April 7, 2025 • 39 mins
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What happens when a mother and daughter sit down to ask each other 25 thoughtfully crafted questions? Magic, vulnerability, and unexpected connection.
We stumbled upon these "connection questions" on social media and decided to put them to the test. What followed was a journey through memories, dreams, challenges, and revelations that surprised even us – and we've been talking to each other our whole lives!
From discussing travel aspirations (European honeymoon plans!) to reflecting on age-specific challenges (finding your people in your twenties versus embracing aging in your fifties), each question opened doors to conversations we might never have had otherwise. We shared our role models (spoiler: we're on each other's lists), laughed about favorite memories (wedding dress shopping makes the cut), and even tackled tougher topics like overcoming personal challenges.
The beauty of these questions isn't just in the answers but in the framework they provide. They create space for meaningful dialogue where vulnerability becomes strength and where skipping uncomfortable questions is perfectly acceptable. As we navigated topics ranging from lighthearted to profound, we discovered new dimensions to our relationship.
Whether you're looking to strengthen bonds with your adult child, reconnect with a parent, or simply deepen any important relationship in your life, these questions offer a powerful starting point. Try them yourself – we'd love to hear if they help you feel more connected too!
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, welcome to Mind your Heart Podcast, your
favorite corner of the internetwhere we chat about all things
mental health.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm Emily and I'm Trina.
Together, we're like yourreal-life Lorelai and Rory
Gilmore.
Each week, we'll bring you realconversations about the world
of mental health and we willpeel back layers on topics like
anxiety, depression and muchmore.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
We're here to chat with you about the tough stuff,
the everyday stuff andeverything in between.
So grab your emotional supportwater bottle I know we have ours
.
Find your comfiest chair orkeep your eyes on the road and
let's get into it.
Are you ready, mom?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Absolutely.
Join us as we mind our heartsand hopefully make minding yours
a little easier, hi.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Hi, I need a drink from my emotional support water
bottle.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
So today we are talking about.
I found these.
I was actually scrolling alongon social media and it was
something that wasn't upsetting.
For once it was connecting.
It was it's basicallyconnecting with your teen, but
in this case it's connectingwith your adult child, or could
(01:14):
even be connecting with yourchild.
I think you could use this inany way.
It's more like connection kindsof questions, which I think is
pretty cool.
It was 25 different ones, sowe're going to do it like rapid
fire.
I'm trying to find the author.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
So are you asking me these questions, or is it a
question?
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah, we're going to ask we're going to both answer,
but I'll just tell the question.
Aslan Amin, who is parentingsingle mom, life lifestyle
person, so I definitely want togive her.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Well, we can link the questions below.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
All right, okay, so what's been the highlight of
your day today?
And maybe you even want to saythe highlight of the month, or
the highlight of the year, orhighlight of anything, but it's
a rapid fire, so oh uh, just thehighlight moment of 2025 or of
the year, you mean like just ayear from today, whenever, okay
(02:12):
well or even today.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
It could be just today okay, well, the highlight
I don't know, that's just that's.
I can't do these rapid fire,I'm too slow, I need time to
think and I elaborate well umyou go first.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
All right, because we've got 25 questions, so we
don't we can't do a super longstory.
Well, just a quick highlightthat comes to my, comes to my
mind.
Well, it is going wedding dressshopping with you.
Like, that was a highlight forme.
Yes, that's the most recent onethat I remember.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Yeah, I mean I would say getting engaged, going
wedding dress shopping with you,getting to like book some
vendors, meeting new peopleRecently I've met some like new
people that I'm like workingwith but also like becoming
friends with, so yeah, cool.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah, all right, and then you would probably not.
If you're going to use some ofthese questions to make
connections with family membersor friends, you probably don't
want to do a rapid fire.
You probably want to give themthe response.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
You probably do want to elaborate yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
You wanted them to be able to like share.
Anyway, is there somethingyou're looking forward to this
week?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
This week I probably will go to Pilates this week.
I've been really enjoying doingthat, so yeah, looking forward
to that.
I don't really enjoying doingthat.
So, yeah, that is cool.
Looking forward to that, Idon't really have any plans.
This may be booking ourphotographer and videographer.
I'm excited to get that, like,checked off.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, well, that's good.
Yeah, I think for me, I'mmeeting with a children's book
author, cool ABC yeah, it's ABCBooks, I think that's what it's
called it.
Abc yeah, it's ABC books, Ithink that's what it's called.
She it's like a she's a she.
Also, they publish I I'm beenin touch with her publishing
(04:13):
company so she just put outthese adorable, nonfiction,
beautiful photo books for kidsabout the national parks and I'm
like, and she's like I'd liketo send you a copy, she'd like
to send them to me which KobeYamada, which is one of my
favorite children's bookswriters, has sent me books and I
have gotten to do reviews andstuff, and so they're going to
send that.
(04:33):
And I'm like I have some STEMideas for this.
I'm like it would be reallycool to do some challenges based
on saving the national parks,because that's an issue that we
have to talk about right now, inthis time.
So I'm meeting with her thisweekend.
I'm excited about that.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Cool, yeah, that'll be so.
When is that Wednesday?
Okay, yeah, that's exciting.
Yeah, what's something thatmade you laugh recently At
dinner on Thursday, jake starteddoing Austin Powers impression
(05:09):
Dr Evil and it made me laughBecause he does the voice so
spot on.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Oh my gosh, that's funny.
I can't think of anything offthe top of my head.
My friend Alexis makes me laugha lot, so it's probably
something to do with her and hersarcasticness, but um, I can't
think off the top of my headwhat it is.
I'd have to go scrollingthrough my phone and then I I'm
sure I would remember oh, jake,and I also did the.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I know I got it the trend where you like the person
like makes the face and then theother person does the sound.
Have you seen that?
No, um, we did that and thatwas very funny.
I'm gonna post that, so okay,all right so now I know.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
So alexis and I have this, this running joke with
each other, where we send eachother ai pictures of home and
like tiny houses, and we're'relike look at these stairs, cause
the nothing is, something isoff in the AI picture every time
and the stairs will like leadup to nothing, or they'll lead
up to a door, or they'll havethis giant gap at the like, the
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stairs won't be evenlyproportioned.
It'll be like a really hugestep and then tiny steps and
tiny and then a huge step, andso we'll or we'll be like
there's no railing upstairs andyou're like well, hopefully no
one falls off and dies.
You know, falls off to thecoffee table.
So we've been like making thatjoke for over a month now and
that's been fun, all right.
(06:35):
If you could visit any place inthe world, where would it be
and why?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Well, europe, like somewhere in europe, and that's
probably where we're going, likefor our honeymoon.
So, really, yeah, wow, yeah,we're thinking about like, going
to like, like paris and likerome and see yeah so we're doing
a lot of credit card hackingright now so that way we can get
(07:01):
like points and stuff, and, um,it is working well, so cool.
We're planning on like tryingto figure that out and see like,
basically, if we could pay forit with the points that we get,
because I mean like it's easy toget points on these cards when,
like, we're spending like largechunks of money at once.
(07:24):
So, um, yeah, I want to go toeurope, I want to see like those
different places and we weretalking about it last night and
I was like, like jake mentionedit just like kind of in passing,
um, because he was telling mesomething about the cards and
and he was like I figured likeyou know, like we'll stay like
maybe in paris one day and I waslike, oh, I was like oh, that's
(07:45):
so cool, like I just got reallyexcited oh, I have the travel
books then you can um borrowthem when I'm finished yeah, and
I'll be finished in July,because I was going to say my
place is Ireland and we're goingto Ireland um in July, and then
we're going to London and Paris, so I'm very excited about that
.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Oh, so cool yeah.
Yeah, I've always wanted to goto Ireland and I have lived in
England, but I've never been toParis, and I'm excited about
that too.
I've been studying French for742 days straight.
I have a 742 day streak, isn'tthat crazy?
Yeah, I'm fighting Alzheimer's.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
I need to practice my Spanish because I think that's
like the primary language inPeru.
I'm going to Peru in May.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Oh, okay, I was like you said, you were going to
Europe.
No, no, no.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
When I go to Peru in May I'm like their stuff is in
Spanish.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
All right.
So the next question you couldask would be to your teenager
what's the most challenging partof being a teenager for you?
So let's do our age.
What's the most challengingpart of being a 25 year old?
At this point, you'll be 25.
Yeah, Happy birthday.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
I think that it's probably the fact that people my
age are all over the spectrum,like there are people who are 25
and who act like they're 13.
And then there are people whoare 25 and like have children
and like are mature and likecare about like working on
(09:22):
themselves and stuff, butnormally those people are not
actually 25.
They're normally older than Iam.
So, um, it's like such a it's aweird thing when, like you're
figuring out your community, Ilike feel like I've finally
gotten to the point, justprobably this past year, where I
have found like my people.
(09:43):
But I think that that's reallydifficult just in your 20s in
general, because it's hard tofind and we've now like created
a society of like all digitalthings, so like meeting people
in real life is like a littlemore uncomfortable and awkward,
um, and it's just like not asnatural, so, so like it takes
extra effort, especially ifyou're an introvert, which I am.
(10:06):
So I think that's probably thehardest thing and, honestly, I
think if you asked any otherperson in their 20s, that they
would say something similar.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
So it's interesting that that feels like a deterrent
at this point, because I'm theopposite.
Well, my challenge at 53, I'llstill be 53 when this comes out,
almost 54, but is like gettingold is a is a.
I remember my grandmother waslike you're not going to like it
, trina girl, that's what sheused to call me, trina girl, and
(10:42):
I think of her so much.
I'm like you're right,grandmother, and it's not.
I mean, I think it's partlyyour body, like watching your
body change.
You know your skin, your hair,your bones.
So that is hard.
And then, like it was at anytime in my life when my body
changed, like when I waspregnant, and you know when
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things, that major things thathappened to you that you are
like, oh so.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
But it's also and also, we live in a world where
aging is looked at as like a bad.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Yeah, negative thing it's this more, that like I
can't remember things as well,like I'm not as fast as I used
to be, my brain used to work sofast and and people would get
frustrated because they couldn'tkeep up, and now I'm like I
feel like that, so that that'shard, but I do, but I do.
(11:32):
I actually like the digitalpart because I've met so many
like really wonderful peoplethat I have become friends with
online and I have like likethree, three to four people,
groups of people that I meetwith every week and and so
that's I.
I mean, like that's how theylive all over the place.
(11:54):
They don't live where I live,so they live all over.
So I think that's really cool.
All right, who is your rolemodel and what qualities do you
admire in them?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
I don't think I would say one specific person Like.
I think I like admire differentthings about different people.
Like I would say you like are arole model for me, like in the
way of like unconditional loveand like strength and like
courage.
Um, my friend Grace is likesuch a good example of like
(12:29):
loving people like Jesus, likeshe is kind, like the kindest
person ever.
Um, so, like I think in thatway, like my friend Dakota is
like so smart, like it's, likeit's it's.
I'm like, oh my gosh, like sheknows these things that I'm like
whoa.
Like like I think my friends,like people that I'm close with
(12:52):
like are role models for me.
Mick Zazon, like I think the waythat she shows up like online
and is honest and vulnerable andlike her true, authentic self,
like despite what people say andlike.
(13:47):
So people like that like Iwould say like it's not of
thinking about things that likesometimes I forget or like
wouldn't have known if I didn'tknow her like just the people
that I surround myself with,like I feel like are the people
that are my role models.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
No, I agree, because when you were saying, of course,
at first I thought of, likeprofessionally, and I'm like, oh
, sir Ken Robinson, who wasreally big in he was British but
he was really big in childrenlike learning and feeling like
we need a different, we need todo something differently, and
focusing on the element wherepeople are passionate and they
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can use that to to make a living, like when you have found that
your element.
And then, like Amy PorterfieldI am, you know, have always been
a huge fan of her love, herlove, love, her honesty and
vulnerability and her work ethic.
But then, like you, you as well, like you're been a role model
(14:42):
for me too.
You've reminded, you knowyou're such an example of grace
and love and God, like yourfaith is so strong and it's
always been like a, you know,like a pillar for me, even you
and you and Jake together, likeyour love and your commitment to
each other and you, the waythat you respond to each other.
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And then, like I've never seenlove like that before.
And and even Jackson and hisway of just like trying to
figure new things out and beingpersistent in his emotional
intelligence.
I'm always like in awe at someof the things that he comes up
with, and and then even evenlike my mom and Steve, as far as
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, like she always can find thesilver lining, and that is very
hard for me.
And when she can't find it,it's like, oh my gosh, I feel
kind of shaken because she'slike always been able to be like
it's, you know, positive Pollyand.
(15:47):
Steve's so smart and he's got somuch advice to give and and
he's just quirky and funny andso that you know.
And then my brother, who I havelooked up to for a long time
and his creativity, and I justthink he, I think, I think he's
so smart and I, yeah, so there'sa lot of people, my friends.
I've got a lot of friends thatI feel that way about there that
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, you know, show me differentperspectives and help me to see
different things and yeah, yeah.
Yeah, cool, all right, so thatwas not a rapid fire.
If you could learn any skill orhobby, what would it be?
Speaker 1 (16:28):
um well, I really wanted to learn how to
rollerblade, but I just don'thave the like.
No fear anymore now that I'mnot a child.
Um, so maybe that, but I gotroller skates recently.
I do know how to do that,enough to where I can like stand
up and not feel like I'm goingto die, but I'm still not a pro.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
So maybe that would be my goal Roller skating and
rollerblading, roller skatingyeah, I like that, I would like
to.
I mean, this doesn't sound funto me, but it would be something
that would be beneficial to meif I actually learned more about
photography, if.
I actually understood moreabout photography.
That would be better.
(17:12):
What I like to do is likeinterior decorating and
woodworking and stuff like that.
What's your favorite memoryfrom when you were younger?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I don't know.
Whenever somebody asks me thatquestion, it's hard for me to
just think on the spot becauseI'm like what?
Yeah, in what context?
Montana tickets Like I was soexcited and that was like such
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an elaborate thing, like plannedby like you and dad, and like
the way, like it was whatever,and then like we got to go, like
that was so fun and like I justremember being like emotional,
like so, like that wouldprobably be one of my favorite
things because I was like it wasthe first time I experienced a
real concert and I remember likecrying, yeah like I was like,
(18:13):
oh my gosh.
Like so cool.
So yeah, probably thatexperience overall would be
something I would say yeah,that's fun.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Um, yeah, that's hard for me too.
The thing that came to my mindfirst was like playing in the
play play room at mygrandmother's house um, and so
that's what.
And like playing with decks andwe would pretend like we were
swiss family robinson um out inthis tree that she had in her
backyard, and yeah.
So that's what comes to my mindwhen I first think about it,
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but I'd have to think more on ityeah, I feel like there's also
not just like one yeah there'smultiple all right.
What's a book, movie or songthat has impact significantly
impacted, impacted you.
That's not how they worded it,but I'm just gonna go with it
had a significant impact on.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
You impacted me.
Yeah, I thought you were justgonna ask my favorite favorite
book, movie or song.
Well, you could do that.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Well, they're different for each one.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
Book-wise, the Summer I Turned Pretty is my favorite
series.
It just makes me feel good andI loved reading it.
And it was probably my firstbooks when I got back into
reading that like made me lovereading again.
So that even though that's alittle bit silly because it's
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not like it's not like anythinglike important, but like it.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Yeah, it's not the Bible.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, which wouldprobably have a significant
point, a significant impact onyou.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Song wise I mean oh, there's somany.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
That's.
I can't pick just one.
Yeah so yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Yeah, well, I think that's good.
I would, I mean, like when Ifirst think of the first book
that I think of that, likereally the book that I loved
more than anything was LittleWomen, but but the book that has
really made me understand Likepeople's perspectives and being
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like how can we behave?
In certain ways have been likethese historical fiction books
that I've been reading byKristen Hanna, and the four
winds and the nightingale was soit's like, yeah, wow, so those
are have had an impact on me.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Yeah, that's a question I'd have to think on.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Yeah, me too.
I feel like I need, I wouldneed more.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
I need to like research a little bit, I agree.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
I feel like, yeah, need to like research.
Yeah, a little bit I agree.
I feel like, yeah, I definitely.
And then like movie that Icould.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
There's like so many so the first one that came to
mind with movie was the barbiemovie I loved the barbie movie
and also wicked recently yeah,that was good because they all
have like intentional, likemeaning messages.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Yeah, yeah I felt that kind of went that way about
the Greatest Showman.
I really liked that.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Yeah, greatest Showman too.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
And the Dark Knight Rises was one that like had an
impact.
For lots of reasons, though,because not only the message,
but the like you know all thething that went around it, and
there was a mass shooting andthe lights going out and Jackson
being terrified, yeah, yeah, so, um, all right.
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What's something you wish youcould change about?
Speaker 1 (21:37):
the world.
Oof, we don't have all the timefor that.
I was going to say I don't havea short answer for that.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Yeah, kindness, practice kindness and love.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Yeah, that's the general consensus.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
So yeah, you know accept people when they're, even
when they're different than youare.
Yeah, so if you could giveadvice to your younger self,
what would it be?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
uh, probably, I guess , like not to care so much, just
in general, because I feel likethat is one of the things.
Like because I'm thinking morelike when I was a teenager, like
the like from like I don't know, 11 to 19, I like just cared
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about everything and like Ithink caring about things is
important.
But I also think that, like,sometimes you just have to be
like I don't care, like I don'tcare how I look, I don just have
to be like I don't care, like Idon't care how I look, I don't
care what other people think.
Like just being more like okay,like it is what it is.
Like I feel like that would besomething that I'd be like you
waste so much energy, so muchtime on caring about every
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little thing and you don't needto do that.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Yeah, I would definitely tell myself to get
out of my own way.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
yeah, that's good um what's a recent accomplishment
you're proud of recentaccomplishment I don't know I'm
I haven't accomplished anything,I don't know like just working
with my clients, I guess, likesigning another client, like
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signing on to another project,like those things I'm, I'm proud
of, like I mean like workingthrough the things that are
going on, like in therapy, likeI mean even like when Jake and I
, like we're working in couplescounseling, like things like
that that we've like overcome,like certain like barriers or
things that we were strugglingwith, like those feel like
really important accomplishments, absolutely, absolutely so,
like stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (23:46):
Yeah, I was going to say, yeah, mindset stuff that
I've been doing with theresa,like learning to forgive myself
and, um, like myself, yeah,that's good.
Okay, how do you like to relaxand unwind when you're feeling
stressed?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
um there, well, I like to do nothing.
Um, or take a gummy and thenwatch a show um wax my eyebrow
or pluck my eyebrow likeself-care stuff.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
Self-care, yeah, yeah I, I was gonna say like work
out, I mean that's, that's,that's how I relax, like what
brings me, like like peace andcalmness, that does not sound
relaxing to me.
Yeah, I, I, I get on the Pelotonand within 10 minutes I'm
already like I feel better, Ifeel like I can breathe, um and
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also lifting weights, likegetting stronger.
Especially at this age, this isprobably the strongest I've
ever been like lifting.
As far as like weights that Ican lift, I wasn't like in shock
that yesterday I was doing thetricep machine, which I don't do
very often.
I mean, I didn't used to do it,but like it's up to what was it
70 pounds.
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I'm like I thought that was alot, and then, like I can curl a
30 pound 70 pounds I'm like Ithought that was a lot, and then
, like I can curl a 30 pound, um, 30 pounds, and that I'm like
that's pretty good.
So, yeah, anyway, I.
I also like to watch TV Like Ihave become a TV person and I
like to listen to podcasts a lot.
I listen to podcasts all daylong and music.
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Okay, what do you appreciatemost about your family?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
um a lot.
I think there's a lot.
It's also different per person.
I would say, because everybodyhas like different things that
they like offer and in theirpersonality and who they are.
Um, if I was gonna say for you,like I appreciate the way that
you show up, I appreciate theway that you love me, like I
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appreciate the things that, likeyou've sacrificed over like my
life, like there's a lot,there's just so much.
Like I could just go on and on.
Like if I was talking aboutJackson, like I appreciate his
humor, like that's somethingthat I love about him, like he's
so funny.
Um, I like Nanny, like Iappreciate the way that, like
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she just loves so hard and likeshe is like always believed that
like I could be a superhero.
Basically, yeah, I feel like itwould do.
It depend per person.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Yeah, I agree, I think, um, yeah, I mean, you
know I've told you before that Ifelt like you changed my life
and, um, and you definitely drewme.
You drew me to God and you want, made me want to be a better
person.
I wanted to be worthy of havingyou as a daughter and so, and
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you also have been like such acheerleader for me, a supporter,
and I really always Iappreciate that so much.
And and, yeah, you know, withJackson, I Jackson is great
about checking on me, like hecall, he calls me very regularly
and like sometimes it's justlike hey, mom, how's it going?
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Hey, mom, how's it going.
That's what he always how we'redoing today, mom, and we're
doing good, jackson, and andsometimes it's just for a few
minutes, I love you, I love youtoo.
Bye, no-transcript.
And um, yeah, and he, and also Iappreciate his insight, it's
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just so interesting to me howhis brain works and he's so
funny.
Um, yeah.
And then nanny, like she hasnever given up on me, like she,
she fights for me.
Like she, she tries to protectme in the best way that she can.
Yeah, and yeah, I, I appreciatethat.
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And Steve, like I appreciatewhat he brings to our family too
.
And yeah how he loves us andyeah, yeah, and so Jake and I.
I'm just so thankful for Jakeand Jake's um steadiness and his
love for you and his um andalso I think he can be funny too
(28:28):
.
Yeah and yeah.
So I feel like I'm forgettingsome people, but I didn't even
name as many people.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
I didn't even name my own fiance, so yeah, well, I
mean yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
And then I'm like I think of a lot of my friends as
family as well, like my friend,my friend you know, melanie and
Alexis, and Christie and Carrie.
Yeah, all right, we could go onand on.
Okay, is there something you'dlike to learn from me or know
about my life when I was yourage?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
I don't know.
I feel like I've asked you thethings that I wanted to know.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Yeah, what was a mess at your age?
Speaker 1 (29:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
I guess I was graduating from college and it
took me forever because Ichanged my mind at the last
minute.
I'm pretty sure around your ageI moved to Atlanta.
I might've been moving toAtlanta at your age.
Um, I graduated and then Ilived in I've run out of room in
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someone's house and then I, dadand I broke up for the
thousandth time and I was like Igotta, I gotta get out of here,
like I gotta get out of here.
And so I moved to Atlanta andlived with my high school and
college best friend and we livedin a one bedroom apartment in
Buckhead.
We shared a bedroom and becauseit was a very expensive part of
(30:02):
Atlanta but it was reallypretty and yeah, we shared a
room and but you know, she wasworked in a Nick nick in the
NICU at Grady hospital, which isa big hospital in Atlanta, and,
um, so she worked nights.
So I like feel like you know wewere on totally different
schedules.
Yeah, yeah, but I was, I was, Iwas trying to figure myself out
(30:24):
at your age yeah, I learnedthat I could survive without
your dad.
That is one thing Like I.
I learned that when I was inAtlanta.
But I but I love that I wouldnever not love him.
I got I felt like I healed alot that when I was there, but
(30:45):
that I stopped trying to stoploving him, like I was just
going to love him for the restof our lives, which I guess is
still true.
I mean I don't, you know, I'mnot with him, I don't want to be
with him, but I mean I love him, I'll always I think I'll just
always love him.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
All right, is there um what's a goal you have for
yourself in the next year?
Speaker 1 (31:16):
Uh, to do less, mm, I need to do less.
Yeah, also my counselor.
She agrees with that.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
I need to still get out of my own way.
I need to figure, I need tofigure, I need to figure my
thing out.
I also want to be reallygrateful for what I have been
able to do.
Um, I don't want to give up onmy self or my dreams.
(31:50):
So if you could solve oneglobal issue, what would it be
and how would you do it?
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Oh, I don't have a simple answer for that.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
Yeah, me either.
We can skip that one.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
Yeah, one.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
I'd only have to choose one.
There's so many global issuesI'd want to fix.
Yeah One, I'd only have tochoose one.
There's so many global issuesI'd want to fix.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Yeah, it would be like.
Can we at least recognize someof them that are a global issue?
I would start there.
But anyway, what's a recentchallenge you faced and how did
you overcome it?
Speaker 1 (32:23):
That feels like an interview question.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
They always ask that in an interview they always ask
that in an interview um a recentchallenge.
We can skip that too.
We can just give people thequestions, so they have them if
they want them, and okay, Ithink I think letting people
skip questions when you'retrying to connect with someone
is also a valid thing to know.
Um, what's something you'd liketo do with our family that we
(32:47):
haven't done yet?
Oh, I know what I'd like to goskiing, hmm.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
Yeah, that'd be fun.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
I'll take that answer too.
If you could have a superpowerfor a day, what would it be and
how would you use it?
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Um, teleportation, I would do that, and then I would
like go visit a whole bunch ofdifferent like places.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
That would be really cool.
Yeah, I'm going to steal thattoo, because I was going to say
flight, but I like teleportingbetter.
We're almost done.
What's the best piece of adviceyou've received from someone
recently?
Make mistakes, make mistakesalmost done.
What's the best piece of advice?
Speaker 1 (33:35):
you've received from someone recently.
Make mistakes, make mistakes.
That's mine.
I don't know that anyone'sgiven me like specific advice
and like that I can rememberrecently you'll give me good
advice, it's just not coming tomy mind.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
What is coming to my mind is that song letting go,
where it talks about um, thetrick is simply to surrender.
And then at the end of the songit's like make mistakes, make
mistakes, make mistakes.
And it keeps saying it makemistakes, make mistakes.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
And I'm like, yeah, this is good, I think probably
like me talking to my counselorand her being like it's okay to
not overanalyze everything andjust to do, to just be and to do
less like, and I keep sayingthat, but that was like a oh aha
kind of moment for me yeah, um,what's the best memory you have
(34:26):
of us spending time together?
Well, the wedding dress thatcomes to my head, like doing
that.
I was just so like perfect.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Yeah, yeah, that was good.
I like I like to think aboutwhen we used to watch Gilmore
girls together and when we usedto watch yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
When we watched the bachelor on that like pillow,
yeah, that pillow bed there.
Like pillow yeah.
That pillow bed there for likeforever.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Yeah, and then you would give me the best foot
massages in the world, like Ijust laughing with you coming to
visit you at camp, yeah, oh,going to New York, oh, yeah.
New York, yeah, when you were16, that was so fun.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
When I came and told you that I was engaged, that was
like such a special, likemoment.
Yeah, when I called you, yeah.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
No, yeah, I loved when you came and told me in the
hotel and we were jumping upand down.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Yeah, what do you think you're really good at and
why do you enjoy it?
I think I'm good at listening.
I enjoy it because I thinkpeople want to feel heard and
that I feel the same way and Ienjoy being that person for
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others.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Yeah, you are good at that.
I think I'm really good atHelping kids love to read.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
True, that is true.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
What scares you most about the future?
Speaker 1 (36:11):
I don't really know that I like feel fearful of the
future.
I just feel like it like, yeah,I don't have fear surrounding
the future, it's just it will bewhat it is.
I don't really want to havefear around the future no, I I
don't either.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
I don't want to either, and even if I start
thinking about things that might, I don't like, I don't want to
be scared about that yeah, I'mlike that's.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
I don't like that question.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
I don't have that.
I don't have that either.
Um, what's the best thing?
This is the last one.
What's the best thing that hashappened you so far in your life
?
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I would say, jake, just like having him in my life
and like being like my person,like my foundation, and like
building like a life with him.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Yeah, I say you and Jackson, you and Jackson,
definitely they're the best bestpart of my life.
I also feel, you know, recentlyI was talking about, I was
talking to my mastermind aboutum, like not putting pressure on
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you and not telling you thatyou ended, you were responsible
for ending generational trauma.
And um, and my friend was likewait, she's like stop.
She's like you, you did that.
And um, and I'm like what doyou mean?
And she's like you know, you,you left.
She's like that took a lot ofcourage.
(37:48):
And you, you stopped.
And I, I didn't give myself.
I've never given myself creditlike that and um, because I've
always thought of it as such asad thing, that for everyone.
But um, but I don't think itwas, I don't think it was sad
for everyone.
I mean I think it was sad foreveryone.
But I mean it was sad foreveryone.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
I mean I think it was sad for everyone but I mean, I
think, I think that coming outon the other side, we all yeah,
yeah.
Yeah, I mean I it was importantfrom?
Speaker 2 (38:21):
was it really important for me to like protect
us and stand up for myself?
Yeah, and um value myselfenough to like stop.
And then you know, obviouslythere's trauma around it and I
hate that part of it.
But but that, that's just lifeyeah, um, also really enjoyed
(38:48):
graduating salutatorian fromFull Sail when I was getting my
master's.
That was one of my favoritethings.
That's cool.
All right, we answered all fiveyeah.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Yeah, awesome.
Well, if you practice this, ifyou do this with your child,
with your parent, let us knowhow it goes.
Does it make you feel moreconnected?
I mean, I feel more connected,yeah, yeah, yeah.
Well, we will see you in twoweeks.
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Speaker 2 (00:09):
I'm Emily and I'm Trina.
Together, we're like yourreal-life Lorelai and Rory
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Each week, we'll bring you realconversations about the world
of mental health and we willpeel back layers on topics like
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Speaker 1 (00:24):
We're here to chat with you about the tough stuff,
the everyday stuff andeverything in between.
So grab your emotional supportwater bottle I know we have ours
.
Find your comfiest chair orkeep your eyes on the road and
let's get into it.
Are you ready, mom?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Absolutely.
Join us as we mind our heartsand hopefully make minding yours
a little easier, hi.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Hi, I need a drink from my emotional support water
bottle.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
So today we are talking about.
I found these.
I was actually scrolling alongon social media and it was
something that wasn't upsetting.
For once it was connecting.
It was it's basicallyconnecting with your teen, but
in this case it's connectingwith your adult child, or could
(01:14):
even be connecting with yourchild.
I think you could use this inany way.
It's more like connection kindsof questions, which I think is
pretty cool.
It was 25 different ones, sowe're going to do it like rapid
fire.
I'm trying to find the author.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
So are you asking me these questions, or is it a
question?
Speaker 2 (01:33):
Yeah, we're going to ask we're going to both answer,
but I'll just tell the question.
Aslan Amin, who is parentingsingle mom, life lifestyle
person, so I definitely want togive her.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Well, we can link the questions below.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
All right, okay, so what's been the highlight of
your day today?
And maybe you even want to saythe highlight of the month, or
the highlight of the year, orhighlight of anything, but it's
a rapid fire, so oh uh, just thehighlight moment of 2025 or of
the year, you mean like just ayear from today, whenever, okay
(02:12):
well or even today.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
It could be just today okay, well, the highlight
I don't know, that's just that's.
I can't do these rapid fire,I'm too slow, I need time to
think and I elaborate well umyou go first.
Speaker 2 (02:28):
All right, because we've got 25 questions, so we
don't we can't do a super longstory.
Well, just a quick highlightthat comes to my, comes to my
mind.
Well, it is going wedding dressshopping with you.
Like, that was a highlight forme.
Yes, that's the most recent onethat I remember.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
Yeah, I mean I would say getting engaged, going
wedding dress shopping with you,getting to like book some
vendors, meeting new peopleRecently I've met some like new
people that I'm like workingwith but also like becoming
friends with, so yeah, cool.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
Yeah, all right, and then you would probably not.
If you're going to use some ofthese questions to make
connections with family membersor friends, you probably don't
want to do a rapid fire.
You probably want to give themthe response.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
You probably do want to elaborate yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
You wanted them to be able to like share.
Anyway, is there somethingyou're looking forward to this
week?
Speaker 1 (03:34):
This week I probably will go to Pilates this week.
I've been really enjoying doingthat, so yeah, looking forward
to that.
I don't really enjoying doingthat.
So, yeah, that is cool.
Looking forward to that, Idon't really have any plans.
This may be booking ourphotographer and videographer.
I'm excited to get that, like,checked off.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
Yeah, well, that's good.
Yeah, I think for me, I'mmeeting with a children's book
author, cool ABC yeah, it's ABCBooks, I think that's what it's
called it.
Abc yeah, it's ABC books, Ithink that's what it's called.
She it's like a she's a she.
Also, they publish I I'm beenin touch with her publishing
(04:13):
company so she just put outthese adorable, nonfiction,
beautiful photo books for kidsabout the national parks and I'm
like, and she's like I'd liketo send you a copy, she'd like
to send them to me which KobeYamada, which is one of my
favorite children's bookswriters, has sent me books and I
have gotten to do reviews andstuff, and so they're going to
send that.
(04:33):
And I'm like I have some STEMideas for this.
I'm like it would be reallycool to do some challenges based
on saving the national parks,because that's an issue that we
have to talk about right now, inthis time.
So I'm meeting with her thisweekend.
I'm excited about that.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
Cool, yeah, that'll be so.
When is that Wednesday?
Okay, yeah, that's exciting.
Yeah, what's something thatmade you laugh recently At
dinner on Thursday, jake starteddoing Austin Powers impression
(05:09):
Dr Evil and it made me laughBecause he does the voice so
spot on.
Speaker 2 (05:16):
Oh my gosh, that's funny.
I can't think of anything offthe top of my head.
My friend Alexis makes me laugha lot, so it's probably
something to do with her and hersarcasticness, but um, I can't
think off the top of my headwhat it is.
I'd have to go scrollingthrough my phone and then I I'm
sure I would remember oh, jake,and I also did the.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
I know I got it the trend where you like the person
like makes the face and then theother person does the sound.
Have you seen that?
No, um, we did that and thatwas very funny.
I'm gonna post that, so okay,all right so now I know.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
So alexis and I have this, this running joke with
each other, where we send eachother ai pictures of home and
like tiny houses, and we're'relike look at these stairs, cause
the nothing is, something isoff in the AI picture every time
and the stairs will like leadup to nothing, or they'll lead
up to a door, or they'll havethis giant gap at the like, the
(06:15):
stairs won't be evenlyproportioned.
It'll be like a really hugestep and then tiny steps and
tiny and then a huge step, andso we'll or we'll be like
there's no railing upstairs andyou're like well, hopefully no
one falls off and dies.
You know, falls off to thecoffee table.
So we've been like making thatjoke for over a month now and
that's been fun, all right.
(06:35):
If you could visit any place inthe world, where would it be
and why?
Speaker 1 (06:41):
Well, europe, like somewhere in europe, and that's
probably where we're going, likefor our honeymoon.
So, really, yeah, wow, yeah,we're thinking about like, going
to like, like paris and likerome and see yeah so we're doing
a lot of credit card hackingright now so that way we can get
(07:01):
like points and stuff, and, um,it is working well, so cool.
We're planning on like tryingto figure that out and see like,
basically, if we could pay forit with the points that we get,
because I mean like it's easy toget points on these cards when,
like, we're spending like largechunks of money at once.
(07:24):
So, um, yeah, I want to go toeurope, I want to see like those
different places and we weretalking about it last night and
I was like, like jake mentionedit just like kind of in passing,
um, because he was telling mesomething about the cards and
and he was like I figured likeyou know, like we'll stay like
maybe in paris one day and I waslike, oh, I was like oh, that's
(07:45):
so cool, like I just got reallyexcited oh, I have the travel
books then you can um borrowthem when I'm finished yeah, and
I'll be finished in July,because I was going to say my
place is Ireland and we're goingto Ireland um in July, and then
we're going to London and Paris, so I'm very excited about that
.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Oh, so cool yeah.
Yeah, I've always wanted to goto Ireland and I have lived in
England, but I've never been toParis, and I'm excited about
that too.
I've been studying French for742 days straight.
I have a 742 day streak, isn'tthat crazy?
Yeah, I'm fighting Alzheimer's.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
I need to practice my Spanish because I think that's
like the primary language inPeru.
I'm going to Peru in May.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
Oh, okay, I was like you said, you were going to
Europe.
No, no, no.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
When I go to Peru in May I'm like their stuff is in
Spanish.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
All right.
So the next question you couldask would be to your teenager
what's the most challenging partof being a teenager for you?
So let's do our age.
What's the most challengingpart of being a 25 year old?
At this point, you'll be 25.
Yeah, Happy birthday.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
I think that it's probably the fact that people my
age are all over the spectrum,like there are people who are 25
and who act like they're 13.
And then there are people whoare 25 and like have children
and like are mature and likecare about like working on
(09:22):
themselves and stuff, butnormally those people are not
actually 25.
They're normally older than Iam.
So, um, it's like such a it's aweird thing when, like you're
figuring out your community, Ilike feel like I've finally
gotten to the point, justprobably this past year, where I
have found like my people.
(09:43):
But I think that that's reallydifficult just in your 20s in
general, because it's hard tofind and we've now like created
a society of like all digitalthings, so like meeting people
in real life is like a littlemore uncomfortable and awkward,
um, and it's just like not asnatural, so, so like it takes
extra effort, especially ifyou're an introvert, which I am.
(10:06):
So I think that's probably thehardest thing and, honestly, I
think if you asked any otherperson in their 20s, that they
would say something similar.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
So it's interesting that that feels like a deterrent
at this point, because I'm theopposite.
Well, my challenge at 53, I'llstill be 53 when this comes out,
almost 54, but is like gettingold is a is a.
I remember my grandmother waslike you're not going to like it
, trina girl, that's what sheused to call me, trina girl, and
(10:42):
I think of her so much.
I'm like you're right,grandmother, and it's not.
I mean, I think it's partlyyour body, like watching your
body change.
You know your skin, your hair,your bones.
So that is hard.
And then, like it was at anytime in my life when my body
changed, like when I waspregnant, and you know when
(11:02):
things, that major things thathappened to you that you are
like, oh so.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
But it's also and also, we live in a world where
aging is looked at as like a bad.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Yeah, negative thing it's this more, that like I
can't remember things as well,like I'm not as fast as I used
to be, my brain used to work sofast and and people would get
frustrated because they couldn'tkeep up, and now I'm like I
feel like that, so that that'shard, but I do, but I do.
(11:32):
I actually like the digitalpart because I've met so many
like really wonderful peoplethat I have become friends with
online and I have like likethree, three to four people,
groups of people that I meetwith every week and and so
that's I.
I mean, like that's how theylive all over the place.
(11:54):
They don't live where I live,so they live all over.
So I think that's really cool.
All right, who is your rolemodel and what qualities do you
admire in them?
Speaker 1 (12:07):
I don't think I would say one specific person Like.
I think I like admire differentthings about different people.
Like I would say you like are arole model for me, like in the
way of like unconditional loveand like strength and like
courage.
Um, my friend Grace is likesuch a good example of like
(12:29):
loving people like Jesus, likeshe is kind, like the kindest
person ever.
Um, so, like I think in thatway, like my friend Dakota is
like so smart, like it's, likeit's it's.
I'm like, oh my gosh, like sheknows these things that I'm like
whoa.
Like like I think my friends,like people that I'm close with
(12:52):
like are role models for me.
Mick Zazon, like I think the waythat she shows up like online
and is honest and vulnerable andlike her true, authentic self,
like despite what people say andlike.
(13:47):
So people like that like Iwould say like it's not of
thinking about things that likesometimes I forget or like
wouldn't have known if I didn'tknow her like just the people
that I surround myself with,like I feel like are the people
that are my role models.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
No, I agree, because when you were saying, of course,
at first I thought of, likeprofessionally, and I'm like, oh
, sir Ken Robinson, who wasreally big in he was British but
he was really big in childrenlike learning and feeling like
we need a different, we need todo something differently, and
focusing on the element wherepeople are passionate and they
(14:21):
can use that to to make a living, like when you have found that
your element.
And then, like Amy PorterfieldI am, you know, have always been
a huge fan of her love, herlove, love, her honesty and
vulnerability and her work ethic.
But then, like you, you as well, like you're been a role model
(14:42):
for me too.
You've reminded, you knowyou're such an example of grace
and love and God, like yourfaith is so strong and it's
always been like a, you know,like a pillar for me, even you
and you and Jake together, likeyour love and your commitment to
each other and you, the waythat you respond to each other.
(15:03):
And then, like I've never seenlove like that before.
And and even Jackson and hisway of just like trying to
figure new things out and beingpersistent in his emotional
intelligence.
I'm always like in awe at someof the things that he comes up
with, and and then even evenlike my mom and Steve, as far as
(15:27):
, like she always can find thesilver lining, and that is very
hard for me.
And when she can't find it,it's like, oh my gosh, I feel
kind of shaken because she'slike always been able to be like
it's, you know, positive Pollyand.
(15:47):
Steve's so smart and he's got somuch advice to give and and
he's just quirky and funny andso that you know.
And then my brother, who I havelooked up to for a long time
and his creativity, and I justthink he, I think, I think he's
so smart and I, yeah, so there'sa lot of people, my friends.
I've got a lot of friends thatI feel that way about there that
(16:09):
, you know, show me differentperspectives and help me to see
different things and yeah, yeah.
Yeah, cool, all right, so thatwas not a rapid fire.
If you could learn any skill orhobby, what would it be?
Speaker 1 (16:28):
um well, I really wanted to learn how to
rollerblade, but I just don'thave the like.
No fear anymore now that I'mnot a child.
Um, so maybe that, but I gotroller skates recently.
I do know how to do that,enough to where I can like stand
up and not feel like I'm goingto die, but I'm still not a pro.
Speaker 2 (16:51):
So maybe that would be my goal Roller skating and
rollerblading, roller skatingyeah, I like that, I would like
to.
I mean, this doesn't sound funto me, but it would be something
that would be beneficial to meif I actually learned more about
photography, if.
I actually understood moreabout photography.
That would be better.
(17:12):
What I like to do is likeinterior decorating and
woodworking and stuff like that.
What's your favorite memoryfrom when you were younger?
Speaker 1 (17:26):
I don't know.
Whenever somebody asks me thatquestion, it's hard for me to
just think on the spot becauseI'm like what?
Yeah, in what context?
Montana tickets Like I was soexcited and that was like such
(17:50):
an elaborate thing, like plannedby like you and dad, and like
the way, like it was whatever,and then like we got to go, like
that was so fun and like I justremember being like emotional,
like so, like that wouldprobably be one of my favorite
things because I was like it wasthe first time I experienced a
real concert and I remember likecrying, yeah like I was like,
(18:13):
oh my gosh.
Like so cool.
So yeah, probably thatexperience overall would be
something I would say yeah,that's fun.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Um, yeah, that's hard for me too.
The thing that came to my mindfirst was like playing in the
play play room at mygrandmother's house um, and so
that's what.
And like playing with decks andwe would pretend like we were
swiss family robinson um out inthis tree that she had in her
backyard, and yeah.
So that's what comes to my mindwhen I first think about it,
(18:44):
but I'd have to think more on ityeah, I feel like there's also
not just like one yeah there'smultiple all right.
What's a book, movie or songthat has impact significantly
impacted, impacted you.
That's not how they worded it,but I'm just gonna go with it
had a significant impact on.
Speaker 1 (19:04):
You impacted me.
Yeah, I thought you were justgonna ask my favorite favorite
book, movie or song.
Well, you could do that.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
Well, they're different for each one.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
Book-wise, the Summer I Turned Pretty is my favorite
series.
It just makes me feel good andI loved reading it.
And it was probably my firstbooks when I got back into
reading that like made me lovereading again.
So that even though that's alittle bit silly because it's
(19:39):
not like it's not like anythinglike important, but like it.
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Yeah, it's not the Bible.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, which wouldprobably have a significant
point, a significant impact onyou.
Speaker 1 (19:50):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Song wise I mean oh, there's somany.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (19:57):
That's.
I can't pick just one.
Yeah so yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (20:02):
Yeah, well, I think that's good.
I would, I mean, like when Ifirst think of the first book
that I think of that, likereally the book that I loved
more than anything was LittleWomen, but but the book that has
really made me understand Likepeople's perspectives and being
(20:23):
like how can we behave?
In certain ways have been likethese historical fiction books
that I've been reading byKristen Hanna, and the four
winds and the nightingale was soit's like, yeah, wow, so those
are have had an impact on me.
Speaker 1 (20:39):
Yeah, that's a question I'd have to think on.
Speaker 2 (20:42):
Yeah, me too.
I feel like I need, I wouldneed more.
Speaker 1 (20:45):
I need to like research a little bit, I agree.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
I feel like, yeah, need to like research.
Yeah, a little bit I agree.
I feel like, yeah, I definitely.
And then like movie that Icould.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
There's like so many so the first one that came to
mind with movie was the barbiemovie I loved the barbie movie
and also wicked recently yeah,that was good because they all
have like intentional, likemeaning messages.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
Yeah, yeah I felt that kind of went that way about
the Greatest Showman.
I really liked that.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Yeah, greatest Showman too.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
And the Dark Knight Rises was one that like had an
impact.
For lots of reasons, though,because not only the message,
but the like you know all thething that went around it, and
there was a mass shooting andthe lights going out and Jackson
being terrified, yeah, yeah, so, um, all right.
(21:36):
What's something you wish youcould change about?
Speaker 1 (21:37):
the world.
Oof, we don't have all the timefor that.
I was going to say I don't havea short answer for that.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Yeah, kindness, practice kindness and love.
Speaker 1 (21:44):
Yeah, that's the general consensus.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
So yeah, you know accept people when they're, even
when they're different than youare.
Yeah, so if you could giveadvice to your younger self,
what would it be?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
uh, probably, I guess , like not to care so much, just
in general, because I feel likethat is one of the things.
Like because I'm thinking morelike when I was a teenager, like
the like from like I don't know, 11 to 19, I like just cared
(22:22):
about everything and like Ithink caring about things is
important.
But I also think that, like,sometimes you just have to be
like I don't care, like I don'tcare how I look, I don just have
to be like I don't care, like Idon't care how I look, I don't
care what other people think.
Like just being more like okay,like it is what it is.
Like I feel like that would besomething that I'd be like you
waste so much energy, so muchtime on caring about every
(22:48):
little thing and you don't needto do that.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
Yeah, I would definitely tell myself to get
out of my own way.
Speaker 1 (22:56):
yeah, that's good um what's a recent accomplishment
you're proud of recentaccomplishment I don't know I'm
I haven't accomplished anything,I don't know like just working
with my clients, I guess, likesigning another client, like
(23:26):
signing on to another project,like those things I'm, I'm proud
of, like I mean like workingthrough the things that are
going on, like in therapy, likeI mean even like when Jake and I
, like we're working in couplescounseling, like things like
that that we've like overcome,like certain like barriers or
things that we were strugglingwith, like those feel like
really important accomplishments, absolutely, absolutely so,
like stuff like that.
Speaker 2 (23:46):
Yeah, I was going to say, yeah, mindset stuff that
I've been doing with theresa,like learning to forgive myself
and, um, like myself, yeah,that's good.
Okay, how do you like to relaxand unwind when you're feeling
stressed?
Speaker 1 (24:05):
um there, well, I like to do nothing.
Um, or take a gummy and thenwatch a show um wax my eyebrow
or pluck my eyebrow likeself-care stuff.
Speaker 2 (24:22):
Self-care, yeah, yeah I, I was gonna say like work
out, I mean that's, that's,that's how I relax, like what
brings me, like like peace andcalmness, that does not sound
relaxing to me.
Yeah, I, I, I get on the Pelotonand within 10 minutes I'm
already like I feel better, Ifeel like I can breathe, um and
(24:46):
also lifting weights, likegetting stronger.
Especially at this age, this isprobably the strongest I've
ever been like lifting.
As far as like weights that Ican lift, I wasn't like in shock
that yesterday I was doing thetricep machine, which I don't do
very often.
I mean, I didn't used to do it,but like it's up to what was it
70 pounds.
(25:07):
I'm like I thought that was alot, and then, like I can curl a
30 pound 70 pounds I'm like Ithought that was a lot, and then
, like I can curl a 30 pound, um, 30 pounds, and that I'm like
that's pretty good.
So, yeah, anyway, I.
I also like to watch TV Like Ihave become a TV person and I
like to listen to podcasts a lot.
I listen to podcasts all daylong and music.
(25:29):
Okay, what do you appreciatemost about your family?
Speaker 1 (25:33):
um a lot.
I think there's a lot.
It's also different per person.
I would say, because everybodyhas like different things that
they like offer and in theirpersonality and who they are.
Um, if I was gonna say for you,like I appreciate the way that
you show up, I appreciate theway that you love me, like I
(25:55):
appreciate the things that, likeyou've sacrificed over like my
life, like there's a lot,there's just so much.
Like I could just go on and on.
Like if I was talking aboutJackson, like I appreciate his
humor, like that's somethingthat I love about him, like he's
so funny.
Um, I like Nanny, like Iappreciate the way that, like
(26:18):
she just loves so hard and likeshe is like always believed that
like I could be a superhero.
Basically, yeah, I feel like itwould do.
It depend per person.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Yeah, I agree, I think, um, yeah, I mean, you
know I've told you before that Ifelt like you changed my life
and, um, and you definitely drewme.
You drew me to God and you want, made me want to be a better
person.
I wanted to be worthy of havingyou as a daughter and so, and
(26:58):
you also have been like such acheerleader for me, a supporter,
and I really always Iappreciate that so much.
And and, yeah, you know, withJackson, I Jackson is great
about checking on me, like hecall, he calls me very regularly
and like sometimes it's justlike hey, mom, how's it going?
(27:20):
Hey, mom, how's it going.
That's what he always how we'redoing today, mom, and we're
doing good, jackson, and andsometimes it's just for a few
minutes, I love you, I love youtoo.
Bye, no-transcript.
And um, yeah, and he, and also Iappreciate his insight, it's
(27:43):
just so interesting to me howhis brain works and he's so
funny.
Um, yeah.
And then nanny, like she hasnever given up on me, like she,
she fights for me.
Like she, she tries to protectme in the best way that she can.
Yeah, and yeah, I, I appreciatethat.
(28:07):
And Steve, like I appreciatewhat he brings to our family too
.
And yeah how he loves us andyeah, yeah, and so Jake and I.
I'm just so thankful for Jakeand Jake's um steadiness and his
love for you and his um andalso I think he can be funny too
(28:28):
.
Yeah and yeah.
So I feel like I'm forgettingsome people, but I didn't even
name as many people.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
I didn't even name my own fiance, so yeah, well, I
mean yeah.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
And then I'm like I think of a lot of my friends as
family as well, like my friend,my friend you know, melanie and
Alexis, and Christie and Carrie.
Yeah, all right, we could go onand on.
Okay, is there something you'dlike to learn from me or know
about my life when I was yourage?
Speaker 1 (28:58):
I don't know.
I feel like I've asked you thethings that I wanted to know.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
Yeah, what was a mess at your age?
Speaker 1 (29:14):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (29:16):
I guess I was graduating from college and it
took me forever because Ichanged my mind at the last
minute.
I'm pretty sure around your ageI moved to Atlanta.
I might've been moving toAtlanta at your age.
Um, I graduated and then Ilived in I've run out of room in
(29:39):
someone's house and then I, dadand I broke up for the
thousandth time and I was like Igotta, I gotta get out of here,
like I gotta get out of here.
And so I moved to Atlanta andlived with my high school and
college best friend and we livedin a one bedroom apartment in
Buckhead.
We shared a bedroom and becauseit was a very expensive part of
(30:02):
Atlanta but it was reallypretty and yeah, we shared a
room and but you know, she wasworked in a Nick nick in the
NICU at Grady hospital, which isa big hospital in Atlanta, and,
um, so she worked nights.
So I like feel like you know wewere on totally different
schedules.
Yeah, yeah, but I was, I was, Iwas trying to figure myself out
(30:24):
at your age yeah, I learnedthat I could survive without
your dad.
That is one thing Like I.
I learned that when I was inAtlanta.
But I but I love that I wouldnever not love him.
I got I felt like I healed alot that when I was there, but
(30:45):
that I stopped trying to stoploving him, like I was just
going to love him for the restof our lives, which I guess is
still true.
I mean I don't, you know, I'mnot with him, I don't want to be
with him, but I mean I love him, I'll always I think I'll just
always love him.
Speaker 1 (31:03):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (31:06):
All right, is there um what's a goal you have for
yourself in the next year?
Speaker 1 (31:16):
Uh, to do less, mm, I need to do less.
Yeah, also my counselor.
She agrees with that.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
I need to still get out of my own way.
I need to figure, I need tofigure, I need to figure my
thing out.
I also want to be reallygrateful for what I have been
able to do.
Um, I don't want to give up onmy self or my dreams.
(31:50):
So if you could solve oneglobal issue, what would it be
and how would you do it?
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Oh, I don't have a simple answer for that.
Speaker 2 (32:02):
Yeah, me either.
We can skip that one.
Speaker 1 (32:04):
Yeah, okay.
Speaker 2 (32:05):
Yeah, one.
Speaker 1 (32:06):
I'd only have to choose one.
There's so many global issuesI'd want to fix.
Yeah One, I'd only have tochoose one.
There's so many global issuesI'd want to fix.
Speaker 2 (32:10):
Yeah, it would be like.
Can we at least recognize someof them that are a global issue?
I would start there.
But anyway, what's a recentchallenge you faced and how did
you overcome it?
Speaker 1 (32:23):
That feels like an interview question.
Speaker 2 (32:26):
They always ask that in an interview they always ask
that in an interview um a recentchallenge.
We can skip that too.
We can just give people thequestions, so they have them if
they want them, and okay, Ithink I think letting people
skip questions when you'retrying to connect with someone
is also a valid thing to know.
Um, what's something you'd liketo do with our family that we
(32:47):
haven't done yet?
Oh, I know what I'd like to goskiing, hmm.
Speaker 1 (32:55):
Yeah, that'd be fun.
Speaker 2 (32:59):
I'll take that answer too.
If you could have a superpowerfor a day, what would it be and
how would you use it?
Speaker 1 (33:07):
Um, teleportation, I would do that, and then I would
like go visit a whole bunch ofdifferent like places.
Speaker 2 (33:14):
That would be really cool.
Yeah, I'm going to steal thattoo, because I was going to say
flight, but I like teleportingbetter.
We're almost done.
What's the best piece of adviceyou've received from someone
recently?
Make mistakes, make mistakesalmost done.
What's the best piece of advice?
Speaker 1 (33:35):
you've received from someone recently.
Make mistakes, make mistakes.
That's mine.
I don't know that anyone'sgiven me like specific advice
and like that I can rememberrecently you'll give me good
advice, it's just not coming tomy mind.
Speaker 2 (33:51):
What is coming to my mind is that song letting go,
where it talks about um, thetrick is simply to surrender.
And then at the end of the songit's like make mistakes, make
mistakes, make mistakes.
And it keeps saying it makemistakes, make mistakes.
Speaker 1 (34:04):
And I'm like, yeah, this is good, I think probably
like me talking to my counselorand her being like it's okay to
not overanalyze everything andjust to do, to just be and to do
less like, and I keep sayingthat, but that was like a oh aha
kind of moment for me yeah, um,what's the best memory you have
(34:26):
of us spending time together?
Well, the wedding dress thatcomes to my head, like doing
that.
I was just so like perfect.
Speaker 2 (34:38):
Yeah, yeah, that was good.
I like I like to think aboutwhen we used to watch Gilmore
girls together and when we usedto watch yeah.
Speaker 1 (34:47):
When we watched the bachelor on that like pillow,
yeah, that pillow bed there.
Like pillow yeah.
That pillow bed there for likeforever.
Speaker 2 (34:53):
Yeah, and then you would give me the best foot
massages in the world, like Ijust laughing with you coming to
visit you at camp, yeah, oh,going to New York, oh, yeah.
New York, yeah, when you were16, that was so fun.
Speaker 1 (35:13):
When I came and told you that I was engaged, that was
like such a special, likemoment.
Yeah, when I called you, yeah.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:22):
No, yeah, I loved when you came and told me in the
hotel and we were jumping upand down.
Speaker 1 (35:26):
Yeah, what do you think you're really good at and
why do you enjoy it?
I think I'm good at listening.
I enjoy it because I thinkpeople want to feel heard and
that I feel the same way and Ienjoy being that person for
(35:46):
others.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Yeah, you are good at that.
I think I'm really good atHelping kids love to read.
Speaker 1 (36:02):
True, that is true.
Speaker 2 (36:06):
What scares you most about the future?
Speaker 1 (36:11):
I don't really know that I like feel fearful of the
future.
I just feel like it like, yeah,I don't have fear surrounding
the future, it's just it will bewhat it is.
I don't really want to havefear around the future no, I I
don't either.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
I don't want to either, and even if I start
thinking about things that might, I don't like, I don't want to
be scared about that yeah, I'mlike that's.
Speaker 1 (36:37):
I don't like that question.
Speaker 2 (36:38):
I don't have that.
I don't have that either.
Um, what's the best thing?
This is the last one.
What's the best thing that hashappened you so far in your life
?
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I would say, jake, just like having him in my life
and like being like my person,like my foundation, and like
building like a life with him.
Speaker 2 (37:03):
Yeah, I say you and Jackson, you and Jackson,
definitely they're the best bestpart of my life.
I also feel, you know, recentlyI was talking about, I was
talking to my mastermind aboutum, like not putting pressure on
(37:27):
you and not telling you thatyou ended, you were responsible
for ending generational trauma.
And um, and my friend was likewait, she's like stop.
She's like you, you did that.
And um, and I'm like what doyou mean?
And she's like you know, you,you left.
She's like that took a lot ofcourage.
(37:48):
And you, you stopped.
And I, I didn't give myself.
I've never given myself creditlike that and um, because I've
always thought of it as such asad thing, that for everyone.
But um, but I don't think itwas, I don't think it was sad
for everyone.
I mean I think it was sad foreveryone.
But I mean it was sad foreveryone.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
I mean I think it was sad for everyone but I mean, I
think, I think that coming outon the other side, we all yeah,
yeah.
Yeah, I mean I it was importantfrom?
Speaker 2 (38:21):
was it really important for me to like protect
us and stand up for myself?
Yeah, and um value myselfenough to like stop.
And then you know, obviouslythere's trauma around it and I
hate that part of it.
But but that, that's just lifeyeah, um, also really enjoyed
(38:48):
graduating salutatorian fromFull Sail when I was getting my
master's.
That was one of my favoritethings.
That's cool.
All right, we answered all fiveyeah.
Speaker 1 (39:00):
Yeah, awesome.
Well, if you practice this, ifyou do this with your child,
with your parent, let us knowhow it goes.
Does it make you feel moreconnected?
I mean, I feel more connected,yeah, yeah, yeah.
Well, we will see you in twoweeks.
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