Your Weight Loss Starts in Your Brain

This is an important podcast.  As I edited it, I thought, "Everyone needs to listen to this," so I am glad you are here.

To permanently change your weight- body- LIFE....you must change your brain.

I am laying it all out for you, as the first step in real change is understanding why what you have been doing is not working.

I've got you, happy listening.

I'd like to invite you to schedule a complimentary consultation with me HERE to discuss the changes you'd like to make to your body and life. These consultations are fun, powerful, and can be a catalyst for uncovering what needs to change to create a more beautiful body and life. ~ Courtney

Episode Transcript

Unknown (00:06):
Music. Welcome to Modern body, modern life, the
podcast for women who want tolose weight permanently, feel in
control around food and learnhow to stop obsessing about
their body and food, a modernway of thinking about your
weight, your body and your lifeincludes mindset. I'm body and
life coach, Courtney Gray, andeach week I'm going to teach you

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the mindset tools that arenecessary for changing the way
you eat forever. We will uncoverwhy you're eating when you said
you were going to stop, what todo when you're really craving
something, and how important itis to decide what you want to
believe is possible for you. Ibelieve we can get in the best
shape of our lives at any age, amodern body, a modern life, all

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starts in your mind, and whenyou learn how to manage that,
losing weight permanentlybecomes so much easier.
Welcome to the Podcast, episode73 rewiring your brain to make
your weight loss permanent. Ihave been working on some new

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curriculum for my clients inorder to help them reach their
goals faster and easier in amore lovely way. Do you like how
I said that faster, easier andin a more lovely, beautiful way?
Because really permanent weightloss can be an amazing,
transformative experience whenyou do it right. And so I want
to teach you about how yourbrain is wired to keep you right

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to where you are. We're taking alittle walk back to college, a
little conversation about yourbrain, about your prefrontal
cortex, about neuroplasticity.
But I promise you, my goal, myintention, for this podcast, is
by the end, you are reallyunderstanding some of the
concepts that you learned whenyou were in school, and you're
understanding how it applies toyou right now, as you're walking

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around, walking your dog, withyour coffee in your car, all the
things, I have a little bit of acold you might hear at my voice.
I think it sounds kind of sexy.
I'm hoping that you're inagreement with me, but we're
going on with it. We're going onOkay, so I want you, I want to
teach you how your brain iswired to help keep you right

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where you are, which really isto your brain the safest place
you getting better in any way ispotential risk to your brain, is
potential conflict, is potentialdanger. And so you staying at
the weight you're at, stayingmaking the same amount of money
you're making in your samerelationships, same daily

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routines, everything. The sameis the safest place to your
brain, to a part of your brain,and we need to rewire that part
of your brain to createpermanent change. So I want to
dive into neuroplasticity again.
You probably learned aboutneuroplasticity in college, and
if you were like, yeah, yeah,yeah, let's talk about something
more fun. But neuroplasticity isbasically your brain's ability

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to change and adapt throughoutlife in response to feelings and
teachings and learnings anddifferent things happening in
your environment and but Ireally want to break this down
kind of more coffee chat styleinto a conversation that makes
sense to you, that really makesyou apply it to you right now,
as you're walking around, asyou're driving in your car, so

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you can really understand what'shappening in your brain and how
it is potentially limitingwhat's happening in your body.
So think about your brain for asecond, and think about we have
all these neuro pathways in ourbrain. And the definition of
neural pathways, if we Google,the definition is networks in
your brain that enable us tomove our bodies, share

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information, do things liketasting and touching and
learning new things, and, youknow, helping us breathe,
helping us move. All theseneural pathways, they're like
little. I like to think of themas little. I mean actual
pathways in your brain. There'strillions of them in your brain,
and the things that you do onrepeat. I love the example of

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brushing your teeth. Usually youprobably use the same
toothbrush, same hand, you startat the same tooth. You usually
take about the same amount oftime you usually have these very
habitual things in your life.
Those all equate to neuralpathways in your brain. When you
put your shoes on, it's quitepossible that you put the one

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foot on before the other foot.
That is a neural pathway. It'slike, we should put our shoes
on. We do it. We have feelingsabout it. They're probably not
very strong feelings, becauseit's a pretty neutral
experience. But we have allthese pathways in our brain
there. If you think about it,it's like we have habits that we
do, like brushing our teeth andputting our shoes on, but in our
brain are the same habits, andso we have the putting your

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shoes on habit of doing it in.
Action in real time that is alsoa little neural pathway in your
brain. So I like to think ofeverything we are doing in our
lives, when we think something,when we feel something, and when
we do something that constitutesa little neural pathway in our
brain. And so when we thinkabout the habits we do, often,

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they are stronger neuro pathwaysin our brain. If all of a sudden
someone invites me and says,Hey, do you want to go, like,
hit golf balls? And I'm like,yeah, that'd be great. Well, I
don't golf I've probably hitgolf balls five times in my
whole life, so there's not astrong neuro pathway in my brain
for setting up like havingsomeone say, this is how you hit

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a golf ball, sitting there,thinking about it, hitting it,
and experiencing the emotionsI'm feeling, and I'm the muscle
memory, all the things that gointo hitting a golf ball. It's a
very, very thin, thin, tinyneural pathway in my brain,
because I haven't done it a lot,but yet, the neural pathway for
brushing my teeth is strong. Itis well worn.

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So when we talk about youbecoming the woman who does
things differently, we aretalking about you creating and
strengthening new neuralpathways in your brain. In order
to create new neural pathways inyour brain you we need you to
engage in activities thatchallenge your brain, such as
learning something new,exercising, meditating, you

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know, changing your thoughts andyour feelings and your actions
and this all changes your brain.
And so if I went out to the golfcourse with a friend, and I
actually started practicingevery single day, or even three
times a week, or once a week, Iwould have a neural pathway in
my brain, and I would bestrengthening it and
strengthening and strengtheningit. And let me add on to this.

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Let me add on to this example.
Let's say I worked for a yearwith my friend that that is
better, a better golfer than me,but not necessarily that much
better. So let's say she goes,Okay, this is what you're going
to want to do, and she and I forthe next year practice. So there
is going to be a pretty wellworn neural pathway in my brain.

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Of this is how you have to thinkabout it. This is the feeling,
and this is how you hit, all theintricacies of how you hit that
ball. That's going to be a wellworn neural pathway in my brain.
Now, if, after a year I'm like,I'm really loving golf, I want
to go to my next level. I wantto hire someone to help me do
this right? I want to, you know,before I, you know, go any

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farther. I really want to hire aprofessional to help me. And so
I hire a professional, and thatwoman comes in and says, Okay,
we need to tweak some of thethings you're doing. Here's some
things you're doing wrong.
Here's a different way you wantto think about it. Here's, you
know, it's going to bechallenging because you haven't
done it this way. We're kind ofunraveling some of the things
you're doing, and we want to dothings differently. So we are
doing things differently interms of the way I'm holding the

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ball, the way I'm thinking aboutit, the way I'm breathing, maybe
the way I'm arching my back,sweet. I don't golf So, but all
the things are going to bedifferent, right? And then from
that day forward, there is a newneural pathway being born, being
developed in my brain, and it isvery tiny and very not well
worn, because it's new. And whatI'm doing now working with this

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coach and having her teach me anew way of thinking and feeling
and hitting and moving and allthe things. That neural pathway
gets more and more and moreworn. The other neuro pathway,
from my friend that was more ofan amateur that I worked with
for a year, that neural pathway,because I'm not practicing it
anymore, gets smaller andsmaller and smaller and less

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worn. So we're kind of swappingthings out in my brain. I love
giving a non food relatedexample, because you can
probably understand this. It'slike there's so many of my
girlfriends right now playingpickleball. I've many
girlfriends lifting weights forthe first time. My sister and I
just decided we are going tostart playing mahjong. Is that?
Is that how you say it? Is iteven playing is the right way to

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say it. I don't even know. It'slike a tile game. We're gonna
we're gonna do it. We're gonnado it. And I was thinking about
this podcast, and I was like,oh, Mahjong. I don't even know
if I'm saying it right, so youmight be laughing at me, but I'm
like, I there are no neuralpathways in my brain, in my
brain right now for Mahjong, andso I'm gonna start playing this
tile dice. I don't even knowwhat it is this card. It's not a

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card game, because it's withtiles, but I'm going to start
playing this with her, and I amgoing to it's very exciting for
me. I am going to be creating ababy neuro pathway in my brain,
and the more and more wepractice. And maybe I'll watch a
few YouTube videos. Maybe I'llread a book on it, maybe the
history of it, or something. Ireally like diving into things,
I am going to be not onlybirthing a new neuropathway, I'm

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going to be strengthening it.
And so when we think about youand thinking about for a moment,
I want you to just take a momentand think about the woman you
want to become. Now, sometimeswe just go, I just want to lose
10 pounds. Courtney, I don'twant to become a woman. But.
I want you to go deeper, becauseI know that that's not true. I

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know that the reason you want tolose weight is you want to feel
a certain way. You want to movethroughout your life in a
certain way. You want to look inthe mirror and have it be
different. You want to interactdifferent. You want to the
biggest thing I can say is youwant to feel different and you
want to feel in control. Youwant to feel confident, you want
to feel empowered, you want tofeel powerful. If we're going to

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do that, we need to create somenew neural pathways. My hope is
that this podcast is alreadydoing that. I believe it is. I
believe by you listening to thispodcast and loving it and
signing up for my workshops, andthose of you that have worked
with me or working with me rightnow, you are strengthening those
neural pathways in your brain.
You are not only listening, butyou're thinking differently.

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You're trying things outdifferently. You're having some
success. You're having failuresand getting back on track. You
are right now, girl, creatingnew neural pathways and
strengthening those pathways inyour brain. And so not only is
this happening when you're doingnew things, it's happening when
you're stopping old behaviors.
Because not only do you need tostrengthen new neural pathways,

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you need to, I don't know. Wecall it de strengthen, or like
desensitize or shrink, I guessthe old neural pathways. I don't
know, because I'm not ascientist. I don't know if the
old neural pathways ever fullygo away or die off. It's
possible. But what I want you todo is, I want you to strengthen,
create and strengthen new neuralpathways. And let me just say,

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This is why diets don't work.
This is why you know, so many ofus, me and you, we've gone on
diets. We've done a 30 day, atwo week, a 10 week, a cleanse,
all these things, and then atthe end of it, we start going
back into our old ways ofeating, of course, right? And we
then we're mad at ourselves, butthen there's a part of ourselves
that's like we knew this wasn'tgoing to work, because we're

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intelligent. What is happeningwhen you learn about your brain
and neuroplasticity? It becomesso clear why it doesn't work.
First of all, I think that weneed more time. I think if we're
gonna do anything amazing withour life and have any
transformation, we need a littlebit more time. And I think most
the time a diet, one two weeks,three weeks is just not enough

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time. But also, when you're on adiet, and like, I think back to
when I went on hole 30, and Ijust cut out all sugar, all
flour, all that for 30 days thatI wasn't going to sustain that.
So what I was doing in themoment was working on a neural
pathway, a new neural pathway inmy brain that I never intended
to keep working at. When I goback in time. And I think about

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me going on whole 30 I'mimagining that first week I was
creating a new neural pathway.
The neural pathway of, okay,we're not eating any flour,
we're not eating any sugar. I'vegot this. We're doing things
differently. We're amazing. Andso we did that. And then the
neural pathway, because I woulddo it every day, it was
strengthening, strengthening,strengthening. But then at the

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end of 30 days, I was done withall of it. I was done with all
of it, and then I started doingnew things then. Then what I
started doing is I started goingback to the way I was eating,
very slowly, shaming myself as Idid it, putting weight back on,
and figuring out why I wasspiraling out. So can you see
it's almost like such a waste oftime, such a waste of brain

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energy is such a waste of aneural pathway. What I want for
you is, I want to create neuralpathways that you can actually
build on, build on, build on,build on, and become the woman
who this is just who you are.
Now. It's almost like you justdo it. It is just who you are.
The neural pathway is the newyou? Okay, so let's say you've
been listening to this podcastfor a while, and you're trying

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to implement some of what you'relearning beautiful. So maybe
you're trying to catch theexcuses you make. A few podcasts
back I talked about excuses thatwe make. So let's say you're
trying to be really more aware,heighten your awareness and
catch those excuses, becauseI'll tell you the excuses that
our primitive brain offers us,and I'll talk about the

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primitive brain in a moment, butthe excuses the primitive brain
your primitive brain offers you,are different than the excuses
my primitive brain offers me.
All of our excuses are prettyunique, but the beautiful thing
is, our primitive brain sendsthese thoughts, these excuses to
us, and they're very habitual.
Again, they're neural pathwaysin our brain. So let me tell you

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about a neural pathway that wasvery well worn for me for years.
I would eat well all day, andthen right around four or five
o'clock I would all of a suddengo, what? What are we doing
here? I look fine. Why am I evenworried about this? And then I
would make some chips and salsa,make some chips and guacamole

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before dinner. Then I would eattoo much for dinner than my body
really needed. And then all of asudden, I'd go, oh my god, I
already, like, kind of blew myplan for the day. I'm just gonna
make.
Some cookies, or I'm gonna havea brownie, or I'm gonna have
some chocolate chips right outof the bag. That was a neuro
pathway that was deeply worn inmy brain. It was the pathway of,

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what does this even matter? Lifeis too short. Then I would
change my mind, eat whatever Iwanted, go to bed and be like,
Oh, my God, I did it again. Thatwas a very, very rubber band
thick neuro pathway in my brain.
In order to change that, Ineeded to have be able to have
that thought, oh my god, life istoo short. What does it even

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matter? I needed to be able tocatch that excuse, right? This
is the work I teach my clientsto go, oh my god, there it is
again. I'm doing it again.
That's the excuse that is myprimitive brain. And to be able
to say, what do I want to thinkinstead? And be able to then
stick to my plan. And when Istarted doing that years ago,

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when I was able to get myself tostart doing that, I created a
baby neural pathway in my brain.
And every day that I got good atdoing it again and doing it
again and doing it again, itstrengthened that neural
pathway. And you've heard me somany times say that none of this
has to be perfect. You don'thave to be perfect in order to
lose weight. Because whathappened to me many times is my

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brain would say, Oh, my God,what does it matter? You're
fine, or my brain then startedkind of changing the message,
the excuse became, you've donereally well for four days. You
deserve a treat. And then Iwould eat off. I would go back
to that old neural pathway, andI'd be like, ah, and then I'd
get right back on track. And soit was this continual going

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back, strengthening the newneural pathway and that old
neural pathway of what does iteven matter? Life is too short.
It's so tiny that it doesn'thave the same pull to me
anymore, even when my brain saysthat to me, because it sometimes
still says it, it doesn't even,it doesn't even affect me much
anymore, because the neuralpathway is so not well worn. I

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think it is still there, but itis not well worn. So for you,
you might have the thought, oh,you know what? Just have a
little bit. It doesn't matter.
That's a very common thought formy clients. Oh, I, I wasn't
planning on eating any Rhesuspieces, but then I had three,
and my because my brain told meit didn't matter, right? And so

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the neural pathway is a wellworn neural pathway is it
doesn't matter, you feel kind ofjustified or rebellious, and
then you eat, and that is avery, extremely strong neural
pathway in your brain. What Iwant to offer is, in order to
create a new habit on theoutside, we have to kind of
break down the old neuralpathway and create another one.

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And we do that by next time yourbrain says, Oh my gosh, it's
just a little it doesn't matter.
You can go, Wait a minute. Whoa,whoa. Slow girl. Slow down. I
always give myself this excuse.
What do I truly want? Yes, Ilove me some Reese's Pieces or
peanut whatever it is, peanutbutter cups. I love them. But
what do I really want? And canyou actually stick to that feel

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empowered and stick to that planof not eating it and build a new
neural pathway and start tostrengthen it in total. Side
note, one of the ways you canstrengthen it is after you do
well, celebrate the shit out ofyourself. So often, for some
reason, as women, in thebeginning of doing this work, we

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tell ourselves, oh, my God, whatdoes it matter? It was just one
time. I mean, yeah, I did agreat one time. But I mean,
like, I'm probably not going todo well tomorrow. What I want
you to do is go, Hello everyone.
I mean, you're going to say thisinside your head, but look at
everyone around you and in yourhead, go, you're welcome,
people. I just did it. I did it.
I'm becoming the woman. I've gota new neural pathway going. I'm

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doing it. You've heard me say, Iwant to help all the women
become women who eat better andfollow through and think
differently and think bigger.
When you change your brain, youcreate a habit that is a new
neuropathway in your brain, andthis is what makes you change
you. This is what makes youbecome that different woman,

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literally. So now, continuing onwith science class, I want to
give you a little reminder aboutyour brain. I want to remind you
that early human beings did nothave the intricate brain that we
have today. We have evolved tohave the amazing brain we have
today, and we're still evolvingall the time. But if we go back
to early man. Early man didn'thave all of the brain structures

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and all the brain capabilitiesand intricacies that we have
today. So when you think aboutcaveman days, all of us running
around in cute little loincloths and just looking amazing,
we had a very primitive brain.
And so when you were in college,you possibly heard.
About the downstairs brain, orthe primitive brain, or the

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monkey brain, all thesedifferent ways we can talk
about, again, the caveman brain.
We didn't have a prefrontalcortex. We didn't have as
elevated of brain systems as wedo today. Back then, when we're
running around in our loincloths, we have a very primitive
brain. That brain was in chargereally only of keeping us alive.
And it did this, really in threeways. It kept us seeking

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pleasure. It kept us avoidingpain, which oftentimes is the
same thing many ways, andconserving energy. And what this
looked like as we're runningaround in our loin cloths. I
love you getting the image inyour head this looked like us
wanting to have pleasure. Soeating good, eating food, our
brain kept us wanting food.

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That's why we probably havetaste buds. It wanted to have us
eating food, because that's whatkept us fueled so we could live.
It kept us wanting to have sexso we would be able to have
babies and keep the speciesgoing. It kept us wanting to
avoid pain. And avoiding pain islooks many different ways. It,
of course, it made us want tofind safety and get away from

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cold, because that would help usnot freeze to death. Avoiding
pain. It we didn't touch firewhen we eventually figured out
how to make fire, because if wetouched fire, it would burn us.
So we we have these sensors inour body that tells us fire
doesn't feel good, and that waspainful, and so we would avoid
it. Our brain would also keep usalive by helping us conserve

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energy. And so we weren'trunning, running, running all
the time. We slept. We conservedenergy, so when we were being
chased by a herd of elephants,we could actually get away. But
another way I want to talk aboutthat a lot of people don't think
of when we think of us as earlyearly man in our loin cloths, we
were people pleasers even backthen. And we don't think of

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people pleasing as a survivalinstinct, but it really is when
you think of early man intribes, being in the tribe
really guaranteed your survival.
You really couldn't wander theplanes and survive back in those
days, and I could go into it,but there's really no reason we
don't have that much time. So inorder to survive, you needed to
be part of a tribe. You neededto make sure that you were well

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liked in the tribe. In fact, itmeant certain death if you were
kicked out of the tribe. When wethink of people pleasing, we
think of making, you know,accommodating ourselves to make
sure that everyone else is happyis actually a survival instinct.
We want to make sure peoplearound us have good thoughts
about us so we don't get kickedout of the tribe. So it's so

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it's so interesting how we thinkit's like, oh, we're just out to
dinner and we're having anotherglass of wine because we don't
want to hurt someone's feelingsin a way that is a survival
instinct. So you can giveyourself a little a little slack
there. But we think about ourearly brain, and our brain has
now evolved. But here's the rub,we still have that primitive
brain, that part of our brainthat's at the back base of our

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brain is still very much thereand still very much running the
show for most people. So nowthat we've evolved, we have a
prefrontal cortex, and ourprefrontal cortex is a beautiful
part of our brain that helps usset goals and make plans and
feels feelings and is able toanalyze data and do all these

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things, do all these advancedthings that that our brain
couldn't do long ago, but theprimitive brain is still there.
I like to think, and this reallyhelps me as I navigate my day
and my eating and my working outand and all the things I'm doing
to up level my life, I like tothink of my prefrontal cortex as
the true me, as the real me,because when you think of the

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ability to set goals, makeplans, have good intentions,
analyze things, we think of ourprefrontal cortex. We think of
what we truly want when we sayto ourselves, you know what?
Tomorrow, I'm going to eatbetter. That is our prefrontal
cortex talking.

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But we still have a primitivebrain. And so I like to think of
my prefrontal cortex at the veryfront of my brain, right right
behind my forehead. That is thereal me. It wants me to win. And
then I have my primitive brainthat is still with me. My
primitive brain, remember itsonly job is to keep me alive by

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making me seek pleasure, avoidpain and conserve energy. Think
of it this way, if me right now,Courtney, on a random Wednesday,
wants to seek pleasure, avoidpain and conserve energy. I am
taking a nap. I'm bingingOutlander in the middle of the
day. I'm eating whatever I wanton the couch. I'm certainly not

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getting a workout in certainlynot going for a walk to get some
fresh air. I'm just sitting inmy house, pleasure, pleasure.
Or pleasure. No pain. Nothingthat could be risky, no nothing.
Nothing that aligns with mygoals, nothing that aligns with
my future self. Andso I want you to think about it
this way. When you say toyourself, I'm going to start

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tomorrow. Tomorrow is the day Iwant to lose 10 pounds. I've
still got time. Have you everhad that thought I still got
time? I'm still in it. I'm doingokay. I'm still in it, right?
And you make that plan awesomeprefrontal cortex. Then tomorrow
midday, when one of yourgirlfriends says, Do you want to
go out to lunch? And you say,yes, and then you're sitting

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there, and the waiter asks youwhat you want, and all of a
sudden, you say, You know what?
It doesn't matter. I'm justgoing to have whatever I want
right now, and I'll worry aboutthis later. That is your
primitive brain. Your primitivebrain no longer cares about your
10 pounds that you want to lose.
Your primitive brain doesn'tcare that you're going to be in
a swimsuit in two months. Yourprimitive brain wants you to be
happy in that moment, out ofpain in that moment. And

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oftentimes when we think ofpain, we even hear the word
pain. We think of like asprained ankle or a cut. But
pain is any negative emotion. Soif you're sitting there at lunch
with your girlfriend, and shelooks at you and says, What are
you getting? And you think, huh,we just had a conversation
yesterday about how we bothreally wanted to lose 10 pounds,

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and we were both really kind ofgetting tired of our excuses. If
I she already told me what she'sgetting. If I order something
better than her, I'm going tomake her feel bad. It's a very,
very common people pleasing typeof rhetoric that is going on in
our head. And it doesn't soundlike pain, but to your primitive

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brain, it is pain, and so inthat moment, your primitive
brain is like, Don't hurt herfeelings. You're in charge of
her emotions, which we knowisn't true, but your primitive
brain is telling you that, andthe fastest way out of feeling
that, stress, anxiety, guilt isjust ordering whatever you truly
want to order in that moment.

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So can you see the two differentbrains at play? And can you see
how, if you resonated with thatexample, there is a neural
pathway tied to that experienceof you being in the restaurant.
There is a neural pathway inyour brain that is well worn
that says we had a plan, but nowwe have an excuse. We want to
get out of pain. So we're justgonna eat whatever we want to in

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this moment, and then we'regonna shame ourselves after and
make a new planthat overeating cycle is a
neural pathway in your brain.
And so what we need you to do iscreate a new neural pathway
where you actually followthrough, and you become the
woman that can live for herfuture self and that can make a

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decision that is from herprefrontal cortex, really the
real her, the real you. How doesthis relate the to the neural
pathways in your brain? Ifyou've been living from your
primitive brain for a long time,the neural pathways that are
really well worn are allpathways that make you happy in
the moment. You don't feel likeworking out, you don't neural

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pathway, you had a plan butyou're feeling stressed. You eat
neuropathway, you had a plan,but you worried your friend's
feelings might be hurt. Eatneuropathway. I used to have a
pretty well worn neuro pathwaywhere I would sit down to do my
podcast, I would be confused andnot sure of what to record for
my podcast, and I would go havea snack. And now that neural

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pathway is nothing anymore,because now I sit down and I'm
like, I don't know, and I'mlike, I do know. And I write
myself a little letter and say,Courtney, you're good at this.
People love your podcast. Thisis what they need to hear. This
is what's going to betransformative. They're going to
love it. And I go and there's nosnack involved. And now that is
a neural pathway in my brain,and that is a neural pathway

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that not only makes me feelempowered in the moment, it
continues to keep my body whereI want it to be. In my coaching
programs, I have been helping myclients really see that there is
this duality inside of them, theduality of their prefrontal
cortex versus their primitivebrain, the duality of living for

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their present self and justeating whatever makes them feel
good or living from their futureself.
It's really also your truedesires, your prefrontal cortex,
your future focused self againstyour false desires, your
primitive brain and in themoment pleasure, I believe the

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true you, the real you, wants itall, wants all of it. And I also
believe that you know youdeserve it all. I know that you
want to be in control of youreating so you can lose weight
and feel so much better. It'sboth. It's not just weight loss.
You want the both. You want thecontrol too. You want the peace.

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So there are both parts of you,inside of you. You've got your
prefrontal cortex, even thoughyou have your primitive brain.
You've got the well wornneuropathy.
Pathways. But are you creatingsome baby pathways in there too
that are the pathways that youreally want to nurture and make
more well worn? What do you needto do today to start practicing

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and making those newer pathwaysmore well worn? And when you
answer that question, whatyou're going to be doing is
you're going to be becoming thewoman who lives differently.
This is so much more than justwhen you step on the scale
seeing the number, this is youbecoming a woman that lives
differently, becoming a womanthat feels differently, because

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this is your one life in thisbody, and you deserve it. Have a
great Tuesday. If you are readyto lose weight and keep it off
permanently and feel confidentand at peace around food, I
invite you to head to CourtneyGray coaching.com to learn about
how to work with me. I work withwomen privately, one on one, and
I also offer small groupcoaching. There is a link to my

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website in the show notes you.