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May 15, 2025 54 mins

What happens when a long-term couple invites a third person into their relationship—and it doesn’t go as planned?

In this raw and revealing episode, I sit down with six-time Emmy-nominated TV producer Jeff Hudson to talk about his memoir Deconstructing Us: My Trouble with a Throuple. Jeff shares what it was like to navigate the emotional rollercoaster of a throuple, how jealousy blindsided him, and why non-monogamy cracked him wide open—in the best and worst ways.

We explore:

  • Why three-person relationships are emotional rocket fuel
  • How jealousy shows up even when you're experienced in open relationships
  • The difference between love and compatibility
  • Identity shifts that come with loving outside the box
  • Why breakdowns in love can lead to breakthroughs in self-awareness

Whether you're polyam-curious, actively non-monogamous, or just fascinated by the complexity of modern love—this conversation will challenge and expand how you think about commitment, identity, and connection.

📘 Grab Jeff’s book: "Deconstructing Us: My Trouble with a Throuple", available now on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.
 

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