July 8, 2025 • 11 mins
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The inspiration for this podcast came from a reel I saw on Instagram. A woman was being interviewed and said "No one is going to be talking about how you look in your bathing suit at your funeral. Drink the wine, eat the bread!"
I agree. However, I would like to offer a different perspective, one that I believe is more accurate and empowering.
Because often, this way of thinking feels like a permission slip to surrender.
Onward!
~Courtney
I'd like to invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation with me HERE to discuss the changes you'd like to make to your body and life. These consultations are fun, powerful, and can be a catalyst for uncovering what needs to change to create a more beautiful body and life. ~ Courtney
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Unknown (00:06):
Foreign Welcome to Modern body, modern life. The
podcast for women who want tolose weight permanently feel in
control around food and learnhow to stop obsessing about
their body and food a modern wayof thinking about your weight,
your body and your life includesmindset. I'm body and life
coach, Courtney Gray, and eachweek I'm going to teach you the
(00:29):
mindset tools that are necessaryfor changing the way you eat
forever. We will uncover whyyou're eating when you said you
were going to stop, what to dowhen you're really craving
something, and how important itis to decide what you want to
believe is possible for you, Ibelieve we can get in the best
shape of our lives at any age, amodern body, a modern life, all
(00:53):
starts in your mind, and whenyou learn how to manage that,
losing weight permanentlybecomes so much easier.
Welcome to the podcast. Episode86 this is so much more than
weight loss. I'm happy to haveyou here, and I want to dive in
by telling you about this reel Isaw on Instagram the other day,
(01:17):
and I was like, oh. And itreally made me pause, so I
created a whole podcast aroundmy thoughts on this reel, this
woman, this beautiful woman, wasbeing interviewed, and she said
something very powerful. Shesaid, No one is going to talk
about how you looked in abathing suit at your funeral,
drink the wine, eat the bread,live your life. That was the
(01:38):
little clip. I'm sure it wenton. I'm sure, was part of a
podcast episode, but that was alittle clip, and the comments
were on fire, I tell you, likeso like, hundreds and hundreds
of women, really, you know,energetically, nodding their
heads in agreement. And I getit, I really do. I not only do I
get it, I agree. I agree withher. Life is short and no, the
(02:01):
goal is not to have peopleremember us for our waistlines
and for our cellulite freethighs and for how great we look
in a bikini or a one piece, orhow great we look in that dress
at a wedding, whatever it is.
But here's where I want to offera different angle, one that I
think is far more loving and farmore empowering and far more
(02:25):
relevant realistic, I guess,resonating. Because when we hear
messages like I think part of uswants to agree, so we can stop
trying, so we can stop caring. Ithink there's a part of us I
know, for me, for many years, Ijust didn't want to care
anymore. So I would hear littlethoughts like this, and I'd say,
yes, it doesn't matter. And thenwe quietly kind of give up for a
(02:49):
moment. But here's the thing, itfeels like when we hear eat the
bread, drink the wine, all that,it feels like a permission slip
to surrender, and not in a good,peaceful way, in more of a
resigned way, in in a way thatdoesn't really feel aligned. So
(03:09):
here's what it is in the momentit feels like, yes, I want to
just live my life. But theproblem is, when most women give
themselves this kind ofpermission, they don't end up
feeling better. They end upfeeling worse, not just because
of the food, but because we'renot being true to ourselves.
(03:30):
We're not really connected towhat we truly desire. And so
many times you've heard me sayon this podcast, so many times,
but so many times I would go tobed after giving myself a
thought permission, like this,something to the effect of, it
doesn't matter I look great. Myhusband thinks I look great. And
then I would go to bed and Iwould that thought now was, was
(03:52):
long gone, and now my thoughtwas, oh, my god. Why do I keep
doing this? Because what I trulywanted was to be healthier, to
feel in control, to feelconnected, to feel connected to
my body, to feel connected towhat I was putting in my mouth,
to feel connected to my purpose,to feel like I was living in a
(04:13):
way that felt authentic.
And so many of us, I think, arecontinuing this cycle that
leaves us feeling powerless anddisconnected from our body and
from our desire. When we dothis, when we convince ourself
in the moment that no one cares,just eat all the things, we end
up feeling frustrated. We resentourself. We resent that we care
(04:36):
so much, and deep down, we knowwe're living our life on repeat,
right? The same body, the samepatterns, the same regrets, the
same thoughts, over and overagain. And so what I want to
offer you today is this, it iscorrect that no one will talk
about you and your bathing suitat your funeral. No one's going
(04:58):
to talk about how you looked atthe.
At the wedding or at thebarbecue, whatever. No one's
going to talk about that, butyou will talk to yourself about
it every day until then. I'mgoing to say that again, you
will talk to yourself about itevery day until then, and not
just about your body, but howyou feel and how you show up and
(05:20):
what kind of woman you areliving as, how much energy you
have, how free or stuck youfeel, how confident you feel, or
how like frustrated you feel,how you walk into a room or not
walk into a room, because maybeyou don't feel the way you want
to feel in your body,how you avoid the mirror or look
(05:41):
in the mirror and own it, andkind of look at yourself and
love yourself, even as you'reaging, even as we're getting
more wrinkles, even as we'regetting all of the things, the
loose skin, all the things. Thisis so much more than weight
loss. It always has been. Thisis about the woman you're
becoming about the life you'reliving, and when you take your
(06:03):
health seriously, not becauseyou're frustrated, but because
you want tolive a bigger life feel amazing
in your body, you really openthe door to
being a more powerful version ofyou is the best way to say it.
(06:23):
You don't just lose the weight,you gain clarity, you gain
confidence, you gain consistencyand feeling empowered. I have
always thought that when Istarted feeling in control
around food, the feeling Iassociate more than any other
feeling is freedom. And I knowthat that's not if you look at
like a list of feelings, I don'tthink that freedom would be on
(06:47):
there. I should check. I have afew different lists of free
design, a few different lists ofemotions and feelings. I should
check and see if freedom is onthere. But to me, that is what I
felt and what I feel now, freemost of the time I'm not dancing
in daisies all the time.
Sometimes my primitive braintells me just eat the popcorn.
It doesn't matter, and I have tosit with it for a minute. But I
(07:08):
will tell you, 95% of the time Ifeel very free, very free.
When you take your healthseriously, you gain consistency
and self, trust and momentumthat affects every other area of
your life, every single cornerof your life, your relationships
(07:29):
get better, your work getsbetter, your decisions get
faster and sharper. Your joytakes on a new level that it
hasn't ever been before yourvoice gets louder in terms of
you feel more empowered, youfeel like you can be seen. You
can live a bigger life. And Iknow that that's kind of an
(07:50):
abstract thought. You can live abigger life, but I think you
know what I mean when I saythat, like, I feel like there's
a lot of women that just want tolive bigger and I think that
means a lot of things. I thinkit means we don't want to care
about what other people think.
We don't want to make ourdecisions based on what other
people think. We want to trulydo what we want with no
reservations, with no worryingabout other people, or maybe
(08:14):
with a little worrying, butdoing it anyways. To me, that is
a bigger life being authenticand true and feeling free and
powerful.
And when you take your healthseriously, you take yourself
seriously, you finally feel likeyou're not just going through
the motions. You're owning yourlife, and you feel like a
(08:36):
creator of your life. You're notat the mercy of your cravings
and your past habits and yourhormones and your age and your
calendar and any negativeemotions like stress or boredom
or anything like that, you're incharge. And so that is why I do
this work. Yes, I coach on foodand weight, and I coach on a lot
(08:59):
of things. I coach onrelationships and anxiety and
business, and I love coaching onall the things. But really, one
of the reasons why I lovecoaching on feeling in control
of your eating and feeling incontrol of your body and your
movement is because it doesaffect every area of our lives.
So what we're doing is so muchmore powerful and bigger than
(09:21):
weight loss. We're building selftrust. We're creating a life
that feels free. We're creatingyou becoming a woman that feels
like a creator in her own life.
So don't stop at drink the wine,eat the bread. I want you to
take a pause whenever you hearanything like that, or maybe
you'll hear different iterationsfrom people in the moment when
(09:43):
you're at a bar and you're at arestaurant, at a barbecue, maybe
you're going to hear peoplesaying, oh my gosh, life is too
short. We really need tocelebrate. We really need to be
in the moment. I want you to notstop at that thought and just
say Permission granted. I wantyou to go further. I.
I want you to ask yourself, Whatkind of woman do I want to be at
the end of this year? What kindof life do I want to be living
(10:07):
at the end of this year?
What do I want my days to looklike, and what do I want them to
feel like?
Let's make this chapter the onewhere you stop settling and
start stepping into the you thatyou authentically want to be,
not to impress anyone, not toget compliments, not to have
(10:28):
anyone talk about you becauseyou want to think and feel a
certain way about you. Youmatter and you're not done. So I
hope this was an inspiringpodcast for you. I hope you
resonated with hearing thoughtslike that, and you get to decide
(10:48):
what they mean, as opposed tojust using them as a permission
slip to continue living a lifeyou don't want to live. Have a
great tuesday if you are readyto lose weight and keep it off
permanently and feel confidentand at peace around food. I
invite you to head to CourtneyGray coaching.com to learn about
how to work with me. I work withwomen privately, one on one, and
(11:09):
I also offer small groupcoaching. There is a link to my
website in the show notes you.
Foreign Welcome to Modern body, modern life. The
podcast for women who want tolose weight permanently feel in
control around food and learnhow to stop obsessing about
their body and food a modern wayof thinking about your weight,
your body and your life includesmindset. I'm body and life
coach, Courtney Gray, and eachweek I'm going to teach you the
(00:29):
mindset tools that are necessaryfor changing the way you eat
forever. We will uncover whyyou're eating when you said you
were going to stop, what to dowhen you're really craving
something, and how important itis to decide what you want to
believe is possible for you, Ibelieve we can get in the best
shape of our lives at any age, amodern body, a modern life, all
(00:53):
starts in your mind, and whenyou learn how to manage that,
losing weight permanentlybecomes so much easier.
Welcome to the podcast. Episode86 this is so much more than
weight loss. I'm happy to haveyou here, and I want to dive in
by telling you about this reel Isaw on Instagram the other day,
(01:17):
and I was like, oh. And itreally made me pause, so I
created a whole podcast aroundmy thoughts on this reel, this
woman, this beautiful woman, wasbeing interviewed, and she said
something very powerful. Shesaid, No one is going to talk
about how you looked in abathing suit at your funeral,
drink the wine, eat the bread,live your life. That was the
(01:38):
little clip. I'm sure it wenton. I'm sure, was part of a
podcast episode, but that was alittle clip, and the comments
were on fire, I tell you, likeso like, hundreds and hundreds
of women, really, you know,energetically, nodding their
heads in agreement. And I getit, I really do. I not only do I
get it, I agree. I agree withher. Life is short and no, the
(02:01):
goal is not to have peopleremember us for our waistlines
and for our cellulite freethighs and for how great we look
in a bikini or a one piece, orhow great we look in that dress
at a wedding, whatever it is.
But here's where I want to offera different angle, one that I
think is far more loving and farmore empowering and far more
(02:25):
relevant realistic, I guess,resonating. Because when we hear
messages like I think part of uswants to agree, so we can stop
trying, so we can stop caring. Ithink there's a part of us I
know, for me, for many years, Ijust didn't want to care
anymore. So I would hear littlethoughts like this, and I'd say,
yes, it doesn't matter. And thenwe quietly kind of give up for a
(02:49):
moment. But here's the thing, itfeels like when we hear eat the
bread, drink the wine, all that,it feels like a permission slip
to surrender, and not in a good,peaceful way, in more of a
resigned way, in in a way thatdoesn't really feel aligned. So
(03:09):
here's what it is in the momentit feels like, yes, I want to
just live my life. But theproblem is, when most women give
themselves this kind ofpermission, they don't end up
feeling better. They end upfeeling worse, not just because
of the food, but because we'renot being true to ourselves.
(03:30):
We're not really connected towhat we truly desire. And so
many times you've heard me sayon this podcast, so many times,
but so many times I would go tobed after giving myself a
thought permission, like this,something to the effect of, it
doesn't matter I look great. Myhusband thinks I look great. And
then I would go to bed and Iwould that thought now was, was
(03:52):
long gone, and now my thoughtwas, oh, my god. Why do I keep
doing this? Because what I trulywanted was to be healthier, to
feel in control, to feelconnected, to feel connected to
my body, to feel connected towhat I was putting in my mouth,
to feel connected to my purpose,to feel like I was living in a
(04:13):
way that felt authentic.
And so many of us, I think, arecontinuing this cycle that
leaves us feeling powerless anddisconnected from our body and
from our desire. When we dothis, when we convince ourself
in the moment that no one cares,just eat all the things, we end
up feeling frustrated. We resentourself. We resent that we care
(04:36):
so much, and deep down, we knowwe're living our life on repeat,
right? The same body, the samepatterns, the same regrets, the
same thoughts, over and overagain. And so what I want to
offer you today is this, it iscorrect that no one will talk
about you and your bathing suitat your funeral. No one's going
(04:58):
to talk about how you looked atthe.
At the wedding or at thebarbecue, whatever. No one's
going to talk about that, butyou will talk to yourself about
it every day until then. I'mgoing to say that again, you
will talk to yourself about itevery day until then, and not
just about your body, but howyou feel and how you show up and
(05:20):
what kind of woman you areliving as, how much energy you
have, how free or stuck youfeel, how confident you feel, or
how like frustrated you feel,how you walk into a room or not
walk into a room, because maybeyou don't feel the way you want
to feel in your body,how you avoid the mirror or look
(05:41):
in the mirror and own it, andkind of look at yourself and
love yourself, even as you'reaging, even as we're getting
more wrinkles, even as we'regetting all of the things, the
loose skin, all the things. Thisis so much more than weight
loss. It always has been. Thisis about the woman you're
becoming about the life you'reliving, and when you take your
(06:03):
health seriously, not becauseyou're frustrated, but because
you want tolive a bigger life feel amazing
in your body, you really openthe door to
being a more powerful version ofyou is the best way to say it.
(06:23):
You don't just lose the weight,you gain clarity, you gain
confidence, you gain consistencyand feeling empowered. I have
always thought that when Istarted feeling in control
around food, the feeling Iassociate more than any other
feeling is freedom. And I knowthat that's not if you look at
like a list of feelings, I don'tthink that freedom would be on
(06:47):
there. I should check. I have afew different lists of free
design, a few different lists ofemotions and feelings. I should
check and see if freedom is onthere. But to me, that is what I
felt and what I feel now, freemost of the time I'm not dancing
in daisies all the time.
Sometimes my primitive braintells me just eat the popcorn.
It doesn't matter, and I have tosit with it for a minute. But I
(07:08):
will tell you, 95% of the time Ifeel very free, very free.
When you take your healthseriously, you gain consistency
and self, trust and momentumthat affects every other area of
your life, every single cornerof your life, your relationships
(07:29):
get better, your work getsbetter, your decisions get
faster and sharper. Your joytakes on a new level that it
hasn't ever been before yourvoice gets louder in terms of
you feel more empowered, youfeel like you can be seen. You
can live a bigger life. And Iknow that that's kind of an
(07:50):
abstract thought. You can live abigger life, but I think you
know what I mean when I saythat, like, I feel like there's
a lot of women that just want tolive bigger and I think that
means a lot of things. I thinkit means we don't want to care
about what other people think.
We don't want to make ourdecisions based on what other
people think. We want to trulydo what we want with no
reservations, with no worryingabout other people, or maybe
(08:14):
with a little worrying, butdoing it anyways. To me, that is
a bigger life being authenticand true and feeling free and
powerful.
And when you take your healthseriously, you take yourself
seriously, you finally feel likeyou're not just going through
the motions. You're owning yourlife, and you feel like a
(08:36):
creator of your life. You're notat the mercy of your cravings
and your past habits and yourhormones and your age and your
calendar and any negativeemotions like stress or boredom
or anything like that, you're incharge. And so that is why I do
this work. Yes, I coach on foodand weight, and I coach on a lot
(08:59):
of things. I coach onrelationships and anxiety and
business, and I love coaching onall the things. But really, one
of the reasons why I lovecoaching on feeling in control
of your eating and feeling incontrol of your body and your
movement is because it doesaffect every area of our lives.
So what we're doing is so muchmore powerful and bigger than
(09:21):
weight loss. We're building selftrust. We're creating a life
that feels free. We're creatingyou becoming a woman that feels
like a creator in her own life.
So don't stop at drink the wine,eat the bread. I want you to
take a pause whenever you hearanything like that, or maybe
you'll hear different iterationsfrom people in the moment when
(09:43):
you're at a bar and you're at arestaurant, at a barbecue, maybe
you're going to hear peoplesaying, oh my gosh, life is too
short. We really need tocelebrate. We really need to be
in the moment. I want you to notstop at that thought and just
say Permission granted. I wantyou to go further. I.
I want you to ask yourself, Whatkind of woman do I want to be at
the end of this year? What kindof life do I want to be living
(10:07):
at the end of this year?
What do I want my days to looklike, and what do I want them to
feel like?
Let's make this chapter the onewhere you stop settling and
start stepping into the you thatyou authentically want to be,
not to impress anyone, not toget compliments, not to have
(10:28):
anyone talk about you becauseyou want to think and feel a
certain way about you. Youmatter and you're not done. So I
hope this was an inspiringpodcast for you. I hope you
resonated with hearing thoughtslike that, and you get to decide
(10:48):
what they mean, as opposed tojust using them as a permission
slip to continue living a lifeyou don't want to live. Have a
great tuesday if you are readyto lose weight and keep it off
permanently and feel confidentand at peace around food. I
invite you to head to CourtneyGray coaching.com to learn about
how to work with me. I work withwomen privately, one on one, and
(11:09):
I also offer small groupcoaching. There is a link to my
website in the show notes you.
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