Tired of misunderstandings, silent resentment, or agreements that leave you feeling unseen?
In this episode, we unpack the real difference between collaboration and compromise—and how building intentional, values-based agreements in non-monogamy can transform your relationships.
💬 Because assuming = conflict waiting to happen.
💛 Collaboration = connection, clarity, and care.
What You’ll Learn:
✔️ Why Assumptions Create Emotional Landmines
And how to avoid them with clear, compassionate communication.
✔️ The Difference Between True Collaboration & Self-Sacrifice
Spoiler: Giving up what matters to you isn’t love—it’s burnout waiting to happen.
✔️ 5 Practical Steps to Create Solid Agreements
From identifying shared values to scheduling regular check-ins that actually work.
✔️ How Cultural Conditioning Shapes Our Agreements
Learn to spot and dismantle the “martyr mindset” many of us were raised with.
✔️ Real Stories, Real Struggles, Real Solutions
Hear personal and client experiences where agreement-making went wrong—and how they turned it around.
Whether you're just opening your relationship or years into non-monogamy…
This episode will give you tools to stop guessing, start asking, and co-create a love that honors everyone involved.
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Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein
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