Are you and your spouse stuck in the same fight on repeat? You might be caught in what I call The Loop of Doom — the destructive cycle of conflict that keeps couples emotionally disconnected, misunderstood, and frustrated. In this episode, we break down what the Loop of Doom is, how it shows up in your marriage, and how your attachment styles are fueling it.
We’ll explore the 4 major attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant/disorganized), how they were formed, and how they show up in communication, conflict, and emotional intimacy. Whether you find yourself shutting down, chasing for closeness, or flipping between both — this episode will help you understand why and what to do next.
Spoiler: It’s not about communicating better. It’s about healing the patterns underneath.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What the “Loop of Doom” actually is — and why it silently destroys connection
A breakdown of all 4 attachment styles and how they impact your relationship
Real-life examples of how the loop shows up in marriage
How attachment wounds trigger repetitive conflict
The emotional toll of staying stuck in this cycle
Why understanding attachment is the key to real change
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