Midlife, Menopause & Non-Monogamy: Reclaiming Pleasure, Power & Desire with Carla Wainwright EP. 126
What if midlife wasn’t the decline everyone warns you about, but a second spring?
In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I sit down with Carla Wainwright, Holistic Wellness Coach, Sexual Awakening Facilitator, and self-proclaimed Midlife Alchemist. We talk about what really happens to women’s desire, relationships, and identity in midlife, and how it all ties into exploring non-monogamy, polyamory, and rewriting the love scripts we didn’t ask for.
Carla shares why:
- 🔥 Desire evolves with us (and midlife is often when it finally gets honest)
- 🧠 Communication has to start with the nervous system, not just words
- 🚧 Boundaries get sharper as we age, and that’s actually freedom
- 💋 Pleasure isn’t optional; it’s medicine for hormones, libido, and vitality
We also get real about:
✔️ What non-monogamy looks like in midlife
✔️ Why menopause can actually increase desire and sexual energy
✔️ How pleasure and presence help regulate hormones and deepen connection
✔️ Why this stage of life is a portal into power, clarity, and turn-on
If you ever think, “I don’t know what I want, but I know it isn’t this,” this conversation will remind you: you’re not broken, you were born lovable, and you get to want what you want.
👉 Don’t miss Carla’s Just the Tip segment, available exclusively on Patreon at patreon.com/notmonogamous. Become a friend with benefits and get access to the spicier stuff.
🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned:
- Connect with Carla + download The Vibrancy Guide: vibrancyreset.com or www.carlawainwright.com
- Support the podcast on Patreon: patreon.com/notmonogamous
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