The holidays are supposed to bring joy, not resentment—and yet, every year, countless couples end up fighting about unmet expectations, mental load, and emotional burnout. In this episode of Married & Connected, certified marriage coach Kameran Alareqi shares how to use the Christmas Compass to realign your marriage, your mindset, and your peace this holiday season.
We’ll unpack:
✨ Why resentment always comes from unspoken expectations
✨ How to express what you actually need—without guilt or control
✨ The difference between weaponized incompetence and healthy boundaries
✨ How to practice weaponized competence (yes, that’s a thing!) to bring out the best in your partner
✨ How to use systems and small rituals to stay connected when life gets busy
✨ Practical tools to navigate holiday chaos with clarity, care, and calm
If the holidays often leave you feeling unseen, overwhelmed, or frustrated, this episode will help you lower expectations, increase connection, and rediscover joy—without doing it all yourself.
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💬 Want to take this deeper?
Work 1:1 with Kameran Alareqi, Certified Marriage Coach, to create systems that strengthen your marriage year-round.
👉 Apply for private coaching at www.recognizingpotential.com
or email Kam at coaching@recognizingpotential.com
⚠️ Disclaimer:
This podcast is for educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for therapy or legal advice. Kameran Alareqi and Married & Connected are not responsible for how listeners apply the information discussed.
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