115: Emotional Intelligence and Porn Addiction Recovery — How to Master Your Emotions, Heal Conflict, and Deepen Intimacy in Marriage

Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotions can transform your marriage, your communication, and your ability to stay sober for good.

Most men try to “think” their way out of porn addiction, but relapse doesn’t happen in the mind—it happens in the heart. When fear, shame, or sadness go unprocessed, they convert into anger, craving, and disconnection. Emotional pain becomes a trigger, and before you know it, you’re back in the cycle of porn use, guilt, and regret.

But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

In this episode, I teach you how to apply my RAIL Method™—a five-step process that cultivates emotional awareness, self-leadership, and confidence under pressure. You’ll learn how to understand your emotions, stay grounded during marriage conflict, and see the good intentions beneath both your own reactions and your wife’s.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to:

• Use emotional intelligence to defuse conflict in your marriage.
• Understand how porn cravings stem from unmet emotional needs.
• Build emotional safety and connection with your wife through self-awareness.
• Turn painful emotions like anger and shame into powerful tools for recovery.
• Lead your relationship with calm confidence, clarity, and compassion.

Link to Blog Article for this Episode HERE

If you’re ready to stop letting your emotions control you—and start using them to strengthen your marriage and deepen your recovery—this one’s for you, brother.

And if you’re serious about taking this work deeper, check out The RAIL Method™ Online Course, where I teach you how to regulate emotions, reduce porn cravings, and rebuild real intimacy step by step.

You can also catch me teaching this method live during the Porn Resilient Online Summit (Oct 13–16)—alongside 20 other experts in emotional and sexual healing, and grab the All-Access Implementation Bundle for lifetime access to all recorded interviews + courses and resources (including my RAIL Method™ online course) for an absolutely unreal price. 

Porn addiction recovery isn’t about fighting harder—it’s about feeling deeper, healing smarter, and leading yourself and your relationship from the inside out.

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