March 24, 2025 • 30 mins
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When wedding dress shopping day arrived, Emily wasn't just nervous about finding the perfect gown - she was also navigating the complicated emotions that come with body dysmorphia and the pressure to have that magical "say yes to the dress" moment. What unfolded was more special than she could have imagined.
The universe works in mysterious ways. After booking their perfect venue (the very first one they visited!), securing their DJ, and making progress on their wedding planning checklist, Emily and her mother Trina set out for what would become an unforgettable dress shopping experience. Sometimes the perfect dress finds you - literally. In a serendipitous twist, a gown that wasn't even supposed to be in their private fitting room ended up being "the one."
We dive deep into the emotional journey of wedding planning milestones - from the practical aspects like save-the-dates and vendor selection to the profoundly moving moments like seeing yourself as a bride for the first time. The mother-daughter bond takes center stage as Trina creates a judgment-free space, reminding Emily they could visit as many shops as needed until the right dress appeared. That reassurance made all the difference.
The joy of sharing the moment with loved ones provides some of the episode's most heartwarming moments. From grandparents' teary reactions to a speechless three-year-old who was so impressed she ran to tell her father about "Princess Emily," these connections remind us what weddings are truly about: bringing together the people we love to celebrate a new chapter.
Whether you're planning your own wedding, supporting someone through theirs, or simply appreciate heartfelt stories about life's meaningful moments, this episode offers genuine connection and practical insights into navigating big emotions during significant life transitions. Join us for laughter, tears, and everything in between as we mind our hearts through life's beautiful journeys.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, welcome to Mind your Heart Podcast, your
favorite corner of the internetwhere we chat about all things
mental health.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm Emily and I'm Trina.
Together, we're like yourreal-life Lorelai and Rory
Gilmore.
Each week, we'll bring you realconversations about the world
of mental health and we willpeel back layers on topics like
anxiety, depression and muchmore.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
We're here to chat with you about the tough stuff,
the everyday stuff andeverything in between.
So grab your emotional supportwater bottle I know we have ours
.
Find your comfiest chair orkeep your eyes on the road and
let's get into it.
Are you ready, mom?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Absolutely.
Join us as we mind our heartsand hopefully make minding yours
a little easier.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
Hi, hi, welcome to Mind your Heart.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Welcome, welcome, welcome.
So what are we in the month ofApril?
Are we still in the month ofMarch?
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I don't know.
I feel like we might be in themonth of March.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
We might be.
I know we had a show.
By the time this comes out,we'll have had a show on March
10th.
I don't know if we have one forthe next week.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
But anyway it doesn't matter.
Yeah, I think we have one inthe last week.
I think this is the last weekof March.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
This episode right now, I think so Okay, all right.
Either that or it's thebeginning of April.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So it's my birthday week.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yeah, that's right.
Happy birthday, Emily.
Emily is the bride this year,25 year old.
Oh, actually that's next year.
You're the bride next year andbut you're the bride now.
Yeah, yeah, because I mean likeI'll officially be the bride on
january 24th, but um 2026, yeah,2026 in case you're listening
(01:58):
to this in 2030, oh yeah okay,so we are going to talk about
the dress experience because ifyou've been following along, you
know that emily and jake gotengaged and we got to hear her
story about the engagement.
We didn't get to hear jake's,and I'm still not happy about
(02:21):
that.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
So, um, well, you can take it up with him.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
All right, yeah, um.
And then we got to hear allabout like the wedding and
planning for the wedding and nowI have more on that.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Now I feel I wish we would have done it.
Let's go catch up, okay.
Well, like I kind of wish wewould have done it when I had,
because then I didn't, I didn'teven, we didn't even wear vision
, though you had a vision and Ithink um hearing the vision was.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I thought it was very special.
I'm sure our listeners I knowfor sure two of our listeners,
nanny and Steve, were happy tohear about it.
So I think you just give us alittle update.
So let's give us a littleupdate.
What's going on in the weddingplanning world?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Okay, so we booked a venue.
That was the big thing that weneeded to do.
We booked the first venue welooked at.
Basically, we went to the venueand when we were there we were
both kind of like we don'treally want to go to another
tour, mainly because it was likethe story of your wedding
(03:36):
planning process.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I was like I don't know.
Jake was like I don't reallywant to go to the next place
because we were going to have todrive an hour from the place we
were and we already drove anhour to like the actual venue
that we did end up picking.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I think we know, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Yeah, but I was like we cannot have only seen one and
then pick from that.
I was like I know that Lindsay,our wedding planner, would be
like no, you need to go to atleast two.
So I listened to my innerLindsay voice and I was like no,
jake, we need to go to theother place.
And we got there and when wegot out, like they were actually
(04:16):
having a wedding that day.
So we got out of the car andlike so, because they were
having a wedding.
They were all like doing stuffand whatever.
So it took them a minute forthem to like come and meet us
and like give us the car andlike so, because they were
having a wedding.
They were all like doing stuffand whatever.
So it took them a minute forthem to like come and meet us
and like give us the tour.
So we walked around for aminute and we were like it's
just not the last place.
So then we did the tour and wewere both kind of like which I
(04:40):
think the person could tellbecause she was very nice and we
weren't like rude, like wewillingly listened and asked
questions and stuff.
But when we sat down I thinkshe could tell like that.
This wasn't the one like for us.
She was a very sweet olderwoman who like owns the place,
Like they're from like somewherein Europe and whatnot.
(05:02):
Anyway, so we picked our venue,which means we had the date, and
then we have booked our DJ,which I'm super excited about
that because I just think that'sgoing to be so fun.
I really want people to havefun and I want to like dance and
like have fun and celebrate.
So I'm excited about that danceand like have fun and celebrate
(05:28):
.
So I'm excited about that.
Um, it like the package that wepicked like comes with like
dancing on a cloud and like aco2 gun and like gold sparklers
I don't know just like all abunch of crazy, like fun things.
I'm like this is so extra, butI think it'll be like just fun.
Um, and the guy I spoke withSebastian his name is the owner
of I Rock your Party and he wasjust so cool to talk to and he
(05:52):
really cares about each person.
So we booked our DJ and then weare on our way to booking our
photo and video people.
So those are the things that Iwas like we need.
Lindsey wanted us to do soonerrather than later.
So I did that, and then today Igot a makeup trial done, um,
(06:16):
and that was easy peasy, so yeahthat's those are the up.
those are the main updates.
I'm like I don't think there'sanything, anything other than
that we're going to go visit thevenue again with our planner
this time and she's going towalk us through some more
details and stuff.
(06:37):
But that's all we've got now.
But that's much more than whatwe had when I first talked about
this.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Yeah, that's very exciting.
So the more details you exploreit feels like real and exciting
.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Yeah, like we have, our guest list is like done
pretty much Good.
We have like everybody'saddresses already and all that
good stuff.
So that's set.
Just got to send out, save thedates, and although I'm not
looking forward to doing thatbecause then I have to address a
bunch of envelopes, so can'tyou, can't you do it?
(07:18):
I can order them, but then Ihave to pay for them.
Yeah, but then I have to payfor them.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, um, so I think I'm gonna print them here, but I
don't know how easy that'sgonna be well, I think, um, it
used to be where you had thoselabels, those Avery labels that
went on the front.
I mean you could do like asticker yeah, it can be clear
too, if you didn't like the size, and then you type all that
stuff in and then you just putit through the printer and it
prints.
You know, batch prints allthose things.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I mean.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
I haven't done that in a very long time, so I'm sure
that still exists, but theremight be something easier and
better.
I'm like I want to say, butalso some people want those nice
fancy like handwriting on theenvelopes and that's that's, you
know your hand.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
So uh, no, I'm not doing my handwriting.
I have horrible handwriting andwriting is not our brand.
It is like all little smallcapital letters.
He has nice handwriting.
It's just why is he writing allcapitals he'd take?
I don't know.
He takes a long time to writetoo, so that that is a pet peeve
(08:33):
of mine.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I did not know that about him, yeah it seems like
someone's yelling at you.
When they do that, it's just itdoesn't look like that.
Because it's so small.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Yeah, here I'll show you.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Yeah, when people do that.
There's a guy in myneighborhood that does that and
it's yeah, that's not bad.
But the guy in my neighborhooddoes it, he's already like not a
very nice person.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
He doesn't type in all capitals.
Let me clarify.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Types in all capitals and it sounds like he's
screaming at you and I'm like,can you just calm down please?
Speaker 1 (09:07):
That's a little bit different to me, because Jake
does not text or like send anemail or post something in all
caps.
He just writes, physically,writes in all caps because yeah,
if you're texting or postingsomething in all caps, you're
yelling yeah, that's what Ithink.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Well, why wouldn't it be the same if you're writing?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I don't know.
It just doesn't look like that.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I just showed you all right, you know what.
We don't have to worry aboutthat.
Let's move on um.
So let's talk about thebeautiful, wonderful experience
of getting your wedding dressyeah, it was so good.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
It was I, I could.
It couldn't have gotten anybetter.
I feel like it was exactlyeverything that I could have
wanted it to be.
The place that we went was socute it was like just the cutest
place Like you walked in andthey had like my name on a board
and it was like welcome brideto be Emily.
(10:10):
And then we basically had thiswe had the story ourselves, like
it was there was no one elsethere, yep.
Yeah, it was us.
And then the salespeople andthey were so sweet, like
literally so accommodating, sonice, literally could not say,
it was like a British, a Britishcouple who owned the shop and
(10:32):
they were so sweet.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
And then there was two people One person was
training at, which wasdelightful, because then we had
two people, one person wastraining, and which was
delightful because then we hadtwo people and we were.
They took us into this room andit had this very like nice
couch and it had a bunch ofseating.
So if you were there with likea whole.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Yeah, because you had , they had a five people like
maximum, five guests, maximum.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
So so, which would have been insane yeah so, um, we
, you decided to, the two of uswere going and I thought that
was a good idea because I had areally special moment with my
mom when I went wedding dressshopping.
I mean, we had some that meanlady took my dress and whatever,
but um, but it was just nannyand I and it was a special time.
(11:18):
And then so I got to do thatwith you and that was also a
special time.
And you, you stood on thislittle pedestal and they tried
on these different dresses andthey closed the curtains and you
would get dressed and then theyopen the curtains and yeah, it
was real, it was.
Yeah, it was very exciting.
You don't have to talk aboutthe dresses I know you won't,
(11:40):
because we don't want Jake tohear any information but like,
how did it feel?
Like the first dress you triedon was the one that I was like
try that one on first, right?
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was the one that you ended
up liking.
It did stay in the running likeit was the top three it was
pretty.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
It looked very pretty on you yeah, there were.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
I don't, there was only like one or two that I was
like no, this is definitely notit and you tried on like eight
yeah, it was yeah like seven oreight or something like the
dress.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
You picked the one that was accidentally left in
the room.
Yes, okay, that's crazy.
So there was a dress in theroom when we got there and
they're like, oh, um, didsomeone keep it?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
yeah, they were like, we'll just keep it here because
, like um, we think that itwould like match, like your,
your pinterest board even thoughit's a little different from
yeah, that you have on there,and I was like, okay, like it's
pretty so, like, yeah, you cankeep it.
But in my head I was likethat's probably not good, yeah,
me too.
Yeah, I was thinking the samething but I also didn't see the
(12:44):
back of it, so yeah, the back ofit is yes.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Is that's when I was like, oh, this is so you yeah,
so I I was.
That was what sold me on mydress too.
So that's funny, Yep.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I was nervous going into it and it was funny because
we walked in and one of thewomen was like we're not going
to hurt you, like you can beexcited.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Now you seem scared.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Did we both seem scared, or just you?
No, I mean, you were probablyalready starting to cry.
So, um, and I, I just probablylooked anxious because I just
you don't, you don't know, likethe thing about all of this
stuff with wedding stuff is thatlike it's always someone's well
, not always, but most of thetime it's someone's first time
(13:34):
doing this stuff.
Like it's not often wherepeople are like oh yeah, this is
like my fourth or fifth time,like you know what I mean.
Like you don't go in to dothose things when it's that.
So it's like it's you don'tknow what you might.
You might, for sure you might,but it's not as common Normally.
(14:01):
When you're going in to do thosethings, it's like oh, this is
the first time that you've donethis, and so it's like the
unknown.
And also like with my like paststruggles with, like, my body
dysmorphia, I was a little bitnervous of like feeling, like
I'm like I don't want to be in aplace where I'm like oh, oh, I
don't like the way like my bodylooks like.
I didn't want to focus on that,so I was like kind of trying to
(14:24):
work a little overtime to likeshift my mindset, to be whatever
, and I like I did my hair and Idid my makeup, so that way I
could like help with that alittle bit and like have the so
pretty.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
So, um, thank you.
So you looked beautiful and youwere glowing, and also we
talked a little bit about thatbefore we went, because you told
me you were very upfront and Ithink I did I disappoint you in
my response no, I thought youwere perfect, there was nothing.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
When I say there was nothing, I would change, there
was nothing, I would changeabout anything Like there, I
think everything went perfectly.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I like yeah, I do too , and one of the things I
remember thinking was I wantedyou to feel like comfortable, as
if you were trying it on firstof all with no one there, like
you would feel a lot less likeyou were focused on that.
You know what I mean.
If you so it was.
I'm like I want to reassure ofthat.
(15:25):
That, um, there's always nojudgment in my eyes yeah and
also I wanted you to know thatwe could take the pressure off
that we didn't find the dressthat day.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
All right, we'd go again and again that was so
helpful.
Honestly, like that, ourconversation on the way to like
the shop, like was like that wasall I needed to hear.
Because it was like okay,because it was like almost like
I was putting I didn't feel thatpressure from you at any point,
but I was putting it on myselfand then, like hearing you be
(16:00):
like whatever happens today,like is we're just we're just
going to have fun, yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
We're just figuring it out and then it is a little
bit yeah, it's just going to be,yeah, just a big try on clothes
and have fun with it.
Yeah, and you being like I'll gowith you however many times we
have to go, was like, okay, likeI don't have to like try to
rush, because you'll still gowith me, even if I need to go
five or six times, which, thankgoodness, I didn't need to go
(16:25):
and also that, um, you likethat's understandable that you
would be concerned about that,even if you because I am like,
okay, okay, let's go, let's Ican be impatient I didn't feel
the least bit impatient.
I was like my, I was fullypresent, I didn't want anything
to distract me and I was likeall right, I'm here for the
(16:45):
duration.
And then we had a anotherappointment.
We had an appointment at 11 andthen we had an appointment at
one.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
So anyway, so you try on the different dresses, you
narrow it down to three and then, and then she got when we
narrowed it down.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I didn't need to narrow it down after I tried on
yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
When you came out in the first gown that doesn't end
up being the gown, I was like,oh, wait a minute, what's
happening?
Like I thought she was, Ithought you were going to just
walk down this, because they hadher walk down like this, almost
like an aisle in the shop to amirror, and so I was taken out
to a different room and had tosit on a couch, another couch,
and wait for you to come, and soI was like starting to feel
(17:28):
emotional and then I was like Igot confused.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I was like wait yeah, because they wanted me to try
them on in reverse order, likeof like the ones that we had.
So they were like pick the onethat you is like, maybe on your
least, and then we'll walk it inthat.
And then the second that's verysmart to do that so that way,
like you, could really feel yeah, yes, this is it yeah um, but
(17:52):
at that point I kind of was likeI don't even need to walk in
these other two, like I didn'twant to take the other one off,
so and it's so, it is socomfortable, that's.
The other thing is that likethere are parts of this dress
that like would surprise me ofbeing comfortable, but it was
very comfortable and I felt likesecure and like just like good,
(18:18):
like I felt like situated andlike just like good, like I felt
like situated and all all that.
So yeah, then, and and the other, the other two that we had
narrowed it down to like werepretty, like they were beautiful
dresses.
Excuse me, but like it justdidn't give me that feeling like
and I I you hear that like you,you just get this like it's the
one and part of you is likewhat does that mean?
(18:44):
Like okay, but you know what.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
I think it's important not to rob yourself of
completely knowing that and sohaving done it the way you did,
it actually allows it to bereally obvious that this is the
one because Because when youwere saying that, I'm like, I
always think that that was aregret, like the dress I really
wanted someone else took andthey didn't bring it back to me
and whatever.
(19:06):
But if I had had an experiencelike you did and I had to try
them both on at the one togetherand then maybe even a third one
, maybe I wouldn't have ended uppicking that one all along,
maybe I would have picked theone together and then maybe even
a third one, maybe I wouldn'thave ended up picking that one
all along, maybe I would havepicked the one that I picked,
but I didn't get to have thatexperience.
So I will never know, yeah, andso I think I think it was just,
(19:31):
I think that's perfect that theydid it like that.
Yeah, I agree, and you lookedbeautiful every single time you
came down.
But, man, when it was the lastone, it was like you got
emotional, yeah, and then theywere like is this the one?
I think this is the one, yeah,and then she, but it wasn't like
(19:51):
for sure yet, and then you'relike, and they're like, and then
that you go, but we haveanother appointment yeah, and I
was like who cares about that?
we'll just cancel it, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
And then the woman in the shop, she was like people
do it all the time.
She was like that like weexpect that from people like
they're you're making otherappointments, like we know that
there are people that cancel,yeah, um, and I was like when
she said that, I was like okay,yeah, this is the one like this
is it.
And then you're like are yousaying yes to the?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
dress, yeah.
And then everyone startedcrying and then it was yeah,
even the shop people it was.
It was very special.
And then they gave us likechampagne glasses with I think
it was grape juice sparklinggrape juice yeah.
Which was delicious.
I wanted to just gulp it down.
It was so good.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
And then we did a little video and it was very
special, yeah, and then wecalled some people and showed
them.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Oh, that was so fun yeah that was so good.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
We called Nanny and Steve, and that was just the
best like the best reaction.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
Yeah, their faces, and they got it at the exact
same time.
That's what it was like.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yeah, because I I didn't know that.
They didn't know that you werecalling them for that.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Like I thought you had texted them, they didn't
they didn't know, because stevewas like, oh, we're here and
then, and then he's like sittingon one side of the.
I'm like where's nanny?
Speaker 1 (21:22):
and yeah I know I'm like go get nanny like you.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
We cannot show this to just one person at a time, no
and yeah, so he got gets up andhe goes over there, and then
they're just.
They're like oh like theyrealize, and their faces were
nanny instantly started crying.
She's like oh, that was so fun.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I wish we had a video of that, because that was the
best reaction yeah, yeah it was,it was so good, yeah.
And then I called, like, mybridal party, I called all of
them and, um, everybody'sresponse was so good, like it
was cool, was cool to just likecall them in that moment and be
like they were all excited withme.
(22:03):
And then my matron of honor,her daughter is three years old
and she was there with her andshe, like, she goes like, look
like Miss Emily is like in herwedding dress and Daisy, like,
is her like Miss Emily is likein her wedding dress and Daisy,
like, is her name.
Daisy covers her mouth and like, is like flabbergasted,
(22:26):
basically Like speechless as athree-year-old.
And I was like, oh my God, liketo get a three-year-old to be
speechless.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
I was like a princess .
Yeah, I was like oh, this iscrazy.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
And then she like runs away after that and Grace
was like, oh well, there shegoes.
But later on Grace texts me andshe's like apparently Daisy was
like going to get her dad, sam,to tell him like come, look at
this dress.
So which I was like it was thecutest like response from her
(22:57):
ever.
So it was like like everybody,it was good to see everybody in
all of the different ways.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
so yeah, it was very special.
I'm gonna hold on to thatmemory, yeah, yeah, it was so
good.
We took lots of pictures and wecan't show any of them to jake
and we have to wait no, he won'teven let me show him the ones I
didn't get.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
He like wants to be fully like surprised.
But I the other day I wastexting, I was texting somebody
in bed and, um, it had like thebottom of my dress, like at the
top of the text thread, um, andhe like looked over and saw that
and he was like oh no.
(23:41):
And I'm like I'm like, well, youknew it was gonna be white,
like that's not really that muchof a surprise, so, um, but he's
like even when I came hometoday from my makeup trial, he
was like covering his eyes andI'm like I'm gonna keep it on
most of the day to see how itlasts, like yeah you open your
(24:02):
eyes yeah, yeah and then he waslike no, no, I have to be
surprised and I was like it'sstill like, I still look like me
, like it's not like that muchof a shock, like it's just me
wearing makeup, like you canopen up yeah um, and then he
finally did, because he was likeI can't close my eyes all day.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
No, no, that's silly, no, that was fun.
It was fun.
Yeah, um, nanny was like thenwe can go get our dresses and we
can coordinate.
And I'm like coordinate, I'mlike we're not.
Yeah, she goes what color doesemily want us to wear?
I go mom, we're not in thewedding, we're not coordinating
I'm like well, you're in thewedding.
You're walking me down the aisle, oh yeah oh yeah, so what do I
(24:43):
need to wear a certain um, yeah,yeah, I guess you wear like the
pink, that blush, pink color,oh okay, but it doesn't.
It can be whatever style,because I found one, but it's
gray, so it's very pretty.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Did you already buy it?
Speaker 2 (25:04):
No, it's more than I can pay at the moment, but I saw
it and I was like, oh, I wantthis.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
All right, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
That's fine, sure Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Yeah, I don't really care that much.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
So like, if you feel good and excited about it, then
that's fine.
As long as it's not white, Idon't care.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Yeah, it's not white, and if I can find a like that
and the right color, then I willbe happy to.
So you just tell them a colorand they look for a dress.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yeah, I'm gonna give some swatches.
I think I'm gonna go to likeLowe's or Home Depot and get
some of like those swatches andjust get them and like hand give
them to people, so that way, um, they can like pick from a few
different color, like shades ofit, and then like, if people
like find a dress that has likea pattern with that color or
(26:01):
like whatever, like I just wantpeople to feel like confident,
that's the thing.
So I'm like pick whatever styledress you want.
Um it just I will.
I do want it to be floor lengthor like at least like shin,
like a cocktail dress yeah,that's the one that I saw is, um
(26:23):
, yeah, like a cocktail dressyeah, just not like tight and
short yeah, yeah, short likeyeah, yeah, yeah, yeah like
semi-formal is the attire.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Well, anyway, so okay .
So I forgot that I was in thewedding.
I know I don't have to wear asuit, right, I don't have to
wear a tux.
Okay, good, why would you haveto wear a tux?
No, I don't know.
So, yeah, well, nanny and I canstill shop and figure it out.
That would be fun.
(26:59):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, but so, yeah,so anyway, we, yeah, it's
because I'm like, oh my goodness, I didn't even think about like
what am I going to wear to thewedding?
And then Jackson, and like yeah, Well he's going to have to get
it.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
Yeah, yeah, he will have to because he is in also in
the wedding.
I don't he doesn't know thatyet, though, unless you've told
him.
I don't know if I've told himokay because, jake has not asked
any of his people yet he likewhy?
because he wants to get themlike all a gift and like ask
(27:39):
them in a specific way.
But, like he like just has yetto do that.
But our planner said it wasfine.
But I'm like you need to get onit because they need to be
aware that they're gonna be init because, like the for the,
it's a little harder for thegroomsmen because they do have
to wear like a more of aspecific.
Yeah, like they're gonna wearthe same thing, yeah, yeah.
(28:01):
So, um, yeah, I'm like you needto get on the stick and ask
them.
Like his best man doesn't evenknow yeah, he probably needs to
tell him.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
So that's exciting though.
So, um, yeah, that's a specialthank you for sharing.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Yeah, of course.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
And thank you for, yeah, including me.
That was very special.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Yeah, I was so happy that it was just the two of us,
it was so good.
I had gone with my maid ofhonor to try on dresses with her
and she had, like how many didshe have?
Two, like five people and I waslike I don't know how you did
it, like I was like you're,you've got more confidence in
(28:45):
this because I'm like I wouldn't, I couldn't have stood in front
of that many people and made myown choice.
So, um, but all the opinionsyeah, although all the people
that she had there were great,like not nobody was like very
opinionated.
So she had a good group ofpeople, that's good.
(29:05):
Um, but I was like no, I don'tthink I can do that, it's too
much pressure yeah, I don't knowif I ever went with anyone to
get their wedding dress.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
I might have tried it on dresses with Amanda, but I
don't remember.
I don't remember anyone elseLike I feel like that, and I was
the maid of honor and one ofthose weddings.
I don't remember going with herto get the dress, but I must
have because her mom wasn't here, so yeah, but I don't remember.
(29:36):
She could have gone with hersister too.
I don't remember she could havegone with her sister too, I
don't know.
Anyway, well, that wraps upthis episode.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Yep, that's, that's all I got from that.
That's right.
Yeah, and that's all you canknow until I get married.
So you're going to have to waituntil January 2026 to see
pictures.
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Speaker 1 (00:46):
Hi, hi, welcome to Mind your Heart.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Welcome, welcome, welcome.
So what are we in the month ofApril?
Are we still in the month ofMarch?
Speaker 1 (01:04):
I don't know.
I feel like we might be in themonth of March.
Speaker 2 (01:08):
We might be.
I know we had a show.
By the time this comes out,we'll have had a show on March
10th.
I don't know if we have one forthe next week.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
But anyway it doesn't matter.
Yeah, I think we have one inthe last week.
I think this is the last weekof March.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
This episode right now, I think so Okay, all right.
Either that or it's thebeginning of April.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
So it's my birthday week.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
Yeah, that's right.
Happy birthday, Emily.
Emily is the bride this year,25 year old.
Oh, actually that's next year.
You're the bride next year andbut you're the bride now.
Yeah, yeah, because I mean likeI'll officially be the bride on
january 24th, but um 2026, yeah,2026 in case you're listening
(01:58):
to this in 2030, oh yeah okay,so we are going to talk about
the dress experience because ifyou've been following along, you
know that emily and jake gotengaged and we got to hear her
story about the engagement.
We didn't get to hear jake's,and I'm still not happy about
(02:21):
that.
Speaker 1 (02:21):
So, um, well, you can take it up with him.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
All right, yeah, um.
And then we got to hear allabout like the wedding and
planning for the wedding and nowI have more on that.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Now I feel I wish we would have done it.
Let's go catch up, okay.
Well, like I kind of wish wewould have done it when I had,
because then I didn't, I didn'teven, we didn't even wear vision
, though you had a vision and Ithink um hearing the vision was.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I thought it was very special.
I'm sure our listeners I knowfor sure two of our listeners,
nanny and Steve, were happy tohear about it.
So I think you just give us alittle update.
So let's give us a littleupdate.
What's going on in the weddingplanning world?
Speaker 1 (03:12):
Okay, so we booked a venue.
That was the big thing that weneeded to do.
We booked the first venue welooked at.
Basically, we went to the venueand when we were there we were
both kind of like we don'treally want to go to another
tour, mainly because it was likethe story of your wedding
(03:36):
planning process.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I was like I don't know.
Jake was like I don't reallywant to go to the next place
because we were going to have todrive an hour from the place we
were and we already drove anhour to like the actual venue
that we did end up picking.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I think we know, you know.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Yeah, but I was like we cannot have only seen one and
then pick from that.
I was like I know that Lindsay,our wedding planner, would be
like no, you need to go to atleast two.
So I listened to my innerLindsay voice and I was like no,
jake, we need to go to theother place.
And we got there and when wegot out, like they were actually
(04:16):
having a wedding that day.
So we got out of the car andlike so, because they were
having a wedding.
They were all like doing stuffand whatever.
So it took them a minute forthem to like come and meet us
and like give us the car andlike so, because they were
having a wedding.
They were all like doing stuffand whatever.
So it took them a minute forthem to like come and meet us
and like give us the tour.
So we walked around for aminute and we were like it's
just not the last place.
So then we did the tour and wewere both kind of like which I
(04:40):
think the person could tellbecause she was very nice and we
weren't like rude, like wewillingly listened and asked
questions and stuff.
But when we sat down I thinkshe could tell like that.
This wasn't the one like for us.
She was a very sweet olderwoman who like owns the place,
Like they're from like somewherein Europe and whatnot.
(05:02):
Anyway, so we picked our venue,which means we had the date, and
then we have booked our DJ,which I'm super excited about
that because I just think that'sgoing to be so fun.
I really want people to havefun and I want to like dance and
like have fun and celebrate.
So I'm excited about that danceand like have fun and celebrate
(05:28):
.
So I'm excited about that.
Um, it like the package that wepicked like comes with like
dancing on a cloud and like aco2 gun and like gold sparklers
I don't know just like all abunch of crazy, like fun things.
I'm like this is so extra, butI think it'll be like just fun.
Um, and the guy I spoke withSebastian his name is the owner
of I Rock your Party and he wasjust so cool to talk to and he
(05:52):
really cares about each person.
So we booked our DJ and then weare on our way to booking our
photo and video people.
So those are the things that Iwas like we need.
Lindsey wanted us to do soonerrather than later.
So I did that, and then today Igot a makeup trial done, um,
(06:16):
and that was easy peasy, so yeahthat's those are the up.
those are the main updates.
I'm like I don't think there'sanything, anything other than
that we're going to go visit thevenue again with our planner
this time and she's going towalk us through some more
details and stuff.
(06:37):
But that's all we've got now.
But that's much more than whatwe had when I first talked about
this.
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Yeah, that's very exciting.
So the more details you exploreit feels like real and exciting
.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Yeah, like we have, our guest list is like done
pretty much Good.
We have like everybody'saddresses already and all that
good stuff.
So that's set.
Just got to send out, save thedates, and although I'm not
looking forward to doing thatbecause then I have to address a
bunch of envelopes, so can'tyou, can't you do it?
(07:18):
I can order them, but then Ihave to pay for them.
Yeah, but then I have to payfor them.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, um, so I think I'm gonna print them here, but I
don't know how easy that'sgonna be well, I think, um, it
used to be where you had thoselabels, those Avery labels that
went on the front.
I mean you could do like asticker yeah, it can be clear
too, if you didn't like the size, and then you type all that
stuff in and then you just putit through the printer and it
prints.
You know, batch prints allthose things.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I mean.
Speaker 2 (07:52):
I haven't done that in a very long time, so I'm sure
that still exists, but theremight be something easier and
better.
I'm like I want to say, butalso some people want those nice
fancy like handwriting on theenvelopes and that's that's, you
know your hand.
Speaker 1 (08:11):
So uh, no, I'm not doing my handwriting.
I have horrible handwriting andwriting is not our brand.
It is like all little smallcapital letters.
He has nice handwriting.
It's just why is he writing allcapitals he'd take?
I don't know.
He takes a long time to writetoo, so that that is a pet peeve
(08:33):
of mine.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
I did not know that about him, yeah it seems like
someone's yelling at you.
When they do that, it's just itdoesn't look like that.
Because it's so small.
Speaker 1 (08:43):
Yeah, here I'll show you.
Speaker 2 (08:47):
Yeah, when people do that.
There's a guy in myneighborhood that does that and
it's yeah, that's not bad.
But the guy in my neighborhooddoes it, he's already like not a
very nice person.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
He doesn't type in all capitals.
Let me clarify.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Types in all capitals and it sounds like he's
screaming at you and I'm like,can you just calm down please?
Speaker 1 (09:07):
That's a little bit different to me, because Jake
does not text or like send anemail or post something in all
caps.
He just writes, physically,writes in all caps because yeah,
if you're texting or postingsomething in all caps, you're
yelling yeah, that's what Ithink.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Well, why wouldn't it be the same if you're writing?
Speaker 1 (09:29):
I don't know.
It just doesn't look like that.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I just showed you all right, you know what.
We don't have to worry aboutthat.
Let's move on um.
So let's talk about thebeautiful, wonderful experience
of getting your wedding dressyeah, it was so good.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
It was I, I could.
It couldn't have gotten anybetter.
I feel like it was exactlyeverything that I could have
wanted it to be.
The place that we went was socute it was like just the cutest
place Like you walked in andthey had like my name on a board
and it was like welcome brideto be Emily.
(10:10):
And then we basically had thiswe had the story ourselves, like
it was there was no one elsethere, yep.
Yeah, it was us.
And then the salespeople andthey were so sweet, like
literally so accommodating, sonice, literally could not say,
it was like a British, a Britishcouple who owned the shop and
(10:32):
they were so sweet.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
And then there was two people One person was
training at, which wasdelightful, because then we had
two people, one person wastraining, and which was
delightful because then we hadtwo people and we were.
They took us into this room andit had this very like nice
couch and it had a bunch ofseating.
So if you were there with likea whole.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Yeah, because you had , they had a five people like
maximum, five guests, maximum.
Speaker 2 (10:55):
So so, which would have been insane yeah so, um, we
, you decided to, the two of uswere going and I thought that
was a good idea because I had areally special moment with my
mom when I went wedding dressshopping.
I mean, we had some that meanlady took my dress and whatever,
but um, but it was just nannyand I and it was a special time.
(11:18):
And then so I got to do thatwith you and that was also a
special time.
And you, you stood on thislittle pedestal and they tried
on these different dresses andthey closed the curtains and you
would get dressed and then theyopen the curtains and yeah, it
was real, it was.
Yeah, it was very exciting.
You don't have to talk aboutthe dresses I know you won't,
(11:40):
because we don't want Jake tohear any information but like,
how did it feel?
Like the first dress you triedon was the one that I was like
try that one on first, right?
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, that was the one that you ended
up liking.
It did stay in the running likeit was the top three it was
pretty.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
It looked very pretty on you yeah, there were.
Speaker 1 (11:59):
I don't, there was only like one or two that I was
like no, this is definitely notit and you tried on like eight
yeah, it was yeah like seven oreight or something like the
dress.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
You picked the one that was accidentally left in
the room.
Yes, okay, that's crazy.
So there was a dress in theroom when we got there and
they're like, oh, um, didsomeone keep it?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
yeah, they were like, we'll just keep it here because
, like um, we think that itwould like match, like your,
your pinterest board even thoughit's a little different from
yeah, that you have on there,and I was like, okay, like it's
pretty so, like, yeah, you cankeep it.
But in my head I was likethat's probably not good, yeah,
me too.
Yeah, I was thinking the samething but I also didn't see the
(12:44):
back of it, so yeah, the back ofit is yes.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Is that's when I was like, oh, this is so you yeah,
so I I was.
That was what sold me on mydress too.
So that's funny, Yep.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
I was nervous going into it and it was funny because
we walked in and one of thewomen was like we're not going
to hurt you, like you can beexcited.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
Now you seem scared.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
Did we both seem scared, or just you?
No, I mean, you were probablyalready starting to cry.
So, um, and I, I just probablylooked anxious because I just
you don't, you don't know, likethe thing about all of this
stuff with wedding stuff is thatlike it's always someone's well
, not always, but most of thetime it's someone's first time
(13:34):
doing this stuff.
Like it's not often wherepeople are like oh yeah, this is
like my fourth or fifth time,like you know what I mean.
Like you don't go in to dothose things when it's that.
So it's like it's you don'tknow what you might.
You might, for sure you might,but it's not as common Normally.
(14:01):
When you're going in to do thosethings, it's like oh, this is
the first time that you've donethis, and so it's like the
unknown.
And also like with my like paststruggles with, like, my body
dysmorphia, I was a little bitnervous of like feeling, like
I'm like I don't want to be in aplace where I'm like oh, oh, I
don't like the way like my bodylooks like.
I didn't want to focus on that,so I was like kind of trying to
(14:24):
work a little overtime to likeshift my mindset, to be whatever
, and I like I did my hair and Idid my makeup, so that way I
could like help with that alittle bit and like have the so
pretty.
Speaker 2 (14:39):
So, um, thank you.
So you looked beautiful and youwere glowing, and also we
talked a little bit about thatbefore we went, because you told
me you were very upfront and Ithink I did I disappoint you in
my response no, I thought youwere perfect, there was nothing.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
When I say there was nothing, I would change, there
was nothing, I would changeabout anything Like there, I
think everything went perfectly.
Speaker 2 (15:04):
I like yeah, I do too , and one of the things I
remember thinking was I wantedyou to feel like comfortable, as
if you were trying it on firstof all with no one there, like
you would feel a lot less likeyou were focused on that.
You know what I mean.
If you so it was.
I'm like I want to reassure ofthat.
(15:25):
That, um, there's always nojudgment in my eyes yeah and
also I wanted you to know thatwe could take the pressure off
that we didn't find the dressthat day.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
All right, we'd go again and again that was so
helpful.
Honestly, like that, ourconversation on the way to like
the shop, like was like that wasall I needed to hear.
Because it was like okay,because it was like almost like
I was putting I didn't feel thatpressure from you at any point,
but I was putting it on myselfand then, like hearing you be
(16:00):
like whatever happens today,like is we're just we're just
going to have fun, yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:04):
We're just figuring it out and then it is a little
bit yeah, it's just going to be,yeah, just a big try on clothes
and have fun with it.
Yeah, and you being like I'll gowith you however many times we
have to go, was like, okay, likeI don't have to like try to
rush, because you'll still gowith me, even if I need to go
five or six times, which, thankgoodness, I didn't need to go
(16:25):
and also that, um, you likethat's understandable that you
would be concerned about that,even if you because I am like,
okay, okay, let's go, let's Ican be impatient I didn't feel
the least bit impatient.
I was like my, I was fullypresent, I didn't want anything
to distract me and I was likeall right, I'm here for the
(16:45):
duration.
And then we had a anotherappointment.
We had an appointment at 11 andthen we had an appointment at
one.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (16:53):
So anyway, so you try on the different dresses, you
narrow it down to three and then, and then she got when we
narrowed it down.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
I didn't need to narrow it down after I tried on
yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
When you came out in the first gown that doesn't end
up being the gown, I was like,oh, wait a minute, what's
happening?
Like I thought she was, Ithought you were going to just
walk down this, because they hadher walk down like this, almost
like an aisle in the shop to amirror, and so I was taken out
to a different room and had tosit on a couch, another couch,
and wait for you to come, and soI was like starting to feel
(17:28):
emotional and then I was like Igot confused.
Speaker 1 (17:30):
I was like wait yeah, because they wanted me to try
them on in reverse order, likeof like the ones that we had.
So they were like pick the onethat you is like, maybe on your
least, and then we'll walk it inthat.
And then the second that's verysmart to do that so that way,
like you, could really feel yeah, yes, this is it yeah um, but
(17:52):
at that point I kind of was likeI don't even need to walk in
these other two, like I didn'twant to take the other one off,
so and it's so, it is socomfortable, that's.
The other thing is that likethere are parts of this dress
that like would surprise me ofbeing comfortable, but it was
very comfortable and I felt likesecure and like just like good,
(18:18):
like I felt like situated andlike just like good, like I felt
like situated and all all that.
So yeah, then, and and the other, the other two that we had
narrowed it down to like werepretty, like they were beautiful
dresses.
Excuse me, but like it justdidn't give me that feeling like
and I I you hear that like you,you just get this like it's the
one and part of you is likewhat does that mean?
(18:44):
Like okay, but you know what.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
I think it's important not to rob yourself of
completely knowing that and sohaving done it the way you did,
it actually allows it to bereally obvious that this is the
one because Because when youwere saying that, I'm like, I
always think that that was aregret, like the dress I really
wanted someone else took andthey didn't bring it back to me
and whatever.
(19:06):
But if I had had an experiencelike you did and I had to try
them both on at the one togetherand then maybe even a third one
, maybe I wouldn't have ended uppicking that one all along,
maybe I would have picked theone together and then maybe even
a third one, maybe I wouldn'thave ended up picking that one
all along, maybe I would havepicked the one that I picked,
but I didn't get to have thatexperience.
So I will never know, yeah, andso I think I think it was just,
(19:31):
I think that's perfect that theydid it like that.
Yeah, I agree, and you lookedbeautiful every single time you
came down.
But, man, when it was the lastone, it was like you got
emotional, yeah, and then theywere like is this the one?
I think this is the one, yeah,and then she, but it wasn't like
(19:51):
for sure yet, and then you'relike, and they're like, and then
that you go, but we haveanother appointment yeah, and I
was like who cares about that?
we'll just cancel it, yeah.
Speaker 1 (20:01):
And then the woman in the shop, she was like people
do it all the time.
She was like that like weexpect that from people like
they're you're making otherappointments, like we know that
there are people that cancel,yeah, um, and I was like when
she said that, I was like okay,yeah, this is the one like this
is it.
And then you're like are yousaying yes to the?
Speaker 2 (20:22):
dress, yeah.
And then everyone startedcrying and then it was yeah,
even the shop people it was.
It was very special.
And then they gave us likechampagne glasses with I think
it was grape juice sparklinggrape juice yeah.
Which was delicious.
I wanted to just gulp it down.
It was so good.
Speaker 1 (20:41):
And then we did a little video and it was very
special, yeah, and then wecalled some people and showed
them.
Speaker 2 (20:53):
Oh, that was so fun yeah that was so good.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
We called Nanny and Steve, and that was just the
best like the best reaction.
Speaker 2 (21:01):
Yeah, their faces, and they got it at the exact
same time.
That's what it was like.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yeah, because I I didn't know that.
They didn't know that you werecalling them for that.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Like I thought you had texted them, they didn't
they didn't know, because stevewas like, oh, we're here and
then, and then he's like sittingon one side of the.
I'm like where's nanny?
Speaker 1 (21:22):
and yeah I know I'm like go get nanny like you.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
We cannot show this to just one person at a time, no
and yeah, so he got gets up andhe goes over there, and then
they're just.
They're like oh like theyrealize, and their faces were
nanny instantly started crying.
She's like oh, that was so fun.
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I wish we had a video of that, because that was the
best reaction yeah, yeah it was,it was so good, yeah.
And then I called, like, mybridal party, I called all of
them and, um, everybody'sresponse was so good, like it
was cool, was cool to just likecall them in that moment and be
like they were all excited withme.
(22:03):
And then my matron of honor,her daughter is three years old
and she was there with her andshe, like, she goes like, look
like Miss Emily is like in herwedding dress and Daisy, like,
is her like Miss Emily is likein her wedding dress and Daisy,
like, is her name.
Daisy covers her mouth and like, is like flabbergasted,
(22:26):
basically Like speechless as athree-year-old.
And I was like, oh my God, liketo get a three-year-old to be
speechless.
Speaker 2 (22:33):
I was like a princess .
Yeah, I was like oh, this iscrazy.
Speaker 1 (22:36):
And then she like runs away after that and Grace
was like, oh well, there shegoes.
But later on Grace texts me andshe's like apparently Daisy was
like going to get her dad, sam,to tell him like come, look at
this dress.
So which I was like it was thecutest like response from her
(22:57):
ever.
So it was like like everybody,it was good to see everybody in
all of the different ways.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
so yeah, it was very special.
I'm gonna hold on to thatmemory, yeah, yeah, it was so
good.
We took lots of pictures and wecan't show any of them to jake
and we have to wait no, he won'teven let me show him the ones I
didn't get.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
He like wants to be fully like surprised.
But I the other day I wastexting, I was texting somebody
in bed and, um, it had like thebottom of my dress, like at the
top of the text thread, um, andhe like looked over and saw that
and he was like oh no.
(23:41):
And I'm like I'm like, well, youknew it was gonna be white,
like that's not really that muchof a surprise, so, um, but he's
like even when I came hometoday from my makeup trial, he
was like covering his eyes andI'm like I'm gonna keep it on
most of the day to see how itlasts, like yeah you open your
(24:02):
eyes yeah, yeah and then he waslike no, no, I have to be
surprised and I was like it'sstill like, I still look like me
, like it's not like that muchof a shock, like it's just me
wearing makeup, like you canopen up yeah um, and then he
finally did, because he was likeI can't close my eyes all day.
Speaker 2 (24:20):
No, no, that's silly, no, that was fun.
It was fun.
Yeah, um, nanny was like thenwe can go get our dresses and we
can coordinate.
And I'm like coordinate, I'mlike we're not.
Yeah, she goes what color doesemily want us to wear?
I go mom, we're not in thewedding, we're not coordinating
I'm like well, you're in thewedding.
You're walking me down the aisle, oh yeah oh yeah, so what do I
(24:43):
need to wear a certain um, yeah,yeah, I guess you wear like the
pink, that blush, pink color,oh okay, but it doesn't.
It can be whatever style,because I found one, but it's
gray, so it's very pretty.
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Did you already buy it?
Speaker 2 (25:04):
No, it's more than I can pay at the moment, but I saw
it and I was like, oh, I wantthis.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
All right, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
That's fine, sure Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
Yeah, I don't really care that much.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
So like, if you feel good and excited about it, then
that's fine.
As long as it's not white, Idon't care.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
Yeah, it's not white, and if I can find a like that
and the right color, then I willbe happy to.
So you just tell them a colorand they look for a dress.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Yeah, I'm gonna give some swatches.
I think I'm gonna go to likeLowe's or Home Depot and get
some of like those swatches andjust get them and like hand give
them to people, so that way, um, they can like pick from a few
different color, like shades ofit, and then like, if people
like find a dress that has likea pattern with that color or
(26:01):
like whatever, like I just wantpeople to feel like confident,
that's the thing.
So I'm like pick whatever styledress you want.
Um it just I will.
I do want it to be floor lengthor like at least like shin,
like a cocktail dress yeah,that's the one that I saw is, um
(26:23):
, yeah, like a cocktail dressyeah, just not like tight and
short yeah, yeah, short likeyeah, yeah, yeah, yeah like
semi-formal is the attire.
Speaker 2 (26:39):
Well, anyway, so okay .
So I forgot that I was in thewedding.
I know I don't have to wear asuit, right, I don't have to
wear a tux.
Okay, good, why would you haveto wear a tux?
No, I don't know.
So, yeah, well, nanny and I canstill shop and figure it out.
That would be fun.
(26:59):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, but so, yeah,so anyway, we, yeah, it's
because I'm like, oh my goodness, I didn't even think about like
what am I going to wear to thewedding?
And then Jackson, and like yeah, Well he's going to have to get
it.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
Yeah, yeah, he will have to because he is in also in
the wedding.
I don't he doesn't know thatyet, though, unless you've told
him.
I don't know if I've told himokay because, jake has not asked
any of his people yet he likewhy?
because he wants to get themlike all a gift and like ask
(27:39):
them in a specific way.
But, like he like just has yetto do that.
But our planner said it wasfine.
But I'm like you need to get onit because they need to be
aware that they're gonna be init because, like the for the,
it's a little harder for thegroomsmen because they do have
to wear like a more of aspecific.
Yeah, like they're gonna wearthe same thing, yeah, yeah.
(28:01):
So, um, yeah, I'm like you needto get on the stick and ask
them.
Like his best man doesn't evenknow yeah, he probably needs to
tell him.
Speaker 2 (28:11):
So that's exciting though.
So, um, yeah, that's a specialthank you for sharing.
Speaker 1 (28:17):
Yeah, of course.
Speaker 2 (28:18):
And thank you for, yeah, including me.
That was very special.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
Yeah, I was so happy that it was just the two of us,
it was so good.
I had gone with my maid ofhonor to try on dresses with her
and she had, like how many didshe have?
Two, like five people and I waslike I don't know how you did
it, like I was like you're,you've got more confidence in
(28:45):
this because I'm like I wouldn't, I couldn't have stood in front
of that many people and made myown choice.
So, um, but all the opinionsyeah, although all the people
that she had there were great,like not nobody was like very
opinionated.
So she had a good group ofpeople, that's good.
(29:05):
Um, but I was like no, I don'tthink I can do that, it's too
much pressure yeah, I don't knowif I ever went with anyone to
get their wedding dress.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
I might have tried it on dresses with Amanda, but I
don't remember.
I don't remember anyone elseLike I feel like that, and I was
the maid of honor and one ofthose weddings.
I don't remember going with herto get the dress, but I must
have because her mom wasn't here, so yeah, but I don't remember.
(29:36):
She could have gone with hersister too.
I don't remember she could havegone with her sister too, I
don't know.
Anyway, well, that wraps upthis episode.
Speaker 1 (29:45):
Yep, that's, that's all I got from that.
That's right.
Yeah, and that's all you canknow until I get married.
So you're going to have to waituntil January 2026 to see
pictures.
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