In today’s episode, Kathy Love discusses a subtle but telling sign of codependency: the automatic negative thoughts that arise when others reach out to you. Kathy shares a few personal examples of how these split-second thoughts can reveal deeper patterns of insecurity and self-doubt. She also offers tips for recognizing these thoughts and shifting your perspective to break free from codependent behavior. Tune in for insights on how to catch yourself in the act of codependency and take control of your emotional response.
Show Notes:
- Kathy explores the automatic negative thoughts that can arise when someone reaches out to you, and how they may be tied to codependency.
- She shares personal stories of times when her first thoughts were assumptions based on fear of rejection, rather than reality.
- Kathy emphasizes how to spot these automatic thoughts and learn to laugh at them, reframe them, and heal the underlying codependent behaviors.
- The episode includes practical advice on improving emotional resilience and self-worth, particularly when dealing with work, friendships, and intimate relationships.
Key Points:
- Recognizing the first thought: A codependent mindset often triggers negative assumptions about others' intentions (e.g., thinking you’re being fired or rejected without cause).
- The healing process: Learn to spot these automatic thoughts, laugh at them, and reframe them quickly as part of the healing journey.
- Building emotional resilience: Over time, developing a stronger sense of self allows you to stop overthinking and confidently trust your worth in all areas of life.
If you’ve been struggling with emotional codependency or want to learn how to establish a healthy balance of independence and vulnerability in relationships, join Kathy on this transformative journey. Be sure to subscribe to My Self-Care Sht* and leave a review!
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