Perfectionism and people-pleasing aren’t bad habits—they’re survival strategies rooted in patterns of emotional outsourcing learned early in life. When you’re conditioned to regulate your nervous system through other people’s approval or needs, it can keep you stuck in cycles of over-giving, self-doubt, and disconnection from your own truth. Shifting these patterns isn’t just about changing your mindset—it’s about reclaiming your body, rebuilding self-trust, and creating relationships that honor your worth.
In this episode of Mindset Unlimited, I invited Beatriz Victoria Albina to join me in a conversation about ending emotional outsourcing and the 5 steps to shift habits of perfectionism and people pleasing.
Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:
- Why perfectionism, people-pleasing, and co-dependency are rooted in emotional outsourcing—and how that impacts your sense of safety, belonging, and worth.
- The difference between unhealthy empathy and healthy, grounded empathy (and why empathy isn’t the issue, the issue is boundaries).
- Somatic practices and the BRAVE process for shifting perfectionist and people-pleasing habits in everyday life.
- How to build self-trust and regulate stress in small, sustainable steps that support healthier, more interdependent relationships.
Thanks for listening!
Have thoughts on this episode? Send me a voice memo: https://www.speakpipe.com/MindsetUnlimited
LINKS TO REFERENCES MADE IN THIS EPISODE:
CONNECT WITH BEATRIZ
Order the book “End Emotional Outsourcing”
CONNECT WITH VALERIE:
Sign up for Valerie’s newsletter
Apply to be coached on the podcast
Listen to the Unlimited Playlist
This podcast was produced by Valerie Friedlander Coaching
Proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Dateline NBC
Current and classic episodes, featuring compelling true-crime mysteries, powerful documentaries and in-depth investigations. Follow now to get the latest episodes of Dateline NBC completely free, or subscribe to Dateline Premium for ad-free listening and exclusive bonus content: DatelinePremium.com
The Breakfast Club
The World's Most Dangerous Morning Show, The Breakfast Club, With DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, And Charlamagne Tha God!