Have you ever found yourself stretched too thin, saying yes to everything and everyone? In this powerful episode of Motivation Fuel, we explore the transformative power of strategic rejection and how saying "no" can actually be your path to reclaiming energy, purpose, and peace.
I share my personal journey of over-commitment and the pivotal moment when I finally said "no" to something that looked good on paper but didn't align with my values. That single decision became the catalyst for a new chapter in my life – one where boundaries became my superpower rather than my weakness.
Saying no isn't selfish; it's strategic. Through real-life examples and practical guidance, I break down exactly how rejection works as a tool for growth: preserving your precious energy, creating space for aligned opportunities, and building unshakable self-trust. You'll learn a simple three-step framework for releasing what drains you: identifying energy vampires, crafting compassionate responses, and recognizing that saying no doesn't close doors – it helps you choose the ones that open inward.
This week's challenge is refreshingly manageable: say no to just one thing that drains you. Whether it's a task, habit, mindset, or even a relationship, you're invited to protect your energy and track what opens up when you close the door on what depletes you. The most powerful realization? You're not just saying no – you're saying yes to yourself.
Ready to reclaim your time and energy? Visit wondraspencer.com to connect, share your experience, or explore resources like my book "Becoming a New You in 30 Days." Subscribe to the podcast, follow @inspireandrive on social media, and join a community that celebrates strategic boundary-setting as an act of self-respect and growth.
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Episode Transcript
Welcome to the Motivation Fuel podcast, your
weekly dose of inspiration,empowerment and real talk,
whether you're tuning in from myYouTube channel or listening on
your favorite podcast platform,I am genuinely grateful for
your presence.
Your decision to join thiscommunity fills me with joy and
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I am thrilled to have you here.
I am your host, Wondra Spencer,the founder of Inspire and
Drive LLC, and a firm believerin motivation from within.
My podcast is designed touplift anyone seeking strength,
clarity and purpose.
I want to strength, clarity andpurpose.
I want to dwell into the topicssuch as love, health, self-care
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, lifestyle, finances, personalgrowth and spirituality.
Alongside incredible listenerslike you, I have stories to
share and insights that help yourise, reset and refocus, both
professionally and personally.
So grab your cup of coffee,your favorite drink, take a deep
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breath and let's fuel yourdrive from inside out.
The Motivational Fuel podcastepisode.
Say no to what drains you.
Welcome to the MotivationalFuel podcast, where we want to
empower you from the inside andout you can tune in on YouTube,
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spotify or anywhere around theworld, and I am truly grateful
you are here.
So, with this week's episode,we're going to take the weekly
drive challenge.
This week challenge is simplyyet but powerful.
Say no to one thing that drainsyour energy.
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This can be something gratefulfor you, because you are
protecting your energy.
You're going to honor on yourgrowth, and I want to let that
sink in for a bit.
Now.
Here's a question to reflect onwhen was the last time you said
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no and you felt empowered by it, not guilty, not ashamed, but
clear, confident and free?
There was a reason and someseasons in my life when I said
yes to everything Everyopportunity, every request,
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every role.
I thought it meant that I wasshowing up fully, but what I was
really doing was abandon myselfbit by bit.
One moment changed everything.
I was asked to lead a projectthat looked good on paper, but
it didn't align with any of myvalues.
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I was hesitant and I felt thepressure to say yes, but
something inside of me said thisisn't for me.
So I said no, and that's no.
It was a beginning of a newchapter.
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At first, I, my clients, wouldthe people you're over
committing to, and will they dothe same for you?
Think about that for a minute.
It's a hard question, but itcan hit you hard when you're
over committing to others.
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And think about it.
Will they do the same for you.
So my one client that I workwith was constantly saying yes,
taking overtime, shifts, fillingfamily obligations,
volunteering in various rolesvolunteering in various roles.
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So this individual was burntout and barely can recognize
themselves.
So, through my coaching, Ishowed the individuals how to
pause, evaluate and say no withgrace.
Today these individuals,they're thriving with boundaries
that honor their growth.
Saying no isn't selfish, it'sstrategic.
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It's how you and how we reclaimour time, our energy and our
purpose.
So let's break this down for asecond.
Saying no isn't just aboutturning something down.
It's about turning towardyourself, hear how this works
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and, like you, can unlock it,preserve energies.
You can stop leaking energyinto things that don't serve you
and leaving more for what trulymatters, creating that space
that aligns with youropportunities.
When you're clear out and youknow what's misaligned, you can
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make room for what is meant forto you, to the people around you
, to your projects and to yourpeace.
You can build self-trust andboundaries.
Every time you honor yourlimits, you reinforce your own
voice.
You become someone you cancount on.
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Now, if you're feeling stretchedout, thin or stuck in an
obligation, here's some simpleframework to help you release
what's draining you.
Step one identify what'sdraining you.
Notice the tasks, therelationships or commitments
that leave you depleted.
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Step two they leave youdepleted.
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Step two not abandoninganything.
You're just doing the alignmentfor yourself.
Final thought when you say no,you will not close any doors.
Think about this.
You're not closing any doors.
You're choosing the ones thatopen inward for you doors.
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You're choosing the ones thatopen inward for you.
You can commit more time toyourself.
No-transcript.
Now it's your turn.
This week, yes, this week, I'mgoing to challenge you to choose
one thing, to say no to justone.
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It doesn't have to be dramatic,it just has to be intentional.
Here are some things that canspark your thinking, your
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thinking.
It can be a draining task thatadds value to your goals, a
habit that no longer serves yourgrowth or peace, a mindset
rooted in fear, compassion thisis not compassion for you
anymore.
You need something that'scompassion.
Say no with purpose, not out ofavoidance, but out of alignment
.
Then I want you to track it.
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You can track it on yourjournal.
You can even record a voicenote in your cell phone.
It's their different apps.
This is just raw and filteredand it's just for you and only
will be seen by you.
Unless you want to share withothers.
Notice what opens up.
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When you close the door on whatdrains you, you can reclaim
your energy, your clarity andyour power.
So let's recap this week'schallenge say no to one thing
that drains you, whether it's ameeting, a habit, a mindset,
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even a relationship, even yourkids yes, your kids.
You're choosing to protect yourenergy and honor your growth.
I love to hear from you and whatyou're releasing.
I have a survey on my websiteyou can fill out.
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You can drop a comment.
You can visit my website.
You can send me a directmessage.
You can email me.
I want to celebrate your newshift together.
If you're ready to protect yourenergy and hone in on your
growth, let's connect.
You can visit wondrouspensercom.
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I'll follow at inspire and driveon all platforms for weekly
motivation.
You're not just saying no,you're saying yes to yourself.
Think about that.
You're not saying no, you'rejust saying yes to yourself.
And remember I craft heartfeltjournals and enlightening books.
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That serves as tools forempowerment, encouraging others
to discover their own strength,while also reflecting on ways to
uplift themselves yourself.
Until next time, keep drivingforward.
You have this and I do want toshare with you a fantastic book
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that I wrote myself.
It is Becoming a New You in 30Days.
It is available on my websiteand all major platforms, and
it's about empowering you totake charge of your growth.
You can complete the differenttasks in the book and you will
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be on your way to your personaltransformation.
This journey is a fundamentalone.
It's rewarding and it's justonly 30 days that can get you
excited.
In my book, I do share 30 days.
You have different goals there.
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You have a plan.
I embrace change.
You can practice mindfulness,stay active, you can learn
something new, you can reflectand readjust ways to stay
positive, commitment toconsistency, and you can
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definitely reach out to medirectly if you need some
support from like anaccountability partner.
I can make sure that I help youon this new process.
So, with this podcast today, Ido want to thank everyone from
throughout the world.
I am so grateful for each andevery one of you, and you can
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send me an email and I'll makesure I send them out to you.
If you want me to give you ashout out on the next podcast, I
can make sure that I do thattoo.
So, in conclusion, rememberthis you have this newfound
strength, you can share yourstory.
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You can uplift your own spiritwith yourself daily.
So the podcast today from themotivation from within brought
to you by my team, the InspiringDrive.
If this podcast spoke to youtoday, I want you to subscribe
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Alignable, and all majorplatforms.
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At Wondra Spencer, I do see mylisteners, so definitely.
Thanks for keeping up the timeto be with me today and also
until next time.
Protect your energy, honor yourgrowth and keep driving forward
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I will have other podcaststhat's coming up, so until next
time, thank you.
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