You know you’re enough—but the second your partner mentions her, the spiral starts.
Sound familiar?
In this honest, grounding episode, I break down the real costs of comparison in non-monogamous relationships—like the way it quietly erodes your presence, self-trust, and peace.
You’ll hear:
- Why “knowing better” doesn’t stop the spiral
- How patriarchy conditions us to compete—even in open dynamics
- What comparison really steals from you
- And the exact reframe and tools that help you come back to yourself
💭 “They’re not my rival. They’re a reflection of what’s possible.”
This episode is your invitation to stop shrinking and start showing up for yourself—even when the spiral hits.
Ready for deeper support?
Join Beyond Compare, my group coaching program for non-monogamous women.
We turn awareness into embodied confidence.
👉https://www.elleciapaine.com/compare
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