What happens when your body was never fully yours to begin with?
In this powerful episode we’re having a conversation many daughters have never had out loud about bodily autonomy, maternal boundary violations, and the silent, insidious ways that narcissistic or emotionally immature mothers can lay claim to their daughters' bodies.
We’re not just talking about “bad boundaries” here. We’re talking about unspoken abuse, the kind that hides behind phrases like “for your own good,” and leaves daughters confused, ashamed, and disconnected from their own bodies.
What it means when a mother claims ownership over her daughter’s body
Why so many daughters hesitate to use the word abuse, even when their bodies tell the truth.
Examples of physical invasiveness, coercion, and boundary-crossing framed as “care”
The nervous system responses (like freezing or bracing) that reveal stored trauma
Why healing often begins not with rage, but with quiet remembering and somatic truth
How to notice your body's signals and what it looks like to reclaim agency
This is not a checklist of symptoms. It’s a truth telling
This episode is tender. It may be activating. Go slowly. Bring water, take breaks, and, if at all possible, don’t listen alone.
Felt shame around sexuality, desire, or touch
Froze during intimacy, pelvic exams, or physical care
Been told you were “too sensitive” when something felt off
Had a mother who shared your private information, commented on your body, or touched you in ways that felt confusing or wrong
Struggled to name what happened because it wasn’t “overt” enough to count as abuse
You might relate if you’ve ever:
Felt shame around sexuality, desire, or touch
Froze during intimacy, pelvic exams, or physical care
Been told you were “too sensitive” when something felt off
Had a mother who shared your private information, commented on your body, or touched you in ways that felt confusing or wrong
Struggled to name what happened because it wasn’t “overt” enough to count as abuse
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