Healing from childhood trauma isn’t a straight line. There’s a very messy middle. In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we explore what that messy middle really looks like for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.
We’ll talk about:
Regret in healing: Why it shows up, why it feels like such a gut punch, and how to reframe regret as a sign of growth instead of failure.
Relationships under pressure: How marriage, friendships, and partnerships can feel like they’re combusting when one person begins to heal.
The nervous system’s role: Why trauma brain makes joy feel unsafe, why peace is often the real goal, and why partners may misinterpret trauma responses as rejection or complaint.
The shock of change: How the people we chose in our fawning, conflict-avoiding, or numbed-out selves often feel destabilized when we start showing up differently.
Getting practical: From naming trauma brain in real time, to practicing repair, to re-choosing relationships with new self-awareness.
This conversation will help you understand why healing feels so raw, why regret can actually be a milestone, and how to navigate the bumps in relationships with clarity and compassion.
Whether you’re in the thick of regret, feeling misunderstood by your partner, or noticing how your healing is shaking up your closest connections, this episode will give you language, validation, and tools for the journey.
Resources & Next Steps
Learn more about the Mayhem Daughters community: MayhemDaughters.com.
Listen to earlier episodes on relationships and healing: Ep. 72 & Ep. 94
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