In this insightful second episode with Lois Bushong, the hosts dive deep into the concept of belonging for Third Culture Kids (TCKs), adult TCKs, and globally mobile families. Lois Bushong shares her expertise as a licensed marriage and family therapist, unpacking generational differences and the pivotal role of shared cultural memory of family and community.
Key Topics & Insights
- Shared Cultural Memory & Belonging:
Lois Bushong discusses how family rituals and cultural touchstones - such as holiday traditions and celebratory meals - help anchor a sense of belonging despite geographic and cultural shifts. - Artifacts and Home as Story:
Doreen Cumberford and Megan reflect on how the physical items in their homes serve as tangible mirrors for their international journeys, helping in personal storytelling and connection. - Finding Belonging Internally:
The hosts reinforce the idea that true belonging starts within. Lois Bushong uses metaphors like “carry-on baggage” and a “sailboat navigating life" to illustrate how self-reflection, examining one’s values, and adaptation play a role in creating a sense of belonging that transcends location. - Navigating Cross-Generational Connections:
Strategies for bridging generational approaches include reading books (specifically plugging Megan Norton-Newbanks’s "Belonging Beyond Borders"), using metaphors in therapy, journaling, engaging in meaningful cultural activities, and seeking mentorship or peer support. - Normalizing the TCK Experience:
Lois Bushong validates the complex identity struggles of TCKs and encourages finding community (in-person or online), sharing stories, and normalizing feelings of not fully “fitting in” anywhere.
Practical Tips & Resources
- Reflect on Rituals:
Maintain or adapt family traditions and cultural practices wherever you live—they foster continuity and safety. - Use Artifacts:
Surround yourself with objects and decorations that tell your story and spark conversations about your journey. - Seek Community:
Connect with other TCKs, join international groups, or engage in multicultural activities for shared understanding. - Therapeutic Tools:
Explore counseling, coaching, and journaling. Directories like the International Therapist Directory can help find culturally competent therapists. - Recommended Books:
- “Belonging Beyond Borders” by Megan Norton-Newbanks
- “Belonging Everywhere and insights into Counseling the Global Blue Mobile” by Lois Bushong
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