June 22, 2025 • 24 mins
We're introducing the Mom2Mentor podcast with a new format, focusing on planting seeds of character in our children through intentional parenting and mentorship. This episode explores teaching children the art of apologizing properly—beyond just saying "I'm sorry" to include acknowledging specific behaviors.
• Transition from Single Moms United to Mom2Mentor reflects focus on mothers as mentors
• Children model what they see, making our behavior fundamental to their development
• "Planting a virtual garden" means cultivating character traits intentionally
• Start teaching basic apologies around ages 3-5 with simple "I'm sorry"
• By ages 7-8, teach children to add what they're sorry for after "I'm sorry,"
• Acknowledging specific behavior prevents repeating the same mistakes
• Many adults struggle with apologies because they weren't properly taught as children
• Break generational patterns by modeling proper apologies
• Positive reinforcement helps cultivate this character trait
• Even if you weren't taught something, seek resources to teach your children
Put down your phone for one hour and talk with your children about what apologizing really means, and if you enjoyed this episode, please share it with another mom who's trying to be the best parent she can be.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom2Mentor podcast.
If this is your first timejoining, welcome If you are a
repeat listener.
Thank you for your loyalty.
Hey, if I sound better than Ihave in the past, that's because
I'm using a new software woo,woo.
(00:20):
So if you find my voice comingthrough clearer, let me know.
I'd love to hear your feedback,to know that progress is
happening.
I'm all about moving forward.
Again, I talked about a good momteaches her children and a
(00:40):
better mom learns to teach, andso we should always be learning
something new, and my previoussoftware that I used.
I was struggling with it and soforth, and someone introduced
me to this new software.
So now I'm like, okay, well,let me try it.
(01:00):
So this is my very firstepisode, and along with that
comes with a new mindset or anew approach to this podcast.
For those of you that have beenfollowing me over these last
few years, you know the originalpodcast name was Single Moms
(01:21):
United, and I recently migratedover to my new title of Mom to
Mentor to better align with whatthe purpose is of this podcast,
which is reminding you we aremore than moms, we are more than
nurturers, we are mentors.
(01:43):
And what's a mentor.
It is someone that we have thatlooks up to us, which is our
children, right?
They're modeling after us andthey're looking at our behaviors
and they're mimicking those andso, hopefully, they're
mimicking more the positive thanthe negative.
(02:03):
They're mimicking more thepositive than the negative,
right, because I know I've donesome things and said some things
in front of my children thatI'm ashamed of, right, that they
shouldn't have had to hear orsee.
But the good news is I hope,along this journey, that they've
been able to acquire and seemore positive behavior from me
(02:24):
and while they're older now andI think I did some things right,
based on what I'm seeing fromthem and how they're functioning
in life.
So, again, new software, newmindset and guess what?
I'm going down a new creativepath and wanting to plant a
(02:47):
virtual garden.
What is that?
A garden is where most people?
Well, back in my day, my momhad a garden and she planted
different seeds of vegetables ofher own and, as a result of
that, she was able to cultivatethat garden.
She didn't have to go to theproduce area at the grocery
(03:12):
store because she grew her ownproduce and it was wonderful.
We didn't have to worry aboutall the pesticides and
everything that they do toproduce these days, because she
was able to put other things inplace to keep the critters out
and also cultivate a good garden, and so we ate good.
(03:33):
We ate good.
But when I think about we asmentors or moms as mentors and
teaching our children, we haveto plant certain things into
them so that they can beproductive in life.
(03:57):
And when it's time for them tomove on to better themselves and
say you know what, I'm going togo out on my own, I'm going to
do this on my own.
I've had enough of mom support,right, and so you know it's
going to be difficult to letthem go, but you have to,
(04:19):
because you're not always goingto be here.
You got to let them go out andfly on their own, make their own
mistakes.
We can't always go to theirrescue or come to their rescue,
but we can be there and startnow by teaching them about life
and some of the things thatthey're going to happen to them
(04:42):
and character that's involvedwith managing in life and
getting through life right.
So that's what I want to talkabout today.
I'm going to try to be briefand each week I'm going to bring
a different seed that we wantto talk about or we want to
plant within the child or thechildren about, or we want to
(05:04):
plant within the child or thechildren you know, in prior
episodes that I've had, you know, I always talked about putting
that phone down for one hour,mom, one hour, and spend that
time with your child andteaching them about different
things, different aspects oflife that they may go through.
So this is what this podcast isabout.
(05:26):
This is what I hope tointroduce to you and hopefully
you say, oh, wow, that soundsgreat and I'm going to add this
on to it, right, because it'snot a one size fits all.
This podcast is also aboutcritical thinking, right, I'm
hoping to plant a seed with you,mom, so that you're just like.
(05:47):
You know what.
I never thought of it like that, and if you come back and say I
never thought of it like that,hey, my job is done.
But anyway, all right, let'smove on.
Let's move on.
I done got off the highway here.
So the first seed we're going toplant with our kids, right, is
(06:09):
apologizing, right, and, matterof fact, what is character,
character, links to yourreputation, huh, and to your
child's reputation and howpeople see you.
So it's about morals and ethicsand how you interact with
people.
And the seed.
It's the beginning of somethingright?
(06:33):
Because, again, as I talked toyou about what my mom did with
her garden, and she had plantthe seeds and then she digged a
hole and she covered up and shewatered it it if it wasn't
raining she would make sure theweeds were pulled and she just
did several things.
She put a fence up to protectthem so the critters wouldn't
(06:53):
get in.
She just did a lot of things tocultivate that seed.
And so I'm trying to introducethat same methodology when it
comes to character, right?
So the first word again isapology.
Why do we need to teach ourchildren to apologize and why do
(07:21):
they need to apologize?
And why do they need toapologize?
That's because at some pointalong the way somebody's going
to get offended by somethingthat is said or did, and so we
want to apologize for that, andso we need to teach our children
(07:42):
what it means to apologize.
You know, when I was growing upand I would interrupt someone
and I get told what do you say?
You know I had to go back andapologize for interrupting them
or doing something that was, orsaying something that was,
(08:03):
offensive and didn't realize itright.
Sometimes you don't know thatyou've offended a person and so,
therefore, once you realize it,you should go back and
apologize and be sincere withthat apology.
And that's what we're going totalk about today.
And here's the good news, mom,here is the good news.
(08:26):
While you are sharing this withyour child or your children,
these are some things that, ifyou haven't been doing, that,
hopefully, as I present that toyou, it makes you think like, oh
wow, I didn't do that and I'mgoing to start doing that,
because, remember, once yourchild sees you do it, they're
(08:49):
going to start attaching thatbehavior and start mimicking you
.
Ask me how I know, ask me how Iknow, but anyway.
So the importance of plantingthe character seed is because,
again, there will be timesthrough life they are going to
(09:15):
have to apologize, and it's morethan just I'm sorry.
Yeah, because anybody can sayI'm sorry, but what are you
sorry for?
Hmm, because anybody can sayI'm sorry, but what are you
sorry for, hmm.
And when you apologize and whenyou start doing this in the
(09:36):
manner that it should be, italso represents a sign of
maturity and you're owning yourbehavior or what you did to
offend that person.
That's maturity.
When you own something, that ismaturity, you're not blaming
anybody else.
Look, I own it, I did it and Ididn't mean to do it and I'm so
(10:01):
sorry for doing X Y Z.
For doing X Y Z, it'simperative because you're going
to encounter people that aregoing to be difficult, and
sometimes it's you right, butwe've got to learn how to
(10:26):
apologize.
So when should you startteaching your child how and when
to apologize?
You can start around the threeto five age range and at that
time it is okay and this is anexception of them to just say
I'm sorry.
You know, if they brokesomething in your house or
(10:49):
didn't do X Y Z what they weresupposed to do, you know, I'm
sorry.
You can start teaching there toat least get them prepared for
the next step of the apology,because it is absolutely
(11:10):
important that they acknowledgethat behavior that they
displayed and so you as a momcan go back and tell them what
they did and why they shouldapologize right Now.
I said between three to five,three to six.
(11:31):
You know that toddler age it'sokay with I'm sorry, just
getting it, planting that seedof how to acknowledge behavior
that they need to respond to.
Now, seven and eight, nowthey're growing up, their
(11:53):
vocabulary has expanded and soyou've already introduced I'm
sorry, but now, now the I'msorry is no longer has a period
at the end of it, it now has acomma I'm sorry.
(12:13):
And what are you sorry for Now?
This is the kicker, mom.
This is a kicker, and even you.
You may even apologized in thepast for something that has been
said or done, but you didn't goback and put the comma behind
I'm sorry.
You put a period Instead ofacknowledging the behavior that
(12:38):
you need to be sorry for.
You need to speak that rightNeed to understand and elaborate
on what it is that you aresorry for, because otherwise,
guess what?
You're going to repeat the samebehavior.
Your child is going to repeatthe same behavior if they do not
(13:01):
acknowledge the reason for theapology Period Period.
That's why, when people getcaught doing bad things, they
say, oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry,I'm sorry.
But they never go back and sayI'm sorry, I did X, y, z,
(13:22):
because most of the timesthey're sorry because they got
caught.
Yeah, and that's why they'resorry because they got caught,
yeah, and that's why they'resubject to repeat the bad
behavior or that behavior again.
But once they go back and say Iapologize, I'm sorry for, and
fill in the blank, now there'ssome sincerity there.
(13:43):
Now it really hits home becauseI'm not going to do that again.
I'm not going to do that againBecause once you speak it out
loud of what that offense wasthat you did, you're actually
telling yourself that I'm notgoing to do this again.
I really am sorry for this badbehavior I displayed.
(14:09):
And again, moms, how do youcultivate that?
How do you, once you see it,once you see it in your child,
you acknowledge it?
Hey, little Johnny, littleRuthie, hey, I saw you broke my
plate because you were playingaround.
Saw you broke my plate becauseyou were playing around.
Okay, what do you have to sayfor yourself Now, if they just
(14:37):
say I'm sorry, yeah, that's notenough.
Mom, I'm sorry for breakingyour plate, I'm sorry for
breaking the glass, it was anaccident.
Because now, what are you doing?
Accident because now, what areyou doing?
You're putting in place for themto respond to situations that
they're going to encounter inlife and guess what, and feel
comfortable with doing it.
(14:58):
That's why a lot of peopledon't apologize, they're not
comfortable with it or it'sincomplete if they just say I'm
sorry.
And if they say I'm sorrywithout that acknowledgement,
it's incomplete because nobodyever taught them, nobody ever
(15:19):
taught them.
And now, today is the day weturn this.
We turn the tables on thisbehavior, or generational curses
, Because more than likely, morethan likely, the parent wasn't
taught what an apology meant orwhat I'm sorry means.
That's why you don't hear itvery often.
(15:39):
So that's a generational cursethat we can change today, not
tomorrow, today, right now.
So when you put that phone downfor one hour, mom, let's talk
about apologizing and what itmeans to say I'm sorry, because
(16:02):
it's going to go a long way,especially in relationships.
That's why some relationshipsstruggle, because neither party
wants to come back andacknowledge or say I'm sorry.
So, guess what?
Everybody goes their own wayand then, oops, there goes the
(16:24):
relationship.
But if you learn how tocommunicate, guess what you can
recover.
You can recover All right.
How do we cultivate this seed?
(16:44):
Mom, again, once you see thebehavior and if they do
acknowledge it, give them anattaboy or a pat on the back,
say great job.
Or, if you see it and theydon't acknowledge it right or
(17:04):
apologize for the behavior theycommitted, then you will want to
uncover why.
Why didn't you apologize?
You broke my glass and it's allthe pieces.
Why wouldn't you want toapologize?
That's a good question and Iwould love to hear the answer.
(17:27):
But, moms, we got to step up ourgame as mentors, because
mentors teach, they educate.
They're just not as a positiveexample for their children, but
we're teaching them.
We're teaching them, we'reinstructing them.
And if you say you know what, Ijust don't have it in me to
(17:49):
teach my child, then again, agood mom teaches.
So you would want to go out andfind the resources Because it's
okay if you weren't taughtsomething.
It's okay, I promise you it'sokay.
But what's not okay?
Is you not go out and find theanswer?
(18:11):
That's what's not okay, mom,because your children should be
number one in your life.
They should be.
They didn't ask to be here.
So we have to take it anotherstep further to make sure that
(18:32):
they are successful as lifecomes to an end and as we are no
longer as prominent in theirlife.
Right, because, as my kids areolder, now they're out doing
their own thing, they have theirown mindsets, they know what
they want to do with their lives, and so you know, as far as
(18:54):
guidance, for me it's minimalnow.
Minimal Because they're doingtheir own thing, but what we're
trying to assess and ensure thatthey're successful at is making
sure they have the tools, theresources and understanding how
(19:14):
to navigate this thing calledlife.
It's real, it's very real.
So, again, our word this weekis apologize.
That's our first seed thatwe're planting in our virtual
garden, and I hope that youfound value in this episode and
(19:35):
if you did, leave me somefeedback, please you can go to
my website I haven't updatedthat the name yet, but I will
soon.
It's singlemomsunitedpodcastcom.
Leave me some feedback there.
Or go to my YouTube channel.
Leave me some feedback there.
I would love to hear from youand I want to hear what other
(19:59):
character seeds that we canplant in your child or in you to
help you be successful innavigating this thing called
life, because it's important toset you up for success, and
that's what we, as mentors, aredesigned to do or should be
(20:20):
doing is setting you up forsuccess, setting our children up
for success.
You know, or at leastunderstand, what's happening.
Why is this happening to me?
Why did this go left when Ithought it was going to go right
, because we're not properlyeducating them about these
(20:43):
behaviors, about thesecircumstances that are going to
arise and they're going to ariseoften.
All right, thank you so much forjoining today's episode.
If you enjoyed it, tell anothersingle mom, or tell another mom
who is out trying to be thebest mom that she can be.
(21:07):
And if she's looking forsupport, yeah, tell her about
this podcast.
And again, if I sound better, Iwant to hear that from you too.
Hey, the quality of your voicesounds so much better.
Let me know, because now I'mgoing to be super excited that I
(21:28):
switched to this new software.
All right, take care, ladies.
Hey ladies, welcome to the Mom2Mentor podcast.
If this is your first timejoining, welcome If you are a
repeat listener.
Thank you for your loyalty.
Hey, if I sound better than Ihave in the past, that's because
I'm using a new software woo,woo.
(00:20):
So if you find my voice comingthrough clearer, let me know.
I'd love to hear your feedback,to know that progress is
happening.
I'm all about moving forward.
Again, I talked about a good momteaches her children and a
(00:40):
better mom learns to teach, andso we should always be learning
something new, and my previoussoftware that I used.
I was struggling with it and soforth, and someone introduced
me to this new software.
So now I'm like, okay, well,let me try it.
(01:00):
So this is my very firstepisode, and along with that
comes with a new mindset or anew approach to this podcast.
For those of you that have beenfollowing me over these last
few years, you know the originalpodcast name was Single Moms
(01:21):
United, and I recently migratedover to my new title of Mom to
Mentor to better align with whatthe purpose is of this podcast,
which is reminding you we aremore than moms, we are more than
nurturers, we are mentors.
(01:43):
And what's a mentor.
It is someone that we have thatlooks up to us, which is our
children, right?
They're modeling after us andthey're looking at our behaviors
and they're mimicking those andso, hopefully, they're
mimicking more the positive thanthe negative.
(02:03):
They're mimicking more thepositive than the negative,
right, because I know I've donesome things and said some things
in front of my children thatI'm ashamed of, right, that they
shouldn't have had to hear orsee.
But the good news is I hope,along this journey, that they've
been able to acquire and seemore positive behavior from me
(02:24):
and while they're older now andI think I did some things right,
based on what I'm seeing fromthem and how they're functioning
in life.
So, again, new software, newmindset and guess what?
I'm going down a new creativepath and wanting to plant a
(02:47):
virtual garden.
What is that?
A garden is where most people?
Well, back in my day, my momhad a garden and she planted
different seeds of vegetables ofher own and, as a result of
that, she was able to cultivatethat garden.
She didn't have to go to theproduce area at the grocery
(03:12):
store because she grew her ownproduce and it was wonderful.
We didn't have to worry aboutall the pesticides and
everything that they do toproduce these days, because she
was able to put other things inplace to keep the critters out
and also cultivate a good garden, and so we ate good.
(03:33):
We ate good.
But when I think about we asmentors or moms as mentors and
teaching our children, we haveto plant certain things into
them so that they can beproductive in life.
(03:57):
And when it's time for them tomove on to better themselves and
say you know what, I'm going togo out on my own, I'm going to
do this on my own.
I've had enough of mom support,right, and so you know it's
going to be difficult to letthem go, but you have to,
(04:19):
because you're not always goingto be here.
You got to let them go out andfly on their own, make their own
mistakes.
We can't always go to theirrescue or come to their rescue,
but we can be there and startnow by teaching them about life
and some of the things thatthey're going to happen to them
(04:42):
and character that's involvedwith managing in life and
getting through life right.
So that's what I want to talkabout today.
I'm going to try to be briefand each week I'm going to bring
a different seed that we wantto talk about or we want to
plant within the child or thechildren about, or we want to
(05:04):
plant within the child or thechildren you know, in prior
episodes that I've had, you know, I always talked about putting
that phone down for one hour,mom, one hour, and spend that
time with your child andteaching them about different
things, different aspects oflife that they may go through.
So this is what this podcast isabout.
(05:26):
This is what I hope tointroduce to you and hopefully
you say, oh, wow, that soundsgreat and I'm going to add this
on to it, right, because it'snot a one size fits all.
This podcast is also aboutcritical thinking, right, I'm
hoping to plant a seed with you,mom, so that you're just like.
(05:47):
You know what.
I never thought of it like that, and if you come back and say I
never thought of it like that,hey, my job is done.
But anyway, all right, let'smove on.
Let's move on.
I done got off the highway here.
So the first seed we're going toplant with our kids, right, is
(06:09):
apologizing, right, and, matterof fact, what is character,
character, links to yourreputation, huh, and to your
child's reputation and howpeople see you.
So it's about morals and ethicsand how you interact with
people.
And the seed.
It's the beginning of somethingright?
(06:33):
Because, again, as I talked toyou about what my mom did with
her garden, and she had plantthe seeds and then she digged a
hole and she covered up and shewatered it it if it wasn't
raining she would make sure theweeds were pulled and she just
did several things.
She put a fence up to protectthem so the critters wouldn't
(06:53):
get in.
She just did a lot of things tocultivate that seed.
And so I'm trying to introducethat same methodology when it
comes to character, right?
So the first word again isapology.
Why do we need to teach ourchildren to apologize and why do
(07:21):
they need to apologize?
And why do they need toapologize?
That's because at some pointalong the way somebody's going
to get offended by somethingthat is said or did, and so we
want to apologize for that, andso we need to teach our children
(07:42):
what it means to apologize.
You know, when I was growing upand I would interrupt someone
and I get told what do you say?
You know I had to go back andapologize for interrupting them
or doing something that was, orsaying something that was,
(08:03):
offensive and didn't realize itright.
Sometimes you don't know thatyou've offended a person and so,
therefore, once you realize it,you should go back and
apologize and be sincere withthat apology.
And that's what we're going totalk about today.
And here's the good news, mom,here is the good news.
(08:26):
While you are sharing this withyour child or your children,
these are some things that, ifyou haven't been doing, that,
hopefully, as I present that toyou, it makes you think like, oh
wow, I didn't do that and I'mgoing to start doing that,
because, remember, once yourchild sees you do it, they're
(08:49):
going to start attaching thatbehavior and start mimicking you
.
Ask me how I know, ask me how Iknow, but anyway.
So the importance of plantingthe character seed is because,
again, there will be timesthrough life they are going to
(09:15):
have to apologize, and it's morethan just I'm sorry.
Yeah, because anybody can sayI'm sorry, but what are you
sorry for?
Hmm, because anybody can sayI'm sorry, but what are you
sorry for, hmm.
And when you apologize and whenyou start doing this in the
(09:36):
manner that it should be, italso represents a sign of
maturity and you're owning yourbehavior or what you did to
offend that person.
That's maturity.
When you own something, that ismaturity, you're not blaming
anybody else.
Look, I own it, I did it and Ididn't mean to do it and I'm so
(10:01):
sorry for doing X Y Z.
For doing X Y Z, it'simperative because you're going
to encounter people that aregoing to be difficult, and
sometimes it's you right, butwe've got to learn how to
(10:26):
apologize.
So when should you startteaching your child how and when
to apologize?
You can start around the threeto five age range and at that
time it is okay and this is anexception of them to just say
I'm sorry.
You know, if they brokesomething in your house or
(10:49):
didn't do X Y Z what they weresupposed to do, you know, I'm
sorry.
You can start teaching there toat least get them prepared for
the next step of the apology,because it is absolutely
(11:10):
important that they acknowledgethat behavior that they
displayed and so you as a momcan go back and tell them what
they did and why they shouldapologize right Now.
I said between three to five,three to six.
(11:31):
You know that toddler age it'sokay with I'm sorry, just
getting it, planting that seedof how to acknowledge behavior
that they need to respond to.
Now, seven and eight, nowthey're growing up, their
(11:53):
vocabulary has expanded and soyou've already introduced I'm
sorry, but now, now the I'msorry is no longer has a period
at the end of it, it now has acomma I'm sorry.
(12:13):
And what are you sorry for Now?
This is the kicker, mom.
This is a kicker, and even you.
You may even apologized in thepast for something that has been
said or done, but you didn't goback and put the comma behind
I'm sorry.
You put a period Instead ofacknowledging the behavior that
(12:38):
you need to be sorry for.
You need to speak that rightNeed to understand and elaborate
on what it is that you aresorry for, because otherwise,
guess what?
You're going to repeat the samebehavior.
Your child is going to repeatthe same behavior if they do not
(13:01):
acknowledge the reason for theapology Period Period.
That's why, when people getcaught doing bad things, they
say, oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry,I'm sorry.
But they never go back and sayI'm sorry, I did X, y, z,
(13:22):
because most of the timesthey're sorry because they got
caught.
Yeah, and that's why they'resorry because they got caught,
yeah, and that's why they'resubject to repeat the bad
behavior or that behavior again.
But once they go back and say Iapologize, I'm sorry for, and
fill in the blank, now there'ssome sincerity there.
(13:43):
Now it really hits home becauseI'm not going to do that again.
I'm not going to do that againBecause once you speak it out
loud of what that offense wasthat you did, you're actually
telling yourself that I'm notgoing to do this again.
I really am sorry for this badbehavior I displayed.
(14:09):
And again, moms, how do youcultivate that?
How do you, once you see it,once you see it in your child,
you acknowledge it?
Hey, little Johnny, littleRuthie, hey, I saw you broke my
plate because you were playingaround.
Saw you broke my plate becauseyou were playing around.
Okay, what do you have to sayfor yourself Now, if they just
(14:37):
say I'm sorry, yeah, that's notenough.
Mom, I'm sorry for breakingyour plate, I'm sorry for
breaking the glass, it was anaccident.
Because now, what are you doing?
Accident because now, what areyou doing?
You're putting in place for themto respond to situations that
they're going to encounter inlife and guess what, and feel
comfortable with doing it.
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That's why a lot of peopledon't apologize, they're not
comfortable with it or it'sincomplete if they just say I'm
sorry.
And if they say I'm sorrywithout that acknowledgement,
it's incomplete because nobodyever taught them, nobody ever
(15:19):
taught them.
And now, today is the day weturn this.
We turn the tables on thisbehavior, or generational curses
, Because more than likely, morethan likely, the parent wasn't
taught what an apology meant orwhat I'm sorry means.
That's why you don't hear itvery often.
(15:39):
So that's a generational cursethat we can change today, not
tomorrow, today, right now.
So when you put that phone downfor one hour, mom, let's talk
about apologizing and what itmeans to say I'm sorry, because
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it's going to go a long way,especially in relationships.
That's why some relationshipsstruggle, because neither party
wants to come back andacknowledge or say I'm sorry.
So, guess what?
Everybody goes their own wayand then, oops, there goes the
(16:24):
relationship.
But if you learn how tocommunicate, guess what you can
recover.
You can recover All right.
How do we cultivate this seed?
(16:44):
Mom, again, once you see thebehavior and if they do
acknowledge it, give them anattaboy or a pat on the back,
say great job.
Or, if you see it and theydon't acknowledge it right or
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apologize for the behavior theycommitted, then you will want to
uncover why.
Why didn't you apologize?
You broke my glass and it's allthe pieces.
Why wouldn't you want toapologize?
That's a good question and Iwould love to hear the answer.
(17:27):
But, moms, we got to step up ourgame as mentors, because
mentors teach, they educate.
They're just not as a positiveexample for their children, but
we're teaching them.
We're teaching them, we'reinstructing them.
And if you say you know what, Ijust don't have it in me to
(17:49):
teach my child, then again, agood mom teaches.
So you would want to go out andfind the resources Because it's
okay if you weren't taughtsomething.
It's okay, I promise you it'sokay.
But what's not okay?
Is you not go out and find theanswer?
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That's what's not okay, mom,because your children should be
number one in your life.
They should be.
They didn't ask to be here.
So we have to take it anotherstep further to make sure that
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they are successful as lifecomes to an end and as we are no
longer as prominent in theirlife.
Right, because, as my kids areolder, now they're out doing
their own thing, they have theirown mindsets, they know what
they want to do with their lives, and so you know, as far as
(18:54):
guidance, for me it's minimalnow.
Minimal Because they're doingtheir own thing, but what we're
trying to assess and ensure thatthey're successful at is making
sure they have the tools, theresources and understanding how
(19:14):
to navigate this thing calledlife.
It's real, it's very real.
So, again, our word this weekis apologize.
That's our first seed thatwe're planting in our virtual
garden, and I hope that youfound value in this episode and
(19:35):
if you did, leave me somefeedback, please you can go to
my website I haven't updatedthat the name yet, but I will
soon.
It's singlemomsunitedpodcastcom.
Leave me some feedback there.
Or go to my YouTube channel.
Leave me some feedback there.
I would love to hear from youand I want to hear what other
(19:59):
character seeds that we canplant in your child or in you to
help you be successful innavigating this thing called
life, because it's important toset you up for success, and
that's what we, as mentors, aredesigned to do or should be
(20:20):
doing is setting you up forsuccess, setting our children up
for success.
You know, or at leastunderstand, what's happening.
Why is this happening to me?
Why did this go left when Ithought it was going to go right
, because we're not properlyeducating them about these
(20:43):
behaviors, about thesecircumstances that are going to
arise and they're going to ariseoften.
All right, thank you so much forjoining today's episode.
If you enjoyed it, tell anothersingle mom, or tell another mom
who is out trying to be thebest mom that she can be.
(21:07):
And if she's looking forsupport, yeah, tell her about
this podcast.
And again, if I sound better, Iwant to hear that from you too.
Hey, the quality of your voicesounds so much better.
Let me know, because now I'mgoing to be super excited that I
(21:28):
switched to this new software.
All right, take care, ladies.
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