July 7, 2025 • 40 mins
In this episode, Elena Apalkova is joined by Maeve Lankford, who shares her inspiring transformation journey. They discuss the pivotal role of decision-making in personal transformation and the significance of vision and emotions in life planning. Maeve emphasizes the power and action that stem from making decisions and highlights the importance of trusting the process, advocating for starting with what one has. The conversation is filled with practical advice and encouragement for listeners aiming to transform their lives and achieve their goals.
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Hello.
Hello.
Welcome to mindset two results.
Today, we have amazing guest, Mae Flankford.
She's transformational coach helping people intheir midlife to reinvade their life, to find
purpose, their expand their vision, and reallyget results that they want.
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And, we are going to speak about three steps tocreate the change.
Hi, Maeve.
Hello, Elena.
It's so lovely to be with you today.
You're most welcome.
Most welcome.
I'm happy to have you today as guest anddiscuss this topic.
So many people want the change.
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Yes.
As we ask everyone, like, who wants the change?
And everyone will raise hand.
But if you ask who wants to change, yes, andmaybe there will be not so many hands.
So let's speak today for people who really wantto make the change in their life.
Yes.
Like, that it will be staying.
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Yes.
The results that they want, what are thosethree important steps?
Well, I'll tell you the three up front as I seethem.
Those are to create the vision that you for theend result that you would absolutely love and
to have real clarity with that.
To then decide for that vision, and and you'llknow the power of decision from Bob Proctor.
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And then to take action.
So I I'll talk us through each of those in insequence because they actually come in
sequence, and it's important.
Okay.
Great.
So before we start and go deep in this topic,could you please tell us a little bit about
you?
How did you find that patient?
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How you decided that this is exactly what youwant to help midlife people to find their
mission with their purpose in life and buildresults they really want?
Sure.
So guess I was that midlife person who wantedto make a change.
I was in a job that I used to love but came toa point where I didn't love it so much anymore.
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I felt I'd lost myself in the process that Ididn't feel I could add value in the
organization I was in anymore, and that was areally powerful value for me to feel like I
could impact and create change.
And you know, my kids were growing up anddidn't need me maybe as much, so I was at a
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stage where it was possible.
It felt like it was really possible to makesome changes.
And I would say I lost about seven years of mylife in wanting to make the change but not
knowing how, being afraid of the consequencesof the change, and really just getting more and
more miserable for between seven and ten years.
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And then the day came and I just said I can'tlive like this anymore, and there has to be a
way.
And I know some of the things that I wannacreate even if I don't know how to create them.
And I made a decision for the change.
And from there I started to get some support,take some action, put some mentoring and
coaching around me.
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And part of that change was to do training inhow do you support others to create
transformation.
And I trained with Brave Thinking Institute,set up my own business, and here I am today
podcasting and speaking and teaching andcoaching.
And absolutely so grateful for the version ofme that said yes to making those changes.
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Yeah.
It's so it's so rewarding, yeah, rewarding todo what you want to do.
And, as you said, you spent seven to eightyears just between making decision that it is
like as you mentioned, Bob Proctor would callit that indecision is also decision.
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Yes?
And this is where True.
So much energy is lost.
Yes.
It is more painful to be in that stage indecision because time passes anyway, and you
just feel that you don't get anywhere.
And this is frustration and not feeling thatyou really do what you meant to do.
It drains so much energy and doesn't bringpeople in the happy state.
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So it is really great that you made thedecision for yourself, and now you're helping
other people.
Yes.
Because you already were there, and now you areon the other side of the, wall.
Yes.
So Exactly.
Exactly.
Now you invite those people to come throughthat wall.
Yes.
Jump over it.
Exactly.
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Exactly.
And honestly, like, the pain of that indecisionfor so many years, we we often, I think, look
at the risk of not of of, you know, if I wannamake a big change in my life or I wanna do
something substantial that's different, we lookat all the risks in that.
But what I noticed, and it was true for myselfas well, we don't measure the cost of staying
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and the cost of the indecision which for me wasvery, very, you know, living life at a very
reduced rate.
I remember bumping into a colleague after I hadleft or had made the decision to leave at
least.
Said, he said, you know, how are you?
Haven't seen you in ages.
I said, I'm great.
And he said, Maeve, I think that's the firsttime in six years that I've heard you respond
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positively.
And I was so shocked.
I didn't realize I was so miserable, to behonest, because I was used to feeling
miserable.
Mhmm.
Yes.
And the question is just why?
Yes.
Like, just if people are not happy, why justcontinue that?
Yeah.
Just why continue that?
It seems like, sometimes we put ourselves inthe box, in a very tiny box, and think that
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this is only the safe place.
Yes.
Like, this is only where I can be, like, alittle bit certainty.
But we don't we don't realize how much otheropportunities outside of that box that we are
missing.
And as you Exactly.
So expensive to lose the opportunities becauseit can be so much more than what we can see now
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in from place where we are.
Right?
If we make some steps up, we can see so muchbigger.
Yes?
Like, further horizons opens and so many otheropportunities.
And for that, we have to make decision, as yousaid, and decide that I'm not going to be that
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person anymore.
Yeah.
Who knows that misery and poverty and all theselimitations that I'm a new person with new
standards, and I'm not allowing to acceptanything that is beyond, like, lower than this.
And I think you said a very important wordthere that we we stay in the box because
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there's certainty in the box, and, of course,the brain wants us to stay safe, the mind wants
to keep us within parameters that feel familiarand comfortable.
And I think really that's one of the things Ido as a coach now is I offer people the
certainty of a process that you can apply, andif you follow the steps in the process it will
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create transformation.
Whether you want to create big change or littlechange or something in between, the process
that it's reliable, repeatable, proven systemof transformation that will take you where you
wanna get to.
Yes.
So it is really such a great opportunity tohave that access to personhood, mentor, coach,
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who has already that proven system.
So you don't need to guess anything.
You just do one step at a time, like, drivethose 200 meters, yeah, first, which is
visible.
When you
get Exactly.
Another 200 meters will be visible.
And, like, this step by step, you can go andchange.
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Yes?
And all the change starts from within.
Yes.
Yes.
So so today really is about sharing the firststeps, I suppose, in that reliable, repeatable
system, which is the vision to decide for itand and to to act in accordance with it.
So will we look at the vision piece?
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Yeah.
Let's start with that one.
So let's go to step one.
Yeah.
So again, Stephen Colby talks about start withthe end in mind.
Right?
So so for for us to achieve anything in life,we have to know where it is we want to get to.
And oftentimes again when we talk aboutindecision, people I think can get a bit stuck
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in, you know, I don't know exactly what I wantor I don't know how to forget about the how
until you know the where and the what.
So creating that vision for our lives and againI encourage always with my clients to look at
their lives holistically.
So your health, your relationships, your careeror how you share your talents in the world and
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your time and money freedom.
And often times people kind of think, you know,where do I even start, right?
So I always offer the question, what would Ilove?
And love is a very high frequency vibration.
So when we're asking what would I love asopposed to what can I afford, or what do I
think is possible, or you know, what wouldothers around me agree to, They're very
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different feeling to those questions, and theyproduce different answers?
So when we ask what would I love, you're gonnaget fairly high frequency ideas and images and
suggestions land into your mind.
So that would be the starting point.
And the other thing I would say to people isthat we're not really starting from a blank
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canvas, right?
There were, for me, for example, in my job, Iknew I didn't like feeling I could, you know,
couldn't really make the impact I wanted tomake anymore.
I didn't like my commute at the time.
I wanted to be more in the classroom andinteracting with people rather than arranging
and managing and, you know, doing the planningof those things.
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So there were some things I knew, right?
And for everybody listening to us today, Iwould say the two signals that we get in life
all the time are our longings, the things wedesire to be different, you know, to make more
impact, to maybe have a better salary, to havea different type of commute.
We know what those things are.
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Maybe longing to live by the sea fitter orhealthier or to have a different type of
relationship.
We know those things.
And our discontents are the things that annoyus and frustrate us and that we wish were
different.
So again, you know, the commute or theenvironment, the things you don't like about it
in work or where you live or, you know, thethings you don't like in terms of feeling out
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of breath or feeling that your clothes are tootight.
You know those things, right?
So they give us signs and signals towards whatthat vision could look like.
And as I say, encouraging people to put itacross the full spectrum of our lives.
Your work, your relationships, your health,your freedom of time and money.
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And that's the starting point.
And that most people will never do this, right?
Most people will never sit down and give thattime to planning the results that they would
love in their life.
The the research tells us that more people willspend more time planning their summer holiday
than they will ever do planning their lives.
So let that be a wake up call for all of ustoday.
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This is this is important work to do.
Yes.
Yes.
So true.
As you said, that we have to schedule time,plan time to be with ourselves and ask
ourselves these true questions.
Yeah.
Am I really moving to direction that I want tobe?
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Or I'm just, like my daughter said, like apacket where wind goes, that packet goes.
Yes.
Like Yeah.
Like, empty packet.
Like, do we really have destination where weconsciously take steps every day and where we
want to be and we know why we want to be there?
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Or we just, playing this game to be just,convenient and do something that's convenient
according to the situations in life and nothaving that, really big goal in life because,
it is it is always, hard work.
Right?
Even, to to be convenient, we think that it isconvenient.
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But still it is a lot of things, we have to do.
And if it is not aligned with who we are andwhat is our goals in life, it will not give us
fulfillment, and time will be spent anyway.
Yeah.
I love that.
Time the time gets spent anyway, and it is soprecious.
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I I think they say in the average eighty yearlifespan, they're just four thousand weeks.
I'm so shocked when I hear that every timebecause me no less than anybody, I can easily
squander a week, right?
So we want to see how precious life is.
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And again, when I look back now on all the timeI waste it feeling frustrated in my career and
it didn't need to be that way.
So again, we don't want to have too much energywasted on regrets but just anybody who's in
that situation at the moment and feeling likethere's got to be more to life than this, well,
let Elena and I today be the ones to tell youthere is more to life than that, and and it's
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available for you.
And and start with building your vision for it.
Yes.
And another thing about vision, I would saythat, to build that vision, you have not only,
plan time, but also create the space in yourmind.
As Yeah.
Course, we have so many thoughts and differentworries and different, things going on in our
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mind like that highway with so many cars goingin different directions that we hardly can
listen our intuition, listen really, like, whatwe want.
And so many different layers of, like, which weare put with society, like, is really prestige
to do, yeah, or what is good to do, what is,like, different different opinions of other
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people.
So that is really important to clean up space,to to sit in quietness, like silence, and just,
like, few minutes not to think about anything.
Yes.
To do breathing exercise, just breathe slow.
Focus on breath.
Just to get in that quiet, relaxed state andthen asking these questions.
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Yes.
And, again, not just what I want, but when youget answer to this first question, you can ask
again why I why this is important.
And then you get answer again why this isimportant, like, to five, seven layers.
And then you can really disc discover, here,discover what is really important for you.
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Because this is Absolutely.
That's connected to your true self beyond allthese layers as different viruses which we
collected during our lives.
Yeah.
And I I think that's really important whatyou're saying that as as we're, you know,
uncovering the vision, it it does need to bemade up of things that you really want.
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And, again, you know, in Napoleon Hill'slanguage, you'd have a burning desire for those
results because it's that desire will keep youfocused and keep you going and willing to do
the work.
Because yes, again like you said, there is workinvolved in terms of creating new results.
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But we're working anyway, right?
So to be able to channel that life force energyinto outcomes that we would love as opposed to
just putting up with the same old same old isis really what what starts to make life feel
worth living again.
Yes.
Yes.
Connect with yourself because we were nottaught anywhere how to study ourselves, how to
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understand who we are, how understand ourstrengths.
Yes.
We were not taught that.
We just learned so much disciplines in school,yeah, but we never know who we are.
And we need time to discover, to ask ourselvesquestions, to sit and listen, yes, till we get
the right answer that will really will be yes.
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This is what I want to do.
This is who I am.
Yes.
This is what are my standards.
Yes.
This is my passion in life.
What is, I meant to do?
And this when we come to that, it will help usto create that vision and that picture and see
ourselves and feeling those emotions becauseemotions are very important in this vision Yes.
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Process.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Again, as, Neville Goddard said, the secret isin the feeling.
Right?
And that that's why that question, what would Ilove, helps us to get to that.
Know, I would love that outcome, I would lovethat experience.
Know, it would fill me with joy to go to thoseplaces and hang out with people at that event
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or whatever it is.
So yeah, the feeling is a very important partof it.
So it's the picture of what you want and how doI want to feel.
Because ultimately it's less about the thingsor the job or the place that we live or the
home or whatever.
It's less about those things and what we thinkhaving those things or those experience will
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allow us to feel.
Freedom or fulfillment or abundance or joy orproud about our accomplishments, whatever it
is.
So those feelings are critical to the process.
Yes.
You're absolutely right.
Yeah.
And another thing I would like to emphasizehere, as you said, at this process, you don't
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need to know how.
Just don't think about how you are going to do.
Because once you start asking yourself how I'mgoing to do that, and when you don't know
answer, you will stop right there.
Right?
And Exactly.
Do anything.
So imagine that everything is possible and justallow yourself to fantasize.
Just fantasize and just allow yourself to thinkwhat if it would be possible.
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What if Yeah.
Would be possible?
What you would love to do?
Like, we, like, we were small kids, and we weredreaming.
Yes.
And we enjoyed.
We no.
We didn't have those things, but in our mind,we just allowed ourselves to have that.
And we were living in that picture which wecreated in our mind, and we were so happy and
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joyful.
And our fantasy was working so well.
So this is exact state how we have to getourselves back to the childhood ability to
fantasize, to dream, and feel that.
Feel as they feel.
Exactly.
Exactly.
That childlike imagination is is totally theessence of what we're going for here.
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Yeah.
Yes.
And, also, children demand.
They imagine something, and then they say, Iwant that.
And they don't accept any excuses.
They know that they want that, and they don'tgive up till they get that.
Right?
Also True.
Is attitude.
Like, we decide something, and we want that,and we know that it is for you.
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So our next step will be about decision.
Yes.
So decision, I think Bob Proctor used to say itwas like the single the single thing that could
transform our lives, right, just to make adecision.
And I think the same, right.
We know like when you look at people maybe,know, New Year's resolutions and everybody's
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going to the gym the first couple of weeks inJanuary and the people who are there all year,
they just wait and try to be patient for thosecouple of weeks and then it all peters out.
And I think it's because people go into actiontoo quickly without really making the
commitment to themselves that this is somethingthat I am now becoming.
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This is the person I choose to be.
This is the life I'm living into.
And decision, commitment, I think they're kindaelements of the same thing.
That we make a decision and then we live intoit.
And in that regard then I would say for all ofus again today is that decision is actually a
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daily activity.
That every single day I'm deciding to be theversion of me in my vision.
I'm deciding to take action like the person inmy vision.
I'm deciding to think like the person in myvision.
I'm deciding to be that version of me.
And as I be it, I become it.
So decision, I think, is one of those stepsthat most people miss out on.
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So if somebody spends some time creating avision after today, I would encourage that you
would spend time with that.
You know, give it a couple of days or even aweek or two, you know, you're entertaining the
ideas, imagining the possibilities.
And when you've got it locked into somethingthat you know you would love, I would like
almost write a contract to myself that this iswhat I'm going after, and sign your name, and
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sign the date.
It's like in Think and Grow Rich, you know, thegoal card where you make a very clear
commitment to a result that you want.
And almost make a contract with yourself thatthis I'm going after this and be all in about
it.
If you really believed you could have it, ifyou really believed, you know, that there was
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no possibility of failure, go after it withthat kind of energy and see see how you can
really make changes very quickly.
Yes.
Yes.
It is all about energy.
So for you to flip to that frequency, you haveto make decision.
Because before you make decision, you are inthat indecision mode.
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Shall I do that or not?
Have I, like, planned that or not?
Yes.
And this you are in that energy which doesn'tdoesn't align is not aligned with what you
want.
Right?
So you have to get to the frequency of yourgoal.
And this is how it happens when you make adecision, you start seeing you're there
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already.
Yes?
And this is how you start thinking, feelingfrom that result which you want.
And this should be decision which doesn't,depend on different factors.
Like, it is noted, oh, I will go there if I getmoney or if something happens.
No.
As soon as you start telling if or when, it isit just goes back and nothing happens.
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So you have to make that irrevocable committeddecision.
It means that it does matter what, I am goingfor that.
And this is this is energy which you create andthis commitment that will make the change
because you don't know how it will happen, andyou don't need to have resources to make
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decision.
But when you make decision, from this moment,things start to happen.
And when you create this energy of commitmentand you see yourself there, then you will start
getting ideas.
And because you're already in that frequency,subconscious your subconscious will start
matching that frequency where you see yourselfwith your situations in life, and it started
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feeding those situation to help you get there.
Yeah.
This is how it works.
Yeah.
And sometimes I I I don't know if if it was BobProctor used this phrase, but, like, it's an
advanced decision.
Right?
I'm making the decision now that, you know, I Idon't know.
For me at the moment, I'm off coffee, right?
So I made an advanced decision a couple ofmonths ago that I'm not drinking coffee
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anymore.
So now when I go to an event or I meet with agirlfriend or a client and they offer me
coffee, it's no because that decision has beenmade.
And I'm equivocating in moment, will I, won'tI, should I, shouldn't I?
It's just no.
That decision is made.
So yeah, advanced decision.
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And I suppose the other thing around decisionis that you know it's a decision when you're
living by it.
Or to put it another way, you know it's adecision when you've backed your decision with
action.
So if I'm Mhmm.
You know, if I'm not drinking coffee, if that'sgonna be an example for today, then one of the
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things I'm doing is what are my alternativedrinks.
So I have dandelion coffee, or I have herbalteas, I have green tea, and they're all set up
so that action is in place so that every time Iput on the kettle I'm not again revisiting my
decision.
I've already backed it with action and I'vestocked the things in the cupboard that I need
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to have to support that decision.
So, again, for everybody, it's it's looking athow can I give evidence that this decision is
enacted?
Yes.
Yes.
So true.
Yes.
We create our new identity.
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Yes.
And those decisions are part of our newidentity.
Yes.
We don't compromise them.
We just decide that from today, I'm thatperson.
And you can write your identity or yourdescription of your self image.
I am person who does this, and I'm Yeah.
Who doesn't do that.
Right?
So in your case, it is I'm person who don'tdoesn't drink coffee anymore and drinks
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Exactly.
And more you read your script and analyzescript, visualize yourself as that person
healthy and who doesn't need any coffee anymoreto be to have energy.
Yes.
This is how it will be.
And then you will start getting that energyfrom different alternatives.
As for me, I decided to walk every day 10,000steps.
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And in Wow.
It was like, oh, 10,000 steps.
It is too much.
But when I started walking 10,000 steps, first,I feel good.
I get happy.
I see that my body becomes fit, and I enjoy theprocess.
And it is not even difficult.
I can walk.
I just become, like, aware of that.
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Yes.
And I'm just taking steps.
So it's not even difficult because we walkanyway.
Yes.
But Yes.
To make it consciously, we just know how muchextra we have to make steps to make it 10 k 10
k per day.
But what we get attention and measure, this iswhat we can manage.
Yes?
And, this is also in our life when we focus onwhat we want to achieve, what we want to do,
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and our intention goes that way.
This is how Yes.
Energy also goes there, and we see thateverything start connecting.
Yeah.
Yeah.
For sure.
For sure.
Great.
So our next step is action.
Our next step is action.
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So if I hope this doesn't kinda soundcontradictory in any way, but the first thing I
want to say about action is who are you beingas you're taking the action?
So showing up, if my goals or my vision or mydream is that I'm gonna be a more healthy
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person and I'm taking action on my health, howcan I be that healthy version of me as I'm
taking that action?
So an example might be instead of you know,bemoaning that I can't have the coffee, I'm
taking pleasure in the green tea or whateverother beverage I'm choosing.
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Or you know, if I'm going to the gym or I'mwalking my 10,000 steps, that I'm walking them
as person in my vision who's getting thebenefit of that, and who's enjoying it, as
opposed to being bit of a curmudgeon about it,you know, this is awful and I have to do it,
and blah blah.
So that energy that we're bringing to to thetaking of the action is probably at least as
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important as the action itself.
Does that make sense?
Yes.
Of course.
And, also, it's important to celebrate.
Yes.
You make decision.
You do steps.
Even if they are small steps, but it is veryimportant to celebrate those wins until I did
that.
I set that plan for today.
I did this.
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So good.
Yes.
I'm going to continue.
Yeah.
Because we need that encouragement.
Yes.
Like, reinforcing that we are doing this, thatwe can do that.
We are on the way.
And Absolutely.
Mind will create other ways how to achieve evenbigger steps.
Yep.
Yep.
For sure.
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Sometimes I talk about it, like, having an openhand as as I'm taking the action.
If you imagine like, if if I give a differentexample, when I went out, I left a very safe,
safe secure public sector job and started toset up my own business.
And in the early probably years, definitelymonths, there was a lot of that kind of push
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energy that this better work.
I'd be making calls or creating offers andcreating trainings and just like this better
work, this better work.
And I wanna invite you with me now just to makea fist like this and anybody listening to us,
you make the fist and hold it really tight andreally tight and really tight and it hurts,
right?
And it takes effort.
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And then if we can just open out our hand, justthe difference that it feels.
So taking the action from that kind of openhanded energy that I'm just trusting the
process, I'm doing what I know I can do.
I'm engaging with my vision, I've made thedecision, I'm showing up as that person living
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out the decision and the commitment.
And as I do that, I'm trusting that I amcreating the transformation.
I'm becoming that person.
I'm living into my vision.
And as I come from it, I become it, right?
So it's that kind of ease around the taking ofthe action and just trusting the process.
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And again, we can't always see the evidence inthe early days or weeks.
I mean I think we do see some early evidence.
You talked about you started doing your 10,000steps and you started to feel good, right?
And your body felt better for it.
So I think when we are, we've done thevisioning and we are in alignment and we're
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taking the action, we do start to feel goodeven though we don't maybe see big changes yet
in the outer environment.
But as we keep going, Deepak Chopra says, whenwe feel good, we do good, right?
So we keep going and again, celebrating thewins, we feel good, we do more good, we keep
going.
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And if we do that, inevitably, we're gonnabring the result into our lived experience
every time.
Mhmm.
Yeah.
Definitely.
Definitely.
You start taking actions.
You'll get results that will give you moreconfidence.
Also, you become, more, experienced.
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Yes.
You know how to do it better.
So more experience come, and you become like,do it even better every time, better and
better.
Again, confidence grows, and you can see this.
And move here step by step.
You don't think about all the journey where youwant to be.
Think about what first step I can do, How can Ibe resourceful from where I am, what I have
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now, what I can do, what is the first step?
And Yes.
Some people can plan long time planningplanning and never start.
So it is important just to start where you arewith what you have.
Just see what is the first step.
Make decision.
Do that first step, and then you will see howanother door will open.
So from that place, you will see another firststep.
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Yes.
So it is like this.
Yes.
You go just to so far how you can see, it isexpecting expecting that it will be open for
you.
Yes.
So it is Yeah.
Your it is very important to believe inyourself and also to trust the universe will
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open the door for you that have the faith.
Yes.
Have the faith also to those bigger, like,invisible forces, like, bigger something bigger
than you, god, or people call universe orsupreme power or whatever.
Mhmm.
Believe.
Yes.
Because it is not good just to rely onyourself.
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Because we are very limited in our scene.
We in this three d if we just live in thisthree d reality, we miss so much because there
are a lot of more than three d reality.
Right?
So we have in our vision and our decisionactions always come from the bigger place than
what we have now.
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Because if we just make our assumptions fromwhat we see now, we will not do anything
different.
So we have to have that big vision and make ourassumptions already from that place.
Yes.
From if it would be already reality, how Iwould think, how I would act, how I would feel.
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And this is how who we have to become.
Like, living in this place now physically, butmentally, we have to be already in that
picture, involved Yes.
Picture, picture, taking our making ourdecisions from that place, not from where we
are now.
Yeah.
And, again, it's like that that that end resultvision, that higher frequency, is informing how
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we're acting, right?
If I already had it, how would I be showing up?
I'd be enthusiastic, I'd be confident, I'd bewilling, you know?
So again, it's all kind of intertwined, and itkeeps coming back to the vision, right?
How can I be that person?
How can I think like that?
How can I act like that?
So the vision is the starting point.
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And of course it changes, right?
So our vision on the July 25 in in anothermonth, in another year when I've achieved some
of those things that I can only see now in July25, you know, in in a year's time, three year's
time, maybe many of those things will alreadybe complete, right?
And and there'll be other longings anddiscontents in my environment, and and I go to
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a new level and a new level and a new level.
So on and on it goes.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah, mate.
Thank you so much, for sharing sharing yourexperience and also your vision and, these
three steps which are so important for people,to change their life here because it doesn't
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make any sense to live for life and doingsomething that we don't like.
Yeah.
Just, as you said, four thousand weeks ineighty years, and we can think where we are
now.
Are we in the half, or we are already in thirdpart of that eighty years?
We can calculate how many weeks we have, and itis real.
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We don't have agreement for five thousandyears.
Yes.
We only have this few weeks, and we know thatevery week passes so fast.
Yes.
So fast.
So it is all about awareness and understandingthat you are here for the mission.
You have the purpose.
You unique you have unique talents and gifts,and you meant to be here for to do something
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that nobody else can do.
So you can tap into your potential, becreative, and see what it's that you really
love to do and be brave to take first.
Yes.
And unlock that potential for you.
Me too.
It's there for all of us.
So, yeah, anybody thinking there has to be moreto life.
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There is, and there's a way to get us and andbe it.
Yeah.
Thank you so much, Maeve.
So before we wrap up this episode, if therewould be one thing that like, for advice that
you would like to share with our audience, whatit would be?
I think it would be just do it.
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You know, whatever it is, the very fact thatyou can, you know, conceive of it, you can
imagine this possibility for your life, itmeans it has to be possible.
So just lean in.
Try some of these tools and strategies.
You know, listen listen to your work, Elena.
Like, there's loads of resources out there, andjust just do it.
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Just do it.
Make a start.
Yes.
And, if you need someone else believe in you,because some people don't believe that it is
possible, they just think, oh, it's just afantasy.
It cannot be reality.
If you if you feel that you need to borrowsomebody's belief, you can borrow our belief in
you.
Yes.
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Because we know it's possible.
As Maeve said, if you think about this, if youyou feel that this is something that you would
love to to do, to have, it means it already isthere because the creation is already done.
It is everything, like, you have in yourfuture, so many different scenarios.
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Yeah.
Unlimited scenarios of your future, and it alldepends what you do today to unlock that
scenario in the future.
So just choose one and do today something,like, steps to in that direction and be
consistent, pray, and connect with like mindedpeople.
Also, you can find coach, mentor who will guideyou, can who can see bigger picture than even
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you can send, who also trust and believe inyou, you can borrow borrow, yeah, if you don't
have your own.
So everything is possible, and you have all theresources.
So it just all starts from you, as we said.
Just make decision, go for it, and give usfeedback.
We would like to hear from you what you ofthese, steps you implemented in your life and,
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what happened, what results got.
It is always good to hear back from you.
Yes.
Thank you so much, Maeve.
It was amazing episode.
We discussed Thank you.
To make change, and I'm looking forward to seeyou again in our future episodes.
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Me too.
Thanks so much for the opportunity today,Elena.
It's been my pleasure.
You're most welcome.
My
Hello.
Hello.
Welcome to mindset two results.
Today, we have amazing guest, Mae Flankford.
She's transformational coach helping people intheir midlife to reinvade their life, to find
purpose, their expand their vision, and reallyget results that they want.
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And, we are going to speak about three steps tocreate the change.
Hi, Maeve.
Hello, Elena.
It's so lovely to be with you today.
You're most welcome.
Most welcome.
I'm happy to have you today as guest anddiscuss this topic.
So many people want the change.
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Yes.
As we ask everyone, like, who wants the change?
And everyone will raise hand.
But if you ask who wants to change, yes, andmaybe there will be not so many hands.
So let's speak today for people who really wantto make the change in their life.
Yes.
Like, that it will be staying.
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Yes.
The results that they want, what are thosethree important steps?
Well, I'll tell you the three up front as I seethem.
Those are to create the vision that you for theend result that you would absolutely love and
to have real clarity with that.
To then decide for that vision, and and you'llknow the power of decision from Bob Proctor.
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And then to take action.
So I I'll talk us through each of those in insequence because they actually come in
sequence, and it's important.
Okay.
Great.
So before we start and go deep in this topic,could you please tell us a little bit about
you?
How did you find that patient?
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How you decided that this is exactly what youwant to help midlife people to find their
mission with their purpose in life and buildresults they really want?
Sure.
So guess I was that midlife person who wantedto make a change.
I was in a job that I used to love but came toa point where I didn't love it so much anymore.
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I felt I'd lost myself in the process that Ididn't feel I could add value in the
organization I was in anymore, and that was areally powerful value for me to feel like I
could impact and create change.
And you know, my kids were growing up anddidn't need me maybe as much, so I was at a
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stage where it was possible.
It felt like it was really possible to makesome changes.
And I would say I lost about seven years of mylife in wanting to make the change but not
knowing how, being afraid of the consequencesof the change, and really just getting more and
more miserable for between seven and ten years.
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And then the day came and I just said I can'tlive like this anymore, and there has to be a
way.
And I know some of the things that I wannacreate even if I don't know how to create them.
And I made a decision for the change.
And from there I started to get some support,take some action, put some mentoring and
coaching around me.
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And part of that change was to do training inhow do you support others to create
transformation.
And I trained with Brave Thinking Institute,set up my own business, and here I am today
podcasting and speaking and teaching andcoaching.
And absolutely so grateful for the version ofme that said yes to making those changes.
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Yeah.
It's so it's so rewarding, yeah, rewarding todo what you want to do.
And, as you said, you spent seven to eightyears just between making decision that it is
like as you mentioned, Bob Proctor would callit that indecision is also decision.
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Yes?
And this is where True.
So much energy is lost.
Yes.
It is more painful to be in that stage indecision because time passes anyway, and you
just feel that you don't get anywhere.
And this is frustration and not feeling thatyou really do what you meant to do.
It drains so much energy and doesn't bringpeople in the happy state.
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So it is really great that you made thedecision for yourself, and now you're helping
other people.
Yes.
Because you already were there, and now you areon the other side of the, wall.
Yes.
So Exactly.
Exactly.
Now you invite those people to come throughthat wall.
Yes.
Jump over it.
Exactly.
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Exactly.
And honestly, like, the pain of that indecisionfor so many years, we we often, I think, look
at the risk of not of of, you know, if I wannamake a big change in my life or I wanna do
something substantial that's different, we lookat all the risks in that.
But what I noticed, and it was true for myselfas well, we don't measure the cost of staying
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and the cost of the indecision which for me wasvery, very, you know, living life at a very
reduced rate.
I remember bumping into a colleague after I hadleft or had made the decision to leave at
least.
Said, he said, you know, how are you?
Haven't seen you in ages.
I said, I'm great.
And he said, Maeve, I think that's the firsttime in six years that I've heard you respond
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positively.
And I was so shocked.
I didn't realize I was so miserable, to behonest, because I was used to feeling
miserable.
Mhmm.
Yes.
And the question is just why?
Yes.
Like, just if people are not happy, why justcontinue that?
Yeah.
Just why continue that?
It seems like, sometimes we put ourselves inthe box, in a very tiny box, and think that
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this is only the safe place.
Yes.
Like, this is only where I can be, like, alittle bit certainty.
But we don't we don't realize how much otheropportunities outside of that box that we are
missing.
And as you Exactly.
So expensive to lose the opportunities becauseit can be so much more than what we can see now
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in from place where we are.
Right?
If we make some steps up, we can see so muchbigger.
Yes?
Like, further horizons opens and so many otheropportunities.
And for that, we have to make decision, as yousaid, and decide that I'm not going to be that
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person anymore.
Yeah.
Who knows that misery and poverty and all theselimitations that I'm a new person with new
standards, and I'm not allowing to acceptanything that is beyond, like, lower than this.
And I think you said a very important wordthere that we we stay in the box because
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there's certainty in the box, and, of course,the brain wants us to stay safe, the mind wants
to keep us within parameters that feel familiarand comfortable.
And I think really that's one of the things Ido as a coach now is I offer people the
certainty of a process that you can apply, andif you follow the steps in the process it will
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create transformation.
Whether you want to create big change or littlechange or something in between, the process
that it's reliable, repeatable, proven systemof transformation that will take you where you
wanna get to.
Yes.
So it is really such a great opportunity tohave that access to personhood, mentor, coach,
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who has already that proven system.
So you don't need to guess anything.
You just do one step at a time, like, drivethose 200 meters, yeah, first, which is
visible.
When you
get Exactly.
Another 200 meters will be visible.
And, like, this step by step, you can go andchange.
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Yes?
And all the change starts from within.
Yes.
Yes.
So so today really is about sharing the firststeps, I suppose, in that reliable, repeatable
system, which is the vision to decide for itand and to to act in accordance with it.
So will we look at the vision piece?
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Yeah.
Let's start with that one.
So let's go to step one.
Yeah.
So again, Stephen Colby talks about start withthe end in mind.
Right?
So so for for us to achieve anything in life,we have to know where it is we want to get to.
And oftentimes again when we talk aboutindecision, people I think can get a bit stuck
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in, you know, I don't know exactly what I wantor I don't know how to forget about the how
until you know the where and the what.
So creating that vision for our lives and againI encourage always with my clients to look at
their lives holistically.
So your health, your relationships, your careeror how you share your talents in the world and
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your time and money freedom.
And often times people kind of think, you know,where do I even start, right?
So I always offer the question, what would Ilove?
And love is a very high frequency vibration.
So when we're asking what would I love asopposed to what can I afford, or what do I
think is possible, or you know, what wouldothers around me agree to, They're very
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different feeling to those questions, and theyproduce different answers?
So when we ask what would I love, you're gonnaget fairly high frequency ideas and images and
suggestions land into your mind.
So that would be the starting point.
And the other thing I would say to people isthat we're not really starting from a blank
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canvas, right?
There were, for me, for example, in my job, Iknew I didn't like feeling I could, you know,
couldn't really make the impact I wanted tomake anymore.
I didn't like my commute at the time.
I wanted to be more in the classroom andinteracting with people rather than arranging
and managing and, you know, doing the planningof those things.
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So there were some things I knew, right?
And for everybody listening to us today, Iwould say the two signals that we get in life
all the time are our longings, the things wedesire to be different, you know, to make more
impact, to maybe have a better salary, to havea different type of commute.
We know what those things are.
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Maybe longing to live by the sea fitter orhealthier or to have a different type of
relationship.
We know those things.
And our discontents are the things that annoyus and frustrate us and that we wish were
different.
So again, you know, the commute or theenvironment, the things you don't like about it
in work or where you live or, you know, thethings you don't like in terms of feeling out
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of breath or feeling that your clothes are tootight.
You know those things, right?
So they give us signs and signals towards whatthat vision could look like.
And as I say, encouraging people to put itacross the full spectrum of our lives.
Your work, your relationships, your health,your freedom of time and money.
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And that's the starting point.
And that most people will never do this, right?
Most people will never sit down and give thattime to planning the results that they would
love in their life.
The the research tells us that more people willspend more time planning their summer holiday
than they will ever do planning their lives.
So let that be a wake up call for all of ustoday.
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This is this is important work to do.
Yes.
Yes.
So true.
As you said, that we have to schedule time,plan time to be with ourselves and ask
ourselves these true questions.
Yeah.
Am I really moving to direction that I want tobe?
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Or I'm just, like my daughter said, like apacket where wind goes, that packet goes.
Yes.
Like Yeah.
Like, empty packet.
Like, do we really have destination where weconsciously take steps every day and where we
want to be and we know why we want to be there?
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Or we just, playing this game to be just,convenient and do something that's convenient
according to the situations in life and nothaving that, really big goal in life because,
it is it is always, hard work.
Right?
Even, to to be convenient, we think that it isconvenient.
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But still it is a lot of things, we have to do.
And if it is not aligned with who we are andwhat is our goals in life, it will not give us
fulfillment, and time will be spent anyway.
Yeah.
I love that.
Time the time gets spent anyway, and it is soprecious.
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I I think they say in the average eighty yearlifespan, they're just four thousand weeks.
I'm so shocked when I hear that every timebecause me no less than anybody, I can easily
squander a week, right?
So we want to see how precious life is.
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And again, when I look back now on all the timeI waste it feeling frustrated in my career and
it didn't need to be that way.
So again, we don't want to have too much energywasted on regrets but just anybody who's in
that situation at the moment and feeling likethere's got to be more to life than this, well,
let Elena and I today be the ones to tell youthere is more to life than that, and and it's
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available for you.
And and start with building your vision for it.
Yes.
And another thing about vision, I would saythat, to build that vision, you have not only,
plan time, but also create the space in yourmind.
As Yeah.
Course, we have so many thoughts and differentworries and different, things going on in our
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mind like that highway with so many cars goingin different directions that we hardly can
listen our intuition, listen really, like, whatwe want.
And so many different layers of, like, which weare put with society, like, is really prestige
to do, yeah, or what is good to do, what is,like, different different opinions of other
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people.
So that is really important to clean up space,to to sit in quietness, like silence, and just,
like, few minutes not to think about anything.
Yes.
To do breathing exercise, just breathe slow.
Focus on breath.
Just to get in that quiet, relaxed state andthen asking these questions.
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Yes.
And, again, not just what I want, but when youget answer to this first question, you can ask
again why I why this is important.
And then you get answer again why this isimportant, like, to five, seven layers.
And then you can really disc discover, here,discover what is really important for you.
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Because this is Absolutely.
That's connected to your true self beyond allthese layers as different viruses which we
collected during our lives.
Yeah.
And I I think that's really important whatyou're saying that as as we're, you know,
uncovering the vision, it it does need to bemade up of things that you really want.
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And, again, you know, in Napoleon Hill'slanguage, you'd have a burning desire for those
results because it's that desire will keep youfocused and keep you going and willing to do
the work.
Because yes, again like you said, there is workinvolved in terms of creating new results.
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But we're working anyway, right?
So to be able to channel that life force energyinto outcomes that we would love as opposed to
just putting up with the same old same old isis really what what starts to make life feel
worth living again.
Yes.
Yes.
Connect with yourself because we were nottaught anywhere how to study ourselves, how to
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understand who we are, how understand ourstrengths.
Yes.
We were not taught that.
We just learned so much disciplines in school,yeah, but we never know who we are.
And we need time to discover, to ask ourselvesquestions, to sit and listen, yes, till we get
the right answer that will really will be yes.
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This is what I want to do.
This is who I am.
Yes.
This is what are my standards.
Yes.
This is my passion in life.
What is, I meant to do?
And this when we come to that, it will help usto create that vision and that picture and see
ourselves and feeling those emotions becauseemotions are very important in this vision Yes.
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Process.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Again, as, Neville Goddard said, the secret isin the feeling.
Right?
And that that's why that question, what would Ilove, helps us to get to that.
Know, I would love that outcome, I would lovethat experience.
Know, it would fill me with joy to go to thoseplaces and hang out with people at that event
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or whatever it is.
So yeah, the feeling is a very important partof it.
So it's the picture of what you want and how doI want to feel.
Because ultimately it's less about the thingsor the job or the place that we live or the
home or whatever.
It's less about those things and what we thinkhaving those things or those experience will
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allow us to feel.
Freedom or fulfillment or abundance or joy orproud about our accomplishments, whatever it
is.
So those feelings are critical to the process.
Yes.
You're absolutely right.
Yeah.
And another thing I would like to emphasizehere, as you said, at this process, you don't
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need to know how.
Just don't think about how you are going to do.
Because once you start asking yourself how I'mgoing to do that, and when you don't know
answer, you will stop right there.
Right?
And Exactly.
Do anything.
So imagine that everything is possible and justallow yourself to fantasize.
Just fantasize and just allow yourself to thinkwhat if it would be possible.
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What if Yeah.
Would be possible?
What you would love to do?
Like, we, like, we were small kids, and we weredreaming.
Yes.
And we enjoyed.
We no.
We didn't have those things, but in our mind,we just allowed ourselves to have that.
And we were living in that picture which wecreated in our mind, and we were so happy and
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joyful.
And our fantasy was working so well.
So this is exact state how we have to getourselves back to the childhood ability to
fantasize, to dream, and feel that.
Feel as they feel.
Exactly.
Exactly.
That childlike imagination is is totally theessence of what we're going for here.
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Yeah.
Yes.
And, also, children demand.
They imagine something, and then they say, Iwant that.
And they don't accept any excuses.
They know that they want that, and they don'tgive up till they get that.
Right?
Also True.
Is attitude.
Like, we decide something, and we want that,and we know that it is for you.
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So our next step will be about decision.
Yes.
So decision, I think Bob Proctor used to say itwas like the single the single thing that could
transform our lives, right, just to make adecision.
And I think the same, right.
We know like when you look at people maybe,know, New Year's resolutions and everybody's
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going to the gym the first couple of weeks inJanuary and the people who are there all year,
they just wait and try to be patient for thosecouple of weeks and then it all peters out.
And I think it's because people go into actiontoo quickly without really making the
commitment to themselves that this is somethingthat I am now becoming.
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This is the person I choose to be.
This is the life I'm living into.
And decision, commitment, I think they're kindaelements of the same thing.
That we make a decision and then we live intoit.
And in that regard then I would say for all ofus again today is that decision is actually a
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daily activity.
That every single day I'm deciding to be theversion of me in my vision.
I'm deciding to take action like the person inmy vision.
I'm deciding to think like the person in myvision.
I'm deciding to be that version of me.
And as I be it, I become it.
So decision, I think, is one of those stepsthat most people miss out on.
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So if somebody spends some time creating avision after today, I would encourage that you
would spend time with that.
You know, give it a couple of days or even aweek or two, you know, you're entertaining the
ideas, imagining the possibilities.
And when you've got it locked into somethingthat you know you would love, I would like
almost write a contract to myself that this iswhat I'm going after, and sign your name, and
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sign the date.
It's like in Think and Grow Rich, you know, thegoal card where you make a very clear
commitment to a result that you want.
And almost make a contract with yourself thatthis I'm going after this and be all in about
it.
If you really believed you could have it, ifyou really believed, you know, that there was
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no possibility of failure, go after it withthat kind of energy and see see how you can
really make changes very quickly.
Yes.
Yes.
It is all about energy.
So for you to flip to that frequency, you haveto make decision.
Because before you make decision, you are inthat indecision mode.
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Shall I do that or not?
Have I, like, planned that or not?
Yes.
And this you are in that energy which doesn'tdoesn't align is not aligned with what you
want.
Right?
So you have to get to the frequency of yourgoal.
And this is how it happens when you make adecision, you start seeing you're there
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already.
Yes?
And this is how you start thinking, feelingfrom that result which you want.
And this should be decision which doesn't,depend on different factors.
Like, it is noted, oh, I will go there if I getmoney or if something happens.
No.
As soon as you start telling if or when, it isit just goes back and nothing happens.
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So you have to make that irrevocable committeddecision.
It means that it does matter what, I am goingfor that.
And this is this is energy which you create andthis commitment that will make the change
because you don't know how it will happen, andyou don't need to have resources to make
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decision.
But when you make decision, from this moment,things start to happen.
And when you create this energy of commitmentand you see yourself there, then you will start
getting ideas.
And because you're already in that frequency,subconscious your subconscious will start
matching that frequency where you see yourselfwith your situations in life, and it started
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feeding those situation to help you get there.
Yeah.
This is how it works.
Yeah.
And sometimes I I I don't know if if it was BobProctor used this phrase, but, like, it's an
advanced decision.
Right?
I'm making the decision now that, you know, I Idon't know.
For me at the moment, I'm off coffee, right?
So I made an advanced decision a couple ofmonths ago that I'm not drinking coffee
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anymore.
So now when I go to an event or I meet with agirlfriend or a client and they offer me
coffee, it's no because that decision has beenmade.
And I'm equivocating in moment, will I, won'tI, should I, shouldn't I?
It's just no.
That decision is made.
So yeah, advanced decision.
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And I suppose the other thing around decisionis that you know it's a decision when you're
living by it.
Or to put it another way, you know it's adecision when you've backed your decision with
action.
So if I'm Mhmm.
You know, if I'm not drinking coffee, if that'sgonna be an example for today, then one of the
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things I'm doing is what are my alternativedrinks.
So I have dandelion coffee, or I have herbalteas, I have green tea, and they're all set up
so that action is in place so that every time Iput on the kettle I'm not again revisiting my
decision.
I've already backed it with action and I'vestocked the things in the cupboard that I need
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to have to support that decision.
So, again, for everybody, it's it's looking athow can I give evidence that this decision is
enacted?
Yes.
Yes.
So true.
Yes.
We create our new identity.
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Yes.
And those decisions are part of our newidentity.
Yes.
We don't compromise them.
We just decide that from today, I'm thatperson.
And you can write your identity or yourdescription of your self image.
I am person who does this, and I'm Yeah.
Who doesn't do that.
Right?
So in your case, it is I'm person who don'tdoesn't drink coffee anymore and drinks
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Exactly.
And more you read your script and analyzescript, visualize yourself as that person
healthy and who doesn't need any coffee anymoreto be to have energy.
Yes.
This is how it will be.
And then you will start getting that energyfrom different alternatives.
As for me, I decided to walk every day 10,000steps.
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And in Wow.
It was like, oh, 10,000 steps.
It is too much.
But when I started walking 10,000 steps, first,I feel good.
I get happy.
I see that my body becomes fit, and I enjoy theprocess.
And it is not even difficult.
I can walk.
I just become, like, aware of that.
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Yes.
And I'm just taking steps.
So it's not even difficult because we walkanyway.
Yes.
But Yes.
To make it consciously, we just know how muchextra we have to make steps to make it 10 k 10
k per day.
But what we get attention and measure, this iswhat we can manage.
Yes?
And, this is also in our life when we focus onwhat we want to achieve, what we want to do,
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and our intention goes that way.
This is how Yes.
Energy also goes there, and we see thateverything start connecting.
Yeah.
Yeah.
For sure.
For sure.
Great.
So our next step is action.
Our next step is action.
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So if I hope this doesn't kinda soundcontradictory in any way, but the first thing I
want to say about action is who are you beingas you're taking the action?
So showing up, if my goals or my vision or mydream is that I'm gonna be a more healthy
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person and I'm taking action on my health, howcan I be that healthy version of me as I'm
taking that action?
So an example might be instead of you know,bemoaning that I can't have the coffee, I'm
taking pleasure in the green tea or whateverother beverage I'm choosing.
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Or you know, if I'm going to the gym or I'mwalking my 10,000 steps, that I'm walking them
as person in my vision who's getting thebenefit of that, and who's enjoying it, as
opposed to being bit of a curmudgeon about it,you know, this is awful and I have to do it,
and blah blah.
So that energy that we're bringing to to thetaking of the action is probably at least as
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important as the action itself.
Does that make sense?
Yes.
Of course.
And, also, it's important to celebrate.
Yes.
You make decision.
You do steps.
Even if they are small steps, but it is veryimportant to celebrate those wins until I did
that.
I set that plan for today.
I did this.
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So good.
Yes.
I'm going to continue.
Yeah.
Because we need that encouragement.
Yes.
Like, reinforcing that we are doing this, thatwe can do that.
We are on the way.
And Absolutely.
Mind will create other ways how to achieve evenbigger steps.
Yep.
Yep.
For sure.
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Sometimes I talk about it, like, having an openhand as as I'm taking the action.
If you imagine like, if if I give a differentexample, when I went out, I left a very safe,
safe secure public sector job and started toset up my own business.
And in the early probably years, definitelymonths, there was a lot of that kind of push
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energy that this better work.
I'd be making calls or creating offers andcreating trainings and just like this better
work, this better work.
And I wanna invite you with me now just to makea fist like this and anybody listening to us,
you make the fist and hold it really tight andreally tight and really tight and it hurts,
right?
And it takes effort.
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And then if we can just open out our hand, justthe difference that it feels.
So taking the action from that kind of openhanded energy that I'm just trusting the
process, I'm doing what I know I can do.
I'm engaging with my vision, I've made thedecision, I'm showing up as that person living
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out the decision and the commitment.
And as I do that, I'm trusting that I amcreating the transformation.
I'm becoming that person.
I'm living into my vision.
And as I come from it, I become it, right?
So it's that kind of ease around the taking ofthe action and just trusting the process.
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And again, we can't always see the evidence inthe early days or weeks.
I mean I think we do see some early evidence.
You talked about you started doing your 10,000steps and you started to feel good, right?
And your body felt better for it.
So I think when we are, we've done thevisioning and we are in alignment and we're
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taking the action, we do start to feel goodeven though we don't maybe see big changes yet
in the outer environment.
But as we keep going, Deepak Chopra says, whenwe feel good, we do good, right?
So we keep going and again, celebrating thewins, we feel good, we do more good, we keep
going.
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And if we do that, inevitably, we're gonnabring the result into our lived experience
every time.
Mhmm.
Yeah.
Definitely.
Definitely.
You start taking actions.
You'll get results that will give you moreconfidence.
Also, you become, more, experienced.
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Yes.
You know how to do it better.
So more experience come, and you become like,do it even better every time, better and
better.
Again, confidence grows, and you can see this.
And move here step by step.
You don't think about all the journey where youwant to be.
Think about what first step I can do, How can Ibe resourceful from where I am, what I have
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now, what I can do, what is the first step?
And Yes.
Some people can plan long time planningplanning and never start.
So it is important just to start where you arewith what you have.
Just see what is the first step.
Make decision.
Do that first step, and then you will see howanother door will open.
So from that place, you will see another firststep.
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Yes.
So it is like this.
Yes.
You go just to so far how you can see, it isexpecting expecting that it will be open for
you.
Yes.
So it is Yeah.
Your it is very important to believe inyourself and also to trust the universe will
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open the door for you that have the faith.
Yes.
Have the faith also to those bigger, like,invisible forces, like, bigger something bigger
than you, god, or people call universe orsupreme power or whatever.
Mhmm.
Believe.
Yes.
Because it is not good just to rely onyourself.
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Because we are very limited in our scene.
We in this three d if we just live in thisthree d reality, we miss so much because there
are a lot of more than three d reality.
Right?
So we have in our vision and our decisionactions always come from the bigger place than
what we have now.
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Because if we just make our assumptions fromwhat we see now, we will not do anything
different.
So we have to have that big vision and make ourassumptions already from that place.
Yes.
From if it would be already reality, how Iwould think, how I would act, how I would feel.
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And this is how who we have to become.
Like, living in this place now physically, butmentally, we have to be already in that
picture, involved Yes.
Picture, picture, taking our making ourdecisions from that place, not from where we
are now.
Yeah.
And, again, it's like that that that end resultvision, that higher frequency, is informing how
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we're acting, right?
If I already had it, how would I be showing up?
I'd be enthusiastic, I'd be confident, I'd bewilling, you know?
So again, it's all kind of intertwined, and itkeeps coming back to the vision, right?
How can I be that person?
How can I think like that?
How can I act like that?
So the vision is the starting point.
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And of course it changes, right?
So our vision on the July 25 in in anothermonth, in another year when I've achieved some
of those things that I can only see now in July25, you know, in in a year's time, three year's
time, maybe many of those things will alreadybe complete, right?
And and there'll be other longings anddiscontents in my environment, and and I go to
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a new level and a new level and a new level.
So on and on it goes.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah, mate.
Thank you so much, for sharing sharing yourexperience and also your vision and, these
three steps which are so important for people,to change their life here because it doesn't
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make any sense to live for life and doingsomething that we don't like.
Yeah.
Just, as you said, four thousand weeks ineighty years, and we can think where we are
now.
Are we in the half, or we are already in thirdpart of that eighty years?
We can calculate how many weeks we have, and itis real.
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We don't have agreement for five thousandyears.
Yes.
We only have this few weeks, and we know thatevery week passes so fast.
Yes.
So fast.
So it is all about awareness and understandingthat you are here for the mission.
You have the purpose.
You unique you have unique talents and gifts,and you meant to be here for to do something
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that nobody else can do.
So you can tap into your potential, becreative, and see what it's that you really
love to do and be brave to take first.
Yes.
And unlock that potential for you.
Me too.
It's there for all of us.
So, yeah, anybody thinking there has to be moreto life.
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There is, and there's a way to get us and andbe it.
Yeah.
Thank you so much, Maeve.
So before we wrap up this episode, if therewould be one thing that like, for advice that
you would like to share with our audience, whatit would be?
I think it would be just do it.
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You know, whatever it is, the very fact thatyou can, you know, conceive of it, you can
imagine this possibility for your life, itmeans it has to be possible.
So just lean in.
Try some of these tools and strategies.
You know, listen listen to your work, Elena.
Like, there's loads of resources out there, andjust just do it.
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Just do it.
Make a start.
Yes.
And, if you need someone else believe in you,because some people don't believe that it is
possible, they just think, oh, it's just afantasy.
It cannot be reality.
If you if you feel that you need to borrowsomebody's belief, you can borrow our belief in
you.
Yes.
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Because we know it's possible.
As Maeve said, if you think about this, if youyou feel that this is something that you would
love to to do, to have, it means it already isthere because the creation is already done.
It is everything, like, you have in yourfuture, so many different scenarios.
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Yeah.
Unlimited scenarios of your future, and it alldepends what you do today to unlock that
scenario in the future.
So just choose one and do today something,like, steps to in that direction and be
consistent, pray, and connect with like mindedpeople.
Also, you can find coach, mentor who will guideyou, can who can see bigger picture than even
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you can send, who also trust and believe inyou, you can borrow borrow, yeah, if you don't
have your own.
So everything is possible, and you have all theresources.
So it just all starts from you, as we said.
Just make decision, go for it, and give usfeedback.
We would like to hear from you what you ofthese, steps you implemented in your life and,
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what happened, what results got.
It is always good to hear back from you.
Yes.
Thank you so much, Maeve.
It was amazing episode.
We discussed Thank you.
To make change, and I'm looking forward to seeyou again in our future episodes.
(40:34):
Me too.
Thanks so much for the opportunity today,Elena.
It's been my pleasure.
You're most welcome.
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