating
everything, right?
So she says married.
I was so in love with this man,right?
And we know from reading thisthat this man was with somebody

(07:04):
else.
So in fact she was in love withanother person's man, right,
and she says, she says it was awrong situation.
So I'm thinking that the manwas married A wrong situation,
you know.
I'm thinking that the man wasmarried, all right.

(07:25):
Right, she says, but the otherwoman you know, she done all of
these things to you know, to her, to the man you know, told him
all of these things and hewasn't nothing and she didn't
meet the family, she, she sawall of these things that this
man said, that this woman didRight, but she was still in love

(07:45):
with this man in the wrongsituation.

Speaker 3 (07:48):
Right, right.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
And he said I thought he was a good man, that he, he
deserve To be treated the way.
So I wanted to show him better.
So we can say the first thingthat, right, she was in love
with another woman's man whoprobably was married I would say
who probably was married.
And then she wanted to say Iwant to show him better.

(08:13):
Who are you to show somebodyother, other man, other woman's
man, better?
I would dare to say that thisman was playing the field,
possibly.

Speaker 3 (08:27):
And of course I mean he could have just been telling
her what she wanted to hear.
Mm hmm, because this woman mayhave not even been doing all
that if she got the informationfrom him Right Right and he
remained with her but was beingtreated so bad you don't find a
lot of men that stick around asbeing treated the way that the
letter state that it is and notonly that why you want to put
yourself in a situation whereyou're dealing with his spirit,

(08:51):
he's dealing with her spirit andshe's dealing with somebody
else's spirit.

Speaker 2 (08:59):
So you would dare to say that they had intimacy?
I would dare to say that theydid.
I mean, I would go out on thelimb and say it Okay, I would go
out on a limb because for her Iwould say that she was a good
man, because for her, puttingherself in this situation right
and doing all that they had,they probably had some intimacy,

(09:21):
right, and some, some, someintimacy, some form of intimacy,
and so, to say it honestly, ithurts and it should.
And now she said I want to havea date again.
You can't.
What you can't do is let onesituation control your whole
dating life or your whole life,especially when you recognize

(09:43):
that it was a wrong situation.
You put yourself yeah, in thebeginning in the beginning.

Speaker 3 (09:48):
Well, you know, all I can say is you know, the Bible
says he who finds.
And until these women start letputting themselves in a
position to be found, they'regoing to find a lot of mess.
They're going to let theirminds, their emotions and their
feelings leap them out into asituation that they have no idea
what they're getting themselvesinto.
Yeah and until they get to thatunderstanding, it's going to

(10:10):
always be some type of some formof drama, not to say that you
don't go through things whenyou're married and you don't
have situations when you'remarried, but you're going to
find yourself on the oppositeend of the stick, which is not
fair and it's not fair to yourfeelings.
You have to see yourself worthin it and you have to put
yourself much up, much higherthan that Okay Settled forth.

(10:31):
Not only that, you know this.
This brings me to this songhaving a piece of man is better
than having no man at all.
No, no, no, no.
I've seen that song.
Oh, I see, yeah.

Speaker 1 (10:42):
And when.

Speaker 3 (10:42):
I got.
I was like wait a minute,that's not what I want.
No woman should want a piece ofman.
If I can have all of you, thenI want none of you.

Speaker 2 (10:50):
Right.

Speaker 3 (10:51):
And that should be her mentality.
So, young lady, if you arelistening, you know, watch no
More Sheets by Dr Wendy Devine.
I'm go watch that.
It's a it's a old video, but itdefinitely give you some
valuable nuggets and you'llchange your thoughts and you'll
put yourself in a position to befound and not be out there

(11:12):
seeking Hmm.

Speaker 2 (11:15):
You know.
That brings me to we talkedabout this when we're talking
about pieces of man.
It's a song.
I know everybody here, you know, heard a piece of my love by
God.
You can have peace of my love,yeah, yeah, waiting for you.
I just pull up the lyrics andand and, and.

(11:36):
The chorus says you can havepeace of my love is waiting for
you, girl is true.
You can have a piece of my love, right, it's waiting for you,
girl is true.
And the verse says baby, youcan't have all of me because I'm
not totally free.
I can't tell you everythingthat's going on.
There's a few things in my pastthat should not be explained.

(11:57):
I'm asking you, baby, be withme for a little while.

Speaker 3 (12:01):
Oh, he's already telling you you temporary
temporary.

Speaker 2 (12:04):
Wow, you know we were singing that song and you know
we dancing and we grind.
You don't do it all that stuff.
He was grinding, grinding, ohboy.

Speaker 3 (12:14):
See, he wasn't me.
Yeah, yeah, uh, huh.

Speaker 2 (12:20):
It says please hush, no questions asked.
Lay back and relax.
Now kick off your shoes, Letyou let your pretty hair down,
since you, since we here now,baby, I'm giving you a piece of
me.
No, uh, huh.

Speaker 3 (12:32):
Keep that demon.

Speaker 2 (12:33):
First two check this out.
Keep that, david.
I know y'all listening, I knowy'all listening.
We got 14 here listening outhere, look we got Rob.
Rob says good evening.
Pastor E and Lady Patsy,cosmolissa, all the way from
Atlanta.
Hey, cuz, how you doing.
You were there with Ty andWarren, paige and Warren, all

(12:56):
right from Florida.
Hey, from the St Louis, that'sPort St Lucy.
Virtual metal melodies that'stime, that's time, yeah, that's
time, missy, that's right,that's right, that's right.
And uh, for a for what's goingon like enjoying, okay, oh my,
all right, all right, hey.
But check this verse two out.
It says I know this is wrong,but the feeling is so strong I

(13:17):
wish this could last forever,but it wouldn't be the same.
Tell me who would be the blameIf we was to hurt all over again
.
Boy, I tell you, you know, wegot to listen to the lyrics of
your song.
We got to listen to the lyricsof your song and we tell my wife
we want to play him at awedding.

Speaker 3 (13:39):
Ain't never thought about it like that.

Speaker 2 (13:41):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it's all we want to play
it at a wedding because you know, oh boy, yeah, yeah, let's get
down.
You know, aaron Hall sound good, all right guy, all right.
Well, we know, no, no, we don'tdo that, All right, all right.
So we give a shout out we.
So we want to, like you say, wewant to this young lady.
Hey, look, you got to valueyourself Absolutely.
You are a diamond.

(14:02):
You know Jesus made you perfect.
Jesus made you the way it isand you should look at yourself
and say any man would want methat.
You don't have to go off apiece of a man, you don't have
to go.
You stay firm, stay lovingJesus, and Jesus is going to
send you somebody.
Absolutely.
He will send you the rightperson.

(14:24):
That's not that.
That does not have any baggage.
And when I say baggage, I meanyou know other women, you know
whatever like that.
You know he was saying you theright person.
So stay true to Jesus, keeppraying and we'll be praying for
you.
Amen, all right.
All right, but the Samson's aretapped in.
The Samson's are tapped in, allright.

(14:47):
Hey, samson's, how y'all doing?
Hey, y'all All right, all right, all right.
So we got a, we got a viralmoment.
We got a viral moment.
Yeah, our moment here.

Speaker 3 (14:58):
Y'all chime in on this.

Speaker 2 (14:59):
Yeah, make sure you chime in.
Make sure you chime in, allright, so here we go.
We're going to listen to this,what she's saying, and we're
going to talk about it a littlebit.
All right, here we go.

Speaker 5 (15:12):
Don't accept the reality that men take respect
over love.
Any day, every day of the weekand twice on Sunday.
Respect me before you love me,and then women position
themselves where it's like well,I'll take safety over love.

Speaker 4 (15:28):
Damn Safety huh.

Speaker 5 (15:31):
So as long as I feel safe with you, I don't have to
be in love with you, becauseI'll I'll marry the man that I
respect before I marry the manthat I'm in love with.
You.
Know what, when you say thatout loud, she ain't lying.

Speaker 2 (15:47):
That kind of that makes some sense, yeah, no she
didn't lie.

Speaker 5 (15:49):
I have no rebuttals because the same the even the
safety.
When I went immediately whenyou said safety, I'm like no in
my head, I'm like no, they wantto marry somebody that's
financially keeping them safe.

Speaker 1 (15:59):
And it's so many different layers of safety but
my mind emotionally, keepingthem safe.

Speaker 5 (16:03):
I don't have to be in love with my husband because
I'm not going to always.
You're not going to always, no,no, no.
But if I'm safe, I'm going.
Women don't accept the realitythat men take.

Speaker 2 (16:15):
All right, all right, all right.
Now that's, that's deep.
All right, we didn't talk aboutthis because I say we was going
to talk about it tonight, right, and so what are your thoughts
on that?
What are your thoughts on thatlittle bit there?
Do you agree with her?

(16:36):
Do you do you agree?
I would say this Now when shefirst came in, she says you know
, women I mean men would lovefor women to respect them.
You don't have to love me, butyou have to respect me.
I believe that's what she said,right.
Yeah, that's what she said, Idon't know.

Speaker 3 (17:00):
I think, man, what do you think?

Speaker 2 (17:02):
This is what I think.
I think if you love me, you'regoing to respect me.
That's what I believe.
I believe that.
So that is exactly what Ibelieve If you love me, you're
going to respect me.
Now, I do know there's men thatthat's, that's the ultimate
thing for them, because therespect is part of the love.

(17:26):
So if you don't love, if youdon't respect me, you're not
showing me love, right?
So I think they go hand in hand.
You know, I don't know it's oneis more important than the
other.
You know, but I do know thisthat love is the foundation.
Love is the foundation andrespect is one of the walls

(17:49):
that's on the foundation.

Speaker 3 (17:51):
Okay, right, yeah, I agree.

Speaker 2 (17:54):
If you lose respect for your mate but have love as
the foundation you can getrespect back, but if you lose
the love, it's crazy, you know.
Okay, what's your thoughts?

Speaker 3 (18:13):
your thoughts I mean I, I, I agree some somewhat to
that and you are right that loveit holds the, the glue to the
foundation that you could getrespect back.
But I can.
I told you I had an example.

Speaker 2 (18:30):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (18:31):
Let me share this example with you, and because of
the love that we have is why weare where we are.
When we were in Quantico, wehad this neighbor, and this
neighbor was so persistent withme.
He was always sayinginappropriate things to me,
knowing that I'm married to you.
And um, lo and behold, and I, I.

(18:52):
I came to you and you was like,oh, I'm going to worry about
that, hmm.
So, lo and behold, his brothermoved in.
So now him and his brother wassaying inappropriate things to
me, and I came to you and youwas like, oh, don't worry about
it, I didn't feel safe.

Speaker 4 (19:11):
Right.

Speaker 3 (19:12):
I felt like at any given moment these guys are
going to try me and Eric isblowing it off.
I didn't feel safe.
So I did lose respect because,as you be in my husband, I
should feel safe.
If I come to you and say, hey,this guy over here, you know
he'll wait till I come out tocall the kids from the park or

(19:33):
whatever.
He's saying stuff to me.
I don't like it, but I feltlike he wasn't protecting me and
I didn't feel safe and I didlose respect for you in that
manner.
But, um, because of the lovethat I have for you, we were
able to get past that.
I don't know if you ever.
I think you told me oh yeah, Ispoke to him.

(19:54):
I didn't see that that happened, but after you spoke to him it
did stop.
I didn't know that you had saidsomething.
I thought maybe I told himlisten, dude, you keep it up and
you're going to catch thesehands.
You know, I thought that's Ithought that's what stopped, I
did.
I lost that respect because Iwas like here, me and my kids

(20:15):
are 700 miles away from myfamily, and he's supposed to be
protecting me and he's not Right, so I felt that way.
So, um, but if I didn't loveyou, then you know I don't, I
don't think we would have beenhere today.

Speaker 2 (20:34):
Yeah, absolutely Would have been.
No marriage in real life.

Speaker 3 (20:38):
Okay, that's why we got so let's see what the
audience think about this.
Let's go.

Speaker 2 (20:48):
I mean Rob says.
Rob says, um, as a man, I dowant the respect Rob says that,
and so, uh, yeah, um.
Ferrick says feeling safe inall aspects of life is very
important to women.
Not just physical safety, butemotionally, financially, family
wise and dealing with society.

(21:08):
So love is, rob.
I don't know what what you'retrying to say on that last one
for her, but yeah yeah, so it'sso means y'all chompy and Samson
, I see you there, ty, what doyou?
what do you?
What do y'all think you know?
Um, like, like Rob says and andI want to thank Rob because Rob
sent that to me Rob, give yourshout out.

Speaker 3 (21:29):
Thanks, rob.

Speaker 2 (21:32):
And, um, so, yeah, I mean so.
So you're saying, rob, youwould rather have the respect
more than love, right?
And I guess, as a and when itcomes down to women, y'all like
the security, like you said.
You like the security becauseshe said I can, I don't have to
be in love with my, in love withmy husband, you know, whatever.

(21:54):
And I kind of understand whatshe was saying, because being in
love with somebody is like anemotion, it can go up, it can go
down, you know, but if I'm, ifI'm safe and secure, as as as uh
, uh, ferg says, right, um, thenmy emotion doesn't matter
because I love you.

(22:15):
But I again, love is thefoundation.
That's what I believe.
Love is the foundation and youhave to be that foundation has
to be deep.
It has to be deep and and wehave to, and that, and that goes
to what we're talking abouttonight.
It goes about what we'retalking about tonight.
Well, first, say first, saysyes, so love is probably second

(22:37):
there for a woman, plus the wordsays husband, love your wives,
Amen, all right, okay, so we canready to go in deeper, because
we're getting ready to talkabout what a wife wants from a
husband.

Speaker 3 (22:52):
A national women's month.

Speaker 2 (22:54):
Yeah, national women's month.
We, we, we, we, we gone inthere.
So the first thing here, we, we, we, we all love the place here
, because the first thing wewant is well, I got love, Love,
and Ferg just talked about that.
Um, in Ephesians five and 25says husband, love your wives
just as Christ loved the churchand gave himself up for her.

(23:17):
How did you know?
And so the question is, how didChrist love the church?
And John three, 16, this is howwe know that love is Jesus.
Christ laid down his life forus, right, and I love you.
Know what it says in Ephesians.
I mean, you know, I got myBible tonight, you got my Bible.
And you know, in in theresearch in this it is talked

(23:38):
about a Ephesians five and 22,.
But I don't want to read 22because we're talking about what
a wife wants from a husbandtonight.
And as it says husbands, loveyour wives as Christ loved the
church and gave himself up forher, that he might sanctify her,
having cleansed her by thewashing of water with the words,
so that he might present thechurch to himself and splendor

(24:00):
without spot or wrinkle or anysuch thing, as he might be holy
and without blemish.
That's what a man is supposedto do Love her, love her,
perfectly Right.
And uh, it says in the same way, husband should love their
wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his wife loveshimself.

(24:21):
So that's why you can't beabusing your wife.
You can't be abusing your wifebecause that means it's a clean.
No, you can't be doing that.

Speaker 3 (24:30):
None of that.

Speaker 2 (24:32):
No, you can't do that .
So if you want respect, you gotto love her.
That's what I'm saying.
If you want respect from yourchildren, you got to love them.
You say you, you tell them youneed respect, give respect back.
But you got to show them somekind of love.
And if you show them kind ofthis kind of love where you put
her first, that you saying withyour body that, hey, I love you.

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If I love my body, I love you.
Right, and that's what thescripture is saying.
It says, uh, he who loves hiswife loves himself.
For no one ever hated his ownflesh but nourishes and
cherishes, just as Christ doesthe church.
Nobody hate their own flesh.

Speaker 3 (25:13):
Nobody.

Speaker 2 (25:15):
And you may be able to say I just don't like me
being here or whatever like that.
We know when you are, when youare a true man of God or a
person who's taken on a wife.
You supposed to love your wifeunconditionally and you suppose
it.
Just as you love yourself, justlike you take a bath, just like
you do, you take care ofyourself, you supposed to take
care of your wife.

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And if you take care of yourwife and you show your wife some
love, she will respect and shewill submit, she will do all the
things, she will be with youtill the end.
But you got to love her first.

Speaker 3 (25:46):
You got to love her.

Speaker 2 (25:48):
You got to love her as Christ loved the church.
That mean you got to sacrificesome of your things sacrifice
hanging out with your boys,sacrifice watching that game,
sacrifice all that kind of stuff, because now you're loving them
.

Speaker 3 (26:01):
Right.

Speaker 2 (26:01):
Right, and I don't want to be preaching tonight,
but I just, I just you know itis, and it goes on to say all
right.
Now it says, however, in verse33, however, let each of you
love his wife as himself and letthe wife see that she look at
it.
What it says however, let eachof you love his wife as himself

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and let the wife see that sherespects her husband.
You see what he said you got tolove first before you respect.
All right.
So what we got here?
We got some things going on.

Speaker 3 (26:35):
We got my Lica Sam.
I think women can learn to loveover time too.
I think it depends on thedynamic.

Speaker 2 (26:45):
Okay, all right, all right.

Speaker 3 (26:49):
Hi fans of virtual melodies.
I believe if the love is strong, the foundation is strong
enough to endure all lies.
Totally agree with that too.

Speaker 2 (26:59):
All right.

Speaker 3 (27:00):
First is the word does not tell a woman to love
her husband.
It does not, mm-hmm, it doesnot, missy, says.
Some of you marriages as?

Speaker 2 (27:13):
Melissa.

Speaker 3 (27:14):
Melissa says some of you marriages marriage as a
partnership, whereas what's lovegot to do with it?
Nevertheless, love, respect andfeelings secure are all
important and essential in amarriage.

Speaker 2 (27:29):
Mm-hmm, I get that.

Speaker 3 (27:35):
First is how can you abuse her in any way if he
claims to love her?
I never could understand that.
I never could understand that.

Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, like I said, if you go on, look we Bible base
here, I mean you got to.
You know, when we counselpeople, we tell them says, look,
when you go to Ephesians five,you go to 25.
You go to 22.
As a man, you don't look at 22.
Let the wife look at 22.
You do what you're supposed todo.
If I believe I'm a firm believerif the husband follows God, his

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wife will follow suit.
Amen.
And if you follow God, thatmean you love your wife, as
Christ loved the church.
And what did Christ do?
Again, I repeat it, he laid hislife down for his wife.
So that's why, when you lostrespect for me because you
didn't see me confront these twoguys, you know.

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And so sometimes, fellas, wehave to show our wife that we
love him.
We can tell them, you know.
But action speaks louder thanwords.
So my action should have beengoing over to the neighbor and
it said look, man, leave my wifealone.
Leave her alone, not privately,man, but you know.
No, leave my wife alone.

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She says she's coming into youknow, whatever, like that, and
leave alone and show you thatyou would have been saying man,
eric's thinking up for us.
You know what I mean Because,like you say, y'all were 700
miles away, right, and I shouldhave shown you love.
So I was wrong in that.
I admit that.
All right, all right.
So now we're looking, we'regoing, we're moving along.
So number one is love.

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Number one is love.
Number two is attention.

Speaker 3 (29:21):
Oh yeah, definitely attention.

Speaker 2 (29:23):
All right, A wife looks for attention.
Why's want to be?
This is what they want to be.
They want to be listened to,even when the television is on.
Can I get a witness on that?
Amen, All right.
Can I get a witness inside thegallery here, Even when the
television is on, and know thatwe believe what they have to say
is important?
I know that is a sticky thing.

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You know that is a sticky, youknow, especially like when we're
watching the game and all thiskind of stuff, you know.
And then the wife come and sayhey, babe, you know this, like
that, and I think you you'velearned over the years, you know
when to come in and when to saysomething or whatever, like
that.
So can you explain some of that?
You know, all right.

Speaker 3 (30:07):
So over the years when I just cannot get through
to him doing madness March.

Speaker 2 (30:14):
March Madness.

Speaker 3 (30:14):
Yeah, march Madness, I came up with a little thing
where I come in on a commercialbreak.
But if it's something that Ineed right up, like hey baby, as
soon as you catch a commercialbreak, you know I need to talk
to you.
I need you to scratch my back.
I need you to rub me orsomething.
So and that's one of the thingsthat I learned that I can get

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more out of you if I allow youto have your time.
So I leave you be or I'll textyou and say hey, when you get a
commercial, can you come herefor a second.
So that's worked out fine,Don't you think?

Speaker 2 (30:47):
Yeah, I think that works out.
I leave you alone.
Yes, you leave me alone and Ican watch my game.
All right, let me ask you this.
Let me ask you this Do you, doyou prefer to talk to me Over
other women?

Speaker 3 (31:02):
What do you mean?
Like over other women?

Speaker 2 (31:07):
Would you prefer as a as me being not only your
husband but your friend?
Would you prefer to talk to meabout situations you know by
anything other than you know,even though other women might
understand?
Would you prefer to talk to meas your friend, about anything?

Speaker 3 (31:29):
Well, you know, I think I talked to you about a
lot of stuff.

Speaker 2 (31:34):
Yeah, you even call me girl, hey girl.

Speaker 3 (31:37):
In the middle of the conversation Child Girl, let me.
Well, you know, I enjoy my mytime in conversation with women
Go ahead.
Sorry my time in myconversation with women.
I can't really choose you overthem, or you will.
You know, I really can't make achoice on that because I have

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my friends where I can fight in.
I really talk to you.

Speaker 2 (32:07):
Okay, all right, all right, so we put it in a chat.
We put it in a chat.
Who do you prefer to talk to?
Let me see, who do you preferto talk to?
Do you prefer to talk to men,your husband, or do you would
prefer to talk to your wife?
For when we was talking aboutattention, my, like I said,
attention is very important.

(32:27):
This is man.
I threw my TV away just to makesure that I had my, that my
wife had the undivided attention.
All right, all right, good good, all right, all right.
So.
So, men, if you truly listen towhat your wife is saying, your
actions will will do that, youknow, and so we got to make sure

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we listen to.
Intention is very important, sonumber one is love, number two
is attention.
We just jump in all over, allright.
Number three is something thatyou already talked about, and
that's protection.

Speaker 3 (32:59):
Absolutely.

Speaker 2 (33:00):
Mm, hmm.

Speaker 3 (33:01):
We want to be protected.
We want to know that if we callyou and we need you to come
protect us, that you're going todrop what you're doing.
Stop dropping role.
I got to go take care of mybaby.
I got to go see about her, youknow, and if we don't feel
confident that we can pick upthe phone and call you to

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protect us, then it kind of likefeel like we are down on our
own.
We got to do my own thing.
We got to protect ourselves, wegot to protect kids because we
know we can't trust you to do it.
Nobody wants to be in thatsituation Right, right, right.

Speaker 2 (33:39):
So not only defending the family, but against strange
sounds and aisles, but againstall threats in society,
everything.

Speaker 3 (33:47):
All right.

Speaker 2 (33:47):
Okay, so we want us to take ownership of leading the
family spiritually.
We got to take ownership ofthat.
We want to take ownership onteaching the kids on how to
defend themselves Mm hmm, allright and how to stay strong in
this evil world.
You know, I think society hasput in.

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A lot of men have said all thewoman is supposed to teach the
kids on a lot of stuff, when inessence, the man is supposed to
be teaching the kids on a lot ofstuff too.
You know, you know, and sothat's how it should be.
So, husbands, we wives, I guessthey want protection.

Speaker 3 (34:28):
Yeah, and I'll ask that.
We want to be, we want to knowthat you got our back, like we
got your words.

Speaker 2 (34:37):
All right, all right.

Speaker 3 (34:38):
Because we have y'all back we got, and to answer your
question for it, do you tellhim things that you tell your
girlfriend?
Actually, I tell him first andthen I tell them.
I'm telling you He'd be like,really, very like I don't really
want to hear this right now,but he take one for the team,

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take one for the team, take onefor the team.

Speaker 2 (35:03):
Take one for the team .
Yeah, so we looking at that,I'm going to say that first say
that boy, prince was a genius.
If I was your girlfriend.

Speaker 3 (35:12):
Yes, he was.
If I was your girlfriend, ohman, I'm singing tonight.

Speaker 2 (35:20):
I'm really vocal tonight.
Yeah, easy, easy, there we goEasy.
I know I was waiting on easy tocome in.
I know she's going to come inbut that it taken so long to
come in.
On this there's a lot of on thetopic, but my husband going

(35:42):
here either way, oh man, look at, look at Melissa, it's just so.
So that means Melissa is doingjust like you.

Speaker 3 (35:56):
You know, in the Jean she didn't you know said
titanium.
I don't have a lot of marriedgirls.

Speaker 2 (36:00):
Yeah, you don't huh, Wow, wow.
So that attention is veryimportant.
It's very important, thatattention is very important and
protection is very important.
All right, so the next one thatbrings up security and
commitment.
Security and commitment.
The wife wants to know you'regoing to be there forever.
Wives often see their visuallystimulated husbands looking at

(36:24):
other women and you can't bedoing that.
So does she know you won'tcheat on her, that you're going
to be there forever or you'regoing to be faithful always.
That's that security, that'ssecurity.
That's what this lady wastalking about, that security.
And the other person went andsaid talk about finances, and
finance.
That's a security, that's aform of security and your

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commitment.
Are you committed to your wifeor you committed to wandering
eyes?
You know now, I think it.
I firmly believe it has to domore with the couple.
You know what I mean, becausewe can be walking in the mall
and you can see somebody andanother guy and you can say that

(37:10):
boy, fine, and they don'tbother me, it don't.

Speaker 3 (37:15):
I would double do that, but now that she's giving
me permission, oh, you've saidit before.
I would say, I never say aguy's fine, I say oh, he's
handsome.

Speaker 2 (37:25):
Yeah, yeah, you say that that's right.
You wouldn't say fine, youwould say that guy's handsome
Right there and it doesn'tbother me.
You know, to some guys they'dbe like why are you looking at a
guy talking about you handsome?
You know some people like that.

Speaker 3 (37:38):
But I mean you do the same.
You say, oh, that's pretty,she's pretty.

Speaker 4 (37:41):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (37:42):
You don't.
I think it depends on thechoice of words that you use,
because if you say, oh well,she's attractive, I'm proud of
that.
Why?

Speaker 2 (37:52):
Why would you ever apologize that she's attractive.

Speaker 3 (37:54):
I prefer that you say she's pretty.

Speaker 2 (37:56):
OK, because.

Speaker 3 (37:57):
I'm attractive, I have to be the only thing
attracting your attention.
Mm, mm, you're the only thingattracting your attention.
So if you say a lady is pretty,and if I think she is, I'll be
like, yeah, she is pretty.

Speaker 4 (38:09):
Mm-hmm.

Speaker 3 (38:10):
I'm not jealous in that kind of thing You're not
Mm-mm.
Ok, all right, securing whatyou know me.

Speaker 2 (38:19):
Hey, I'm secure, you know.
Hey, I love walking the hole inhands with you Because I want
Jogas to look at you.

Speaker 3 (38:26):
OK, let's move on.

Speaker 2 (38:27):
No man, no, no no, I don't care if Jogas look at you
Long as you know they don't comein touch.
They don't touch no Long asthey don't come in touch,
because I know when look at whenyou know you got a beautiful
wife and you got, you know,somebody you'd be like.
I walk proud with it.
I don't care.

Speaker 3 (38:46):
I think it's because we have a strong foundation and
where our relationship is andreally looking forward to
growing even more, because Imean, like, the older we get,
the longer we're together, themore we find out things about
each other when you would thinkwe would know everything in 32
years, but it's still alwayssomething more to learn and
something to adapt to.
And then choose your battle,you know, choose what you're

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going to point in on it, whatyou're going to let go.
And I think a lot of times youwant it, we want everything
microwave Right now.
We want it.
What's it going to do?
You know how I'm always askingwell, where we going?

Speaker 2 (39:19):
What are we going to be.

Speaker 3 (39:21):
What should I wear?
I ruin surprises all the time.

Speaker 2 (39:24):
All the time you ruin surprises, all of the time I
need to know.

Speaker 3 (39:28):
You know.
So, I think, knowing that weare secure and that you got our
back and we have to worry about,you know, being hit in the gut
with something that you know wecan't handle, we want to.
We want to be secure.

Speaker 2 (39:43):
Alright, okay, so we move right on to the next one.
All right, so what we talkedabout tonight is love.
Love, attention, protection,security and commitment.
And number five is appreciationand value.
Wives want to be valuable forwhat they are as much as what

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they do.
Man, that's, I got to get athim.
I believe a husband should bevery supportive to his wife.
I believe a husband should betelling his wife I value you.
I believe a husband should betelling you pretty, you know,

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you're beautiful.
You know that goes withsecurity and commitment.
Security and commitment, butyou should appreciate, because I
think a wife wants to be valued.
A lot of times, you know, menthey think because they work and
they come home and now theirwife is working too, you know,
and they just want to be like,appreciating the value.
Say you know what, I reallyappreciate you.

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I really, you know you mighthelp me.
You see things, you helping meand you seeing things in me that
I never did see.
I really appreciate you.
You know I really value you.
That's what I do, and so that'show it should be.
You know, wise, want to know wesee them with value, beyond
just what she does to keep thehousehold running?

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Is she more important than thestuff she does?
Is she still beautiful?
Why does one hear that?
You know you smell good, youlook good.
We take a need a seven minutebreak.
We need a seven minute break.

Speaker 3 (41:27):
We're going to take a quick break.

Speaker 2 (41:28):
We're going to take a seven minute break.

Speaker 3 (41:32):
You know what you can't resist it.

Speaker 2 (41:35):
Yeah, I can't resist it.

Speaker 3 (41:36):
Absolutely value.
I mean, it's so important.
Like I know you value me, youhave pushed me into places where
I didn't even think that mymind didn't even imagine to
where I would be, so, and it'sbecause you compliment me, you

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encourage me, you support me.
Even when I come up with awildest idea and it don't work,
you be like, okay, go ahead,give it a rule.
You know you never say, girl,stop acting like you got good
sense or whatever.
You have my back.
So definitely we want to bevalued.
You know we'll be takingadvantage of.
You know and, like you say, youknow we work and we both work

(42:20):
in jobs.
So you know my responsibilitiesat home still got to be taken
care of, your responsibilitystill at home.
But sometimes we burn out andthat's when we need to support
the most.

Speaker 2 (42:33):
Yeah, yeah, that's what we burn out?

Speaker 3 (42:35):
Yeah, we run out.
So this is what I want to do.

Speaker 2 (42:38):
I want to encourage especially all the guys who are
watching with their wives rightnow.
I want you to just look over inour eyes and tell them what you
value her, tell them how muchyou appreciate her.
You know we do some counselingtonight too, you know.
Just look over and just tell it, you know, how much you

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appreciate her, or what she do.
Be specific, I value you, Iappreciate you, you know.
You know you do my clothes, youappreciate, you do whatever.
You know.
Just tell her how much youvalue her.
You know, I try to tell Patsyevery day how beautiful she is.
You know how lovely she is.
You know, and I love you andyou are a beautiful young lady.

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You are, I'm serious man.
Oh man, I'm serious.
You're beautiful, you know, andI value you.
You know because, like you say,you I push you, but you be
pushing me too.
You know I value your input.
Even though you may think Idon't value your input, I do.
I value your input in everydecision that we have to make
for the church, as far asmarriage in real life and as far

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as family.
I value your, just I value yourinput.
I love you.
Thank you.
All right.
So I want you guys to do that.
Just, you know, don't take toolong, you can do it while you're
watching.
All right, all right, all right, all right, all right, all
right, all right.
So we got whales.

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Hey, whales is on the line.
My boy, the whales, is on here,thank God.
All right, all right, all right.
So um first says, and theybetter appreciate that woman,
that women's intuition, thatthing is real.
Yes, sir.

Speaker 3 (44:21):
You better get him around a little bit, because let
me tell you something, this oneright here what If I see
something and I'd be like youknow, babe, keep an eye on that?
He'll be like oh baby, you justburied too much.
How about true days later.
You know, babe, remember youtold me yeah, I remember, I try,

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I be trying to tell you.
You know that spirit ofdiscernment and that intuition
kicking together.
I'm not picking on anyone, I'mjust letting you know because,
guess what, I'm your helpmateand it is my job, when those are
tanners go up, it's my job tolet you know.

Speaker 2 (44:59):
So you got some spotty senses you know I got
some Jesus oh yeah, all right, Iget it.

Speaker 3 (45:05):
So you know when the spirit dropping and you listen
to us.
We ain't always out to telly'all what they do, how to do it
, but sometimes, just sometimesdropping your spirit.
You'd be like, uh, yeah, I'mgoing to take a look at this.
I'm stuck back and reallywatched it.
So you, you, you, hitting thenail on the head with that one.

Speaker 2 (45:24):
Okay, all right, all right, all right.
So appreciation is very, veryimportant.
Also, I hope that I put it inthe chat.
Guys, put it in the chat.
If you did it, put it in there.
Ladies, if they didn't do itput it in the chat, he did it,
put it up.
Put on a guys.

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You say I did it.
Ladies, you say he didn't do it.
All right, we got some time.
I want to be able to read those.
All right, all right, come onnow.
All right.
Compassion, compassion.
Women want compassion.
All right, all right.
Now the Bible says we got toget this.

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Now the Bible says that womenas the weaker vessels, but that
doesn't mean that they are lessthan men, absolutely.

Speaker 3 (46:13):
Yeah, I agree with you.

Speaker 2 (46:15):
It just means that women and men are different.
That's what he's given theexplanation of the men and women
.
We think different, we actdifferently.
That's what we do, and I thinksometimes we expect our wives to
be like our boys and sometimesour wives expect a husband to be

(46:36):
like our girls.
Do you agree with that?

Speaker 3 (46:38):
No, I don't want you to be like one of my girls.

Speaker 2 (46:44):
Okay, but you know, women, you respond to things
different to situations.
Can we say that?

Speaker 3 (46:56):
In different situations.

Speaker 2 (46:57):
All right, all right, this is what this person says.
This person say women may cryeasier, they may take longer to
resolve things emotionally.
We want to see if these true.
Tell me, if these true.
They may feel tired quicker andso why is one a little romance

(47:19):
in the marriage.
Do I want a little romance inthe marriage?
A lot of romance A lot ofromance, all right, we want to
continue to be pursued.

Speaker 3 (47:31):
and you dated me before you married me, so we
want to continue to be pursued.
We want to be, you know,courted.

Speaker 2 (47:42):
You want to be courted.

Speaker 3 (47:45):
That's the word that they use back in the day.
You want to be courted.
We want to continue to court.
That means you are showingcompassion.
You are showing that you'reputting my needs first.
You know what restaurant wouldyou like to go to.
You know stuff like that.
I'm sorry, I keep moving fromthe mic.
What restaurant would you liketo go to?
What would you like to go?
You showing that you're puttingmy needs first and you're

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involving me in the decisionmaking.
You know.

Speaker 2 (48:11):
Okay, all right.

Speaker 3 (48:13):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (48:14):
All right, all right, all right.
So we got to show compassion.
We got some things here thattalked about.
Look like Rob G.
Rob did it.
Yeah, he did All right, goodfor you, rob, I'll give you that
.

Speaker 3 (48:29):
I better see a Jordan riches in there.

Speaker 2 (48:31):
I gave better see a daughter riches up there late
soon.

Speaker 3 (48:34):
But you know, melissa said Ty is really good with
showing appreciation and valuingher, and she said thanks to
always making me feel value.
Yep, we have to and we have todo it back.
You are so right, we have to doit back.
We have to make sure he feelsvalued, have to make sure he
feels love, he feels protectedin this relationship, he feels

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secure.
You know, you are so right,because then you, we definitely
have to give it back to him,because who won't have one side
of relationship?

Speaker 2 (49:05):
All right.
Well, jordan say I did it, andI don't see no Samson saying I
did it.
So I, you know, and Wales, Igot to see y'all.
Now, all right, I got to see it, got to see it, I did it.
And you're going to show someappreciation, shows how much you
value you know, I want to seethem, samson's and Wales, and
they didn't do it, he didn't doit.

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Yeah, yeah, put it down there,all right.

Speaker 3 (49:28):
Yeah, it's so important and it's so, so
important that it goes both ways.
And because that that builds it, I mean, like I can't imagine
if I was, if you were alwaysgiving me all of the love, the
respect, the compassion, the allof it all, with five of them or
seven of you, is giving me allthat.

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That's going to give you ground.
So are you going to find otherwomen attracted?
Because you'd be like, yeah,this, I'm giving her everything
that I got and I'm gettingnothing in return.
That's going to turn you awayeventually.

Speaker 2 (50:06):
Okay, all right, all right.
So number seven is partnershipPartnership.
Why's don't want to be, want todo life alone?

Speaker 3 (50:14):
Nope, what's the point of getting married if you
got to do it by yourself?

Speaker 4 (50:19):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (50:21):
They want they, they want you know you want your
husband participation andraising the kids, making
decisions around the house.
You know picking paint colors.

Speaker 4 (50:31):
You don't want.
You don't want to.

Speaker 2 (50:34):
Well, you don't want me to help you pick paint colors
.
That's partnership, man.

Speaker 3 (50:39):
I'll tell you what color I want and you can go pick
it up.

Speaker 1 (50:42):
That's partnership.

Speaker 3 (50:45):
And take these two to the fan and have them mix it up
a little bit, go to the homedepot.

Speaker 4 (50:50):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (50:51):
All right.
Easy to say, mr Samson did itAll right.
All right, all right.
Who?
I'm waiting on Wells now.

Speaker 3 (51:00):
What else?
What else, all right.

Speaker 2 (51:04):
You said they want someone to do life with them,
not live two separate lives inthe same household, not two
separate rooms, you know.

Speaker 4 (51:14):
What's so funny?
It's so funny.

Speaker 3 (51:19):
Sometimes two separate rooms needed.

Speaker 2 (51:24):
Sometimes you need to serve.
I mean when you, when you snorelike a.

Speaker 3 (51:29):
You know that, just you know the.

Speaker 4 (51:32):
Holy Spirit did that.

Speaker 3 (51:35):
Well, you're exactly.
I don't want to be, becauseeven with that you know I was
watching this movie.
I can't remember the name of itI was just kind of scared about
, but in this movie did.
The husband and wife weretalking about the last time they
had been intimate and theyhadn't realized that because it

(51:55):
was difficult for her to sleepbecause of his snoring problem,
they had literally he hadliterally been sleeping in the
guest room for six months.
They didn't even realize thatit had been separated at night
for six months because ofsnoring.
Because of the way he you knowso, and but that's going to data
cause risk because they hadn'tbeen intimate in six months.
So you don't want to do that.

(52:15):
So you definitely need apartnership.

Speaker 2 (52:19):
You need a partnership.

Speaker 3 (52:20):
They just say let me fall asleep first.

Speaker 2 (52:23):
Let me fall asleep first and put some earmuffs on
while you all over there, allright.
All right, it's two more.
I think we got time for twomore.
Yeah, it's 823.
We got time for two more.
We're going to try to do it,all right, and before we get to
the last one, we'll talk.
If we can't get the last one,we'll do the last one another

(52:43):
time.
Okay, all right, so we're goingto ask the next one that I want
to do.
A wife wants sex.
You smile, but is that true?

Speaker 3 (53:00):
Yes, but let me.
A wife wants good sex.

Speaker 2 (53:04):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (53:05):
We want that foolishness.

Speaker 2 (53:07):
Alright.

Speaker 3 (53:08):
So I agree with you, I agree.
I agree, we want good sex.
Ain't no sense in messingaround, you're gonna get to it,
get to it.

Speaker 4 (53:16):
Alright.

Speaker 3 (53:17):
You know hey.

Speaker 2 (53:20):
Hey, that's a good sex, good sex.

Speaker 3 (53:22):
We want that messing around.

Speaker 2 (53:24):
Okay, alright, alright, alright.
So we got a guy, got to be,ready for it?
Yes, okay, alright, I mean,that's what I'm saying.
You know some.
A lot of times we look at um,you look at it, culture looks at
it.
That you know, um, like the manis the one that wants you know
all the sex.
Hey, I would say, women want itjust as bad as as men.

(53:45):
Would you say that?

Speaker 3 (53:46):
I think because of the way we were we, as far as me
, ray, the way we were, you know, the way we were raised up in
church we're supposed to be, Idon't know they made me feel
like we just supposed to laythere and like slaves or
something like that.
Okay, you know, when you getmarried, you got to do this, so
that's that's it.
They, they, the older ladiesappear like they actually

(54:07):
enjoyed it.
They looked at it as if it wasa task Like it was another thing
to check off on list.
I got to click, I got to get thekids a bit.
Then I go in there and do, do,do the, do the, do the do.
I had to go in there and domister, and so they kind of made
it seem like you know, likeyou're, like we weren't supposed

(54:29):
to enjoy it.

Speaker 2 (54:32):
It's something for the man to enjoy.

Speaker 3 (54:33):
Yeah, it's something we were for his pleasure, but we
weren't supposed to find any init, only that the fact that we
we took care of our husband, soyeah, so, things have seriously
changed.
I'm so many levels we're movingin to coming to themselves and

(54:54):
you know it's like hey, wait aminute.
That's why I should say likewe've, that's not.
I think I remember telling acouple I was like you know and
me and Eric upset with eachother.
That's not going to prevent mefrom getting what I need.
I don't get it.
We could be mad all day, Idon't care, but if the night is
the night, then you come in hereand you drop the drop.

Speaker 1 (55:16):
You drop the drop.

Speaker 3 (55:18):
Jordan, you come in here and you got to do this
business, and you can go to anycorner of the house you want to.
Bro, I'm still mad at you.
When it's over, though, I'mstill mad, but I'm not going to
deprive myself from what theLord say we should have.
Our connection is the one.

(55:38):
I can't do it.
It ain't right.
I used to, though.
I was like wait a minute.
Something hit me.
I was like wait a minute, I'm aright here.

Speaker 2 (55:48):
So, yeah, okay, all right, all right.

Speaker 3 (55:51):
I mean, I hope you ladies agree, because hey, y'all
didn't even have to.

Speaker 2 (55:57):
Well, ladies, if you agree, put down there, I agree.
Put down there, I agree.
If you agree, ladies, put itdown there, I agree.
You know with passing, you know.
So does intimacy, intimacy,replace sex, or is that a part
of it?

Speaker 3 (56:12):
That's the whole point of it.
Now you know okay.

Speaker 2 (56:16):
Hey, melissa say.
Melissa say she disagreebecause you say them.
Old church ladies were freaksin the streets.

Speaker 4 (56:24):
You know what?

Speaker 3 (56:27):
That's something to think about, because guess what?
Mama had 13 children, sothere's something going on there
.
But you know, just from thatperspective of how, how I saw it
um, like, don't get me twistedI think everyone will like an
afternoon delight, you know, alittle quickie Sometimes the
quickies be the best one but wealso want to be romance and we

(56:50):
want intimacy and we wanttouching and cuddling and we
want all that stuff that leadsthat four play that leads up to
the.
You know, yeah, we want that.
What's going on?

Speaker 2 (57:06):
Hey, I'm a um a missy zone, missy zone, missy missy
say uh well, first says just asmuch.
Mean, understand this.
If you want satisfaction everytime, so does she.

Speaker 3 (57:17):
Absolutely.

Speaker 2 (57:18):
All right.

Speaker 3 (57:19):
I love that guy.

Speaker 2 (57:20):
Yeah, and um and um, missy says, missy says it's a
chore, is how they made it to beRight?
All right, and now is it?
Is it talking about we out ofcontrol today?
Is it say we out of control?
And and old Lord Samson smiling, he go.

(57:43):
I didn't know, that was on.
That's how I got here.
Yeah, you in that, that's howyou got here.
Absolutely, and I'm not sure ifyou know what I'm saying.
Oh no, oh Lord, I got it.
Yeah, I got to put that.
I got to put that for everybodyto see.

Speaker 3 (58:06):
Got to put that for everybody to see.
That's the marriage it was,that's the you know what.
I just can't trust you to holdinto nothing.
But that's not right, becauseyou know that's what I did.
As a matter of fact, I did in abooth at their wedding.
I was in and I say you knowwhat, I'm in the booth and I'm
like I have lots and lots andlots of sex.

Speaker 4 (58:27):
And she was like, oh my God, wow, wow, but you're so
dust.

Speaker 3 (58:34):
That's the mentality that see.
And see, I'm not the only one,so Missy thinks the same thing.
That's how they gave us thisold yeah man, man, they could be
up now.

Speaker 2 (58:45):
Oh Lord, I'm telling you yeah, they could see you now
.
They could see, yeah.
Well, on that girl I'm tellingyou All right, so, all right.
So the last one was very, verysimple and I think we've I've
kind of hit at it a little bittonight anyway and it was a wife

(59:07):
needs a husband who woulddemonstrate spiritual leadership
.

Speaker 3 (59:09):
Absolutely, absolutely.

Speaker 2 (59:12):
Right.

Speaker 3 (59:12):
So yes, if you follow God, you truly follow God.
If you are a man after God'sown heart, your wife has nothing
to worry about.

Speaker 4 (59:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (59:25):
You don't want to disappoint God by doing
something that you shouldn't bedoing to her.
You know you reference yourrelationship, you have that fear
.
And when she can see youdisplay that and know that, when
she see you in that word andshe see you praying and and when
she you know, no, no, no matterwhere you're seen, you can see

(59:48):
the Jesus on you.
Even when you upset, you canstill see.
You know you have a certainmannerism that you hold on to.
And not only that, it's kind ofsexy, oh.

Speaker 2 (59:59):
Jesus.
All right, being disciple ofJesus is sexy.
All right, I'll tell you, ohboy, we're going to catch it.
Somebody get a part of this.
They're going to take us.
We crazy, y'all married peoplecrazy.
You know, as, like you say, aman should, you know.
I think a wife should see thata man is being a spiritual

(01:00:23):
leader.
You know, be regularly studyingGod's word.
You know, memorizing scripture.
You know, because if youmemorize scripture, if your wife
is going through something, youcan say hey, babe, that about
this.
You know, we out a what aboutthis?
You know.
You remember Bishop.
You know.
You remember the Bible.
You remember Bishop and LadyBanks.

(01:00:45):
They said they quote scripture.
Each other is scripture.
You know.
They use scripture.
You know, and that's how itshould be Meditation, daily
meditation on the scripture andand prayer.
Woman should know that thehusband is praying, praying for
her, praying for the family.
You know culture.
A lot of times, growing up, itwas more that the woman should

(01:01:06):
be praying for the husband.
Woman should be praying for thefamily.
Women should be doing that.
No, if we're supposed to be thespiritual leaders of the house,
right?
Why did the woman be the onepraying when the man should be
the one praying.
It's like this if you go tochurch, you in the church and

(01:01:28):
all of the everybody praying inthe past ain't praying.
What kind of mess is that?
You should see that the past ispraying for everybody.
That's the past's job is topray and protect the flock,
protect it, and so that's whatthe husband is supposed to be
praying for, supposed to beinterceding for the wife.
Don't put the responsibility onthe wife.

(01:01:49):
Take the spiritual leadershipof your house and I guarantee
you, if you take the spiritualleadership of your house, your
family, your life will be muchbetter and you will go forward.
God bless.

Speaker 3 (01:02:04):
It's easy to follow.
The leader is doing his jobBecause, remember, it says that
the anointing flows from thehead down and that should be all
the way down.
So if you set a standard ofserving God, then your
children's gonna follow, theirchildren's gonna follow.

(01:02:25):
The foundation is laid, youknow, so it's important.

Speaker 2 (01:02:30):
Right, right, right, all right, good to go.
All right, we got, I would say,just a couple of minutes and I
know we kinda like some, youknow, a little bit there's a
little bit behind a little bit.
So we're gonna wait a littlebit and see who wants to call in
for tonight.
All right, while we're waiting,we're gonna, you know, we'll be
talking, we'll see who wants tocall in for tonight.

(01:02:55):
You know the number is754-222-2219.
That's again, that's, thenumber is 754-222-2219.
We want you to call in today.
Call in for us.
Look what Ferg says, read whatFerg says.

(01:03:16):
I'm gonna get this ready.

Speaker 3 (01:03:17):
Okay, let me, I don't know, what happened to my
finger?
Okay, first it women love a manthat is able to humble himself
and realize that only God hasinfinite wisdom.
And to see your husband seekhis guidance lets her know that

(01:03:41):
he truly cares.

Speaker 4 (01:03:43):
Okay all right.

Speaker 3 (01:03:44):
That is so true.
That is so true.

Speaker 2 (01:03:50):
All right, you can call in again at 754-222-2219.
We will love to hear from you,we would love to hear your
thoughts, we would love to hearwhat you have to say about
tonight.
Maybe you got some things thatwe didn't mention tonight and we
want to join in.
I do not.

(01:04:11):
Thank God for everybody whoparticipated tonight.
Absolutely, you know again.
We got the Missy.
You know, hey, missy, hey,missy, aunt Missy, and we got
Melissa.
We got Jordan, malika, we gotNat that was on Lord.
We got Izzy and you know Pageand Warren.
Yeah, page and Warren.
You know, hey, you know Izzyand Harold.

(01:04:35):
And Izzy celebrates theiranniversary tomorrow.
Yay, the eight years.

Speaker 3 (01:04:43):
What.

Speaker 2 (01:04:44):
You remember when oh Lord, thank you Lord, thank you
Lord, thank you Lord, thank youLord, thank you Jesus.
You know so they celebratingtheir tomorrow for their
anniversary, we'll give a shoutout to them.
Eight years, yes, yes.
And they knew each other a longtime before that, you know,
before, izzy.
When they say they were, youknow she tried to float around

(01:05:04):
somebody.
We just friends.

Speaker 3 (01:05:07):
But it's just good, we just friends first.

Speaker 2 (01:05:10):
Yeah, you know they wouldn't.

Speaker 3 (01:05:12):
But we just saying that some friends before lovers.

Speaker 2 (01:05:15):
I don't know that one .
Who is that?

Speaker 3 (01:05:19):
I'm just kind of happy you don't know it because
you was going in.
But that's all right, babe, Idon't mind Listen to you sing.

Speaker 2 (01:05:26):
Hey, you know that break was back to where you're
talking about the sex thing.
You know, and I think we didthe 10 songs.
You know, I don't understandwhy people want to do amazing
grace and all that kind of stuff.
You know, I know it was theblood.

Speaker 3 (01:05:40):
You know what, since we have a few minutes and
waiting on a caller, I heard avideo today.

Speaker 4 (01:05:46):
OK.

Speaker 3 (01:05:47):
It was a pastor.
I'm not sure if he was anAfrican pastor or whatnot, but
he said that when wives calltheir husbands pet names like
babe or honey or sugar you knowjust little pet names he says

(01:06:09):
that those names are demonic andthat we're taking away from the
value of man.
Yeah, if we're taking away fromthe value of the man, wait a
minute and we should beaddressing you guys as our Lord.

Speaker 2 (01:06:22):
What kind of crap is that?
I don't even give a clap tothat, you know, because that
don't make any kind of sense.
I love when you call me punkand I love you.
You call me babes, I was like Iwas.

Speaker 3 (01:06:31):
another way he said don't you call your husband.
Oh my God, oh Lord, I'm goingto hell.
Jesus saved the.
Take the wheel.

Speaker 1 (01:06:40):
That was one of the first.

Speaker 3 (01:06:41):
That was one of the first.
He said we call and no, yourhusband, no pumpkin.

Speaker 2 (01:06:45):
I was like oh, let me ask you all that.
So how?

Speaker 3 (01:06:48):
do you guys feel about that?

Speaker 2 (01:06:50):
Man, how do you feel about pet names?
Come on In the comments, put inthe comment, call in, talk to
us.
You know how do you feel aboutpet names.
You know, which I think I mean.
Do you mind if your wife calledyou a pet name, or do you?
Or it has to be Lord, you know,lord Richards, lord Eric, you
know, that's got a that got anice ring to it, though that has

(01:07:15):
a like you know, Lord Eric, Iwould love that you know.
Like you, I think you need tostart calling me that.
Can you practice that right now?

Speaker 3 (01:07:22):
Yeah, yeah Lord, yeah Lord.

Speaker 2 (01:07:24):
Yeah, Come on, If y'all want to call in, we're
going to have you know.
I know it's like a minute delayor whatever like that, and we
just going to open the lines up754-222-2219.
Again, 754-222-2219.
You can call in, express yourviews.
We got you know, calling for aminute, as we was instructed by

(01:07:46):
one person call in for a minute.
And you know, just let's talkabout this, we got this 838 here
.
Yeah, we over time, we gotabout two or three more minutes
so you can call in.
So you can call in.
Yeah, that's crazy, I lovereading the comments.

(01:08:08):
Yeah, I love reading thecomments too.
You know I love reading thecomments.
All right, yeah, we miss, wemiss, we miss.
Yeah, we miss you, melissa, wemiss you all being online with
us.
Yeah, we, we're giving a shoutout to Samson and we're standing
in Ovation.
We got a standing in Ovationtonight, that's good.
Yeah, all right, we got astanding in Ovation tonight,

(01:08:30):
that's good, that's good, allright.
Dj, dj saying he love his petname.
I'm talking about DJ.
I'll give you a shout out onthat one.
Uh-oh, the Dwayne Dwayne ishere.
Dwayne says I'm here, family, Ilove, I love your love and
truth on display and all thegreat advice and nuggets

(01:08:50):
continue, blessings, all right.
Samson says no problem at allfor the pet names.
All right, Now.
Now the thing would be y'allput your pet names down, don't
do it.
Don't do it.
Put your pet names down.
Mm-hmm, I was going to do that.
Oh my, who got my Leica?
Come on Leica.
Let's not get any ideas aboutlords and such hey.

Speaker 3 (01:09:13):
That's right, that's my daughter.

Speaker 2 (01:09:15):
Yeah, my daughter, lord Jordan, lord Harold, you
know, lord TJ.

Speaker 4 (01:09:21):
Lord.

Speaker 3 (01:09:22):
Ness.

Speaker 2 (01:09:24):
You go to hey, my Lord, you know, hey, that's hey.
I think we need to get back tothat.

Speaker 3 (01:09:28):
I serve you my Lord, let's get back to that.

Speaker 2 (01:09:31):
Let's get back to that.
You know, warren says pet namesare good as long as it's agreed
upon.
Okay, all right.
Hey, the week.

Speaker 3 (01:09:39):
You don't want to be called.
Hey nugget, I get you on thatone, I get you.
I understand we here.
Oh Jesus, I love it I love it,I've been calling him punking
for years.
I remember our first trip tothe grocery store and I was
standing in line and I turnedand I was like hey punking.

(01:10:00):
And the lady behind me said oh,you calling punking now.
She said that's going to stop.

Speaker 2 (01:10:06):
Hey, we got Jordan on the line, jordan.

Speaker 3 (01:10:08):
Oh Jordan called in.

Speaker 2 (01:10:11):
All right, hey, jordan, how you doing hey.

Speaker 3 (01:10:14):
Jordan.

Speaker 4 (01:10:16):
Hey, I'm doing good.
I'm just calling in about youknow, pet names and whatnot.
Okay, I do think that's alittle ridiculous, but I'd be a
liar if I said I wouldn't mindbeing called Lord every now and
then oh really.
I get you on that too.

Speaker 3 (01:10:39):
I'm not saying it has to be all the time.

Speaker 4 (01:10:43):
It doesn't have to happen all the time.
You know, every once in a whileI come in.
You know, maybe I come backhome again, not some dinner.
My chief stays on, you know.
Thank you, my Lord.
It would be pretty nice,wouldn't it, jay, let me keep
you there Pretty nice and youknow this really just ties back

(01:11:05):
into what the Bible says aboutwomen respecting their husband.

Speaker 3 (01:11:12):
That's right, Malika.
That's right.

Speaker 2 (01:11:14):
Give him the good, hey, jordan, I'm going to get
you off the line before you getyourself into a lot of trouble.

Speaker 3 (01:11:19):
Son Get him, malika Get him.

Speaker 2 (01:11:23):
So I'm going to put you on mute and get you all so
you won't get killed tonight.
All right, and you won't becoming over to our house.
All right, good night, son.
All right, man, I love you.

Speaker 3 (01:11:33):
Entertaining that nonsense, no matter where we
going over there Rob.

Speaker 4 (01:11:36):
G said it has to be a manly name, all right, all
right, melissa.
Melissa said, ty, don't holdyour breath waiting for me to
call you Lord.
I call him baby, that's it.

Speaker 2 (01:11:43):
That's it.
That's all you need.
That's it.
That's it, my Lord.

Speaker 3 (01:11:56):
Okay, is it say come on, is it?
You can't say, Lord Harold?

Speaker 2 (01:12:02):
or Lord Samson.

Speaker 3 (01:12:07):
Nobody saying Lord, nobody, nobody, but Lord Jesus.
That's the only Lord.
Lord Jesus, oh Jesus man, Itell you, I mean, I don't know
what's up with the women.

Speaker 2 (01:12:15):
You know, I think the women feminist movement really
have taken the things out oflives.
You know, thank you for joiningus tonight.

Speaker 3 (01:12:24):
You know, I'm Eric this boss, lady P, we the
Riptors, is it say in yourdreams Jordan, I know right.

Speaker 2 (01:12:31):
Yeah, we want to just thank you for joining us
tonight.
We had fun, we had fun, we hadfun, we had fun, we had fun, we
had fun, we had fun.
We had fun tonight.
We had fun tonight.
We had fun tonight.
We had fun tonight.
I think we got a littlecounseling, but we ended up with
a lot of fun tonight and Ithank each and every person who

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All right, and Malika says yougive them an inch man, and you
know, yeah.

Speaker 3 (01:13:55):
I can't All right.

Speaker 2 (01:13:56):
Ferg says Jordan, grown men, don't get into
trouble.
They may disappoint from timeto time, but we don't get into
trouble.
Speak the truth.
All right, we're going to be upthere.
No, I'm going to say good nighttonight and thank you for
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