Are you constantly feeling guilty for saying no, putting yourself first, or just needing a break? I used to feel that way too. Guilt whispered that I was selfish, lazy, or letting people down. So I kept over-giving, over-doing, and over-apologizing… until I finally said "enough."
I faced decades of saying yes when I meant no, repressing my own needs, and living under the weight of other people’s expectations. In this episode, I’m diving into the 20 things I finally stopped feeling guilty about—and how each one helped me:
- Break the cycle of people‑pleasing in midlife
- Overcome guilt and shame around setting boundaries
- Reclaim my time, energy, and self‑worth, and
- Live more joyfully—without resentment
If you're tired of feeling invisible, drained, or like you don't deserve simple pleasures (like rest, choice, and pride in your own life), this episode is for you.
If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me at heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com or schedule a free Clarity Call: https://calendly.com/heidi-gustafson/30min
Specific YouTube video mentioned in episode: "This people-pleasing habit destroys your confidence"
More resources on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MasteringMidlifeWithHeidi
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