August 19, 2025 • 28 mins
We're planting character seeds in our children, and today's focus is on creativity and problem-solving skills that will help them navigate life's inevitable challenges.
• Children need creative problem-solving skills to handle obstacles in relationships, careers, and life
• Creativity is about thinking outside the box when resolving issues
• What works for one person may not work for another—great minds think for themselves
• For ages 3-6, offer coloring books or sketch pads to foster creative thinking
• For older children, present more complex problems to solve
• The utensil-between-stove-and-cabinet example shows how we approach challenges
• Giving up on small problems teaches children to abandon larger challenges
• Creative thinking helps identify not just solutions but also root causes of problems
• Make creativity exercises a regular family activity to build critical thinking skills
• As mentors to our children, we must model creative problem-solving ourselves
Our call to action today is to assign a creativity project based on your child's age. Make it a family event and do it regularly—once a week or once a month—to plant the seed of creative thinking that will serve them throughout their lives.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom2Mentor podcast.
If this is your first timejoining, welcome If you are a
repeat listener.
Thank you, thank you.
Thank you for your loyalty.
Hey, I'm going to get right toit.
Today I'm still plantingcharacter seeds and if you've
(00:24):
heard prior episodes, youunderstand the background of
what I'm trying to do when itcomes to parenting, because
we're more than just moms.
We are mentors.
We are examples to our childrenof who they can look up to and
model themselves after, and wehave to make every effort to
(00:49):
display positive behavior infront of our children because
they're absorbing it.
It's seeping into their poresof what they see, because
they're visual.
We can tell them from sun up tosun down about how to behave,
but unless they actually see it,it's going to always be a
(01:11):
challenge for us.
So this podcast is designed toencourage you, mom, and to
reinforce what it means to be amentor.
I realize others don't havepeople that they can look up to
or title them as mentors.
Right, there are people thathave influence over their life,
(01:33):
but really to make a difference,you have to put on that title
that this is my mentor, this issomeone I want to be like.
And if you don't have anyone inyour life, then I challenge you
to take on this podcast andI'll be your mentor.
How about that?
What do you think?
Moms, I've been through so muchthrough my life raising my
(01:59):
children and some of thechallenges I experienced with
them.
Of the challenges I experiencedwith them, I'm going to try to
head it off for you and tell youlike this is some of the things
that you're going to go throughand this is how you get through
them, because nobody told mewhen I was raising my children
30 years ago.
So hopefully you find somevalue in this podcast and if you
(02:22):
do tell another mom, pleasetell another mom.
You don't know what a person isgoing through and you don't
have to know.
But if you say, you know what,I've heard this great podcast
called Mom to Mentor and she'stalking about how we can
cultivate and build self-esteeminto our children and you should
(02:45):
listen to it.
All right.
So what am I talking abouttoday?
I'm so glad you asked me.
I'm still planting thecharacter garden and if you
heard my other episodes, youheard me talk about honesty,
respect and a few others that,oh, in compassion and why our
(03:07):
children need this as theynavigate life.
Yeah, these are charactertraits they're going to need.
We have to plant the seed.
Then we have to cultivate theseed, in other words, water it,
feed it.
So we, as moms or parents, haveto display that behavior in
front of our children.
(03:28):
So what seed am I plantingtoday?
I'm glad you asked me.
We're going to talk aboutcreativity and what it means to
be creative and why we need it.
Yeah, our children, yourchildren, they're going to face
(03:49):
many of life's challenges.
So how do you plan onaddressing them?
Many people give up becausethey lack a creative mindset.
Yeah, give up.
And later on, through thispodcast, I'm going to give you
some examples of how tointroduce creativity to your
(04:12):
children or your child, and I'mgoing to give you a couple of
examples.
So I hope you accept thechallenge.
It's going to benefit them inthe long run as well as you.
Then they'll have to come backand say mom, what about this?
Or I'm going through that andthis.
If we start now, it's going tohave an impact later.
(04:34):
So our children can be prepared.
For example, if it's rainingoutside or they're calling for
rain, you're not going to sendyour child out without some type
of raincoat, umbrella, boots orwhatever.
You're going to prepare themfor that.
This is the same concept.
(04:54):
You're preparing them for life,ladies.
With that, we got to understandwhat are some of the seeds that
they're going to need andenable them to navigate through
this life.
So creativity is just having theability to think outside of the
(05:15):
box when it comes to resolvingissues.
And there are going to be manyissues, and the list goes on and
on, as you know, because atthis point in life, you probably
already experienced quite a fewyourself, even when you were a
child.
(05:35):
So every child, including you,should have problem-solving
skills.
There aren't clear directionsor a specific answer related to
that.
Life challenges require us tobe creative and resolving issues
(05:56):
.
Our mindset has to reflect apurpose of resolution.
Children need to be able toexpress original ideas and,
again, think outside of the box.
Teach conflict resolution andthat it's not a
one-size-fits-all.
(06:17):
What do I mean by that?
Just because one thing worksfor one person doesn't mean it
works for you.
Once upon a time, back in theday, when I used to watch
cartoons on Saturdays, there wasthis commercial that says great
minds think alike.
(06:37):
And then they came back and sayno, great minds think for
themselves.
That's where our child, yourchild or your children, need to
be in order to navigate thislife.
Because, again, what works forone person may not work for them
.
So you have to encourage themto think outside of the box.
(07:01):
Now, again, why do we need this?
Because they're going toexperience challenges and
they're going to need to knowhow to navigate through those
challenges with creativeproblem-solving skills, how to
navigate through thosechallenges with creative
problem-solving skills, and someof that will be applied to
relationships that they're goingto be involved with their
careers or their jobs thatthey're going to go to.
(07:24):
Because, again, creativity isalso reflecting a responsibility
means you're going to own itand I'm going to resolve this
issue.
Responsibility means you'regoing to own it and I'm going to
resolve this issue.
So how do we get there?
(07:45):
So the easiest way give them aproblem to solve, right.
So, from the ages of three tosix, and trying to invite that
creativity is, give them acoloring book or a sketch pad
and let them go to town, and youmay be surprised with what they
come up with.
Yeah, isn't that exciting toknow that?
(08:06):
You give them some colors andthey put it on a piece of paper
and you can give them a coloringbook and tell them the color in
between the lines and see whatthey come up with, and then your
child just may color outsidethe lines and that may tell you
something as well.
But it's inviting that creativemindset that is required, not
(08:30):
an option.
It's required to do this asthey enter into this world.
Now, seven and above, you wantto give them something a little
more complex to solve.
Now I was thinking here'ssomething you can think about as
far as creative skills.
(08:52):
You know that space betweenyour cabinet and your stove or
your refrigerator.
There's always this little gapthere.
What would happen if youdropped a utensil in between
that gap?
A spoon, a fork, a knife?
You drop something in betweenthere and you have to figure out
(09:15):
how to get it out.
Now that's really going tostart the creative thought
process of how to get thatutensil from in between that
small space.
Now someone and even maybe yousay you know what it's gone.
It's what it's gone, it's done,it's over.
(09:36):
So I'm just going to leave itthere and I'm just going to get
me another utensil and we'regoing to call it a day and if
the stove happens to go out andwe have to replace it, then I'll
get the utensil, but right nowit's not a priority.
Okay, that's fine, that's allwell and good, but here's what
you need to think about, mom.
(09:57):
Now, if you leave that utensilin between there and you say I'm
just going to get anotherutensil, that's almost how
you're going to navigaterelationships, your job, your
career, anything that you start,and you experience a bump in
(10:19):
the road or a detour, you'regoing to say you know what, I'm
just going to move on to thenext one.
I'm just going to move on tothe next job.
I'm going to move on to thenext relationship because I'm
not going to try to resolve orfigure out what happened with
this one.
And that's where we get intotrouble.
That's where we get intotrouble, that's where we
(10:43):
continue that same cycle and wenever get resolution, because we
don't stop to think about oh mygoodness, how can I resolve
this issue?
And it needs to be resolved,especially if it's a
relationship, right?
So back to the utensil inbetween the cabinet and the
(11:04):
stove.
So you know a couple of optionsthat I would think of just from
my own creative mindset.
I would try to find somethingthin enough to get in between
there to try to drag it out.
Yep, pull out my flashlight onmy phone, look in there, see
where it may be at and try toget it out.
(11:27):
Yeah, yeah, now I have a flyswatter in my house so it's
pretty thin, so I'm thinking itcould probably fit in between
there to get this item.
Or, you know, if you have asmall broom or a Swiffer or
anything like that, you know awire coat hanger, you can use
(11:50):
many things to try to get thatutensil from in between the
cabinet and the stove.
That's the kind of mindset youwant to incorporate in your
child when it comes to criticalthinking, because otherwise,
when we say you know what, I'mnot going to be bothered with
that, I'll just get another,you're giving up.
(12:12):
You're giving up, and that'swhat we do not want.
We do not want our children togive up.
We want to keep them motivated,we want to keep them encouraged
.
Keep trying, don't give up.
And if you don't get it rightthe first time, but by golly go
to sleep, get up the next dayand try it again.
(12:34):
Because that's how I solve manyof my issues is because
sometimes you can't resolveissues immediately.
You have to sleep on it.
And then the next day it's likeoh, I didn't even think about
doing it this way yesterday.
And guess what?
Boom, boom, boom.
(12:55):
Now I got my utensil backbecause I chose not to give up.
So a creative mindset, a problemsolving skills, that's what is
needed as you're cultivatingyour child.
Now, here's the good news.
Now, I just gave you an example, and of course that one's a
(13:17):
little more difficult, whichit's designed to be.
But create your own mom andexecute on it.
And if you can't create yourown, by golly, there is
artificial intelligence comingto the rescue.
Yeah, give me a good problemsolving skill or issue and I
(13:42):
need it for in the age of yourchild, and maybe even for you.
And why not just do it together?
That's how you're going tocultivate this creative mindset
or this problem solving mindset.
Because, again, once your kidssee you're interacting, they're
like oh wow, look at mom, go,look at her go.
(14:06):
And then, while they'reencouraging you, you encouraging
them and explaining to them whyyou're doing this exercise,
because they're going toencounter issues as they
navigate through life.
They're going to encounterdisappointments.
How do you overcome thosedisappointments?
(14:28):
What's the formula right?
And you think outside of thebox.
How did you get here?
Right?
What happened there?
And going back to my example ofthe utensil falling between the
stove and the counter right, howdid I get there?
Because I didn't have anythingto shore up that open space to
(14:54):
not allow these utensils orother items to fall in between
the cabinet and the stove.
So what's my lesson?
So I'm going to go on Amazonand find a gap protector for the
stove and the cabinet and I'mgoing to put it in there so I
(15:16):
don't have to repeat thisprocess.
So not only are you becomingcreative in getting the utensil
out, but you're alsounderstanding how you got there
in the first place, so you don'treplicate it.
That's what creativity is allabout, at least for this episode
, in my definition, because it'sgoing to impact your child's
(15:43):
life as they navigate and try tounderstand some things, these
challenges that are going tocome before them.
They got to get in position,they have to be in position,
they have to be prepared to takeon these challenges and not
give up.
And not give up, all right,ladies, as you can see, I've
(16:09):
been very passionate about thisone.
And why have I been sopassionate?
It's because it bothers me tosee kids wanting to give up.
Because it bothers me to seekids wanting to give up.
It bothers me to hear them sayyou know what?
I can't do this.
And really they can.
They just need to be encouragedand motivated and prepared.
(16:33):
And so that's you, mom, as amentor.
You're a teacher, you're aneducator, you're just not a
nurturer.
So creativity is not only linkedto problem solving, but just
how things are viewed in general.
Some say the glass is half fulland some say it's half empty.
(16:54):
I think, let's stress, becausewe always look for solutions
while others are satisfied withhow things are, meaning Leaving
the spoon in between the cabinetand the stove, just giving up.
I'm just going to move on.
And in life it's not alwaysgoing to be appropriate to move
(17:17):
on because you haven't learnedwhy it got in there in the
beginning.
And how do you shore that upgoing forward?
Because if you don't putsomething in between there to
catch items, yeah, you're justgoing to repeat the same process
.
Yeah, you're going to repeatthe same process.
(17:41):
Yeah, you're going to repeatthe same process, all right.
So our call to action, or thecall to action today, is assign
a creativity project based onage.
Yeah, or you can just use yourimagination, mom, make it a
family time, make it a familyevent.
And you know, and I wouldrecommend not having a one and
(18:05):
done, you know, maybe do itregularly, maybe once a month,
once a week, whatever you feelcomfortable with.
Because you know, when Istarted school once upon a time,
way back when, you know, we didcolor and make stuff and we had
to have scissors and glue andall of that, and I didn't
(18:27):
understand it back then.
But what was happening is aseed was getting planted on how
to be creative.
Yeah, so in my early years inschool, that's what the seed
that was getting planted is.
You can be creative and youshould be creative when it comes
(18:48):
to things, and so let's notwait for them to get in the
school for the teachers to teachthem about creativity.
Let's start now to teach themabout creativity.
Let's start now, and especiallyas your child gets older, then
absolutely the creativity optionshould become a little more
difficult, because that's life.
(19:10):
Yeah, ask me how I know.
Ask me how I know they're gonnaget an unexpected bill and
they're not gonna have the moneyto pay that bill.
So what do you do?
Do you go get extra hours atwork, what do you do?
Do you find a side hustle?
(19:30):
Or do you just say, hey, I justlet the folks keep calling me
because I can't pay my bill.
What is that going to solve,other than them keep calling you
and you wanting to block thembecause you haven't paid your
bill?
But creativity says listen, letme work with y'all and I'm
(19:52):
going to go out and see how Ican get an extra job or some
more money to come in.
That's that creative mindsetthat they're going to need,
right, and maybe even you, mom,you're going to.
You're faced with problems.
Are you just saying, oh well,are you trying to solve it and
(20:15):
then understand how you gotthere in the first place?
And my bet, when it comes tobills and not getting paid, we
probably spent that money on ourwants versus our needs, knowing
and I'm talking to myself hereknowing you didn't need that,
but you went out and got itanyway.
And now here comes this bill.
(20:35):
Uh-oh, that money I spent overhere I could have used over
there.
So again, ladies, this is allabout planting character seeds
with your children andcultivating those seeds, and I
(20:55):
hope this episode gave you anoverview of how to do that.
Why is that important?
And that's what you have to askyourself.
Why is this important?
Because your child or yourchildren are going to face these
obstacles in life, yeah, andthey have to know how to be able
(21:17):
to solve and figure out how toget out of that situation.
But they first have to know howthey got into the situation.
So that's the wing to wingpiece of it.
You have your beginning, middleand end right.
So the beginning is the how'dyou get here?
Or why are you here?
(21:39):
Then how do you get out of it?
Right.
And then at the end, you'regoing to be able to say, well,
it's a done deal, it's resolvedand that's where you want to go.
And so I gave you the formulaof how to get there, ladies.
Now all you have to do isembrace it and execute All right
(22:05):
.
So I have some wonderful news asI finish up today's episode.
I mentioned before I'm gettingready to take this podcast, the
Mom to Mentor podcast, toanother level, and the good news
is the good news is I'm goingto start having people come on
my show and share how they'reteaching their children or how
(22:28):
they're being a mentor to theirchild, and I want to hear those
examples, but before I can dothat, I have to really
understand what that process, orthe interview process, looks
like.
So I am.
I've already done one interviewwith Curveball Living the Dream
(22:50):
with Curtis Jackson, and thatwill air when the next week or
so, so you'll get to hear me onthat if you so desire.
And then I have anotherinterview coming up at the end
of the month with Tell MeSomething Good, and I'm nervous,
(23:11):
as I was the other interview.
But this is how I'm going tolearn to bring this to you all
and to step up my game so thatthis can be a more interactive
podcast, as it relates to beingmore than a mom but a mentor.
(23:32):
So look out for those podcastsand if you are in my group in
Facebook, I will put theinformation there, the links
there and so forth, and I mayalso put it on my website, which
is currentlysinglemomsunitedpodcastcom, and
that's where you can go, ifyou're interested in being on
(23:55):
the show, to fill out the formto complete that, and then, once
I get everything up and running, I'll reach out to you and
invite you to be a guest on theshow.
Okay, but you have to be veryspecific as it relates to what
you're teaching your child oryour children Would love to hear
(24:16):
that process and share it withother moms.
All right, ladies, I thinkthat's it for the day.
I think that's it for the day.
If you enjoyed this episode, youknow, tell another mom you
don't know what they're goingthrough and leave me some
feedback.
I would love to hear from you.
(24:37):
I have a survey on my website,singlemomsunitedpodcastcom, and,
by the way, I am in the processof updating my long URL to
momtomentor.
It's just taking a littlelonger, but I am going to update
that.
But I would love to hear fromyou and if you say you know what
I don't have time to write allor type all of that URL and then
(25:01):
go to my YouTube page,momtomentor, and leave me some
feedback there.
I would love to hear from you.
Thank you so much.
Have a great day and we'll talkwith you soon.
Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom2Mentor podcast.
If this is your first timejoining, welcome If you are a
repeat listener.
Thank you, thank you.
Thank you for your loyalty.
Hey, I'm going to get right toit.
Today I'm still plantingcharacter seeds and if you've
(00:24):
heard prior episodes, youunderstand the background of
what I'm trying to do when itcomes to parenting, because
we're more than just moms.
We are mentors.
We are examples to our childrenof who they can look up to and
model themselves after, and wehave to make every effort to
(00:49):
display positive behavior infront of our children because
they're absorbing it.
It's seeping into their poresof what they see, because
they're visual.
We can tell them from sun up tosun down about how to behave,
but unless they actually see it,it's going to always be a
(01:11):
challenge for us.
So this podcast is designed toencourage you, mom, and to
reinforce what it means to be amentor.
I realize others don't havepeople that they can look up to
or title them as mentors.
Right, there are people thathave influence over their life,
(01:33):
but really to make a difference,you have to put on that title
that this is my mentor, this issomeone I want to be like.
And if you don't have anyone inyour life, then I challenge you
to take on this podcast andI'll be your mentor.
How about that?
What do you think?
Moms, I've been through so muchthrough my life raising my
(01:59):
children and some of thechallenges I experienced with
them.
Of the challenges I experiencedwith them, I'm going to try to
head it off for you and tell youlike this is some of the things
that you're going to go throughand this is how you get through
them, because nobody told mewhen I was raising my children
30 years ago.
So hopefully you find somevalue in this podcast and if you
(02:22):
do tell another mom, pleasetell another mom.
You don't know what a person isgoing through and you don't
have to know.
But if you say, you know what,I've heard this great podcast
called Mom to Mentor and she'stalking about how we can
cultivate and build self-esteeminto our children and you should
(02:45):
listen to it.
All right.
So what am I talking abouttoday?
I'm so glad you asked me.
I'm still planting thecharacter garden and if you
heard my other episodes, youheard me talk about honesty,
respect and a few others that,oh, in compassion and why our
(03:07):
children need this as theynavigate life.
Yeah, these are charactertraits they're going to need.
We have to plant the seed.
Then we have to cultivate theseed, in other words, water it,
feed it.
So we, as moms or parents, haveto display that behavior in
front of our children.
(03:28):
So what seed am I plantingtoday?
I'm glad you asked me.
We're going to talk aboutcreativity and what it means to
be creative and why we need it.
Yeah, our children, yourchildren, they're going to face
(03:49):
many of life's challenges.
So how do you plan onaddressing them?
Many people give up becausethey lack a creative mindset.
Yeah, give up.
And later on, through thispodcast, I'm going to give you
some examples of how tointroduce creativity to your
(04:12):
children or your child, and I'mgoing to give you a couple of
examples.
So I hope you accept thechallenge.
It's going to benefit them inthe long run as well as you.
Then they'll have to come backand say mom, what about this?
Or I'm going through that andthis.
If we start now, it's going tohave an impact later.
(04:34):
So our children can be prepared.
For example, if it's rainingoutside or they're calling for
rain, you're not going to sendyour child out without some type
of raincoat, umbrella, boots orwhatever.
You're going to prepare themfor that.
This is the same concept.
(04:54):
You're preparing them for life,ladies.
With that, we got to understandwhat are some of the seeds that
they're going to need andenable them to navigate through
this life.
So creativity is just having theability to think outside of the
(05:15):
box when it comes to resolvingissues.
And there are going to be manyissues, and the list goes on and
on, as you know, because atthis point in life, you probably
already experienced quite a fewyourself, even when you were a
child.
(05:35):
So every child, including you,should have problem-solving
skills.
There aren't clear directionsor a specific answer related to
that.
Life challenges require us tobe creative and resolving issues
(05:56):
.
Our mindset has to reflect apurpose of resolution.
Children need to be able toexpress original ideas and,
again, think outside of the box.
Teach conflict resolution andthat it's not a
one-size-fits-all.
(06:17):
What do I mean by that?
Just because one thing worksfor one person doesn't mean it
works for you.
Once upon a time, back in theday, when I used to watch
cartoons on Saturdays, there wasthis commercial that says great
minds think alike.
(06:37):
And then they came back and sayno, great minds think for
themselves.
That's where our child, yourchild or your children, need to
be in order to navigate thislife.
Because, again, what works forone person may not work for them
.
So you have to encourage themto think outside of the box.
(07:01):
Now, again, why do we need this?
Because they're going toexperience challenges and
they're going to need to knowhow to navigate through those
challenges with creativeproblem-solving skills, how to
navigate through thosechallenges with creative
problem-solving skills, and someof that will be applied to
relationships that they're goingto be involved with their
careers or their jobs thatthey're going to go to.
(07:24):
Because, again, creativity isalso reflecting a responsibility
means you're going to own itand I'm going to resolve this
issue.
Responsibility means you'regoing to own it and I'm going to
resolve this issue.
So how do we get there?
(07:45):
So the easiest way give them aproblem to solve, right.
So, from the ages of three tosix, and trying to invite that
creativity is, give them acoloring book or a sketch pad
and let them go to town, and youmay be surprised with what they
come up with.
Yeah, isn't that exciting toknow that?
(08:06):
You give them some colors andthey put it on a piece of paper
and you can give them a coloringbook and tell them the color in
between the lines and see whatthey come up with, and then your
child just may color outsidethe lines and that may tell you
something as well.
But it's inviting that creativemindset that is required, not
(08:30):
an option.
It's required to do this asthey enter into this world.
Now, seven and above, you wantto give them something a little
more complex to solve.
Now I was thinking here'ssomething you can think about as
far as creative skills.
(08:52):
You know that space betweenyour cabinet and your stove or
your refrigerator.
There's always this little gapthere.
What would happen if youdropped a utensil in between
that gap?
A spoon, a fork, a knife?
You drop something in betweenthere and you have to figure out
(09:15):
how to get it out.
Now that's really going tostart the creative thought
process of how to get thatutensil from in between that
small space.
Now someone and even maybe yousay you know what it's gone.
It's what it's gone, it's done,it's over.
(09:36):
So I'm just going to leave itthere and I'm just going to get
me another utensil and we'regoing to call it a day and if
the stove happens to go out andwe have to replace it, then I'll
get the utensil, but right nowit's not a priority.
Okay, that's fine, that's allwell and good, but here's what
you need to think about, mom.
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Now, if you leave that utensilin between there and you say I'm
just going to get anotherutensil, that's almost how
you're going to navigaterelationships, your job, your
career, anything that you start,and you experience a bump in
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the road or a detour, you'regoing to say you know what, I'm
just going to move on to thenext one.
I'm just going to move on tothe next job.
I'm going to move on to thenext relationship because I'm
not going to try to resolve orfigure out what happened with
this one.
And that's where we get intotrouble.
That's where we get intotrouble, that's where we
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continue that same cycle and wenever get resolution, because we
don't stop to think about oh mygoodness, how can I resolve
this issue?
And it needs to be resolved,especially if it's a
relationship, right?
So back to the utensil inbetween the cabinet and the
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stove.
So you know a couple of optionsthat I would think of just from
my own creative mindset.
I would try to find somethingthin enough to get in between
there to try to drag it out.
Yep, pull out my flashlight onmy phone, look in there, see
where it may be at and try toget it out.
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Yeah, yeah, now I have a flyswatter in my house so it's
pretty thin, so I'm thinking itcould probably fit in between
there to get this item.
Or, you know, if you have asmall broom or a Swiffer or
anything like that, you know awire coat hanger, you can use
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many things to try to get thatutensil from in between the
cabinet and the stove.
That's the kind of mindset youwant to incorporate in your
child when it comes to criticalthinking, because otherwise,
when we say you know what, I'mnot going to be bothered with
that, I'll just get another,you're giving up.
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You're giving up, and that'swhat we do not want.
We do not want our children togive up.
We want to keep them motivated,we want to keep them encouraged
.
Keep trying, don't give up.
And if you don't get it rightthe first time, but by golly go
to sleep, get up the next dayand try it again.
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Because that's how I solve manyof my issues is because
sometimes you can't resolveissues immediately.
You have to sleep on it.
And then the next day it's likeoh, I didn't even think about
doing it this way yesterday.
And guess what?
Boom, boom, boom.
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Now I got my utensil backbecause I chose not to give up.
So a creative mindset, a problemsolving skills, that's what is
needed as you're cultivatingyour child.
Now, here's the good news.
Now, I just gave you an example, and of course that one's a
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little more difficult, whichit's designed to be.
But create your own mom andexecute on it.
And if you can't create yourown, by golly, there is
artificial intelligence comingto the rescue.
Yeah, give me a good problemsolving skill or issue and I
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need it for in the age of yourchild, and maybe even for you.
And why not just do it together?
That's how you're going tocultivate this creative mindset
or this problem solving mindset.
Because, again, once your kidssee you're interacting, they're
like oh wow, look at mom, go,look at her go.
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And then, while they'reencouraging you, you encouraging
them and explaining to them whyyou're doing this exercise,
because they're going toencounter issues as they
navigate through life.
They're going to encounterdisappointments.
How do you overcome thosedisappointments?
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What's the formula right?
And you think outside of thebox.
How did you get here?
Right?
What happened there?
And going back to my example ofthe utensil falling between the
stove and the counter right, howdid I get there?
Because I didn't have anythingto shore up that open space to
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not allow these utensils orother items to fall in between
the cabinet and the stove.
So what's my lesson?
So I'm going to go on Amazonand find a gap protector for the
stove and the cabinet and I'mgoing to put it in there so I
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don't have to repeat thisprocess.
So not only are you becomingcreative in getting the utensil
out, but you're alsounderstanding how you got there
in the first place, so you don'treplicate it.
That's what creativity is allabout, at least for this episode
, in my definition, because it'sgoing to impact your child's
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life as they navigate and try tounderstand some things, these
challenges that are going tocome before them.
They got to get in position,they have to be in position,
they have to be prepared to takeon these challenges and not
give up.
And not give up, all right,ladies, as you can see, I've
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been very passionate about thisone.
And why have I been sopassionate?
It's because it bothers me tosee kids wanting to give up.
Because it bothers me to seekids wanting to give up.
It bothers me to hear them sayyou know what?
I can't do this.
And really they can.
They just need to be encouragedand motivated and prepared.
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And so that's you, mom, as amentor.
You're a teacher, you're aneducator, you're just not a
nurturer.
So creativity is not only linkedto problem solving, but just
how things are viewed in general.
Some say the glass is half fulland some say it's half empty.
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I think, let's stress, becausewe always look for solutions
while others are satisfied withhow things are, meaning Leaving
the spoon in between the cabinetand the stove, just giving up.
I'm just going to move on.
And in life it's not alwaysgoing to be appropriate to move
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on because you haven't learnedwhy it got in there in the
beginning.
And how do you shore that upgoing forward?
Because if you don't putsomething in between there to
catch items, yeah, you're justgoing to repeat the same process
.
Yeah, you're going to repeatthe same process.
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Yeah, you're going to repeatthe same process, all right.
So our call to action, or thecall to action today, is assign
a creativity project based onage.
Yeah, or you can just use yourimagination, mom, make it a
family time, make it a familyevent.
And you know, and I wouldrecommend not having a one and
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done, you know, maybe do itregularly, maybe once a month,
once a week, whatever you feelcomfortable with.
Because you know, when Istarted school once upon a time,
way back when, you know, we didcolor and make stuff and we had
to have scissors and glue andall of that, and I didn't
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understand it back then.
But what was happening is aseed was getting planted on how
to be creative.
Yeah, so in my early years inschool, that's what the seed
that was getting planted is.
You can be creative and youshould be creative when it comes
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to things, and so let's notwait for them to get in the
school for the teachers to teachthem about creativity.
Let's start now to teach themabout creativity.
Let's start now, and especiallyas your child gets older, then
absolutely the creativity optionshould become a little more
difficult, because that's life.
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Yeah, ask me how I know.
Ask me how I know they're gonnaget an unexpected bill and
they're not gonna have the moneyto pay that bill.
So what do you do?
Do you go get extra hours atwork, what do you do?
Do you find a side hustle?
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Or do you just say, hey, I justlet the folks keep calling me
because I can't pay my bill.
What is that going to solve,other than them keep calling you
and you wanting to block thembecause you haven't paid your
bill?
But creativity says listen, letme work with y'all and I'm
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going to go out and see how Ican get an extra job or some
more money to come in.
That's that creative mindsetthat they're going to need,
right, and maybe even you, mom,you're going to.
You're faced with problems.
Are you just saying, oh well,are you trying to solve it and
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then understand how you gotthere in the first place?
And my bet, when it comes tobills and not getting paid, we
probably spent that money on ourwants versus our needs, knowing
and I'm talking to myself hereknowing you didn't need that,
but you went out and got itanyway.
And now here comes this bill.
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Uh-oh, that money I spent overhere I could have used over
there.
So again, ladies, this is allabout planting character seeds
with your children andcultivating those seeds, and I
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hope this episode gave you anoverview of how to do that.
Why is that important?
And that's what you have to askyourself.
Why is this important?
Because your child or yourchildren are going to face these
obstacles in life, yeah, andthey have to know how to be able
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to solve and figure out how toget out of that situation.
But they first have to know howthey got into the situation.
So that's the wing to wingpiece of it.
You have your beginning, middleand end right.
So the beginning is the how'dyou get here?
Or why are you here?
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Then how do you get out of it?
Right.
And then at the end, you'regoing to be able to say, well,
it's a done deal, it's resolvedand that's where you want to go.
And so I gave you the formulaof how to get there, ladies.
Now all you have to do isembrace it and execute All right
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.
So I have some wonderful news asI finish up today's episode.
I mentioned before I'm gettingready to take this podcast, the
Mom to Mentor podcast, toanother level, and the good news
is the good news is I'm goingto start having people come on
my show and share how they'reteaching their children or how
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they're being a mentor to theirchild, and I want to hear those
examples, but before I can dothat, I have to really
understand what that process, orthe interview process, looks
like.
So I am.
I've already done one interviewwith Curveball Living the Dream
(22:50):
with Curtis Jackson, and thatwill air when the next week or
so, so you'll get to hear me onthat if you so desire.
And then I have anotherinterview coming up at the end
of the month with Tell MeSomething Good, and I'm nervous,
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as I was the other interview.
But this is how I'm going tolearn to bring this to you all
and to step up my game so thatthis can be a more interactive
podcast, as it relates to beingmore than a mom but a mentor.
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So look out for those podcastsand if you are in my group in
Facebook, I will put theinformation there, the links
there and so forth, and I mayalso put it on my website, which
is currentlysinglemomsunitedpodcastcom, and
that's where you can go, ifyou're interested in being on
(23:55):
the show, to fill out the formto complete that, and then, once
I get everything up and running, I'll reach out to you and
invite you to be a guest on theshow.
Okay, but you have to be veryspecific as it relates to what
you're teaching your child oryour children Would love to hear
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that process and share it withother moms.
All right, ladies, I thinkthat's it for the day.
I think that's it for the day.
If you enjoyed this episode, youknow, tell another mom you
don't know what they're goingthrough and leave me some
feedback.
I would love to hear from you.
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I have a survey on my website,singlemomsunitedpodcastcom, and,
by the way, I am in the processof updating my long URL to
momtomentor.
It's just taking a littlelonger, but I am going to update
that.
But I would love to hear fromyou and if you say you know what
I don't have time to write allor type all of that URL and then
(25:01):
go to my YouTube page,momtomentor, and leave me some
feedback there.
I would love to hear from you.
Thank you so much.
Have a great day and we'll talkwith you soon.
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