Have you ever thought, “If my partner can’t meet all my needs, maybe another partner will”?
In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I break down why that belief is one of the biggest traps in polyamory and open relationships.
We hear it all the time in the ENM community: “No one person can meet all your needs.” That’s true, but when we take it as a free pass to collect partners to fill every emotional gap, it backfires. Instead of feeling fulfilled, we multiply our insecurities, create pressure on new relationships, and leave our existing partners feeling like they’re not enough.
👉 In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why seeking new partners to fill emotional needs can backfire
- How to stop jealousy in polyamory and open relationships
- Practical self-care tools to create wholeness within yourself
- Why community and friendships are just as vital as romantic partners
- How to build healthier, more joyful non monogamous connections
Polyamory isn’t about finding enough people to complete you. It’s about cultivating wholeness within yourself so every relationship becomes a choice — not a patch for what’s missing.
✨ Listen now and start creating the kind of polyamorous relationships that feel sustainable, nourishing, and fun.
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