March 18, 2025 • 29 mins
With SO much conflicting information out there, it is possible you are confused with how to lose weight sustainably.
I get it. Just spend a few minutes on Social Media and you will be bombarded with weight loss advice that directly goes against each other.
In this podcast I am going to help you determine if confusion is keeping you stuck, and how to get out of it.
I am also going to talk about what REALLY MATTERS when it comes to losing weight forever.
Enjoy!~Courtney
I'd like to invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation with me HERE to discuss the changes you'd like to make to your body and life. These consultations are fun, powerful, and can be a catalyst for uncovering what needs to change to create a more beautiful body and life. ~ Courtney
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Music. Welcome to Modern body, modern life, the
podcast for women who want tolose weight permanently, feel in
control around food and learnhow to stop obsessing about
their body and food, a modernway of thinking about your
weight, your body and your lifeincludes mindset. I'm body and
life coach, Courtney Gray, andeach week I'm going to teach you
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the mindset tools that arenecessary for changing the way
you eat forever. We will uncoverwhy you're eating when you said
you were going to stop, what todo when you're really craving
something, and how important itis to decide what you want to
believe is possible for you. Ibelieve we can get in the best
shape of our lives at any age, amodern body, a modern life, all
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starts in your mind, and whenyou learn how to manage that,
losing weight permanentlybecomes so much easier. Welcome
to the podcast. Episode 69 isconfusion keeping you from
losing weight. I'm excited todive into confusion because I
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know that there are many of youthat are going to be like,
maybe, or maybe you're thinking,I don't think so. But then by
the end, you might realize thatconfusion might be keeping you
stuck, even at times. So I'mexcited to dive into the
podcast. First of all, let mejust say it's almost spring
break, and my baby, meaning my19 year old, is coming home from
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college, which means I will haveall of my babies here in town.
And I'm really, really excitedabout it. He is a college
athlete, so when, when all thestudents come home from college,
he doesn't come home quite asmuch. And so he's going to be
here for like, two weeks. And Iknow I'm not going to see him as
much as his friends will, butI'm really, really excited to
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snuggle him. I told him. I said,I know that you're going to be
coming and going, but whenever Isee you, I just want to hug and
just hug for a few seconds andjust smell him as gross as that
sounds. Maybe, if you're a mom,you totally know what I mean.
I'm just so excited to have himback, and I know that I'll be
able to have all of my boys overhere together a few times while
he's here. So I'm really,really, really looking forward
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to it. Let's dive intoconfusion. Confusion is a sneaky
bitch, because here's why, itdoesn't feel that bad when we
think of all the negativeemotions, especially when we
think of like frustration andsadness and anger, when you
think of confusion, you're like,I'll take a little confusion
that sounds delightful, so itdoesn't feel that bad. And I
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think for a lot of people, theydon't even recognize they're in
confusion. I know a lot of timesmy clients will come to me and
I'll say, it seems like you'rein confusion. And here's why
this matters. We got to get youout of it. And they're often
enlightened. And so it almostseems like when we're confused,
I'm gonna, I'm gonna reallydescribe it. So so if you're
sitting there thinking, I don'tknow if I'm confused, that
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maybe, maybe you'll see this inyourself. We'll get confused
from time to time, but I wantyou to be able to identify it in
you. Confusion almost seems likewe're really caring for
ourselves. It almost shows uplike we're trying to research
what's best for us. We're tryingto just wait until we're clear.
I have so many women over myover my career so far in terms
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of coaching, that have said tome, you know, I just I once I'm
clear. Once I'm once I know,I'll, I'll move forward. In
fact, at one point I was evenconsidering becoming, calling
myself a clarity coach, becauseso many women, especially, I see
this in midlife, as they startto have their kids move out, or
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they start to reach an age wheremaybe they're getting ready to
retire, they're in this, I don'tquite know, and they don't
consider it a bad place to be.
The problem is some people getin that place and they never get
out of it, and they don't evenrecognize that they're in it,
and they're just like, Yeah, youknow, I'm gonna do a little more
more research, I'm gonna take aclass, I'm gonna think on it,
I'm gonna, you know, it's we getinto consumption. Confusion
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keeps us in consumption. Andwhen I say consumption, what I
mean is it's doing yourhomework, researching. And I
want to remind you that any timewe're researching or doing our
homework, first of all, the mainthe main problem with this is we
really are looking outside ofourselves. Most of the time,
when someone says they'rethinking and researching,
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they're not turning inward.
They're not meditating andjournaling and connecting with
themselves to figure out whatthey want. They're looking for
other people. They're takingmaster classes, they're signing
up for programs, they're gettingbooks, they're listening to
podcasts, and none of thesethings are inherently bad at
all. But how long are we stayingthere? And when we're there too
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long sometimes we have to admitto ourself, we're staying in
confusion, right? What it reallytells us is that we don't have
the answer inside of us. Andhere's why this is a problem,
confusion keeps you from makinga decision when you could
eventually fail. If you knewwhat to do, you would start
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moving forward and taking actionin that direction. And what if
it doesn't work, you might fail,and then what would that mean?
So confusion keeps us stuck notmaking a decision which is safe.
Think about our primitive brain.
Our primitive brain lovesconfusion because it keeps us
right where we are and when itcomes to weight loss and health
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and getting in your best shapeever, confusion is so common,
and here's why, I think, becausewe are intelligent, educated,
amazing women, and we know inour hearts that diets don't work
for the long term. They we knowwe've tried them and they don't
fix the problem, and so weliterally don't know what to do.
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That's kind of what we tellourselves. We literally don't
know what to do, except that,remember, you're here listening
you're here listening to thepodcast. You're resonating with
the podcast. So you do know, youdo know there's a part of you
that says you're confused, butthere's also a part of you that
does know, I believe that partof you that does know, the part
of you that resonates with thispodcast, the even if you're
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like, this girl might be on tosomething. I was talking to one
of my clients the other day. Shegoes the first time I heard your
podcast, I was like, I don'tknow, I don't know what this
girl's talking about, but I'mgonna give her a listen. I we're
laughing, right? So there's apart of you that's confused, but
then there's a part of you thatdoes know, the part of you that
is resonating with my message.
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So I'm going to make a boldstatement to give you some
clarity, and I want you to seeand I want you to feel in your
body, if you resonate with thisstatement, it's not about salmon
or chicken, it's not about spinclass or running. It's not about
using weights or body weight.
It's about feeling in controlenough that in the evenings you
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can stop eating when you saidyou were going to stop eating.
It's about feeling in control onweekends so you don't sabotage
your results that you've beendoing well all week, right?
You've been trying to eat betterall week, and having the control
over the weekend to notsabotage. So it doesn't matter
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whether you're intermittentfasting, focused on protein
coming from meat sources focusedon protein coming from vegetable
sources, whether you do whateverworkout you do, it doesn't
matter whether you're low carb,a low fat, it all of those
things don't matter as much asyou feeling in control to not
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eat the crap When you promisedyou wouldn't eat the crap. I
promise you, this is the biggestproblem I see when women come to
me, you getting into your bestshape ever. Will be reliant on
you being in control of youreating, whatever type of way you
want to eat, whatever type ofway you want to work out. I have
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clients doing drasticallydifferent things in order to
lose weight permanently. I havesome clients that are vegan. I
have some clients that are meatbased. I have some clients that
don't do fruit, some that do alot of fruit, some that do a lot
of vegetables, some that don'tdo vegetables, some run, some
swim, some do yoga, some don'twork out at all. There is they.
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I have the gamut of all of thedifferent clients, but you know
what they're all doing? The onething that is consistent with
all my clients, they arelearning how to feel and control
around food, so they don't grabpretzels at 10pm so they don't
tell themselves, oh my god, Iit's two hours to lunch. I'm
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starving. I'm just going to eata bagel. It doesn't matter what
program or lifestyle you'reliving, as long as you feel in
control to stick to that plan,and as you navigate today
through the rest of your life,you are probably going to change
what you're doing. There havebeen times where I've been
working out really hard. Therehave been times where I wasn't
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working out hard. There havebeen times where I've been more
cardio, times that have beenmore strength based. There have
been more times where I don'teat as much meat, and then I do
eat more meat a whole bunch ofdifferent times. But I'll tell
you what's made the biggestdifference for me is being able
to shut my mouth down, not interms of talking that could
never happen. Shut my mouth downin terms of eating after dinner,
go into a weekend with a bunchof friends visiting, and still
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stick to my plan of eating good,even though I'm not eating
perfect.
The skill to be able to. Have abad day and not go rogue. The
skill to go rogue because I'mhaving a bad day, but get back
on track faster. So I want totake a moment, because I just
talked about the primitive braina little bit. I have a lot of
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new listeners. If you are new,welcome. I'm so glad you're
here. You are going to hear metalking a lot about the
primitive brain. And so I wantto talk for a moment about why
it matters and what it is. Andyou've probably heard in
college, you probably heardabout the primitive brain. But
how does it relate to what we'retalking about here? How it
relates to what we're talkingabout here is our primitive
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brain is wired for us to be inpleasure, out of pain,
conserving energy. And if wethink about 2025 and the amount
of food that is at ourfingertips, through Uber Eats,
through grocery stores, throughpreservatives that make things
last a very long time, throughwhat we have allowed to be in
our home, through what is servedto us, especially here in
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America, all of that, It makesthe pleasure that our primitive
brain is trying to keep us in soeasy. Turning to food is by far
the biggest problem for us ashuman beings. Our primitive
brain wants to keep us out ofpain. And when you and I think
about pain originally, weprobably think of like a
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sprained ankle. But no, ourprimitive brain thinks pain is
any negative emotion, andconfusion is one of them.
Confusion doesn't seem sopainful again. We'll take it. If
someone said, Would you ratherfeel confused today or sad? I'll
take confusion anytime over mostother emotions. But confusion
keeps us safe, because if you'reconfused, you're not deciding to
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go all in on something for you,and that keeps you safe, because
if you go all in on something,there might be frustration,
there might be failure, and allthese other negative emotions.
Again, your primitive brainwants you to feel good, but what
I know, and what I want you toknow, is you getting into the
best shape of your life. Health,wise, feeling wise, body wise.
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This then, which will extend toyour whole life, is going to be
determined on you being willingto feel some negative emotion on
the way there. And you're goingto have to be willing to feel
some negative emotion, becauseat six o'clock tonight, when
you've told yourself that you'regonna have one little piece of
chocolate and cut yourself off.
You are going to feel negativeemotion. Your primitive brain is
gonna say You did so good allday you deserve chocolate, and
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that is going to feel like shit.
But can you become the womanthat allows that shit and then
put your head on your pillow andgo, Oh my god, I did it. Oh my
god, I can't believe I did it.
And so I want to give you arecap of what I'm all about here
at modern body, modern life, ageneral recap of like, what I
teach and what I believe, so youcan know what to expect and how
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I'm different from otherpodcasts. Because you're not
going to get on this podcast.
This is what you should beeating. You're not going to get
that because, again, all myclients are eating different
things, and that's not what it'sabout. I'm not about telling you
exactly what to eat. I know thatyou know what to eat. And if you
don't know, if you're like, NoCourtney, I don't know, Google
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it, it's all there for you. Theinformation is all there when we
tell ourselves we don't have tobe confused. This is what we
think we are so smart. This iswhat we think we need to do and
go all in. I believe we alldeserve to feel good in our
bodies, not only physically, butmentally and when we look in the
mirror. I work mostly with womenthat are in midlife and beyond.
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I have some younger clients, andI love the young ladies, but
mostly the women that come to meare like midlife and beyond the
second half of life. I am almost48 and I want to give you a
thought that I've had for a longtime, and I want you to start
adopting this thought, becauseit will change your life. I'm
just getting started, and I'mgoing to be telling myself this
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until my last breath. I'm goingto be like, You know what? I'm
just getting this is my goal.
I'm going to be in that momentwhere I realize, Oh my gosh,
it's the end of my life, if I'mso lucky to live this long. And
I'm going to say I'm justgetting started, because it's
going to be the dying process.
Is going to be a new process forme, and I'm just getting started
experiencing that process. Howamazing will that be? I have
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this beautiful image of myselfin my last moments with my three
boys around me, and I'm lookingat them and I'm saying, how fun
was that. And if you're new tome, I cry a lot on this podcast.
If you're not new to me, you'relike, Here she goes. Okay, we
have so much informationavailable to us when it comes to
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eating and health, but yet we'remore confused than ever if you
spend even just a little time onInstagram and Facebook,
especially if you follow me. OnInstagram, if you follow me,
mine is more of like a weightloss body account, and so
because you follow me, you areprobably getting a lot of other
weight loss accounts served to.
To you, the algorithm is goingto say, Oh, you like modern
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body, modern life. Well, thenyou're also going to like all
these other things. So what thatmeans is, if you spend time on
there, you are going to beinggiven information about eating
more protein, not eatingoatmeal. Don't eat the veggies.
Just eat fruit. Fruit isbasically sugar, so don't eat
sugar, don't eat don't eatfruit. You should not be running
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if you are over 50, if you're inmenopause, you should not be
doing HIIT workouts. If you'rein menopause, you shouldn't be
intermittent fasting. No,intermittent fasting is what our
body needs to clean outourselves. You should be
intermittent fasting. You shouldbe intermittent fasting for 15
hours. No, you should be doing a24 hour intermittent fast. Or
it's, I guess it's not anintermittent fast. You should be
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doing a 20 hour fast once aweek. You should be walking.
Walking is not good enough. Youneed to walk with a weighted
vest. You need to get at least10k steps a day. Or you're a
loser, right? You need to bedoing low impact. No, you need
to be doing high impact. Youneed to be doing jumping
exercises. Jumping is not goodfor your joints. I mean, Holy
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shit balls. The information isall coming at you, and it all
contradicts themselves. It allcontradicts remember, in the
80s. We were supposed to beeating bagels and pasta. We were
supposed to be eating low fat,everything low fat, not real
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butter, not anything high fat,all low fat, diet soda, right?
So instead of sitting in theconfusion of what to do, we need
to tap into our own intelligenceand our own brilliance and make
a decision that is best for us,go all in and see how it feels.
I've talked on this podcastbefore about how my husband, at
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one point a few years ago, waslike, You know what? I really I
want to go no meat. I want to golow cholesterol. He was really
trying to get his cholesterolbetter. And I'm like, I'll do it
with you. I love vegetables. Iwas trying to bring in more
vegetables to our householdanyways, and he lost weight and
I gained and I was like, huh,good to know that doesn't work
for my body type. And then I wastalking to one of my girlfriends
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who is a naturopathic doctor,and I told her about this that
happened, and she goes, What'syour blood type? And I told her
my blood type. And honestly, Ithink my blood type is AB, but I
don't even remember. I thinkit's AB. I need to look. And she
goes, Oh yeah, that makes sense.
She goes, You need me. So it'slike everyone is different. So
what you need to do is tap intoyour brilliance and intelligence
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and make a decision that youthink is best for you, and be
willing to go all in and see howit feels. But I'll tell you here
is what is missing from all ofthat information you see online,
all that information that peopleare telling you, understanding
how to feel and control aroundfood in a modern society where
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food is at our fingertips and isthe main source of pleasure,
whether you intermittent fast ordo a hit workout or go meat
based, plant based, I'll tellyou what's really important,
having the ability to not eatthree handfuls of pretzels at
8pm having the ability to spendA girl's weekend and not eat
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your face off, having theability to go on a girls weekend
eat a little more fun than younormally do, and be able to come
back Monday morning, not shameyourself, and go back to your
healthy eating. Even just 100years ago, we did not have
access to the food like we dotoday. The food was not created
to be so addictive, so needing,like the ability to control
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ourselves to the degree that wedo, is a pretty new concept.
It's no wonder people arestruggling. I even look at my
childhood and the way my familyate and the amount and the
availability of food, it's sodifferent than today. So I want
you to ask yourself, are yougetting stuck in confusion? And
hit pause on the podcast if youcan, and really just take a
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minute and ask yourself that,and maybe you're not in
confusion all the time. And whenI say, are you in confusion, it
doesn't mean you're walkingaround like an idiot. I know
you're not an idiot, but arethere times when you are
slipping into confusion to avoidmaking a decision and going all
in. And sometimes, maybe thishappens after dinner, or maybe
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this happens in the middle ofyour workday, when you're like,
I don't know. I mean, am Ihungry, or am I not hungry? I
deal with this a lot with myclients. They sometimes are
like, I don't know if I'm hungryor if it's my primitive brain,
and I'm like, Oh, fabulous. Thisis your homework for this week.
Let's practice figuring thatout.
So do you think there's someconfusion there? I have had
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clients who have all theinformation. I have had some
clients, many clients, actually,who have a food plan from a
registered dietitian and are.
Still confused. I cannot tellyou how many times I have had
women say to me if someone wouldjust tell me exactly what to
eat, and I so often say, Butwait a minute. Is that true? If
you say that to yourself, isthat true? I promise you, that's
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not what you need. If that weretrue, dietitians would all be
multiple millionaires and Iwould be out of a job. If that
were true, there wouldn't be somany people struggling. If that
were true, we would all justhire a dietitian or a
nutritionist and be done withthis drama. But even if someone
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said, Oh, Angela, here isexactly what you need for your
blood type, for your age, basedon your hormones, all the
things, here's what you need.
Oh, thank God. The reality is,even if you have that, still you
have to be able to only have oneglass of wine. When you told
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yourself you were only going towant to have one glass of wine,
you still need to be able to goto that high school reunion
weekend and eat the way you saidyou were going to eat and still
have fun. You still need tolearn how to have fun in your
life and eat better. So it isnot about getting the
information. It is not aboutknowing what to eat. You know
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what to eat. It's about feelingin control around food. And this
is so normal. If you are feelinglike, yes, Courtney, you're
right. I am in confusion. It'sso normal, but noticing it and
recognizing it, that it is aprimitive, primal brain block is
really important. Part of theconfusion is that we don't want
to be radically honest, that wedon't have control. Again. If we
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admit that there is a lack inour control, then we're like, I
have to do something about this.
I have to learn a new skill. Ifwe admit that it's pretty
simple, that we have to decidewhat to eat and how we're going
to move our body, then weactually have to do it. And
sometimes what happens is thenwe have to admit that it's our
fault if we don't. And sometimeswe are tired of having things be
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our fault because we shameourselves too much as it is,
especially as women, we arereally tired of shaming
ourselves. So if we're honestand say, Yes, I do have all the
information. If I'm not where Iwant to be, then it's on me. And
sometimes that can be shame. Buthere's what I want to tell you,
you don't have all theinformation. You do need to
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learn to feel in control. Andagain, this is a new concept. We
didn't need this 50 years agobecause food wasn't as much of a
problem as it was for mostpeople. Part of the confusion is
because we're in a rush. Part ofthe confusion is, I know women
have heard me say that when youdo this, when you lose weight in
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a sustainable way, when you loseweight without dieting, it
doesn't go as fast. It doesn'tgo as fast. And I know that all
the programs out there are like,lose weight in 20 days, lose
weight in 30 days. You're gonnafeel so great. And there's a
party that knows it's not thateasy, or else you would have
done it. Else everyone would bedoing it. And so part of you is
like, I'm in a I want this done.
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I'm tired. And if we stayconfused, it keeps us looking
for the fast answer. Part of theconfusion is because we're in a
rush. Another part is that wedon't really believe we can
reach our goals without dieting.
This is very common with thewomen that hire me, that join my
programs. They hire me eventhough they're like, I'm not
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sure this is going to work. AndI'm like, Yep, I actually just
had this conversation with theclient last night. I go, I get
it. I go, but you don't have tobe sure. I know it will work for
you. Just lean on me for now. Wedon't really believe we can
reach our goals without dieting.
We don't really trust ourselvesto learn how to eat better,
because we don't have anyevidence that we've been able to
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do it. But I promise you, it's askill that needs to be learned
and practiced overeating, whichto me, means eating more than
your body needs, and then thatyou can't lose weight. It's not
an information problem. It's anemotional problem. Many people
if, if they feel like they eatpretty good, they don't consider
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themselves overeating. But Iknow for me, I wanted to lose 12
pounds for years, 12 to 15pounds, and I kept saying to
myself, I wasn't overeating, butI was overeating because I was
eating more than my body neededto be at my optimal weight, to
be at my health, healthiestself. And it wasn't an
information problem. It was anemotional problem. It was
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learning a new skill. Problem isthe confusion of, I don't know
what to eat. Keeping you fromlosing weight. Is the confusion
of, I don't know exactly whatworkout program I should be
doing, keeping you from gettingstronger. I've had clients even
say to me, you know, I really Iwant to get stronger, but I
don't know if I should. Startwith weights or start with body
weight. And I said, What do youthink? Let's make a decision
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right now in the next minute,and then they'll say, Oh, I
mean, maybe body weight, great.
Start doing it tomorrow. Andit's like, what's happening?
Let's make a decision and moveforward. The Indecision is
keeping us from getting what wewant. The indecision, the
confusion, is keeping us fromour desires.
I want to challenge you to callBS on yourself if you are
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resonating with this, I want youto start with what you know you
probably shouldn't be eating. Doyou feel like you have control
over your eating? Our primitivebrain loves confusion, because
then we don't have to moveforward. But I want to tell you,
there is no perfect way to eat.
There is no perfect plan. Youhave so many options. So here's
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what I think is really going on.
You know, diets don't work. Theywork for the short term, but
they don't work for the longterm. And you know, living for
the rest of your life on a dietis absurd. You know, you can't
do it. We've all tried. So thereis a level of what to do, but it
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is clear, learn how to eatbetter, move more forever, find
a happy medium between dietingand totally going off the rails,
and learn how to stick to it.
And then the question becomes,how do I eat better? Forever you
gain the skill of feeling incontrol around food, and this is
going to look different for youthan it might for other people.
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And that's okay. It's that's thebeautiful thing. Everyone has a
different life. Everyone hasdifferent circumstances. I hear
a lot of women saying, I wantto, you know, I want to start
working out more, but I can't,because of time. There are women
across the world making time.
There are women that are busierthan you. There are women that
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have less money than you. Thereare women that have diseases
that maybe you don't have, thatare figuring it out it is
possible for you when you getout of confusion. I had a really
great coaching call last night,and we talked on the coaching
call about learning how to messup and get back on track faster.
This is one of those skills thatwill help you eat better
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forever. On this call, I wasteaching my clients that none of
this has to be perfect, that Iknow in the past, whenever
they've lost weight, they'vegone on a diet, and they had to
be perfect. But I was teachingthem in my program, none of this
has to be perfect. And I toldthem, in the end, even when
they're finished working withme, when they have learned the
skill of feeling in control oftheir eating, they will still
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have heartbreak and turn to foodsometimes, but in my program, I
will help them become the womenthat get back on track faster.
And it was so interesting. Oneof the women said she was like,
I'm so glad to hear this,because I know I can't be
perfect anymore. I just knowit's not real for me. I know
life's gonna get tough, but whenI fall off the wagon in the
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past, I go off hard, and I gooff for at least I think she
said she goes off for at least aweek. And this is so common, we
do well, we do well? Do we dowell? Until we don't, and then,
like all hell breaks loose, butfor the rest of your life,
you're going to have heartbreak,you're going to have extreme
stress, you're going to haveextreme sadness, and you're
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going to have a moment where youturn to food to feel better.
It's okay. You're going to behuman for the rest of your life,
even. And this is what I wastelling them, even when you work
with me, and you start feelingin control around food, and you
lose all the weight you want tolose, and you feel like, oh my
god, I'm a different person.
Time is going to go by and youare going to turn to food to
help you feel better, but youare going to be able to get
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right back on track, and that iswhat is going to keep you at
your goal weight and keep younot shaming yourself, and keep
you living as a different woman.
So I hope this podcast aboutconfusion was helpful. I think
confusion is so common, so don'tshame yourself if you're in
confusion. I just want you tounderstand yourself better, and
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if you feel like I need to learnthis skill, then reach out and
right now, you know, schedule aconsultation. You and I can jump
on a call over zoom and have alittle coffee chat, have a
little talk about how I can helpyou feel in control around food,
lose weight forever, feelstronger, feel amazing in your
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body, and this will expand toevery area of your life. So I'm
here for you. There are so manyways to contact me and schedule
consultation. You can message meon Instagram. There is a link in
the show notes that leads you tomy website, and there's my
calendar. You can pick a timethat works best for you. I can't
wait to meet you. Have a greatTuesday. If you are ready to
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lose weight and keep it offpermanently and feel confident
and at peace around food. Iinvite you to head to Courtney
Gray coaching.com to learn abouthow to work with me. I work with
women privately, one on one, andI also offer small group
coaching. There is a link to mywebsite in the show notes you.
Music. Welcome to Modern body, modern life, the
podcast for women who want tolose weight permanently, feel in
control around food and learnhow to stop obsessing about
their body and food, a modernway of thinking about your
weight, your body and your lifeincludes mindset. I'm body and
life coach, Courtney Gray, andeach week I'm going to teach you
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the mindset tools that arenecessary for changing the way
you eat forever. We will uncoverwhy you're eating when you said
you were going to stop, what todo when you're really craving
something, and how important itis to decide what you want to
believe is possible for you. Ibelieve we can get in the best
shape of our lives at any age, amodern body, a modern life, all
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starts in your mind, and whenyou learn how to manage that,
losing weight permanentlybecomes so much easier. Welcome
to the podcast. Episode 69 isconfusion keeping you from
losing weight. I'm excited todive into confusion because I
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know that there are many of youthat are going to be like,
maybe, or maybe you're thinking,I don't think so. But then by
the end, you might realize thatconfusion might be keeping you
stuck, even at times. So I'mexcited to dive into the
podcast. First of all, let mejust say it's almost spring
break, and my baby, meaning my19 year old, is coming home from
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college, which means I will haveall of my babies here in town.
And I'm really, really excitedabout it. He is a college
athlete, so when, when all thestudents come home from college,
he doesn't come home quite asmuch. And so he's going to be
here for like, two weeks. And Iknow I'm not going to see him as
much as his friends will, butI'm really, really excited to
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snuggle him. I told him. I said,I know that you're going to be
coming and going, but whenever Isee you, I just want to hug and
just hug for a few seconds andjust smell him as gross as that
sounds. Maybe, if you're a mom,you totally know what I mean.
I'm just so excited to have himback, and I know that I'll be
able to have all of my boys overhere together a few times while
he's here. So I'm really,really, really looking forward
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to it. Let's dive intoconfusion. Confusion is a sneaky
bitch, because here's why, itdoesn't feel that bad when we
think of all the negativeemotions, especially when we
think of like frustration andsadness and anger, when you
think of confusion, you're like,I'll take a little confusion
that sounds delightful, so itdoesn't feel that bad. And I
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think for a lot of people, theydon't even recognize they're in
confusion. I know a lot of timesmy clients will come to me and
I'll say, it seems like you'rein confusion. And here's why
this matters. We got to get youout of it. And they're often
enlightened. And so it almostseems like when we're confused,
I'm gonna, I'm gonna reallydescribe it. So so if you're
sitting there thinking, I don'tknow if I'm confused, that
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maybe, maybe you'll see this inyourself. We'll get confused
from time to time, but I wantyou to be able to identify it in
you. Confusion almost seems likewe're really caring for
ourselves. It almost shows uplike we're trying to research
what's best for us. We're tryingto just wait until we're clear.
I have so many women over myover my career so far in terms
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of coaching, that have said tome, you know, I just I once I'm
clear. Once I'm once I know,I'll, I'll move forward. In
fact, at one point I was evenconsidering becoming, calling
myself a clarity coach, becauseso many women, especially, I see
this in midlife, as they startto have their kids move out, or
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they start to reach an age wheremaybe they're getting ready to
retire, they're in this, I don'tquite know, and they don't
consider it a bad place to be.
The problem is some people getin that place and they never get
out of it, and they don't evenrecognize that they're in it,
and they're just like, Yeah, youknow, I'm gonna do a little more
more research, I'm gonna take aclass, I'm gonna think on it,
I'm gonna, you know, it's we getinto consumption. Confusion
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keeps us in consumption. Andwhen I say consumption, what I
mean is it's doing yourhomework, researching. And I
want to remind you that any timewe're researching or doing our
homework, first of all, the mainthe main problem with this is we
really are looking outside ofourselves. Most of the time,
when someone says they'rethinking and researching,
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they're not turning inward.
They're not meditating andjournaling and connecting with
themselves to figure out whatthey want. They're looking for
other people. They're takingmaster classes, they're signing
up for programs, they're gettingbooks, they're listening to
podcasts, and none of thesethings are inherently bad at
all. But how long are we stayingthere? And when we're there too
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long sometimes we have to admitto ourself, we're staying in
confusion, right? What it reallytells us is that we don't have
the answer inside of us. Andhere's why this is a problem,
confusion keeps you from makinga decision when you could
eventually fail. If you knewwhat to do, you would start
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moving forward and taking actionin that direction. And what if
it doesn't work, you might fail,and then what would that mean?
So confusion keeps us stuck notmaking a decision which is safe.
Think about our primitive brain.
Our primitive brain lovesconfusion because it keeps us
right where we are and when itcomes to weight loss and health
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and getting in your best shapeever, confusion is so common,
and here's why, I think, becausewe are intelligent, educated,
amazing women, and we know inour hearts that diets don't work
for the long term. They we knowwe've tried them and they don't
fix the problem, and so weliterally don't know what to do.
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That's kind of what we tellourselves. We literally don't
know what to do, except that,remember, you're here listening
you're here listening to thepodcast. You're resonating with
the podcast. So you do know, youdo know there's a part of you
that says you're confused, butthere's also a part of you that
does know, I believe that partof you that does know, the part
of you that resonates with thispodcast, the even if you're
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like, this girl might be on tosomething. I was talking to one
of my clients the other day. Shegoes the first time I heard your
podcast, I was like, I don'tknow, I don't know what this
girl's talking about, but I'mgonna give her a listen. I we're
laughing, right? So there's apart of you that's confused, but
then there's a part of you thatdoes know, the part of you that
is resonating with my message.
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So I'm going to make a boldstatement to give you some
clarity, and I want you to seeand I want you to feel in your
body, if you resonate with thisstatement, it's not about salmon
or chicken, it's not about spinclass or running. It's not about
using weights or body weight.
It's about feeling in controlenough that in the evenings you
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can stop eating when you saidyou were going to stop eating.
It's about feeling in control onweekends so you don't sabotage
your results that you've beendoing well all week, right?
You've been trying to eat betterall week, and having the control
over the weekend to notsabotage. So it doesn't matter
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whether you're intermittentfasting, focused on protein
coming from meat sources focusedon protein coming from vegetable
sources, whether you do whateverworkout you do, it doesn't
matter whether you're low carb,a low fat, it all of those
things don't matter as much asyou feeling in control to not
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eat the crap When you promisedyou wouldn't eat the crap. I
promise you, this is the biggestproblem I see when women come to
me, you getting into your bestshape ever. Will be reliant on
you being in control of youreating, whatever type of way you
want to eat, whatever type ofway you want to work out. I have
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clients doing drasticallydifferent things in order to
lose weight permanently. I havesome clients that are vegan. I
have some clients that are meatbased. I have some clients that
don't do fruit, some that do alot of fruit, some that do a lot
of vegetables, some that don'tdo vegetables, some run, some
swim, some do yoga, some don'twork out at all. There is they.
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I have the gamut of all of thedifferent clients, but you know
what they're all doing? The onething that is consistent with
all my clients, they arelearning how to feel and control
around food, so they don't grabpretzels at 10pm so they don't
tell themselves, oh my god, Iit's two hours to lunch. I'm
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starving. I'm just going to eata bagel. It doesn't matter what
program or lifestyle you'reliving, as long as you feel in
control to stick to that plan,and as you navigate today
through the rest of your life,you are probably going to change
what you're doing. There havebeen times where I've been
working out really hard. Therehave been times where I wasn't
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working out hard. There havebeen times where I've been more
cardio, times that have beenmore strength based. There have
been more times where I don'teat as much meat, and then I do
eat more meat a whole bunch ofdifferent times. But I'll tell
you what's made the biggestdifference for me is being able
to shut my mouth down, not interms of talking that could
never happen. Shut my mouth downin terms of eating after dinner,
go into a weekend with a bunchof friends visiting, and still
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stick to my plan of eating good,even though I'm not eating
perfect.
The skill to be able to. Have abad day and not go rogue. The
skill to go rogue because I'mhaving a bad day, but get back
on track faster. So I want totake a moment, because I just
talked about the primitive braina little bit. I have a lot of
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new listeners. If you are new,welcome. I'm so glad you're
here. You are going to hear metalking a lot about the
primitive brain. And so I wantto talk for a moment about why
it matters and what it is. Andyou've probably heard in
college, you probably heardabout the primitive brain. But
how does it relate to what we'retalking about here? How it
relates to what we're talkingabout here is our primitive
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brain is wired for us to be inpleasure, out of pain,
conserving energy. And if wethink about 2025 and the amount
of food that is at ourfingertips, through Uber Eats,
through grocery stores, throughpreservatives that make things
last a very long time, throughwhat we have allowed to be in
our home, through what is servedto us, especially here in
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America, all of that, It makesthe pleasure that our primitive
brain is trying to keep us in soeasy. Turning to food is by far
the biggest problem for us ashuman beings. Our primitive
brain wants to keep us out ofpain. And when you and I think
about pain originally, weprobably think of like a
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sprained ankle. But no, ourprimitive brain thinks pain is
any negative emotion, andconfusion is one of them.
Confusion doesn't seem sopainful again. We'll take it. If
someone said, Would you ratherfeel confused today or sad? I'll
take confusion anytime over mostother emotions. But confusion
keeps us safe, because if you'reconfused, you're not deciding to
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go all in on something for you,and that keeps you safe, because
if you go all in on something,there might be frustration,
there might be failure, and allthese other negative emotions.
Again, your primitive brainwants you to feel good, but what
I know, and what I want you toknow, is you getting into the
best shape of your life. Health,wise, feeling wise, body wise.
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This then, which will extend toyour whole life, is going to be
determined on you being willingto feel some negative emotion on
the way there. And you're goingto have to be willing to feel
some negative emotion, becauseat six o'clock tonight, when
you've told yourself that you'regonna have one little piece of
chocolate and cut yourself off.
You are going to feel negativeemotion. Your primitive brain is
gonna say You did so good allday you deserve chocolate, and
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that is going to feel like shit.
But can you become the womanthat allows that shit and then
put your head on your pillow andgo, Oh my god, I did it. Oh my
god, I can't believe I did it.
And so I want to give you arecap of what I'm all about here
at modern body, modern life, ageneral recap of like, what I
teach and what I believe, so youcan know what to expect and how
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I'm different from otherpodcasts. Because you're not
going to get on this podcast.
This is what you should beeating. You're not going to get
that because, again, all myclients are eating different
things, and that's not what it'sabout. I'm not about telling you
exactly what to eat. I know thatyou know what to eat. And if you
don't know, if you're like, NoCourtney, I don't know, Google
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it, it's all there for you. Theinformation is all there when we
tell ourselves we don't have tobe confused. This is what we
think we are so smart. This iswhat we think we need to do and
go all in. I believe we alldeserve to feel good in our
bodies, not only physically, butmentally and when we look in the
mirror. I work mostly with womenthat are in midlife and beyond.
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I have some younger clients, andI love the young ladies, but
mostly the women that come to meare like midlife and beyond the
second half of life. I am almost48 and I want to give you a
thought that I've had for a longtime, and I want you to start
adopting this thought, becauseit will change your life. I'm
just getting started, and I'mgoing to be telling myself this
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until my last breath. I'm goingto be like, You know what? I'm
just getting this is my goal.
I'm going to be in that momentwhere I realize, Oh my gosh,
it's the end of my life, if I'mso lucky to live this long. And
I'm going to say I'm justgetting started, because it's
going to be the dying process.
Is going to be a new process forme, and I'm just getting started
experiencing that process. Howamazing will that be? I have
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this beautiful image of myselfin my last moments with my three
boys around me, and I'm lookingat them and I'm saying, how fun
was that. And if you're new tome, I cry a lot on this podcast.
If you're not new to me, you'relike, Here she goes. Okay, we
have so much informationavailable to us when it comes to
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eating and health, but yet we'remore confused than ever if you
spend even just a little time onInstagram and Facebook,
especially if you follow me. OnInstagram, if you follow me,
mine is more of like a weightloss body account, and so
because you follow me, you areprobably getting a lot of other
weight loss accounts served to.
To you, the algorithm is goingto say, Oh, you like modern
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body, modern life. Well, thenyou're also going to like all
these other things. So what thatmeans is, if you spend time on
there, you are going to beinggiven information about eating
more protein, not eatingoatmeal. Don't eat the veggies.
Just eat fruit. Fruit isbasically sugar, so don't eat
sugar, don't eat don't eatfruit. You should not be running
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if you are over 50, if you're inmenopause, you should not be
doing HIIT workouts. If you'rein menopause, you shouldn't be
intermittent fasting. No,intermittent fasting is what our
body needs to clean outourselves. You should be
intermittent fasting. You shouldbe intermittent fasting for 15
hours. No, you should be doing a24 hour intermittent fast. Or
it's, I guess it's not anintermittent fast. You should be
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doing a 20 hour fast once aweek. You should be walking.
Walking is not good enough. Youneed to walk with a weighted
vest. You need to get at least10k steps a day. Or you're a
loser, right? You need to bedoing low impact. No, you need
to be doing high impact. Youneed to be doing jumping
exercises. Jumping is not goodfor your joints. I mean, Holy
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shit balls. The information isall coming at you, and it all
contradicts themselves. It allcontradicts remember, in the
80s. We were supposed to beeating bagels and pasta. We were
supposed to be eating low fat,everything low fat, not real
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butter, not anything high fat,all low fat, diet soda, right?
So instead of sitting in theconfusion of what to do, we need
to tap into our own intelligenceand our own brilliance and make
a decision that is best for us,go all in and see how it feels.
I've talked on this podcastbefore about how my husband, at
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one point a few years ago, waslike, You know what? I really I
want to go no meat. I want to golow cholesterol. He was really
trying to get his cholesterolbetter. And I'm like, I'll do it
with you. I love vegetables. Iwas trying to bring in more
vegetables to our householdanyways, and he lost weight and
I gained and I was like, huh,good to know that doesn't work
for my body type. And then I wastalking to one of my girlfriends
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who is a naturopathic doctor,and I told her about this that
happened, and she goes, What'syour blood type? And I told her
my blood type. And honestly, Ithink my blood type is AB, but I
don't even remember. I thinkit's AB. I need to look. And she
goes, Oh yeah, that makes sense.
She goes, You need me. So it'slike everyone is different. So
what you need to do is tap intoyour brilliance and intelligence
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and make a decision that youthink is best for you, and be
willing to go all in and see howit feels. But I'll tell you here
is what is missing from all ofthat information you see online,
all that information that peopleare telling you, understanding
how to feel and control aroundfood in a modern society where
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food is at our fingertips and isthe main source of pleasure,
whether you intermittent fast ordo a hit workout or go meat
based, plant based, I'll tellyou what's really important,
having the ability to not eatthree handfuls of pretzels at
8pm having the ability to spendA girl's weekend and not eat
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your face off, having theability to go on a girls weekend
eat a little more fun than younormally do, and be able to come
back Monday morning, not shameyourself, and go back to your
healthy eating. Even just 100years ago, we did not have
access to the food like we dotoday. The food was not created
to be so addictive, so needing,like the ability to control
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ourselves to the degree that wedo, is a pretty new concept.
It's no wonder people arestruggling. I even look at my
childhood and the way my familyate and the amount and the
availability of food, it's sodifferent than today. So I want
you to ask yourself, are yougetting stuck in confusion? And
hit pause on the podcast if youcan, and really just take a
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minute and ask yourself that,and maybe you're not in
confusion all the time. And whenI say, are you in confusion, it
doesn't mean you're walkingaround like an idiot. I know
you're not an idiot, but arethere times when you are
slipping into confusion to avoidmaking a decision and going all
in. And sometimes, maybe thishappens after dinner, or maybe
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this happens in the middle ofyour workday, when you're like,
I don't know. I mean, am Ihungry, or am I not hungry? I
deal with this a lot with myclients. They sometimes are
like, I don't know if I'm hungryor if it's my primitive brain,
and I'm like, Oh, fabulous. Thisis your homework for this week.
Let's practice figuring thatout.
So do you think there's someconfusion there? I have had
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clients who have all theinformation. I have had some
clients, many clients, actually,who have a food plan from a
registered dietitian and are.
Still confused. I cannot tellyou how many times I have had
women say to me if someone wouldjust tell me exactly what to
eat, and I so often say, Butwait a minute. Is that true? If
you say that to yourself, isthat true? I promise you, that's
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not what you need. If that weretrue, dietitians would all be
multiple millionaires and Iwould be out of a job. If that
were true, there wouldn't be somany people struggling. If that
were true, we would all justhire a dietitian or a
nutritionist and be done withthis drama. But even if someone
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said, Oh, Angela, here isexactly what you need for your
blood type, for your age, basedon your hormones, all the
things, here's what you need.
Oh, thank God. The reality is,even if you have that, still you
have to be able to only have oneglass of wine. When you told
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yourself you were only going towant to have one glass of wine,
you still need to be able to goto that high school reunion
weekend and eat the way you saidyou were going to eat and still
have fun. You still need tolearn how to have fun in your
life and eat better. So it isnot about getting the
information. It is not aboutknowing what to eat. You know
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what to eat. It's about feelingin control around food. And this
is so normal. If you are feelinglike, yes, Courtney, you're
right. I am in confusion. It'sso normal, but noticing it and
recognizing it, that it is aprimitive, primal brain block is
really important. Part of theconfusion is that we don't want
to be radically honest, that wedon't have control. Again. If we
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admit that there is a lack inour control, then we're like, I
have to do something about this.
I have to learn a new skill. Ifwe admit that it's pretty
simple, that we have to decidewhat to eat and how we're going
to move our body, then weactually have to do it. And
sometimes what happens is thenwe have to admit that it's our
fault if we don't. And sometimeswe are tired of having things be
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our fault because we shameourselves too much as it is,
especially as women, we arereally tired of shaming
ourselves. So if we're honestand say, Yes, I do have all the
information. If I'm not where Iwant to be, then it's on me. And
sometimes that can be shame. Buthere's what I want to tell you,
you don't have all theinformation. You do need to
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learn to feel in control. Andagain, this is a new concept. We
didn't need this 50 years agobecause food wasn't as much of a
problem as it was for mostpeople. Part of the confusion is
because we're in a rush. Part ofthe confusion is, I know women
have heard me say that when youdo this, when you lose weight in
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a sustainable way, when you loseweight without dieting, it
doesn't go as fast. It doesn'tgo as fast. And I know that all
the programs out there are like,lose weight in 20 days, lose
weight in 30 days. You're gonnafeel so great. And there's a
party that knows it's not thateasy, or else you would have
done it. Else everyone would bedoing it. And so part of you is
like, I'm in a I want this done.
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I'm tired. And if we stayconfused, it keeps us looking
for the fast answer. Part of theconfusion is because we're in a
rush. Another part is that wedon't really believe we can
reach our goals without dieting.
This is very common with thewomen that hire me, that join my
programs. They hire me eventhough they're like, I'm not
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sure this is going to work. AndI'm like, Yep, I actually just
had this conversation with theclient last night. I go, I get
it. I go, but you don't have tobe sure. I know it will work for
you. Just lean on me for now. Wedon't really believe we can
reach our goals without dieting.
We don't really trust ourselvesto learn how to eat better,
because we don't have anyevidence that we've been able to
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do it. But I promise you, it's askill that needs to be learned
and practiced overeating, whichto me, means eating more than
your body needs, and then thatyou can't lose weight. It's not
an information problem. It's anemotional problem. Many people
if, if they feel like they eatpretty good, they don't consider
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themselves overeating. But Iknow for me, I wanted to lose 12
pounds for years, 12 to 15pounds, and I kept saying to
myself, I wasn't overeating, butI was overeating because I was
eating more than my body neededto be at my optimal weight, to
be at my health, healthiestself. And it wasn't an
information problem. It was anemotional problem. It was
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learning a new skill. Problem isthe confusion of, I don't know
what to eat. Keeping you fromlosing weight. Is the confusion
of, I don't know exactly whatworkout program I should be
doing, keeping you from gettingstronger. I've had clients even
say to me, you know, I really Iwant to get stronger, but I
don't know if I should. Startwith weights or start with body
weight. And I said, What do youthink? Let's make a decision
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right now in the next minute,and then they'll say, Oh, I
mean, maybe body weight, great.
Start doing it tomorrow. Andit's like, what's happening?
Let's make a decision and moveforward. The Indecision is
keeping us from getting what wewant. The indecision, the
confusion, is keeping us fromour desires.
I want to challenge you to callBS on yourself if you are
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resonating with this, I want youto start with what you know you
probably shouldn't be eating. Doyou feel like you have control
over your eating? Our primitivebrain loves confusion, because
then we don't have to moveforward. But I want to tell you,
there is no perfect way to eat.
There is no perfect plan. Youhave so many options. So here's
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what I think is really going on.
You know, diets don't work. Theywork for the short term, but
they don't work for the longterm. And you know, living for
the rest of your life on a dietis absurd. You know, you can't
do it. We've all tried. So thereis a level of what to do, but it
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is clear, learn how to eatbetter, move more forever, find
a happy medium between dietingand totally going off the rails,
and learn how to stick to it.
And then the question becomes,how do I eat better? Forever you
gain the skill of feeling incontrol around food, and this is
going to look different for youthan it might for other people.
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And that's okay. It's that's thebeautiful thing. Everyone has a
different life. Everyone hasdifferent circumstances. I hear
a lot of women saying, I wantto, you know, I want to start
working out more, but I can't,because of time. There are women
across the world making time.
There are women that are busierthan you. There are women that
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have less money than you. Thereare women that have diseases
that maybe you don't have, thatare figuring it out it is
possible for you when you getout of confusion. I had a really
great coaching call last night,and we talked on the coaching
call about learning how to messup and get back on track faster.
This is one of those skills thatwill help you eat better
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forever. On this call, I wasteaching my clients that none of
this has to be perfect, that Iknow in the past, whenever
they've lost weight, they'vegone on a diet, and they had to
be perfect. But I was teachingthem in my program, none of this
has to be perfect. And I toldthem, in the end, even when
they're finished working withme, when they have learned the
skill of feeling in control oftheir eating, they will still
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have heartbreak and turn to foodsometimes, but in my program, I
will help them become the womenthat get back on track faster.
And it was so interesting. Oneof the women said she was like,
I'm so glad to hear this,because I know I can't be
perfect anymore. I just knowit's not real for me. I know
life's gonna get tough, but whenI fall off the wagon in the
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past, I go off hard, and I gooff for at least I think she
said she goes off for at least aweek. And this is so common, we
do well, we do well? Do we dowell? Until we don't, and then,
like all hell breaks loose, butfor the rest of your life,
you're going to have heartbreak,you're going to have extreme
stress, you're going to haveextreme sadness, and you're
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going to have a moment where youturn to food to feel better.
It's okay. You're going to behuman for the rest of your life,
even. And this is what I wastelling them, even when you work
with me, and you start feelingin control around food, and you
lose all the weight you want tolose, and you feel like, oh my
god, I'm a different person.
Time is going to go by and youare going to turn to food to
help you feel better, but youare going to be able to get
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right back on track, and that iswhat is going to keep you at
your goal weight and keep younot shaming yourself, and keep
you living as a different woman.
So I hope this podcast aboutconfusion was helpful. I think
confusion is so common, so don'tshame yourself if you're in
confusion. I just want you tounderstand yourself better, and
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if you feel like I need to learnthis skill, then reach out and
right now, you know, schedule aconsultation. You and I can jump
on a call over zoom and have alittle coffee chat, have a
little talk about how I can helpyou feel in control around food,
lose weight forever, feelstronger, feel amazing in your
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body, and this will expand toevery area of your life. So I'm
here for you. There are so manyways to contact me and schedule
consultation. You can message meon Instagram. There is a link in
the show notes that leads you tomy website, and there's my
calendar. You can pick a timethat works best for you. I can't
wait to meet you. Have a greatTuesday. If you are ready to
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lose weight and keep it offpermanently and feel confident
and at peace around food. Iinvite you to head to Courtney
Gray coaching.com to learn abouthow to work with me. I work with
women privately, one on one, andI also offer small group
coaching. There is a link to mywebsite in the show notes you.
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