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November 17, 2024 • 3 mins

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Ever wondered why your heartfelt notes seem to mean more to your partner than an extravagant gift? Join us as we unravel the mystery behind why thoughtful gestures hold more weight in relationships than monetary value. Listen to humorous and touching personal anecdotes that highlight the power of small, meaningful actions—like a handwritten gift certificate for conversation or a playful breakfast in bed setup. 

Find out how these little efforts can outshine even the priciest gifts by showing genuine understanding and care. We'll share practical advice and real-life examples that demonstrate how you can surprise your partner in ways that money simply can't. Discover the importance of knowing what your partner values most and how a muesli bar and bottled water can create a memorable moment. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that it's not about the cost but the thoughtfulness that truly counts.

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Speaker 0 (00:00):
Look, it's not a lack of effort that she wants.
It's like she wants thought,not the size of gift.
For men, size matters, right,like I don't really care about
how much thoughtfulness wentinto it.
If you want to thoughtlesslybuy me a Tesla, that's going to
mean more to me than youthoughtfully buy me a book.
That's the way that works.
It's like size matters for men.

(00:20):
Size does not matter for women.
You could buy a woman a Tesla,which is just throwing money at
the situation, or you couldthoughtfully buy her a book and
that you know that honestly,that's like that's almost always
.
My recommendation is like buyher a book on a subject that
she's talked about, that shedoesn't think you've listened to
her about.
Get a book that says Iunderstand.
This shows that I understandyou, you know, and it's like,

(00:42):
honestly, you could do something.
Like last Valentine's Day, Ijust hand wrote a little note
and I said that and made it likea gift card, like really sloppy
man, it's like I made no effortwith it at all, and it
basically said the owner of thisgift card is entitled to 60
minutes of conversation on anytopic of their choice.
I just gave her that.
That was my gift.
She held it, she goes, I'm notgoing to use it today.

(01:03):
I'm like, yeah, just keep itfor whenever you need it.
And then, that way, likeanytime you want to talk, and I
don't think you can bust it out.
And then, like you know, sureenough, like three months later,
she's like I'm going to use mygift certificate today.
I'm just like, oh, I just wantto watch a movie.
But like she's got a giftcertificate lot further than me
buying her a Tesla.
I bought a Tag Heuer watch once.

(01:24):
It was like five grand.
We ended up taking it back.
It's like she just didn't care.
It's like they just don't care.
Basically, she's saying, notthat I don't want you to make
effort.
It's like effort is notspending money.
That's not effort, that's theeasy way out.
Right, spending money is theeasy way out.
The effort is like well, whatis she going to respond?
What's going to blow her mind?
You know what's she going tolook at and go.

(01:44):
Didn't see that one come in in agood way, or that's pretty
spectacular.
I mean, this morning I took mywife, I got a tray and I got a
muesli bar and a bottle ofbottled water and took it into
the bedroom and said breakfastin bed for my Valentine.
She's like breakfast in bed.
Huh, I'm like.

(02:09):
There you go.
I'm like we got to startsomewhere, sweetheart.
She goes.
Yeah, it's like because it'skind of funny, but at the same
time it's just, it's anacknowledgement.
You know, I could.
I could have taken her out to ahundred dollar breakfast buffet
somewhere well, not where Ilive, but if I was in Sydney or
somewhere and just it would havemeant very little whereas you
just do something little, youknow bottle of water and a
muesli bar.
You're almost making fun of thefact that you're not making
effort, but you're making effortLike she goes.
Oh, that was cute.
You tried to make me laugh.
That's cute.

(02:29):
Priceless dude.
That's going to get you so muchmore than taking her out to
dinner or whatever.
So just think, what can I dothat's going to blow her away.
I mean, even take that.
You know the owner of this giftcertificate is entitled to 60
minutes of conversation of theirchoice anytime.
They choose a muesli bar and abottle of water and go all out.
So I mean, obviously I don'tknow your woman, my woman would

(02:51):
respond quite well to that, butlike it can be like quite nice
because she just goes.
Oh, you know that's.
You made an effort, you triedto make me laugh and again, it's
just lightheartedness, right,it's comedy.
It's like there's no emotionaltax associated with that.
There's no emotional taxassociated with that, there's no
emotional tax.
It's not heavy, it's just funny.
It's like you're just trying tomake her laugh and then if she
goes, oh you know, this is whatI get, and you go.
Well, I was going to make areservation for the finest

(03:14):
restaurant money can buy.
It's not too late, you know andthen she's going to be
significantly more open.
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