106: What Most Recovery Programs Miss | The Inner War That Keeps You Addicted to Porn—And How to End It

When you’re stuck in porn addiction, it often feels like there’s a war going on inside your own mind.

One part of you wants to be strong, productive, loving, and aligned with your values. The other part just wants comfort, ease, and escape. Most recovery programs tell you to kill off the "bad" part. To deny it, starve it, or fight it.

But what if that approach is actually fueling your addiction?

In this episode, I’m going to show you a completely different path—one rooted in psychological integration, spiritual clarity, and masculine leadership. We'll break down why you keep relapsing despite your best efforts, and why your inner war is the real reason you're stuck.

You’ll learn how to apply the Internal Family Systems (IFS) framework to porn addiction recovery, using what I call “archetypal parts”—the Achiever, the Comforter, the Dreamer, the General, and more. These parts of you aren’t evil—they’re trying to help. But until you learn to lead them instead of fight or suppress them, you'll keep falling back into the same old cycles.

🔥 What You’ll Discover in This Episode:

• Why suppressing your desires makes porn addiction worse, and what to do instead
• The psychology of porn addiction—and why it’s not about lust
• How Internal Family Systems (IFS) and parts work can heal the root of your addiction
• The real reason your perfectionism and religious guilt are keeping you stuck
• The difference between Manager, Firefighter, and Exile parts—and how each fuels the porn cycle
• How to stop the internal war and become the Self-led man you were meant to be
• Simple daily practices to bring harmony to your mind and stop needing porn for relief
• Why this inner healing work deepens your connection with God, not distances it

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep relapsing despite all your knowledge and effort…
If you’ve tried filters, accountability, and white-knuckling and it’s still not enough…
If you want to actually understand your mind and reclaim your freedom…

This episode is for you.

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