Ever wondered if you can learn to feel compersion instead of jealousy? Or if talking about opening up your relationship means you're actually ready to do it? This episode dives deep into these questions and more!
I'm joined by Ally Iseman, a certified relationship coach and founder of Passport to Pleasure. Ally brings her unique blend of humor, compassion, and practical tools to help couples navigate the complexities of non-monogamy.
In this episode, we explore:
- Why "conversation is lubrication" and how to make it work for you
- Reframing jealousy (even the hot kind!) as a tool for growth
- The value of understanding consensual non-monogamy, regardless of your relationship style
- Ally's step-by-step method for moving through jealousy
- How to know if your relationship is truly ready to open up
Key Takeaways:
- Compersion vs. Jealousy: Ally shares her personal journey from experiencing what she thought was jealousy to realizing it was actually compersion.
- The NERD OUT Method: Learn Ally's unique technique for transforming jealousy into a mindful, growth-oriented experience.
- Effective Communication: Discover the crucial difference between clear communication and effective communication in relationships.
- Curiosity Over Conviction: Why approaching non-monogamy with genuine curiosity is more powerful than trying to convince your partner.
Whether you're actively practicing non-monogamy, considering it, or simply curious about different relationship styles, this conversation offers valuable insights for everyone. Ally's approach emphasizes personal growth, effective communication, and creating relationships that truly work for you – no matter what form they take.
Ready to explore if your relationship is prepared for non-monogamy? Take Ally's free Relationship Ratio quiz at www.passport2pleasure.com/ratio to get started on your journey.
And check out Ally's Substack https://allyiseman.substack.com/
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