Needs, Rejection, and the Real Meaning of Confidence

In this episode, Charles and Dan take a closer look at Stephen Bartlett’s conversation with Dr. Julie Smith on The Diary of a CEO — exploring what it really means to manage anxiety, build confidence, and grow through self-compassion instead of self-criticism.

They talk about why it’s so much easier to look “not needy” than to actually have your needs met, how rejection ties back to our deepest beliefs about worthiness, and why believable affirmations matter more than positive ones. You’ll also hear reflections on the difference between self-esteem and self-compassion, the myth of instant transformation, and how aligning your daily life with your core values makes sustainable growth possible.

During the conversation, Charles mentions a helpful free tool for exploring your own core values: personalvalu.es
— a simple A/B-style assessment that helps clarify which values drive your decisions and how to realign your habits to match them.

If you haven’t seen it yet, the full Diary of a CEO episode with Dr. Julie Smith is available here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XgemIt_ESxo

For more from Dr. Julie Smith, visit:
 https://www.drjuliesmith.com

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