April 21, 2025 • 10 mins
This episode also explores the evolution of co-parenting during holidays—moving from tears when my daughter leaves to a mature understanding that supporting her relationship with her father isn't about my feelings. I share the unexpected adventure of emergency gallbladder surgery that kept me away for weeks, complete with hospital stays and a painful recovery. From vacation fun in Vegas with magic shows and museums to sudden health crises, life continues to deliver opportunities for growth if we're willing to embrace them.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello everyone, welcome back to Mental
Health-ish.
I'm glad to be back recording.
It's been a while since Irecorded.
It is Easter tomorrow, but youmight be listening to this after
Easter.
So I decided to record because Ithink every time that a holiday
comes up for me, I am justreminded of like how much growth
(00:25):
has happened in the yearsbefore.
So every year, whenever therewas like any major holidays,
like Easter or whatever, likeyears back, it would put me in
my feelings so hard because Iwould start thinking about my
own childhood and, like Easter,you know, like how I never had
(00:47):
an Easter, I never had anyEaster baskets, any Easter egg
hunts, things like that, andthen I would also then go
further down the rabbit hole, ifyou will, and think about how I
don't have like any family andI think I talked about this
before like holidays can bringup these types of feelings for
(01:09):
people to where, like you startkind of feeling sorry for
yourself and sad and goingthrough grief, because sometimes
it makes you wish like yourlife would have been different
or you would have had all ofthese memories you know, for the
holidays to look back on.
But this morning, when I waslooking out the window and I was
getting ready to go to work, Iwas like, oh wow, it's Easter
(01:31):
tomorrow and I did not feel anytype of way and it just like
shows the growth.
You know, that can happen withyears, like just with time, I
guess, and also therapy.
But yeah, if you're someonethat's feeling really bad about
the holidays and they bring yousome type of sadness or make you
(01:54):
feel you know some type of way,or you get in your feelings,
just know that you're not aloneand it's completely.
It's fine, like everything'sgonna work itself out with time.
It's fine, like everything'sgonna work itself out with time.
And yes, of course, sometimesyou gotta put in the work and
maybe go to therapy or talk tosomeone about these things so
that you're able to work throughall of the stuff that come up
(02:16):
for you during the holidays.
But there is light at the endof the tunnel and so I wanted to
just come on and record thisand hopefully give someone some
hope, you know, with theholidays and things like that.
But, yes, happy Easter.
I hope you all had a greatEaster.
If you're listening to this,let me know what you did.
(02:36):
Or if you don't celebrateEaster, let me know, let me know
what Easter means to you ordoesn't.
But as for me, emma left to herdad's house for the weekend and
so she's actually not going tobe home until night Easter night
which is totally fine.
Before I would have probablybeen sad and crying because I
(02:59):
would have been like, oh man, Iwish she was with me and I would
have felt so bad.
But now I'm Okay and the reasonbeing so is that I kind of no
matter what, it's not about me.
I guess you could say and ifyou have kids you'll understand
this but with the years I'vekind of gotten better with like
(03:20):
Emma going over to her dad's,like it used to make me so sad
and I used to cry when she wouldleave, and just looking at her
room, her toys, like would makeme sad.
And if you're a parent, youknow what I'm talking about.
If you're a co-parent whereyour kid has to leave, like it's
so hard at the beginning.
But I think I've gotten betterat realizing that it's not about
(03:41):
me.
You know, at the end of the day, like I've always been the
person that will always let Emmago to her dad's house, no
matter what, like I'm not goingto be the person that says no or
stops it or tries to ruin herrelationship with her dad.
If he asks for her, I'm goingto say yes.
You know, especially if I'm notdoing anything with Emma.
(04:04):
Sometimes we do have plans andI'll let him know like, hey,
like we're actually going to dothis or I have this plan.
I don't go into details, butyou know I'll let him know like,
oh, we have plans, or you know,I'm taking her this, so maybe
next weekend.
And it's always been,thankfully, a very like mature,
(04:25):
like relationship, I guess.
And so, yeah, I always kind ofjust remind myself of that.
So, with this Easter, uh, heactually asked for her last
weekend, but I was off from workstill last weekend, and so I
told him like, hey, would youmind like picking her up next
weekend?
And I even asked her too,because he called, I was like,
(04:46):
do you want to go today?
And she's like, no, nextweekend, because we were making,
like the mini pancakes at homeand, by the way, I have the mini
pancake video on our YouTube,so if you guys want to check it
out, we made mini pancakes athome, but anywho.
So, yeah, she's, she's gone forthis weekend and I think what
I'm gonna do is just make her alittle Easter basket while she's
(05:06):
out and just kind of surpriseher with it when she gets home.
And as she's gotten older, ourEaster baskets have become
smaller too, so it'll just besomething cute, little items
that maybe she'll like and then,yeah, that'll be it.
But yeah, I hope you all had agreat Easter.
I'm officially back at work thisweek.
(05:27):
If you guys follow my socialmedia semester, I'm officially
back at work this week.
If you guys follow my socialmedia, you guys saw that I did
go into emergency surgery it'sbeen two and a half weeks now, I
think at the beginning of Apriland so what had happened was so
I haven't been to work in likethree weeks because I went on
vacation for Emma's spring break.
We went to Vegas for the week.
(05:48):
We did, we had a lot of fun, wedid a lot of different
activities.
We saw a few magic shows, wesaw just different things.
We went to the museum, wewalked around.
So it was a lot of fun.
And, yeah, after we came backfrom Vegas that same weekend and
(06:09):
thankfully this didn't happenin Vegas, so that's like a
positive to this but when we gotback from Vegas that weekend
and thankfully I had alreadylike unpacked and done laundry,
everything was already like backto normal, I guess, like I had
cleaned the house, you knowthings like.
But yeah, that weekend I startedgetting like really bad
(06:30):
gallbladder pain.
And if you guys, I haveexperienced gallbladder pain,
you know what I'm talking about.
It's like the most excruciating, like just horrible pain, like
it sucks so bad, like youliterally feel like you're going
to pass out, like it's just bad.
So, yeah, I started gettingpain and it lasted for three
(06:55):
days.
So that's when I became likeworried because I was like am I
just going to be in pain?
Because usually with thegallbladder pain, I had
experienced it before and it'slike it usually lasts like a day
for me and then I would justkind of let it go, like just
wait it out, type of thing.
But this time it lasted threewhole days and I couldn't eat
anything because it would justhurt.
(07:15):
So I was over there eatingyogurt, which I found out is
dairy, so it was actually makingit worse.
You know just kind of eatinglight fruits, protein shakes,
things like that, and I was likethis is horrible.
Because it was still hurting.
I ended up going to theemergency room.
They did a I think it was a CTscan, so that's like a whole
(07:38):
nother thing, cause, like, goinginto the CT scan machines is
horrible, it's so scary, I'mclaustrophobic, like just being
in there.
So I just like, yeah, it'shorrible in itself, but yeah, I
ended up having emergencygallbladder removal surgery so
they took the gallbladder out soI had to stay at the hospital
(07:59):
overnight and then, after thatsurgery, they're like oh, you
have gallstones that were stuck,you know, in the little bile
duct.
I know you guys are probablylike what the heck is that?
But the little tube, I don'tknow.
So I actually ended up having asecond procedure the next day,
and it was just so.
I actually ended up having asecond procedure the next day
and it was just, yeah, it washorrible.
(08:22):
I was at the hospital for fourdays and then I couldn't eat
anything.
I didn't eat any food at allfor four days.
I was literally just on liquids, on IV.
I couldn't shower.
So I had no shower for fourdays and obviously, like it was
very uncomfortable and painfulat the beginning.
(08:42):
Like right out of surgery, Ihave like stitches on my stomach
.
I couldn't move.
I had to sleep facing up, whichsucks Pretty much like.
I'm still not.
I'm still sleeping facing up.
I'm just waiting at least threeweeks post surgery, but it's a
lot of things, so that was notfun.
(09:05):
If you follow me on Instagram, Iprobably posted a lot about it,
because I was sitting in thathospital bed just bored a lot of
times by myself and you knowlike just yeah, but anywho, that
ended ended up happening, so Iwas out of work.
So I just came back to workyesterday and obviously, like
throughout the past few weeks, Iwasn't able to record.
(09:26):
But anywho, I'm excited to beback recording and hopefully
I'll be recording more episodesbecause I feel like I have a lot
of stuff to talk about.
But if you're listening up tothis point, thank you, thank you
, thank you so much.
Remember to subscribe and shareand, yeah, I hope you guys are
(09:47):
doing great.
Check out the old past episodes.
I had the past episode a reallygood speaker.
I hope you guys enjoyed theepisode and I will talk to you
guys soon.
Hello everyone, welcome back to Mental
Health-ish.
I'm glad to be back recording.
It's been a while since Irecorded.
It is Easter tomorrow, but youmight be listening to this after
Easter.
So I decided to record because Ithink every time that a holiday
comes up for me, I am justreminded of like how much growth
(00:25):
has happened in the yearsbefore.
So every year, whenever therewas like any major holidays,
like Easter or whatever, likeyears back, it would put me in
my feelings so hard because Iwould start thinking about my
own childhood and, like Easter,you know, like how I never had
(00:47):
an Easter, I never had anyEaster baskets, any Easter egg
hunts, things like that, andthen I would also then go
further down the rabbit hole, ifyou will, and think about how I
don't have like any family andI think I talked about this
before like holidays can bringup these types of feelings for
(01:09):
people to where, like you startkind of feeling sorry for
yourself and sad and goingthrough grief, because sometimes
it makes you wish like yourlife would have been different
or you would have had all ofthese memories you know, for the
holidays to look back on.
But this morning, when I waslooking out the window and I was
getting ready to go to work, Iwas like, oh wow, it's Easter
(01:31):
tomorrow and I did not feel anytype of way and it just like
shows the growth.
You know, that can happen withyears, like just with time, I
guess, and also therapy.
But yeah, if you're someonethat's feeling really bad about
the holidays and they bring yousome type of sadness or make you
(01:54):
feel you know some type of way,or you get in your feelings,
just know that you're not aloneand it's completely.
It's fine, like everything'sgonna work itself out with time.
It's fine, like everything'sgonna work itself out with time.
And yes, of course, sometimesyou gotta put in the work and
maybe go to therapy or talk tosomeone about these things so
that you're able to work throughall of the stuff that come up
(02:16):
for you during the holidays.
But there is light at the endof the tunnel and so I wanted to
just come on and record thisand hopefully give someone some
hope, you know, with theholidays and things like that.
But, yes, happy Easter.
I hope you all had a greatEaster.
If you're listening to this,let me know what you did.
(02:36):
Or if you don't celebrateEaster, let me know, let me know
what Easter means to you ordoesn't.
But as for me, emma left to herdad's house for the weekend and
so she's actually not going tobe home until night Easter night
which is totally fine.
Before I would have probablybeen sad and crying because I
(02:59):
would have been like, oh man, Iwish she was with me and I would
have felt so bad.
But now I'm Okay and the reasonbeing so is that I kind of no
matter what, it's not about me.
I guess you could say and ifyou have kids you'll understand
this but with the years I'vekind of gotten better with like
(03:20):
Emma going over to her dad's,like it used to make me so sad
and I used to cry when she wouldleave, and just looking at her
room, her toys, like would makeme sad.
And if you're a parent, youknow what I'm talking about.
If you're a co-parent whereyour kid has to leave, like it's
so hard at the beginning.
But I think I've gotten betterat realizing that it's not about
(03:41):
me.
You know, at the end of the day, like I've always been the
person that will always let Emmago to her dad's house, no
matter what, like I'm not goingto be the person that says no or
stops it or tries to ruin herrelationship with her dad.
If he asks for her, I'm goingto say yes.
You know, especially if I'm notdoing anything with Emma.
(04:04):
Sometimes we do have plans andI'll let him know like, hey,
like we're actually going to dothis or I have this plan.
I don't go into details, butyou know I'll let him know like,
oh, we have plans, or you know,I'm taking her this, so maybe
next weekend.
And it's always been,thankfully, a very like mature,
(04:25):
like relationship, I guess.
And so, yeah, I always kind ofjust remind myself of that.
So, with this Easter, uh, heactually asked for her last
weekend, but I was off from workstill last weekend, and so I
told him like, hey, would youmind like picking her up next
weekend?
And I even asked her too,because he called, I was like,
(04:46):
do you want to go today?
And she's like, no, nextweekend, because we were making,
like the mini pancakes at homeand, by the way, I have the mini
pancake video on our YouTube,so if you guys want to check it
out, we made mini pancakes athome, but anywho.
So, yeah, she's, she's gone forthis weekend and I think what
I'm gonna do is just make her alittle Easter basket while she's
(05:06):
out and just kind of surpriseher with it when she gets home.
And as she's gotten older, ourEaster baskets have become
smaller too, so it'll just besomething cute, little items
that maybe she'll like and then,yeah, that'll be it.
But yeah, I hope you all had agreat Easter.
I'm officially back at work thisweek.
(05:27):
If you guys follow my socialmedia semester, I'm officially
back at work this week.
If you guys follow my socialmedia, you guys saw that I did
go into emergency surgery it'sbeen two and a half weeks now, I
think at the beginning of Apriland so what had happened was so
I haven't been to work in likethree weeks because I went on
vacation for Emma's spring break.
We went to Vegas for the week.
(05:48):
We did, we had a lot of fun, wedid a lot of different
activities.
We saw a few magic shows, wesaw just different things.
We went to the museum, wewalked around.
So it was a lot of fun.
And, yeah, after we came backfrom Vegas that same weekend and
(06:09):
thankfully this didn't happenin Vegas, so that's like a
positive to this but when we gotback from Vegas that weekend
and thankfully I had alreadylike unpacked and done laundry,
everything was already like backto normal, I guess, like I had
cleaned the house, you knowthings like.
But yeah, that weekend I startedgetting like really bad
(06:30):
gallbladder pain.
And if you guys, I haveexperienced gallbladder pain,
you know what I'm talking about.
It's like the most excruciating, like just horrible pain, like
it sucks so bad, like youliterally feel like you're going
to pass out, like it's just bad.
So, yeah, I started gettingpain and it lasted for three
(06:55):
days.
So that's when I became likeworried because I was like am I
just going to be in pain?
Because usually with thegallbladder pain, I had
experienced it before and it'slike it usually lasts like a day
for me and then I would justkind of let it go, like just
wait it out, type of thing.
But this time it lasted threewhole days and I couldn't eat
anything because it would justhurt.
(07:15):
So I was over there eatingyogurt, which I found out is
dairy, so it was actually makingit worse.
You know just kind of eatinglight fruits, protein shakes,
things like that, and I was likethis is horrible.
Because it was still hurting.
I ended up going to theemergency room.
They did a I think it was a CTscan, so that's like a whole
(07:38):
nother thing, cause, like, goinginto the CT scan machines is
horrible, it's so scary, I'mclaustrophobic, like just being
in there.
So I just like, yeah, it'shorrible in itself, but yeah, I
ended up having emergencygallbladder removal surgery so
they took the gallbladder out soI had to stay at the hospital
(07:59):
overnight and then, after thatsurgery, they're like oh, you
have gallstones that were stuck,you know, in the little bile
duct.
I know you guys are probablylike what the heck is that?
But the little tube, I don'tknow.
So I actually ended up having asecond procedure the next day,
and it was just so.
I actually ended up having asecond procedure the next day
and it was just, yeah, it washorrible.
(08:22):
I was at the hospital for fourdays and then I couldn't eat
anything.
I didn't eat any food at allfor four days.
I was literally just on liquids, on IV.
I couldn't shower.
So I had no shower for fourdays and obviously, like it was
very uncomfortable and painfulat the beginning.
(08:42):
Like right out of surgery, Ihave like stitches on my stomach
.
I couldn't move.
I had to sleep facing up, whichsucks Pretty much like.
I'm still not.
I'm still sleeping facing up.
I'm just waiting at least threeweeks post surgery, but it's a
lot of things, so that was notfun.
(09:05):
If you follow me on Instagram, Iprobably posted a lot about it,
because I was sitting in thathospital bed just bored a lot of
times by myself and you knowlike just yeah, but anywho, that
ended ended up happening, so Iwas out of work.
So I just came back to workyesterday and obviously, like
throughout the past few weeks, Iwasn't able to record.
(09:26):
But anywho, I'm excited to beback recording and hopefully
I'll be recording more episodesbecause I feel like I have a lot
of stuff to talk about.
But if you're listening up tothis point, thank you, thank you
, thank you so much.
Remember to subscribe and shareand, yeah, I hope you guys are
(09:47):
doing great.
Check out the old past episodes.
I had the past episode a reallygood speaker.
I hope you guys enjoyed theepisode and I will talk to you
guys soon.
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